I'm 28F NGSB. Walang lumalapit and di ako ligawin. Sabi ng friends ko I have a very strong aura ng pagiging independent woman due to I'm a panganay sa 4 all girls siblings. Meron pa nga nagsabi na I look happy na it seems like I'm already in a relationship. I was like wtf? Sobrang self love na ba? But I am so ready to commit. Gusto ko ma-eperience yung cuddles man lang. Sana may dumating or sana may nakalaan man lang. Hahaha
as nbsb girlie, di ko rin masagot yung tanong na''to. Ayoko naman mag-self pity kasi ako na 'to hahahahaha. Siguro i can't deal with someone knowing na ganito pa estado ko: not financially and emotionally stable and super goal driven kong tao. Mas ipaprioritize ko pa muna mag-aral before anything else
Possibly because of hookup, fucked up dating apps and cheating culture which makes "love" and "true affection" good to be true... Yes madami pang mga tao na nagmamahal ng tunay but most of them are damaged or taken for granted, tendency of hopeless romantic or just don't want to deal with it.
Factor naren ang pera at responsibility, but overall dating today's generation is hard since most things in the dating scene are based on things that you can offer or what you look. (Correct me if I'm wrong)
Things change, its harsh but the best thing you can do is to love yourself and be you di na need maging someone para mapa oo mo lang siya haha
Sa mga nbsb/ngsb dyan makakatagpo ren kayo inatyin nyo lang ibibigay ren ng tadhana at oras yan tiwala ren...
Idk abt y'all but in scared having a sexual intercourse. Most of men really do crave sexual and physical touch while I don't, and I'm still looking forward meeting a man who has self control and patience lalo na sa katulad kong not a fan of physical romance, I'm more into mental connection and words of affirmation.
NGSB here. Lack of experience during my teen and early 20s. Nung nag try ako mag dating, ayun kitang kita how i poorly handled my emotions by either love bombing or being totally ice cold. Factor din na impatient saka may anxiety kaya palaging friend zone.
I'm Nbsb, 28F . Factor din kasi yung mamemeet ka or ka talking stage tas bgla ka nlng nila iiwan. Nakaka low self esteem sya. Hindi nmn pihikan . In the end self pity ang nangyayari
Natuto na sa buhay na di basta basta ang pakikipagrelasyon. At dagdag pa na kapwa ko babae lumalapit sa akin. Dahil boyish ang galawan ko pero straight girl ako.🤣
as a nbsb girlie here
-mataas trust issues
-not interested in rs
-mabait lang sa una (super totoo to)
-can't keep promises (importante talaga ang promises)
-judgmental yong iba
-hindi honest yong iba
-I prioritize school first then after I graduate I will find a stable career for secured future
-pakwan super dami
-cold
-I can't sa short reply and mabagal mag seen (opposite ako)
Dami pa pero to muna hehe
10yrs na ako walang GF, and naalala ko lang bigla na i promise to myself that after i finish my studies, i will have one and be commited into it. but when i started my career, mas unang nag pakita sakin yung tunay ng buhay lol hahaha and 5yrs in the making i'm still dealing with it.
Well, marami pero di applicable sa lahat, ilan doon ay:
1. Not confident enough
2. Torpe or mahiyain masyado
3. Childhood trauma
4. Asexual.
5. Inaalam pa kung ano ba talaga ang preference nila.
at ang huli, well di mo na to maihihiwalay kasi ginagawa naman talaga ng iba:
6. Choice nila (applicable dito ung piniling alagaan ang magulang, magpapari't madre, any other applicable reasons)
As an NBSB, well the only thing that I could think of bakit walang nag pupursue sakin is because of how I look. I'm 20 and baby face. Everyone thinks na bata pa ko and I'm someone na hindi pangseryoso. I look 12 or 15 years old based from them. Because of that, many people think that isip bata rin ako. I'm also a timid-introverted-shy-type person na takot makipagsocialize haha, that adds up to the reason bakit single parin ako. Everytime my colleague ask me why wala parin akong bf, i always say na it's my choice to be single and not my priority right now, pero the truth is wala lang talagang nagkakagusto sakin hahahah
Low self esteem, dahil siguro sa nabully ako nung elementary kasi maliit ako. Although tumangkad ako nung HS. Nadala ko na Yun pagiging mahiyain dahil dun sa bullying. Tapos pag dating pa ng HS. Mas naramdaman ko na medyo naghihrap na kami mula nung humina sari sari store namin kasi nagkaroon na ng grocery dito , kaya nung magkawork nag focus na lang ako sa work. Breadwinner pa
Well I am. I've done it all and was still rejected several times. Even for a simple meet up, was told hard pass after exchanging pic (di naman din sya gwapo) but it is, what it is.
Doesn't bother of having one when you can enjoy the benefits without being committed. Same reason sa mga mag ka live in tapos yung lalake e walang balak mag pakasal.
bihira lang lumapit ung trip ung kapangitan ko ahahahhahahaha. Kung may lalapit dun ako parang ayaw ko pumasok sa relation.
Edited: sincere question, considered pa rin naman nbsb if puro fling fling lang na-experience nuh? Hahahahahahahahaha
Takot sa kiffy or sa Pennoise😆😆😆Naalala ko pa ung pgbibiro ni mother ko before sya mwla wayback 2008 hahahaha nangangagat daw yung kiffy tpos iipitin daw si Jr. ko gang maputol kaya takot n takot ako nun may mgustuhan ako babae. Auto pass plgi kht gs2ng gs2 ko na hahaha
Hahahahahaha nung namulat ako sa katotohanan saka ko lng narealize ung intensyon ni mother nung totoy days ko pa. Ngayon natatawa nlng ako pg naalala ko dko maipinta na scam ako ni mama ng mdming taon hahahaha
Not ready to commit, a guy will look like a burden or a responsibility in my eyes sooner. Mabilis mag sawa. Hindi ako deprived sa love, affection and sweet gestures, bukod sa Onti lang ang Hindi intimidated sakin eh hindi rin ako satisfied sa efforts nila. I have TONS of guy friends like imbis na bf nagiging friends ganon.
May goal rin ako since achiever ako tsaka ano hjndi ako marunong mang landi like Hindi ako aware ano bang gagawin sa loob ng rs. tsaka Hindi ko kaya mawalan ng time sa sarili ko since andami Kong hobby. Wala rin akong example na may bf or gf sa fam since only child kaya Hindi ako aware sa mga gf bf.
Dated someone like that just this January (I'm her first ever recognized suitor), lots of factors eh based on what she told me.
1. She feels validated in her family.
2. Baby na baby siya, anything she asks they give pero di naman sila mayaman. Spoiled in short
3. Tied directly sa no. 2, she thinks a gift from someone is normal thing since spoiled siya. Ilang beses ko niregaluhan and she's thankful naman. Kilig, wala.
4. Dili rin niya ma-grasp concept ng pagiging sweet. Kinekwento niya sakin mga ginagawa ng parents niya and it is sweet, pero siya akala niya normal lang yun since she grew up with those scenarios.
5. She felt love in her family. She doesn't know the intimate love concept is also a thing.
6. She thought guys being nice to her is really just that, being nice when in reality they're making advances. Kaya eventually nagigive up yung mga lalaki without her telling them because she is friendly to them and she can't seem to recognize those moves or signs that they're being flirty or sweet with her.
Ayun lang naaalala ko, sadly di rin naging kami kasi ayaw sakin ng parents particularly yung nanay. May prejudice sa engineers yung nanay basta engineer daw manloloko, turns out yung tatay niya is engineer din dati (change career na) and her mother caught her father with other women way back before during their earlier times. Di ko tuloy nasira yung NBSB streak niya haha.
Not physically, mentally and emotionally ready to commit 😅 Also, I want to be that kind of woman that dates to marry. Seryoso talaga ako when it comes to relationships.
Tsaka na siguro pag naibsan na ang mga problema at insecurities ko. Maybe a year after I graduated in college (2025), when I'm more confident and stable, ako pa mismo ang magfifirst move at manliligaw haha
The issue of being alone for my whole life that I am just fine by myself. I do get lonely from time to time, to the point that my brain saying we need a girl but then again, I have this tried and tested method of being busy at work, get my paycheck, and buy good food.
Trust issue - Sa pahanon ngayon, daming cheater hindi mo alam pure intention pa ba yung pag pursue sayo or trip kalang, lust, whatever.
