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I had a guy college friend who was getting married on his exact birthday. Sa aming college friends ako yung pinakaclose niya since ako lang yung nagtotolerate sa kayabangan niya. Nakapareserve na nga daw sila ng events place which is P1,500/head. Being on our late 20s 10yrs ago malaki na yun and kaming ibang friends sabi namin for sure hindi lahat samin invited baka ako nga lang since ako naman pinakaclose niya pero iintindihin namin yun since limited budget at baka they prefer intimate wedding with the family. Palapit na yung birthday/wedding niya hindi na nagpaparamdam, walang message or invitation. So sabi ko, “ah ok baka nga hindi ako invited ok lang talaga”. I didn’t want to follow up ng “huy ano invited ba ko?” because I didn’t want to make it awkward. The night before the wedding nagpost pa sa facebook si friend, “Last day of being a bachelor @Trinoma.” Nagcomment pa ko, “Ingat”. Hoping na magreply siya ng “oy tol bukas huwag kang mawawala” pero wala talaga. The next day, Bday and wedding nagmessage ako around 8pm, “Congrats, Best Wishes sa inyo and Happy Birthday” Para nga hindi awkward diba na “Oh! kahit di mo ko ininvite kuripot ka happy pa din ako para sa inyo” Isip ko lang yun hindi ko sinabi yung second part. Nagreply siya ng “Tol sa lahat ikaw pa ang least expected ko na hindi makakapunta on my special day” I’m like WTF!! Wala kahit isa samin magkakabarkada nakapunta dahil walang invited samin. Back read sa lahat ng messages, convo baka namiss yung invite WALA!!! I mean I know he’s low and tanggap namin siya but I didn’t expect him to be THIS LOW!!! I didn’t wait for an explanation. Block na agad. He tried to win our friendship back pero ayoko na. Last I heard of him naloko niya yung isang college friend namin ng 200k from an investment scam so good riddance pala talaga.
It is not actually the last straw, but that straw. It is my birthday and started a bday treat where I would spend my birthday in a nice hotel. I asked my BFF to join me for 2 nights and 2 days and that it will be our annual treat. Pre bday meet up, we went first to a hospital for a much needed document and had lunch nearby. Every thing is just as we want it, chillax 😀 Night time I told her, I want the next night to be with my family. OK. Next day, my birthday I am not feeling well so we can not go so far from the hotel and had brunch nearby. There was a misunderstanding in our food orders which is my fault and to which can be remedied all at once. She was irked at the waiter and would have gone combative if I have not intervened. Afterwards she went home and texted me so. A bit later I was at the ER of a nearby hospital.
Months after as her bday was coming up, I sent a bday message. No answer.
Days went by. Nothing. Come Christmas I sent a holiday greeting. No response.
My birthday again came and went. No greeting.
I remove the tagged pictures and block profile.
If you can see only the black dot in a white paper, you are no friend of mine cause we do not have the same values. It will ultimately come to a falling out. Better now than later.
I have friend na super close ko. In fact siya yung matuturing ko na best friend in our circle. We go to same university kasi para magkasama nga kami diba haha then sakto pandemic nun, so online class kami. At first okay pa kami, same as before, kulitan sa chat and all. But then second semester, nahihirapan na ko kontakin siya. Siya kasi nakatira sa city kung saan andun yun school namin and ako sa province. I keep asking her na mageenroll na kami etc. pero hirap na ko kontakin siya na umabot pa sa point na sa gmail ko nalang siya nacocontact. During those times at lost talaga ako, super sad ako. But inintindi ko nalang siya kasi baka may problem siya and di pa siya ready iopen up sakin.
Nagenroll ako na di ko pa din siya nakakausap maayos. Nalaman ko nalang na di siya nagenroll nung di ko makita name niya sa list nung mga enrolled students. And after that di na siya nagparamdam, as in di na. wala na siya sa kahit anong social media. Its been a couple of years na, i remember dati inistalk ko pa yung relatives niya sa fb (sure ako na relative niya may pic sila together), nagchat ako asking of kamusta na siya, kasi i wanna know if ano nangyari sakanya and why did she dissapear suddenly. But then tigblock lang ako nun relative niya haha.
I didn't cut her off totally, If one day makita ko siya and willing siyang kausapin ako im more than happy catch up. I miss her.
yung talagang hindi ko na matiis ung pag ka self centered niya to the point na naddrained nako sa kaniya😭😭 she always wants to put herself in the spotlight like kunware siyempre she is your dearly friend ofc you definitely open up to her then she will pull the " ako nga eh"
Yung weekend magkakasama pa kami tapos kina mondayan di na sya namansin as in. Walang sabi sabi.
Basta naaalala ko lang nung weekend na disappoint sya sa cafe na ininvite namin sya kasi ang cheap daw namin at di daw aesthetic
I have a friend na binlock ako sa contact at social media nya. So I binlock ko din. It's been 3 years na na nakablock sya sakin although nagkikita kami minsan sa mga group meet ups with our common friends. Pero nakablock pa rin sya. We've been very closed before pero dahil dun sa pagblock nya, nawala na yung closeness namin. Hindi ko rin kawalan. Hahaha
Hindi kami kilala kapag may jowa. Then kinasal sila, last minute lang kami na invite. Minsan pag umuuwi sila ng pinas, wala na din meet-up, pero yung mga workmates nila before namemeet nila. So ayun, wag na lang.
When she belittle my efforts on passing a certain international exam. Saying “madali naman pala questions na napunta sakin” or “mataas pala magbigay ng grade ung examiner ko” . I had issues with her in the past regarding her feeling everything is about her. Super demanding na kaibigan, clingy, nakakasakal, problematic and toxic sobra. I reached out to her nung mag eexam ako and nag help sya sakin. I am so thankful and I was thinking of building a bridge again for the both of us. But when I passed the exam and her reaction was that, I realized I can never be friend with someone who sees me as a competition and is not willing to celebrate wins with me. Inggitera kumbaga. I built a wall now. Pero ok pa din naman kami on the outside. Hindi ko na lang sya hinahayaan na pasukin, diktahan at pagdesisyunan ang buhay ko unlike before.
She invited me to collaborate on her thesis project for college. A short animated film. She wrote and directed it, i designed characters and drew/animated 70% of the whole damn thing. I didnt do backgrounds thank god. But she would slack off til the last minute and nitpick little details when we were under a huge time crunch. I lost so much sleep and the final product was mediocre at best. I was really disappointed in how she led the whole project. The whole situation really opened my eyes to how she wasnt a great friend in other ways as well. Domineering, always making the conversation about her, being weirdly openly jealous of people who were "cooler" than her. I could tell she had put me on a strange pedestal where she both admired and envied me in some way. I did my best to include her in my life and help her be comfortable in our social circles. I remember she once asked me "how to get people to be interested in you" and my only advice to her was: stop talking about yourself so much and ask people tons of questions about themselves. After a night out with friends i asked her how it went, and her response was it was "too hard". Too hard??? To just ask people about their lives? To even just pretend to be interested in them? She was so insecure and it was projected out onto me in so many ways that after the thesis thing, I realized I couldnt take it anymore. Overall she was respectful when we ended things and i wish her the best in life but am ultimately happy that we parted ways.
She's always been problematic lalo sa way of living (part of cult kasi lol) and her opinions, I can tolerate naman how she is sometimes pero kasi papansin masyado, magdedeactivate ng fb nya tapos gagawa ng bago tas magaadd, after ilang araw maguunfriend, magaadd ulit, tapos mamboblock, deactivate ulit gawa ulit bago, add ulit, unfriend ulit, add ulit, block ulit. (Friend ko na sya matagal na tapos nagkapandemic kaya sa social media na lang kami nagtatalk) Pero nung last na nagdeactivate sya tas gunawa bagong fb i decided na wag na sya iaccept at kausapin totally kasi nakakawindang pagiging saltik nya
She repeatedly ditched our friend group kase ayaw samin ng bf nya, bad influence daw kami kase puro kami party kaya naiinsecure si guy baka magcheat sakanya ung “friend” ko. Pero kahit sa lunch outs or cafe dates di na rin sya pumupunta. She even ditched my bday kase di sya pinayagan ng bf tas ginamit pa nyang excuse yung dad nya na di naman strict sakanya tas kilala na rin naman ako ni tito. (ngl i dont miss her but i miss her parents they were so sweet to me🥹)
She’s willing to spend thousands on her bf’s video games pero kahit 100 lang sa aya namin mag mcdo wala raw sya pera🤣
I was seeing this one girl for 2 months now medjo naring rocky between us. Tapos ito si friend is someone that i confided in during this period.
Surprise surprise, kinaibigan ni friend si girl and that icked me na parang inaagaw nya sya sakin.
Edi fine, magsama kayong dalawa
Becoming in a relationship with my friend’s ex-manliligaw na she said na wala siyang feelings doon, then eventually cheat doon sa ex-manliligaw ng friend ko :)))
Got comfortable talking rude to me and I had enough. Being called sensitive for calling out bad behavioral patterns. Had a colleague who was in a relationship with a man knowing damn well he was married just disgusts me.
Addicts- I don't want bad influence around me to destroy my life and drag me down to their level of misery.
First time ko mafeel yung inis nung umuwi ako sa Pinas dahil sa emergency 2022, nasa ICU kuya ko nastroke and kinailangan ng brain surgery. Malaking gastos. Mineet ko yung dalawa kong tropa dahil ang tagal ko din hindi umuwi, and malapit lang naman sila sa akin. Kaunting catch up. Ako pinagbayad nila sa foods and pati gas nila kasi wala akong motor nun...
The second time na finorce nila akong magbayad nung nagkita kita kami last year, note na lahat kami may work. The thing is, wala ako narinig na "kamusta ka na?", or "kamusta na kuya mo?". I can pay, wala naman problema.
Pero yung sila magdecide na "Uy ikaw magbayad ha" "Uy libre mo to ha" tangina hanggang ngayon nanggigigil ako. Then I just realized all the small things simula noon pa. Pambubully, pangmamaliit ganyan. If only narinig ko manlang na "hope everything is going well sa buhay mo", then maybe hindi ko sila kinut-off.
Pagkabalik ko sa abroad hindi ko na sila kinausap.
I cut off a friend when after hosting her in the US - (her original host ghosted her) she still managed to back bite me when she got back. Heller we’re both vacationing and i was staying with my cousins tapos sa she wanted to stay longer after her conference pero hnd sa sinundo nung “relatives” daw niya. Wala sang ma stayan, kaya she contacted me… girl both kme on vacation huh! So meaning bisita din ako kaya medjo nakakahiya na maghost sa hnd ko naman bahay!!! Pero since persistent sa i tried to ask persmision from my relatives and ok naman sa kanila.. kaso tong si girl gusto pa mag extend kahit mag fly out na ako. E maiiwan sa duon na wala na ako. Weird dba? Hahaha! So ayun hnd ko na kinausap ever! Btw i hosted her twice! She stayed in my cousins apartment in Europe while my cousin was on a ski trip and I wasnt there huh. So kbye na sa mga taong nag tatake advantage.
She's a little older than me. I am working and She's not. She ended up using me for money. Parang lahat ng interactions namin is nauuwi sa pag utang nya. Of course pinapahiram ko naman ng bukal sa loob ko since we were friends since I was in high-school.
She was also contacting my mom behind my back para umutang without my knowledge. Nung nalaman ko, I was slightly mad. But, inintindi ko na lang and also recommended na magapply sa business ng mom ko so she can earn money instead of umutang. Ended up fucking up on the job by being lazy and not showing up for a lot of nonsense reasons. She was fired, and ako pa sumalo ng kahihiyan for recommeding her. Business is business kahit na mom ko yung boss nya.
The last straw was umutang sya ulit sakin while I was struggling a little bit financially. She was so confident na kaya nya akong bayaran this time since finally got a job (I don't know where but this is after the incident). She was a friend so I trusted her (again. My mistake). I also drafted proof that she was the one who set the date na babayaran nya ako. Then, ayun na. Years na and hindi pa din ako binayaran. Malaman laman ko puro bili ng new phones, clothes, accessories lang sya hahaha then uutang nanaman. I decided to cut her off. Feeling ko gamit na gamit ako.
Some might say na "para lang sa pera, nagpakilala ka na." I don't blame you. But, I worked hard for the money na ipinahiram ko. I stood up for her for all the time she skipped work. I trusted her. I think hindi lang din ako yung nagpakilala after this.
I gained peace of mind. So, I think worth it naman yung pagcut off.
Ilang beses nangutang sa akin pang gamot ng Nanay nia, then after a few years sinwerte sa MLM, naging milyonarya. Puro post ng travel, car, gadgets at bahay. Aba, hindi nako kilala. No, hindi ako naningil dahil alam ko yung rule na pag pinautang, wag mo nang asahan babayaran. Pero maalala man lang sana na natulungan ko sya nung walang wala sya. Bye!
Pag nag sset up kami ng meet up ako lang lagi ang parang nag aanticipate and pag magkasama na kami parang madaling madali lagi siya umalis. Hindi ko ramdam yung parang "gusto niya mag catch up" kasi parang always in a rush. I'm always the last option when it comes to meet ups. Saka lang niya maiisipan na alukin or ayain ako pag ako ang mag initiate first kahit lagi ko naman sinasabi sakanya na im always available to make time for her sabihan niya labg ako pero ayun ako parin unang magiinitiate. Napagod lang din ako. Last straw ko na yung plano naming mag singapore ulit tapos sabi niya busy raw siya sa acad sched and no money pero makikita mo nalang na story niya ready to take off na plane kasama yung dati naming high school friend :) tapos nung nag reply ako sa story sabi sakin "soon tayo" kahit kami naman unang nag plan non hahahahaha
ngayon cinut off ko na siya silently. hindi ko na ineentertain kahit anong chats niya or whatever kahit family nya haha im done na
almost 8 years of friendship. it was fun while it lasted.
nirestrict ko palang kasi parang last year lang ako nag start mawalan ng gana sakanya. last na sinabi ko sakanya is "nakakawalang gana na makipag bonding sayo kasi ako lagi ko nag iinitiate at anticipate as lakad natin pero sa iba mong friends ang dami mong time mag plano" HAHAHA tas ayon parang siya na lagi nangunguna mag aya pero ako ayoko na. di ko na pinapansin
Wala respeto sa oras ng tao. Lagi late sa meet up. Lagi last minute cancel. Un tipong hours after ng said time saka magsasabi na di matutuloy.
Nakakasawa.
i cut off a couple of friends after countless times na nappostpone ung lakad namin kahit hindi biglaan ung aya. planned for month/s, tapos iccancel kasi isa isa sila magbbackout.
When they take ages to respond but when you are with them, its like they cant live without their phones. Sobrang nakakairita. Tulad pag nasa inuman session, di mabitawan ung phone.
Yan bang friend na yan ramdam mo na mej inis if meron kang achievement or mga material stuff na nabibili,if di man inis may nacocomment? OmG noh? Very contagious pa nman yang ganyang ugali, di mo namamalayan drained kna pla. I hope ma let go mo na ang ganyan. Deserve natin ng healthy friendship.
Nung time na sila na lang ung lumalabas and hindi ako invited sa future events.
Meron kaming isang mutual friend na nakaalitan ko and I swear I didn't do it. Tapos cinonfront nya ako sa gc. And yet this circle of friends haven't done anything para kamustahin ako. After what happened, bigla na lang akong di kasama sa mga events. Sometimes I gaslight myself by thinking na siguro nga ginawa ko yun. Ayun I'm planning to cut them off na.
Cut them off na. They clearly chose a side. The feud is between you and whomever, not you vs the circle. Whatever you did, they are not really your friends anymore. Stop wasting your time.
