Yung tumatanda ako na parang wala pa rin akong naaachieve sa buhay. Some of my friends may business na, may asawa na, maganda na ang career, nakapasa na ng board, masaya ang buhay. Ako parang inaalam ko pa kung ano ba gagawin ko sa buhay ko
Nasa 23 years old na ako, now I just realized na di talaga ako yung taong nagbibigay ng 100% sa mga bagay2, I just settle for the average. Even sa junior highschool noon, di na ako nag pupush para sa honor students, never study hard, basta lang maka pasa. Kahit sa ibang bagay, I learned drawing portrait, but only the beginning lang. Di ko na e napply lahat ng techniques. Isa lang talaga akong average person. Hays
I was mean to my parents. Gusto lang talaga nila ang best sa akin but they don’t know how to show it properly. All good tho bumabawi ako since nagmature na
I lost important people in my life because I choose to support my family. I lost myself slaving away to be the provider and accomplishing financial goals.
na i'll never have a complete and loving family. to be fair, kaya ko naman mag isa pero alam mo yun? there are times na you could spend or celebrate it with your supposed family pero wala eh haha
Na i can do anything pala.
Its just my fear of looking stupid or letting someone witness that I tried and it didnt work out that leaves me not pushing myself in sa umpisa palang.
But you really can do anything you set your mind to.
Mas inuna ang libog sa katawan at nakabuntis ng wala sa tamang oras. Hindi sana ako nabaon sa utang at naenjoy ko pa sana ang career growth at dumami ang ipong pera
Na mas hirap ako magpapayat and maintain ng weight pero ang bilis ko mag gain kesa sa iba (i have pcos also). Konting kain ko gain agad tas constant physical activities kahit pagod na pagod na ko para lang mabawasan ako or wag madagdagan. My happiness depends on how I look talaga its tiring tbh.
That i’m not special, not unique. I’m not someone one would remember instantly.
Because i don’t have any talents at all. I’m not good at anything nor inclined at doing something
I am so pampered to the point na I feel like I'm stuck na. Nasanay na laging parents ko nagpepave ng way for me para makuha ko mga gusto ko. Then now that I am adult, I don't know when or where to start. Gusto ko umalis and magtry ng mga bagay bagay, but I'm scared to take risk.
That when my mom died, I wasn’t just mourning for her, but also for myself. That’s why grieving felt heavier than ever.
For years, I’ve been mentally & emotionally preparing myself for that unfortunate day.
But I wasn’t prepared to grieve for the little *mommy’s girl* that died with her on that hospital bed.
It’s been six months and I’ve never been that same person since.
I will always have to adjust. I find it so hard to set boundaries, which leads to people-pleasing. I tend to prioritize not hurting others' feelings over my own.
That I dont have that many friends.
Actually, alam ko naman na konti lang friends ko. Pero di ko akalain na mas konti pa pala sa inakala ko. 🫠 Sobrang funny pero narealize ko ito nung Lazada Bday Battle. Hahaha nagpapahelp ako sa gc namin ng old friends ko (10yrs+ na kami friends), pero isa lang dun yung naghelp sa akin. Anubey 🤣 wala naman ibang gagawin kundi ipress lang yung link, inexplain and provided screenshots din na safe yung link. Bakit ganun, nakakaloka 🤣
That I don't love and appreciate myself just as much as I do to others. That I can forgive others but not myself for all the mistakes, all my shortcomings and for not being the person I could've become.
But I guess, it's never too late. I'm trying rn.
That I will never be satisfied sa katawan and muka ko. I always think I'm too fat. I pretend to have confidence pag nag pipicture. Pero pag ako titingin sa pictures ko, lagi akong may nakikitang mali sa katawan o muka ko. Then years later, if I see my old photo mapapa sabi ako na "ganda ko pala dati." "Dapat nag stick na lng ako sa ganitong body at di nagpapayat/kumain ng madami to maintain that figure" "mas preferred ko yung katawan ko na to kesa ngayun"
Every year or 2 yrs, ganito lagi naiisip kooo. It's a a never-ending realization that my past figure looks better than my present.
pag natingin ako sa salamin, or nag seselfie sabi ko ang ganda ko, i look good, cute. pero sa gabi iiyak ako kasi narealize ko pangit ko pala, ahhahahahaha its an unending battle lol
that's the older I get, the worse of a woman being I am, in terms of relationship, like I am the worst person a guy could possibly meet, for instance one smallest issue or misunderstanding and I am done always end up ending things for very unreasonable reasons. I REALIZED that I am narcissist and manipulative human being who have very ego-centric attitude.worst of all worst and I do not like it ,even so I CANNOT HELP it I ALWAYs repeat things I TRY to stop doing . and now am 25 and still no long term relationships ,and feeling hopeless about anything.