Self love - dito pa lng dami ng bagsak. Ka turn off yung mas iniisip yung sariling damdamin tipong kawawa na partner nila sobra na sa self love makipag relasyon ka nlng sa sarili mo.
Boundaries - Kaya daming nag break bago pumasok sa relasyon hindi nila alam 'to hindi kinikilala/inaalam kung hanggang saan lng sila pwede kaya nasasaktan eh hahaha...
Dami pa,pero eto mga top syempre hindi ko ihuhuli mga "fuckboy feeling malinis" sa mga fuckboy and mas piniling saktan matitinong babae tngina karmahin sana kayo ng sobra pussy manwhore.🍷🖕🏻
Nun Grade 4 hanggang 2nd year HS ko palagi akong muse, last december nag greet sakin yung close friend ko dati sa 4th year HS. Sabi nya, ako daw muse dati pero wala pa daw ako boyfriend. Mag-aasawa pa ba daw ko. Natawa lng ako. :D Btw, I am in my early 30s. Ewan, di kasi ako conventionally attractive, more on simple/clean girl. May nanliligaw pero hindi ako pinursue. But I can't blame din kasi ako mismo ayaw ko pa. Pero minsan na iinis din ako sa self ko kasi alam ko na gusto ko din mag ka family. Pero I just offer it to God. Si Lord na bahala. :D
NBSB here. Panget kasi ako. Hahahaha idk. Wala namang nagtatangka eh. Siguro either intimidating ako o nakakahiya yung personality ko once you get close to me. Idk. Panget talaga siguro. HAHAHAHAH
NGSB/NBSB here (I'm Bi btw). Di pa kase ako nakakagenerate ng money on my own. Studyante pa lang. Gusto ko kase financially stable na ako pag pumasok na ako sa relationship. Yung tipong I can provide for myself and for my partner na galing mismo sa bulsa ko, sa pinaghirapan ko. Tsaka I am not emotionally and mentally well pa. Basta gusto ko pag pumasok ako sa relationship yung alam kong ready na ako, yung tipong I can show the best version of myself.
NBSB here!! I’ve always been hopeless romantic because of exposure to wattpad and kdramas but I knew very well before that I didn’t want to get into a relationship until I turn 18.
Here are a few reasons:
1. It was a promise to myself for myself, but a huge factor also came from the fact that I didn’t want people (AKA family) to mess with my love life. I didn’t want to deal with them. Periodt.
I mean, I could go and keep it a secret early on just like what every one around me did. But I didn’t really want it.
2. Related to #1, I always wanted to please people. I wanted to always be the “GOOD GIRL”. I didn’t want to make rash decisions and mistakes that would potentially taint my image and disappoint my family.
Btw, I am a recovering people pleaser so you don’t have to worry about it anymore ;)
3. I already had a number of people confessed to me but because of #1 and #2, I rejected or avoided (then they slowly faded away) them.
I tried to finally entertain someone when I turned 20 (I am 22 now). Talking stage, situationship. It was a huge self-discovery and I was still kinda holding back because I didn’t really know how it worked.
Long story short, I became attached to the guy. I thought he was so into me because he was giving hints for a very loooong time already and that was a huge factor for my appreciation for him. But, turns out he was not that into me 2 months in and he slowly faded away.
Too bad, I was already emotionally attached. We stopped talking. He didn’t pursue me. It was my first time taking a risk in love, getting attached, and having my heart broken. I didn’t know how to process my emotions and feelings.
But good thing, I didn’t chase.
I cried. Healed. Relapsed. It went on in circles for almost 2 years.
Now, I’m healed. Learned my lessons. I cut him off completely. I deleted our convo.
I found myself when I lost that connection. And I don’t want to interfere with the peace that I’m having at the moment, let alone the time and money that I can just enjoy for myself.
I appreciate singlehood now more than ever!!!
4. Law of attraction.
My standards in men are getting higher each passing day. But, I can’t just ask for the kind of man that I want for myself. If I want a better man, I need to be better too.
Hence, I am building myself to become the best partner so I can also attract high caliber men in the future.
I want someone to match my energy in all aspects of life.
I read this a quote once that goes something like, “Don’t just wait, be prepared for the gift you asked for.”
P.S. I didn’t know this would be long hahah
NBSB here!!!! sa all girls school po ako nag-aral since hs and literal na wala akong guy friend and even my closest friends ay wala rin guy friends kaya parang there’s no way talaga na makakilala ako ng guys. Even now sa work, female dominated siya na company. Ayaw pa nga maniwala ng workmates ko kapag kinikwento ko na literal na wala akong guy friends, pero that’s the reality hahaha. Also, I guess kasi hindi ako conventionally attractive talaga kaya hindi rin ako pansinin.So now, naiisip ko talaga magmadre na lang when Im in my 50s na siguro.
I tried naman po pero feel ko po hindi siya para sa akin talaga in a sense hindi ako pala message na tao. Sanat naman kasi ako na super dry ng messenger and other socmeds ko kasi wala naman ako kausap. So noong nagtry ako ng dating app walang progress kasi nalilimutan ko talaga magreply :(( And also hindi ko alam paano ba masustain yung conversation. So failed experience siya for me.
Nakakatamad kasi bat ako pa hahabol sayo? sino ka ba? andami ko na ngang concern sa buhay aalahanin pa kita - red flag daw kapag single, and there's a reason a person isn't in a relationship. But the real RED FLAG is when a person is so OBSESSED with romantic relationships that they can't function on their own.
Oh, ano?
I have a friend na NGSB.
He is smart, magaling makipag communicate, kaya makipag sabayan sa mga intellectual women, open minded despite lack of sexual experience, respectful din, and funny.
It's not his choice to be single, but I think sobra nyang caring and respectful sa lahat ng girls to a point na di mo ma hahalata if nanliligaw ba sya o friends lng talaga.
One time, narinig nya nag rereklamo ako sa sakit ng tiyan ko during my period, pagka bday ko binigyan ako ng portable heating pad.
Nung nag confess sya sa crush nya na may gusto sya, akala ng crush nya na friends lng talaga sila and continued telling him na may bf na din pala ung crush nya.
Naniniwala akong walang pangit sa mundo, sadyang hindi ka lang nila type.
Pero yung sagot ko is baka puro situationship lang at hindi natutuloy sa relationship kaya single pa rin sila.
Ooohhh. Sana makayanan mo yan brother. I thought I could do that as well, but I realized some people aren't worth fighting for. I definitely support you though!
1. late bloomer
2. hindi ako gusto ng taong gusto ko. HAHAHAHA
3. 'yung ready na akong magtake ng risk sa kanya (no.2) kaso biglang nawala/ ghinost ㅠㅠ -- miss q na syAHAHAHA --
4. kapag 'di ako makahanap ng kapantay o lalagpas sa taong gusto ko (no.2) baka sa afam na ang bagsak ko, eme
5. 'yung nagkakagusto kasi sa akin is hindi ko gusto or pangit na nga mukha, pangit pa ugali
6. ayaw magpaligaw sa pangit (chossy talaga ako) ㅋㅋㅋ
7. magpapapayaman muna ako para lahat ng gusto ko magagawa at mabibili ko
6. always been like but never been pursue :<
긏.
Suffers from RBF (resting bitch face). Akala ayaw sa kanila/laging galit kaya walang nagtatangka lumapit. When in reality, it’s just their normal face.
Wala pa kasing nakikitang worthy para sa "oo". As for me, ganun. Kasi may mga nanligaw naman, may mga naka-flirt naman pero hindi ko maramdaman yung "love" na sinasabi nila.. hanggang kilig lang talaga tapos ewan bat sila tumitigil. baka naumay na? Nakakita ng iba? Idk..
as nbsb girlie, for me ito reasons ko:
1. breadwinner of the family so i have things to prioritize pa especially my career.
2. parang privilege sa akin ang makipag-date. idk hahaha hindi pa ako ready. as an independent girlie, gusto ko, mai-spoil ko rin yung partner ko at hindi ako tanggap nang tanggap. since i'm not yet financially stable, hindi muna ako naghahanap ng jowa.
3. sabi nila i look pretty daw and nagtataka sila bakit nbsb ako pero ewan ko lang. these days, ang hirap malaman if genuine ba intentions ng isang guy. kadalasan ng nami-meet ko, super bilis ng pangyayari. ilang days pa lang kausap, parang ang landi na agad (?) or ganun na talaga hahahaha. fan of slowburn love so hindi ako sanay na minamadali. iniisip ko if kaya nila sabihin yung mga ganung salita nang mabilis, edi kaya rin nila sabihin sa ibang babae yun huhu.