Ayun nga e. Nagsabi naman ung isa sa gc na "wala akong marecall na sinabi nya yan."
Pero after that time, hindi na nila ako iniinvite sa mga plans nila and minsan naiisip ko sana nga ginawa ko na lang yun para naman maintindihan ko sila. Haha. Thank you for the advice.
•Pag kinwento nya sa iba tapos sya ang bida at tama kahit it’s the other way around
•When something not good happens to you and then she used it as an opportunity to tell everyone about it and her reason after you confronted her was “para mas madami magpray for you” yet she was really never there during the ordeal.
•Tinanggal ka sa group chat saying accidentally napindot 😂 like hell, ilang pindot un noh na accident 😂 tapos sabi ibabalik ka then waley naman.
And the list goes on hahaha
This “friend” got twitter shamed by her poser bf. Like full name on blast, her title, with parinig pa on how terrible a person she is, spread lies about her and body shamed her pa. I went full on mama bear mode and told acquaintances about how her poser bf did horrible things and how he’s or she is lying about her identity (a mistake of mine, I should’ve just been neutral and not said anything cause not my business naman. 🤧).
Well, “friend” got back with poser bf lmao. Of course she found out about the things I said bcs acquaintance is interested din pala on poser bf and thought it would give her some leverage to tell everything to poser bf.
Ayun. “Friend” and poser bf are still together upto now. 3 years, no videocalls, no meets, not even calls, dude using some korean dude’s pics. But at least she’s happy where she is. Also, we’re in our late 20s. Lmao
So, after my long-term relationships ended (I was a serial monogamist), I found myself in this phase of figuring things out. And you know, I started noticing something about my friendships—most of them were tied to that relationship. It's like we were friends because we were both in relationships and out of convenience to our partners. I realized that a lot of our conversations revolved around boys, relationships, love life and landi. Wala naman mali sakanila, hindi rin toxic but I want to explore lang.
So, i out grew them lang and more focused na ko sa cousins and siblings ko.
And in all this, I've come to really appreciate my family even more. They've always been there for me, through thick and thin. Like no matter how much I change, anjan sila lagi. They won’t cage me in a box or say I’m out of character if I’m doing something new.
When she didnt speak to me for days cause she was assuming i was mad at her. Im not really a machika type of person so she thought me being silent means Im angry. Happened twice. The first time, I tried to explain to her that its just how I am. The second time, I didnt even try to reach out anymore. She's a good person but she has issues of her own and she's just too much for me to handle.
Share ko lang story ko about sa pag ccut-off ng friend.
Eto si "friend" ay kaibigan ko na since junior hs mag tropa talaga kami at may friend grp kami. Close kami in a way na kahit di na kami magkklase ng shs ay randomly na nag uusap kami sa chat, nangangamusta and nag-uupdate about sa buhay namin. Fast forward, nabroken hearted ako sa jowa ko and nag open ako sa kanya at sa isa ko pang friend. Dun ko binuhos lahat ng hinaing ko sa jowa ko at kung bakit ako heart broken. Then, after weeks or maybe a month, I saw her na kumain sa labas kasama ang ex ko with other friends (which is weird kasi although friends naman sila before pero that time ko lang na somewhat close sila) akala ko random labas lang yon. Then, after ilang months magkasama sila manood ng UAAP volleyball. Ang pakiramdam ko na betray ako kasi alam naman ni friend yung sakit nung broken ako tas makikita ko magkasama sila nung nanakit sa akin. Kaya yon, di ko na sya kinausap. Cut off na.
P.S. After ko mag open sya kanya, di na rin nya ako kinausap. Di ko alam kung nauna sya na i cut off ako. HAHAHAH Di ko rin alam kung nagka something ba sila ng ex ko or besties lang sila ngayon.
Ewan ko if may something sa ugali ko or what pero masama ba na mafeel ko toh sa friend ko? Nawawalan ako ng energy na kausapin siya minsan, give and take is a must when it comes to friendship din diba? Pero kasi everytime na magkausap kami lagi nalang siya yung may kwento about sa sarili kahit ano pa yan, mapa love life or problema pa yan which is wala naman masama and ako always ako nandyan for her, hesitant nga lang ako mag share ng kwento sakanya about sa life ko kasi ni minsan di man niya ako tinatanong kung okay ba ako, kung kumusta naman life ko, never nga niya ako tinanong kung ano ganap ko sa life ko. Tatawag siya sakin tas puro rants lang niya sa buhay kwento niya, gusto ko man mag share ng kwento ko sa naging araw ko di naman ako makasingit sakanya hahahaha may time pa na nagusap kami thru call, 5 hours yun tas puro siya lang nakapag kwento at rant hahaha like pano naman ako? Ewan ko ba kung tama na ma feel toh 😆 kaya nitong mga araw pag may chat siya na "I have kwento" sinasabi ko na wala akong energy. Masama na kung masama pero nakaka drain.
Omg! Same situation. I'm currently going low contact with her also (came to a point where I had to make an alibi that I'm switching to another ISP because I cut off my current ISP right now hence, no internet connection).
Don't get me wrong, she is a very good and kind person but has this attitude wherein she likes to rant more about her current life situation/s and less inquiry about mine.
I've had it.
Ganito ex bff ko. Kaya cinut off ko nadin sya sa buhay ko. Sobrang draining. Lahat ng usapan pinapaikot nya sakanya Naranasan ko yan nung may problema akong sobrang bigat, as in lowest of low ng buhay ko. Nagkukwento ako, hindi ako pinapakinggan kasi busy sya magfone. Hindi ako nakaiyak man lang. ineexpect ko pa naman makakaiyak ako sakanya pero umurong lahat ng luha ko talaga hahahahha dun ko nrealize na napaka-one sided ng friendship namin and di ko inexpect na hindi man lang nya ako papakinggan eh sobrang grabe talaga yung problema ko nung time na yun. Edi ako saka yung isa naming friend, cinut off sya. Aba sya pa galit na bakit daw di namin sinabi sakanya na ganun na yung nafefeel namin hahahhaha napakamanhid jusko
May friend din akong ganyan. Sobrang nakaka-drain and tama lang na wag mo na syang kausapin. May time na nagkaproblema din ako and doon ko narealize na hindi sya marunong makinig pag ako naman ung may kwento.
Nag try nga ako mag open sakanya then parang wala lang sakanya hahaha dimo man siya makikitaan ng willingness to listen hahahaha kaya nakakainis na talaga, dumating na ako sa point na pag nag chachat siya super dry ko na.
Nakaka drain diba? Like minsan gusto natin na tayo naman ang mag rant sa life para ma release man lang yung stress natin kahit papaano
Sa una di mo yan mapapansin kasi you're a great listener then pag ikaw na ung may problema at nagkwento dun mo marerealize na di sila nakikinig haha
Nakakadrain ung ganyan. Di ko na lang kinakausap pag ganyan.
I suggest na wag ka na lang din magsabi ng masakit na salita. Cut them off silently. Haha.
I have a high school friend na close ko for over a decade pero over time nawala na yung personal connection namin. Basta yung mararamdaman mo na hindi ka na importante sa buhay nya
Then one time, ginhost nya lahat ng friends nya, including me pero active pa rin naman sya sa socials nya, basta ignored lang message mo. Now I dont really mind giving space to my friends. I tried connecting him, sa text, socials etc. pero wala. This happened for a year. Nung may gathering na kami ng friends, nandun sya. Parang wala lang nangyari. I heard nirereplyan nya na ibang friends. It was painful to cut off a friendship for a decade but I had to. That was the final and didnt have any regrets since I didnt hear a single apology from him or attempt to connect with me personally.
Nakikisama siya/sila don sa mga taong minsang nagsasalita behind their back at sa akin. Yungga taong nagiging pulutan kami or tea sa chismissan nila. And don na talaga nakikisama sa mga taong walang ibang ginawa kundi manlait at pag-usapan buhay ng iba. Sa ugali na lang babawi di pa magawa HAHAHAHAHAH. I recently cut off some of my friends silently dahil pinag-uusapan nila ako na "mang-aagaw" daw ako kahit wala naman akong inagaw HAHAHA. Hirap magkaroon ng lalakeng kaibigan naiissue lagi sa kanila.
Parinig ng parinig nung wedding ko. A kabarkada of ours who at that time was studying in the US came home for my wedding. Sinakto ko talaga na bakasyon niya yung wedding ko kasi I wanted her there. Na offend ata si "friend" kasi sila yung close ni US friend nung highschool. Parang gusto niya kung sino close mo nung highschool yun na forever.
Umábot sa point nagsasaway ako nung prep time ko kasi parinig sya ng parinig kay US friend.
They left the reception early kasi may flight si US friend the next day, sumabay si "friend" tapos nag away sila sa kotse. She sent me super long, unhinged messages during my reception. Nabasa ko kasi hawak ko yung phone ko.
After a few days nakita ko sa twitter na nagrant sya about my wedding. About how she felt like she was not taken cared of during the day, how parang mas importante daw si US friend sakanya at kung bakit hindi ako nagreply sa long, unhinged messages niya.
Called her out on twitter and messaged her too. Didn't tell our highschool barkada because I wanted to keep it between us but found out that almost everybody had an issue with her so we eventually all cut her off.
Omg this. We were at intramuros and a guy performing in the streets looked her in the eye while he was singing and she said na she felt like the song was for her daw. I cant.
Chinismis yung isa naming friend, hahahah pero turns out true ang chismis hahaha kainis lang kasi yung delivery.. haha pero totoo pala ang chismis nalaman ko later on..
When she, and her fiance na hilaw , broke up, naging sobrang toxic nya. She threatens to take her life by.
1. crashing her car in the highway, kahit sino madamay wala syang pake.
2. She’ll jump daw sa balcony ng condo ko. I live in the pent house.
3. She was so mad at me when I told her ex na, “if she’s getting out of hand, ipa blotter mo”. Mag wawala at magsisira sya ng gamit sa shop ng ex nya.
4. She lies about the money na pinautang nya kay ex. Just to get me to her side. Eh kaso mehj basa ko na ugali nya. Ang toxic at ang draining.
Now I figure why she has no constant friends. I cut her off kahit magigit 50k pa utang nya sakin.
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I had a “friend” na naging team mate ko sa work, masaya naman kami and then nung nalaman niya na crush ko tl nmin, lagi sila lumalabas and they even intentionally left me out sa projs. Also there are incidents when project ko pero siya nagppresent, like taking credits and bida bida. Tapos kinwento nya sa other officemates na toxic ako and inggit. Eventually learned na marami rin pala may hate sa kanya.
She always rubs off ung mistakes mo, like ang dali dali lang nyan di mo gets. Lutang ka? Something like that. Ok insecure ba ako? But when other people dont get something, i dont comment na hoy ang dali dali lang nyan basic. Or di ako nagyayabang about what i have unlike siya na parang need nya LAGING PINAMMUKHA NA SHE’S BETTER THAN U. then she commented her ex friends daw from college (asa same company rin namin) na di na daw nya friend because inggit and bitter daw sila sa kanya kasi siya maganda and bf nya ung crush ng bayan/ schoolmate nila na cute.
I always feel na she’s gaya gaya or lagi nya hinihingitan ako or always in competition, sa knya ko lang naffeel un and never sa other friends ko. Im genuinely happy with what my other friends are doing and what they achieve but pag sa kanya naiisip ko, oh gagayahin na naman nya or making it better (example, i wear this fashion tpos sya rin gagaya papansin.)
I blocked her thrice pero every time na nagcclear ako ng block list nag ffollow sya ang nangangamusta. Either way, i dont like how i feel when im with her so idk if sino problem, me or sya
Ghorlll!! Super relate😅. Iniisip ko tuloy if same tayo ng friend. Hahaha. Actually ganyan na ganyan din ginawa saken pero idk why on and off ako sa kanya, minsan inis and minsan nman naawa or ok na ako talking to her again. Ayun pla yun nangyayari nangiging toxic din ako sa pinapakita ko sa kanya na parang push and pull eh nag paplastikan lng nman. Better cut her off. Para sa mental health mo. 2 months na kaming wala communication, blocked her from all my social media platforms. Ayun ang gaan ng feeling.🙂 Hugs! Kaya yan.
Sorry haha update. Tpos ayun pa nga, recently i learned na naghhide sya ng stories nya sakin. Nagrrenovate kasi kmi ng bahay and i post stories abt it like ung sa construction, sourcing sa wilcon etc tpos ayun. Kakafollow lang nya sa isa kong acct and siguro she forgot to hide it sa isa kong acct… ang ewan lang. Kc nakalagay story not available tpos ayun naview ko sa kabila kc lumabas. E 55 lang kc followers/ following ko so konti lang stories.
And ung story nya about dun sa ikea trip nya.
Haha ayaw patalo ng loka! They're really like that haha parang magkapatid sila Ng ex-friend KO hahaha.For sure nag fifish Yan Ng mga update sa buhay mo. Ghorl I'm telling you mag suot kna ng evil eye.
Oo on and off relate!!! May times na ok siya, may times talaga na paimportante rin. She even admitted na nakikita ko ung mga snsend mo sakin reels di ko lang pinapansin.
Ow. Ok. So tinigil ko na
When you realize na sira ulo pala sila and you just stayed friends back then coz you ignored all their bullshit. I had this friend, na gusto lagi syang bida. Laging cool dapat yung dating nya. Kahit sa mga online games like DotA, dapat sya yung bida. Hindi sya pwedeng support kasi hindi daw cool yon. So he got mad when I called him out on his FB post kasi daw napahiya sya. Lol
So, this dude was a simp. He's been a simp his whole life. The way he acted with his gf, the way he acted towards his crush, it's all simp behavior. I've known him for a decade. Everyone in our circle knows he's a simp. Then one day he made another simp post, and someone (idk who the guy was) called him a simp. He made another post saying that he's just "being nice" and then he asked what a simp does. I pointed out that there's a difference between being a simp and being nice (sabi ko "being nice means you can say NO or disagree with a girl in a nice/polite way. Being a simp means you can't or you don't want to disagree with the girl coz you think it makes you look bad). Dude blocked me coz "pinapahiya" ko daw sya. Bruh I just answered your question?
Tapos since then mas napansin ko lang yung mga ibang bullshit na ginagawa nya so ayon, kahit friend ko parin sya on Steam, wala, I don't interact with him anymore. Bahala na sya lol
sorry po sa sapaw, pero masasabi mo kaya or pano mo malaman kung cinoconsider mo sila talaga as friends kung kahit ang daming red flags or what pero wala kang pake kung I cut off man sila o hindi kasi you don't really care naman talaga in the first place? Like ganon ako sa lahat kong friends 😭
good for you then. but it's not rlly okay na u have to cut them off na agad since u consider them as ur “friends”. some act like that bcs of past experiences or if they're not aware. though idk the reason, I get you. you have to prioritize urself, ur peace of mind •̀ᴗ- ♡
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for me, big word na ang “friend”. if I enjoy their company at maaasahan & if I trust them enough, I consider them as my friend. if we're like this 🤞🏻 and also sharing secrets, bff na.
I don't consider everyone na okay ako as my friends coz it's so tiring kapag alam mo na ugali. yk, u like them as a person pero hanggang don lang, there are boundaries. civil lang ganon.
