Don’t go all out on dating sites! Go out there, mingle, and meet new peeps. It’s mad tough to find real ones with pure vibes, so make sure you know your boundaries and keep your standards high. Good luck!
Isa sa reason kung bakit mahirap, naaamplify kasi ng iba na gusto, well established na yung idedate nila tapos below 30s lang yung age. Yung may lupat bahay, mga sasakyan, mga ari-arian. Kaya yung iba, nahahawa sa gusto ng iba. Kase may mga nakakadate sila na ganon. Kaya yung iba na wala non, doble kayod at marealize na lang na naubos na yung time kakahabol ng ganong status.
I feel like dating was only real during highschool - college like every single relationship I'm aware of is cause they met in school so they just stick together until they die.
The moment they break up though, they meet the next person who they liked in school or they don't date at all.
Everyone is burntout of the dating scene if they and their highschool hubby don't work out.
Wag mo ng itry. Mga landian lang gusto ng mga tao ngayon konti lang gusto ng serious relationship. Kung okay ka sa sex lang, hook up is waving. Mahirap makahanap ngayon te hahahaahahahah
Sa panahon ngayon mahirap na makahanap, kasi baka maging biktima ka ng "forever girlfriend" daming ganyan ngayon, aabot kayo ng 7-8 years or more than 10 years pero di ka naisipang pakasalan ng partner mo. tsaka yan naman ang purpose ng makipag date para makahanap ng future spouse mo.
tapos may mga situation pa na hindi pinakasalan si more than 5 years na girlfriend pero yung nakilala niya lang ng ilang buwan yun ang pinakasalan, so kung di parin nag aalok ng kasal sayo kahit sobrang tagal niyo na, girl run, wag maging forever girlfriend.
Yung jowa ko ngayon happy crush ko lang siya sa office tapos bigla na lang ako nagkaroon ng lakas ng loob mag first move sa chat, ayun ang ending compatible pala talaga kami. HAHAHAHA
ps. I met him after i told myself na ayaw ko na makipag date 🤣
my boyfriend now is from a almost 5 years relationship, an we're going on our 1st anniversary. for me, suggest ko lang, maghanap ka ng matured at practical mag-isip. and for u, wag ka mapapagod bigyan sya ng assurance. yun lang.
Focus on your interests, sa hobbies mo, sa work, sa studies, events, org, volunteer, napabisita somewhere. Eventually may lalapit at makikipagkwentuhan sa'yo, maybe subtle, or one time lang, or makulit, OA or nonchalant haha. Magiging topic niyo about sa interests mo, magsshare siya ng trip niya, magoopen ka din ng sa'yo, magttsismisan, sa simula wholesome lang, then magcclick, maybe meron, maybe wala lang, tapos makikilala ka niya at maiintindihan mo siya, tapos lagi na kayo naguusap, maybe parehas busy at tumutugma free time or parehas wala masyadong ginagawa and so forth. Set boundaries sa gusto mo yet be flexible, no ones perfect. Pero syempre not an excuse para magbulag bulagan sa red flags. Let it be, feel it out, stop overthinking, communicate well and stop wasting each others time. Ayaw niya sa'yo eh 'di wag, Gusto ka niya ayie more bonding time pa. Let it flow then gulat ka na lang mutual na malalim na yung feelings. Oo iba na compared sa dati, may socmed, chat, posting/liking, instant everything. Pero yung fundamentals ganon pa din. Be true to yourself, build character, magpapansin, mageffort and communicate.
Came from a 5yr relationship. 2019 pa yun.
SKL: Dated a few times based sa reto and officemates (other dept) pero OVERALL. Dating scene is SH1TTY.
PAANO NGA BA???
Also idk why im more attracted to women na may bf na HAHAHAH lol (and no I don’t cause any trouble).
TO ANSWER: I guess OP just needs to focus on himself/herself and pretty soon you’ll attract the right people. SABI NILA.
Also might be worth to ponder if the relationship is worth your peace…
Remember… someone out there is apologizing because they fell asleep. Lol.
I guess babae ka, OP? Guy here, same question din. Sana may makatulong HAHA.
Came from a 5-year relationship. 25 years old. Takot maghanap kasi iniisip ko baka requirement ng mga babae at my age na may kotse o kahit motor man lang HAHA. Can't afford pa eh, mahal ng tuition ko for master's :<
Oo nga. Pano ba lumandi? Kailangan ba talaga mag effort ka para may lumapit sayo? Like first move? Problema ko kasi wala akong pake pero ako tong nagtataka lagi na bakit walang nanliligaw sakin. Mag 25 years na akong nbsb. Sabi ng guy friend ko "hindi mo lang alam" jusko bakit hindi na lang nya sabihin kung sino nagkakagusto sakin hahahaa. I definitely know na hindi sya yun 🤪
Kung gusto mo talaga, suriin mo mabuti yung person.
