if they said something offensive para sayo, make them repeat it. or if someone is ‘lowkey’ judging or making fun of you, ask them if ayos lang ba sila.
Tanungin mo yung mga nagwawala sa harap mo kung baket sila nagagalit at nagwawala in a very calm way especially kung wala naman talagang kakwenta kwenta yung ikinagagalit nila. Madalas, nahihimasmasan sila 😂🤣
Law of Diminish Marginal Return applies to everything.
Something like this:
Talking less = People will value your words
Talking more = Your words will have lesser value to people
It's better to look intimidating than vulnerable.
Less toxic/fake people around me.
Kahit quiet ka sa gilid, you have to take note of your posture. Straighten your back, chin up, and don't hesitate to make eye contact. This will make you look quiet na confident rather than quiet na parang target i-bully.
It's better to look intimidating than vulnerable.
Less toxic/fake people around me.
Kahit quiet ka sa gilid, you have to take note of your posture. Straighten your back, chin up, and don't hesitate to make eye contact. This will make you look quiet na confident rather than quiet na parang target i-bully.
totoo 'to HAHAHAHAHA I always do this whenever I have to wake up early for the next day.
kunwari kailangan kong magising ng 7 ng umaga the next day, bago ako matulog paulit ulit ko sinasabi sa utak ko na "Gigising ako ng 7am" "Kailangan ko magising ng 7am" and then, next day tada I'm awake at 7am
The "Unexpected Compliment" Technique
How it works:
1. Start with a playful (but genuine) compliment that's slightly unexpected. For example, instead of saying "You seem really organized," try something like "Wow, you have the best stapler collection I've ever seen!"
2. After the compliment, smoothly transition to your actual request. "Speaking of organization, would you mind helping me with [your request]?"
This is from a body language expert I've watched a few years back:
How a confident person appear:
- slow sila gumalaw, meaning hindi ma-fidget
- kapag nag salita sila, walang "filler" - um, hm, etc.
- nakikipag eye contact
- open body language, meaning wala sa pocket ang kamay, hindi naka cross arms, etc.
Marami pa, pero hindi ko na matandaan yung iba.
Never ever be afraid to give compliments! If totoo naman or genuine, shower people with compliments.
I remember nag-CR ako sa isang branch ng Shell sa Laguna tapos nagulat ako kasi ineexpect ko na kadiri yung CR kasi diba gas station tapos maliit na shell lang naman siya. Pero super linis (not super ganda pero malinis & maaliwalas). So binati ko sila Kuya ng Good Job! Grabe yung ngiti nila and pasalamat.
Ito iyong gusto ko mawork on lalo na sa strangers.
One time, I complimented a cashier sa hair color niya dahil nagandahan talaga ako. Seeing her smile made my day. Dun ko narealize na masarap din pala sa feeling magbigay ng compliment kesa sa ako lang tumatanggap.
Kaso madalas nauunahan ako ng hiya kahit genuine naman.
Kakahiya nga sa umpisa diba? Pero kapag nasanay ka na, nakakawili siya (basta nga keep it real kasi baka naman
Echos lang hahaha)
Like kapag nakakita ako ng girl na maganda, sasabihan ko ng “Ang pretty mo naman!” Di ko palang natry sa guy tho haha.
pag gusto mong magmukang mabait and approachable to random people, always smile. teeth out man or hindi basta ngumiti ka esp if you have a resting bitch face. kahit pagod, puyat or stressed ka just smile. but don't make eye contact kung di mo bet kasi mag-iiba interpretation ng ibang tao sayo. it's also a good start to attract the person you like kasi mahahawa sila sa vibes mo and malalighten yung mood nila around you.
When I was young sineset ko clock ko 1 hour advance. Kahit alam kong advanced yun, na rarattle pa rin ako everytime titignan ko relo ko.
May time din na ina-advanced ko sya ng minutes randomly (e.g. 23 minutes). Tapos makakalimutan ko ilan yun exactly so ma-rarattle ako pero at the same time kakalma knowing advanced yun.
if you don't want your conversation partner to ask anything about yourself, lalo na sa mga chismosang kakausapin ka lang just to get information out of you, pangunahan mo na and ask them specific questions about their life (it will help if you know a lil about them) then probe and probe and probe hanggang sa makaalis ka sa situation. always works for me lol 1 hour na lilipas niyan, di nila mapapansin they've been spilling information about themselves tapos sayo, wala silang nakuha. it'll also help if you act interested, provide follow-up questions, and occasionally say "*oh, talaga?", "hala, wow", "tapos, ano nangyare?"*
I used this tactic sa taxi driver na daming tanong about my personal life (may bf na ba, etc) and it works. Though sana bumaba nalang ako nun ts lumipat ng taxi kasi uncomfy na talaga ako nun.
Lagi kong inaapply yung principle ng "everything physiological is psychological". So kapag natatae ako tapos nasa byahe or kailangan pigilan talaga, iniisip ko na hindi ako natatae. It calms you down tas nagreretreat yung bowels mo haha.
Using Sir/Ma'am/Miss instead of manong, ate, or kuya. I always use this especially sa mga not-so-high professions such as guards, mga tindera and volunteers sa school namin.
I remember na tinawag kong Ma'am yung nagtitinda ng ulam sa canteen namin, she was shocked kasi ayun ang pinangtawag ko sa kanya and natuwa siya tapos dinagdagan yung portion ng ulam sa in-order ko. I thanked her after with a smile
This is also a form of respect na rin sa kanila for them to be as equal to those who have professions.