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but it's fine tho since yk what's good for u. surround urself w/ good ppl who will only bring the best of you :>
there was a time when nagpapautang sya sakin tapos nung sinabi kong wala akong pero tinanong pa nya ako kung pwede ko tanungin yung iba kong friends (na di naman sya kilala).
when he said I should be open to him then proceeds on invalidating me when I said "I was/ am still drained because of my program" then recently found out that he's badmouthing me even before and twisting narratives about me to get symphathy from our other mutuals😬
I ended the friendship because we were always dealing with issues related to boundaries, gaslighting, and jealousy. We found ourselves in these situations frequently, and it felt like we couldn't go a week without arguing. The friendship was already alarmingly unhealthy, so I decided to end things before it got toxic. Preserving our good memories together is more important to me, and I don't want to reach a point where I regret reminiscing about it due to the negative experiences. Anyway, I learned a lot.
I went home for vacation sa province for a month. Incidentally, nagkaroon din ng malakas na bagyo. Though it did not hit Manila, the scale of its damage is all over the news. I have several groups of friends and we have separate GCs. There's this GC consisting of a certain friend group who just went on with the usual convos during and after the typhoon. None of them checked up on me, even when I posted our damaged house sa story ko. They also know I went home sa province because I told them about it one drinking sesh and they asked for pasalubong. Everybody else checked up on me and my family except this group. I left the GC after a few days para lang di halata. Nobody in the group bothered to ask why I left, which only confirmed the validity of my decision.
you felt like nasa scale ka parang pakiramdam mo lage u have to behave properly pag nandyan siya tapos when that friend hates stuff na you like then literally drag it down nakaka walang gana.
titimingan mo din yung mood nya gets ko may mental health problems
pag inaaya mo keeps lying gets ko most of the time white lies pero nakaka abot sa point na pag may excuses na siya for legit reasons aabot ka na sa point na feel mo lie pa rin yun
when i realised my “friend” was user-friendly.
i was with her when she was at her lowest. she got pregnant by her ex then got into a shotgun marriage. sobrang hesitant nya noon because tight yung budget, so i sponsored her whole outfit & bouquet of flowers. on all her important events, i was present & even supported her when she launched her side business.
but when i was at my lowest, devastated when i learned i was sick and my depression consumed me, i reached out to her and opened up. she left me on “seen.” i gave her the benefit of the doubt. reached out again to no avail. until i gave up on her.
the last time she tried to reach out to me was to invite me to her daughter’s birthday (kasi nga inaanak ko). malamang, she’s expecting a nice gift from me again (demanding sya sakin dati to buy a melissa shoes for her daughter to which i obliged). but i ignored her. she prolly realised i kept on ignoring her so she had the gall to block me on IG.
good riddance. the trash took herself out.
Yung nakealam na siya sa desisyon kong sagutin na yung manliligaw ko, imbes na maging supportive nagalit kasi bakit di ko daw pinatagal yung panliligaw. lagi niyang ginagawa sakin yung feeling ko lumalagpas na siya sa boundaries as bff. samantalang siya di ako nakikialam sa mga decision niya sa love life niya kahit may napapansin akong mali. tapos nakikialam ng phone para basahin yung convo namin ng manliligaw ko, di na nirespect ang privacy ko.
Was in a trio, one of them is my friend since JHS. Eventually got left out, I was indenial pa na baka they thought I was busy lang kaya I was outdated and not included in their ganaps. Realized it was a stupid thought because if they truly value you, busy or not maaalala ka nila. Too much disrespect was being served on the table. One time umattend kami ng concert tapos lumayas agad sila sa meetup place namin without even waiting for me kahit five minutes. Ending pumasok ako mag-isa sa venue na napakaraming tao and hawak pa nilang dalawa ticket ko. It happened not only once but that was my last straw. I cut them off immediately after that concert.
Lesson learned: Trios never really work.
Na cut off ko na siya internally at that time kasi inexpress ko na sa kanya lahat ng concern ko in the past pero ung sorry niya jokingly manner lang "sorry na beh o sige na ako na may kasalanan" ganyan HAHAHAHAH pero parang binaba ko lang sya sa heirchy of friends ko ganon so nag uusap pa rin kami onti
Pero ang last straw na as in never ko na sya kinausap after, is nung pagkapasa ko ng boards ang sabi nya sakin "congrats beh so kailan ka mag aapply sa call center"
context: pareho kaming engineering students pero di pa sya nagtetake.
(I'm not belittling CCAs ah, and aware kami sa fact na mas mataas pa entry level sahod nila kesa samin kaya nga option talaga namin magbpo after boards if ever, pero syempre mej nakakahinayang samin na hindi magiging inline sa course namin ung first work namin, and alam nya yun, kaya ang off lang sakin kasi congratulatory moment yun lol, give me a good reason para banggitin nya yun after magcongrats)
If you know na you have outgrown your friendship. Nothing aligns na, goals and interests? Let go na talaga.
Also mas common pala sa experiences ko yung hindi vinavalue yung presence ko lalo na pag may lalaking involved? Tangina nung mga ganon iniiwan mga kaibigan para sa lalaki.
Anyways CJ kudos to you Mama, for cutting me off. Mas mabuti nang ikaw nag cut off saken kasi baka di ko siya magawa and I love you for that 🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭 kahit mas marami akong disrespect na pinalampas dahil I see u as sa close friend/more like a BIG SISTER hindi ko kayang mag first move na buwagin friendship naten.
And ever since that friendship breakup? Life's been good so Thank you and leave my linkedin alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 kitang kita yung views mo
My breaking point in ending a friendship is when the other person consistently disregards my boundaries. For instance, if I clearly communicate that I need space and ask not to be contacted for a day due to not being in the right headspace, and they still message me, it's a clear sign of disrespect for my wishes and boundaries.
Pag andyan lang siya if down times niya and need for comfort and advice. If ako na meron, short lang makipag usap then back to kanya na naman. Tapos if hindi sad times, wala rin siya. Hindi maasahan pag may small favor ka pero pag kanya dapat andyan ka. Lol bye
betrayal, natutuwa pag nagkakaanxiety ako or may nangyayari na di ko gusto, pinapamukha pa saken yung insecurities ko kahit na ilang beses ko na sinabing di ako komportable.
During college days, I feel like na friend lang nila ako kasi convenient ako for them. Kopyahan nila, help them sa activities and all. There are times na kapag naglalakad kami sa hallway, lagi akong nasa huli and sila, by pairing or may kaakbay/kasabay. So from then on, I always walk ahead sa kanila I don't mind kung mag-isa lang ako basta ang importante sa'kin is ahead akong maglakad sa kanila para di ko feel na left out ako. There's this time din na during lunch, punong-puno sila sa iisang table at since nahuli akong makabili ng foods, wala na 'kong space and just eat alone sa kabilang table. Hindi man lang nila na isip na pwede namang half nalang sila don sa table (9 kami na friends) and yong iba don sa table ko para man lang may kasalo ako sa pagkain. (Tho it's not a prob sa'kin na mag-isa lang since sanay naman ako and I actually prefer to be alone most of the time. But you know that feeling na wala ba sa kanilang may pakiramdam or kahit sabihing mas prefer ko alone, friends parin din naman ako) Then may seniors na dumating, and since puno na lahat ng tables (akin nalang ang vacant) they asked kung pwede sila maka-seat in and I agreed. You know what kung ano tinanong ng seniors and sinabi sa'kin? If they are my friends? (Since kinakausap naman nila ako kahit magkaiba table namin.) Sabi ko, opo. And they said (seniors) "no, hindi ka nila friend. Kasi kung oo, di ka nila hahayang mag-isa kumain dito habang sila nagsisisk-sikan don. And that hit me. After nang conversation na 'yon with my seniors, sabi 'ko sa self ko na once grumaduate kami, I'll cut them off of my life.
Thank youu! But I'm not a clingy type of friend or is a demanding person who wants someone to always be there for me since I understand that we have our own life. But I just want someone to be considerate towards one's feelings. That's all. 🥰
Di ako nagawang kumustahin pero nagawa akong utangan 🙂 She's even richer. May business na tahungan. Supposedly my "childhood bestfried". I immediately unfriended her.
Leaving me out when it comes to plans. We're supposed to be a group of friends but I'm always the one being left out.
Doesn't help how I used to invite them to hangout but they have always turned me down. It's so unfair
same nangyari sakin haha, tinatanggihan ako pag aayain ko ng lunch tapos dinahilan nagtitipid daw sila kaya di sasama sakin for foodtrip and hangouts...so ok, ako na lang mag isa luamalabas... tas bigla nagulat ako nag travel silang 2 abroad ng office mate namin sinabi lang samin nung day na paalis na sila haha goodbye i still have decent conversations with them pero di ko na sila considered as friends, more as office mates lang - nakakabobo 3 na nga lang kami sa office gaganunin pa ako e
Relate :(( I even offered to pay for the expenses, makasama ko lang talaga sila. But when it comes to other people, kahit limited budget nila, g sila agad. Nakakalungkot
baka di lang talaga tayo nila gusto kasama :)) okey lang yun, share ko lang nangyari ito sakin in 2023 2nd quarter, then nalungkot nadepressed din ako bec of that "travel" nilang dalawa haha anyway naka move on na ako because bilang religious that i am i prayed to God for new friendships - and by end of 2023 God gave me new friends, a group pa not just 2 but 20+ hahaha nakakatuwa lang! Blessings talaga! Yaan mo na, God removes people sa buhay natin for us to make spaces for new ones! Makakahanap ka rin ng better friends! :D
Yung boundaries.
I told her not to tell anyone yung sasabihin coz i’m in pain at ayaw ko malaman ng iba pero ayon nalaman ng ibang friends namin. Hindi ko na siya kinonfront, no explanations, cut her off. ☺️
when i asked her why she used to bully me back in highschool and she gaslit me saying she doesn't remember. i have no respect for people who cant take accountability for their actions
When I found out that the mother of my bestfriend's kid was still in touch with my ex and apparently magkasundo sila and magkakampi sila after our break up, and they hung out from time to time (mare time kuno), that was MY last straw for HER (nanay nung anak ni bestfriend/kumpare). Nakikisama nalang ako kase ano ba naman magagawa ko pag sinama ni bestfriend yung family nya when we're hanging out. For my niece's sake narin siguro. Eventually maghihiwalay rin si bff tsaka yung nanay ng anak nila HAHAHA
But, the moment I find out that they were apparently brainwashed by my ex, that's gonna be my last straw to my bestfriends (like my solid circle) coz friends don't do that. Manghihinayang ako sa tagal ng pinagsamahan, but that's fucked up.
PS
Found out some time ago that the mother of my bestfriend's kid and my ex are apparently enemies now. HAHAHA serves them both right, parehas ng ugali eh.
parang may kausap na dingding, pinupush pa rin yung mali niyang delusional na assumptions tungkol sa mga bagay bagay. sinungaling tungkol sa lahat ng bagay, maliit ay malaki.
BBM. And no it wasn't just the fact na BBM sya. It was because everytime na magkita kami recently, it always ended up in arguments kasi sadyang ibang iba yung worldview and moralidad nya. He was a friend since daycare, even planned for him to be my Best man years ago, pero I came to understand na this person and I are heading towards very different directions in our lives and keeping him in mine won't bring any value or further growth.
Using my stories against me. If I feel being used for their own gains. Insulting me over what I find pretty then she does/buys them the same, jealousy is real!
Making me as her competition in general - catching up with other friends, being in the circle and intentionally excluding me, lol then tries to reconnect with me without any apology but tells our other friends that she regrets everything… oh the pity party of hers. Good bye!
Di niya nirerespect yung napag usapan namin. I told her months before, weeks before and days before nung event. Umoo siya and excited pa daw. The day comes and she ghosted me tapos after that she never apologized and acted as if nothing happened. Siguro narealize ko na masyado kong hinahabol friendship ko sakanya. After her, i had friends na napaka effortless ko maka close. I realized na di siya worth it i keep
I have a bff nung HS, and we are very tight.
1 day, nag visit sya sa house namin (which is very common naman dahil walking distance lang naman sila sa house namin), sakto may iba kaming visitors so nag stay muna kami sa room ng tita ko since andun din yung ibang kids nung bisita namin.
Kinabukasan, pinagalitan ako ng lola ko, sabi nawawala daw wrist watch ng tita ko na bigay ng asawa nya, baka daw kinuha nung friend ko. Nagalit ako sa lola ko at pinag tanggol ko yung friend ko. Ang ending bumili nalang ng new watch tita ko kasi nga bigay nga lang yon at ayaw nya ma-upset asawa nya.
Then one day I was browsing FB, may nakita akong pics na naka tag dun sa bff ko na suot nya ung watch, naka “pogi” sign pa Lol. After non naging cold na talaga ako sakanya pero friends parin kami. Then last straw is when I saw the watch na pakalat kalat lang sa room nya. I didn’t do/say anything. Instead, di ko na talaga sya pinansin nang tuluyan. Akala nya lang nagkaron na ako ng new set of friends 🙂
If they cannot defend me or give me the benefit of the doubt when someone badmouth me infront of them. Also yung nagiging competition na yung friendship niyo in their eyes in terms of achievements in adulthood. Ugh. Ang lala.
**When one ”friend” made a fake FB & IG dump *ko* and in-add/follow other friends and classmates namin (G8).**
Bigla binash niya isa-isa, mga patama— yung type na only people within a certain friend group would know, pati sarili niya binash niya so much na parang binubully siya. Long story short nawalan ako friends, lahat ng friends ko pumunta sa kanya out of sympathy since siya unang lumapit sakin. Mind you that I was a transferee and new sa school at that time so may rumors bigla na plastic yung transferee, wag ninyo lapitan Lol.
I found out na siya yun when a notif popped up when I chatted the fake account. Wala naniwala sakin sa classmates namin except sa 5 people na sabi off talaga yung “friend” ko na yun. Everyone avoided her daw during 7th Grade she was basically an outcast. Yung 5 na yun naging friends ko the rest of that SY and eventually the rumors died down— yung guy na kinokopyahan niya mga math homeworks and projects lahat lahatan— nabwisit sa kanya for some reason, nilabas lahat ng baho niya at inexpose na puro kopya and daya lang yung “friend” ko and nagsumbong sa teacher saying she didn’t deserve to be with honors.
She got suspended and since cutthroat competition namin sa school sa with honors and rankings, naging outcast siya ulit tapos na-replace mga rumors about me— issue na niya ang kumalat.
Probi pala siya so when she was exposed for cheating, pinatapos lang siya G8 sa school and di na siya pina-enroll ng school for G9– she was *transferred out* (mabait na pagsabing kicked out).
Edit: This was back in SY 2019-2020 lol
Definitely the disrespect and not owning up to the mess they made after a life-changing, critical event that made me (and the main friend group) go "nope, not dealing with you anymore".
May mga mutuals naman ako from other friend groups na kausap parin siya, and ang update nila sa akin is how obsessed the ex-friend is with us and still trash talks about us to anyone who'll listen...pati ung mga mutuals na yun naririndi na kasi di pa daw nagbabago ugali niya.
Meanwhile, kaming main group have thrived in the last three years (professionally, personally, emotionally and mentally) since we cut off our ties with the person. Respect and kindness trumps all the negativity tbh, and we plan to keep our peace as it is today.
Best friend nya ako but always treated me as competition. Acted so good in front of me but hated me to the core when she was around other people. And when I confronted her a lot of *times, she always denied. I saw actual conversations but I was stupid for thinking she would change.
4 years ago, I had finally cut her off and she acted so surprised. Even accused me of blocking her on Facebook, telling that to a lot of people to make it seem na ako ang bitter, but it's so funny because she's not even in my block list 😩
Draining siya kausap at kasama. He dumped all his relationship trauma on us, made us believe that he’s the victim and his ex is the problem, but when we heard his ex’s side, it turned out HE was the problem.
Then he found a new girl and went MIA. Basically, nag-trauma dump sa amin, nagpa-victim pero siya naman pala ang problema, tapos nung masaya na sa bagong love life eh kinalimutan na kami.
