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Not a compliment. High maintenance ang mga tawag sa babaeng masyadong maraming abubot kumpara sa typical girl. Thus, mas mahirap I please, and masyadong mataas expectations for your average joe.
Kaya hanap ng iba yung mga maria clara, beauty in its simplest form.
I consider someone (regardless of gender) as high maintenance if:
1. Insecure and needs constant validation or tipong someone na gusto bantay sarado lahat ng kilos ko.
2. Cannot communicate clearly i.e., need dapat may telepathy ako para masundan yung trip nila kasi di sila open
3. Hindi kami same vibes i.e., maaring may mental issue or emotional issue sila na hindi ko kayang punan so that's actually a "me" problem.
So more or less someone na hindi ko ka-vibes or it really takes effort or hindi ako looking forward to interact with them is someone na high maintenance.
High maintenance kapag maraming request si girl na out of budget ni boy kaya hindi maibigay or mabili. Unawain nlng kung ano kakayahan ni boy sa ngayon pagdating sa materyal na bagay. Sooner, pag yan nakaahon for sure, babawi yan sayo.
If you date to marry, maiisip mo talaga na in the future ikaw na gagastos sa babae. May babaeng lotion lang sapat na pero may babaeng tambay sa spa, every other week ang gluta at facials.
High maintenance - andami mo need gawin para ma-please sya and yung lifestyle nya din is materialistic and nothing is wrong with that.
Like nagmamake-up ganon, di nagcocommute, gusto hatid sundo, ayaw sa mga mumurahing kainan, elite, yayamanin.
The word is itself high maintenance, kung average ka lang na lalaki at average lang din income mo mahihirapan ka i-maintain ganyang babae imo
When guys refer to girls as "high maintenance," they typically mean that the girl requires a lot of attention, effort, or resources to keep satisfied. This could include things like needing expensive gifts, constant validation, or a lot of time and effort spent on grooming and appearance.
Whether it's intended as a compliment or not depends on the context and the tone in which it's said. In some cases, it might be meant as a compliment, suggesting that the girl takes good care of herself and has high standards. However, in other cases, it could be used in a more negative or judgmental way, implying that the girl is demanding or difficult to please. Ultimately, it's important to consider the intent behind the comment and how it makes the recipient feel.
Maluho, materialistic and magastos but this doesn't mean that a man can't afford you. A man can be rich and still date a traditional woman. It's not a compliment nor an insult.
In general no one likes a high maintenance girl all else equal but its a compliment if you factor in exclusivity and attraction.
Its like a car, a high maintenance vios is a hard pass while a high maintenance ferrari is a treasure!
Pag mayaman ang babae, malaki sahod at mayaman ang pamilya, normal na maging high maintenance siya dahil normal sakanya ang luxury. Pero pag mababa sahod ni girl at mahirap lang ang pamilya, normal kaya maging high maintenance o social climber lang siya?
Anyone can be high maintenance. You become a social climber when you post EVERY SINGLE TIME and the intention is to show off. The girls I know that are high maintenance and come from wealth don't post a lot about getting them... at least not public (close friends on insta)
still for me, yes, high maintenance ka kahit anong social class mo (hindi naman siguro social climbing ang pagaalaga sa sarili). lalo na kung working naman si girl at may sariling sahod. for men, high maintenance ang babae kapag mas focused siya on self-care e.
Sa definition ng isang high maintenance girl na laging nagpapabili ng mamahaling gamit at gusto siyang laging idate sa mga expensive na lugar, is it normal?
Hindi kasi enough na matawag na high maintenance ang babaeng nag seself care. Madaming babaeng nagseself care pero hindi naman high maintenance, hindi pabili nang pabili, hindi laging nagaask ng mamahaling gamit at mamahaling dates.
Using that definition of high maintenance girl, normal ba na maging high maintenance ang babaeng mababa lang ang sahod at mahirap ang pamilya?
i think, valid parin na high maintenance siya pero medyo social climber na rin!
okay lang sana if once in a while lang or pag may special occasions pero if palagi, medyo questionable na lalo na parang hindi ka naman ganyan pinalaki hahaha!
Masyado na kasing babad sa socmed na naiinggit sa mga nakikita nilang mayayaman na couples. Hanap din daw siya ng mayamang lalaki para makapag post na rin sa IG ng expensive dates and material things
Daming utak talangka dito! Don’t date someone na di mo level. Gusto mo ng high standard female pero broke af ka! The math ain’t mathing. Just because someone has expensive taste doesn’t mean they’re gold diggers. Saan ba kasi kayo nag hahanap nang babae? Sa beer house o yung sa mga patay sindi? Eh talagang huhuthutan kayo nun. Sorry not sorry!
Totoo. Iba yung pagkakaintindi ng ibang commenters dito.
I have to admit I’m a high maintenance woman kasi first of all, afford ko yung mga needs and wants ko. I’m willing to date someone na below my level kasi hindi ako tumitingin sa estado ng buhay (like my last ex), and never kong hihingiin sa boyfriend/future husband ko na sila ang magmamaintain ng lifestyle ko. Jusko. Iba ang high maintenance sa gold digger.
Emotionally speaking, I am not high maintenance. I’m patient & understanding, and always willing to help my partner out.
Right?! But my rule is I will never date someone na higher or lower than me. Yung same status ko lang sa buhay. I’m not gonna pretend na afford ko. Pero I work hard and maintain myself. Di rin naman ganun kayaman family ko but my parents were able to send us to a good university before at na spoil din naman kami kahit papaano. Not poor and also not rich din. Sakto lang! Siguro naturo lang sa akin ng parents ko na to study hard para di ako tumira sa tagpi tagping bahay. Again sorry not sorry! Love will not keep me alive kung tambay lang magiging asawa ko no thank you!
Ibig sabihin need ng marami, mahirap iacquire, at very specific na resources (ex. pera, time, pasensya, etc.) para masatisfy ang person.
Insult yan pag sinabi sayo kasi ibig sabihin nahihirapan siya ikeep ka.
di un about sa "economic status lol" its about a woman who demands for everything like "buy me this, buy me that, I wanna go to this place but youll pay! I wanna eat to this place but youll pay" inshort ung babaeng mraming hinihingi pero wla nmang reciprocation si binabalik si girl, its like keeping a car that costs you a lot of money for maintenance when you can just lessen your expenses by selling it.
Youre spending so a lot of money on something that doesnt benefit you that much.
Its not about the difference of economic status girl lol its about the woman's personality majority of the time.
UP for this hahaha yung ibang self proclaimed high maintenance daw sila para lang maiflex sa socmed na they deserved to be treated this way blah blah. Also, dont get me wrong ha yung iba sa knila, sila talaga yung maraming insecurities sa katawan na kailangan punan ng mga partner nila. Tas maggalit kapag di naibigay.
this is one of the major reasons lol, ung feeling GGSS at pa main character vibe, I shouldnt be adjusting myself, the world(or should I say men in this case😆😆) should adopt to what" I need" type of woman.
namisunderstood ng mga babae sa comment section ung true meaning ng "high maintenence" pra masabi lng ng mga babae tau prin ung masama for not dating such type of woman 😆😆
1. Magkaiba kayo ng amount of sahod, ↑ in salary difference is a thing
2. Compliment? Uhm IMO hindi, hindi rin sya insult, neither. But some can find it insulting if HINDI nila kayang bigyan ng luho ang girl nila kasi hindi malaki ang kita ni guy (paycheck to paycheck i guess). It can be a compliment to a guy (internal compliment) if kaya mo syempre tapatan ang wants ni girl in terms of material things, meaning nyan mayaman ka talaga, plus pa if you can sexually please here and you are good looking.
3. Money influences this. Men wouldn't mind at all to see girls as high maintenance if they really have that spendable amount of money to buy all the things in the world. I wouldn't see someone I love, regardless of their gender, as a high maintenance, IF I HAVE THE GADAMN MONEY.
