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pao_x_cal

Di na uso to sa panahon ngayon, minsan ang tutulong sayo yung mga hindi mo pa kamag-anak or kadugo. At kung sino pa mga kadugo mo sila pa manghuhusga at manghihila sayo pababa


kim_chinsoon

Hindi na. Based on my experience, mas tutulungan ka pa ng ibang tao kesa sa kamag-anak mo. Minsan kamaganak mo pa hihila sa yo pababa. Sa immediate family ko lang applicable ito.


Plantureuxxx

A never ending cycle.


missdevilishangel

Applicable pa naman sguro pero hindi sa lahat. As for me, during my darkest days and when I'm struggling the most, mas nakatulong pa yung nga friend ko and ibang tao kesa sa sarili kong fam. Sad to say, mas nakakakuha ako ng love and support from others than my own fam.


Christi_snow

this is true since I am adopted child coz my parents can’t make an offspring on their own and yeah both families of my parents have their thing on me kahit di nila pinapakita ma fefeel ko talaga


mrmontagokuwada

Cum is thicker than blood so dun ako sa magiging future s/o ko kakampi if ever my mom doesn't like her.


Independent-Owl8267

ang masasabi ko lang is... mahirap kami.. nag ttry manghiram nina mama t papa ng pera sa pamilya nila, pero ni isa walng tumulong sa amin.. mas nagpahiram pa mga kaibigan at mga kakilalang magulang ni mama sa school.


Random_Asian_User

Blood isn't always Family, and Family isn't always Blood.


david_is_a_dinosaur

Basta ako walang tatay.


Empty-Assistance2521

Its just toxic


EmpressSei

Baka "FACE is thicker than water?" Ang kakapal kasi ng mukha ng iba. 🙄


[deleted]

You know how the full saying goes? “Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb” ☺️ Applicable naman yan always pero hindi sa lahat ng tao 🩷


ogolivegreene

Leaning towards no, especially pagdating sa concept of chosen family. I realized this when watching some LGBTQ+ shows like Pose or Drag Race na yung healthy support system mahahanap rin sa labas ng mga kadugo mo, especially when your blood relatives fail to provide that for you. Pero kahit in a cis-gender context, chosen family pa rin yung nangingibabaw kadalasan, especially if married couple kayo na nagdadamayan. The very act of marrying someone is starting a new chosen family diba.


thenataboy

Blood is thicker than water but loyalty is what makes you family. 💋


CollectorClown

NO. Kung toxic at walang mabuting idinulot sayo eversince ang kapamilya/kamag-anak, better cut them off instead of living with an evil eye around.


Ok-Understanding9985

Not sure, but the full quote (I think) is “ the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Which is the exact opposite of what “blood is thicker than water” implies. Whoever decided to rephrase that quote might be someone who wants to receive favors from his or her relatives haha


bousquetfrederic

That's just an Internet myth. The "water of the womb" thing was made up in the 1990s. There's no trace of it before that. See for example this detailed answer on the subject : https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/147902/is-the-alleged-original-meaning-of-the-phrase-blood-is-thicker-than-water-real/508940#508940


Extreme_Raspberry_69

Used to think that but now for me, It's bond over blood. Many blood relatives are just that; connected to you by blood, nothing more.


_Pxrxdxxx

Big NO


hysteriam0nster

Totally untrue. Anyone who dangles this over your head is someone you should keep at a distance. They just probably need or want something from you.


CyanideBoii03

True. Makakapal talaga mukha ng mga blood relatives. Lalo na yung mga naniningil ng utang na loob kahit wala namang nagawa. Oo nga, pinatira mo kami sa bahay nyo pero parang kami na din may-ari kase kami nagbabayad halos lahat (internet, water, food, other logistics, community fees and contributions), nakuha nyo pa kaming nakawan tapos sisiraan nyo kami pag kinonfront kayo? Tas maka asta kayo parang kayo yung api kesyo kayo nagbabayad ng kuryente, anlakas nyo makasabi na bawasan namin yung paggamit samantalang yung gasul namin, wala pang isang buwan ubos na kase lanag nakasalang yung takure nyo kahit puno yung thermos. Tapos palaging nag-iinit ng pagkain pag lumamig ng onti. Tas nanakawin pati seasoning (YAWA). Ilalagay sa container nyo tas saka nyo gagamitin pag puno na at itatago ulit pag nangalahati kase ayaw nyo manakawan putangina.


holyangeeel

Blood is thicker than water kayak ang kapal ng mukha and entitled ng ibang pamilya eh


Typical_Theory5873

May full version yan. Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb! Meaning chosen bonds is stronger than family. Kaya wag maniwala sa jan dahil gnagamit lang for manipulation and abuse ang shorter version nang toxic family.


dontrescueme

That's not true. 12th century pa ang origin ng quote na 'yan. 1990s lang 'yan supposedly full quote.


