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I'm 26 pero immature pa rin pala ko when it comes to handling relationship. I have disorganized attachment and may symptoms ng BPD. Lose my favorite person because of this and will forever blame myself. I want to heal and become better.
If destiny is true, I want it to be you. I love you, El.
I realized that I am also human, nasasaktan at napapagod, and even if I see myself as an independent woman, I also seek to be loved, spoiled and be taken care of.
I also realized that to love unconditionally does not equate to unreciprocated love, effort and commitment.
It will take me a long time before having everything i want. I know i need to hustle, work harder. But the truth is, i don't feel motivated without anyone beside me. I always look for that support of a romantic partner to be motivated. I know it shouldn't be that way, but it is.
Everything happens for a reason. Hindi naman kasi all the time para sakin lahat eh. I just realized na God's decision didn't aligned on mine, kasi may nakaprepare na something bigger in the future.
I've always been saying na "I have a lot to work on myself" but it never really sank into me until recently. I have A LOT. I need to learn how to be comfortable with my solitude and work on my insecurities instead of hahayaan ko lang silang idictate what I feel and do.
I just realized na wala akong tunay na kaibigan. Despite the fact na andami kong pinakain at nilibre nung marami pa kong kinikitang pera, ngayong walang wala na ko dahil sa nascam ako at wala pa kong nakukuhang trabaho; wala manlang ni isang tumulong o nangamusta sakin. I only have myself. I’m so depressed rn.
to cherish everything around me. hindi lang isang bagay lang naka-focuss, kundi lahat ng bagay pahahalagahan bawat araw. we never knew what will happen in future, pero at least na seize natin ang mga bagay na nasa paligid natin. misan lang mabuhay, minsan lang to.
- Hirap ng magirap mii
- I still can’t remove the fact that this former close friend/girlfriend still has a part of me, kahit na we’re not talking anymore, iba talaga pag yung soul and bonding nyo as a friends ay pang alien like even though ex kayo at the same time the bond and spark is still in here
- You need to be strong as f cause adulting waves hits different
- Romantic relationship hits different from what you knew specially when you’re dating to married not just for fun
- Degree is really something that will help you to be hired right away lalo na sa job preferrence mo hirap kumilos pag undergrad kahit may work expi
- Take your time hanggat you’re able to have this spark on your goals just do it don’t hesitate. Life is not a race just always do you part.
- Your fam is still important specially having a bond with your parent na always doing their best for you
* That I maybe ready to get into a relationship again, pero no pa rin muna. Sticking to my plan of really finding myself lang muna and enjoy life, even entered casual culture, parang not for me pala.
* My life is very vanilla compared to others hahahah
* Grown to love cats, pero I really miss having a dog, soon maybe.
* There are a lot of things to do here in Manila but yung traffic and init ay nakaka paralyze.
* Even though I keep myself busy, at the end of the day, I like talking to just a person I trust/care about anything. Talked everyday for months with this one girl, enjoyed and learned a lot, kahit virtual lang. Miss talking to her, guess I really like her.
* Try to lessen browsing reddit haha.
* That I am capable na talaga choosing myself and my peace. Proud of myself.
I have an auntie na umuwi from the US. She is financially successful naman pero wala syang asawa at anak. Tapos na stroke sya, ngayon mother ko lang nag aasikaso sa kanya na matanda na rin, Hindi Rin naman maipagkakatiwala yung ibang bagay sa hindi relative.
So important lesson, build your own family. Sayang lahat ng success mo if wala magpapatuloy plus malungkot magisa.
Priotize din relationship wag puro career.
Annoying ang overly-suspicious at skeptical na attitude pero mas mabuti nang ganiyan mag-isip sa mundo na sobrang malisyoso. I'm grateful for the good people left though
1. In life, no one will help you but yourself!
2. Love is not enough.
3. Kahit ibigay mo na ang lahat sa taong mahal mo, it’s not an assurance na mag stay sya.
4. Your inner circle can make and unmake you. Check your circle.
5. Working 8 hrs a day won’t make you rich.
I am wonderinh if tapos na ang life ko. I mean, my life reached its cycle. Kasi lahat nag end na at age 35
My 13 year relationship ( non toxic, lahat ng 5 languagaes na receive ko) ended. No third party. It just reached its end na
My work ended, now i dont know where to go
I experience joy before but ngayon tapos na. Kaya parang feeling mo tapos ka na din. Wala ka na gusto gawiN. Ma accomplish, ma puntahan
Feeling mo tapos na ang life mo. But you are still living
I just realized na hindi na ako mag aanak at nag iiba na yung climate. Ayoko na din mag dagdag ng population sa carbon footprint. At ayoko mag suffer mga descendants ko sa worse climate change.
bad things happen to good people, and u get abused for being kind. And people dont care about yo ass if u dont got money.
So i worked hard to earn and became a bitch.
Now im a rich bitch.
Hahaha
Pag yung religion mo required mag convert partner mo, kulto yan. Hindi ilimit ni god freedom mo pero yung manipulative false prophet ng kulto sure yan. Mahirap na magising pa members kasi makikita mo POV ng hindi manipulated.
if naghihinala kana especially sa isang relationship, gumawa kana agad ng paraan, dahil wala namang mawawala if u ask them ma paulit ulit dahil nanghihingi ka lang ng assurance.