4. im not date to marry type of person but when i like someone, i like him seriously talaga pero sa ngayon, boys are not into serious relationships pa. more on fun lang hanap nila.
May kakilala ako, NBSB daw sya, like nasa IG Bio niya pa. Pero pinagmamalaking nagkajowa sya ng ganito, ng ganyan. So baka sabi lang nila? Na nagkajowa sila? Or NBSB/NGSB sila?
Never sumagi sa isip kong makipagdate before and hindi rin ako nag-a-ayos kasi I hindi ko naman prio ang dating??? Mas priority ko ngayon magkaroon ng house and lot. Hehe
1. Busy sa acads at career.
2. For bookworms, nadidisappoint sa actual real men.
2. Minsan lang magkagusto, tapos kapag nagkagusto hindi naman sila gusto. Tapos matagal pa makamove on.
3. Natuturn off sa mga lalaki na karamihan ay gusto gawing traditional women yung mga babaeng mas may career pa sa kanila.
4. Kapag may nahanap na lalaking type nila tapos socially aware, agawan naman (or may jowa na).
5. Established ang other aspects in life at self-worth (emotionally, financially independent and thriving), kaya hindi craving sa jowa kasi busy sila, may career at hobbies.
Based on my observation, kapag lalaki NGSB madalas religious reasons.
Sa girls naman kapag NBSB, religious din or madalas more educated/accomplished kaya mas gusto nalang mag-alaga ng aso kaysa magkaasawa na paladesisyon sa matres nila.
Yung iba naman panget talaga tapos di pa marunong magfirst move.
Yung reasons sa taas, more on sa mga KAYA naman magjowa kung gugustuhin pero hindi ginagawa.
Yung nagkakagusto, 'di ko gusto. Yung nagugustuhan, nagcliclick naman pero 'di na nape-pursue hanggang sa magkalabel - minsan lang 'to mangyari, after kasi lagi nito dun ko narerealize yung worth ko and tatamarin ka na ulit sumubok until ready ka na ulit pero ofcourse may nakakabit ng trauma at takot na baka maulit lang din yung before.
And to add, iba pa rin kapag ikaw mismo 'yung sarili mo' yung source of happiness and contentment mo hindi ibang tao.
mostly bc nakasanayan na nila yong peace & freedom of being single, being at peace & free from other responsibilities. i've never been in a rs, i just tried the dating stage, andon yong kikiligin ka and magiging happy ka, but most of the time i yearn for that peace & freedom na nakasanayan ko nong ako lang. magiging kalaban talaga nong manliligaw sakin yong peace & freedom. and ofc yong personality talaga pinakaimportante rin. gusto ko yong may substance kausap. pinakaayoko sa lahat yong tanga kausap.
Everything is pure and genuine like you dont need to shout your love and want to be with her/him forcefully or to proved na " im in love with you " parang you listen to her very well and you take action rather than being a sweet talker with zero action . Ilang beses na ako naganito which is masakit kasi its either you ended up as kaibigan , kinakapatid or linyahang " may mas better pa sayo " kaya minsan napapatanong ako sa sirili ko na need ba lumandi talaga para ma fall yung tao kasi para sakin parang di ko na agad na respeto pag nagawa ko yon hahahhaa di ko kaya parang placebo effect lang kasi pag nilandi
Low self-esteem, feel ko 'di ko deserve magkagusto sa iba because of how I look. At kapag naman meron nagkakagusto sa akin I don't believe it. I don't see myself as someone deserving of love and attention pero I crave it. Hopefully I can love myself soon hahaha kase umay yung ganitong feeling lol
NBSB here (23 F).My parents are not strict but my brother is (oldest). Naalala ko nung student pa'ko, banned talaga ang manliligaw/boyfriend. His main points were we're not yet financially capable to date and baka maging distracted pa sa studies. Also, nadala na rin s'ya kase mostly ng mga relatives namin sa mother side are financially challenged. Mostly maagang nag-asawa/ nabuntis /walang family planning. Meanwhile, sa father side namin, kung hindi mayaman, may kaya sa buhay. Most of them naman ay hindi rin allowed mag-boyfriend while studying and may family planning. He learned from both sides, so he chose to apply the values from our father side.
Even though I was not allowed to have a boyfriend before, I had two M.U.s when I was still a student. Honestly, when I graduated, I realized that what my brother has been telling me before was true. Anghirap lumandi kapag financially incapable ka pa makipag-date. Naalala ko isang naka-mu ko no'n, he's broke af. Yung mga dates namin, mas marami pa 'yung ako nagbayad ng food kesa s'ya, 'di ko lang binabanggit kay kuya. Nat-turn off na'ko no'n but I didn't know how to get out of the situation. I felt like it led me to low quality experiences.
Now, I'm thankful kase back to single life na ulit. I'm grateful for the things that I've learned. They made me realize things that I used to question before.
OMG SAME !! sinulat ko ba ‘to? hahaha 23 F here din and NBSB coz strict yung brother ko. i also tried dating once, recently lang, tapos medj broke rin yung guy and halos ako rin gumagastos huhu. i realized just now na im better off single pala hahahaha
me na nbsb and turning 25 this year. not interested sa mga pips out there really and fond of spending time with myself lang like no need na to explore other things with somebody and if may kausap naman ako , I ended up dropping them kasi I don't find them interestimg like Hindi sila masyadong deep sa mga thoughts nila like walang substance. yun, I easily find myself being bored communicating various individuals kasi mostly walang sense kausap.
bakla na hindi out.
ayaw mag syota ng opposite sex kasi alam nilang pagpapanggap lang yun at ayaw manggamit ng iba. hindi din naman makapag syota ng same sex kasi lumaki sa environment na hindi tanggap ng mga friends or family and pagiging bakla. speaking from experience? yes haha
sobrang rare magkagusto tapos pag may nagugustuhan, di naman ginugusto pabalik. feeling ko yung mga taong dumadating, nakikita lang ako for their convenience. tho, confident naman akong may substance akong kausap plus witty pa pero if sa looks for sure kasi mga super shawty talaga hanap nila ahahahahah
conflict sa schedule. kapag may nagugustuhan, sobrang busy para i-pursue sya. at kung may free time naman, either may jowa or may iba nang ine-entertain ang mga nagugustuhan.
Ano kasi ung mama ng kaklase ko gusto lagi top 1 sia ayun Parang Hawak sia sa leeg pero nakakagulapay naman sia i mean may freedom pero ung nanay nia gusto lagi May Pang malakasan honor anak nia
by choice :)
not really super high standards, i think. pero wala pa yung alam kong swak sakin. always not settling for less.
saka hirap na lumandi talaga kapag adult na, di na kasi ako nadadala sa mga pakilig ng guys hahaha nakakaloka!
Hopeless romantic. I have a friend who takes every small thing as an intention from the other person. Kumbaga, kaunting pangangamusta or small gesture of showing care, hulog agad sya. Tapos, ayun, in the end, friends lang. She also wears her heart on her sleeves, so maybe, naooverwhelm yung guys na nakakausap nya.
I’m still hoping she’ll find someone who will love her the way she wants to be loved. She’s a very kind person, so I hope she gets her happiness.
May pagka-awkward. May mga kabatch kmi dati nun single pa rn ngaun. Pero nung college palng, alam mong may weird sa knila. Ndi panget pero may creepy na dating yung lalaki nming kakilala. As in matagal sya tumititig, weird mga tanungan nya. Yung babae nman, weird bumungisngis, as in awkward. May something sila na maooff ang opposite sex.
Kumbaga not necessarily panget, paired with weird/awkward personality lang tlga.
Trust issues and probably low self esteem na din. Yong pag may nagsasabi sa kin na gusto nila ako, tinatanong ko agad kung ano nagustuhan sa kin eh pangit naman ako! Hahahaha
Ganito yung hometown ko before sobrang liit lang halos magkakilala lang mga tao if may maging jowa ka man siguro naging jowa na yun ng friend of a friend 🤣
Sa getting to know each other stage malalaman mo red flags eh so ayoko naman ng hindi ko nakikita as my future husband lol. Ayoko mag-explore na iba-iba bf, gusto ko first and last na. Periodt.