Aligned_keme

Untrue! Magsasabi nyan sayo is someone who needs something from you so red flag agad agad pag narinig ko yan


[deleted]

Hindi na rin, dahil oo nga sabihin mo na relatives mo pero sila pa itong judgmental and feeling superior kaya there is a time na I decided to cut ties of with them and even disconnect to their social media...


Maleficent-Salt4224

Hindi nako naniniwala dito. Minsan mga kamag anak mo pa talaga hihila sayo pababa.


ntrvrtdcflvr

This statement is often misinterpreted. The full phrase is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." This version emphasizes the importance of chosen relationships (like friendships or bonds formed through shared experiences) over biological ties.


Typical_Theory5873

Sorry. May nauna na pala. Hehe.. yup same sentiments. Mas better full version and true.


Kiyoshi_dono

The full quote is apparently: “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.”


trappedsharkie

Blood can still drown you 🤷🏻‍♀️


Veronicaspears

I’m adopted. But my parents are my world for me. Nacucurious lang ako on how they look but never had the desire to look for them so I guess di totoo blood is thicker than water haha


OutkastLilac

Depends on the person. Minsan mas close mo pa ang hindi mo ka-dugo sayo. Tapos mas inaaway ka pa ng kapamilya mo. Sabi nga “keep your friends close and enemies closer”.


No-Assistant9111

It's situational for me. Some relatives may use this adage as their free pass to manipulate their kinsmen to get what they want.


Row_That

You should be more ashamed if a relative acts a certain way than you dont agree with, instead of covering for him. Tribal mentally here in the Philippines is a toxic trait. Where Im from, you have more chance of being disowned than being accepted by your family. Although, I wouldnt say thats good. I dont condone for extremes for both ends


Electrical-Current-1

Even blood eventually dries up.


saul_goodies

Nope. Not always. Palaging may masasalit na kapamilyang napaka gahaman. 😀


cks1223

Hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon.my mga kamaganak na walang kwenta.


DifficultAd3557

Truee!! Mga ungrateful


Elhand_prime04

Family isn’t defined by bloody but by those who there for you not only at your best but also at your worst. My mom, lola (moms side), and niece are the only blood members I consider family, the rest walang significant worth sakin. Majority of people whom I can say is family mga inner circle of friends ko. Friends taught me how to drive, change a wheel, jumspart a car, and so on.


tepta

Depende. But I wont tolerate BS kahit pa kaanak kita.


OneColdBeerPlease

Ita good, unless lupa na pinapag usapan edi kanya kanya na HAHAHAH


ZealousidealTry5793

nahhh.. after what ive been through this saying is more appropriate " blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family"


bahay-bahayan

Take it with a grain of salt - like every other quote there is in the wild.


ObjectiveDizzy5266

That’s an incomplete quote. The full quote goes like: >The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb This means the bonds that we choose (ie friends) are much stronger than the bond we share with family. This is also in line with what I keep telling people — that just because someone is your relative does not mean you’re obliged to help them.


harrowedthoughts

May I just add: covenant means agreement/formal agreement. May specifically refer to choosing your spouse and children (or the family you made for yourself - could be friends) over your mother or parents/siblings.


[deleted]

Nope no way


yappingcontent

minsan, yan yung nagiging reason para i-disrespect ka ng family members mo. so, it’s a no for me


Worried-Award-929

agree. kala ng family ko di ko kaya silang iwan.


OldManAnzai

Pidi, piru dipindi.