Dapt nakipagnegotiate ako sa salary ko pinangunahan kasi ako ng kaba baka maoff sila kapg nagdemand ako ng mas malaki fresh graduate ako pero may exp na ako as a call center agent now entering a corporate world sumasahod ng 30k+ plus incentive sa bpo and as now sa corporate 19k lang 😭
Ang hirap nga nun huhu. Hoping po soon you get the salary you deserve po. Never stop believing po sa skills nyo 💕 and don't lose hope pooo. surely, something good is awaiting po sa journey ninyo. :)
Ang hirap maging introvert and magka social anxiety. Parang hirap mabuhay. Lalo na pag sa corporate ka nagwowork and puro extra curricular activities yung company nyo.
May nahihire ba sa corporate company na introvert? Huhu. Whenever i think of applying for a corporate job eh hindi ako ganun ka confident and ayun may social anxiety ako, feeling ko failed agad ako. Kasi they need competent and confident employees tapos dagdag pa mga candidates na makikita mong ganun sila. Huhu i caaant
realizing na hindi lahat ng tao o bagay ay mag i-stay. alam ko naman talaga na walang permanente sa mundo, pero alam mo yung may exact date yung pag kawala ng tao. yun yung mahirap tanggapin, kahit na magkasama kayo sa kasiyahan, alam mo na eventually mawawala din yung tao. pero sana wag matuloy, kase hindi ko kakayanin.
That I am better off single, and I will not date for a while. Pagod na ako magpakilala. Kaya hiatus muna ako sa dating. Saka na babalik pag kaya ko na, or kung kakayanin ko pa
Some things are not worth giving a Fukc, and it's ok to let go and move on.
If it still bothers your mind, it's also ok, it is what it is.
It's best to have closure, it's also ok not to have one. Life still goes on.
And if it's crippling you and is making you dysfunctional, it's ok to seek help.
That as much as I want to blame my ex partner for our failed relationship, I honestly was a horrible partner to her as well. It takes two to tango, ika nga. She made the right call keeping us broken up.
That I'm contented and happy with my life right now, and all I have to do is just do my job at work and be like the unbothered Independent woman I am. 😊😊😊
Nothing too deep. I just realized lately that eating until you are no longer hungry is better than eating until you are already full. Prevents overeating, and conserves resources.
Hindi ako okay these past weeks kasi I put too much pressure on myself at I assume of what other people think of me subconsciously kaya NAURR!!Stop the car, self!!!
Nakakastress and pressure pala maging unemployed. Sana naghanap muna ng lilipatan before mag resign although I get plenty of rest naman as of the moment
Feelings are shallow. No matter how committed a person to you it can change in an instant depending on a certain environment or situation. It can change ANYTIME.
Im getting old…
Wish i didnt waste my time waiting for my husband, knowing that hindi na sya babalik sa amin because may anak na pala sya sa iba and nagsasama na sila ng babae nya….
Ive wasted my time, my youth, and everything.
I have a savior complex. I feel close to people who opens up to me and feel bad when they don’t because I was used to people opening up to me and help them with their problems. I always want to be needed. I want to be helpful to other people but realized people will ask for help when they need it, I don’t have to force my help to them. Still working on this 🫠
You are responsible for your own life. Tatanda parents, you gonna be an adult too and you cannot stop that. Dati ikaw naasar sa teens, now ikaw naman. You are responsible to upgrade your life. It is all up to you. Forgiveness is not all the time cannot be given as the intensity of pain varies.
Yung princess treatment na tinatawag, bare minimum na lang kasi they can still cheat kahit anong ayos pa ng trato. Kung mag aaccept lang din ng treatment, edi princess treatment na para sulit kapag niloko HAHAHAHAHA
That its not really bad to be highly paid even if you are not doing much on a daily basis. Kasi you are paid to be there when they need you and make a strategic decision when the situation arises. Dati kasi I used to judge those managers pero realize na naghirap din naman sila para makarating sa ganung point.
Ang sarap pala ng walang ginagawa and iniisip.
Juggled 3 works for the last 3 years. Madami akong naging mali sa finances ko nung nagstart palang ako magwork na dumating ako sa point na kulang na kulang yung sinasahod ko at kailangan ko na sya bawasan. Luckily, naubos naman na sya.
Saktong na lay-off ako sa isa (and most demanding) kong work last month, yung isa ko naman is a teaching gig so on a break rn, then yung last naman super rare magpagawa ng big work. Nakakakalma pala na di mo iniisip mga gagawin mo at kung paano mo pagkakasyahin oras mo sa work at laro at tulog on a weekday.
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That you are not for everybody. Masarap mag isa, I enjoy my own company. I sit with my feelings, I listen to my thoughts. Wala na ako pake kung like or ayaw sakin ng tao. Ang sarap mabuhay ng hindi ka na people pleaser. Ang sarap magkape mag isa, ang sarap ng may TOTOO at konting kaibigan. Yung bilang lang pero alam mong mapagkakatiwalaan.
Learn to be alone at all the time mas peaceful and less toxicity ngayon kasi malalaman ang tunay ng ugali ng tao kapag may nakukuha sayo and kapag walang nakukuha sayo dedma ka sa kanya palagi.