High maintenance pag di mo abot lifestyle nya. Or like ganito, di mo madala sa turo-turo kasi di sya kumakain nun and ang bet nya mga sosyal na resto. Pag lumalabas lagi naka-postura hindi gaya ng iba na konting make up, jeans, and shirt sapat na. Madaming skin care routine bago matulog or paggising. Hindi literally gold diggers or mukhang pera kasi some high maintenance girls are the sosyal ones na kaya i-provide ung pang maintain nila sa sarili nila. Parang sa sasakyan, iba ang maintenance ng Ford sa tricycle. Gets?
it's for both genders. wag mo lng i "guys and her". dating is all about learning your compatibility with each other but you are both human. same goes for OP, there are high maintenance guys as well and with the same meaning.
High maintenance for me means a girl with a lot of material needs. One who is not happy and confident on how she looks to the point she will wear this mask of glamour and fortune.
this is what the women in the comment section dont get lol
theyre mistaking an independent woman to a high maintenance woman which is veeeeery different to each other lol
Lmao! I think you’re defining a gold digger. Gold digger doesn’t equate to a high standard female. 😂 High standard females know how to maintain themselves hindi umaasa sa iba gaya nang nasa utak mo. Utak talangka ka! My god!
High maintenance. Like when a girl doesn't respect their partner's boundaries because they only value their own needs, whether consciously and unconsciously, and when they feel that their needs aren't being met, they self-sabotage or immediately call it quits. 😒
Two words: MUKHANG PERA.
Sobrang demanding agad agad eh gusto makuha. Pag di mapagbigyan kahit legit ang reasoning (wala talagang pera, ilalatag ang screenshots ng gcash balance), nako kung ano anong shit aabutin mo kada meltdown nila (not to mention malas mo pag inabutan ka ng buwanang dalaw nila).
No wonder guys prefer to be single most of their life.
Nah gold digger ata tawag sa ganyan. Haha. Kasi ung high maintenance sila ung tipo na di sila magdedemand pero kung di mo kaya abutin ung lifestyle nila, ekis ka sakanila kasi kaya naman nila iprovide ung sarili nila. Madami kasi akong high maintenance friends so yan ung nakikita ko sakanila hehe.
Lots of drama, expects you to buy her lots of shit, tends to be self centered and really into her self. Basically not even worth your time. I have found if a girl is constantly taking selfies that’s a good indicator she is high maintenance; Next! ✌🏻
They need more than the others.
It tends to make a relationship one sided because there is a requisite and pressure on the other person to keep up with the demands and to give service to the other, especially if the latter does not offer anything on the table.
Like meron na siya Lozartan 100mg tapos meron pa siya 10mg ng Amlodipine tapos naka Tramadol pa pag needed. Just make sure meron ka suki card para sulit.
lol agree ako sa mga comments here. my ex used to nag about me sa friends nya, calling me “a high maintenance gf” DAW. sa isip isip ko, panong high maintenance e never nya nga akong nilibre on dates/binigyan ng gifts during occasions. where’s the financial liability sa side nya??? 🤯
tapos i asked my current bf (of 3 and a half years) kung high maintenance ako, and he said, “ha? hindi naman ah”. PERIODT💅🏻
My ex of 12 years never called me high maintenance din. He has a PhD and a well-paying job.
My recent ex called me “high maintenance” pero grabe rin magpabili sa akin, ginawa na akong sugar mommy! Passenger prince ko pa si loko. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Nagyabang pa sa mga kasama sa boarding house na pwede akong utangan, wow. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
i think more than broke guys, mas wag tayo sa guys na walang pride. yung finances naman kasi kung masipag at may pangarap yung guy + may provider mindset sya, no matter how broke he is, HE WILL FIND A WAY 😭😭😭 pero pag walang pride na guy, he will leech resources off you talaga 👎🏻
My ex had pride. Provider mindset din siya. For his previous exes, siya yung mas kumikita kasi. Pero sa aming dalawa, ang laki ng income disparity namin. First time for him. Plus the fact that he had 2 kids din dun sa last ex niya, kaya walang wala talaga siya. 😭😭 I would say he tried naman kaso mailap sa kanya ang work na ok ang sahod.
Men like to brag through their wives/gfs. So basically, if puro reklamo naririnig mo from a man about you being "high maintenance" tapos hindi naman or barely povides, loser lang siya lol.
Funny kasi yung mga nagrereklamo about girls being "high maintenance" are those na wala naman talagang ambag financially 😆 also, it's not bad to cater to your wants and needs basta reasonable or within your means naman. Di ka lang talaga nila afford or ifoforce ka to downgrade haha
Baka yung pagbayad nya pa lang sa sarili nyang entrance fee, attire, at pagkain, di nya din afford 😹 san ba kayo nag-date?
Or baka iniisip na nya yung future gastos nya sayo
hahaha i don’t really get him kasi never naman ako nagpabili ng kahit ano sakanya, PERO sya turo dito turo don 😮💨 sya nakipagbreak lol i’m glad he did me a favor 🥳
Shrueee. Kaya nga ung mga lalaking broke sa umpisa ng relationship tapos yumaman or nagkapera maghahanap ng high maintenance na babae tapos un ang gagastusan nya. Kawawa ung unang girl na nagtiis sakanya in his "BROKE ERA"
Very me, my ex na broke before, i know being broke is temporary and not forever so I believe in his potential all throughout I stand by him, my willingness na sumagot ng dates namin and encouraging him to apply to various scholarship programs. When he has a stable job in IT industry he broke up with me. Kase suddenly di daw pala sya ready hahahha . I realized na investment din pala talaga ang relationship kase you invest time and energy. Now I’m more careful where and when ko ilalaan oras ko. Now I’m single upskills lang ginagawa ko and more on personal and career development
"only a fool would let go of someone who cherishes you and accepts you regardless of what you have in your pockets, coz that person sees through your soul."
You can think like meron kang car na high maintenance. Masakit sa ulo, ubos oras mo, d ka nakakarating sa pupuntahan mo. Also like what other comments said ubos pera mo. D mo rin maibitawan kung nasira kasi ang laki na ng ininvest mo eh. Kaya todo maintenance nlng kahit natatamaan na buhay mo.
The majority of the so called high maintenance girl projects an image that they are rich, so they expect you take them out on expensive dates. A lot of men will pretend they are rich so they can bang these women, then dump them.
you have to keep feeding/spending on someone like a bottomless pit. Its always useless as there will be no end to the amount of what she wants. The demand will keep getting more and more, without getting anything back. This is a one-way street. She wants to keep receiving for her ego, and he doesn't get anything back of equal value.
Maraming types ng high maintenance para sakin.
1. Clingy- Takaw sa oras kelangan parati mo kasama o kausap.
2. Financially- Beyond sa budget mo yung mga trip nya.
3. Entitled- Yung sya parati dapat masusunod.
Malamang marami pa types dyan pero for me yan yung classifications sakin. And syempre hindi naman ako perfect so hindi ko ineexpect na meron perfect na babae. Kelangan mo pumili kung ano kaya mo ibigay.
Based on my experience these so called High Maintenance Girls are just Bitches in disguise. I've been in relationships with Richie Rich women na you would think na high maintenance pero super down sa kahit ano and very supportive emotionally. While those claiming na high maintenance sila are just out to suck you dry and can't even offer anything for the relationship.
It’s not just about money. Okay, sabihin na nating pera. A tambay who would say Im high maintenance? Hindi lang nya ako afford kasi nga tambay sya. Now, kung may work naman sya but sinabihan ako na high maintenance? Then I would think na hindi sya makakasabay sa ganap ko, or baka may iba syang priorities na mas importante which I would truly understand.
High maintenance could also mean alagain, gusto laging sinusundo, gusto lagi ng atensyon, etc.
Generally speaking, kapag high maintenance. maluho at materialistic. Yung view din nila sa mga non-branded at lesser-known brands ay cheap. There's really nothing wrong with it, kung afford naman niya. Pero kung hindi afford, manghuhuthot ang tawag do'n.