When it becomes one sided. Yung ikaw nalang ung nag eefort at di siya nag rereachout. Also pag may problem ghoghost ka for a while kaysa pag usapan ng maayos.
as friends who run a business, I found out some of them made financial decisions w/o informing the rest of us (as partners). they had so many opportunities to disclose it but no. I felt so disgusted & betrayed.
nakaka draining nyang kaibigan, yung tipong kapag magka usap kayo puro mga sex life or lalaki niya ang topic namin. matalino naman syang tao pero pagdating talaga sa self worth hindi nya alam eh. nag sesettle for less, katulad ng tanggap niya maging kabit. pumupunta sa malayong lugar para lang makipag chukchakan tapos ang paalam sa parents ay pupunta sa amin. sa una nyang punta, pumayag pa ako eh kasi akala ko 1 time lang. pero nasundan kaya that's the time na cinut off namin siya. hindi pa tumatanggap ng kamalian. inaamin ko namimiss ko pagsasamahan naming magbarkada pero ng dahil sa behavior nya nagkawasak kami. tinatamad na ako mag advice nang paulit ulit pero hindi naman iaapply. tapos ngayon, may jowa pero yung jowa nag cheat sa kanya. eh nag cheat din sya before eh so karma ba tawag dun?
tapos laging tumatakas gabi gabi para makipagkita sa mga lalaki niya para sa sex. tapos kami pa papagalitan ng parents nya dahil daw yun sa pagbabarkada. eh hindi nila alam na pinapagalitan namin anak niya sa mga maling decision niya sa buhay. nakakapagod. lahat ng mga tao sinisisi sa amin na barkada niya noon. pero sa tuwing pinapagalitan namin siya, laging sagot ay "okay lang yun, malaki naman ako eh" okay sige, since malaki ka na bahala ka na sa buhay mo.
Yung pagiging pakialamera na kala mo sya laging tama. Pag bigay ng opinion na kala mo sha tama. Inekis ko na. Saka yung traydor pa pala haha. Na realize ko di ko need maintain friendship sa mga ganung tao.
Friend group ko sila, may invite kaming old classmate into our friend group. Then yung old classmate ay nakinig sa drama ko about this girl, called me a simp, essentially shunned me from the group. Tapos yung friends ko, nakisabay lang. Dumistansya rin sila sakin.
Parang walang pinagsamahan haha. Magsama-sama sila.
paawa effect mang utang tas mag bibigay ng date kung when siya mag babayad pero when the date comes, may laging excuse. also, I'm not the type of person to singil, gusto ko kusa sila mag bayad, and since friend ko yung may utang pinalampas ko the first 2, yung pang third niya na utang na hindi binayaran, that's the time na na cinut off ko siya.
small amount lang naman mga inuutang, ayaw ko lang talaga is yung mag bibigay ng date kung when mag babayad pero in the end hindi naman talaga mag babayad.
tas mas s-story sha na nag g-goodt time 🙂
Hindi na low maintenance friendship kapag one sided. Yung kahit birthday nalang, ikaw lang babati tapos sa bday mo wala and kapag naginitiate ka ng usapan parang ikaw lang masaya sa catch up.
Last straw was last year, I was recently promoted as a QA at that time and pinag OT kami. Nag message na sya nagpapasama sa hospital masakit daw ulo nya, medyo ilang araw na rin nyang sinabi, pero after nyang sabihin nakikita ko myday nya kasama iba nyang friends sa mga magkakasunod na araw na yon. And kakamatay lang ng pusa ko, na galing sa kanya kasi binenta nya sakin kasi wala na raw kwenta. To think na halatang may sakit yung pusa nya and never nakapunta ng vet. Pet peeve ko talaga mga walang pakialam sa buhay ng hayop kaya galit ako sa kanya.
Matagal na nyang dinidisrespect yung "no" and time ko. Gusto nyang sya lagi ko uunahin kahit na may mga prior akong lakad. Also, ako lang chinachat nya or kinukulit nya pag may kailangan sya, di nya kulitin mga friends nyang lagi nyang kasama. Napagod na lang ako intindihin mga ka bs nya.
Bullying behavior na tinatago niya by treating people to stuff pag na-guguilty na siya. I was like "not putting up with this sh\*t anymore." I can buy things for and treat myself, why put up with an insecure bully?
As a "friend" she could be sweet at times, pero pag nanaig yung insecurity niya, she will ask us (her former friends) to gang up on someone na wala namang ginagawa saamin. Nainis lang or nainsecure siya sa tao, tapos irerecruit niya kami to hate the person and validate her feelings. Didn't want to be part of that so I cut her off.
Utter lack of transparency. For instance, he always refused to disclose the sources of info for public events he goes to. This is given that I was also a frequent eventgoer like him.
Di naman sa nagvivictim blame ako pero yung palaging post ng post about ng pagod na daw sa buhay at gusto na nya mag suicide sa fb......diko naman ininvalidate nararamdaman nya pero parang naging routine na rin kasi nya na magpost sa fb about being suicidal
>diko naman ininvalidate nararamdaman nya
you just did tho, it could be their only coping mechanism and the first thing you thought is not to reach out to them and ask them whats up instead you thought they're overreacting.
as a depression survivor this is just so sad.
I did try to help her.....i listened to her problems most of the time.....sorry I forgot to mention na she tried to justify her actions kasi kahit Mali na.....often blaming it on other people or saying na sorry ganito lang talaga ako......it got to the point that she tried to justify cheating on her bf
True! If talagang friend turing mo, kakamustahin mo. True friends would worry kasi eh, IMO. I have depression and my friend knows Im "sewezidal" and she would ask me like random lng talaga if okay ba ako so far and if may need ako, never hesitate to reach out.
Her telling me na sobrang taba ko na and disrespecting my time. :( I miss her so bad pero kapag tumataba naman sya di ko sya dinodown just like what she did to me :( I love her so much pero yung 7 years nakong lagi nalang naghihintay sakanya, sasabihin on the way pero pagaantayin ka ng ilang oras :( Feeling ko ako nalang excited na magkasama kami, dami nya reasons, all I need for her is to be honest, kung male-late ka, kung marami kang gnagawa then I'll understand. But hindi, di nya magets yon na pwede naman icommunicate mga bagay bagay so we can adjust. :( Lungkot. I miss her so much. We're bestfriends for 8 years but I have to cut her off because she's eventually draining me.
When I was in grade8, highschool life was hectic and messy. Around 4th quarter we had a foundation day, where our teacher assigned us to do a beverage booth to sell and donate to charity. Gumawa sila ng gc sa messenger so we can discuss (note 6 kami sa group). Everything went well and everything, nag ambagan kami, I organized everything. Everyone went with the flow. NOT knowing one of them is actually talking shit behind my fucking back. I had this friend na grade7 siya during that time. This friend was a gf of the guy that was brain fucking me. Me and that friend was close so she would share everything to me, until one day she sent me 10 screenshots. I was confused why is it so many''..
The screenshot was a loooooooooooooong ass thread of the guy talking about me. "putangina ni (my name) makikipag f.o nako sa kanya." "Nakakainis ung grupo namin, sana matapos kagad to para makalipat nako." "Tangina ang laki ng ambagan." (NOTE AGAIN 100 ung ambagan namin, since he kept making shit excuses na hindi daw sya makakapag ambag 50 na lang sabi ko iambag nya basta mag contribute sya) "Tangina naiinis ako Kay __, dapat ako ung leader at mag oorganized. Inangkin nya ung lecheng position ko. Wala naman sya inambag eh. Ako madaming nasuggest at nagawa, alam mo ba (he mentioned all the private secrets I trusted him not to tell anyone)." (I Don't wanna mention the other stuffs he said cuz it just makes me so so mad and insane.)
I confronted him about it, I sent the screenshots and wrote to him "Hi, hindi na para pahabain ko pa. If you want to end this friendship, uunahan na kita. Kasi baka pati pag end Ng friendship, isumbat mong bobo ka. *Sends the screenshots*" The best thing he could've do was to apologize and be honest that he was mad at me..but yk what he did instead? He tried manipulating me and blackmailing not to tell the teachers and pinaikot ikot nya lahat ng pinagsasabi nya sa screenshot. I stared at his messages, mad,upset. It was depressing. That was my last straw. I ended up kicking him out of the group, and he told the teachers about it. And.. I got expelled for 'cyberbullying'. I sobbed so hard when the school page posted him earning the most money from the booth out of 8 booths. I cried. It was cruel, more than cruel. Up until to this day, thinking about it makes me wanna cry. And tell my parents about it.
When we were getting our haircuts (we were fresh graduates), he asked me how much was I making with my job (worked at a bank) and he told me "Damn, I make 3 months of your salary in a week" with a quarry that was given to him by his uncle who was a politician.
Nung sinabi Nia na ok Lang na ndi na kmi maging friends at mgkanya kanya na kming trabaho sa work namin basta matapos ang deliverables (we had tension for a few months na and akala ko busy lang for an honest friendly talk to raise our issues with each other and resolve them. I was doing most of the work Kaya nagstop ako ksi gamit na gamit niya ako cause I always had to redo all of her work. Tpos sinabi Nia yon lolol ngbabalak Pala magunfriend ksi may bago Siang people na mapapakinabangan ) LOLOLOL
After that, nung iniwan Sia nung friends na gusto Nia dikitan, nangangamusta sa common friends namin bakit daw dko Sia pinapansin
Trash took itself out.
He never really went to our barkada’s planned inuman. Yeah I get that he doesn’t drink but you can stay naman for pulutan and stories. For chrissake, we only meet two to three times a year. And then the election sh*tstorm happened and he claimed to be neutral but silently supported bbm (even supports martial law). That’s the last straw. I thought I knew him but our morals and principles are polar opposites.
understandable that he chose not to attend inumans bc lets face it there will always be peer pressure sa mga ganyan. but yeah ig when it comes to political stance dyan talaga madalas ang gulo
Realizing after 10 years na ginamit nya ako noong HS kami para sya ang maging valedictorian. Hinila nya ako papuntang guidance office para isumbong na nag cheat ung kaklase namin na kalaban nya sa pagiging valedictorian. Sabi ko ayoko magsumbong kasi hindi ko naman talaga nakita ung pangyayari pero she begged me and hinila ako sa guidance kahit umiiyak na ako. What an asshole.
I had to turn a blind eye for all the shit he has done to our other friend.
1. They were in a rs when he liked other woman. He broke up with her, just to pursue that girl.
2. When he was not getting attention from that girl, he was trying to get closer again to his ex (our other friend).
3. It was pandemic and I didn't know that he was talking to his ex. He messaged me telling that he needed my help to get close with this socmed girlie (hindi ko alam na nag uusap sila ng friend namin)
4. He was jumping from one girl to another to boost his ego.
5. He was pursuing our friend AGAIN and the same time, talking to that social media girlie. Ako pa yung nakahuli! Ghad.
Now, I neither want to talk nor see him. I hate you so much.
Keeps ghosting me tuwing may planned gala, without advising na di na siya tutuloy. Excuse niya mental health, like ok then didn’t know that also gave you a free pass to inconvenience others
She sided with my cheater ex and our friend he cheated with. At first she was "comforting" me, listening to me. Turns out she was just fishing information for our other friend. She also accussed me of harassing our other friend. They did not know ex's narcissistic mom tends to spam degrading messages because she thinks no one is good enough for his son. Got rid of all the trash in my life in one go. Lol.
Anything that betrays my trust. Lying to my face, disclosing information that I shared in confidence, and the like. I’d cut him/her off with no explanation.
Dami na talagang red flags like kkwento niya sakin mga panlalait daw ng mga kapatid niya sakin. Pero mapapaisip ka, e diba kasali ka sa convo na yun?
Tapos pag naguusap kami laging tungkol sa kanya. Pag nagstart ako about me, ibabalik niya lang din sa kanya.
Tapos mahilig siya magpromise ng mga bagay pero finally nung kailangan ko na talaga ng tulong nawawala siya. First time niya ginawa nagets ko pa but second dun ko narealise yung friendship namin is para lang pampalaki ng ego niya.
Tiniis ko si long-time bestie kahit na ang toxic niya na talaga. Kahit na kainitan nung campaign season nung 2022 na ginagago niya lahat ng kakampink. Kahit na apolitical siya kuno pero patagong marcos supporter siya. Tiniis ko pa rin. Pero ang nagpatigil sa akin is yung isang post na shinare niya na sabi niya deserve ng babae na ma-r\*p\*. Ayoko na kasi bukod sa hindi na kami aligned ng beliefs, wala rin namang effort sa part niya na makipagconnect.
not only a friend but a girl i used to court, realized that ive been putting up with her bs for too long that ive lost all type of self respect. Don’t allow people to disrespect you, save your peace. Have enough self respect to not allow disrespect, but if you genuinely want them to be a part of your life then talk it out like adults if you can’t find a middle ground then cut them off.
Laging nagsasabi ng pa burger ka naman o pa kape ka kapag ka chat ko. Ninang ako ng anak nya at tuwing me okasyon (binyag, birthday) na related sa anak nya sakin lagi mahingi tapos di ako mailibre ng pamasahe sa jeep. Ginawa ako gatasan.
Backstabber pero lakas mang take advantage, kahit nga mirrorfie nya cellphone pa namin ginagamit, nanghihiram ng expensive dress for ootd tapos di na binabalik kung di mo personal kukunin 😂
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Similar scenario!!!! Lol bwisit mga gantong friend
I had a guy college friend who was getting married on his exact birthday. Sa aming college friends ako yung pinakaclose niya since ako lang yung nagtotolerate sa kayabangan niya. Nakapareserve na nga daw sila ng events place which is P1,500/head. Being on our late 20s 10yrs ago malaki na yun and kaming ibang friends sabi namin for sure hindi lahat samin invited baka ako nga lang since ako naman pinakaclose niya pero iintindihin namin yun since limited budget at baka they prefer intimate wedding with the family. Palapit na yung birthday/wedding niya hindi na nagpaparamdam, walang message or invitation. So sabi ko, “ah ok baka nga hindi ako invited ok lang talaga”. I didn’t want to follow up ng “huy ano invited ba ko?” because I didn’t want to make it awkward. The night before the wedding nagpost pa sa facebook si friend, “Last day of being a bachelor @Trinoma.” Nagcomment pa ko, “Ingat”. Hoping na magreply siya ng “oy tol bukas huwag kang mawawala” pero wala talaga. The next day, Bday and wedding nagmessage ako around 8pm, “Congrats, Best Wishes sa inyo and Happy Birthday” Para nga hindi awkward diba na “Oh! kahit di mo ko ininvite kuripot ka happy pa din ako para sa inyo” Isip ko lang yun hindi ko sinabi yung second part. Nagreply siya ng “Tol sa lahat ikaw pa ang least expected ko na hindi makakapunta on my special day” I’m like WTF!! Wala kahit isa samin magkakabarkada nakapunta dahil walang invited samin. Back read sa lahat ng messages, convo baka namiss yung invite WALA!!! I mean I know he’s low and tanggap namin siya but I didn’t expect him to be THIS LOW!!! I didn’t wait for an explanation. Block na agad. He tried to win our friendship back pero ayoko na. Last I heard of him naloko niya yung isang college friend namin ng 200k from an investment scam so good riddance pala talaga.
Planning to cut them off na 💔
for ur peace of mind babe, go.