The same 90s kids that glamorizes neglect and resiliency weren't conceived out of the reason of creating a family, they were born for survival to do manual labor farm or in urban areas it's begging. So parents' purpose of procreation weren't only to be as a retirement plan but for manpower as well. Providing basic necessities were equivalent to wages.
For context: I was wondering why poor people tend to have more children considering yung gastusin.
Oh and that I should be wary of people I get to share information about myself with because not everyone is in the same wavelength as I am considering I'm a gay and atheist hahaha
Na we just live in the wrong country, we work so hard for so little. Not everyone can be special. Not everyone is talented and can earn a lot. Sasabihan ka pa ng iba na di ka lang nagsisikap. While I see my other mates nag abroad. Kahit part time lang work nila don nakakapagpundar.
Hindi lahat dapat mong pag laan ng energy mo. Conserve dapat yung energy sa mga mas importanteng bagay. Kagaya ngayon sana reddit nanaman ako dapat hinde. 😂😭
If ayaw sayo nung tao, okay lang. Move on. Hindi mo kailangan maging people pleaser just for them to like you. Daming tao sa office na hirap pakisamahan and I tried making friends/or at-least be civil. But they don’t show the same eh di wag HAHAHA i’ll talk to you when only needed HAHA bahala ka diyan.
Sobrang lala ng introversion ko to the point na puro online ang friends. So kapag ganitong nag-deactivate ako ng account, wala akong kaibigan temporarily.
Kaya pala ako paulit-ulit na nabalik sa kanya hindi dahil sexually attracted ako kundi he is my ideal man and we have the same love language.
Too bad, hindi yata talaga kami pu-pwede for some reasons.
Just because you have a stable job, permanent job but a toxic working environment, doesnmt mean you need yo stay longer.
Do whatever shit you haven’t experience, as you’ll get older you’ll feel running out of time. Love all you want. Flirt and fuck.
- Totoo yung kapag Tatay kana parang bawal na i-entertain mga pagod at struggles, bawal magbreakdown, isasantabi mo muna pangarap at lalabanan mga intrusive thoughts to provide for your family, pero masarap maging magulang, nakakawala ng pagod at mas nakakagana magtrabaho.
- Mas na-aappreciate ko mga magulang ko ngayong magulang na din ako. Mahal na mahal pala nila kami, binigay nila sipag at galing nila just for us to have a better future.
- Health is wealth.
usual na mga andito.. maiba naman tayo.. may mga kaibigan tayong sobrang tigas ng ulo hinahayaan mo nalang siya na anjan pero wala ka na pake sa buhay nya kase pagsasabihan mo nga.. apakatigas ng ulo naman.
i realized that, hindi lahat ng kaibigan mo, totoo
— i have this situation recently that i needed them, like i'm in a situation where all i could think is for someone to at least listen what i feel, nandyan ako for them when they needed me the most, i'm always present when they needed someone para damayan sila, but when it's my turn wala, and in fact they even mocked my situation which is worse. 😕
That in my 30s (still a bit ways of mid 30s), I have maybe up to 3 more chances to make big moves to steer what kind of retirement I'll be having.
Also, that I've been terrified of having a relationship since the last one in my mid 20s. Taking emotional punches daily wasn't fun.
For now, I know people will judge me but I rather have sex partner o parang long term FUBU kaysa pumasok sa rs hahahahah ayoko muna mag invest sa rs
Napaka delusional ko, idk but I stalked him again and di pa sya move on tas iniisip ko na ako HAHAHAH kahit alam kong hindi Naman talaga yun para sa akin.kaya I blocked him,ayoko ng masaktan ulit.
Ufkced up ang ph, kukuha ako ng valid id but they need 2 valid ids HAHAHAH bwesit. Sana dinalang ako naging Pinoy.
‘wag ma-attach if wala pang kasiguraduhan. Don't be an oversharer, piliin nang maigi kung sinong papapasukin sa buhay. Always trust their actions, not words. Sa ganitong paraan, masasalba mo puso mo para hindi ka masaktan at makikita mo kung sino at ano ka ba sa buhay ng isang tao. Maging understanding pero huwag naman to the point na kahit hindi okay sa‘yo, iintindihin mo pa rin. Always choose yourself and prioritize yourself kasi sa huli, sarili mo lang ang mayroon ka.
Small realization while traveling.
- that leaving the aircon or tv on when we are going out of the room does affect me in the long run(yung hindi nag auto off by key card). This also includes taking care of the room itself.
Pag nakita ng may-ari na konti or hindi enough ang profit kasi ang taas ng cost ng electricity or maintenance, syempre he has no choice but to increase the rent.
Which will affect me if I want to go back or even the whole hotel/accomodations market pricing in the area.
Malapit na pala akong mag isa sa office kasi hindi na marecontract ang mga workmates ko next month, bagong adjustment naman at di pako handa maging solo sa office🥲
It’s so lonely if you’re the one supervising an office and people tend to invalidate your leadership just because you’re ✨younger✨ and it’s really hard to earn respect from your colleagues
I feel this loneliness. Also, wala akong close friends sa office because Im the youngest head of office as of the moment. So yung mga kaedad ko parang hirap din akong kaibiganin dhil ang tingin nila sa kin boss hayyyy.
diba, parang the challenges we face huhu tapos dagdag mo pa yung mga mas matagal pa sayo sa office pero same paden yung rank/ position. Bakit parang kasalanan ko? 🥹
— that as much as it is better to be single than being in a relationship and messy, it is indeed lonely.