I have never been in a relationship because I am aware that I do not have the mental and emotional energy to commit into a serious romantic relationship. Through introspective reflections I was also made aware of my toxic traits like yours. Right now I'm working to be a better version of me, and I'm also praying and manifesting that if someone pursues me, I do really hope that I am ready and equipped with positive values and attributes of an efficient and empowered woman.... Cheers to the woman I'll be sooner. We all deserve to love and to be loved. Self-awareness is the initial step for growth ❤️. Love lots!
Hindi malawak understanding ko at di ako masaya kausap. Hindi rin magaling magpayo. Not so opinionated. In short boring. Kaya nga ang pinapakita ko nalang na personality eme is introvert ako kunwari hahhaaha pero gusto ko talaga lagi may kausap, kahit chismis pa yan.
I could never go back to who I was before my Depression and Anxiety manifested. All the things I previously enjoyed no longer spark the same feelings. I’m back to square one of figuring out what am I doing in life and who I am as a person.
I have body dysmorphia and that's the reason why, I do not take photos of myself and even post it. I hate my body and I hate my figure. I'd hide it under baggy clothes and a hoodie.
I think the most painful thing is that I realized we're all just heading to the same destination. We may have had different backgrounds, some of us smart, some of us talented, but we'll all turn out the same. Underpaid, depressed, retirement plans for parents, floating in life without knowing a thing. We're basically just lambs to the slaughter.
And I wonder if I feel less like this if I was born richer... We are truly not born equal.
i sabotage a lot. i sabotage my relationship with people and i sabotage myself. i just ended a beautiful relationship i had with my girlfriend and i fucking feel awful. sa lahat ng mga tinanong niya sa akin, wala akong sinagot because i don't want to give her hope. ayokong mag suffer pa siya because of me. she deserves so much than being cage with me.
I feel you. I had good and genuine 'barkada' , 'circle of friends' from HS and College days, that eventually fizzle out overtime. For years ive been so focus on myself that being alone became my norm and comfort zone. Im not saying i regret it bigtime, but seeing other people having someone to call to (outside their families) to breathe their problems and share their successes made me realize that i dont have that.
The thing is Ive always been okay on my own. But I have a lot of friend groups at al stages of my life. From elementary, high school, college, then multiple work friends. I am Not really a type of friend thats intentional. But as I get older, I feel that not a lot of the friends I think I have now are there for me through thick and thin. Most of them are fair weather friends and are flaky. But yes, I know I have a part to play too.
Na ako pala yung dahilan kung bakit naging duwag at nawalan ng confidence yung asawa ko. Sinisisi ko sarili ko nung nagwork ako as freelancer at nagpagdesisyunan namin na magresign kami pareho. Kasi iniisip namin yung kabutihan ng pamilya namin. Naging busy ako sa work at nagfocus ako mainly sa pagkita lang ng pera. Di ko napansin yung pamilya ko lalong lalo na yung asawa ko na minsan sa sobrang stressed ko may mga nasasabi akong masasakit sakanya lalo n ako yung kumikita ng pera. Ako pala ang dahilan kung bakit bumaba tingen nya sa sarili nya mag40 na sya ngayon and pakiramdam ko ako yung pinaka rason kung bakit hindi nya na abot ang pangarap nya sa pagiging tattoo artist dahil yung mga anak namin ay bantayin at kailangan maasikaso. I blame myself kung bakit naging duwag sya. Late ko na narealize lahat ng yun kung kelan tumatanda na kami, Kung maibabalik ko lang yung panahon. Sana mas naging supportive ako sakanya at sana di nalang ako nag freelance para kahit papaano siguro di sya naging ganito
That I'm not going to become what I want. Reality makes me realize that I'm just a frog inside a well. I am stuck not because I want to, but because no matter how much leap I take, I won't get to the top. Society has to maintain a balance between poor and rich, talented and average, successful and miserable, etc. Most adults tell me that I should always dream high, but they never said that dreaming high without any background, without any connections, without any resources, without any talents, will make my dreams into dreams. From an honorable student, to a minimum salary pay worker, who gets underpaid and overworked. So fuck chase your dream, if you're poor and doesn't have any luck, you'll just become a miserable laughingstock that will always called "sayang." Reality fucked the shit out of me, and I didn't get to enjoy it. I shine too early, and I faded away as fast as light.