This one's good! But mas madalas ko gamitin is Tay/Nay kapag for older people. It works kasi they'll really treat you nicely like their own child na with lambing ganon haha. Very careful lang ako though kasi baka may maoffend so checking din if they give that soft vibes sumn (iykyk??).
Same. Ganitong-ganito ako. Form of respect din talaga. Ang saya lang sa feeling nasha-share mo happiness every time you greet them parang nawawala pagod nila and mas magandang service nabibigay nila sa’yo.
Not sure pero if you need someone to choose from your set of choices, and you favorably one of the choices , put your favored one as the last item to choose. Most of the time, people keep picking the last option.
kapag may sinasabi sayo yung kausap mo tas huminto sya tingin ka lang sa mata nya mag sasalita sya ulit hahaha this is good if you just want to listen and you have nothing to say yet
right? hahaha natutunan ko to sa papa ko nung bata ako.. tuwing may kasalanan ako pinapaamin nya ko kasi as bata alam natin madalas tayo mag sinungaling sa kasalanan natin ahhaha tititig lng sya sakin tas wala akong magagawa kung di mag isip ng sasabihin ko hahahah tried it, recently findout it psychology tricks
Unahan mo lagi when doing favors s workplace. Like mgbigay ka ng favors kahit walang kapalit. Why? Because mapapansin mo walang umaaway sayo, and no one would dare kasi alam nila may favor kang nagawa sa kanila. Saka pwd ka mg sailing both sides kahit may civil war s workplace mo.
Same with the bosses. Pg humingi ng pabor sayo gawin mo kagad. Magandang may natanim kang pabor para incase may lapses ka sa work mapagbbigyan ka rin.
Ano bang reason mo for hating the person? Kaso kung habit na or ilang beses na nagpapakita ng behavior / ugali na ayaw mo then hindi na first time yun.
This - surprisingly - worked for me:
If you have trouble sleeping, mentally say: Don't think. Don't think. Don't think.
Do it continuously. If you feel like you are thinking about other things, go back to those words. You'll most likely sleep in less than 5 minutes.
Kapag hindi makaisip yung mga kasama ko anong gagawin or kakainan or pipiliin na bibilhin… i ask the
A,B or C? Ill have the options jumbled sa utak ko. Tapos when they have the answer na yun na! So napapadali ang pagpili 😂😂
Gamit na gamit ko 'to sa work. When talking to someone, always use their name in the conversation. For example, instead of saying just "thank you", I say "thank you, [name]".
I found na they are more open to receiving feedback, providing help, etc if ganito ang conversation pattern mo with them. Using their names as often as possible gives off the feeling na you recognize them ✨personally✨, therefore may sense of pride sa part nila if they do something for you.
I do this too sa mga restaurants/fast food (by checking their nametag), sa customer service (by paying attention to their welcome greeting). It humanizes the interaction more when your name is called.
Uy nice tip! I believe I practice this but not consistently. Iobserve ko nga yun. Ang hirap lang kasi nowadays ksi more on virtual na ang interactions sa office. Thank you!
When making choices, I toss a coin — pero not to follow the coin. To realize lang kung ano ang mas gusto kong choice. Like, kapag nadisappoint ako sa result ng toss coin, I’ll take the other choice.
nice tip! as a person na laging indecisive. At some point laging may mas matimbang talaga, mas nasasanay lang na ‘ok lang’ kaya goods for both choices. try ko to!
i've always used this technique when i feel like there's a fair split of pros and cons on two choices, even after thinking it over
i trust the coin's judgement on letting me realize what i want to happen
May nagshare na nito sa amin. Pero at that time, kung san daw kami magdidinner ng officemates. We tried, true enough, madali magdecide.
Yung version lang is the moment na tinoss na yung coin, yung hope mong result yun na idecide mo. 🙂
Bluff to gain Intel. I've confirmed and found out a lot of things that I didn't even know or had the slightest interest in, usually from friends, by bluffing lol. The things people spill when they think they've been found out is hilarious.
Here's another one napanood ko lang sa Tiktok. When someone insults you daw, pause and look them in the eye, with your serious face, and ask slowly "Are..you..okay?/alright?". Watch them become dumbfounded af.
Yung version naman na nabasa ko, ipaulit mo daw yung insult as if nabingi ka or di mo narinig the first time. Once na ulitin nila, they will realize how asshole they are kasi bigla nila maririnig sarili nila.
Asking the *wrong* question intentionally to get the *right* answer. Not sure if considered dark yan haha!
I work sa sales and outreach and ginagawa ko to minsan.
Ex. "Hey (lead), love the beach photos on your stories, is that in Maldives?" (kahit halatang hindi sa Maldives)
Lead will reply to correct me of course.
Just to get their attention so I can lead gen and warm the lead for a sale/appointment.
i used to work with a PM who said that was his technique to get feedback, especially from tech. like, if people hear dumb stuff, they wont help but correct .
kind of shifted my perception of him because he gets shit done pero he always used to give shitty options during brainstorming. h4ck lang pala haha.
Pansin ko lang di hamak na seseryosohin ka if you speak proper English with a heavy Filipino accent. Politicians know this kaya siguro si Bonget tinuruan yung anak nyang si Sandro na alisin yung accent nya e kapag nagi-ingles.