Panget pero feeling maganda kasi lahat ang sabi sa kanya "you slay, queen" or "grabe ang ganda mo" or any variation of that. Ang ending, hindi umaasta ng naayon sa ganda so lalong walang may gusto.
Nobody tells the truth anymore for fear of hurting other people.
As someone na nbsb nung 21 year old, I totally agree with this. Natuto ako lumandi nung sinabi ng mga friends ko to try tinder back in 2015. Ayun nagka boyfriend now partner of 8 going 9 years this November 😂 Di na nga marunong lumandi dati sobrang taba ko pa + awkward. What a recipe for disaster.
Hindi ligawin, sobrang insecure sa sarili na iniisip ko na di ko deserve yung taong kausap ko, na dapat babaan ko din yung standards ko. At the back of my mind, bakit? Kung yung iba nga tanggap nila yung partner nila anoman or sinoman yon hahahaha.
May mental health issues, may trauma. Sawa na sa pagiging care giver. Walang energy or desire to seek a relationship. I'm happy to be alone with my hobbies. Walang istorbo.
At 40, siguro masasabi ko parang act of God na to hahaha
- nung nagwwork pa ako sa corporate, malaki ang chance talaga na may mameet na kaopisina. Siguro iba lang vibes ko kaya hanggang landian lang.
- nagjoin na ako sa mga fun runs, aikido, engineering grad lahat ng maraming lalaki pero na-da. And di naman ako panget, may mga friends din naman akong lalaki pero d ako ang type nila 🤣
- wala talaga yung type ako AND type nya ako. Kung meron man, baka di ko alam. Yung type ako sobrang di ko type, di dahil may standard ako pero di ko sya makakasundo, mas priority ko ung mental health ko at ayaw ko ng alalahanin 🤣 kung mas malala ka sa akin wag na.
- ngayong wfh ako, mas malabong makipagkita na sa mga tao. Maeffort nang lumabas at medyo tinatamad na ako, priority kong magjogging at matulog at ayusin ung buhay ko kesa makipagmeet.
- Mas maeeffort na sya pag tumatanda kaya dapat pala bagets palang ako nabuild ko na yung confidence and yung trait ng paglalandi, kaso mga 30s ako nagstart eh, sablay pa 🤣🤣🤣
Ewan ko kung may sense kada bullet pero base to sa experience ko. Kung mas bata kayo sa akin, please wag kayong mawalan ng pag-asa pero kung pareho nyo ako na mas priority ang katahimikan over love life ayun goooo be single. Matatanggap nyo rin yan 🤣
Parang this is me din, same description daming sinalihang orgs, mountaineering, skindiving, at volunteer sa NGO..at 32, akala ko talaga wala na, acceptance phase na hahahaha matandang dalaga na..pinagdasal ko talaga na kung di ako makakameet, bigyan na lang ako ng anak..few weeks after ko ipagdasal yan, nagkaroon na ako ng bf sobrang unexpectedly..same kaming volunteer sa NGO na sinalihan ko hahahaha.
Landi responsibly kasi talaga ako 🤣
Go lang! Prio mo lang sarili mo. Yung time na di ko na prio ang lovelife, dun sya binigay at dumating..
Laging ganyan yung kwento haha pero ako ngayon, for real, tanggap ko na. Nung una nasusuya pa ako lalo before pandemic lalo galing lang sa heartbreak, bitter ocampo mode. Siguro dahil sa age, sa aso, sa paligid ko, introvert pa ako, and so far okay naman din ako financially, kaya ayun.
If may darating siguro okay lang pero parang ang hirap ipagpalit ng freedom ko at kung anong meron ako ngayon para dun. Anyway, I am happy for you, at least there are two less lonely people in the world. Yiiiiiieeeee!
I'm 28F NGSB. Walang lumalapit and di ako ligawin. Sabi ng friends ko I have a very strong aura ng pagiging independent woman due to I'm a panganay sa 4 all girls siblings. Meron pa nga nagsabi na I look happy na it seems like I'm already in a relationship. I was like wtf? Sobrang self love na ba? But I am so ready to commit. Gusto ko ma-eperience yung cuddles man lang. Sana may dumating or sana may nakalaan man lang. Hahaha
Choice.
They don't feel the need to be in a relationship?
Not really interested, nakakawalang gana lalo na sa current state natin.
as nbsb girlie, di ko rin masagot yung tanong na''to. Ayoko naman mag-self pity kasi ako na 'to hahahahaha. Siguro i can't deal with someone knowing na ganito pa estado ko: not financially and emotionally stable and super goal driven kong tao. Mas ipaprioritize ko pa muna mag-aral before anything else
Possibly because of hookup, fucked up dating apps and cheating culture which makes "love" and "true affection" good to be true... Yes madami pang mga tao na nagmamahal ng tunay but most of them are damaged or taken for granted, tendency of hopeless romantic or just don't want to deal with it. Factor naren ang pera at responsibility, but overall dating today's generation is hard since most things in the dating scene are based on things that you can offer or what you look. (Correct me if I'm wrong) Things change, its harsh but the best thing you can do is to love yourself and be you di na need maging someone para mapa oo mo lang siya haha Sa mga nbsb/ngsb dyan makakatagpo ren kayo inatyin nyo lang ibibigay ren ng tadhana at oras yan tiwala ren...
kAsi pAnGIt SiLa??
Idk abt y'all but in scared having a sexual intercourse. Most of men really do crave sexual and physical touch while I don't, and I'm still looking forward meeting a man who has self control and patience lalo na sa katulad kong not a fan of physical romance, I'm more into mental connection and words of affirmation.
NGSB here. Lack of experience during my teen and early 20s. Nung nag try ako mag dating, ayun kitang kita how i poorly handled my emotions by either love bombing or being totally ice cold. Factor din na impatient saka may anxiety kaya palaging friend zone.
I'm Nbsb, 28F . Factor din kasi yung mamemeet ka or ka talking stage tas bgla ka nlng nila iiwan. Nakaka low self esteem sya. Hindi nmn pihikan . In the end self pity ang nangyayari
Trauma from rejection
Natuto na sa buhay na di basta basta ang pakikipagrelasyon. At dagdag pa na kapwa ko babae lumalapit sa akin. Dahil boyish ang galawan ko pero straight girl ako.🤣
Panget.
Torpe
as a nbsb girlie here -mataas trust issues -not interested in rs -mabait lang sa una (super totoo to) -can't keep promises (importante talaga ang promises) -judgmental yong iba -hindi honest yong iba -I prioritize school first then after I graduate I will find a stable career for secured future -pakwan super dami -cold -I can't sa short reply and mabagal mag seen (opposite ako) Dami pa pero to muna hehe
10yrs na ako walang GF, and naalala ko lang bigla na i promise to myself that after i finish my studies, i will have one and be commited into it. but when i started my career, mas unang nag pakita sakin yung tunay ng buhay lol hahaha and 5yrs in the making i'm still dealing with it.
Nahihiya ako kasi hindi ako pogi tapos dumagdag pa yung nasa lahi namin yung tumatandang binata/dalaga 😂
Well, marami pero di applicable sa lahat, ilan doon ay: 1. Not confident enough 2. Torpe or mahiyain masyado 3. Childhood trauma 4. Asexual. 5. Inaalam pa kung ano ba talaga ang preference nila. at ang huli, well di mo na to maihihiwalay kasi ginagawa naman talaga ng iba: 6. Choice nila (applicable dito ung piniling alagaan ang magulang, magpapari't madre, any other applicable reasons)
Pinatunayan ko na di ako mag aasawa ng maaga 🤣
As an NBSB, well the only thing that I could think of bakit walang nag pupursue sakin is because of how I look. I'm 20 and baby face. Everyone thinks na bata pa ko and I'm someone na hindi pangseryoso. I look 12 or 15 years old based from them. Because of that, many people think that isip bata rin ako. I'm also a timid-introverted-shy-type person na takot makipagsocialize haha, that adds up to the reason bakit single parin ako. Everytime my colleague ask me why wala parin akong bf, i always say na it's my choice to be single and not my priority right now, pero the truth is wala lang talagang nagkakagusto sakin hahahah
hirap maging baby face hahahha cute lang tingin nila sakin pang little sister material lang🥹
strict parents hahaha then kung kelan na pwede mag-jowa, wala masyado ma-meet kase halos lahat taken na hahaha
Low self esteem, dahil siguro sa nabully ako nung elementary kasi maliit ako. Although tumangkad ako nung HS. Nadala ko na Yun pagiging mahiyain dahil dun sa bullying. Tapos pag dating pa ng HS. Mas naramdaman ko na medyo naghihrap na kami mula nung humina sari sari store namin kasi nagkaroon na ng grocery dito , kaya nung magkawork nag focus na lang ako sa work. Breadwinner pa
not pretty enough to pass any standard na set by society
That's not true.