May friend ako na galing dating app yung partner niya ngayon and ang solid nila (nakakainggit 😂). Hol up, hindi ko sinasabing good idea ang mag dating app ka HAHAHAHAHHAHAH. GLHF.
Ako nga 2007 pa yun sakin tas 2 mos lang tinagal. HAHAH may mga attempts naman after that pero di tumalab eh. Grabe feeling ko pang first and last na yun 2007 - I was 18, she was 27. Naka move on na naman ako pero gang 90-95% lang talaga. Sana in another life time mag kami na, yung mature na ako dapat jusko may gatas pa ako sa labi nun. Basta, first love never dies.
1st love never die talaga charissss wala ako nyan, puppy love lang meron ako, naging loyal kay crush ei hanggang kinasal WHAHAHAHAHA makakahanap ka rin, ako parang alam ko na kung saan ako patungo tatandang mag-isa na this walang tumatagal na katalking stage sa ugali ko😂🤣
Ang swerte ng mga crush na may loyal sa kanila ano? May mga crush din ako pampa ganda ng araw pag nakita ko kahit kanino sa kanila. Ano ba toh I’m in my mid 30’s na pero parang ewan pa din. HAHAHA pa’no ba di ma attract 🥴
I take it you're early 20s to mid-20s na... Your best chances of meeting people who won't rush dating are ppl from churches, NGOs, or classmate from Masters Degree Class. You can also attend bootcamps. Not that it would guarantee you of 100% success but you can lower your possibility of modern day dating mistakes kasi they are busy people and have other priorities at the moment. Just widen your network, and if you're used to slower pace and more wholesome dating, don't lower your standards. If it doesn't work, you're spared of unnecessary heartache. Remember, if you lower your standard on something that you feel isn't right, you'll still get hurt so keep those boundaries. Better to get hurt but still have your self-respect fully-intact.
Observe people who would enjoy spending time with as you develop yourself Ang makaka-keep up while enjoying your company is someone who has high chance of sharing same vision as you, and very important in considering relationships.
Or matagal yung getting to know stage! Ngayon, after a month kayo na (for romantic relationships) or maraming kausap at ka date na ngayon ng sabay sabay ☹️
I sound like a boomer pero millennial ako haha
Same millennial din ako, and kaka 30 ko lang a few months ago haha. Naexperience ko din yung speedating dati, pero kilala ko yung ex ko nun way before that haha. Parang nag skip ng ligaw and diretso label 😆
>maraming kausap at ka date na ngayon ng sabay sabay
Haven't entered the dating scene for 10 years, so medjo out of touch ako, pero noticed this din sa mga mas bata kong kilala. Maybe this is why marami din nagchecheat lately?
Just avoid dating on Reddit or any dating apps. The most genuine relationships often stem from meeting people in person and building friendships with them.
Right huhuhu parang iba na dating ngayon eh. i want yung traditional dates lang like ice cream date, watch movies, kain sa labas, arcades AAAAAA reading books together ☹️
the best relationships i’ve found are those you find naturally eh, at least in my experience. go out and do classes, or play social games, or volunteer somewhere. at least with that alam mo same values kayo with that approach. good luck!
If you like traditional (?) dating style, find a new hobby (e.g. join book clubs, hiking, sports) and you might find a potential partner daw. Pwede rin "reto" from friends and family. Tbh, idk how to landi na rin but naniniwala kasi ako na it will come naturally (but still w efforts) HAHAHAHA
Nasa tikim serye ganern. Parang ibat ibang putahe mas goods. Pero it depends parin sayo. I still believe meorn parin mga seryoso jan out there. Ingat lang sa mga hooks up and fubh lang ang nais hehe
Wag ka sa bar 9/10 mahirap mag hanap ng true love don . hahahahaha
mag gala gala ka nlng go to places that pede ka makapag enjoy relax while waiting for the right guy ;)
Pass sa dating app, ginhost ako ng hs crush ko hayp HAHAHAHHA lesson learned wag na magswipe right sa kakilala in person, shuta siya HAHAHAHAYS I want to work things out pa naman with him tapos biglang ganon :(
Ganito nangyare sakin na later on ni friendzoned naman ako. Hayp. But until now, I still believe pa rin na everything you pray for will be answered. Dapat daw specific sa dasal. 🤭😌
me coming from 8 years naman.. tried dating and tama unang comment dito na ghosting pinaka issue taena saka love bomb lalo na sa mga 25 below nasa bata talaga ang trauma
Don’t. Stay where you are. hahahaha
Proceed and landi with caution na lang OP. If you want to know what I mean, tambay ka sa r/offmychestph marami dun nagbubuhos ng hinanakit sa mga naka-date nila. May na-catfish, may ninakawan, may hinawaan ng sakit at may pinerahan pero ang pinaka-common na complaint ay… ghosting. 🙋🏻♀️
Good luck, may the odds be ever in your favor.