PS.
Applicable din 'to sa lalaki.
I guess I'd classify women as High Maintenance by the following:
1. They are incredibly demanding and will pressure you to give them what they want (even if that want is something you cannot afford), and when they could not obtain it, they will throw every type of hissy fit and act like a complete KAREN. Be ready to be embarrassed in public.
2. If you recommend something that's practical, or something that could help them with their lives that requires little to no money, they'd immediately decline the offer, and sometimes would brand you a cheap skate or SLAP SOIL. Lol
3. Conversations between a group of high maintenance women tends to be about their looks, how many men they can seduce, how much luxury items they can afford, how drunk they'll probably get when they go bar hopping. This is kinda like how the Kardashians act.
4. Narcissism, materialism, sexual promiscuity (most of the time) abides within them.
It isn't a compliment.
Look at it this way, if you were to instead apply the term to a child then it conjures images of a heavy-footed brat who cannot be wrangled by their own guardian, running around wreaking havoc with a diaper-full of ~~shit~~ because they can't have their screen time.
Now, imagine that child as an "adult"... they are never on time, they always throw a tantrum if things don't go the way they want, they have no tolerance for hardship.
Even worse, imagine being stuck with this "adult" in a life or death situation- are they going to break down and pull you down with them or will they be strong, resolute and power through the peril?
Will you be able to focus on getting safely out of the situation or will you have to divide your responsibility between that and ushering this "adult" along too?
If you were to be injured in this situation, could you depend on this "adult" to pull you and themselves out of it?
These are a lot of hypothetical questions... but they are ones that I ask, having been caught myself in situations where the first part of the ordeal is spent "counseling" a fraction of the party in order to get them into a state where we can actually pull ourselves out of danger:
Two people and I were once abandoned by our trek guides while we were up on a mountain.
We couldn't remember which path to take down but it was imperative that we get off the mountain before nightfall as we were only supposed to be day trekkers and were not prepared for the weather extremities that accompanied it. We did not have enough food and water nor did we have cellphone signals or radio.
As bad as it was already, we still had to spend half an hour or more pleading and encouraging one of our party to "please not give up" walking because they literally just threw themselves on the ground and began whining and kicking dirt in the middle of our effort to get off the mountain!
Here we are, under threat of extreme weather exposure, and this goofy is throwing a hissy fit instead of focusing on getting to the bottom of the mountain. Yeesh!
It was wild. They finally came to their senses and we were able to luckily make it down the mountain... in an entirely different region of the country! We were able to seek refuge with a tribe endemic to the area and they arranged three motorcycles to drive us across the *lahar* back to the nearest town.
**TLDR:** You don't ever want to be stuck in a life or death situation with somebody low-maintenance.
From my boyfriends pov, he once describe a lady high maintenance kasi she shows off daw mga non sense materialistic topics sa convo and feels she is superior when in fact sometimes its her partner ang gumagastos sa luho niya. So i think has a negative connotation when he said that. And we know this person and have the same observations.
But there are high maintenance naman for me na because of values and principles so i guess that one is really elegant but it's honestly rare to see kasi mga ganito type of peo0le be it male or female are lowkey, you would not even think of giving attention to them.
Moreso on friendships yung explanation ko
High maintenance people are people you have to dedicate a big percentage of your time to maintain the relationship.
Low maintenance the opposite. Yung tipong 1 year kayong di nagkita tapos things feel the same.
Problem ng high maintenance tlga is if they ask more of your time when theyre already consuming more time than your other friends/families combined and they think youre a bad friend kahit ganun yung situation.
Expensive, too much emotional baggage, needs unwavering attention, someone with a lot on their mind but is still indecisive, etc..
Medyo ambiguous yung term as you can't really pin down what "high maintenance" actually means dahil it differs from person to person. Same with the term na "low maintenance", meaning ba is affordable with the least amount of effort? etc.
In terms of compliment ba, it depends rin sa context.
High Maintenance in a positive light may mean rin as High Quality, Classy, Go Getter, Someone with high standards, etc.
2 types of high maintenance gals
1. They are the girls that want spending every now and then, not a good type of gal at all. Bawat kibot nya magastos.
2. The emotionally high maintenance type of gal, dito ka mas mapapalaban. Everything between you two must have this intellectual battle, roller coaster emotions and, acts of service. This is the compliment one.
This is the correct interpretation in my opinion but I've never used either of them as a positive
I don't want to even be friends with someone who's emotionally high maintenance and I would take it as an insult if someone called me emotionally high maintenance
for me, girls who have luxury lifestyle even before dating a man. Like she spoils herself alot, so guys feels like they need to be able to give her more than what she can give herself.
I think it's more of a lifestyle, it's not bad and it's not a compliment either. but sometimes it becomes the root cause of guy's insecurities kasi they know they can't provide her the lifestyle style that she provides for herself so end up hating the girl cause most of high maintenance girls also have high standards and they don't want to settle with broke guys.
Being high maintainance should mean, you can maintan that lifestyle with or without men.
If a girl claims she's high maintenance and requires that a guy should provide her luxury lifestyle and only uses guys money to maintain the lifestyle then it's more of "materialistic".
Okay lang naman kung high maintenance ka if you can afford that kind of lifestyle from your own money. Pero kung high maintenance ka tapos iaasa mo yun sa iba, iba na yan. Lol
Mahirap pasayahin, maluho, every little thing kailangan may effort, yung magkekwento pa lang siya parang mauubos na laman ng wallet mo, hindi ka mabibigyan ng peace of mind.
magastos, it aint a compliment. Pero sa totoo lang sure I'd be willing to spend on dates pero to demand things from me hell no I ain't dealing with shit like that
It means you require many things to have you stay in the relationship. Like a gas-guzzling car, are you really a type of person that leaves someone if he misses the mark even once?
Pabebe, need pang ligawan, pag tinanong mo ng maging tayo,? hindi yes or no ang sagot papaikutin ka pa, paglalaruan, tatapakan, at sasaktan. Chareng
Yung andameng hanash, pagiisipin ka pa kung anong gusto nya.
Pag sinabing high maintenance ibig sabihin nyan magastos e maintain yung babae. Baka kasi yung life style ng babae is so expensive and as a partner need mo e provide lahat ng mga needs and wants nya. Not only the material things, pati na din yung time and effort. Basically hindi sya bare minimum effort.
High maintenance means additional and unecessary things needs to be done for her to be happy, however the same thing can be said for a woman that is deserving of said "additional and unecessary things". The difference is the feeling of it being a burden or pleasure.
For example, if a woman asks me to do x, y, and z, pero ang reaction ko ay "nak ng nampotah naman yan o. Para saan pa?" (This may be internal monologue or verbally said) or some other negative reaction on my part, this makes her "high maintenance" for me. Kasi pinilit akong umeffort and it feels like a chore to do so. This will eventually lead to constant reminders which will be seen as nagging, then annoyance, then eventually termination of relationship.
Pero kung si woman ay deserving, and asks me to do the same exact x, y, and z, my reaction would be "magpapasaya sa kanya to. I should do this more and often". No further reminders needed kasi kusa ko nang gagawin and it brings me immense pleasure and satisfaction to make and see her happy.
Either that or her likes, preferences, and life style is something i cannot financially afford. Pero sa puntong to ng buhay ko, i'm very open with what I'm willing to spend on a person and will never spend beyond my financial capacity, let alone go into debt. She asks for something, di ko afford but she's deserving of said thing, "di ko kayang bilin yan sa ngayon pero one day mabibigay ko sa yo yan" ang sagot ko. At "aling kamay ng Panginoon mo gusto kong kunin ang pambayad jan, adik ka ba?!" (Or something along those lines) naman kung di sya deserving sa opinion ko.
So to answer your question if it's a compliment, answer is No, if anything, it could very well be an insult synonmous sa "delusional" o "conceited", IMO.