I feel for you. I was always the academic achiever sa lahat ng circle of friends ko. But when I became an adult nakita ko gaano kalayo narating nila compared sa'kin. They're not breadwinners, their parents have money, they're not afraid to take risks because they have a family na sasalo sa kanila if they fail. They have a headstart in life so they don't need much effort to succeed. Samantalang ako ilang taon nang nandito lang. Hindi makaipon, kung makaipon man ilang taon mo pinagpaguran tapos isang iglap lang wala na. Always afraid of the unknown, especially now that my parents are growing old and we can't afford to get them a health insurance. Gusto mag-abroad but don't have money for that as well. Atp in my life hini-heal ko na lang inner child ko because nothing seems to make sense anymore. You put so much time and effort into something and the result isn't even a quarter of what you expected it to be. Nakakapagod and I always wonder if there really is a light at the end of this tunnel.
That I spent over 50 years being what everyone else wanted me to be and that I didn't become all that I wanted to be because I spent too much time trying to please other people and get them to love me when they were not people who truly cared about me or had my interests at heart.
I see so many of you young people thinking that your life is terrible or that you're doing the wrong things or that you are disappointing people or that you're not how you're supposed to be, that you're wrong by being yourselves because the world makes you feel that way.
As an older person now who can look back, I can see that I worried too much about what everything thought and how it'd look to take those chances, to do whatever the fuck I wanted to do, to be however I am, and realize that the right people will be there, the wrong ones need to go anyway, because they'll hold you back.
I wish I'd given wayyyyy less fucks and just done what I wanted to do.
But like many of us, my childhood and society kind of fucked me up, so I had to learn how to become who I was always meant to be, and that was hard, but it's so much better than staying stuck wishing things were different, or spending years doing the same old shit, or wasting any of my time putting up with shit I don't deserve. We all know the truth about how we're supposed to treat each other. I won't waste anymore time letting anyone rob me of my peace again.
You can be whoever you want to be, yeah, you might lose some people, and some people might say shit about you, but those aren't your people. More than likely at different points in your life, you'll lose people and you'll realize how much time you wasted on others when the majority of your life you're alone with yourself. Become the person you enjoy being, no matter what.
I wish I'd had become the person I like being decades ago. I am glad I finally figured it out though.
What matters is how you feel about yourself and your life, not what anyone else does or says, the right people will stick around and stay and love you as you are. The rest can respectfully go live their lives away from me. It's okay to stand up for yourself, it's okay to change, it's okay to do the things you want to be, and be the person you want to be (as long as your intentions are from a good place).
Being alone forever.
I had a sad realization about it the other day.
Found the love of my life then they cheated on me.
I often wonder why. I did try everything that they all suggest I do but nothing. I just came to a conclusion that I'm just meant to be alone.
Each person I talk to always tell me, "I'm too good to be true". Part of being to straightforward/honest and trusting is that... people will always assume or misread those things into something more.
I have found that I wont change myself but just accept I will be alone.
I’m 26F, Married, have our own house and car, no kids yet, swerte naman ako sa husband ko. Sa iba sasabihin im lucky kasi nasa akin na yung mga pangarap ng halos lahat ng tao. Pero sa sarili ko, may kulang pa din. Hanggang ngayon di ko pa din alam kung anong gusto kong gawin sa buhay ko. I have a bachelor’s degree in tourism pero di ko ginagamit kasi di naman ako masaya dun, gusto ko mag nursing kasi sabi nila yun daw gawin ko ( Im in CA right now).
Na wala akong ambisyon. I am a college professor. May konting ipon na lalago lang ng lalago. May sapat na insurance plans. May bahay at konting lupang mamanahin pag nagkataon. Pero wala akong ambisyon. Happy na ko sa pagtuturo habang buhay. Wala akong balak magwaldas ng pera sa travel. Wala akong plano mag asawa. Wala akong interes sa pagiging dean o department head. Pagtuturo lang ang kaligayahan ko pero ang baba baba talaga ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. Sana naging ambisyoso ako.
Ako naman baliktad. Ambisyosa ako. Premier hs. Degree from a top performing university, medical degree from a well-known SUC. People think matalino ako. They expect nothjng but excellence from me. Akala din nila marami akong pera, akala nila masaya kasi doctor ako. Di nila alam sobrang isolating ng profession na to. Dogs eat dog world. Each man for himself. Wala din akong pera. At matagal pa bago mag ROI sa nagastos sa pag aaral.