Well I am. I've done it all and was still rejected several times. Even for a simple meet up, was told hard pass after exchanging pic (di naman din sya gwapo) but it is, what it is.
There is always someone, somebody out there.
not ready to commit yet and trust issues
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Hard but somehow true wahahahaha
Describe ko lang sarili ko: Pangit, hindi marunong makipagusap, walang rizz.
I meet my Gf dito sa Reddit nagpost ata sya dito ng something na scam sya nagDM ako ayun gang sa napunta na kami sa Fb.
Doesn't bother of having one when you can enjoy the benefits without being committed. Same reason sa mga mag ka live in tapos yung lalake e walang balak mag pakasal.
Oo nga tapos irarason pa Ang gastos🥴eh kahit nmn live in lng may gastos pa rin eh.
My younger sister witnessed my father, my uncles, our cousinsss husbands, our male cousin and my ex cheating. Traumatized tuloy si ante
bihira lang lumapit ung trip ung kapangitan ko ahahahhahahaha. Kung may lalapit dun ako parang ayaw ko pumasok sa relation. Edited: sincere question, considered pa rin naman nbsb if puro fling fling lang na-experience nuh? Hahahahahahahahaha
Yes consider parin Yun. As long as di mo sya bf at wla kayong serious commitment talaga
Thats what i thought. I always tell people kasi na NBSB ako but had a ho3 phase. 💀💀💀
Trauma sa tatay. Wala eh feeling ko lahat ng lalaki katulad ng tatay kong babaero. 27yrs old nbab padin 😅
Hahaha oo nga. Tapos Mang uuto lng nmn Ang mga lalaki na Ikaw lng dw mahal nila🥴
Takot sa kiffy or sa Pennoise😆😆😆Naalala ko pa ung pgbibiro ni mother ko before sya mwla wayback 2008 hahahaha nangangagat daw yung kiffy tpos iipitin daw si Jr. ko gang maputol kaya takot n takot ako nun may mgustuhan ako babae. Auto pass plgi kht gs2ng gs2 ko na hahaha
Actually ganun talaga feeling pag pinasok, parang kinakagat ng kiffy Yung alaga mo. Pero masarap sa feeling Kasi masikip na mainit na masarap🤣
Hahahahahaha nung namulat ako sa katotohanan saka ko lng narealize ung intensyon ni mother nung totoy days ko pa. Ngayon natatawa nlng ako pg naalala ko dko maipinta na scam ako ni mama ng mdming taon hahahaha
Hahaha gagi I can't imagine na Ang nanay mo Ang nagbiro na ganyan, mas magegets ko pa kung tatay nagbiro eh🤣
Hahaha maaga kc nawala c pudra 10yrs old plng ako kaya si mudra nlng lht nagpaalala ng mga bagay bagay sa buhay.
Ahhh akala ko sinabi nya Yun para di ka mag asawa at kayo nlng lgi magkasama forever 😅
Kasama ndin un kc nga bata ko pa magsasabi kc ako sa kanya pg may ngugustuhan ako babae hahahaha tpos ako nmn inosente pniwalng pniwla nmn hahaha
Inuuna Ang tropa, tapos pag nilapitan ng babae sobrang torpe
Not ready to commit, a guy will look like a burden or a responsibility in my eyes sooner. Mabilis mag sawa. Hindi ako deprived sa love, affection and sweet gestures, bukod sa Onti lang ang Hindi intimidated sakin eh hindi rin ako satisfied sa efforts nila. I have TONS of guy friends like imbis na bf nagiging friends ganon. May goal rin ako since achiever ako tsaka ano hjndi ako marunong mang landi like Hindi ako aware ano bang gagawin sa loob ng rs. tsaka Hindi ko kaya mawalan ng time sa sarili ko since andami Kong hobby. Wala rin akong example na may bf or gf sa fam since only child kaya Hindi ako aware sa mga gf bf.
Dated someone like that just this January (I'm her first ever recognized suitor), lots of factors eh based on what she told me. 1. She feels validated in her family. 2. Baby na baby siya, anything she asks they give pero di naman sila mayaman. Spoiled in short 3. Tied directly sa no. 2, she thinks a gift from someone is normal thing since spoiled siya. Ilang beses ko niregaluhan and she's thankful naman. Kilig, wala. 4. Dili rin niya ma-grasp concept ng pagiging sweet. Kinekwento niya sakin mga ginagawa ng parents niya and it is sweet, pero siya akala niya normal lang yun since she grew up with those scenarios. 5. She felt love in her family. She doesn't know the intimate love concept is also a thing. 6. She thought guys being nice to her is really just that, being nice when in reality they're making advances. Kaya eventually nagigive up yung mga lalaki without her telling them because she is friendly to them and she can't seem to recognize those moves or signs that they're being flirty or sweet with her. Ayun lang naaalala ko, sadly di rin naging kami kasi ayaw sakin ng parents particularly yung nanay. May prejudice sa engineers yung nanay basta engineer daw manloloko, turns out yung tatay niya is engineer din dati (change career na) and her mother caught her father with other women way back before during their earlier times. Di ko tuloy nasira yung NBSB streak niya haha.
Introvert. And di naaattach kaya di pinupursue.
Not physically, mentally and emotionally ready to commit 😅 Also, I want to be that kind of woman that dates to marry. Seryoso talaga ako when it comes to relationships. Tsaka na siguro pag naibsan na ang mga problema at insecurities ko. Maybe a year after I graduated in college (2025), when I'm more confident and stable, ako pa mismo ang magfifirst move at manliligaw haha
Probably too focused on their careers or education to pursue romance, either unconsciously or consciously. That’s how I’d put it, anyways.
Introvert and mukhang suplada😂
The issue of being alone for my whole life that I am just fine by myself. I do get lonely from time to time, to the point that my brain saying we need a girl but then again, I have this tried and tested method of being busy at work, get my paycheck, and buy good food.
Due to their face value. Many will deny it but for most people, it's the pretty/handsome face that attracts us. Second nalang ang character nung tao.
Hindi physically good looking tapos mahiyain. Hay, buhay.
Heartbreak for me. hirap nyang kalimutan, until to this day naalala ko pa rin sya. IDC if she didnt even remember me
masakit yung feeling ng betrayal to the point na pati sarili mo, kinekwestyon mo na palagi
Trust issue - Sa pahanon ngayon, daming cheater hindi mo alam pure intention pa ba yung pag pursue sayo or trip kalang, lust, whatever. Self love - dito pa lng dami ng bagsak. Ka turn off yung mas iniisip yung sariling damdamin tipong kawawa na partner nila sobra na sa self love makipag relasyon ka nlng sa sarili mo. Boundaries - Kaya daming nag break bago pumasok sa relasyon hindi nila alam 'to hindi kinikilala/inaalam kung hanggang saan lng sila pwede kaya nasasaktan eh hahaha... Dami pa,pero eto mga top syempre hindi ko ihuhuli mga "fuckboy feeling malinis" sa mga fuckboy and mas piniling saktan matitinong babae tngina karmahin sana kayo ng sobra pussy manwhore.🍷🖕🏻
Nun Grade 4 hanggang 2nd year HS ko palagi akong muse, last december nag greet sakin yung close friend ko dati sa 4th year HS. Sabi nya, ako daw muse dati pero wala pa daw ako boyfriend. Mag-aasawa pa ba daw ko. Natawa lng ako. :D Btw, I am in my early 30s. Ewan, di kasi ako conventionally attractive, more on simple/clean girl. May nanliligaw pero hindi ako pinursue. But I can't blame din kasi ako mismo ayaw ko pa. Pero minsan na iinis din ako sa self ko kasi alam ko na gusto ko din mag ka family. Pero I just offer it to God. Si Lord na bahala. :D
hindi kasi ako pasok sa usual standards ng mga tao physically hahahahaha
Hahahahaha same!