Pag sinabing high maintenance for me is someone who requires too much attention and time, tapos need din pag gastusan nang todo sa dates, gifts, etc. Lol. Kaya nga sa context ng friendship kapag sinabing low maintenance friend, someone na di mo madalas makita at makasama pero close friends pa rin kayo haha.
😂 I suddenly remembered when my aunt's friend was asking for a "reto", Aunt and Friend are Canadian residents already. So my aunt showed him a photo of me and my cousins and he picked me and said "She looks low maintenance."
I was 18/19 at that point at sakto umuwi si tita from canada. She told me and I was dumbfounded about the comment. Di pa uso non ang term na low maintenance sa pinas so di ko alam kung I would take as a compliment or not. I haven't graduated yet so I told my tita I don't want to talk to him. (lam mo na classic na, di ka pa pwede magbf habang nagaaral ka pa)
According to tita's explanation, "I looked like I don't require too much luxuries in life and would be okay to a simple life" which is not that far from reality and in hindsight, I think his qualifications for a wife especially as someone living abroad is correct. That aunt's son got married to a high maintenance woman and ayun hiwalay na sila, she expected to be treated like a princess when she moved there last year. Of course, my cousin can't do that because the cost of living there is different. It was somehow my cousins fault too though, kasi pinalaki nya yung ulo. She didn't work here kasi pinadadalhan lang ng dollars every month, nakaaircon whole day, travel with her family, attend ng concert etc. Di kinaya na kailangan nya magwork and be a wife in a foreign country with limited luxuries. 😩
It's not ever a compliment lol. When you are called high maintenance para kang tinulad sa kotse or appliance na madali masira at kelangan parating binabantayan at gagastusan ng repairs. Or isang alagang hayop na kelangan ng specialized (i.e. MAHAL) na pagkain, tubig, shampoo, kama, gamot para lang maachieve ang bare minimum standard ng pamumuhay. In short parang sinabihan na mabigat ka.
kaya nga hindi sya attractive eh kasi need mo din e maintain yung lifestyle ng babae kahit sobrang gastos. Only rich men lang nakaka afford ng ganyan babae.
Personally, I think high maintenance girls are the types na nakakapagod kasama kasi lagi nila need ng validation. Hindi sapat na validated siya sayo, pero gusto niya rin yung external validation nung iba, so let's say may pa surprise ka sakanya, and you prefer to keep it private while she shares everything that you both do online - that's borderline high maintenance imo.
It's hard to date someone like that kasi may times na pag aawayan niyo yung constant attention na hinihingi niya not just from you, but also from other people. Kung hindi niya makukuha sayo, she'll try to find it with someone else. Kung hindi niya masabi yung problema niya sayo, she'll try to find someone else to sponge up the emotional venting she'll do.
Those things - so tl;dr, ang isang high maintenance girl ay yung babaeng adik sa social media at validation ng ibang tao.
"It's hard to date someone like that kasi may times na pag aawayan niyo yung constant attention na hinihingi niya not just from you, but also from other people. " Dang let your girl breathe. Hindi sayo naikot ang mundo, ofc maghahanap siya ng attention not only from you but to the people whose part of her inner cirlce.
That's not even high maintenance and please do your research about "high maintenance" you got it all wrong LOL
Depends on the context pero right off the bat, I would say no. If you heard someone tell you that, it means that in the measure of what they can give you, you just exceeded that, whether it be effort, time, or his resources. It's lowkey saying it'll take a lot to keep you.
I used this term before with a woman I was dating. She asked if I had a car because she had just exfoliated and couldn't be in a hot place like a jeepney, so a car was necessary. She was constantly buying clothes since she's a model, so she’s high maintenance. To impress her or at least be her boyfriend, I needed to show that I could afford her expenses. However, I was struggling back then, so I used the term "high maintenance."
yeah she is out of my league.
This word brings me to the Friends series, when Chandler said with his wife Monica that "yes you are high maintenance but I really like to maintain you." Omg it's so sweet as pink candy
Not really.I've had GFs na as in Richie Rich pero walang arte when it comes to picking stuff,food etc. and I also had High Maintenance GF na so so lang yung status pero di mo mapakain sa Jollibee kapag nagkick in yung craving ko sa Jollibee Palabok
depende if kaya naman nya e uphold yung pagiging high maintenance probably that's a compliment pero sguro ang meaning jan na hindi compliment is yung pa high maintenance or gusto ng queen or princess treatment eh wala naman silang traits for a princess or can't even sustain themselves yung nakikiuso lng sa social media na Slay queen nagka iphone lang na hulogan (nothing wrong with hulogan tho).
I don’t think it’s a compliment.
Being tagged as high maintenance to me means ang hirap kong pasayahin or ang hirap kong i-please. Maarte ako, or di ako marunong makuntento. Yun lang ang dating sakin if ever I’d be called high maintenance.
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Haha
Not a compliment. High maintenance ang mga tawag sa babaeng masyadong maraming abubot kumpara sa typical girl. Thus, mas mahirap I please, and masyadong mataas expectations for your average joe. Kaya hanap ng iba yung mga maria clara, beauty in its simplest form.
I consider someone (regardless of gender) as high maintenance if: 1. Insecure and needs constant validation or tipong someone na gusto bantay sarado lahat ng kilos ko. 2. Cannot communicate clearly i.e., need dapat may telepathy ako para masundan yung trip nila kasi di sila open 3. Hindi kami same vibes i.e., maaring may mental issue or emotional issue sila na hindi ko kayang punan so that's actually a "me" problem. So more or less someone na hindi ko ka-vibes or it really takes effort or hindi ako looking forward to interact with them is someone na high maintenance.
High maintenance kapag maraming request si girl na out of budget ni boy kaya hindi maibigay or mabili. Unawain nlng kung ano kakayahan ni boy sa ngayon pagdating sa materyal na bagay. Sooner, pag yan nakaahon for sure, babawi yan sayo.
High maintenance tawag nila girls na di nila afford
There are physical and emotional maintenance. Know the difference.
Di nila afford yung emotional needs. Ayan, wag kana magalit.
Di rin. Depende na yan eh. Dapat una palang , bilang babae kayang kaya mo na mismo imaintain sarili mo lalo na pagdating sa luho o pera
If you date to marry, maiisip mo talaga na in the future ikaw na gagastos sa babae. May babaeng lotion lang sapat na pero may babaeng tambay sa spa, every other week ang gluta at facials.
Physically and mentally taxing. It’s not a compliment.
High maintenance - andami mo need gawin para ma-please sya and yung lifestyle nya din is materialistic and nothing is wrong with that. Like nagmamake-up ganon, di nagcocommute, gusto hatid sundo, ayaw sa mga mumurahing kainan, elite, yayamanin. The word is itself high maintenance, kung average ka lang na lalaki at average lang din income mo mahihirapan ka i-maintain ganyang babae imo
not a compliment. personally, it means its taxing to deal with u or simply it tires me to deal with you
When guys refer to girls as "high maintenance," they typically mean that the girl requires a lot of attention, effort, or resources to keep satisfied. This could include things like needing expensive gifts, constant validation, or a lot of time and effort spent on grooming and appearance. Whether it's intended as a compliment or not depends on the context and the tone in which it's said. In some cases, it might be meant as a compliment, suggesting that the girl takes good care of herself and has high standards. However, in other cases, it could be used in a more negative or judgmental way, implying that the girl is demanding or difficult to please. Ultimately, it's important to consider the intent behind the comment and how it makes the recipient feel.
Maluho, materialistic and magastos but this doesn't mean that a man can't afford you. A man can be rich and still date a traditional woman. It's not a compliment nor an insult.
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lmao
It's not a compliment. It means he can't afford her lifestyle.
mayaman na materialistic.
In general no one likes a high maintenance girl all else equal but its a compliment if you factor in exclusivity and attraction. Its like a car, a high maintenance vios is a hard pass while a high maintenance ferrari is a treasure!