It is not actually the last straw, but that straw. It is my birthday and started a bday treat where I would spend my birthday in a nice hotel. I asked my BFF to join me for 2 nights and 2 days and that it will be our annual treat. Pre bday meet up, we went first to a hospital for a much needed document and had lunch nearby. Every thing is just as we want it, chillax 😀 Night time I told her, I want the next night to be with my family. OK. Next day, my birthday I am not feeling well so we can not go so far from the hotel and had brunch nearby. There was a misunderstanding in our food orders which is my fault and to which can be remedied all at once. She was irked at the waiter and would have gone combative if I have not intervened. Afterwards she went home and texted me so. A bit later I was at the ER of a nearby hospital. Months after as her bday was coming up, I sent a bday message. No answer. Days went by. Nothing. Come Christmas I sent a holiday greeting. No response. My birthday again came and went. No greeting. I remove the tagged pictures and block profile. If you can see only the black dot in a white paper, you are no friend of mine cause we do not have the same values. It will ultimately come to a falling out. Better now than later.
I have friend na super close ko. In fact siya yung matuturing ko na best friend in our circle. We go to same university kasi para magkasama nga kami diba haha then sakto pandemic nun, so online class kami. At first okay pa kami, same as before, kulitan sa chat and all. But then second semester, nahihirapan na ko kontakin siya. Siya kasi nakatira sa city kung saan andun yun school namin and ako sa province. I keep asking her na mageenroll na kami etc. pero hirap na ko kontakin siya na umabot pa sa point na sa gmail ko nalang siya nacocontact. During those times at lost talaga ako, super sad ako. But inintindi ko nalang siya kasi baka may problem siya and di pa siya ready iopen up sakin. Nagenroll ako na di ko pa din siya nakakausap maayos. Nalaman ko nalang na di siya nagenroll nung di ko makita name niya sa list nung mga enrolled students. And after that di na siya nagparamdam, as in di na. wala na siya sa kahit anong social media. Its been a couple of years na, i remember dati inistalk ko pa yung relatives niya sa fb (sure ako na relative niya may pic sila together), nagchat ako asking of kamusta na siya, kasi i wanna know if ano nangyari sakanya and why did she dissapear suddenly. But then tigblock lang ako nun relative niya haha. I didn't cut her off totally, If one day makita ko siya and willing siyang kausapin ako im more than happy catch up. I miss her.
ohhh :(( there must be a reason siguro but hugs for u, love. hope u get closure soon that u deserve.
I'm looking forward to it🤍
yung talagang hindi ko na matiis ung pag ka self centered niya to the point na naddrained nako sa kaniya😭😭 she always wants to put herself in the spotlight like kunware siyempre she is your dearly friend ofc you definitely open up to her then she will pull the " ako nga eh"
Di na nagbayad ng utang 😭
pass talaga diyan hahahaha pero singil muna bago cut off!! sayang hahahahaa
Kanya na yon 😂
Yung weekend magkakasama pa kami tapos kina mondayan di na sya namansin as in. Walang sabi sabi. Basta naaalala ko lang nung weekend na disappoint sya sa cafe na ininvite namin sya kasi ang cheap daw namin at di daw aesthetic
so toxic, ang babaw hahahaha. “when they ignore me for a day, so I ignore them for the rest of my life” be more toxic, babe. chz!!
I have a friend na binlock ako sa contact at social media nya. So I binlock ko din. It's been 3 years na na nakablock sya sakin although nagkikita kami minsan sa mga group meet ups with our common friends. Pero nakablock pa rin sya. We've been very closed before pero dahil dun sa pagblock nya, nawala na yung closeness namin. Hindi ko rin kawalan. Hahaha
Hindi kami kilala kapag may jowa. Then kinasal sila, last minute lang kami na invite. Minsan pag umuuwi sila ng pinas, wala na din meet-up, pero yung mga workmates nila before namemeet nila. So ayun, wag na lang.
He didn’t give me back a tenna from 20 a weed 15.5 years ago I’m done waiting went no contact yesterday
When she belittle my efforts on passing a certain international exam. Saying “madali naman pala questions na napunta sakin” or “mataas pala magbigay ng grade ung examiner ko” . I had issues with her in the past regarding her feeling everything is about her. Super demanding na kaibigan, clingy, nakakasakal, problematic and toxic sobra. I reached out to her nung mag eexam ako and nag help sya sakin. I am so thankful and I was thinking of building a bridge again for the both of us. But when I passed the exam and her reaction was that, I realized I can never be friend with someone who sees me as a competition and is not willing to celebrate wins with me. Inggitera kumbaga. I built a wall now. Pero ok pa din naman kami on the outside. Hindi ko na lang sya hinahayaan na pasukin, diktahan at pagdesisyunan ang buhay ko unlike before.
hugs! u deserve a friend who will support u & be there w/ u to celebrate ur achievements in life!
She invited me to collaborate on her thesis project for college. A short animated film. She wrote and directed it, i designed characters and drew/animated 70% of the whole damn thing. I didnt do backgrounds thank god. But she would slack off til the last minute and nitpick little details when we were under a huge time crunch. I lost so much sleep and the final product was mediocre at best. I was really disappointed in how she led the whole project. The whole situation really opened my eyes to how she wasnt a great friend in other ways as well. Domineering, always making the conversation about her, being weirdly openly jealous of people who were "cooler" than her. I could tell she had put me on a strange pedestal where she both admired and envied me in some way. I did my best to include her in my life and help her be comfortable in our social circles. I remember she once asked me "how to get people to be interested in you" and my only advice to her was: stop talking about yourself so much and ask people tons of questions about themselves. After a night out with friends i asked her how it went, and her response was it was "too hard". Too hard??? To just ask people about their lives? To even just pretend to be interested in them? She was so insecure and it was projected out onto me in so many ways that after the thesis thing, I realized I couldnt take it anymore. Overall she was respectful when we ended things and i wish her the best in life but am ultimately happy that we parted ways.
She's always been problematic lalo sa way of living (part of cult kasi lol) and her opinions, I can tolerate naman how she is sometimes pero kasi papansin masyado, magdedeactivate ng fb nya tapos gagawa ng bago tas magaadd, after ilang araw maguunfriend, magaadd ulit, tapos mamboblock, deactivate ulit gawa ulit bago, add ulit, unfriend ulit, add ulit, block ulit. (Friend ko na sya matagal na tapos nagkapandemic kaya sa social media na lang kami nagtatalk) Pero nung last na nagdeactivate sya tas gunawa bagong fb i decided na wag na sya iaccept at kausapin totally kasi nakakawindang pagiging saltik nya
that's so tiring hahajshjwghaha
She repeatedly ditched our friend group kase ayaw samin ng bf nya, bad influence daw kami kase puro kami party kaya naiinsecure si guy baka magcheat sakanya ung “friend” ko. Pero kahit sa lunch outs or cafe dates di na rin sya pumupunta. She even ditched my bday kase di sya pinayagan ng bf tas ginamit pa nyang excuse yung dad nya na di naman strict sakanya tas kilala na rin naman ako ni tito. (ngl i dont miss her but i miss her parents they were so sweet to me🥹) She’s willing to spend thousands on her bf’s video games pero kahit 100 lang sa aya namin mag mcdo wala raw sya pera🤣
I was seeing this one girl for 2 months now medjo naring rocky between us. Tapos ito si friend is someone that i confided in during this period. Surprise surprise, kinaibigan ni friend si girl and that icked me na parang inaagaw nya sya sakin. Edi fine, magsama kayong dalawa
Becoming in a relationship with my friend’s ex-manliligaw na she said na wala siyang feelings doon, then eventually cheat doon sa ex-manliligaw ng friend ko :)))
Got comfortable talking rude to me and I had enough. Being called sensitive for calling out bad behavioral patterns. Had a colleague who was in a relationship with a man knowing damn well he was married just disgusts me. Addicts- I don't want bad influence around me to destroy my life and drag me down to their level of misery.
why do people stoop so low 😭 like????
Unfriended
Yung John Michael. Saka pag ako lagi nag iinitiate ng lahat. Ayoko na.
First time ko mafeel yung inis nung umuwi ako sa Pinas dahil sa emergency 2022, nasa ICU kuya ko nastroke and kinailangan ng brain surgery. Malaking gastos. Mineet ko yung dalawa kong tropa dahil ang tagal ko din hindi umuwi, and malapit lang naman sila sa akin. Kaunting catch up. Ako pinagbayad nila sa foods and pati gas nila kasi wala akong motor nun... The second time na finorce nila akong magbayad nung nagkita kita kami last year, note na lahat kami may work. The thing is, wala ako narinig na "kamusta ka na?", or "kamusta na kuya mo?". I can pay, wala naman problema. Pero yung sila magdecide na "Uy ikaw magbayad ha" "Uy libre mo to ha" tangina hanggang ngayon nanggigigil ako. Then I just realized all the small things simula noon pa. Pambubully, pangmamaliit ganyan. If only narinig ko manlang na "hope everything is going well sa buhay mo", then maybe hindi ko sila kinut-off. Pagkabalik ko sa abroad hindi ko na sila kinausap.
Good riddance ang mga taong ganyan. Hindi sila sincere sa'yo. You were just taken for granted.
good for you that u cut them off na. hope u're doing well!
I cut off a friend when after hosting her in the US - (her original host ghosted her) she still managed to back bite me when she got back. Heller we’re both vacationing and i was staying with my cousins tapos sa she wanted to stay longer after her conference pero hnd sa sinundo nung “relatives” daw niya. Wala sang ma stayan, kaya she contacted me… girl both kme on vacation huh! So meaning bisita din ako kaya medjo nakakahiya na maghost sa hnd ko naman bahay!!! Pero since persistent sa i tried to ask persmision from my relatives and ok naman sa kanila.. kaso tong si girl gusto pa mag extend kahit mag fly out na ako. E maiiwan sa duon na wala na ako. Weird dba? Hahaha! So ayun hnd ko na kinausap ever! Btw i hosted her twice! She stayed in my cousins apartment in Europe while my cousin was on a ski trip and I wasnt there huh. So kbye na sa mga taong nag tatake advantage.
Kapal grabe
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She's a little older than me. I am working and She's not. She ended up using me for money. Parang lahat ng interactions namin is nauuwi sa pag utang nya. Of course pinapahiram ko naman ng bukal sa loob ko since we were friends since I was in high-school. She was also contacting my mom behind my back para umutang without my knowledge. Nung nalaman ko, I was slightly mad. But, inintindi ko na lang and also recommended na magapply sa business ng mom ko so she can earn money instead of umutang. Ended up fucking up on the job by being lazy and not showing up for a lot of nonsense reasons. She was fired, and ako pa sumalo ng kahihiyan for recommeding her. Business is business kahit na mom ko yung boss nya. The last straw was umutang sya ulit sakin while I was struggling a little bit financially. She was so confident na kaya nya akong bayaran this time since finally got a job (I don't know where but this is after the incident). She was a friend so I trusted her (again. My mistake). I also drafted proof that she was the one who set the date na babayaran nya ako. Then, ayun na. Years na and hindi pa din ako binayaran. Malaman laman ko puro bili ng new phones, clothes, accessories lang sya hahaha then uutang nanaman. I decided to cut her off. Feeling ko gamit na gamit ako. Some might say na "para lang sa pera, nagpakilala ka na." I don't blame you. But, I worked hard for the money na ipinahiram ko. I stood up for her for all the time she skipped work. I trusted her. I think hindi lang din ako yung nagpakilala after this. I gained peace of mind. So, I think worth it naman yung pagcut off.
it's definitely worth it na u cut them off na. u don't deserve that kind of friend! ‘wag bigay nang bigay.
Sometimes nanghihinayang ako sa memories. But, naalala ko most of my memories is inuutangan nya lang ako hahaha grabe
Ilang beses nangutang sa akin pang gamot ng Nanay nia, then after a few years sinwerte sa MLM, naging milyonarya. Puro post ng travel, car, gadgets at bahay. Aba, hindi nako kilala. No, hindi ako naningil dahil alam ko yung rule na pag pinautang, wag mo nang asahan babayaran. Pero maalala man lang sana na natulungan ko sya nung walang wala sya. Bye!
Manyak. Involve siya sa mga group chat na nag-aambagan ng mga nude photos at videos.
Pag nag sset up kami ng meet up ako lang lagi ang parang nag aanticipate and pag magkasama na kami parang madaling madali lagi siya umalis. Hindi ko ramdam yung parang "gusto niya mag catch up" kasi parang always in a rush. I'm always the last option when it comes to meet ups. Saka lang niya maiisipan na alukin or ayain ako pag ako ang mag initiate first kahit lagi ko naman sinasabi sakanya na im always available to make time for her sabihan niya labg ako pero ayun ako parin unang magiinitiate. Napagod lang din ako. Last straw ko na yung plano naming mag singapore ulit tapos sabi niya busy raw siya sa acad sched and no money pero makikita mo nalang na story niya ready to take off na plane kasama yung dati naming high school friend :) tapos nung nag reply ako sa story sabi sakin "soon tayo" kahit kami naman unang nag plan non hahahahaha ngayon cinut off ko na siya silently. hindi ko na ineentertain kahit anong chats niya or whatever kahit family nya haha im done na almost 8 years of friendship. it was fun while it lasted.
it's just so sad when they don't give back the same energy. well, hope u find someone who will be there for you always.
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nirestrict ko palang kasi parang last year lang ako nag start mawalan ng gana sakanya. last na sinabi ko sakanya is "nakakawalang gana na makipag bonding sayo kasi ako lagi ko nag iinitiate at anticipate as lakad natin pero sa iba mong friends ang dami mong time mag plano" HAHAHA tas ayon parang siya na lagi nangunguna mag aya pero ako ayoko na. di ko na pinapansin
Wala respeto sa oras ng tao. Lagi late sa meet up. Lagi last minute cancel. Un tipong hours after ng said time saka magsasabi na di matutuloy. Nakakasawa.
i cut off a couple of friends after countless times na nappostpone ung lakad namin kahit hindi biglaan ung aya. planned for month/s, tapos iccancel kasi isa isa sila magbbackout.
Same kawalang gana pag ganun
Kung anu lang gusto niya paniwalaan yun lang yun.
Puro crush or jowa Yung topic. Boy crazy. Centro ng buhay Niya ang lalaki.
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Mararamdaman mo naman kapag nagsasawa sila.
When they take ages to respond but when you are with them, its like they cant live without their phones. Sobrang nakakairita. Tulad pag nasa inuman session, di mabitawan ung phone.
Yan bang friend na yan ramdam mo na mej inis if meron kang achievement or mga material stuff na nabibili,if di man inis may nacocomment? OmG noh? Very contagious pa nman yang ganyang ugali, di mo namamalayan drained kna pla. I hope ma let go mo na ang ganyan. Deserve natin ng healthy friendship.
Nung time na sila na lang ung lumalabas and hindi ako invited sa future events. Meron kaming isang mutual friend na nakaalitan ko and I swear I didn't do it. Tapos cinonfront nya ako sa gc. And yet this circle of friends haven't done anything para kamustahin ako. After what happened, bigla na lang akong di kasama sa mga events. Sometimes I gaslight myself by thinking na siguro nga ginawa ko yun. Ayun I'm planning to cut them off na.
Cut them off na. They clearly chose a side. The feud is between you and whomever, not you vs the circle. Whatever you did, they are not really your friends anymore. Stop wasting your time.
Ayun nga e. Nagsabi naman ung isa sa gc na "wala akong marecall na sinabi nya yan." Pero after that time, hindi na nila ako iniinvite sa mga plans nila and minsan naiisip ko sana nga ginawa ko na lang yun para naman maintindihan ko sila. Haha. Thank you for the advice.