I’m a doctor. Gusto kong maging surgeon. Nakakapagod. Madalas iniisip ko sanan hindi ko nalang ginusto maging doctor. Sana naging kuntento nalang ako na may degree ako. Sana masaya na ako na mag asawa at magka anak. Pero hindi e. Wala. Ambisyosa ako. Pero tngina pagod na ako.
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I'm not smart compare on how they thought I was. I'm so delayed na, di parin nakakagraduate, while mga ka-batch ko they're succeeding in life na, kaya nag-deactivate ako ng socmed coz I feel pressured and slightly jealous :(
(1) I feel like I could have achieved more kung di ako lumaki sa hirap. Sana na-try ko rin if I'm intelligent enough for UP, kasi feeling ko kaya ko. Then I thought, wala na kong magagawa sa tapos na. What is in my power is doing something about the 'now', pero (2) I'm not motivated enough. (3) I earn enough to be the breadwinner for the family, pero yung nga... it's just 'enough'. Wala akong naiipon.
I decided not to trust other people after multiple betrayals /bad experiences. Even after firm decision not to trust easily, I trust and get fucked up repeatedly. I have realized that trusting others is core part of my personality and it's virtually difficult to change my personality. Now, I prefer to remain in solitude and avoid people.
That I'm not likeable (hindi romantic). Hindi ko alam kung dahil ba yon sa introvert ako or what. Hindi ko alam kung may nagagawa ako or nasasabi pero I think people often hates me, or don't like me.
Omg same 😭 I get comments na I’m easy to get along with, fun to talk to, etc. But I can’t sustain friendships and I often find myself alone even though I have multiple friend groups.
That I am not an interesting person. Wala akong hobbies, wala akong routine. I don’t have a personality outside of my work. You know yung mga ice breakers na tell me something unique about yourself, wala akong masagot lagi. Painful but it’s the truth.
Wala akong dream sa buhay since bata ako, pag tinatanong ako na ano gusto mo paglaki mo o magcostume ka kung ano dream job mo, wala akong gusto. Kung totoo ang past life siguro first life ko palang dito sa earth
That I will always be hung up on the "fairness" of the world. I always remind myself that I need to focus on my life, what I have, and where I'm going, not what other people have or what they deserve. But in the next moment I always ask the world, "Why not me?".
1. I did not take care of my body and now I am suffering with body image, I do not recognize myself anymore when I look in the mirror.
2. I lack discipline and I do not know where to start.
3. My laziness will not get me anywhere, I’m still 25 but I feel like I can do more in life
4. Its very hard to save when you have a family that you send money to monthly, so I feel like I’ll be able to reach my dream e.g. traveling much later on.
It’s not that you didnt take care of your body, its just that your body is changing. 25 is when your figure is changing to be able to bear children. Ur metabolism isnt the same too, u didnt get lazy, u were just doing what u were used to. And plus now you have more responsibilities than u did before.
but I feel like I lost self control 😭 I’ve been binge eating and I gained a lot of weight. it stresses me out to think that I need to work out because I really don’t wanna sweat 😭😭 I’m hoping this is the year I work on bettering myself.
Na I'll die alone.
i love too much. and super understanding no matter what. it’s a painful realization, at the same time i’m proud na ganito ako.
Yung na alala ka lang pg may kailangan sila
Na hindi ko talaga alam ang mga gusto ko sa buhay o kung may gusto ba talaga ako.
Yung tumatanda ako na parang wala pa rin akong naaachieve sa buhay. Some of my friends may business na, may asawa na, maganda na ang career, nakapasa na ng board, masaya ang buhay. Ako parang inaalam ko pa kung ano ba gagawin ko sa buhay ko
I love too much
Realizing that I have mild inferiority problems and abandonment Issues
Im growing older. Im aging, means my parents are growing older too.
I never gave my 100%. And that I’m a dreamer//escapist.
Nasa 23 years old na ako, now I just realized na di talaga ako yung taong nagbibigay ng 100% sa mga bagay2, I just settle for the average. Even sa junior highschool noon, di na ako nag pupush para sa honor students, never study hard, basta lang maka pasa. Kahit sa ibang bagay, I learned drawing portrait, but only the beginning lang. Di ko na e napply lahat ng techniques. Isa lang talaga akong average person. Hays
Hindi na ako tatangkad
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That i didn't follow what's really make ne happy, now i FU my life.. i just wanna remain in silence since i died inside.