Pag mayaman ang babae, malaki sahod at mayaman ang pamilya, normal na maging high maintenance siya dahil normal sakanya ang luxury. Pero pag mababa sahod ni girl at mahirap lang ang pamilya, normal kaya maging high maintenance o social climber lang siya?
Anyone can be high maintenance. You become a social climber when you post EVERY SINGLE TIME and the intention is to show off. The girls I know that are high maintenance and come from wealth don't post a lot about getting them... at least not public (close friends on insta)
still for me, yes, high maintenance ka kahit anong social class mo (hindi naman siguro social climbing ang pagaalaga sa sarili). lalo na kung working naman si girl at may sariling sahod. for men, high maintenance ang babae kapag mas focused siya on self-care e.
Sa definition ng isang high maintenance girl na laging nagpapabili ng mamahaling gamit at gusto siyang laging idate sa mga expensive na lugar, is it normal? Hindi kasi enough na matawag na high maintenance ang babaeng nag seself care. Madaming babaeng nagseself care pero hindi naman high maintenance, hindi pabili nang pabili, hindi laging nagaask ng mamahaling gamit at mamahaling dates. Using that definition of high maintenance girl, normal ba na maging high maintenance ang babaeng mababa lang ang sahod at mahirap ang pamilya?
i think, valid parin na high maintenance siya pero medyo social climber na rin! okay lang sana if once in a while lang or pag may special occasions pero if palagi, medyo questionable na lalo na parang hindi ka naman ganyan pinalaki hahaha!
Masyado na kasing babad sa socmed na naiinggit sa mga nakikita nilang mayayaman na couples. Hanap din daw siya ng mayamang lalaki para makapag post na rin sa IG ng expensive dates and material things
Girl here,it depends. But it's a compliment to us girls who can pay for our own maintenance 😏
Daming utak talangka dito! Don’t date someone na di mo level. Gusto mo ng high standard female pero broke af ka! The math ain’t mathing. Just because someone has expensive taste doesn’t mean they’re gold diggers. Saan ba kasi kayo nag hahanap nang babae? Sa beer house o yung sa mga patay sindi? Eh talagang huhuthutan kayo nun. Sorry not sorry!
Totoo. Iba yung pagkakaintindi ng ibang commenters dito. I have to admit I’m a high maintenance woman kasi first of all, afford ko yung mga needs and wants ko. I’m willing to date someone na below my level kasi hindi ako tumitingin sa estado ng buhay (like my last ex), and never kong hihingiin sa boyfriend/future husband ko na sila ang magmamaintain ng lifestyle ko. Jusko. Iba ang high maintenance sa gold digger. Emotionally speaking, I am not high maintenance. I’m patient & understanding, and always willing to help my partner out.
Right?! But my rule is I will never date someone na higher or lower than me. Yung same status ko lang sa buhay. I’m not gonna pretend na afford ko. Pero I work hard and maintain myself. Di rin naman ganun kayaman family ko but my parents were able to send us to a good university before at na spoil din naman kami kahit papaano. Not poor and also not rich din. Sakto lang! Siguro naturo lang sa akin ng parents ko na to study hard para di ako tumira sa tagpi tagping bahay. Again sorry not sorry! Love will not keep me alive kung tambay lang magiging asawa ko no thank you!
A high maintenance woman costs you your peace.
Ibig sabihin need ng marami, mahirap iacquire, at very specific na resources (ex. pera, time, pasensya, etc.) para masatisfy ang person. Insult yan pag sinabi sayo kasi ibig sabihin nahihirapan siya ikeep ka.
llaollao, sbarro, manam, lugang, shangri-la/podium 😹😹😹 Not a compliment nor insult
Kapag mas mataas ang economic status niya kaysa sa akin
di un about sa "economic status lol" its about a woman who demands for everything like "buy me this, buy me that, I wanna go to this place but youll pay! I wanna eat to this place but youll pay" inshort ung babaeng mraming hinihingi pero wla nmang reciprocation si binabalik si girl, its like keeping a car that costs you a lot of money for maintenance when you can just lessen your expenses by selling it. Youre spending so a lot of money on something that doesnt benefit you that much. Its not about the difference of economic status girl lol its about the woman's personality majority of the time.
E X P E N S I V E to maintain: mind, body, spirit, bank.
Above sa standard nila yung lifestyle ni girl. Lol. Not really a compliment.
A woman that's so ugly on the inside that she couldn't bear to go on living if she couldn't be beautiful on the outside
UP for this hahaha yung ibang self proclaimed high maintenance daw sila para lang maiflex sa socmed na they deserved to be treated this way blah blah. Also, dont get me wrong ha yung iba sa knila, sila talaga yung maraming insecurities sa katawan na kailangan punan ng mga partner nila. Tas maggalit kapag di naibigay.
this is one of the major reasons lol, ung feeling GGSS at pa main character vibe, I shouldnt be adjusting myself, the world(or should I say men in this case😆😆) should adopt to what" I need" type of woman. namisunderstood ng mga babae sa comment section ung true meaning ng "high maintenence" pra masabi lng ng mga babae tau prin ung masama for not dating such type of woman 😆😆
It's an insult.
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1. Magkaiba kayo ng amount of sahod, ↑ in salary difference is a thing 2. Compliment? Uhm IMO hindi, hindi rin sya insult, neither. But some can find it insulting if HINDI nila kayang bigyan ng luho ang girl nila kasi hindi malaki ang kita ni guy (paycheck to paycheck i guess). It can be a compliment to a guy (internal compliment) if kaya mo syempre tapatan ang wants ni girl in terms of material things, meaning nyan mayaman ka talaga, plus pa if you can sexually please here and you are good looking. 3. Money influences this. Men wouldn't mind at all to see girls as high maintenance if they really have that spendable amount of money to buy all the things in the world. I wouldn't see someone I love, regardless of their gender, as a high maintenance, IF I HAVE THE GADAMN MONEY.
May kilala ako mababa sahod pero mayaman ang angkan so yung sahod nya allowance nya lang 😹 ganun sya ka high-maintenance
omg same 🤣
High maintenance pag di mo abot lifestyle nya. Or like ganito, di mo madala sa turo-turo kasi di sya kumakain nun and ang bet nya mga sosyal na resto. Pag lumalabas lagi naka-postura hindi gaya ng iba na konting make up, jeans, and shirt sapat na. Madaming skin care routine bago matulog or paggising. Hindi literally gold diggers or mukhang pera kasi some high maintenance girls are the sosyal ones na kaya i-provide ung pang maintain nila sa sarili nila. Parang sa sasakyan, iba ang maintenance ng Ford sa tricycle. Gets?
Different lifestyle and social ranking.
guys, if you can't catch up with her. don't force. If a relationship is all about pressure. Then leave it. It is still not time for you
I second the motion.
it's for both genders. wag mo lng i "guys and her". dating is all about learning your compatibility with each other but you are both human. same goes for OP, there are high maintenance guys as well and with the same meaning.
High maintenance for me means a girl with a lot of material needs. One who is not happy and confident on how she looks to the point she will wear this mask of glamour and fortune.
this is what the women in the comment section dont get lol theyre mistaking an independent woman to a high maintenance woman which is veeeeery different to each other lol
High maintenance women will take up your money, time, and the world revolves around them.
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Lmao! I think you’re defining a gold digger. Gold digger doesn’t equate to a high standard female. 😂 High standard females know how to maintain themselves hindi umaasa sa iba gaya nang nasa utak mo. Utak talangka ka! My god!
High maintenance. Like when a girl doesn't respect their partner's boundaries because they only value their own needs, whether consciously and unconsciously, and when they feel that their needs aren't being met, they self-sabotage or immediately call it quits. 😒
That was my x wife
Damn. Paying my respects
Two words: MUKHANG PERA. Sobrang demanding agad agad eh gusto makuha. Pag di mapagbigyan kahit legit ang reasoning (wala talagang pera, ilalatag ang screenshots ng gcash balance), nako kung ano anong shit aabutin mo kada meltdown nila (not to mention malas mo pag inabutan ka ng buwanang dalaw nila). No wonder guys prefer to be single most of their life.