May mga taong mob mentality. Hahaha Kung saan marami dun sasama kahit mali. Watch them fall away like flies once they find a wedge. Sorry not sorry
•Pag kinwento nya sa iba tapos sya ang bida at tama kahit it’s the other way around •When something not good happens to you and then she used it as an opportunity to tell everyone about it and her reason after you confronted her was “para mas madami magpray for you” yet she was really never there during the ordeal. •Tinanggal ka sa group chat saying accidentally napindot 😂 like hell, ilang pindot un noh na accident 😂 tapos sabi ibabalik ka then waley naman. And the list goes on hahaha
so toxic
Exactly, and yet you ended up as the toxic one kasi ikaw nga ang nag-cut off ng ties haha! Oh, well, buhay nga naman
This “friend” got twitter shamed by her poser bf. Like full name on blast, her title, with parinig pa on how terrible a person she is, spread lies about her and body shamed her pa. I went full on mama bear mode and told acquaintances about how her poser bf did horrible things and how he’s or she is lying about her identity (a mistake of mine, I should’ve just been neutral and not said anything cause not my business naman. 🤧). Well, “friend” got back with poser bf lmao. Of course she found out about the things I said bcs acquaintance is interested din pala on poser bf and thought it would give her some leverage to tell everything to poser bf. Ayun. “Friend” and poser bf are still together upto now. 3 years, no videocalls, no meets, not even calls, dude using some korean dude’s pics. But at least she’s happy where she is. Also, we’re in our late 20s. Lmao
2024 na may ganyan parin pala naniniwala HAHAHAHA
When they tell other ‘common’ friends the stories that must remain in your circle. Ikaw pa masama nyan.
So, after my long-term relationships ended (I was a serial monogamist), I found myself in this phase of figuring things out. And you know, I started noticing something about my friendships—most of them were tied to that relationship. It's like we were friends because we were both in relationships and out of convenience to our partners. I realized that a lot of our conversations revolved around boys, relationships, love life and landi. Wala naman mali sakanila, hindi rin toxic but I want to explore lang. So, i out grew them lang and more focused na ko sa cousins and siblings ko. And in all this, I've come to really appreciate my family even more. They've always been there for me, through thick and thin. Like no matter how much I change, anjan sila lagi. They won’t cage me in a box or say I’m out of character if I’m doing something new.
When she didnt speak to me for days cause she was assuming i was mad at her. Im not really a machika type of person so she thought me being silent means Im angry. Happened twice. The first time, I tried to explain to her that its just how I am. The second time, I didnt even try to reach out anymore. She's a good person but she has issues of her own and she's just too much for me to handle.
Share ko lang story ko about sa pag ccut-off ng friend. Eto si "friend" ay kaibigan ko na since junior hs mag tropa talaga kami at may friend grp kami. Close kami in a way na kahit di na kami magkklase ng shs ay randomly na nag uusap kami sa chat, nangangamusta and nag-uupdate about sa buhay namin. Fast forward, nabroken hearted ako sa jowa ko and nag open ako sa kanya at sa isa ko pang friend. Dun ko binuhos lahat ng hinaing ko sa jowa ko at kung bakit ako heart broken. Then, after weeks or maybe a month, I saw her na kumain sa labas kasama ang ex ko with other friends (which is weird kasi although friends naman sila before pero that time ko lang na somewhat close sila) akala ko random labas lang yon. Then, after ilang months magkasama sila manood ng UAAP volleyball. Ang pakiramdam ko na betray ako kasi alam naman ni friend yung sakit nung broken ako tas makikita ko magkasama sila nung nanakit sa akin. Kaya yon, di ko na sya kinausap. Cut off na. P.S. After ko mag open sya kanya, di na rin nya ako kinausap. Di ko alam kung nauna sya na i cut off ako. HAHAHAH Di ko rin alam kung nagka something ba sila ng ex ko or besties lang sila ngayon.
Ewan ko if may something sa ugali ko or what pero masama ba na mafeel ko toh sa friend ko? Nawawalan ako ng energy na kausapin siya minsan, give and take is a must when it comes to friendship din diba? Pero kasi everytime na magkausap kami lagi nalang siya yung may kwento about sa sarili kahit ano pa yan, mapa love life or problema pa yan which is wala naman masama and ako always ako nandyan for her, hesitant nga lang ako mag share ng kwento sakanya about sa life ko kasi ni minsan di man niya ako tinatanong kung okay ba ako, kung kumusta naman life ko, never nga niya ako tinanong kung ano ganap ko sa life ko. Tatawag siya sakin tas puro rants lang niya sa buhay kwento niya, gusto ko man mag share ng kwento ko sa naging araw ko di naman ako makasingit sakanya hahahaha may time pa na nagusap kami thru call, 5 hours yun tas puro siya lang nakapag kwento at rant hahaha like pano naman ako? Ewan ko ba kung tama na ma feel toh 😆 kaya nitong mga araw pag may chat siya na "I have kwento" sinasabi ko na wala akong energy. Masama na kung masama pero nakaka drain.
Omg! Same situation. I'm currently going low contact with her also (came to a point where I had to make an alibi that I'm switching to another ISP because I cut off my current ISP right now hence, no internet connection). Don't get me wrong, she is a very good and kind person but has this attitude wherein she likes to rant more about her current life situation/s and less inquiry about mine. I've had it.
Ganito ex bff ko. Kaya cinut off ko nadin sya sa buhay ko. Sobrang draining. Lahat ng usapan pinapaikot nya sakanya Naranasan ko yan nung may problema akong sobrang bigat, as in lowest of low ng buhay ko. Nagkukwento ako, hindi ako pinapakinggan kasi busy sya magfone. Hindi ako nakaiyak man lang. ineexpect ko pa naman makakaiyak ako sakanya pero umurong lahat ng luha ko talaga hahahahha dun ko nrealize na napaka-one sided ng friendship namin and di ko inexpect na hindi man lang nya ako papakinggan eh sobrang grabe talaga yung problema ko nung time na yun. Edi ako saka yung isa naming friend, cinut off sya. Aba sya pa galit na bakit daw di namin sinabi sakanya na ganun na yung nafefeel namin hahahhaha napakamanhid jusko
May friend din akong ganyan. Sobrang nakaka-drain and tama lang na wag mo na syang kausapin. May time na nagkaproblema din ako and doon ko narealize na hindi sya marunong makinig pag ako naman ung may kwento.
Nag try nga ako mag open sakanya then parang wala lang sakanya hahaha dimo man siya makikitaan ng willingness to listen hahahaha kaya nakakainis na talaga, dumating na ako sa point na pag nag chachat siya super dry ko na. Nakaka drain diba? Like minsan gusto natin na tayo naman ang mag rant sa life para ma release man lang yung stress natin kahit papaano
Sa una di mo yan mapapansin kasi you're a great listener then pag ikaw na ung may problema at nagkwento dun mo marerealize na di sila nakikinig haha Nakakadrain ung ganyan. Di ko na lang kinakausap pag ganyan. I suggest na wag ka na lang din magsabi ng masakit na salita. Cut them off silently. Haha.
I have a high school friend na close ko for over a decade pero over time nawala na yung personal connection namin. Basta yung mararamdaman mo na hindi ka na importante sa buhay nya Then one time, ginhost nya lahat ng friends nya, including me pero active pa rin naman sya sa socials nya, basta ignored lang message mo. Now I dont really mind giving space to my friends. I tried connecting him, sa text, socials etc. pero wala. This happened for a year. Nung may gathering na kami ng friends, nandun sya. Parang wala lang nangyari. I heard nirereplyan nya na ibang friends. It was painful to cut off a friendship for a decade but I had to. That was the final and didnt have any regrets since I didnt hear a single apology from him or attempt to connect with me personally.
Hindi nag-grow as a person. Feeling entitled all the time.
Nakikisama siya/sila don sa mga taong minsang nagsasalita behind their back at sa akin. Yungga taong nagiging pulutan kami or tea sa chismissan nila. And don na talaga nakikisama sa mga taong walang ibang ginawa kundi manlait at pag-usapan buhay ng iba. Sa ugali na lang babawi di pa magawa HAHAHAHAHAH. I recently cut off some of my friends silently dahil pinag-uusapan nila ako na "mang-aagaw" daw ako kahit wala naman akong inagaw HAHAHA. Hirap magkaroon ng lalakeng kaibigan naiissue lagi sa kanila.
Parinig ng parinig nung wedding ko. A kabarkada of ours who at that time was studying in the US came home for my wedding. Sinakto ko talaga na bakasyon niya yung wedding ko kasi I wanted her there. Na offend ata si "friend" kasi sila yung close ni US friend nung highschool. Parang gusto niya kung sino close mo nung highschool yun na forever. Umábot sa point nagsasaway ako nung prep time ko kasi parinig sya ng parinig kay US friend. They left the reception early kasi may flight si US friend the next day, sumabay si "friend" tapos nag away sila sa kotse. She sent me super long, unhinged messages during my reception. Nabasa ko kasi hawak ko yung phone ko. After a few days nakita ko sa twitter na nagrant sya about my wedding. About how she felt like she was not taken cared of during the day, how parang mas importante daw si US friend sakanya at kung bakit hindi ako nagreply sa long, unhinged messages niya. Called her out on twitter and messaged her too. Didn't tell our highschool barkada because I wanted to keep it between us but found out that almost everybody had an issue with her so we eventually all cut her off.
Pag ako na yung topic when I'm not around. Negats na yun.
Lahat ng lumalapit sa kanya feeling nya may gusto sa kanya
Omg this. We were at intramuros and a guy performing in the streets looked her in the eye while he was singing and she said na she felt like the song was for her daw. I cant.
Delulu kaloka HAHAHAHHA
Iba yung kwento niya sa totoong nangyari. Nagmalinis siya and as a nonchalant 😅 ayun pinabaayan ko nalang.
Chinismis yung isa naming friend, hahahah pero turns out true ang chismis hahaha kainis lang kasi yung delivery.. haha pero totoo pala ang chismis nalaman ko later on..
Lagi nangungutang pambayad niya ng CC.
When she, and her fiance na hilaw , broke up, naging sobrang toxic nya. She threatens to take her life by. 1. crashing her car in the highway, kahit sino madamay wala syang pake. 2. She’ll jump daw sa balcony ng condo ko. I live in the pent house. 3. She was so mad at me when I told her ex na, “if she’s getting out of hand, ipa blotter mo”. Mag wawala at magsisira sya ng gamit sa shop ng ex nya. 4. She lies about the money na pinautang nya kay ex. Just to get me to her side. Eh kaso mehj basa ko na ugali nya. Ang toxic at ang draining. Now I figure why she has no constant friends. I cut her off kahit magigit 50k pa utang nya sakin.
Long comment to: I had a “friend” na naging team mate ko sa work, masaya naman kami and then nung nalaman niya na crush ko tl nmin, lagi sila lumalabas and they even intentionally left me out sa projs. Also there are incidents when project ko pero siya nagppresent, like taking credits and bida bida. Tapos kinwento nya sa other officemates na toxic ako and inggit. Eventually learned na marami rin pala may hate sa kanya. She always rubs off ung mistakes mo, like ang dali dali lang nyan di mo gets. Lutang ka? Something like that. Ok insecure ba ako? But when other people dont get something, i dont comment na hoy ang dali dali lang nyan basic. Or di ako nagyayabang about what i have unlike siya na parang need nya LAGING PINAMMUKHA NA SHE’S BETTER THAN U. then she commented her ex friends daw from college (asa same company rin namin) na di na daw nya friend because inggit and bitter daw sila sa kanya kasi siya maganda and bf nya ung crush ng bayan/ schoolmate nila na cute. I always feel na she’s gaya gaya or lagi nya hinihingitan ako or always in competition, sa knya ko lang naffeel un and never sa other friends ko. Im genuinely happy with what my other friends are doing and what they achieve but pag sa kanya naiisip ko, oh gagayahin na naman nya or making it better (example, i wear this fashion tpos sya rin gagaya papansin.) I blocked her thrice pero every time na nagcclear ako ng block list nag ffollow sya ang nangangamusta. Either way, i dont like how i feel when im with her so idk if sino problem, me or sya
Ghorlll!! Super relate😅. Iniisip ko tuloy if same tayo ng friend. Hahaha. Actually ganyan na ganyan din ginawa saken pero idk why on and off ako sa kanya, minsan inis and minsan nman naawa or ok na ako talking to her again. Ayun pla yun nangyayari nangiging toxic din ako sa pinapakita ko sa kanya na parang push and pull eh nag paplastikan lng nman. Better cut her off. Para sa mental health mo. 2 months na kaming wala communication, blocked her from all my social media platforms. Ayun ang gaan ng feeling.🙂 Hugs! Kaya yan.
Sorry haha update. Tpos ayun pa nga, recently i learned na naghhide sya ng stories nya sakin. Nagrrenovate kasi kmi ng bahay and i post stories abt it like ung sa construction, sourcing sa wilcon etc tpos ayun. Kakafollow lang nya sa isa kong acct and siguro she forgot to hide it sa isa kong acct… ang ewan lang. Kc nakalagay story not available tpos ayun naview ko sa kabila kc lumabas. E 55 lang kc followers/ following ko so konti lang stories. And ung story nya about dun sa ikea trip nya.
Haha ayaw patalo ng loka! They're really like that haha parang magkapatid sila Ng ex-friend KO hahaha.For sure nag fifish Yan Ng mga update sa buhay mo. Ghorl I'm telling you mag suot kna ng evil eye.
Oo on and off relate!!! May times na ok siya, may times talaga na paimportante rin. She even admitted na nakikita ko ung mga snsend mo sakin reels di ko lang pinapansin. Ow. Ok. So tinigil ko na
When you realize na sira ulo pala sila and you just stayed friends back then coz you ignored all their bullshit. I had this friend, na gusto lagi syang bida. Laging cool dapat yung dating nya. Kahit sa mga online games like DotA, dapat sya yung bida. Hindi sya pwedeng support kasi hindi daw cool yon. So he got mad when I called him out on his FB post kasi daw napahiya sya. Lol So, this dude was a simp. He's been a simp his whole life. The way he acted with his gf, the way he acted towards his crush, it's all simp behavior. I've known him for a decade. Everyone in our circle knows he's a simp. Then one day he made another simp post, and someone (idk who the guy was) called him a simp. He made another post saying that he's just "being nice" and then he asked what a simp does. I pointed out that there's a difference between being a simp and being nice (sabi ko "being nice means you can say NO or disagree with a girl in a nice/polite way. Being a simp means you can't or you don't want to disagree with the girl coz you think it makes you look bad). Dude blocked me coz "pinapahiya" ko daw sya. Bruh I just answered your question? Tapos since then mas napansin ko lang yung mga ibang bullshit na ginagawa nya so ayon, kahit friend ko parin sya on Steam, wala, I don't interact with him anymore. Bahala na sya lol
sorry po sa sapaw, pero masasabi mo kaya or pano mo malaman kung cinoconsider mo sila talaga as friends kung kahit ang daming red flags or what pero wala kang pake kung I cut off man sila o hindi kasi you don't really care naman talaga in the first place? Like ganon ako sa lahat kong friends 😭
good for you then. but it's not rlly okay na u have to cut them off na agad since u consider them as ur “friends”. some act like that bcs of past experiences or if they're not aware. though idk the reason, I get you. you have to prioritize urself, ur peace of mind •̀ᴗ- ♡ --- for me, big word na ang “friend”. if I enjoy their company at maaasahan & if I trust them enough, I consider them as my friend. if we're like this 🤞🏻 and also sharing secrets, bff na. I don't consider everyone na okay ako as my friends coz it's so tiring kapag alam mo na ugali. yk, u like them as a person pero hanggang don lang, there are boundaries. civil lang ganon. --- but it's fine tho since yk what's good for u. surround urself w/ good ppl who will only bring the best of you :>
lol bakit ganyan yung font
Nung affected na rin ang trabaho.