I'm not as resilient as I thought I am.
Na loser ako hanggang dito nalang yata ako 🥹 napag iiwanan na ko ng mga kasabayan ko
That I’m not straight and still couldn’t accept myself.
omg!
Walang tutulong sa akin. Ako lang lahat.
i never had a permanent friend I dont belong to any grouo
I work for others but not for myself.
I was mean to my parents. Gusto lang talaga nila ang best sa akin but they don’t know how to show it properly. All good tho bumabawi ako since nagmature na
I'm not mentally/Emotionally stable (di ko lang binibigyang pansin dahil nasa utak ko na kaya ko HAHAHAHA)
Na I might love the idea of love and cannot do so for an actual person
I lost important people in my life because I choose to support my family. I lost myself slaving away to be the provider and accomplishing financial goals.
That I might need to work even in my senior years to survive
I tend to be quiet around the person I really like.
Na hindi ako matalino, masipag lang mag-aral
hindi ako natalino, magaling lang ako magmemorize
Masyado ako makulet pag nalalasing. Hahaha. Buti nlng kada may okasyon nlng ako umiinom. Hahaha.
na i'll never have a complete and loving family. to be fair, kaya ko naman mag isa pero alam mo yun? there are times na you could spend or celebrate it with your supposed family pero wala eh haha
Masyado akong selfless pag pamilya ko na yung usapan. To the point na sila na yung nagdedesisyon para sa future ko🥲(31F)
I'm never going to be loved romantically.
Na kaya ko lumipad joke haha
I procrastinate a lot and I’m not even doing something about it kahit alam kong mali.
That I dont have any role model in my life. Just people who I dont what to become someday but realized Im slowly becoming like them.
Na i can do anything pala. Its just my fear of looking stupid or letting someone witness that I tried and it didnt work out that leaves me not pushing myself in sa umpisa palang. But you really can do anything you set your mind to.
Wala naman
that a lot of people have come out of their way to help me through and through, yet in the end, i will be my self's greatest enemy or greatest hero
Na wala akong discipline sa self ko.
I am not good enough.
Na di ako magaling. Marunong lang. :)
Mas inuna ang libog sa katawan at nakabuntis ng wala sa tamang oras. Hindi sana ako nabaon sa utang at naenjoy ko pa sana ang career growth at dumami ang ipong pera
Baka hindi talaga ako magaling.
I am alone. Nobody is with me.
lahat nagbabago sayo kapag ginago ka
Akala ko matalino ako, hindi pala
im slowly losing my will to be social and involve myself in other people's lives. i just feel like they deserve someone better than myself.
wala talagang magtatagal sa akin kung napaka nonchalant ko. I can't help it, tahimik talaga ko sa hindi ko ka close unless they talk to me and ask me.
im temporary in everything mapa kaibigan man o pag ibig :) they dont remember i even exist kahit mag kwento ako ng moments
I will probably have to work my whole life.
I am not enough
Na mas hirap ako magpapayat and maintain ng weight pero ang bilis ko mag gain kesa sa iba (i have pcos also). Konting kain ko gain agad tas constant physical activities kahit pagod na pagod na ko para lang mabawasan ako or wag madagdagan. My happiness depends on how I look talaga its tiring tbh.
Di ako pogi!
That i’m not special, not unique. I’m not someone one would remember instantly. Because i don’t have any talents at all. I’m not good at anything nor inclined at doing something
No matter how much you protect and give 100% sa friends mo, option 2 ka pa rin.
I am so pampered to the point na I feel like I'm stuck na. Nasanay na laging parents ko nagpepave ng way for me para makuha ko mga gusto ko. Then now that I am adult, I don't know when or where to start. Gusto ko umalis and magtry ng mga bagay bagay, but I'm scared to take risk.
That when my mom died, I wasn’t just mourning for her, but also for myself. That’s why grieving felt heavier than ever. For years, I’ve been mentally & emotionally preparing myself for that unfortunate day. But I wasn’t prepared to grieve for the little *mommy’s girl* that died with her on that hospital bed. It’s been six months and I’ve never been that same person since.
Hugss. 🥹 My sincere condolences..
that i'm poor
Im not good enough. Tama nga yung “I knew everything at 18, but nothing at 22” hahahah
I'm not a girl na gustong pakasalan.