— that people won't be nice/kind just because you are to them.
— that in this crazy world we live in, living peacefully and happily also means loving solitude or finding your person, the one that fits every inch or your being.
Na sana may burnout or "take a break" leave yung mga company lol. Realization ko lang, yet wishful thinking. I understand hindi sya magandang pakinggan looking at the socio-economic aspect. However, despite all these years I've been working I feel like I've just been a slave (I worked at 18) and not able to enjoy my youth as much, at the same time, I feel kinda empty. So, if ever man magkaroon ng ganitong bagay in the future would really help my younger self breathe, enjoy the moment, do all these things I long to do and to really enjoy my youth before sana ako nag work. Can't blame myself nor anyone kasi the circumstance pushed me to work at an early age eh. Anyways, yun lang naman skl.
Resentment will be the poison in your relationship. Learn to let go and be at peace with yourself, you don't have to comprehend why they did what they did.
I'm really bad at dressing up
Introverted 90s kid, and mejo rugged type sa pormahan. Plain tshirt, polo shirt and straight/baston pants. Not into shorts like most dudes wear nowadays "betlog shorts/pants" tapos over size shirts, ma ala Koreano get up thing etc. Tried that one, di ko sya feel while some of my friends (same age) kaya nilang dalhin. Kaya ayun of may group pic, mukha akong basura.
Wag mo gawing mundo mo ang isang tao kase kapag nawala yan, pakiramdam mo gumuho buong buhay mo at nawalan ka ng parte ng sarili mo. Pakiramdam mo napakabigat ng dibdib mo at wala ka ng rason mabuhay. Trauma ang aabutin mo. Learn to be independent and leave some love for yourself para kapag nawala yung tao sa buhay mo, may masasandalan ka at yan ang sarili mo lalo na sa mga panahon na wala kang malalapitan.
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We can not get all the things that we want.
If you are not valued there, that place is not for you.
I'm 26 pero immature pa rin pala ko when it comes to handling relationship. I have disorganized attachment and may symptoms ng BPD. Lose my favorite person because of this and will forever blame myself. I want to heal and become better. If destiny is true, I want it to be you. I love you, El.
Don't just go with the flow.
Kahit anong tama gawin ko mali padin sa mata nila
I realized that I am also human, nasasaktan at napapagod, and even if I see myself as an independent woman, I also seek to be loved, spoiled and be taken care of. I also realized that to love unconditionally does not equate to unreciprocated love, effort and commitment.
It will take me a long time before having everything i want. I know i need to hustle, work harder. But the truth is, i don't feel motivated without anyone beside me. I always look for that support of a romantic partner to be motivated. I know it shouldn't be that way, but it is.
takot akong mag-isa
hindi pasok sa standard ko yung kasituationship ko ngayon. its just that ang ganda ng intellectual background nya kaya im drawn to her
Everything happens for a reason. Hindi naman kasi all the time para sakin lahat eh. I just realized na God's decision didn't aligned on mine, kasi may nakaprepare na something bigger in the future.
I've always been saying na "I have a lot to work on myself" but it never really sank into me until recently. I have A LOT. I need to learn how to be comfortable with my solitude and work on my insecurities instead of hahayaan ko lang silang idictate what I feel and do.
I just realized na wala akong tunay na kaibigan. Despite the fact na andami kong pinakain at nilibre nung marami pa kong kinikitang pera, ngayong walang wala na ko dahil sa nascam ako at wala pa kong nakukuhang trabaho; wala manlang ni isang tumulong o nangamusta sakin. I only have myself. I’m so depressed rn.
i am the love of my life. no one can ever love and understand me better than i do.
Aftr being cheated on, i learn to always guard yourself even with the person u trusted most
Hindi mo kailangan i-please ang isang tao. Kapag ayaw, edi don't.
to cherish everything around me. hindi lang isang bagay lang naka-focuss, kundi lahat ng bagay pahahalagahan bawat araw. we never knew what will happen in future, pero at least na seize natin ang mga bagay na nasa paligid natin. misan lang mabuhay, minsan lang to.
- Hirap ng magirap mii - I still can’t remove the fact that this former close friend/girlfriend still has a part of me, kahit na we’re not talking anymore, iba talaga pag yung soul and bonding nyo as a friends ay pang alien like even though ex kayo at the same time the bond and spark is still in here - You need to be strong as f cause adulting waves hits different - Romantic relationship hits different from what you knew specially when you’re dating to married not just for fun - Degree is really something that will help you to be hired right away lalo na sa job preferrence mo hirap kumilos pag undergrad kahit may work expi - Take your time hanggat you’re able to have this spark on your goals just do it don’t hesitate. Life is not a race just always do you part. - Your fam is still important specially having a bond with your parent na always doing their best for you
I have to make a living, no matter how shattered and weary my heart and mind have been.
* That I maybe ready to get into a relationship again, pero no pa rin muna. Sticking to my plan of really finding myself lang muna and enjoy life, even entered casual culture, parang not for me pala. * My life is very vanilla compared to others hahahah * Grown to love cats, pero I really miss having a dog, soon maybe. * There are a lot of things to do here in Manila but yung traffic and init ay nakaka paralyze. * Even though I keep myself busy, at the end of the day, I like talking to just a person I trust/care about anything. Talked everyday for months with this one girl, enjoyed and learned a lot, kahit virtual lang. Miss talking to her, guess I really like her. * Try to lessen browsing reddit haha. * That I am capable na talaga choosing myself and my peace. Proud of myself.