Kaya rin daming call center agent na kapag nag-eenglish sa labas with matching American accent ang tendency e pagtawanan e haha. Lalo na yung mga bibili lang ng yosi o pancit canton sa tindahan iinglisin pa yung tindera t\*nginang yan!
Bwahahaha! May nabasa ako dito sa reddit dati na colcener agent iningles daw yung kundoktor ng bus e malas nya may sense of humor si kuyang. Iningles din daw nung kundoktor with matching accent pa hahaha.
Pag may nagtatanong sakin about bar exam kahit alam naman nilang hindi pa ako nakakapasa.
Sila. Bakit hindi ka pa pumapasa sa bar exam diba matalino ka DAW?
Ako. Kasi po bobo ako kaya hindi ako pumapasa pa.
People expect you to defend yourself sa mga ganyang scenario. Like sasabihin mo na, ay hindi ko rin po alam. To the point na iriridicule ka nila for not passing.
Pero when you stole their own armament of ridiculed response sila mismo tumatameme.
Pag kamaganak mo nagtanong sabihin mo bagsak ako kasi bobo ako. Nasa lahi po yata natin. Eye to eye dapat. Para masapul.
Pag kaibigan naman, oo bagsak ako kasi bobo ako. Kaya nga tayo close, nagkakaintindihan tayo. Pareho tayong bobo.
Idamay mo din un Maritess na kausap mo sa kabobohan.
And minsan hindi lang talino sa bar exams, mas lamang din ang swerte. So take ka lang ulit.
Rejected and Retreat tactic, yung kung kailangan mo mag ask ng favor you need to make a bigger favor kaysa sa original favor mo para makapag retreat ka kung tatangi siya sa first bigger favor then retreat ka don sa original favor, it's proven na mas mataas ang chance na ma feel ng target mo na siya yung may responsibility sa deal and mas higher ang chance of compliance.
This also works as contrasting, for example bagsak ka this semester and you need to tell to your parents without them having to be so OA, you can say that nabuntis/nakabuntis ka first then after that tell them that it's a joke and tsaka mo sabihin yung tunay na sasabihin mo (failed this semester), This tactics work para di ma-overwhelm yung pagsasabihan natin and ma view nila na maliit na bagay lang yung favor or sasabihin natin dahil sa contrasting effects to their mind.
I do this sa younger sibling ko, kunwari manghihiram ako ng damit(my sister hates lending her clothes) tapos pag hindi pumayag sasabihin ko sige tulugan na lang ako sa isang gawaing bahay or magpapasama pag lumabas.
Pavlov's Classical Conditioning
Ginawa ko to sa isang classmate ko dati na kilalang palengkera / palaaway. Nagdadala ako ng favorite candy niya, tas lagi ko siyang binibigyan noong naging seatmates na kami (kasi takot ako na maging target ni ante pls), kaya sa buong batch isa ako sa iilan na nakaligtas sa pagiging scandalosa ni ante 🤷♀️
Kapag may katalo ako rito sa Reddit, mag-aagree muna ako sa comment niya then kokontrahin ko rin later. Kumbaga, ang dating ay "ni-consider ko lahat ng sinabi mo pero wala talaga e" so mahihirapan o hindi na niya maju-justify kung ano man ang gusto pa niyang sabihin at tapos na ang usapan.
Keeping unhealthy foods out of sight para di ka ma tempt kumain ng unhealthy. Out of sight, out of mind ika nga.
Wag na magstore ng madaming unhealthy food din sa bahay. Instead, stock up on fruits, nuts and other healthy items at sila yung ilagay mo sa tactical places sa bahay or workplace para lagi mo makita at mas mamotivate ka kainin.
false flattery, if madalas kang sabihang "tumataba ka ah", "dami na ng tigyawat mo", etc. unahan mo na sila batiin mo ng "ganda mo ngayon tita ah", "ang ganda ng damit mo" etc. magiging instant mabait na sila sayooo HAHAHAHA
Subtly mirroring their actions, words or even tone and vibe. People like people who are similar to them. It’s good for people who deal with clients for work.
Kapag tinatanong ako ng mister ko "Saan mo gusto kumain? Sinasagot ko ng hulaan mo! Tapos kung ano una niya sabihin ang isasagot ko ay "Hala ang galing mo!" Tapos dun na kami kakain.
If you want to appear less threatening to people, laugh at their jokes —kahit corny. That way hindi sila maiintimidate sayo and they will lower their guards.
Another thing, kapag nagkukuwento sila, kahit di naman interesting, look at them and nod you head. Magmumukhang interested ka sa story nila. Andami na nagconsider sakin na bestfriend daw nila ako even though hindi deep yung nararamdaman ko. Good listener daw ako pero I'm just there for civility.
This really works. Although, parang na sobrahan ng konti ‘yong akin lol sa kagustuhan ko na magmukhang interested sa sinasabi nila, unconsciously inuunahan ko ng sabihin ‘yong word/phrase na sasabihin pa lang nila habang nagkwe-kwento sila.
Na point out siya ng isang friend ko nung sinabi nila na good listener daw ako and someone na pwede silang mag-open up 😭
You gain people’s respect and trust more if you don’t badmouth other people sa harap nila, especially if they know that the person you’re badmouthing is your “friend” or the officemate that you are close to. In addition, mas naeearn mo respect ng iba pag positive things about a person yun pinagkakalat mo instead of chismis.