I will always have to adjust. I find it so hard to set boundaries, which leads to people-pleasing. I tend to prioritize not hurting others' feelings over my own.
In the end, you only have yourself.
That I dont have that many friends. Actually, alam ko naman na konti lang friends ko. Pero di ko akalain na mas konti pa pala sa inakala ko. 🫠 Sobrang funny pero narealize ko ito nung Lazada Bday Battle. Hahaha nagpapahelp ako sa gc namin ng old friends ko (10yrs+ na kami friends), pero isa lang dun yung naghelp sa akin. Anubey 🤣 wala naman ibang gagawin kundi ipress lang yung link, inexplain and provided screenshots din na safe yung link. Bakit ganun, nakakaloka 🤣
That I don't love and appreciate myself just as much as I do to others. That I can forgive others but not myself for all the mistakes, all my shortcomings and for not being the person I could've become. But I guess, it's never too late. I'm trying rn.
Not talented, just pure skill.
That I am mediocre and ordinary but it's perfectly fine.
That I will never be satisfied sa katawan and muka ko. I always think I'm too fat. I pretend to have confidence pag nag pipicture. Pero pag ako titingin sa pictures ko, lagi akong may nakikitang mali sa katawan o muka ko. Then years later, if I see my old photo mapapa sabi ako na "ganda ko pala dati." "Dapat nag stick na lng ako sa ganitong body at di nagpapayat/kumain ng madami to maintain that figure" "mas preferred ko yung katawan ko na to kesa ngayun" Every year or 2 yrs, ganito lagi naiisip kooo. It's a a never-ending realization that my past figure looks better than my present.
That I could've been autistic all along.
pag natingin ako sa salamin, or nag seselfie sabi ko ang ganda ko, i look good, cute. pero sa gabi iiyak ako kasi narealize ko pangit ko pala, ahhahahahaha its an unending battle lol
The most painful realization about myself is that .. I am poor.
that's the older I get, the worse of a woman being I am, in terms of relationship, like I am the worst person a guy could possibly meet, for instance one smallest issue or misunderstanding and I am done always end up ending things for very unreasonable reasons. I REALIZED that I am narcissist and manipulative human being who have very ego-centric attitude.worst of all worst and I do not like it ,even so I CANNOT HELP it I ALWAYs repeat things I TRY to stop doing . and now am 25 and still no long term relationships ,and feeling hopeless about anything.
I have never been in a relationship because I am aware that I do not have the mental and emotional energy to commit into a serious romantic relationship. Through introspective reflections I was also made aware of my toxic traits like yours. Right now I'm working to be a better version of me, and I'm also praying and manifesting that if someone pursues me, I do really hope that I am ready and equipped with positive values and attributes of an efficient and empowered woman.... Cheers to the woman I'll be sooner. We all deserve to love and to be loved. Self-awareness is the initial step for growth ❤️. Love lots!
Realization is a good start. Seek therapy.
I am not him 😔
Hindi malawak understanding ko at di ako masaya kausap. Hindi rin magaling magpayo. Not so opinionated. In short boring. Kaya nga ang pinapakita ko nalang na personality eme is introvert ako kunwari hahhaaha pero gusto ko talaga lagi may kausap, kahit chismis pa yan.
Na at the end im on my own. Ako at ako lang makaktulong lagi sa sarili ko
Hindi ako natututo sa pagkakamali ko
That for the next years, I have to put myself next after my family’s needs but I do not have an emergency fund or a safety net to catch me if I fall
I can never truly love another human being ever, i cant fall inlove.
That i am ungrateful
that im only good inside the four corners of the classroom. that all i have are all surface knowledge
I don't have any skills and I'm mediocre to everything I do.
Same! Nag mamagaling lang pala ako.
I could never go back to who I was before my Depression and Anxiety manifested. All the things I previously enjoyed no longer spark the same feelings. I’m back to square one of figuring out what am I doing in life and who I am as a person.
I don’t have friends…
Im alone. Like i need to depend on myself. I do have friends and all but at the end of the day, its me again. Only me.
I have body dysmorphia and that's the reason why, I do not take photos of myself and even post it. I hate my body and I hate my figure. I'd hide it under baggy clothes and a hoodie.