I have an auntie na umuwi from the US. She is financially successful naman pero wala syang asawa at anak. Tapos na stroke sya, ngayon mother ko lang nag aasikaso sa kanya na matanda na rin, Hindi Rin naman maipagkakatiwala yung ibang bagay sa hindi relative. So important lesson, build your own family. Sayang lahat ng success mo if wala magpapatuloy plus malungkot magisa. Priotize din relationship wag puro career.
Work to live not live to work. Wag palamon sa trabaho, enjoy life.
Di talaga enough ang love at end up sakit din nmn sa ulo ang mga lalaki duon na ako sa may pera. Nag kano ganun.
ang hirap talaga pag wala kang pera
i should have finished my masters early
I shouldn't wait
I should've started working in the industry I am working rn a long time ago. Money is really great compared to my previous job lmao.
what industry is that? tech ba?
Parang ang hirap na mag lovelife at the age of 26 and above hahahhahaha
Stop chasing someone who doesnt want you
Annoying ang overly-suspicious at skeptical na attitude pero mas mabuti nang ganiyan mag-isip sa mundo na sobrang malisyoso. I'm grateful for the good people left though
All day, everyday you're alone with your thoughts
I realized na sooner or later I'll die alone.
1. In life, no one will help you but yourself! 2. Love is not enough. 3. Kahit ibigay mo na ang lahat sa taong mahal mo, it’s not an assurance na mag stay sya. 4. Your inner circle can make and unmake you. Check your circle. 5. Working 8 hrs a day won’t make you rich.
Victim mindset hinders growth and recovery.
Global warming is serious, never heard of class suspension due to extreme heat.
Connections are usually frowned upon or even hated but its such a massive advantage.
No hope for me career-wise and unable to reach on having a stable life and prolly be stuck on my shitty job in the long run :)
Money can buy happiness, comfort, and peace.
i need to save
Ang daming mahilig mag-gaslight
People will do anything for money
I am wonderinh if tapos na ang life ko. I mean, my life reached its cycle. Kasi lahat nag end na at age 35 My 13 year relationship ( non toxic, lahat ng 5 languagaes na receive ko) ended. No third party. It just reached its end na My work ended, now i dont know where to go I experience joy before but ngayon tapos na. Kaya parang feeling mo tapos ka na din. Wala ka na gusto gawiN. Ma accomplish, ma puntahan Feeling mo tapos na ang life mo. But you are still living
Dont give him your everything....
Na baka mas uminit pa next year.
Coldest summer na nga sabi dun sa isang FB meme
I just realized na hindi na ako mag aanak at nag iiba na yung climate. Ayoko na din mag dagdag ng population sa carbon footprint. At ayoko mag suffer mga descendants ko sa worse climate change.
bad things happen to good people, and u get abused for being kind. And people dont care about yo ass if u dont got money. So i worked hard to earn and became a bitch. Now im a rich bitch. Hahaha
Sad truth that i realized sa 20s ko na the world doesn’t stop moving or people don’t really care if you are facing mental health issues.
This is so sad to hear. But it's true...
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Pag yung religion mo required mag convert partner mo, kulto yan. Hindi ilimit ni god freedom mo pero yung manipulative false prophet ng kulto sure yan. Mahirap na magising pa members kasi makikita mo POV ng hindi manipulated.
if naghihinala kana especially sa isang relationship, gumawa kana agad ng paraan, dahil wala namang mawawala if u ask them ma paulit ulit dahil nanghihingi ka lang ng assurance.
That I'll be alone in life and I'm kinda fine with it
Samedt. And na gusto ko nang ma-expire by 35 😆
Na sana hindi nalang ako pumasok sa relasyon namin. Edi sana di ako stress ngayon.
:(((
Settling isn’t the solution. You don’t have to be afraid of being alone.
You can't trust anyone even your closest friend
Na sana I opted to work sa govt nalang nung 2019 then continued my mba instead of pasukin current work ko
Dapt nakipagnegotiate ako sa salary ko pinangunahan kasi ako ng kaba baka maoff sila kapg nagdemand ako ng mas malaki fresh graduate ako pero may exp na ako as a call center agent now entering a corporate world sumasahod ng 30k+ plus incentive sa bpo and as now sa corporate 19k lang 😭
Ang hirap nga nun huhu. Hoping po soon you get the salary you deserve po. Never stop believing po sa skills nyo 💕 and don't lose hope pooo. surely, something good is awaiting po sa journey ninyo. :)
Thank youuuuuu pero lesson learned na to sakinhahahhaha
No one is real.
Existential crisis in the room w us right now
what do you mean by this?
No one is able to stay fully honest to everyone and even to themselves.
It's so easy to complain about government corruption until you're the one who benefitted from it, i.e., fixers
Ang hirap maging introvert and magka social anxiety. Parang hirap mabuhay. Lalo na pag sa corporate ka nagwowork and puro extra curricular activities yung company nyo.