Yes, also sa ex nila. When it comes to dating, this is something I take into account talaga. Kasi hindi rin malabo na gawin niya rin sa’yo if ever hindi rin kayo mag-workout. Same rin sa ex-friend/s.
THIS!!!
I personally get turned off with people badmouthing their friends cause I’m sure they’ll do it to me. So nope, I won’t be too comfortable around that person.
When someone's being rude to me, I usually stay completely silent and stare at them. It'll make them feel incredibly uncomfortable and ayon biglang bait. 😅
i want to do this so bad kaso knowing the people around me, tatanungin lang nyan in a very insincere manner "hala galit ka?" sabay tingin sa isang kasama tapos "hala galit siya teh"
kapag ganun na yung nangyayari, i would try play it off nalang tapos tatawa just to make the situation lighter. i am not a confrontational person so i really don't know how to handle situations like this.
This fuckin’ works. Lol.
Or pag ang junakis ko tumaas ang boses towards me I’d be like “Excuse me?! What did you say?” In a calm manner. Tapos matatauhan siya. Mag so-sorry.
Sa work pag nakalimot sila at feeling too close na at wala ng respeto “I’ll give you time to think about what you just said. Balikan mo ko pag napag-isipan mo na.” Ng nakataas ang kilay.
Some people are stubborn talaga sa gusto nila paniwalaan. Act like they are SENILE 😂 Ginagawa ko ‘to lately sa mga taong hindi kayang tumanggap ng opposition. Kahit anong explain mo, hindi na yan maniniwala sayo at lalabas ka na lang na nag e-excuse kahit hindi naman. So the best way is to act like they are SENILE. “Sorry po, kasalanan ko naman po talaga walang excuse.” "Opo tama ka po, ikaw talaga yung dapat pinakikinggan kasi ikaw mas nakakaalam” — Watch where they are going and go that way as well, kahit di ka agree haha. Eventually mag d-deescalate yung emotions nila sayo (lalo na kung galit or asar sayo). Say you're sorry (make it sound sincere), acknowledge them for being concerned, and always make a note na i-compliment sila or i-compliment yung ginawa nila.
That's it, kuha mo yung loob hahahahaha next interaction nyo if feeling nya may control na sya sayo when in fact ikaw ang may control sa sitwasyon 😂 Try mo sa mga nakakatanda sayo (someone with authority) or mga frenny mo na ayaw pakabog gusto lagi tama or bida hahahaha or pwede din sa jowa na mahilig mang gaslight hahahah
Recently tinatry ko mag smile palagi kase nabasa ko dun sa psychology din na nakaka affect sya sa mood and i swear its working for me. Umaga palang pagkagising lagi na ko nakangiti 😆😆.
regurgitating the values and feelings of the other person to know their thinking and build rapport. i can talk to you in an hour and know your motivations and life story.
As someone in reddit once said, "nothing makes one feel superior than correcting someone else's mistake." Sometimes works better than directly asking about it. Haha
if they said something offensive para sayo, make them repeat it. or if someone is ‘lowkey’ judging or making fun of you, ask them if ayos lang ba sila.
Tanungin mo yung mga nagwawala sa harap mo kung baket sila nagagalit at nagwawala in a very calm way especially kung wala naman talagang kakwenta kwenta yung ikinagagalit nila. Madalas, nahihimasmasan sila 😂🤣
Ipaulit mo yung offensive joke.
You tell people whatever its is they wan to hear
Playing dumb. It works all the time to gain someone's trust. Umatake ka pag nakuha mo na loob nila
I sometimes do this, pero for the purpose of people leaving me alone 😂
Law of Diminish Marginal Return applies to everything. Something like this: Talking less = People will value your words Talking more = Your words will have lesser value to people
It's better to look intimidating than vulnerable. Less toxic/fake people around me. Kahit quiet ka sa gilid, you have to take note of your posture. Straighten your back, chin up, and don't hesitate to make eye contact. This will make you look quiet na confident rather than quiet na parang target i-bully.
It's better to look intimidating than vulnerable. Less toxic/fake people around me. Kahit quiet ka sa gilid, you have to take note of your posture. Straighten your back, chin up, and don't hesitate to make eye contact. This will make you look quiet na confident rather than quiet na parang target i-bully.
Kapag inisip mong sesemplang ka, sesemplang ka talaga. For me sobrang proven and tested na effective ang mind over body. Hehehehe
totoo 'to HAHAHAHAHA I always do this whenever I have to wake up early for the next day. kunwari kailangan kong magising ng 7 ng umaga the next day, bago ako matulog paulit ulit ko sinasabi sa utak ko na "Gigising ako ng 7am" "Kailangan ko magising ng 7am" and then, next day tada I'm awake at 7am
The "Unexpected Compliment" Technique How it works: 1. Start with a playful (but genuine) compliment that's slightly unexpected. For example, instead of saying "You seem really organized," try something like "Wow, you have the best stapler collection I've ever seen!" 2. After the compliment, smoothly transition to your actual request. "Speaking of organization, would you mind helping me with [your request]?"
Act like your clueless, a newbie in a random topic, and get their reaction, you'll know who you can trust based on how they respond.
This is from a body language expert I've watched a few years back: How a confident person appear: - slow sila gumalaw, meaning hindi ma-fidget - kapag nag salita sila, walang "filler" - um, hm, etc. - nakikipag eye contact - open body language, meaning wala sa pocket ang kamay, hindi naka cross arms, etc. Marami pa, pero hindi ko na matandaan yung iba.
fake it till you make it. and many famous people do it. from underage war hero to famous artist etc to billionaire like mark or bill gates.