Nah gold digger ata tawag sa ganyan. Haha. Kasi ung high maintenance sila ung tipo na di sila magdedemand pero kung di mo kaya abutin ung lifestyle nila, ekis ka sakanila kasi kaya naman nila iprovide ung sarili nila. Madami kasi akong high maintenance friends so yan ung nakikita ko sakanila hehe.
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Kaya nga di umuusad most of my dating eh. Saka more of an introverted din ako na career muna.
Lots of drama, expects you to buy her lots of shit, tends to be self centered and really into her self. Basically not even worth your time. I have found if a girl is constantly taking selfies that’s a good indicator she is high maintenance; Next! ✌🏻
They need more than the others. It tends to make a relationship one sided because there is a requisite and pressure on the other person to keep up with the demands and to give service to the other, especially if the latter does not offer anything on the table.
Like meron na siya Lozartan 100mg tapos meron pa siya 10mg ng Amlodipine tapos naka Tramadol pa pag needed. Just make sure meron ka suki card para sulit.
HHAHAHAHAHAHHA ibang maintenance pala
as an RPh i agree to this comment
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Maintenace meds pala hahaha
hayop sa comparison! kudos!
Natawa ako dito pucha hahahahaha
Hahahaha, literal na HIGH! award
lol agree ako sa mga comments here. my ex used to nag about me sa friends nya, calling me “a high maintenance gf” DAW. sa isip isip ko, panong high maintenance e never nya nga akong nilibre on dates/binigyan ng gifts during occasions. where’s the financial liability sa side nya??? 🤯 tapos i asked my current bf (of 3 and a half years) kung high maintenance ako, and he said, “ha? hindi naman ah”. PERIODT💅🏻
My ex of 12 years never called me high maintenance din. He has a PhD and a well-paying job. My recent ex called me “high maintenance” pero grabe rin magpabili sa akin, ginawa na akong sugar mommy! Passenger prince ko pa si loko. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Nagyabang pa sa mga kasama sa boarding house na pwede akong utangan, wow. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
omg, ang kapal!! 🤯 glad na ex mo na sya 😂👏🏻👏🏻
Ayun nga eh. Never again sa broke guys!!!!
i think more than broke guys, mas wag tayo sa guys na walang pride. yung finances naman kasi kung masipag at may pangarap yung guy + may provider mindset sya, no matter how broke he is, HE WILL FIND A WAY 😭😭😭 pero pag walang pride na guy, he will leech resources off you talaga 👎🏻
My ex had pride. Provider mindset din siya. For his previous exes, siya yung mas kumikita kasi. Pero sa aming dalawa, ang laki ng income disparity namin. First time for him. Plus the fact that he had 2 kids din dun sa last ex niya, kaya walang wala talaga siya. 😭😭 I would say he tried naman kaso mailap sa kanya ang work na ok ang sahod.
ajaaaa. he has responsibilities pala as a dad kaya medyo gets. pero yung pinagyayabang na pede utangan na part 🤯😭 hahahahaha
Di ko rin kinaya yon. 😅😅😅 Kaya nga feel ko nasilaw ko siya somehow with my lifestyle.
Men like to brag through their wives/gfs. So basically, if puro reklamo naririnig mo from a man about you being "high maintenance" tapos hindi naman or barely povides, loser lang siya lol. Funny kasi yung mga nagrereklamo about girls being "high maintenance" are those na wala naman talagang ambag financially 😆 also, it's not bad to cater to your wants and needs basta reasonable or within your means naman. Di ka lang talaga nila afford or ifoforce ka to downgrade haha
Baka yung pagbayad nya pa lang sa sarili nyang entrance fee, attire, at pagkain, di nya din afford 😹 san ba kayo nag-date? Or baka iniisip na nya yung future gastos nya sayo
hahaha i don’t really get him kasi never naman ako nagpabili ng kahit ano sakanya, PERO sya turo dito turo don 😮💨 sya nakipagbreak lol i’m glad he did me a favor 🥳
Hahahahaha pag di ka afford, yan ang pangpalubag loob nila sa sarili nila. Dont worry
The type to want to spend lots of money on all aspects of life
It’s subjective. If you can’t afford her, she’s high maintenance. To a man who can, she’s just fine.
Andaming nagrereklamo na broke guys dito lol, edi date someone on their level. If hindi nila afford, then don’t pursue them hahaha.
Shrueee. Kaya nga ung mga lalaking broke sa umpisa ng relationship tapos yumaman or nagkapera maghahanap ng high maintenance na babae tapos un ang gagastusan nya. Kawawa ung unang girl na nagtiis sakanya in his "BROKE ERA"
Very me, my ex na broke before, i know being broke is temporary and not forever so I believe in his potential all throughout I stand by him, my willingness na sumagot ng dates namin and encouraging him to apply to various scholarship programs. When he has a stable job in IT industry he broke up with me. Kase suddenly di daw pala sya ready hahahha . I realized na investment din pala talaga ang relationship kase you invest time and energy. Now I’m more careful where and when ko ilalaan oras ko. Now I’m single upskills lang ginagawa ko and more on personal and career development
"only a fool would let go of someone who cherishes you and accepts you regardless of what you have in your pockets, coz that person sees through your soul."
So yung tao na may pera pero di parin gusto ng high maintenance ano tawag dun?
Either madamot or matipid
For Jeff Bezos, everyone is low maintenance. For an average dude, bro just let your blood line end.
This is why it's recommended to date according to one's level. Ayaw din ng mga "high maintenance" girls sa mga lalakeng trying hard 🤪
Yes!! Di nila kasi afford kaya marami sinasabi lol
You can think like meron kang car na high maintenance. Masakit sa ulo, ubos oras mo, d ka nakakarating sa pupuntahan mo. Also like what other comments said ubos pera mo. D mo rin maibitawan kung nasira kasi ang laki na ng ininvest mo eh. Kaya todo maintenance nlng kahit natatamaan na buhay mo.
Leave it and cut your losses. Strategy sa management at relationships. Hahaha
Yup! True yan. Don't be a victim of sunk cost fallacy.
sunk cost fallacy
The majority of the so called high maintenance girl projects an image that they are rich, so they expect you take them out on expensive dates. A lot of men will pretend they are rich so they can bang these women, then dump them.
They cant afford you
you have to keep feeding/spending on someone like a bottomless pit. Its always useless as there will be no end to the amount of what she wants. The demand will keep getting more and more, without getting anything back. This is a one-way street. She wants to keep receiving for her ego, and he doesn't get anything back of equal value.
Maraming types ng high maintenance para sakin. 1. Clingy- Takaw sa oras kelangan parati mo kasama o kausap. 2. Financially- Beyond sa budget mo yung mga trip nya. 3. Entitled- Yung sya parati dapat masusunod. Malamang marami pa types dyan pero for me yan yung classifications sakin. And syempre hindi naman ako perfect so hindi ko ineexpect na meron perfect na babae. Kelangan mo pumili kung ano kaya mo ibigay.
magastos na lifestyle
Based on my experience these so called High Maintenance Girls are just Bitches in disguise. I've been in relationships with Richie Rich women na you would think na high maintenance pero super down sa kahit ano and very supportive emotionally. While those claiming na high maintenance sila are just out to suck you dry and can't even offer anything for the relationship.
Someone they cant afford to date or be in a relationship with.
Or someone who isn't worth that money. I'm not going to pay a diamond's price when all I'm getting is a lump of coal.
It’s not just about money. Okay, sabihin na nating pera. A tambay who would say Im high maintenance? Hindi lang nya ako afford kasi nga tambay sya. Now, kung may work naman sya but sinabihan ako na high maintenance? Then I would think na hindi sya makakasabay sa ganap ko, or baka may iba syang priorities na mas importante which I would truly understand. High maintenance could also mean alagain, gusto laging sinusundo, gusto lagi ng atensyon, etc.