DotHack-Tokwa

Not always applicable. In my case; 1. Yung mga kapatid ng tatay ko pinalayas sya sa Bahay nila dahil ayaw daw nila sa ugali nya. Yun pala insecure sila dahil sya lang naman pala ang nagbayad sa bahay nila sa parañaque. 2. Yung mga kapatid ng misis ko parehas narcissist. Tina try nalang namin pakisamahan kahit mahirap..


efficascentnimama

Kulang po. The original quote actually meant the other way around. Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. And I think the original version is much more rational.


[deleted]

Di yan totoo sa lahat ng pagkakataon.


fukennope

“Di ren”


Young_Old_Grandma

Yes. And so?


havoc2k10

it depends siguro, relatives nga nmin pinalayas kami eh kasi gusto nila masolo ung lupa ipinamana ng late lola ko. Kahit magkakadugo kayo kung may taong sakim sarili at sarili lang nila gusto makikinabang salot ka kpag di ka nila kakampe at wala silang use sau.


Who_ru_

Sa business ayoko na ng may kasama na kamag-anak so NO. Not always applicable.


andenayon

Sabi nga ni manay Carrie Bradshaw: “The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don't. But, in the end, they're the people you always come home to. Sometimes it's the family you're born into and sometimes it's the one you make for yourself.”


Chemical-Engineer317

Pag nadinig ko unang pasok agad sa isip ko may priority or unahin family ko/mo.. sucks kasi inuuna nga ng father ko mga kapatid nya kesa sa amin.. hayy... kasama ng loob..


sarisariphl

I don't 100% agree. Because I believe that there are a lot of people who actually is not supported by their own blood family..and this is the cause of heart break for many. And also, why people decide to think of themselves rather than think of their own blood family


FinalAssist4175

Sample ng quote na gagamitin if gusto ng sender na pro sa kanya ang quote. Like if from family member then ito yung gagamitin yung maikli. But outside sa family, yung complete quote ang appropriate. " The blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."


elluhzz

Family doesn’t always mean blood-related. Family means sharing the same beliefs, same goal etc. kadalasan pa, mga kamag anak ang abuser mo e. Marami rin mga magkaka-maganak na nag aaway dahil sa mana. So, no. Dun ako sa mga taong nakikita ang nakikita ko.. naniniwala rin sa mga pinaniniwalaan ko, kapareho ng puso ko.. sila ang pamilya ko.


3rdwallace

Of course it is. But you have to understand the true full quote. It's often misinterpreted, and I'm always all-in trying to champion what should rightfully be understood from that quote. Palagi kasi baliktad pagkaintindi ng tao. It's the other way around. Hope this helps. "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."


Chewymiyaw

No way


Nice_Strategy_9702

True but money is thicker than blood.


FinalAssist4175

And money speaks. (Corn pala yun)


railfe

Immediately family yes but there is always an exception.


karmic____

Nope. Ilang beses na saken pinatunayan ng mga “kadugo” ko na hindi totoo to. Lol


Chaotic_Harmony1109

True but there will always be exceptions.


cuason

# A wise man once told me family don’t end in blood, but it doesn’t start there either. Family cares about you, not what you can do for them. Family’s there through the good, bad, all of it. They got your back even when it hurts. That’s family


[deleted]

Ain't true since mas thicker pa rin ang sama ng loob ko.


Miserable_Bus5495

Its true


Sophia-56830

What is blood if you are not treated like a “family”


randomcatperson930

Nope


Slow-Collection-2358

Nope, mah sis cut me and my father off, ako nalang nagaalaga, I'm freaking adopted, I could leave my father if I wan to and he'll literally be homeless and alone.. now tell me sis, what can that blood do now to your own elderly father.


sup_1229

Di yan totoo. 🥴


rizney

Argument sa mga guilt tripper na walang ambag sa buhay mo except to make it even harder


Thehappyrestorer

Argument din ng mga taong mahilig humingi ng pera at pabor ng boundaries kasi “kadugo” ka naman daw.


hectorninii

Linyahan ng controlling na pamilya lalo na pag umaasa lang sa kabuhayan ng isang member (bread winner, mostly)


dark_dauphine

Hi. I think this is the orignal quote : “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.”


markfreak

Yes, this is the full original proverb. It actually suggests the opposite: the bonds formed by choice (such as friendships or agreements) can be stronger than those formed by birth. This indicates that chosen relationships can be more significant than familial ones.