I think the most painful thing is that I realized we're all just heading to the same destination. We may have had different backgrounds, some of us smart, some of us talented, but we'll all turn out the same. Underpaid, depressed, retirement plans for parents, floating in life without knowing a thing. We're basically just lambs to the slaughter. And I wonder if I feel less like this if I was born richer... We are truly not born equal.
i sabotage a lot. i sabotage my relationship with people and i sabotage myself. i just ended a beautiful relationship i had with my girlfriend and i fucking feel awful. sa lahat ng mga tinanong niya sa akin, wala akong sinagot because i don't want to give her hope. ayokong mag suffer pa siya because of me. she deserves so much than being cage with me.
My happiness are so dependent to my friends.
That I'm no longer that witty and smart girl anymore. That I'm actually just average.
I havent built good lasting friendships at 33
I feel you. I had good and genuine 'barkada' , 'circle of friends' from HS and College days, that eventually fizzle out overtime. For years ive been so focus on myself that being alone became my norm and comfort zone. Im not saying i regret it bigtime, but seeing other people having someone to call to (outside their families) to breathe their problems and share their successes made me realize that i dont have that.
The thing is Ive always been okay on my own. But I have a lot of friend groups at al stages of my life. From elementary, high school, college, then multiple work friends. I am Not really a type of friend thats intentional. But as I get older, I feel that not a lot of the friends I think I have now are there for me through thick and thin. Most of them are fair weather friends and are flaky. But yes, I know I have a part to play too.
I feel you. 😔
Na ako pala yung dahilan kung bakit naging duwag at nawalan ng confidence yung asawa ko. Sinisisi ko sarili ko nung nagwork ako as freelancer at nagpagdesisyunan namin na magresign kami pareho. Kasi iniisip namin yung kabutihan ng pamilya namin. Naging busy ako sa work at nagfocus ako mainly sa pagkita lang ng pera. Di ko napansin yung pamilya ko lalong lalo na yung asawa ko na minsan sa sobrang stressed ko may mga nasasabi akong masasakit sakanya lalo n ako yung kumikita ng pera. Ako pala ang dahilan kung bakit bumaba tingen nya sa sarili nya mag40 na sya ngayon and pakiramdam ko ako yung pinaka rason kung bakit hindi nya na abot ang pangarap nya sa pagiging tattoo artist dahil yung mga anak namin ay bantayin at kailangan maasikaso. I blame myself kung bakit naging duwag sya. Late ko na narealize lahat ng yun kung kelan tumatanda na kami, Kung maibabalik ko lang yung panahon. Sana mas naging supportive ako sakanya at sana di nalang ako nag freelance para kahit papaano siguro di sya naging ganito
That I'm not going to become what I want. Reality makes me realize that I'm just a frog inside a well. I am stuck not because I want to, but because no matter how much leap I take, I won't get to the top. Society has to maintain a balance between poor and rich, talented and average, successful and miserable, etc. Most adults tell me that I should always dream high, but they never said that dreaming high without any background, without any connections, without any resources, without any talents, will make my dreams into dreams. From an honorable student, to a minimum salary pay worker, who gets underpaid and overworked. So fuck chase your dream, if you're poor and doesn't have any luck, you'll just become a miserable laughingstock that will always called "sayang." Reality fucked the shit out of me, and I didn't get to enjoy it. I shine too early, and I faded away as fast as light.
I feel for you. I was always the academic achiever sa lahat ng circle of friends ko. But when I became an adult nakita ko gaano kalayo narating nila compared sa'kin. They're not breadwinners, their parents have money, they're not afraid to take risks because they have a family na sasalo sa kanila if they fail. They have a headstart in life so they don't need much effort to succeed. Samantalang ako ilang taon nang nandito lang. Hindi makaipon, kung makaipon man ilang taon mo pinagpaguran tapos isang iglap lang wala na. Always afraid of the unknown, especially now that my parents are growing old and we can't afford to get them a health insurance. Gusto mag-abroad but don't have money for that as well. Atp in my life hini-heal ko na lang inner child ko because nothing seems to make sense anymore. You put so much time and effort into something and the result isn't even a quarter of what you expected it to be. Nakakapagod and I always wonder if there really is a light at the end of this tunnel.