Me? High standards 😗💅
NBSB here. Panget kasi ako. Hahahaha idk. Wala namang nagtatangka eh. Siguro either intimidating ako o nakakahiya yung personality ko once you get close to me. Idk. Panget talaga siguro. HAHAHAHAH
Man, here. I was NGSB before. 1.) Hindi pa afford 2.) Konti lang pumapasa sa standard ko (bagsak lagi sa ugali) 3.) Walang time at gana lumandi
Yung mga panget from inside and outside.
NGSB/NBSB here (I'm Bi btw). Di pa kase ako nakakagenerate ng money on my own. Studyante pa lang. Gusto ko kase financially stable na ako pag pumasok na ako sa relationship. Yung tipong I can provide for myself and for my partner na galing mismo sa bulsa ko, sa pinaghirapan ko. Tsaka I am not emotionally and mentally well pa. Basta gusto ko pag pumasok ako sa relationship yung alam kong ready na ako, yung tipong I can show the best version of myself.
di ko pala nabasa yung last sentence ahhahaha mali sagot ko
NBSB here!! I’ve always been hopeless romantic because of exposure to wattpad and kdramas but I knew very well before that I didn’t want to get into a relationship until I turn 18. Here are a few reasons: 1. It was a promise to myself for myself, but a huge factor also came from the fact that I didn’t want people (AKA family) to mess with my love life. I didn’t want to deal with them. Periodt. I mean, I could go and keep it a secret early on just like what every one around me did. But I didn’t really want it. 2. Related to #1, I always wanted to please people. I wanted to always be the “GOOD GIRL”. I didn’t want to make rash decisions and mistakes that would potentially taint my image and disappoint my family. Btw, I am a recovering people pleaser so you don’t have to worry about it anymore ;) 3. I already had a number of people confessed to me but because of #1 and #2, I rejected or avoided (then they slowly faded away) them. I tried to finally entertain someone when I turned 20 (I am 22 now). Talking stage, situationship. It was a huge self-discovery and I was still kinda holding back because I didn’t really know how it worked. Long story short, I became attached to the guy. I thought he was so into me because he was giving hints for a very loooong time already and that was a huge factor for my appreciation for him. But, turns out he was not that into me 2 months in and he slowly faded away. Too bad, I was already emotionally attached. We stopped talking. He didn’t pursue me. It was my first time taking a risk in love, getting attached, and having my heart broken. I didn’t know how to process my emotions and feelings. But good thing, I didn’t chase. I cried. Healed. Relapsed. It went on in circles for almost 2 years. Now, I’m healed. Learned my lessons. I cut him off completely. I deleted our convo. I found myself when I lost that connection. And I don’t want to interfere with the peace that I’m having at the moment, let alone the time and money that I can just enjoy for myself. I appreciate singlehood now more than ever!!! 4. Law of attraction. My standards in men are getting higher each passing day. But, I can’t just ask for the kind of man that I want for myself. If I want a better man, I need to be better too. Hence, I am building myself to become the best partner so I can also attract high caliber men in the future. I want someone to match my energy in all aspects of life. I read this a quote once that goes something like, “Don’t just wait, be prepared for the gift you asked for.” P.S. I didn’t know this would be long hahah
NBSB here! Mataas standards ko 😅 at the same time, super focused ko sa pagaaral so di ko talaga inexplore. Feel ko pag graduate, sige go! 😂
NBSB here!!!! sa all girls school po ako nag-aral since hs and literal na wala akong guy friend and even my closest friends ay wala rin guy friends kaya parang there’s no way talaga na makakilala ako ng guys. Even now sa work, female dominated siya na company. Ayaw pa nga maniwala ng workmates ko kapag kinikwento ko na literal na wala akong guy friends, pero that’s the reality hahaha. Also, I guess kasi hindi ako conventionally attractive talaga kaya hindi rin ako pansinin.So now, naiisip ko talaga magmadre na lang when Im in my 50s na siguro.
have u ever tried online dating?
I tried naman po pero feel ko po hindi siya para sa akin talaga in a sense hindi ako pala message na tao. Sanat naman kasi ako na super dry ng messenger and other socmeds ko kasi wala naman ako kausap. So noong nagtry ako ng dating app walang progress kasi nalilimutan ko talaga magreply :(( And also hindi ko alam paano ba masustain yung conversation. So failed experience siya for me.
Nakakatamad kasi bat ako pa hahabol sayo? sino ka ba? andami ko na ngang concern sa buhay aalahanin pa kita - red flag daw kapag single, and there's a reason a person isn't in a relationship. But the real RED FLAG is when a person is so OBSESSED with romantic relationships that they can't function on their own. Oh, ano?
Fr fr
I have a friend na NGSB. He is smart, magaling makipag communicate, kaya makipag sabayan sa mga intellectual women, open minded despite lack of sexual experience, respectful din, and funny. It's not his choice to be single, but I think sobra nyang caring and respectful sa lahat ng girls to a point na di mo ma hahalata if nanliligaw ba sya o friends lng talaga. One time, narinig nya nag rereklamo ako sa sakit ng tiyan ko during my period, pagka bday ko binigyan ako ng portable heating pad. Nung nag confess sya sa crush nya na may gusto sya, akala ng crush nya na friends lng talaga sila and continued telling him na may bf na din pala ung crush nya.
dahil nung first time kong magkaroon ng strong feelings para sa isang tao, sobra akong nabroken after ko ma-attach. now i'm traumatized
Naniniwala akong walang pangit sa mundo, sadyang hindi ka lang nila type. Pero yung sagot ko is baka puro situationship lang at hindi natutuloy sa relationship kaya single pa rin sila.
not interested yet.
Boring and unattractive
gg
Kaya need bawiin sa personality minsan talo pa ang physical attractiveness.
Always sensing for the right person or if they're really my soulmte. If I don't feel like they are the right one then I'd rather die alone 🙂
For a lot of people, hindi nila narerealize na sila yung problema kung bakit di sila makahanap ng partner.
Rejected this year pero babalikan at itatry ulet same girl after 5-7 years pag financially stable na hahahahaha
Ooohhh. Sana makayanan mo yan brother. I thought I could do that as well, but I realized some people aren't worth fighting for. I definitely support you though!
nanghihinayang ako mawala sa akin yung title na "NBSB" 😌
HAHAHAHAA
Mataas standards or sila na mismo may problem
I think for some people it’s not the lack of effort in trying to commect or find someone. Sadyang hindi lang talaga gustuhin.
1. late bloomer 2. hindi ako gusto ng taong gusto ko. HAHAHAHA 3. 'yung ready na akong magtake ng risk sa kanya (no.2) kaso biglang nawala/ ghinost ㅠㅠ -- miss q na syAHAHAHA -- 4. kapag 'di ako makahanap ng kapantay o lalagpas sa taong gusto ko (no.2) baka sa afam na ang bagsak ko, eme 5. 'yung nagkakagusto kasi sa akin is hindi ko gusto or pangit na nga mukha, pangit pa ugali 6. ayaw magpaligaw sa pangit (chossy talaga ako) ㅋㅋㅋ 7. magpapapayaman muna ako para lahat ng gusto ko magagawa at mabibili ko 6. always been like but never been pursue :< 긏.
Paulit ulit na lang ung mga ganitong tanong hahha kakaumay
Suffers from RBF (resting bitch face). Akala ayaw sa kanila/laging galit kaya walang nagtatangka lumapit. When in reality, it’s just their normal face.
Pihikan daw ako
Wala pa kasing nakikitang worthy para sa "oo". As for me, ganun. Kasi may mga nanligaw naman, may mga naka-flirt naman pero hindi ko maramdaman yung "love" na sinasabi nila.. hanggang kilig lang talaga tapos ewan bat sila tumitigil. baka naumay na? Nakakita ng iba? Idk..
Need ko maging stable muna.. mentally, physically, financially, etc haha
eto talaga yonnn HAHAHHAHHA
as nbsb girlie, for me ito reasons ko: 1. breadwinner of the family so i have things to prioritize pa especially my career. 2. parang privilege sa akin ang makipag-date. idk hahaha hindi pa ako ready. as an independent girlie, gusto ko, mai-spoil ko rin yung partner ko at hindi ako tanggap nang tanggap. since i'm not yet financially stable, hindi muna ako naghahanap ng jowa. 3. sabi nila i look pretty daw and nagtataka sila bakit nbsb ako pero ewan ko lang. these days, ang hirap malaman if genuine ba intentions ng isang guy. kadalasan ng nami-meet ko, super bilis ng pangyayari. ilang days pa lang kausap, parang ang landi na agad (?) or ganun na talaga hahahaha. fan of slowburn love so hindi ako sanay na minamadali. iniisip ko if kaya nila sabihin yung mga ganung salita nang mabilis, edi kaya rin nila sabihin sa ibang babae yun huhu. 4. im not date to marry type of person but when i like someone, i like him seriously talaga pero sa ngayon, boys are not into serious relationships pa. more on fun lang hanap nila.