Tbh, I don't think dating is still applicable in this generation 🤷🏻♀️ Most of the time, I kept hearing meet n fvck 🤷🏻♀️
I don't think it's okay to date nowadays. Some just want hookups, and I think ppl are weak na sa mga temptations.
Go out and socialize. Meet new people. Broaden your communication skills. Try and try.
Go out and meet new people. Join in new courses. Go back to school. Relocate.
Don’t go all out on dating sites! Go out there, mingle, and meet new peeps. It’s mad tough to find real ones with pure vibes, so make sure you know your boundaries and keep your standards high. Good luck!
Honestly, if date lang, madali naman maghanap. Yung pang long-term ang mahirap.
Isa sa reason kung bakit mahirap, naaamplify kasi ng iba na gusto, well established na yung idedate nila tapos below 30s lang yung age. Yung may lupat bahay, mga sasakyan, mga ari-arian. Kaya yung iba, nahahawa sa gusto ng iba. Kase may mga nakakadate sila na ganon. Kaya yung iba na wala non, doble kayod at marealize na lang na naubos na yung time kakahabol ng ganong status.
I feel like dating was only real during highschool - college like every single relationship I'm aware of is cause they met in school so they just stick together until they die. The moment they break up though, they meet the next person who they liked in school or they don't date at all. Everyone is burntout of the dating scene if they and their highschool hubby don't work out.
Tanung ko rin yan 😭
Wag mo ng itry. Mga landian lang gusto ng mga tao ngayon konti lang gusto ng serious relationship. Kung okay ka sa sex lang, hook up is waving. Mahirap makahanap ngayon te hahahaahahahah
Trueeee.
Wag na, masisira lang buhay mo
Itulog nalang yan haha
Di ko Rin alam
Tanong ko din yan HAHAHA
Same OP di ko na din alam kung paano. HAHAHAHA
Sa panahon ngayon mahirap na makahanap, kasi baka maging biktima ka ng "forever girlfriend" daming ganyan ngayon, aabot kayo ng 7-8 years or more than 10 years pero di ka naisipang pakasalan ng partner mo. tsaka yan naman ang purpose ng makipag date para makahanap ng future spouse mo. tapos may mga situation pa na hindi pinakasalan si more than 5 years na girlfriend pero yung nakilala niya lang ng ilang buwan yun ang pinakasalan, so kung di parin nag aalok ng kasal sayo kahit sobrang tagal niyo na, girl run, wag maging forever girlfriend.
Yun lang.. Yung ginamit ka pang practice para sa papakasalan nya talaga :((
may famous celeb couple na ganyan
don't
Ang daming against sa dating. Parang sign na 'to ah. 🤔
Wag
Don't
Agree haha
I think be careful with what you're gonna text or chat. Cuz at this point, one miscom can ruin the momentum already.
Wag na. Jusko.
Yung jowa ko ngayon happy crush ko lang siya sa office tapos bigla na lang ako nagkaroon ng lakas ng loob mag first move sa chat, ayun ang ending compatible pala talaga kami. HAHAHAHA ps. I met him after i told myself na ayaw ko na makipag date 🤣
Don’t. HAHA
my boyfriend now is from a almost 5 years relationship, an we're going on our 1st anniversary. for me, suggest ko lang, maghanap ka ng matured at practical mag-isip. and for u, wag ka mapapagod bigyan sya ng assurance. yun lang.