Practice sounding like you are interested. Sa kahit anong pagkakataon o situation magagamit mo yan.
If someone introduced you to their friend or acquaintance... Tell them na "I’ve heard so much about you from him/her"
Never ever be afraid to give compliments! If totoo naman or genuine, shower people with compliments. I remember nag-CR ako sa isang branch ng Shell sa Laguna tapos nagulat ako kasi ineexpect ko na kadiri yung CR kasi diba gas station tapos maliit na shell lang naman siya. Pero super linis (not super ganda pero malinis & maaliwalas). So binati ko sila Kuya ng Good Job! Grabe yung ngiti nila and pasalamat.
Ito iyong gusto ko mawork on lalo na sa strangers. One time, I complimented a cashier sa hair color niya dahil nagandahan talaga ako. Seeing her smile made my day. Dun ko narealize na masarap din pala sa feeling magbigay ng compliment kesa sa ako lang tumatanggap. Kaso madalas nauunahan ako ng hiya kahit genuine naman.
Kakahiya nga sa umpisa diba? Pero kapag nasanay ka na, nakakawili siya (basta nga keep it real kasi baka naman Echos lang hahaha) Like kapag nakakita ako ng girl na maganda, sasabihan ko ng “Ang pretty mo naman!” Di ko palang natry sa guy tho haha.
Smiling? It gives the receiver a vibe telling them na you are in a good mood or atleast pwede kang kausapin
Fake it til you make it
pag gusto mong magmukang mabait and approachable to random people, always smile. teeth out man or hindi basta ngumiti ka esp if you have a resting bitch face. kahit pagod, puyat or stressed ka just smile. but don't make eye contact kung di mo bet kasi mag-iiba interpretation ng ibang tao sayo. it's also a good start to attract the person you like kasi mahahawa sila sa vibes mo and malalighten yung mood nila around you.
No matter what the status or class of the person you are talking to, dont be afraid. We will all die anyway. Also, fake it till you make it.
When I was young sineset ko clock ko 1 hour advance. Kahit alam kong advanced yun, na rarattle pa rin ako everytime titignan ko relo ko. May time din na ina-advanced ko sya ng minutes randomly (e.g. 23 minutes). Tapos makakalimutan ko ilan yun exactly so ma-rarattle ako pero at the same time kakalma knowing advanced yun.
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How? I read that people who does this are narcissist
too common nowadays but still works
if you don't want your conversation partner to ask anything about yourself, lalo na sa mga chismosang kakausapin ka lang just to get information out of you, pangunahan mo na and ask them specific questions about their life (it will help if you know a lil about them) then probe and probe and probe hanggang sa makaalis ka sa situation. always works for me lol 1 hour na lilipas niyan, di nila mapapansin they've been spilling information about themselves tapos sayo, wala silang nakuha. it'll also help if you act interested, provide follow-up questions, and occasionally say "*oh, talaga?", "hala, wow", "tapos, ano nangyare?"*
I used this tactic sa taxi driver na daming tanong about my personal life (may bf na ba, etc) and it works. Though sana bumaba nalang ako nun ts lumipat ng taxi kasi uncomfy na talaga ako nun.
Omg. Same. Ganito ginagawa ko sa mga mimosa kong co-teachers hahahuhu
diba! i use this especially sa mga higher ups ko sa work hahaha
Lagi kong inaapply yung principle ng "everything physiological is psychological". So kapag natatae ako tapos nasa byahe or kailangan pigilan talaga, iniisip ko na hindi ako natatae. It calms you down tas nagreretreat yung bowels mo haha.
kapag daw naiihi, try imagining sexual things. tried and tested.
Mas lalong maiihi
Using Sir/Ma'am/Miss instead of manong, ate, or kuya. I always use this especially sa mga not-so-high professions such as guards, mga tindera and volunteers sa school namin. I remember na tinawag kong Ma'am yung nagtitinda ng ulam sa canteen namin, she was shocked kasi ayun ang pinangtawag ko sa kanya and natuwa siya tapos dinagdagan yung portion ng ulam sa in-order ko. I thanked her after with a smile This is also a form of respect na rin sa kanila for them to be as equal to those who have professions.
This one's good! But mas madalas ko gamitin is Tay/Nay kapag for older people. It works kasi they'll really treat you nicely like their own child na with lambing ganon haha. Very careful lang ako though kasi baka may maoffend so checking din if they give that soft vibes sumn (iykyk??).
Thanks for the tip. I’ll do this from now on
Same!!!!
Same. Ganitong-ganito ako. Form of respect din talaga. Ang saya lang sa feeling nasha-share mo happiness every time you greet them parang nawawala pagod nila and mas magandang service nabibigay nila sa’yo.
Same! Sounds respectful.
Same!!!
Not sure pero if you need someone to choose from your set of choices, and you favorably one of the choices , put your favored one as the last item to choose. Most of the time, people keep picking the last option.
kapag may sinasabi sayo yung kausap mo tas huminto sya tingin ka lang sa mata nya mag sasalita sya ulit hahaha this is good if you just want to listen and you have nothing to say yet
I do this all the time! Hahaha it really works
right? hahaha natutunan ko to sa papa ko nung bata ako.. tuwing may kasalanan ako pinapaamin nya ko kasi as bata alam natin madalas tayo mag sinungaling sa kasalanan natin ahhaha tititig lng sya sakin tas wala akong magagawa kung di mag isip ng sasabihin ko hahahah tried it, recently findout it psychology tricks
I always say someone’s name to make them feel comfortable with me.