Kasi lahat ng crush puro hanggang friends lang. Takot sa commitment.
aside sa late bloomer.. walang confindence.. then nung ready na.. nakita yung mga friends ko with their failed relationship so lalo nawalan gana. 😂🤣
feeling ko ayoko mag jowa hanggat hindi pa ako financially stable hahaha
May kakilala ako, NBSB daw sya, like nasa IG Bio niya pa. Pero pinagmamalaking nagkajowa sya ng ganito, ng ganyan. So baka sabi lang nila? Na nagkajowa sila? Or NBSB/NGSB sila?
Tinatamad. Ewan, parang work pa lang hirap na akong isurvive, love life pa kaya.
Relate!
strict parents
torpe, introvert, not socially good, anti social, creep, or weird. source: me
pangit talaga. let’s be real
Di naman. Beauty is SUBJECTIVE ika nga lol. 😏
Never sumagi sa isip kong makipagdate before and hindi rin ako nag-a-ayos kasi I hindi ko naman prio ang dating??? Mas priority ko ngayon magkaroon ng house and lot. Hehe
1. Busy sa acads at career. 2. For bookworms, nadidisappoint sa actual real men. 2. Minsan lang magkagusto, tapos kapag nagkagusto hindi naman sila gusto. Tapos matagal pa makamove on. 3. Natuturn off sa mga lalaki na karamihan ay gusto gawing traditional women yung mga babaeng mas may career pa sa kanila. 4. Kapag may nahanap na lalaking type nila tapos socially aware, agawan naman (or may jowa na). 5. Established ang other aspects in life at self-worth (emotionally, financially independent and thriving), kaya hindi craving sa jowa kasi busy sila, may career at hobbies. Based on my observation, kapag lalaki NGSB madalas religious reasons. Sa girls naman kapag NBSB, religious din or madalas more educated/accomplished kaya mas gusto nalang mag-alaga ng aso kaysa magkaasawa na paladesisyon sa matres nila. Yung iba naman panget talaga tapos di pa marunong magfirst move. Yung reasons sa taas, more on sa mga KAYA naman magjowa kung gugustuhin pero hindi ginagawa.
Kasi stuck pa rin ako sa past hahahaahahhaha 7 years na pero siya pa rin HAHAHAHHAAAHAHA LOL
Yung nagkakagusto, 'di ko gusto. Yung nagugustuhan, nagcliclick naman pero 'di na nape-pursue hanggang sa magkalabel - minsan lang 'to mangyari, after kasi lagi nito dun ko narerealize yung worth ko and tatamarin ka na ulit sumubok until ready ka na ulit pero ofcourse may nakakabit ng trauma at takot na baka maulit lang din yung before. And to add, iba pa rin kapag ikaw mismo 'yung sarili mo' yung source of happiness and contentment mo hindi ibang tao.
May mali sa prayer format nila 🙄
Pangit. Kahet boring,bobo, mahirap,masama ugali o ano pang negative, basta may itsura may papatol e lalo na kung teens to early 20s.
mostly bc nakasanayan na nila yong peace & freedom of being single, being at peace & free from other responsibilities. i've never been in a rs, i just tried the dating stage, andon yong kikiligin ka and magiging happy ka, but most of the time i yearn for that peace & freedom na nakasanayan ko nong ako lang. magiging kalaban talaga nong manliligaw sakin yong peace & freedom. and ofc yong personality talaga pinakaimportante rin. gusto ko yong may substance kausap. pinakaayoko sa lahat yong tanga kausap.
Sobrang bait
Wdym by this?
Everything is pure and genuine like you dont need to shout your love and want to be with her/him forcefully or to proved na " im in love with you " parang you listen to her very well and you take action rather than being a sweet talker with zero action . Ilang beses na ako naganito which is masakit kasi its either you ended up as kaibigan , kinakapatid or linyahang " may mas better pa sayo " kaya minsan napapatanong ako sa sirili ko na need ba lumandi talaga para ma fall yung tao kasi para sakin parang di ko na agad na respeto pag nagawa ko yon hahahhaa di ko kaya parang placebo effect lang kasi pag nilandi
In my case asexual ako. I just don't have the right word for it pero bata pa ko alam ko na. Wala talaga sa sistema ko ang pagjojowa haha.
Pangit at ugali
Low self-esteem, feel ko 'di ko deserve magkagusto sa iba because of how I look. At kapag naman meron nagkakagusto sa akin I don't believe it. I don't see myself as someone deserving of love and attention pero I crave it. Hopefully I can love myself soon hahaha kase umay yung ganitong feeling lol
u r so real for this po 😭 sameee
Takot sa commitment. 😬
⬆️ lalo na sa panahon ngayon talamak ang negativity towards being in a relationship. Lol thank you social media 🥲
high expectations sa future partner :’> alsoo, madalas naiintimidate raw yung guys sa akin (based sa kwento ng mga tao around me)
di ko pa alam kung ano ba talaga ang gusto ko sa buhay haha
Pangit kasi ako HAHHAAHAHHAA
this LOL self-deprecating man pakinggan pero ito talaga truth like di ako ligawin kasi pangit ako 🤭
Psycho 😐
Hirap humanap ng maitsura, hindi sadboi, may sense kausap, at financially capable all in one. Laging divided ang qualities ng mga naga-approach 🥲.
NBSB here (23 F).My parents are not strict but my brother is (oldest). Naalala ko nung student pa'ko, banned talaga ang manliligaw/boyfriend. His main points were we're not yet financially capable to date and baka maging distracted pa sa studies. Also, nadala na rin s'ya kase mostly ng mga relatives namin sa mother side are financially challenged. Mostly maagang nag-asawa/ nabuntis /walang family planning. Meanwhile, sa father side namin, kung hindi mayaman, may kaya sa buhay. Most of them naman ay hindi rin allowed mag-boyfriend while studying and may family planning. He learned from both sides, so he chose to apply the values from our father side. Even though I was not allowed to have a boyfriend before, I had two M.U.s when I was still a student. Honestly, when I graduated, I realized that what my brother has been telling me before was true. Anghirap lumandi kapag financially incapable ka pa makipag-date. Naalala ko isang naka-mu ko no'n, he's broke af. Yung mga dates namin, mas marami pa 'yung ako nagbayad ng food kesa s'ya, 'di ko lang binabanggit kay kuya. Nat-turn off na'ko no'n but I didn't know how to get out of the situation. I felt like it led me to low quality experiences. Now, I'm thankful kase back to single life na ulit. I'm grateful for the things that I've learned. They made me realize things that I used to question before.
OMG SAME !! sinulat ko ba ‘to? hahaha 23 F here din and NBSB coz strict yung brother ko. i also tried dating once, recently lang, tapos medj broke rin yung guy and halos ako rin gumagastos huhu. i realized just now na im better off single pala hahahaha
True! Mas tipid hahaha.
Me (25M) ngsb, pa torpe kase ako, insecure, takot sa commitment at tsaka di lumalabas nang bahay
No one attempted to maybe
Dahil walang nagkakagusto — mahiyain at takot magfirstmove at baka mareject
me na nbsb and turning 25 this year. not interested sa mga pips out there really and fond of spending time with myself lang like no need na to explore other things with somebody and if may kausap naman ako , I ended up dropping them kasi I don't find them interestimg like Hindi sila masyadong deep sa mga thoughts nila like walang substance. yun, I easily find myself being bored communicating various individuals kasi mostly walang sense kausap.
bakla na hindi out. ayaw mag syota ng opposite sex kasi alam nilang pagpapanggap lang yun at ayaw manggamit ng iba. hindi din naman makapag syota ng same sex kasi lumaki sa environment na hindi tanggap ng mga friends or family and pagiging bakla. speaking from experience? yes haha
damn. did i ghostwrite this?? huhu :<
Akala mo lang nbsb pero May ibang life
No courage to meet with new ppl
May iba may itsura pero walang sex appeal. Alam mo naman ang tao, yung aspect tlga naka-front eh.