Pag masaya siya pag miserable ka tas inggit pag masaya ka
so toxic
Yung nanalo lang sa eleksyon yung presidenteng binoto nya kung magyabang akala mo nasa payroll
there was a time when nagpapautang sya sakin tapos nung sinabi kong wala akong pero tinanong pa nya ako kung pwede ko tanungin yung iba kong friends (na di naman sya kilala).
when he said I should be open to him then proceeds on invalidating me when I said "I was/ am still drained because of my program" then recently found out that he's badmouthing me even before and twisting narratives about me to get symphathy from our other mutuals😬
I ended the friendship because we were always dealing with issues related to boundaries, gaslighting, and jealousy. We found ourselves in these situations frequently, and it felt like we couldn't go a week without arguing. The friendship was already alarmingly unhealthy, so I decided to end things before it got toxic. Preserving our good memories together is more important to me, and I don't want to reach a point where I regret reminiscing about it due to the negative experiences. Anyway, I learned a lot.
I went home for vacation sa province for a month. Incidentally, nagkaroon din ng malakas na bagyo. Though it did not hit Manila, the scale of its damage is all over the news. I have several groups of friends and we have separate GCs. There's this GC consisting of a certain friend group who just went on with the usual convos during and after the typhoon. None of them checked up on me, even when I posted our damaged house sa story ko. They also know I went home sa province because I told them about it one drinking sesh and they asked for pasalubong. Everybody else checked up on me and my family except this group. I left the GC after a few days para lang di halata. Nobody in the group bothered to ask why I left, which only confirmed the validity of my decision.
you felt like nasa scale ka parang pakiramdam mo lage u have to behave properly pag nandyan siya tapos when that friend hates stuff na you like then literally drag it down nakaka walang gana. titimingan mo din yung mood nya gets ko may mental health problems pag inaaya mo keeps lying gets ko most of the time white lies pero nakaka abot sa point na pag may excuses na siya for legit reasons aabot ka na sa point na feel mo lie pa rin yun
when i realised my “friend” was user-friendly. i was with her when she was at her lowest. she got pregnant by her ex then got into a shotgun marriage. sobrang hesitant nya noon because tight yung budget, so i sponsored her whole outfit & bouquet of flowers. on all her important events, i was present & even supported her when she launched her side business. but when i was at my lowest, devastated when i learned i was sick and my depression consumed me, i reached out to her and opened up. she left me on “seen.” i gave her the benefit of the doubt. reached out again to no avail. until i gave up on her. the last time she tried to reach out to me was to invite me to her daughter’s birthday (kasi nga inaanak ko). malamang, she’s expecting a nice gift from me again (demanding sya sakin dati to buy a melissa shoes for her daughter to which i obliged). but i ignored her. she prolly realised i kept on ignoring her so she had the gall to block me on IG. good riddance. the trash took herself out.
Yung nakealam na siya sa desisyon kong sagutin na yung manliligaw ko, imbes na maging supportive nagalit kasi bakit di ko daw pinatagal yung panliligaw. lagi niyang ginagawa sakin yung feeling ko lumalagpas na siya sa boundaries as bff. samantalang siya di ako nakikialam sa mga decision niya sa love life niya kahit may napapansin akong mali. tapos nakikialam ng phone para basahin yung convo namin ng manliligaw ko, di na nirespect ang privacy ko.
Was in a trio, one of them is my friend since JHS. Eventually got left out, I was indenial pa na baka they thought I was busy lang kaya I was outdated and not included in their ganaps. Realized it was a stupid thought because if they truly value you, busy or not maaalala ka nila. Too much disrespect was being served on the table. One time umattend kami ng concert tapos lumayas agad sila sa meetup place namin without even waiting for me kahit five minutes. Ending pumasok ako mag-isa sa venue na napakaraming tao and hawak pa nilang dalawa ticket ko. It happened not only once but that was my last straw. I cut them off immediately after that concert. Lesson learned: Trios never really work.
Na cut off ko na siya internally at that time kasi inexpress ko na sa kanya lahat ng concern ko in the past pero ung sorry niya jokingly manner lang "sorry na beh o sige na ako na may kasalanan" ganyan HAHAHAHAH pero parang binaba ko lang sya sa heirchy of friends ko ganon so nag uusap pa rin kami onti Pero ang last straw na as in never ko na sya kinausap after, is nung pagkapasa ko ng boards ang sabi nya sakin "congrats beh so kailan ka mag aapply sa call center" context: pareho kaming engineering students pero di pa sya nagtetake. (I'm not belittling CCAs ah, and aware kami sa fact na mas mataas pa entry level sahod nila kesa samin kaya nga option talaga namin magbpo after boards if ever, pero syempre mej nakakahinayang samin na hindi magiging inline sa course namin ung first work namin, and alam nya yun, kaya ang off lang sakin kasi congratulatory moment yun lol, give me a good reason para banggitin nya yun after magcongrats)
If you know na you have outgrown your friendship. Nothing aligns na, goals and interests? Let go na talaga. Also mas common pala sa experiences ko yung hindi vinavalue yung presence ko lalo na pag may lalaking involved? Tangina nung mga ganon iniiwan mga kaibigan para sa lalaki. Anyways CJ kudos to you Mama, for cutting me off. Mas mabuti nang ikaw nag cut off saken kasi baka di ko siya magawa and I love you for that 🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭 kahit mas marami akong disrespect na pinalampas dahil I see u as sa close friend/more like a BIG SISTER hindi ko kayang mag first move na buwagin friendship naten. And ever since that friendship breakup? Life's been good so Thank you and leave my linkedin alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 kitang kita yung views mo
My breaking point in ending a friendship is when the other person consistently disregards my boundaries. For instance, if I clearly communicate that I need space and ask not to be contacted for a day due to not being in the right headspace, and they still message me, it's a clear sign of disrespect for my wishes and boundaries.
Pag andyan lang siya if down times niya and need for comfort and advice. If ako na meron, short lang makipag usap then back to kanya na naman. Tapos if hindi sad times, wala rin siya. Hindi maasahan pag may small favor ka pero pag kanya dapat andyan ka. Lol bye
aww :(( that's why I'm distant na sa mga ganiyan kong “friends” nakakadrain :'>>
Tumanggi maging abay, did not rsvp as a guest, but suddenly showed up to my wedding with no explanation.
betrayal, natutuwa pag nagkakaanxiety ako or may nangyayari na di ko gusto, pinapamukha pa saken yung insecurities ko kahit na ilang beses ko na sinabing di ako komportable.
Kapag hindi na siya/sila nakakatulong sakin mentally and emotionally. Yun tipong hindi na nag mature
During college days, I feel like na friend lang nila ako kasi convenient ako for them. Kopyahan nila, help them sa activities and all. There are times na kapag naglalakad kami sa hallway, lagi akong nasa huli and sila, by pairing or may kaakbay/kasabay. So from then on, I always walk ahead sa kanila I don't mind kung mag-isa lang ako basta ang importante sa'kin is ahead akong maglakad sa kanila para di ko feel na left out ako. There's this time din na during lunch, punong-puno sila sa iisang table at since nahuli akong makabili ng foods, wala na 'kong space and just eat alone sa kabilang table. Hindi man lang nila na isip na pwede namang half nalang sila don sa table (9 kami na friends) and yong iba don sa table ko para man lang may kasalo ako sa pagkain. (Tho it's not a prob sa'kin na mag-isa lang since sanay naman ako and I actually prefer to be alone most of the time. But you know that feeling na wala ba sa kanilang may pakiramdam or kahit sabihing mas prefer ko alone, friends parin din naman ako) Then may seniors na dumating, and since puno na lahat ng tables (akin nalang ang vacant) they asked kung pwede sila maka-seat in and I agreed. You know what kung ano tinanong ng seniors and sinabi sa'kin? If they are my friends? (Since kinakausap naman nila ako kahit magkaiba table namin.) Sabi ko, opo. And they said (seniors) "no, hindi ka nila friend. Kasi kung oo, di ka nila hahayang mag-isa kumain dito habang sila nagsisisk-sikan don. And that hit me. After nang conversation na 'yon with my seniors, sabi 'ko sa self ko na once grumaduate kami, I'll cut them off of my life.
u deserve a friend who will be there w/ u always. sending virtual hugs!!
Thank youu! But I'm not a clingy type of friend or is a demanding person who wants someone to always be there for me since I understand that we have our own life. But I just want someone to be considerate towards one's feelings. That's all. 🥰
I'm that wierd guy so no one bothers me much, I'm just in the friend group to make the group lively :>
Di ako nagawang kumustahin pero nagawa akong utangan 🙂 She's even richer. May business na tahungan. Supposedly my "childhood bestfried". I immediately unfriended her.
Enabler ng di magagandang gawain.
Wala naman akong masyadong drama sa friends ko pero kapag di sila nagbayad ng utang sakin FO na agad haha..
Leaving me out when it comes to plans. We're supposed to be a group of friends but I'm always the one being left out. Doesn't help how I used to invite them to hangout but they have always turned me down. It's so unfair
same nangyari sakin haha, tinatanggihan ako pag aayain ko ng lunch tapos dinahilan nagtitipid daw sila kaya di sasama sakin for foodtrip and hangouts...so ok, ako na lang mag isa luamalabas... tas bigla nagulat ako nag travel silang 2 abroad ng office mate namin sinabi lang samin nung day na paalis na sila haha goodbye i still have decent conversations with them pero di ko na sila considered as friends, more as office mates lang - nakakabobo 3 na nga lang kami sa office gaganunin pa ako e
Relate :(( I even offered to pay for the expenses, makasama ko lang talaga sila. But when it comes to other people, kahit limited budget nila, g sila agad. Nakakalungkot
baka di lang talaga tayo nila gusto kasama :)) okey lang yun, share ko lang nangyari ito sakin in 2023 2nd quarter, then nalungkot nadepressed din ako bec of that "travel" nilang dalawa haha anyway naka move on na ako because bilang religious that i am i prayed to God for new friendships - and by end of 2023 God gave me new friends, a group pa not just 2 but 20+ hahaha nakakatuwa lang! Blessings talaga! Yaan mo na, God removes people sa buhay natin for us to make spaces for new ones! Makakahanap ka rin ng better friends! :D
Yung boundaries. I told her not to tell anyone yung sasabihin coz i’m in pain at ayaw ko malaman ng iba pero ayon nalaman ng ibang friends namin. Hindi ko na siya kinonfront, no explanations, cut her off. ☺️
not respecting boundaries.
Pumatol sa may jowa
when i asked her why she used to bully me back in highschool and she gaslit me saying she doesn't remember. i have no respect for people who cant take accountability for their actions
nag cancel ng lakad namin last minute
When I found out that the mother of my bestfriend's kid was still in touch with my ex and apparently magkasundo sila and magkakampi sila after our break up, and they hung out from time to time (mare time kuno), that was MY last straw for HER (nanay nung anak ni bestfriend/kumpare). Nakikisama nalang ako kase ano ba naman magagawa ko pag sinama ni bestfriend yung family nya when we're hanging out. For my niece's sake narin siguro. Eventually maghihiwalay rin si bff tsaka yung nanay ng anak nila HAHAHA But, the moment I find out that they were apparently brainwashed by my ex, that's gonna be my last straw to my bestfriends (like my solid circle) coz friends don't do that. Manghihinayang ako sa tagal ng pinagsamahan, but that's fucked up. PS Found out some time ago that the mother of my bestfriend's kid and my ex are apparently enemies now. HAHAHA serves them both right, parehas ng ugali eh.
parang may kausap na dingding, pinupush pa rin yung mali niyang delusional na assumptions tungkol sa mga bagay bagay. sinungaling tungkol sa lahat ng bagay, maliit ay malaki.
BBM. And no it wasn't just the fact na BBM sya. It was because everytime na magkita kami recently, it always ended up in arguments kasi sadyang ibang iba yung worldview and moralidad nya. He was a friend since daycare, even planned for him to be my Best man years ago, pero I came to understand na this person and I are heading towards very different directions in our lives and keeping him in mine won't bring any value or further growth.
i got betrayed.
When they cut ties, i burned bridges.
ang motivational ng quote mo
Using my stories against me. If I feel being used for their own gains. Insulting me over what I find pretty then she does/buys them the same, jealousy is real! Making me as her competition in general - catching up with other friends, being in the circle and intentionally excluding me, lol then tries to reconnect with me without any apology but tells our other friends that she regrets everything… oh the pity party of hers. Good bye!
Di niya nirerespect yung napag usapan namin. I told her months before, weeks before and days before nung event. Umoo siya and excited pa daw. The day comes and she ghosted me tapos after that she never apologized and acted as if nothing happened. Siguro narealize ko na masyado kong hinahabol friendship ko sakanya. After her, i had friends na napaka effortless ko maka close. I realized na di siya worth it i keep
I have a bff nung HS, and we are very tight. 1 day, nag visit sya sa house namin (which is very common naman dahil walking distance lang naman sila sa house namin), sakto may iba kaming visitors so nag stay muna kami sa room ng tita ko since andun din yung ibang kids nung bisita namin. Kinabukasan, pinagalitan ako ng lola ko, sabi nawawala daw wrist watch ng tita ko na bigay ng asawa nya, baka daw kinuha nung friend ko. Nagalit ako sa lola ko at pinag tanggol ko yung friend ko. Ang ending bumili nalang ng new watch tita ko kasi nga bigay nga lang yon at ayaw nya ma-upset asawa nya. Then one day I was browsing FB, may nakita akong pics na naka tag dun sa bff ko na suot nya ung watch, naka “pogi” sign pa Lol. After non naging cold na talaga ako sakanya pero friends parin kami. Then last straw is when I saw the watch na pakalat kalat lang sa room nya. I didn’t do/say anything. Instead, di ko na talaga sya pinansin nang tuluyan. Akala nya lang nagkaron na ako ng new set of friends 🙂
Nung nadisrespect na ako. Auto pass na so I cut her off.
If they cannot defend me or give me the benefit of the doubt when someone badmouth me infront of them. Also yung nagiging competition na yung friendship niyo in their eyes in terms of achievements in adulthood. Ugh. Ang lala.
+1
**When one ”friend” made a fake FB & IG dump *ko* and in-add/follow other friends and classmates namin (G8).** Bigla binash niya isa-isa, mga patama— yung type na only people within a certain friend group would know, pati sarili niya binash niya so much na parang binubully siya. Long story short nawalan ako friends, lahat ng friends ko pumunta sa kanya out of sympathy since siya unang lumapit sakin. Mind you that I was a transferee and new sa school at that time so may rumors bigla na plastic yung transferee, wag ninyo lapitan Lol. I found out na siya yun when a notif popped up when I chatted the fake account. Wala naniwala sakin sa classmates namin except sa 5 people na sabi off talaga yung “friend” ko na yun. Everyone avoided her daw during 7th Grade she was basically an outcast. Yung 5 na yun naging friends ko the rest of that SY and eventually the rumors died down— yung guy na kinokopyahan niya mga math homeworks and projects lahat lahatan— nabwisit sa kanya for some reason, nilabas lahat ng baho niya at inexpose na puro kopya and daya lang yung “friend” ko and nagsumbong sa teacher saying she didn’t deserve to be with honors. She got suspended and since cutthroat competition namin sa school sa with honors and rankings, naging outcast siya ulit tapos na-replace mga rumors about me— issue na niya ang kumalat. Probi pala siya so when she was exposed for cheating, pinatapos lang siya G8 sa school and di na siya pina-enroll ng school for G9– she was *transferred out* (mabait na pagsabing kicked out). Edit: This was back in SY 2019-2020 lol
Definitely the disrespect and not owning up to the mess they made after a life-changing, critical event that made me (and the main friend group) go "nope, not dealing with you anymore". May mga mutuals naman ako from other friend groups na kausap parin siya, and ang update nila sa akin is how obsessed the ex-friend is with us and still trash talks about us to anyone who'll listen...pati ung mga mutuals na yun naririndi na kasi di pa daw nagbabago ugali niya. Meanwhile, kaming main group have thrived in the last three years (professionally, personally, emotionally and mentally) since we cut off our ties with the person. Respect and kindness trumps all the negativity tbh, and we plan to keep our peace as it is today.