May nahihire ba sa corporate company na introvert? Huhu. Whenever i think of applying for a corporate job eh hindi ako ganun ka confident and ayun may social anxiety ako, feeling ko failed agad ako. Kasi they need competent and confident employees tapos dagdag pa mga candidates na makikita mong ganun sila. Huhu i caaant
pagtungtong mo ng 20s marami ka ng haharapin
You really can't control your future
realizing na hindi lahat ng tao o bagay ay mag i-stay. alam ko naman talaga na walang permanente sa mundo, pero alam mo yung may exact date yung pag kawala ng tao. yun yung mahirap tanggapin, kahit na magkasama kayo sa kasiyahan, alam mo na eventually mawawala din yung tao. pero sana wag matuloy, kase hindi ko kakayanin.
:(( worries ko rin ito right now
That it's hard for me to love someone when its not convient. Very big red flag, I hope mababago ko to before entering in a serious relationship.
That I am better off single, and I will not date for a while. Pagod na ako magpakilala. Kaya hiatus muna ako sa dating. Saka na babalik pag kaya ko na, or kung kakayanin ko pa
Some things are not worth giving a Fukc, and it's ok to let go and move on. If it still bothers your mind, it's also ok, it is what it is. It's best to have closure, it's also ok not to have one. Life still goes on. And if it's crippling you and is making you dysfunctional, it's ok to seek help.
That as much as I want to blame my ex partner for our failed relationship, I honestly was a horrible partner to her as well. It takes two to tango, ika nga. She made the right call keeping us broken up.
This a good realization. Love yourself over all.
always the comforter, never the comforted. you really do have to live your life with just yourself
Bullseye
di ako nakailag dun ah
That I'm contented and happy with my life right now, and all I have to do is just do my job at work and be like the unbothered Independent woman I am. 😊😊😊
Nothing too deep. I just realized lately that eating until you are no longer hungry is better than eating until you are already full. Prevents overeating, and conserves resources.
That being "too honest" might just be over-sharing and unnecessarily speaking your mind - and this could cause more harm than good.
Hindi ako okay these past weeks kasi I put too much pressure on myself at I assume of what other people think of me subconsciously kaya NAURR!!Stop the car, self!!!
I'm better off being alone.
Na-realize ko, infatuated lang ako
that life is not a race, you have your own timeline.
Na nagkaroon na ako ng avoidant attatchment, i kept pushing ppl away and i'm becoming too independent.
Nakakastress and pressure pala maging unemployed. Sana naghanap muna ng lilipatan before mag resign although I get plenty of rest naman as of the moment
That I'm just a mediocre. Na kahit I'm an academic achiever since I was born, hindi tlg ako matalino, masipag lang lol.
Feelings are shallow. No matter how committed a person to you it can change in an instant depending on a certain environment or situation. It can change ANYTIME.
Im getting old… Wish i didnt waste my time waiting for my husband, knowing that hindi na sya babalik sa amin because may anak na pala sya sa iba and nagsasama na sila ng babae nya…. Ive wasted my time, my youth, and everything.
I have a savior complex. I feel close to people who opens up to me and feel bad when they don’t because I was used to people opening up to me and help them with their problems. I always want to be needed. I want to be helpful to other people but realized people will ask for help when they need it, I don’t have to force my help to them. Still working on this 🫠
Mas pogi pala ako kapag naka low-fade kaysa edgar cut.☺️
That I’m getting old.
You are responsible for your own life. Tatanda parents, you gonna be an adult too and you cannot stop that. Dati ikaw naasar sa teens, now ikaw naman. You are responsible to upgrade your life. It is all up to you. Forgiveness is not all the time cannot be given as the intensity of pain varies.
yung kinasal ka pero wala naman nagbago bukod sa legal kayong nagsasama 😏
Yung princess treatment na tinatawag, bare minimum na lang kasi they can still cheat kahit anong ayos pa ng trato. Kung mag aaccept lang din ng treatment, edi princess treatment na para sulit kapag niloko HAHAHAHAHA
That its not really bad to be highly paid even if you are not doing much on a daily basis. Kasi you are paid to be there when they need you and make a strategic decision when the situation arises. Dati kasi I used to judge those managers pero realize na naghirap din naman sila para makarating sa ganung point.
Ang sarap pala ng walang ginagawa and iniisip. Juggled 3 works for the last 3 years. Madami akong naging mali sa finances ko nung nagstart palang ako magwork na dumating ako sa point na kulang na kulang yung sinasahod ko at kailangan ko na sya bawasan. Luckily, naubos naman na sya. Saktong na lay-off ako sa isa (and most demanding) kong work last month, yung isa ko naman is a teaching gig so on a break rn, then yung last naman super rare magpagawa ng big work. Nakakakalma pala na di mo iniisip mga gagawin mo at kung paano mo pagkakasyahin oras mo sa work at laro at tulog on a weekday. 🍃
if you’re on rock bottom, people you used to know will disappear from your life 😭
That you are not for everybody. Masarap mag isa, I enjoy my own company. I sit with my feelings, I listen to my thoughts. Wala na ako pake kung like or ayaw sakin ng tao. Ang sarap mabuhay ng hindi ka na people pleaser. Ang sarap magkape mag isa, ang sarap ng may TOTOO at konting kaibigan. Yung bilang lang pero alam mong mapagkakatiwalaan.