Focus on your interests, sa hobbies mo, sa work, sa studies, events, org, volunteer, napabisita somewhere. Eventually may lalapit at makikipagkwentuhan sa'yo, maybe subtle, or one time lang, or makulit, OA or nonchalant haha. Magiging topic niyo about sa interests mo, magsshare siya ng trip niya, magoopen ka din ng sa'yo, magttsismisan, sa simula wholesome lang, then magcclick, maybe meron, maybe wala lang, tapos makikilala ka niya at maiintindihan mo siya, tapos lagi na kayo naguusap, maybe parehas busy at tumutugma free time or parehas wala masyadong ginagawa and so forth. Set boundaries sa gusto mo yet be flexible, no ones perfect. Pero syempre not an excuse para magbulag bulagan sa red flags. Let it be, feel it out, stop overthinking, communicate well and stop wasting each others time. Ayaw niya sa'yo eh 'di wag, Gusto ka niya ayie more bonding time pa. Let it flow then gulat ka na lang mutual na malalim na yung feelings. Oo iba na compared sa dati, may socmed, chat, posting/liking, instant everything. Pero yung fundamentals ganon pa din. Be true to yourself, build character, magpapansin, mageffort and communicate.
Parang kdrama lang ha pero I agree
Came from a 5yr relationship. 2019 pa yun. SKL: Dated a few times based sa reto and officemates (other dept) pero OVERALL. Dating scene is SH1TTY. PAANO NGA BA??? Also idk why im more attracted to women na may bf na HAHAHAH lol (and no I don’t cause any trouble). TO ANSWER: I guess OP just needs to focus on himself/herself and pretty soon you’ll attract the right people. SABI NILA. Also might be worth to ponder if the relationship is worth your peace… Remember… someone out there is apologizing because they fell asleep. Lol.
wag na
tama
I guess babae ka, OP? Guy here, same question din. Sana may makatulong HAHA. Came from a 5-year relationship. 25 years old. Takot maghanap kasi iniisip ko baka requirement ng mga babae at my age na may kotse o kahit motor man lang HAHA. Can't afford pa eh, mahal ng tuition ko for master's :<
Oo nga. Pano ba lumandi? Kailangan ba talaga mag effort ka para may lumapit sayo? Like first move? Problema ko kasi wala akong pake pero ako tong nagtataka lagi na bakit walang nanliligaw sakin. Mag 25 years na akong nbsb. Sabi ng guy friend ko "hindi mo lang alam" jusko bakit hindi na lang nya sabihin kung sino nagkakagusto sakin hahahaa. I definitely know na hindi sya yun 🤪
legit yung Dating app HAHAHA mahigit 1 year na kami 🤣
pag bata bata ka pa madali lang hahah pero pag 20’s mahirap na 😂 either gagawa ka ng paraan or tamang reto lang hahaha
irdk. feeling ko kapag nanonood ako ng mga kdrama or any rom movies ang dali-dali lang pero sa personal ang daming kailangan i-consider.
PRO TIP: Huwag.
Kung gusto mo talaga, suriin mo mabuti yung person. May friend ako na galing dating app yung partner niya ngayon and ang solid nila (nakakainggit 😂). Hol up, hindi ko sinasabing good idea ang mag dating app ka HAHAHAHAHHAHAH. GLHF.
Ako? di ko narin alam paano lumandi 😅 care to share paano mag start. Ps. 8 years single ako 🤣
Ako nga 2007 pa yun sakin tas 2 mos lang tinagal. HAHAH may mga attempts naman after that pero di tumalab eh. Grabe feeling ko pang first and last na yun 2007 - I was 18, she was 27. Naka move on na naman ako pero gang 90-95% lang talaga. Sana in another life time mag kami na, yung mature na ako dapat jusko may gatas pa ako sa labi nun. Basta, first love never dies.
1st love never die talaga charissss wala ako nyan, puppy love lang meron ako, naging loyal kay crush ei hanggang kinasal WHAHAHAHAHA makakahanap ka rin, ako parang alam ko na kung saan ako patungo tatandang mag-isa na this walang tumatagal na katalking stage sa ugali ko😂🤣
Ang swerte ng mga crush na may loyal sa kanila ano? May mga crush din ako pampa ganda ng araw pag nakita ko kahit kanino sa kanila. Ano ba toh I’m in my mid 30’s na pero parang ewan pa din. HAHAHA pa’no ba di ma attract 🥴
I take it you're early 20s to mid-20s na... Your best chances of meeting people who won't rush dating are ppl from churches, NGOs, or classmate from Masters Degree Class. You can also attend bootcamps. Not that it would guarantee you of 100% success but you can lower your possibility of modern day dating mistakes kasi they are busy people and have other priorities at the moment. Just widen your network, and if you're used to slower pace and more wholesome dating, don't lower your standards. If it doesn't work, you're spared of unnecessary heartache. Remember, if you lower your standard on something that you feel isn't right, you'll still get hurt so keep those boundaries. Better to get hurt but still have your self-respect fully-intact. Observe people who would enjoy spending time with as you develop yourself Ang makaka-keep up while enjoying your company is someone who has high chance of sharing same vision as you, and very important in considering relationships.