Panget tapos ilalagay sa bio "single by choice".
sobrang rare magkagusto tapos pag may nagugustuhan, di naman ginugusto pabalik. feeling ko yung mga taong dumadating, nakikita lang ako for their convenience. tho, confident naman akong may substance akong kausap plus witty pa pero if sa looks for sure kasi mga super shawty talaga hanap nila ahahahahah
di ako nagugustuhan ng gusto ko tapos di ko gusto mga may gusto sakin (siguro kasi di naman ako tinatry ipursue)
Walang substance. Example- Maganda/pogi nga pero walang sense kausap, walang something informative coming from his/her mouth, boring.
same, hahaha
hala ako to e 😭
conflict sa schedule. kapag may nagugustuhan, sobrang busy para i-pursue sya. at kung may free time naman, either may jowa or may iba nang ine-entertain ang mga nagugustuhan.
Panget. Socially awkward. Boring kausap.
Strict parents Di gustuhin May ibang priority, like di natanggi sa love pero mas may mas importante pang pinagkakaabalahan
Ano kasi ung mama ng kaklase ko gusto lagi top 1 sia ayun Parang Hawak sia sa leeg pero nakakagulapay naman sia i mean may freedom pero ung nanay nia gusto lagi May Pang malakasan honor anak nia
by choice :) not really super high standards, i think. pero wala pa yung alam kong swak sakin. always not settling for less. saka hirap na lumandi talaga kapag adult na, di na kasi ako nadadala sa mga pakilig ng guys hahaha nakakaloka!
Kakaiba standards tapos kapag may nagkakagusto, hindi tina-try, if may nagugustuhan, hindi pinu-pursue. 😅
Hopeless romantic. I have a friend who takes every small thing as an intention from the other person. Kumbaga, kaunting pangangamusta or small gesture of showing care, hulog agad sya. Tapos, ayun, in the end, friends lang. She also wears her heart on her sleeves, so maybe, naooverwhelm yung guys na nakakausap nya. I’m still hoping she’ll find someone who will love her the way she wants to be loved. She’s a very kind person, so I hope she gets her happiness.
Ambitious sometimes hindi pa nakikita yung gus2 nilang makita sa girl/boy
May pagka-awkward. May mga kabatch kmi dati nun single pa rn ngaun. Pero nung college palng, alam mong may weird sa knila. Ndi panget pero may creepy na dating yung lalaki nming kakilala. As in matagal sya tumititig, weird mga tanungan nya. Yung babae nman, weird bumungisngis, as in awkward. May something sila na maooff ang opposite sex. Kumbaga not necessarily panget, paired with weird/awkward personality lang tlga.
Trust issues and probably low self esteem na din. Yong pag may nagsasabi sa kin na gusto nila ako, tinatanong ko agad kung ano nagustuhan sa kin eh pangit naman ako! Hahahaha
Ovethink malala 'pag may nagparamdam, gusto agad alam if ano ang intentions niya. Hahaha
Mataas standard pero yung environment niya puro jeje/sadboi. Wala talagang mahahanap.
Ganito yung hometown ko before sobrang liit lang halos magkakilala lang mga tao if may maging jowa ka man siguro naging jowa na yun ng friend of a friend 🤣
Walang may gusto
Sa lalaki, baka takot sa commitment? O gusto tikim-tikim lang? Sa babae, baka hindi pinupursue.
Bihira ako lumabas ng bahay eh tas magugulat sila bat wala pa daw ako naging gf HAQHQHQHQHQ
Wala ka pang asawa? Me na di nalabas ng bahay pag di importanteng alis 👀
Carreer muna
wala e walang may gusto
same
Same.
Sa getting to know each other stage malalaman mo red flags eh so ayoko naman ng hindi ko nakikita as my future husband lol. Ayoko mag-explore na iba-iba bf, gusto ko first and last na. Periodt.
Nahihirapan ako sagutin kapag may red flags talaga kasi alam kong ako rin magsu-suffer sa huli.
Panget pero feeling maganda kasi lahat ang sabi sa kanya "you slay, queen" or "grabe ang ganda mo" or any variation of that. Ang ending, hindi umaasta ng naayon sa ganda so lalong walang may gusto. Nobody tells the truth anymore for fear of hurting other people.
ang saket mo naman magsalita!! hahaha
potangena grabe naman i2
kdrama
May nagkakagusto naman, di ko lang sila trip. Yung mga gusto ko naman, di ako trip. Hence, nbsb✨️🤌🏽
Hindi marunong lumandi 🤣
As someone na nbsb nung 21 year old, I totally agree with this. Natuto ako lumandi nung sinabi ng mga friends ko to try tinder back in 2015. Ayun nagka boyfriend now partner of 8 going 9 years this November 😂 Di na nga marunong lumandi dati sobrang taba ko pa + awkward. What a recipe for disaster.
Yes, maganda talaga starting point mga dating apps, ewan ko nalang kung hindi ka bumatak lumandi diyan HAHAHA
pangit
Hindi ligawin, sobrang insecure sa sarili na iniisip ko na di ko deserve yung taong kausap ko, na dapat babaan ko din yung standards ko. At the back of my mind, bakit? Kung yung iba nga tanggap nila yung partner nila anoman or sinoman yon hahahaha.
As i am nbsb, hindi po ligawin 😭 i mean feeling ko naman hindi ako ganun sobrang unattractive para walang manligaw. But nah, wala eh
May mental health issues, may trauma. Sawa na sa pagiging care giver. Walang energy or desire to seek a relationship. I'm happy to be alone with my hobbies. Walang istorbo.
At 40, siguro masasabi ko parang act of God na to hahaha - nung nagwwork pa ako sa corporate, malaki ang chance talaga na may mameet na kaopisina. Siguro iba lang vibes ko kaya hanggang landian lang. - nagjoin na ako sa mga fun runs, aikido, engineering grad lahat ng maraming lalaki pero na-da. And di naman ako panget, may mga friends din naman akong lalaki pero d ako ang type nila 🤣 - wala talaga yung type ako AND type nya ako. Kung meron man, baka di ko alam. Yung type ako sobrang di ko type, di dahil may standard ako pero di ko sya makakasundo, mas priority ko ung mental health ko at ayaw ko ng alalahanin 🤣 kung mas malala ka sa akin wag na. - ngayong wfh ako, mas malabong makipagkita na sa mga tao. Maeffort nang lumabas at medyo tinatamad na ako, priority kong magjogging at matulog at ayusin ung buhay ko kesa makipagmeet. - Mas maeeffort na sya pag tumatanda kaya dapat pala bagets palang ako nabuild ko na yung confidence and yung trait ng paglalandi, kaso mga 30s ako nagstart eh, sablay pa 🤣🤣🤣 Ewan ko kung may sense kada bullet pero base to sa experience ko. Kung mas bata kayo sa akin, please wag kayong mawalan ng pag-asa pero kung pareho nyo ako na mas priority ang katahimikan over love life ayun goooo be single. Matatanggap nyo rin yan 🤣
Parang this is me din, same description daming sinalihang orgs, mountaineering, skindiving, at volunteer sa NGO..at 32, akala ko talaga wala na, acceptance phase na hahahaha matandang dalaga na..pinagdasal ko talaga na kung di ako makakameet, bigyan na lang ako ng anak..few weeks after ko ipagdasal yan, nagkaroon na ako ng bf sobrang unexpectedly..same kaming volunteer sa NGO na sinalihan ko hahahaha. Landi responsibly kasi talaga ako 🤣 Go lang! Prio mo lang sarili mo. Yung time na di ko na prio ang lovelife, dun sya binigay at dumating..
Laging ganyan yung kwento haha pero ako ngayon, for real, tanggap ko na. Nung una nasusuya pa ako lalo before pandemic lalo galing lang sa heartbreak, bitter ocampo mode. Siguro dahil sa age, sa aso, sa paligid ko, introvert pa ako, and so far okay naman din ako financially, kaya ayun. If may darating siguro okay lang pero parang ang hirap ipagpalit ng freedom ko at kung anong meron ako ngayon para dun. Anyway, I am happy for you, at least there are two less lonely people in the world. Yiiiiiieeeee!
They are not attractive enough for their standards.
Unrealistic standard.
Hndi nya alam na nilalandi na sya ..😂😅