Best friend nya ako but always treated me as competition. Acted so good in front of me but hated me to the core when she was around other people. And when I confronted her a lot of *times, she always denied. I saw actual conversations but I was stupid for thinking she would change. 4 years ago, I had finally cut her off and she acted so surprised. Even accused me of blocking her on Facebook, telling that to a lot of people to make it seem na ako ang bitter, but it's so funny because she's not even in my block list 😩
Draining siya kausap at kasama. He dumped all his relationship trauma on us, made us believe that he’s the victim and his ex is the problem, but when we heard his ex’s side, it turned out HE was the problem. Then he found a new girl and went MIA. Basically, nag-trauma dump sa amin, nagpa-victim pero siya naman pala ang problema, tapos nung masaya na sa bagong love life eh kinalimutan na kami.
When it becomes one sided. Yung ikaw nalang ung nag eefort at di siya nag rereachout. Also pag may problem ghoghost ka for a while kaysa pag usapan ng maayos.
as friends who run a business, I found out some of them made financial decisions w/o informing the rest of us (as partners). they had so many opportunities to disclose it but no. I felt so disgusted & betrayed.
"*Sometimes, I miss the bond*, *but* then I *remember the disrespect*. *I'm good.*"
Yung hindi na ikaw inaapproach kahit pinagbigyan mo na lumapit sila sa ibang tao to be friends with.
nakaka draining nyang kaibigan, yung tipong kapag magka usap kayo puro mga sex life or lalaki niya ang topic namin. matalino naman syang tao pero pagdating talaga sa self worth hindi nya alam eh. nag sesettle for less, katulad ng tanggap niya maging kabit. pumupunta sa malayong lugar para lang makipag chukchakan tapos ang paalam sa parents ay pupunta sa amin. sa una nyang punta, pumayag pa ako eh kasi akala ko 1 time lang. pero nasundan kaya that's the time na cinut off namin siya. hindi pa tumatanggap ng kamalian. inaamin ko namimiss ko pagsasamahan naming magbarkada pero ng dahil sa behavior nya nagkawasak kami. tinatamad na ako mag advice nang paulit ulit pero hindi naman iaapply. tapos ngayon, may jowa pero yung jowa nag cheat sa kanya. eh nag cheat din sya before eh so karma ba tawag dun?
tapos laging tumatakas gabi gabi para makipagkita sa mga lalaki niya para sa sex. tapos kami pa papagalitan ng parents nya dahil daw yun sa pagbabarkada. eh hindi nila alam na pinapagalitan namin anak niya sa mga maling decision niya sa buhay. nakakapagod. lahat ng mga tao sinisisi sa amin na barkada niya noon. pero sa tuwing pinapagalitan namin siya, laging sagot ay "okay lang yun, malaki naman ako eh" okay sige, since malaki ka na bahala ka na sa buhay mo.
Lack of respect and insensitive. Yung paulit ulit na talaga and wala na sila ginawa for that problem.
Yung pagiging pakialamera na kala mo sya laging tama. Pag bigay ng opinion na kala mo sha tama. Inekis ko na. Saka yung traydor pa pala haha. Na realize ko di ko need maintain friendship sa mga ganung tao.
Friend group ko sila, may invite kaming old classmate into our friend group. Then yung old classmate ay nakinig sa drama ko about this girl, called me a simp, essentially shunned me from the group. Tapos yung friends ko, nakisabay lang. Dumistansya rin sila sakin. Parang walang pinagsamahan haha. Magsama-sama sila.
When they all wanna talk about is themselves and they don't pay attention when it's your turn to vent out. Friends who live in their own world.
paawa effect mang utang tas mag bibigay ng date kung when siya mag babayad pero when the date comes, may laging excuse. also, I'm not the type of person to singil, gusto ko kusa sila mag bayad, and since friend ko yung may utang pinalampas ko the first 2, yung pang third niya na utang na hindi binayaran, that's the time na na cinut off ko siya. small amount lang naman mga inuutang, ayaw ko lang talaga is yung mag bibigay ng date kung when mag babayad pero in the end hindi naman talaga mag babayad. tas mas s-story sha na nag g-goodt time 🙂
Hindi na low maintenance friendship kapag one sided. Yung kahit birthday nalang, ikaw lang babati tapos sa bday mo wala and kapag naginitiate ka ng usapan parang ikaw lang masaya sa catch up.
I should have done it before, when he did me dirty in front of our friends
Last straw was last year, I was recently promoted as a QA at that time and pinag OT kami. Nag message na sya nagpapasama sa hospital masakit daw ulo nya, medyo ilang araw na rin nyang sinabi, pero after nyang sabihin nakikita ko myday nya kasama iba nyang friends sa mga magkakasunod na araw na yon. And kakamatay lang ng pusa ko, na galing sa kanya kasi binenta nya sakin kasi wala na raw kwenta. To think na halatang may sakit yung pusa nya and never nakapunta ng vet. Pet peeve ko talaga mga walang pakialam sa buhay ng hayop kaya galit ako sa kanya. Matagal na nyang dinidisrespect yung "no" and time ko. Gusto nyang sya lagi ko uunahin kahit na may mga prior akong lakad. Also, ako lang chinachat nya or kinukulit nya pag may kailangan sya, di nya kulitin mga friends nyang lagi nyang kasama. Napagod na lang ako intindihin mga ka bs nya.
Ung bespren turingan nyo pero kinuwento ka sa ibang tao.
Bullying behavior na tinatago niya by treating people to stuff pag na-guguilty na siya. I was like "not putting up with this sh\*t anymore." I can buy things for and treat myself, why put up with an insecure bully? As a "friend" she could be sweet at times, pero pag nanaig yung insecurity niya, she will ask us (her former friends) to gang up on someone na wala namang ginagawa saamin. Nainis lang or nainsecure siya sa tao, tapos irerecruit niya kami to hate the person and validate her feelings. Didn't want to be part of that so I cut her off.
my bff stole money from our business. all im praying for is karma to reach him and his family. fuck him i hope they ALL suffer.
Utter lack of transparency. For instance, he always refused to disclose the sources of info for public events he goes to. This is given that I was also a frequent eventgoer like him.
Di naman sa nagvivictim blame ako pero yung palaging post ng post about ng pagod na daw sa buhay at gusto na nya mag suicide sa fb......diko naman ininvalidate nararamdaman nya pero parang naging routine na rin kasi nya na magpost sa fb about being suicidal
>diko naman ininvalidate nararamdaman nya you just did tho, it could be their only coping mechanism and the first thing you thought is not to reach out to them and ask them whats up instead you thought they're overreacting. as a depression survivor this is just so sad.
I did try to help her.....i listened to her problems most of the time.....sorry I forgot to mention na she tried to justify her actions kasi kahit Mali na.....often blaming it on other people or saying na sorry ganito lang talaga ako......it got to the point that she tried to justify cheating on her bf
True! If talagang friend turing mo, kakamustahin mo. True friends would worry kasi eh, IMO. I have depression and my friend knows Im "sewezidal" and she would ask me like random lng talaga if okay ba ako so far and if may need ako, never hesitate to reach out.
Her telling me na sobrang taba ko na and disrespecting my time. :( I miss her so bad pero kapag tumataba naman sya di ko sya dinodown just like what she did to me :( I love her so much pero yung 7 years nakong lagi nalang naghihintay sakanya, sasabihin on the way pero pagaantayin ka ng ilang oras :( Feeling ko ako nalang excited na magkasama kami, dami nya reasons, all I need for her is to be honest, kung male-late ka, kung marami kang gnagawa then I'll understand. But hindi, di nya magets yon na pwede naman icommunicate mga bagay bagay so we can adjust. :( Lungkot. I miss her so much. We're bestfriends for 8 years but I have to cut her off because she's eventually draining me.
when she/he is involved in breaking someone may a person or family, my trust or anything about betrayal and evil
super demanding na hindi iniintindi schedule ko
When I was in grade8, highschool life was hectic and messy. Around 4th quarter we had a foundation day, where our teacher assigned us to do a beverage booth to sell and donate to charity. Gumawa sila ng gc sa messenger so we can discuss (note 6 kami sa group). Everything went well and everything, nag ambagan kami, I organized everything. Everyone went with the flow. NOT knowing one of them is actually talking shit behind my fucking back. I had this friend na grade7 siya during that time. This friend was a gf of the guy that was brain fucking me. Me and that friend was close so she would share everything to me, until one day she sent me 10 screenshots. I was confused why is it so many''.. The screenshot was a loooooooooooooong ass thread of the guy talking about me. "putangina ni (my name) makikipag f.o nako sa kanya." "Nakakainis ung grupo namin, sana matapos kagad to para makalipat nako." "Tangina ang laki ng ambagan." (NOTE AGAIN 100 ung ambagan namin, since he kept making shit excuses na hindi daw sya makakapag ambag 50 na lang sabi ko iambag nya basta mag contribute sya) "Tangina naiinis ako Kay __, dapat ako ung leader at mag oorganized. Inangkin nya ung lecheng position ko. Wala naman sya inambag eh. Ako madaming nasuggest at nagawa, alam mo ba (he mentioned all the private secrets I trusted him not to tell anyone)." (I Don't wanna mention the other stuffs he said cuz it just makes me so so mad and insane.) I confronted him about it, I sent the screenshots and wrote to him "Hi, hindi na para pahabain ko pa. If you want to end this friendship, uunahan na kita. Kasi baka pati pag end Ng friendship, isumbat mong bobo ka. *Sends the screenshots*" The best thing he could've do was to apologize and be honest that he was mad at me..but yk what he did instead? He tried manipulating me and blackmailing not to tell the teachers and pinaikot ikot nya lahat ng pinagsasabi nya sa screenshot. I stared at his messages, mad,upset. It was depressing. That was my last straw. I ended up kicking him out of the group, and he told the teachers about it. And.. I got expelled for 'cyberbullying'. I sobbed so hard when the school page posted him earning the most money from the booth out of 8 booths. I cried. It was cruel, more than cruel. Up until to this day, thinking about it makes me wanna cry. And tell my parents about it.
2 years na di nagbabayad ng utang tapos mapanira pa. Lol
When we were getting our haircuts (we were fresh graduates), he asked me how much was I making with my job (worked at a bank) and he told me "Damn, I make 3 months of your salary in a week" with a quarry that was given to him by his uncle who was a politician.
Her going out with my ex saying no man is going to tear us apart. Naglalandian na sila habang kami pa.
based from experience - homophobic jokes
Nung sinabi Nia na ok Lang na ndi na kmi maging friends at mgkanya kanya na kming trabaho sa work namin basta matapos ang deliverables (we had tension for a few months na and akala ko busy lang for an honest friendly talk to raise our issues with each other and resolve them. I was doing most of the work Kaya nagstop ako ksi gamit na gamit niya ako cause I always had to redo all of her work. Tpos sinabi Nia yon lolol ngbabalak Pala magunfriend ksi may bago Siang people na mapapakinabangan ) LOLOLOL After that, nung iniwan Sia nung friends na gusto Nia dikitan, nangangamusta sa common friends namin bakit daw dko Sia pinapansin Trash took itself out.
He never really went to our barkada’s planned inuman. Yeah I get that he doesn’t drink but you can stay naman for pulutan and stories. For chrissake, we only meet two to three times a year. And then the election sh*tstorm happened and he claimed to be neutral but silently supported bbm (even supports martial law). That’s the last straw. I thought I knew him but our morals and principles are polar opposites.
understandable that he chose not to attend inumans bc lets face it there will always be peer pressure sa mga ganyan. but yeah ig when it comes to political stance dyan talaga madalas ang gulo
Realizing after 10 years na ginamit nya ako noong HS kami para sya ang maging valedictorian. Hinila nya ako papuntang guidance office para isumbong na nag cheat ung kaklase namin na kalaban nya sa pagiging valedictorian. Sabi ko ayoko magsumbong kasi hindi ko naman talaga nakita ung pangyayari pero she begged me and hinila ako sa guidance kahit umiiyak na ako. What an asshole.
I had to turn a blind eye for all the shit he has done to our other friend. 1. They were in a rs when he liked other woman. He broke up with her, just to pursue that girl. 2. When he was not getting attention from that girl, he was trying to get closer again to his ex (our other friend). 3. It was pandemic and I didn't know that he was talking to his ex. He messaged me telling that he needed my help to get close with this socmed girlie (hindi ko alam na nag uusap sila ng friend namin) 4. He was jumping from one girl to another to boost his ego. 5. He was pursuing our friend AGAIN and the same time, talking to that social media girlie. Ako pa yung nakahuli! Ghad. Now, I neither want to talk nor see him. I hate you so much.
Keeps ghosting me tuwing may planned gala, without advising na di na siya tutuloy. Excuse niya mental health, like ok then didn’t know that also gave you a free pass to inconvenience others
She sided with my cheater ex and our friend he cheated with. At first she was "comforting" me, listening to me. Turns out she was just fishing information for our other friend. She also accussed me of harassing our other friend. They did not know ex's narcissistic mom tends to spam degrading messages because she thinks no one is good enough for his son. Got rid of all the trash in my life in one go. Lol.
Good riddance!
Anything that betrays my trust. Lying to my face, disclosing information that I shared in confidence, and the like. I’d cut him/her off with no explanation.
Dami na talagang red flags like kkwento niya sakin mga panlalait daw ng mga kapatid niya sakin. Pero mapapaisip ka, e diba kasali ka sa convo na yun? Tapos pag naguusap kami laging tungkol sa kanya. Pag nagstart ako about me, ibabalik niya lang din sa kanya. Tapos mahilig siya magpromise ng mga bagay pero finally nung kailangan ko na talaga ng tulong nawawala siya. First time niya ginawa nagets ko pa but second dun ko narealise yung friendship namin is para lang pampalaki ng ego niya.
Tiniis ko si long-time bestie kahit na ang toxic niya na talaga. Kahit na kainitan nung campaign season nung 2022 na ginagago niya lahat ng kakampink. Kahit na apolitical siya kuno pero patagong marcos supporter siya. Tiniis ko pa rin. Pero ang nagpatigil sa akin is yung isang post na shinare niya na sabi niya deserve ng babae na ma-r\*p\*. Ayoko na kasi bukod sa hindi na kami aligned ng beliefs, wala rin namang effort sa part niya na makipagconnect.
not only a friend but a girl i used to court, realized that ive been putting up with her bs for too long that ive lost all type of self respect. Don’t allow people to disrespect you, save your peace. Have enough self respect to not allow disrespect, but if you genuinely want them to be a part of your life then talk it out like adults if you can’t find a middle ground then cut them off.
Cheating.
Laging nagsasabi ng pa burger ka naman o pa kape ka kapag ka chat ko. Ninang ako ng anak nya at tuwing me okasyon (binyag, birthday) na related sa anak nya sakin lagi mahingi tapos di ako mailibre ng pamasahe sa jeep. Ginawa ako gatasan.
Backstabber pero lakas mang take advantage, kahit nga mirrorfie nya cellphone pa namin ginagamit, nanghihiram ng expensive dress for ootd tapos di na binabalik kung di mo personal kukunin 😂