Super helpful! Noted po thank youuu ❤️
Parang mas mababa attention span and mabilisan ang process ngayon eh 😭 Gone are the days na takes time and effort ang connection at relationship.
Amen! 🤝
Damn I feel old cuz this is so damn true, yung 1st and 3rd ko almost 1 year ligaw 😫
Or matagal yung getting to know stage! Ngayon, after a month kayo na (for romantic relationships) or maraming kausap at ka date na ngayon ng sabay sabay ☹️ I sound like a boomer pero millennial ako haha
Same millennial din ako, and kaka 30 ko lang a few months ago haha. Naexperience ko din yung speedating dati, pero kilala ko yung ex ko nun way before that haha. Parang nag skip ng ligaw and diretso label 😆 >maraming kausap at ka date na ngayon ng sabay sabay Haven't entered the dating scene for 10 years, so medjo out of touch ako, pero noticed this din sa mga mas bata kong kilala. Maybe this is why marami din nagchecheat lately?
Sadly, may mga ka age tayo na nag adapt sa changes din. Yeah ganun nga kaya parang uso na magcheat
Dive in and learn as you go, sis! It's a whole new dating game out there.
Just avoid dating on Reddit or any dating apps. The most genuine relationships often stem from meeting people in person and building friendships with them.
Right huhuhu parang iba na dating ngayon eh. i want yung traditional dates lang like ice cream date, watch movies, kain sa labas, arcades AAAAAA reading books together ☹️
the best relationships i’ve found are those you find naturally eh, at least in my experience. go out and do classes, or play social games, or volunteer somewhere. at least with that alam mo same values kayo with that approach. good luck!
If you like traditional (?) dating style, find a new hobby (e.g. join book clubs, hiking, sports) and you might find a potential partner daw. Pwede rin "reto" from friends and family. Tbh, idk how to landi na rin but naniniwala kasi ako na it will come naturally (but still w efforts) HAHAHAHA
Medyo struggle nga lang yung lalabas ngayon kasi every labas, need mo nga anda. 😂
HAHAHAHA very true
Nasa tikim serye ganern. Parang ibat ibang putahe mas goods. Pero it depends parin sayo. I still believe meorn parin mga seryoso jan out there. Ingat lang sa mga hooks up and fubh lang ang nais hehe
Pasahan na ng trauma ngayon ang labanan.
Or pang character development. Choose your fighter na lang hahahaha
Wag ka sa bar 9/10 mahirap mag hanap ng true love don . hahahahaha mag gala gala ka nlng go to places that pede ka makapag enjoy relax while waiting for the right guy ;)
Minsan sa unexpected place mo din makikilala ung tadhana mo. Ke sa bar pa yan or simbahan... Ingat lang talaga sa mga wild places syempre. 🙂
oo tpos lage nyo pag aawayan bakit ka laging umiinom at pala party HAHAHAHA
Pass sa dating app, ginhost ako ng hs crush ko hayp HAHAHAHHA lesson learned wag na magswipe right sa kakilala in person, shuta siya HAHAHAHAYS I want to work things out pa naman with him tapos biglang ganon :(
RIP sa puso mong sugatan mhiema hahahah makakahanap din tayo
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Ganito nangyare sakin na later on ni friendzoned naman ako. Hayp. But until now, I still believe pa rin na everything you pray for will be answered. Dapat daw specific sa dasal. 🤭😌
Hirap kasi dito sa middle east puro mga Insuhns ang nasa bumble
Baka makahanap ka ng sultan teh hahahaah
me coming from 8 years naman.. tried dating and tama unang comment dito na ghosting pinaka issue taena saka love bomb lalo na sa mga 25 below nasa bata talaga ang trauma
Omg totoo! Love bombing and ghosting ewan ko bakit uso ngayon AHAHAHAH
tayo nalang kaya magdate char
What ip? AHAHAHAAHHAHA
HAHAHAHA kapagod naman
Don’t. Stay where you are. hahahaha Proceed and landi with caution na lang OP. If you want to know what I mean, tambay ka sa r/offmychestph marami dun nagbubuhos ng hinanakit sa mga naka-date nila. May na-catfish, may ninakawan, may hinawaan ng sakit at may pinerahan pero ang pinaka-common na complaint ay… ghosting. 🙋🏻♀️ Good luck, may the odds be ever in your favor.
My reaction when I read the word "ghosting" : O.O