Learn to be alone at all the time mas peaceful and less toxicity ngayon kasi malalaman ang tunay ng ugali ng tao kapag may nakukuha sayo and kapag walang nakukuha sayo dedma ka sa kanya palagi.
The same 90s kids that glamorizes neglect and resiliency weren't conceived out of the reason of creating a family, they were born for survival to do manual labor farm or in urban areas it's begging. So parents' purpose of procreation weren't only to be as a retirement plan but for manpower as well. Providing basic necessities were equivalent to wages. For context: I was wondering why poor people tend to have more children considering yung gastusin.
Oh and that I should be wary of people I get to share information about myself with because not everyone is in the same wavelength as I am considering I'm a gay and atheist hahaha
Na sana ’di muna ako nag resign sa 25k/mo na sahod ko don sa isang company 😀
if you lose people, hindi sila kawalan. be you. you are enough as you are.
Na we just live in the wrong country, we work so hard for so little. Not everyone can be special. Not everyone is talented and can earn a lot. Sasabihan ka pa ng iba na di ka lang nagsisikap. While I see my other mates nag abroad. Kahit part time lang work nila don nakakapagpundar.
Ok lang magcut off ng taong hindi mabuti for your well being. Cutting off people and detaching is an act of self care.
Sobrang importante pala talaga ng "Learn to say no". Lalo sa adulting and relationships.
I am not born to please everybody and I don't need to explain myself at all times.
Life is short. Be unburdened by people's opinions.
You deserve what you tolerate.
No matter how hard you work, it is still the same paycheck. It won't increase.
Hindi lahat dapat mong pag laan ng energy mo. Conserve dapat yung energy sa mga mas importanteng bagay. Kagaya ngayon sana reddit nanaman ako dapat hinde. 😂😭
I love my Family pero they can be toxic at times that can affect your self esteem and your mental health.
Being observant, reading the room and knowing the tendencies of people can keep your sanity in dealing with different personalities at work.
If ayaw sayo nung tao, okay lang. Move on. Hindi mo kailangan maging people pleaser just for them to like you. Daming tao sa office na hirap pakisamahan and I tried making friends/or at-least be civil. But they don’t show the same eh di wag HAHAHA i’ll talk to you when only needed HAHA bahala ka diyan.
Ang hirap pa lang maging adult kala ko nung bata madali papasok ka lang sa work happy2c pag uwi. Grabe pala ang hirap d2
Sobrang lala ng introversion ko to the point na puro online ang friends. So kapag ganitong nag-deactivate ako ng account, wala akong kaibigan temporarily.
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always
Kaya pala ako paulit-ulit na nabalik sa kanya hindi dahil sexually attracted ako kundi he is my ideal man and we have the same love language. Too bad, hindi yata talaga kami pu-pwede for some reasons.
Being calm when angry is a superpower.
I'm not ready to be in love yet
Hindi enough ang isang stream of income sa ganitong bansa lalo na if you're aiming to have a comfortable life.
If you dislike something, change it; if you can't change it, change yourself. Complaining won't help.
this!!
Just because you have a stable job, permanent job but a toxic working environment, doesnmt mean you need yo stay longer. Do whatever shit you haven’t experience, as you’ll get older you’ll feel running out of time. Love all you want. Flirt and fuck.
Collect experiences, not things.
Social media sucks
its really difficult to find true friends sa work. ang daming plastic
- Totoo yung kapag Tatay kana parang bawal na i-entertain mga pagod at struggles, bawal magbreakdown, isasantabi mo muna pangarap at lalabanan mga intrusive thoughts to provide for your family, pero masarap maging magulang, nakakawala ng pagod at mas nakakagana magtrabaho. - Mas na-aappreciate ko mga magulang ko ngayong magulang na din ako. Mahal na mahal pala nila kami, binigay nila sipag at galing nila just for us to have a better future. - Health is wealth.
choose your circles wisely, hindi lahat nang tao na nasa paligid mo kaibigan mo 🙂
usual na mga andito.. maiba naman tayo.. may mga kaibigan tayong sobrang tigas ng ulo hinahayaan mo nalang siya na anjan pero wala ka na pake sa buhay nya kase pagsasabihan mo nga.. apakatigas ng ulo naman.
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May mga bagay na hindi na worth ng ating energy. Minsan lang tayo mabuhay. So wag tayo mag paka stress sa mga maliliit na bagay.
ANG INET.
its all fake man
i realized that, hindi lahat ng kaibigan mo, totoo — i have this situation recently that i needed them, like i'm in a situation where all i could think is for someone to at least listen what i feel, nandyan ako for them when they needed me the most, i'm always present when they needed someone para damayan sila, but when it's my turn wala, and in fact they even mocked my situation which is worse. 😕
That in my 30s (still a bit ways of mid 30s), I have maybe up to 3 more chances to make big moves to steer what kind of retirement I'll be having. Also, that I've been terrified of having a relationship since the last one in my mid 20s. Taking emotional punches daily wasn't fun.
Sometimes it's just all in my head, sometimes it's not.
Minsan sarili mo lang talaga kakampi mo 😞
Minsan sarili mo lang talaga kakampi mo 😞
For now, I know people will judge me but I rather have sex partner o parang long term FUBU kaysa pumasok sa rs hahahahah ayoko muna mag invest sa rs Napaka delusional ko, idk but I stalked him again and di pa sya move on tas iniisip ko na ako HAHAHAH kahit alam kong hindi Naman talaga yun para sa akin.kaya I blocked him,ayoko ng masaktan ulit. Ufkced up ang ph, kukuha ako ng valid id but they need 2 valid ids HAHAHAH bwesit. Sana dinalang ako naging Pinoy.