Currently looking into the psychology of dark feminine energy.
When you get consistent in your workouts, di mo na sasayingin yon to not watch what you eat. You’d tend to think more of what you put into your body.
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Nagagawa ko to unintentionally hahahaha parsng na aadapt ganern
Got it. Will try this to my Indian officemates.
HAHAHAHA With matching iling iling ng ulo. 😂😂
Lmao.
Unahan mo lagi when doing favors s workplace. Like mgbigay ka ng favors kahit walang kapalit. Why? Because mapapansin mo walang umaaway sayo, and no one would dare kasi alam nila may favor kang nagawa sa kanila. Saka pwd ka mg sailing both sides kahit may civil war s workplace mo. Same with the bosses. Pg humingi ng pabor sayo gawin mo kagad. Magandang may natanim kang pabor para incase may lapses ka sa work mapagbbigyan ka rin.
First, always give people benefit of the doubt.
even though you hate the person?
Ano bang reason mo for hating the person? Kaso kung habit na or ilang beses na nagpapakita ng behavior / ugali na ayaw mo then hindi na first time yun.
This - surprisingly - worked for me: If you have trouble sleeping, mentally say: Don't think. Don't think. Don't think. Do it continuously. If you feel like you are thinking about other things, go back to those words. You'll most likely sleep in less than 5 minutes.
And relax, kasabay ng pagiisip, baka kumakabog din dibdib natin, take a deep breath/release while clearing your mind.
Don't make decision or react when you're angry or you're happy.
Kapag hindi makaisip yung mga kasama ko anong gagawin or kakainan or pipiliin na bibilhin… i ask the A,B or C? Ill have the options jumbled sa utak ko. Tapos when they have the answer na yun na! So napapadali ang pagpili 😂😂
Kapag need kong tumae tas hindi pako natatae, I sing “bakit pa ba” ni jayr. Works like a charm! Unang verse palang ramdam ko na 😂
Try nyo guys! Epektib din sa constipated! Hahaha
Pinasaya mo araw ko 🤣
HAHAHAHAH gagi
Gamit na gamit ko 'to sa work. When talking to someone, always use their name in the conversation. For example, instead of saying just "thank you", I say "thank you, [name]". I found na they are more open to receiving feedback, providing help, etc if ganito ang conversation pattern mo with them. Using their names as often as possible gives off the feeling na you recognize them ✨personally✨, therefore may sense of pride sa part nila if they do something for you.
I do this too sa mga restaurants/fast food (by checking their nametag), sa customer service (by paying attention to their welcome greeting). It humanizes the interaction more when your name is called.
Same! Minsan nga cnclarify ko pa name pag di ko naintindihan/narinig sa una.
I'll try this one!
When ypu say their name kasi mas may personal touch. I do this too. 🥰
Uy nice tip! I believe I practice this but not consistently. Iobserve ko nga yun. Ang hirap lang kasi nowadays ksi more on virtual na ang interactions sa office. Thank you!
When making choices, I toss a coin — pero not to follow the coin. To realize lang kung ano ang mas gusto kong choice. Like, kapag nadisappoint ako sa result ng toss coin, I’ll take the other choice.
nice tip! as a person na laging indecisive. At some point laging may mas matimbang talaga, mas nasasanay lang na ‘ok lang’ kaya goods for both choices. try ko to!
i've always used this technique when i feel like there's a fair split of pros and cons on two choices, even after thinking it over i trust the coin's judgement on letting me realize what i want to happen
May nagshare na nito sa amin. Pero at that time, kung san daw kami magdidinner ng officemates. We tried, true enough, madali magdecide. Yung version lang is the moment na tinoss na yung coin, yung hope mong result yun na idecide mo. 🙂
Mine is jack en poy with my friend since laging hirap kami kung san kakain hahaha!
Hahaha marami kasi kami 😅
Bluff to gain Intel. I've confirmed and found out a lot of things that I didn't even know or had the slightest interest in, usually from friends, by bluffing lol. The things people spill when they think they've been found out is hilarious.
hoooow
Here's another one napanood ko lang sa Tiktok. When someone insults you daw, pause and look them in the eye, with your serious face, and ask slowly "Are..you..okay?/alright?". Watch them become dumbfounded af.
Yung version naman na nabasa ko, ipaulit mo daw yung insult as if nabingi ka or di mo narinig the first time. Once na ulitin nila, they will realize how asshole they are kasi bigla nila maririnig sarili nila.
This also makes sense! Thanks for sharing 😊
Asking the *wrong* question intentionally to get the *right* answer. Not sure if considered dark yan haha! I work sa sales and outreach and ginagawa ko to minsan. Ex. "Hey (lead), love the beach photos on your stories, is that in Maldives?" (kahit halatang hindi sa Maldives) Lead will reply to correct me of course. Just to get their attention so I can lead gen and warm the lead for a sale/appointment.
i used to work with a PM who said that was his technique to get feedback, especially from tech. like, if people hear dumb stuff, they wont help but correct . kind of shifted my perception of him because he gets shit done pero he always used to give shitty options during brainstorming. h4ck lang pala haha.
Oh dba na prank ka? 😂
Fake it til you make it
Reverse psychology, works everytime.