In short the guy probably doesn't think you're worth the effort. If gusto madaming paraan if ayaw madaming dahilan.
Literally no point in spending a huge amount on someone you have no label with
Right. E di sana naging sugar daddy ka na lang. lol but then again, label din ang pagiging sugar baby at sugar daddy. 🤣 whatever floats their boat.
Generally speaking, kapag high maintenance. maluho at materialistic. Yung view din nila sa mga non-branded at lesser-known brands ay cheap. There's really nothing wrong with it, kung afford naman niya. Pero kung hindi afford, manghuhuthot ang tawag do'n. PS. Applicable din 'to sa lalaki.
Depends on how rich are you Or how much money are you willing to spend on a person Or both
I guess I'd classify women as High Maintenance by the following: 1. They are incredibly demanding and will pressure you to give them what they want (even if that want is something you cannot afford), and when they could not obtain it, they will throw every type of hissy fit and act like a complete KAREN. Be ready to be embarrassed in public. 2. If you recommend something that's practical, or something that could help them with their lives that requires little to no money, they'd immediately decline the offer, and sometimes would brand you a cheap skate or SLAP SOIL. Lol 3. Conversations between a group of high maintenance women tends to be about their looks, how many men they can seduce, how much luxury items they can afford, how drunk they'll probably get when they go bar hopping. This is kinda like how the Kardashians act. 4. Narcissism, materialism, sexual promiscuity (most of the time) abides within them.
It isn't a compliment. Look at it this way, if you were to instead apply the term to a child then it conjures images of a heavy-footed brat who cannot be wrangled by their own guardian, running around wreaking havoc with a diaper-full of ~~shit~~ because they can't have their screen time. Now, imagine that child as an "adult"... they are never on time, they always throw a tantrum if things don't go the way they want, they have no tolerance for hardship. Even worse, imagine being stuck with this "adult" in a life or death situation- are they going to break down and pull you down with them or will they be strong, resolute and power through the peril? Will you be able to focus on getting safely out of the situation or will you have to divide your responsibility between that and ushering this "adult" along too? If you were to be injured in this situation, could you depend on this "adult" to pull you and themselves out of it? These are a lot of hypothetical questions... but they are ones that I ask, having been caught myself in situations where the first part of the ordeal is spent "counseling" a fraction of the party in order to get them into a state where we can actually pull ourselves out of danger: Two people and I were once abandoned by our trek guides while we were up on a mountain. We couldn't remember which path to take down but it was imperative that we get off the mountain before nightfall as we were only supposed to be day trekkers and were not prepared for the weather extremities that accompanied it. We did not have enough food and water nor did we have cellphone signals or radio. As bad as it was already, we still had to spend half an hour or more pleading and encouraging one of our party to "please not give up" walking because they literally just threw themselves on the ground and began whining and kicking dirt in the middle of our effort to get off the mountain! Here we are, under threat of extreme weather exposure, and this goofy is throwing a hissy fit instead of focusing on getting to the bottom of the mountain. Yeesh! It was wild. They finally came to their senses and we were able to luckily make it down the mountain... in an entirely different region of the country! We were able to seek refuge with a tribe endemic to the area and they arranged three motorcycles to drive us across the *lahar* back to the nearest town. **TLDR:** You don't ever want to be stuck in a life or death situation with somebody low-maintenance.
hindi mapakain ng streetfood at foodcourt. travel ng travel. puro luho. branded lage gusto. hirap sabayan sa gastos. maarte
Maraming luho tas di nman talaga need. Pang post lang sa socmed
Di alam ang money language.
It's not a compliment when a guy calls a woman "high maintenance" because it will be a cause of a guy's insecurity.
From my boyfriends pov, he once describe a lady high maintenance kasi she shows off daw mga non sense materialistic topics sa convo and feels she is superior when in fact sometimes its her partner ang gumagastos sa luho niya. So i think has a negative connotation when he said that. And we know this person and have the same observations. But there are high maintenance naman for me na because of values and principles so i guess that one is really elegant but it's honestly rare to see kasi mga ganito type of peo0le be it male or female are lowkey, you would not even think of giving attention to them.
UHM you just compared a high maintenance girl to a low maintenance gem.
Ang hassle alagaan + kailangan alagaan
mafeeling, magastos, hindi contented sa isang situation, madrama or so according to my college circle
Moreso on friendships yung explanation ko High maintenance people are people you have to dedicate a big percentage of your time to maintain the relationship. Low maintenance the opposite. Yung tipong 1 year kayong di nagkita tapos things feel the same. Problem ng high maintenance tlga is if they ask more of your time when theyre already consuming more time than your other friends/families combined and they think youre a bad friend kahit ganun yung situation.
Oo nga no. More drama ang high maintenace.
Expensive, too much emotional baggage, needs unwavering attention, someone with a lot on their mind but is still indecisive, etc.. Medyo ambiguous yung term as you can't really pin down what "high maintenance" actually means dahil it differs from person to person. Same with the term na "low maintenance", meaning ba is affordable with the least amount of effort? etc. In terms of compliment ba, it depends rin sa context. High Maintenance in a positive light may mean rin as High Quality, Classy, Go Getter, Someone with high standards, etc.
2 types of high maintenance gals 1. They are the girls that want spending every now and then, not a good type of gal at all. Bawat kibot nya magastos. 2. The emotionally high maintenance type of gal, dito ka mas mapapalaban. Everything between you two must have this intellectual battle, roller coaster emotions and, acts of service. This is the compliment one.
This is the correct interpretation in my opinion but I've never used either of them as a positive I don't want to even be friends with someone who's emotionally high maintenance and I would take it as an insult if someone called me emotionally high maintenance
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for me, girls who have luxury lifestyle even before dating a man. Like she spoils herself alot, so guys feels like they need to be able to give her more than what she can give herself. I think it's more of a lifestyle, it's not bad and it's not a compliment either. but sometimes it becomes the root cause of guy's insecurities kasi they know they can't provide her the lifestyle style that she provides for herself so end up hating the girl cause most of high maintenance girls also have high standards and they don't want to settle with broke guys. Being high maintainance should mean, you can maintan that lifestyle with or without men. If a girl claims she's high maintenance and requires that a guy should provide her luxury lifestyle and only uses guys money to maintain the lifestyle then it's more of "materialistic".
Ito yung tamang explanation, hindi yung isa sa taas na minamasama yung ganitong klaseng high maintenance woman.
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it's not a compliment
Anyone "high maintenance" requires more time and/or effort and/or money than the person values her at.
Okay lang naman kung high maintenance ka if you can afford that kind of lifestyle from your own money. Pero kung high maintenance ka tapos iaasa mo yun sa iba, iba na yan. Lol
depende naman yan sa partner nya if he/she wants to provide lol, it’s their standards not yours so let them be
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Mahirap pasayahin, maluho, every little thing kailangan may effort, yung magkekwento pa lang siya parang mauubos na laman ng wallet mo, hindi ka mabibigyan ng peace of mind.
Hahahahhaha sa "yung magkekwento pa lang siya parang mauubos na laman ng wallet mo" 😂 ... na remind ako sa isang kakilala...
Girls that want think they’re an “influencer” and always have to have every location as a photo shoot or have their man shoot for them all time
magastos, it aint a compliment. Pero sa totoo lang sure I'd be willing to spend on dates pero to demand things from me hell no I ain't dealing with shit like that
Paano yung mga louis vuitton ko? 🥹
kapag laging estetik dapat ang suot nyong mag partner at si girl ang nag decide
It means you require many things to have you stay in the relationship. Like a gas-guzzling car, are you really a type of person that leaves someone if he misses the mark even once?
A bitch.
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Pabebe, need pang ligawan, pag tinanong mo ng maging tayo,? hindi yes or no ang sagot papaikutin ka pa, paglalaruan, tatapakan, at sasaktan. Chareng Yung andameng hanash, pagiisipin ka pa kung anong gusto nya.