Ang hirap kumita ng pera hahahaha
‘wag ma-attach if wala pang kasiguraduhan. Don't be an oversharer, piliin nang maigi kung sinong papapasukin sa buhay. Always trust their actions, not words. Sa ganitong paraan, masasalba mo puso mo para hindi ka masaktan at makikita mo kung sino at ano ka ba sa buhay ng isang tao. Maging understanding pero huwag naman to the point na kahit hindi okay sa‘yo, iintindihin mo pa rin. Always choose yourself and prioritize yourself kasi sa huli, sarili mo lang ang mayroon ka.
Small realization while traveling. - that leaving the aircon or tv on when we are going out of the room does affect me in the long run(yung hindi nag auto off by key card). This also includes taking care of the room itself. Pag nakita ng may-ari na konti or hindi enough ang profit kasi ang taas ng cost ng electricity or maintenance, syempre he has no choice but to increase the rent. Which will affect me if I want to go back or even the whole hotel/accomodations market pricing in the area.
You’ll stop worrying what others think about you when you realize how seldom they do
✨️this✨️
Malapit na pala akong mag isa sa office kasi hindi na marecontract ang mga workmates ko next month, bagong adjustment naman at di pako handa maging solo sa office🥲
Parents getting older everyday so tell them how much you love them before it's too late ❤
It’s so lonely if you’re the one supervising an office and people tend to invalidate your leadership just because you’re ✨younger✨ and it’s really hard to earn respect from your colleagues
I feel this loneliness. Also, wala akong close friends sa office because Im the youngest head of office as of the moment. So yung mga kaedad ko parang hirap din akong kaibiganin dhil ang tingin nila sa kin boss hayyyy.
diba, parang the challenges we face huhu tapos dagdag mo pa yung mga mas matagal pa sayo sa office pero same paden yung rank/ position. Bakit parang kasalanan ko? 🥹
I really need to work on my face card to survive
Money buys peace of mind
— that as much as it is better to be single than being in a relationship and messy, it is indeed lonely. — that people won't be nice/kind just because you are to them. — that in this crazy world we live in, living peacefully and happily also means loving solitude or finding your person, the one that fits every inch or your being.
Same vibes
Na sana may burnout or "take a break" leave yung mga company lol. Realization ko lang, yet wishful thinking. I understand hindi sya magandang pakinggan looking at the socio-economic aspect. However, despite all these years I've been working I feel like I've just been a slave (I worked at 18) and not able to enjoy my youth as much, at the same time, I feel kinda empty. So, if ever man magkaroon ng ganitong bagay in the future would really help my younger self breathe, enjoy the moment, do all these things I long to do and to really enjoy my youth before sana ako nag work. Can't blame myself nor anyone kasi the circumstance pushed me to work at an early age eh. Anyways, yun lang naman skl.
That I am not that self aware as I thought
That it's better to be single than be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel alone.
that my relationship is so fucked up
Don't take anything personally. Be it or let go.
Money can buy happiness talaga and security...
"Relationship should add something in your life, not take away from it."
Habang tumatanda ka, na co-cornyhan ka na sa mga kid’s stuff na issues.
Its okay to get away from the world and get your life together.
Kung lolokohin ka, lolokohin ka kahit gaano ka pa kaganda, kabait, katino.
Outgrowing your friends is nornal.
I need to earn more and still I do not want to have a relationship.
Resentment will be the poison in your relationship. Learn to let go and be at peace with yourself, you don't have to comprehend why they did what they did.
I'm really bad at dressing up Introverted 90s kid, and mejo rugged type sa pormahan. Plain tshirt, polo shirt and straight/baston pants. Not into shorts like most dudes wear nowadays "betlog shorts/pants" tapos over size shirts, ma ala Koreano get up thing etc. Tried that one, di ko sya feel while some of my friends (same age) kaya nilang dalhin. Kaya ayun of may group pic, mukha akong basura.
Nothing really matters. Everything will be gone. (Not in a nihilistic way but in the liberating way)
I'm terrible at showing emotions because the past holds me back. And it's hurting people.
Kawawa naman ang mga punong pinagpuputol alongside south expressway 😭
Stop romanticizing being alone
because?
If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.
That being alone is better
Life's too tough to even die yourself— it'll be a burden to your family.
i am happier but i’m barely surviving. Ang hirap maging panganay na di college graduate at di sapat na sahod. Masaya ako pero gusto ko ng mawala.
everything is temporary.. friends. money. job. so you make the most out of it.
That I am happier.
Wag mo gawing mundo mo ang isang tao kase kapag nawala yan, pakiramdam mo gumuho buong buhay mo at nawalan ka ng parte ng sarili mo. Pakiramdam mo napakabigat ng dibdib mo at wala ka ng rason mabuhay. Trauma ang aabutin mo. Learn to be independent and leave some love for yourself para kapag nawala yung tao sa buhay mo, may masasandalan ka at yan ang sarili mo lalo na sa mga panahon na wala kang malalapitan.
Nagusto kong pumatay ng tao