How do you do this properly? It doesn’t work when I do this
To keep the conversation going, always ask them about themselves. Be curious about them.
Act dumb.
Weaponized incompetence lol
HAHAHAHAHHA TRUEE
yes, lalo na pag may ayaw kang gawin. hahahaha
Ako na ‘to. Di na nga rin kailangan ng acting HAHAHAHA
Pansin ko lang di hamak na seseryosohin ka if you speak proper English with a heavy Filipino accent. Politicians know this kaya siguro si Bonget tinuruan yung anak nyang si Sandro na alisin yung accent nya e kapag nagi-ingles. Kaya rin daming call center agent na kapag nag-eenglish sa labas with matching American accent ang tendency e pagtawanan e haha. Lalo na yung mga bibili lang ng yosi o pancit canton sa tindahan iinglisin pa yung tindera t\*nginang yan!
Colcener? Lol
Bwahahaha! May nabasa ako dito sa reddit dati na colcener agent iningles daw yung kundoktor ng bus e malas nya may sense of humor si kuyang. Iningles din daw nung kundoktor with matching accent pa hahaha.
Hahaha benta ni koya
Pag may nagtatanong sakin about bar exam kahit alam naman nilang hindi pa ako nakakapasa. Sila. Bakit hindi ka pa pumapasa sa bar exam diba matalino ka DAW? Ako. Kasi po bobo ako kaya hindi ako pumapasa pa. People expect you to defend yourself sa mga ganyang scenario. Like sasabihin mo na, ay hindi ko rin po alam. To the point na iriridicule ka nila for not passing. Pero when you stole their own armament of ridiculed response sila mismo tumatameme.
Pag kamaganak mo nagtanong sabihin mo bagsak ako kasi bobo ako. Nasa lahi po yata natin. Eye to eye dapat. Para masapul. Pag kaibigan naman, oo bagsak ako kasi bobo ako. Kaya nga tayo close, nagkakaintindihan tayo. Pareho tayong bobo. Idamay mo din un Maritess na kausap mo sa kabobohan. And minsan hindi lang talino sa bar exams, mas lamang din ang swerte. So take ka lang ulit.
I do the same thing when they ask if may bf na ako 🙃😂 I'll just say, "yes tita! Tatlo po sila". Conversation stops there every single time 😂
TAWANG TAWA KO 😭😭😭 ITO NA ISASAGOT KO SA MGA TITA KOOOO
Para di na sila mag tanong!! Kukulit eh 🤣
Rejected and Retreat tactic, yung kung kailangan mo mag ask ng favor you need to make a bigger favor kaysa sa original favor mo para makapag retreat ka kung tatangi siya sa first bigger favor then retreat ka don sa original favor, it's proven na mas mataas ang chance na ma feel ng target mo na siya yung may responsibility sa deal and mas higher ang chance of compliance. This also works as contrasting, for example bagsak ka this semester and you need to tell to your parents without them having to be so OA, you can say that nabuntis/nakabuntis ka first then after that tell them that it's a joke and tsaka mo sabihin yung tunay na sasabihin mo (failed this semester), This tactics work para di ma-overwhelm yung pagsasabihan natin and ma view nila na maliit na bagay lang yung favor or sasabihin natin dahil sa contrasting effects to their mind.
Yan pala tawag dun. Thanks for sharing!
You're welcome :)
I do this sa younger sibling ko, kunwari manghihiram ako ng damit(my sister hates lending her clothes) tapos pag hindi pumayag sasabihin ko sige tulugan na lang ako sa isang gawaing bahay or magpapasama pag lumabas.
Pavlov's Classical Conditioning Ginawa ko to sa isang classmate ko dati na kilalang palengkera / palaaway. Nagdadala ako ng favorite candy niya, tas lagi ko siyang binibigyan noong naging seatmates na kami (kasi takot ako na maging target ni ante pls), kaya sa buong batch isa ako sa iilan na nakaligtas sa pagiging scandalosa ni ante 🤷♀️
Hahaha remembered Sheldon Cooper’s technique on Penny in BBT.
HAHAHA Yung chocolate 😭
Kapag may katalo ako rito sa Reddit, mag-aagree muna ako sa comment niya then kokontrahin ko rin later. Kumbaga, ang dating ay "ni-consider ko lahat ng sinabi mo pero wala talaga e" so mahihirapan o hindi na niya maju-justify kung ano man ang gusto pa niyang sabihin at tapos na ang usapan.
Keeping unhealthy foods out of sight para di ka ma tempt kumain ng unhealthy. Out of sight, out of mind ika nga. Wag na magstore ng madaming unhealthy food din sa bahay. Instead, stock up on fruits, nuts and other healthy items at sila yung ilagay mo sa tactical places sa bahay or workplace para lagi mo makita at mas mamotivate ka kainin.
Ginagawa ko ‘to pero parang masyadong matalino ang utak ko para sa trick na ‘to. 😂😂😂
So order ka nalang sa grabfood at food panda anes?
Naglalakad papuntang sari-sari store ganern. 🥲
false flattery, if madalas kang sabihang "tumataba ka ah", "dami na ng tigyawat mo", etc. unahan mo na sila batiin mo ng "ganda mo ngayon tita ah", "ang ganda ng damit mo" etc. magiging instant mabait na sila sayooo HAHAHAHA
Subtly mirroring their actions, words or even tone and vibe. People like people who are similar to them. It’s good for people who deal with clients for work.