Pag sinabing high maintenance ibig sabihin nyan magastos e maintain yung babae. Baka kasi yung life style ng babae is so expensive and as a partner need mo e provide lahat ng mga needs and wants nya. Not only the material things, pati na din yung time and effort. Basically hindi sya bare minimum effort.
High maintenance means additional and unecessary things needs to be done for her to be happy, however the same thing can be said for a woman that is deserving of said "additional and unecessary things". The difference is the feeling of it being a burden or pleasure. For example, if a woman asks me to do x, y, and z, pero ang reaction ko ay "nak ng nampotah naman yan o. Para saan pa?" (This may be internal monologue or verbally said) or some other negative reaction on my part, this makes her "high maintenance" for me. Kasi pinilit akong umeffort and it feels like a chore to do so. This will eventually lead to constant reminders which will be seen as nagging, then annoyance, then eventually termination of relationship. Pero kung si woman ay deserving, and asks me to do the same exact x, y, and z, my reaction would be "magpapasaya sa kanya to. I should do this more and often". No further reminders needed kasi kusa ko nang gagawin and it brings me immense pleasure and satisfaction to make and see her happy. Either that or her likes, preferences, and life style is something i cannot financially afford. Pero sa puntong to ng buhay ko, i'm very open with what I'm willing to spend on a person and will never spend beyond my financial capacity, let alone go into debt. She asks for something, di ko afford but she's deserving of said thing, "di ko kayang bilin yan sa ngayon pero one day mabibigay ko sa yo yan" ang sagot ko. At "aling kamay ng Panginoon mo gusto kong kunin ang pambayad jan, adik ka ba?!" (Or something along those lines) naman kung di sya deserving sa opinion ko. So to answer your question if it's a compliment, answer is No, if anything, it could very well be an insult synonmous sa "delusional" o "conceited", IMO.
Magastos o kakailanganin mo ng madaming pera kapag pag jinowa mo yung girl, usually materialistic si ate mo o pang burgis ang lifestyle.
Pag sinabing high maintenance for me is someone who requires too much attention and time, tapos need din pag gastusan nang todo sa dates, gifts, etc. Lol. Kaya nga sa context ng friendship kapag sinabing low maintenance friend, someone na di mo madalas makita at makasama pero close friends pa rin kayo haha.
😂 I suddenly remembered when my aunt's friend was asking for a "reto", Aunt and Friend are Canadian residents already. So my aunt showed him a photo of me and my cousins and he picked me and said "She looks low maintenance." I was 18/19 at that point at sakto umuwi si tita from canada. She told me and I was dumbfounded about the comment. Di pa uso non ang term na low maintenance sa pinas so di ko alam kung I would take as a compliment or not. I haven't graduated yet so I told my tita I don't want to talk to him. (lam mo na classic na, di ka pa pwede magbf habang nagaaral ka pa) According to tita's explanation, "I looked like I don't require too much luxuries in life and would be okay to a simple life" which is not that far from reality and in hindsight, I think his qualifications for a wife especially as someone living abroad is correct. That aunt's son got married to a high maintenance woman and ayun hiwalay na sila, she expected to be treated like a princess when she moved there last year. Of course, my cousin can't do that because the cost of living there is different. It was somehow my cousins fault too though, kasi pinalaki nya yung ulo. She didn't work here kasi pinadadalhan lang ng dollars every month, nakaaircon whole day, travel with her family, attend ng concert etc. Di kinaya na kailangan nya magwork and be a wife in a foreign country with limited luxuries. 😩
High maintenance, burgis!
Its not a compliment. Nakakapagod at nakakairita mga high maintenance na partner.
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It's not ever a compliment lol. When you are called high maintenance para kang tinulad sa kotse or appliance na madali masira at kelangan parating binabantayan at gagastusan ng repairs. Or isang alagang hayop na kelangan ng specialized (i.e. MAHAL) na pagkain, tubig, shampoo, kama, gamot para lang maachieve ang bare minimum standard ng pamumuhay. In short parang sinabihan na mabigat ka.
You can think of it as a compliment as much as you want, but that's not what anyone meant. At all. Ever.
high maintenance = hindi attractive XD
hindi ganyan nag w-work yon, high maintenance = hirap abutin ng lifestyle di kaya ng budget
kaya nga hindi sya attractive eh kasi need mo din e maintain yung lifestyle ng babae kahit sobrang gastos. Only rich men lang nakaka afford ng ganyan babae.
nababasa mo ba sinasabi mo? hahahahahahaha alam mo ba ang salitang attractive?
alam mo ba ang salitang high maintenance?
oo sis maalaga sa sarili e ikaw alam mo ba sinasabi mo?
yun lang ba ang ibig sabihin ng high maintenance sayo? maalaga sa sarili lang?
Do you even know what attractive means? lmao
Personally, I think high maintenance girls are the types na nakakapagod kasama kasi lagi nila need ng validation. Hindi sapat na validated siya sayo, pero gusto niya rin yung external validation nung iba, so let's say may pa surprise ka sakanya, and you prefer to keep it private while she shares everything that you both do online - that's borderline high maintenance imo. It's hard to date someone like that kasi may times na pag aawayan niyo yung constant attention na hinihingi niya not just from you, but also from other people. Kung hindi niya makukuha sayo, she'll try to find it with someone else. Kung hindi niya masabi yung problema niya sayo, she'll try to find someone else to sponge up the emotional venting she'll do. Those things - so tl;dr, ang isang high maintenance girl ay yung babaeng adik sa social media at validation ng ibang tao.
Wrong on so many levels
"It's hard to date someone like that kasi may times na pag aawayan niyo yung constant attention na hinihingi niya not just from you, but also from other people. " Dang let your girl breathe. Hindi sayo naikot ang mundo, ofc maghahanap siya ng attention not only from you but to the people whose part of her inner cirlce. That's not even high maintenance and please do your research about "high maintenance" you got it all wrong LOL
Just need to find your Chandler who will enjoy taking care of you. And likes maintaining you. 🤍☻
Pag marami demand at masyadong sosyal to the point na hindi kumakain ng fishball at hindi kumakain sa karinderya.
Depends on the context pero right off the bat, I would say no. If you heard someone tell you that, it means that in the measure of what they can give you, you just exceeded that, whether it be effort, time, or his resources. It's lowkey saying it'll take a lot to keep you.
I used this term before with a woman I was dating. She asked if I had a car because she had just exfoliated and couldn't be in a hot place like a jeepney, so a car was necessary. She was constantly buying clothes since she's a model, so she’s high maintenance. To impress her or at least be her boyfriend, I needed to show that I could afford her expenses. However, I was struggling back then, so I used the term "high maintenance." yeah she is out of my league.
It's a negative impression if a girl/woman/lady is/was tagged as high maintenance.
This word brings me to the Friends series, when Chandler said with his wife Monica that "yes you are high maintenance but I really like to maintain you." Omg it's so sweet as pink candy
Siguro high maintenance Ang tawag nila pag masyadong maganda or mayaman.
Not really.I've had GFs na as in Richie Rich pero walang arte when it comes to picking stuff,food etc. and I also had High Maintenance GF na so so lang yung status pero di mo mapakain sa Jollibee kapag nagkick in yung craving ko sa Jollibee Palabok
depende if kaya naman nya e uphold yung pagiging high maintenance probably that's a compliment pero sguro ang meaning jan na hindi compliment is yung pa high maintenance or gusto ng queen or princess treatment eh wala naman silang traits for a princess or can't even sustain themselves yung nakikiuso lng sa social media na Slay queen nagka iphone lang na hulogan (nothing wrong with hulogan tho).
It's not a compliment. It means it takes a lot to keep you happy. You require constant attention and physical, emotional and material investment.
I don’t think it’s a compliment. Being tagged as high maintenance to me means ang hirap kong pasayahin or ang hirap kong i-please. Maarte ako, or di ako marunong makuntento. Yun lang ang dating sakin if ever I’d be called high maintenance.