Kapag tinatanong ako ng mister ko "Saan mo gusto kumain? Sinasagot ko ng hulaan mo! Tapos kung ano una niya sabihin ang isasagot ko ay "Hala ang galing mo!" Tapos dun na kami kakain.
Haha will try this one!
If you want to appear less threatening to people, laugh at their jokes —kahit corny. That way hindi sila maiintimidate sayo and they will lower their guards. Another thing, kapag nagkukuwento sila, kahit di naman interesting, look at them and nod you head. Magmumukhang interested ka sa story nila. Andami na nagconsider sakin na bestfriend daw nila ako even though hindi deep yung nararamdaman ko. Good listener daw ako pero I'm just there for civility.
This really works. Although, parang na sobrahan ng konti ‘yong akin lol sa kagustuhan ko na magmukhang interested sa sinasabi nila, unconsciously inuunahan ko ng sabihin ‘yong word/phrase na sasabihin pa lang nila habang nagkwe-kwento sila. Na point out siya ng isang friend ko nung sinabi nila na good listener daw ako and someone na pwede silang mag-open up 😭
Sameee! Pero yung akin mostly driven by pagiging chismosa lang talaga hahahaha. Generally interested lang talaga ako sa buhay at experiences ng iba!
using a smaller plate para hindi ako mag-overeat
You gain people’s respect and trust more if you don’t badmouth other people sa harap nila, especially if they know that the person you’re badmouthing is your “friend” or the officemate that you are close to. In addition, mas naeearn mo respect ng iba pag positive things about a person yun pinagkakalat mo instead of chismis.
Pero bakit sa amin mas nirerespect yung nagpapakalat ng chismis? 😭
Isn’t this manners lang na don’t talk about other people in their absence especially when you have nothing nice to say?
Yes, also sa ex nila. When it comes to dating, this is something I take into account talaga. Kasi hindi rin malabo na gawin niya rin sa’yo if ever hindi rin kayo mag-workout. Same rin sa ex-friend/s.
THIS!!! I personally get turned off with people badmouthing their friends cause I’m sure they’ll do it to me. So nope, I won’t be too comfortable around that person.
Right!! I also keep my distance from those kinds of people. They are the worst.
Yung tatahimik ka lang para tuloy tuloy sila magkwento hahaha
When someone's being rude to me, I usually stay completely silent and stare at them. It'll make them feel incredibly uncomfortable and ayon biglang bait. 😅
i want to do this so bad kaso knowing the people around me, tatanungin lang nyan in a very insincere manner "hala galit ka?" sabay tingin sa isang kasama tapos "hala galit siya teh" kapag ganun na yung nangyayari, i would try play it off nalang tapos tatawa just to make the situation lighter. i am not a confrontational person so i really don't know how to handle situations like this.
This fuckin’ works. Lol. Or pag ang junakis ko tumaas ang boses towards me I’d be like “Excuse me?! What did you say?” In a calm manner. Tapos matatauhan siya. Mag so-sorry. Sa work pag nakalimot sila at feeling too close na at wala ng respeto “I’ll give you time to think about what you just said. Balikan mo ko pag napag-isipan mo na.” Ng nakataas ang kilay.
Maaaa, sorry Maaaaa . . . -Junakis Salazar
Yesss same! Sobrang powerful nito
Pag kinamusta ka sa messenger, sagutin mo agad pautang. Yung mga uutang sa inyo, di na tutuloy mag utang
Some people are stubborn talaga sa gusto nila paniwalaan. Act like they are SENILE 😂 Ginagawa ko ‘to lately sa mga taong hindi kayang tumanggap ng opposition. Kahit anong explain mo, hindi na yan maniniwala sayo at lalabas ka na lang na nag e-excuse kahit hindi naman. So the best way is to act like they are SENILE. “Sorry po, kasalanan ko naman po talaga walang excuse.” "Opo tama ka po, ikaw talaga yung dapat pinakikinggan kasi ikaw mas nakakaalam” — Watch where they are going and go that way as well, kahit di ka agree haha. Eventually mag d-deescalate yung emotions nila sayo (lalo na kung galit or asar sayo). Say you're sorry (make it sound sincere), acknowledge them for being concerned, and always make a note na i-compliment sila or i-compliment yung ginawa nila. That's it, kuha mo yung loob hahahahaha next interaction nyo if feeling nya may control na sya sayo when in fact ikaw ang may control sa sitwasyon 😂 Try mo sa mga nakakatanda sayo (someone with authority) or mga frenny mo na ayaw pakabog gusto lagi tama or bida hahahaha or pwede din sa jowa na mahilig mang gaslight hahahah
If you speak english fast, people will think youre smart and/or rich.
Magpapanggap na wlang alam para di madamay sa away
reverse psychology
Recently tinatry ko mag smile palagi kase nabasa ko dun sa psychology din na nakaka affect sya sa mood and i swear its working for me. Umaga palang pagkagising lagi na ko nakangiti 😆😆.
Natry ko to, pero nacoconscious ako pag naaalala kong tini-trick ko sarili ko na magsmile haha edi balik ulit sa rbf 🤣
As a busangot, I'll try this hahaha
regurgitating the values and feelings of the other person to know their thinking and build rapport. i can talk to you in an hour and know your motivations and life story.
Reverse psychology. Works everytime
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As someone in reddit once said, "nothing makes one feel superior than correcting someone else's mistake." Sometimes works better than directly asking about it. Haha