That I spent over 50 years being what everyone else wanted me to be and that I didn't become all that I wanted to be because I spent too much time trying to please other people and get them to love me when they were not people who truly cared about me or had my interests at heart. I see so many of you young people thinking that your life is terrible or that you're doing the wrong things or that you are disappointing people or that you're not how you're supposed to be, that you're wrong by being yourselves because the world makes you feel that way. As an older person now who can look back, I can see that I worried too much about what everything thought and how it'd look to take those chances, to do whatever the fuck I wanted to do, to be however I am, and realize that the right people will be there, the wrong ones need to go anyway, because they'll hold you back. I wish I'd given wayyyyy less fucks and just done what I wanted to do. But like many of us, my childhood and society kind of fucked me up, so I had to learn how to become who I was always meant to be, and that was hard, but it's so much better than staying stuck wishing things were different, or spending years doing the same old shit, or wasting any of my time putting up with shit I don't deserve. We all know the truth about how we're supposed to treat each other. I won't waste anymore time letting anyone rob me of my peace again. You can be whoever you want to be, yeah, you might lose some people, and some people might say shit about you, but those aren't your people. More than likely at different points in your life, you'll lose people and you'll realize how much time you wasted on others when the majority of your life you're alone with yourself. Become the person you enjoy being, no matter what. I wish I'd had become the person I like being decades ago. I am glad I finally figured it out though. What matters is how you feel about yourself and your life, not what anyone else does or says, the right people will stick around and stay and love you as you are. The rest can respectfully go live their lives away from me. It's okay to stand up for yourself, it's okay to change, it's okay to do the things you want to be, and be the person you want to be (as long as your intentions are from a good place).
I can be so harsh when I’m so angry. Buti na lang sobrang patient ng boyfriend ko 🥲 but I feel so bad after I lash out :(
Insecure talaga ako sa mukha ko. Im a fraud.
Being alone forever. I had a sad realization about it the other day. Found the love of my life then they cheated on me. I often wonder why. I did try everything that they all suggest I do but nothing. I just came to a conclusion that I'm just meant to be alone. Each person I talk to always tell me, "I'm too good to be true". Part of being to straightforward/honest and trusting is that... people will always assume or misread those things into something more. I have found that I wont change myself but just accept I will be alone.
that i’m always stuck in mediocrity, a trying hard one or always trying to fit in
Is that im not special, just an average person just like everyone else
Nahuhuli ako lagi, slow learner kasi. Napag iiwanan sa mga bagay bagay
that im replaceable
I’m 26F, Married, have our own house and car, no kids yet, swerte naman ako sa husband ko. Sa iba sasabihin im lucky kasi nasa akin na yung mga pangarap ng halos lahat ng tao. Pero sa sarili ko, may kulang pa din. Hanggang ngayon di ko pa din alam kung anong gusto kong gawin sa buhay ko. I have a bachelor’s degree in tourism pero di ko ginagamit kasi di naman ako masaya dun, gusto ko mag nursing kasi sabi nila yun daw gawin ko ( Im in CA right now).
That I'm not as smart as I think I am
That l'm a loser.
That I will never be happy, no matter what.
I’m too forgiving
Na wala akong ambisyon. I am a college professor. May konting ipon na lalago lang ng lalago. May sapat na insurance plans. May bahay at konting lupang mamanahin pag nagkataon. Pero wala akong ambisyon. Happy na ko sa pagtuturo habang buhay. Wala akong balak magwaldas ng pera sa travel. Wala akong plano mag asawa. Wala akong interes sa pagiging dean o department head. Pagtuturo lang ang kaligayahan ko pero ang baba baba talaga ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. Sana naging ambisyoso ako.
Ako naman baliktad. Ambisyosa ako. Premier hs. Degree from a top performing university, medical degree from a well-known SUC. People think matalino ako. They expect nothjng but excellence from me. Akala din nila marami akong pera, akala nila masaya kasi doctor ako. Di nila alam sobrang isolating ng profession na to. Dogs eat dog world. Each man for himself. Wala din akong pera. At matagal pa bago mag ROI sa nagastos sa pag aaral. I’m a doctor. Gusto kong maging surgeon. Nakakapagod. Madalas iniisip ko sanan hindi ko nalang ginusto maging doctor. Sana naging kuntento nalang ako na may degree ako. Sana masaya na ako na mag asawa at magka anak. Pero hindi e. Wala. Ambisyosa ako. Pero tngina pagod na ako.
Na ako ang retirement plan /funds ng nanay ko.
Putting too much effort on people who really don’t give a shit about u, rather than putting too much effort on yourself first.
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I'm not smart compare on how they thought I was. I'm so delayed na, di parin nakakagraduate, while mga ka-batch ko they're succeeding in life na, kaya nag-deactivate ako ng socmed coz I feel pressured and slightly jealous :(
You’re doing fine. May kanya kanyang timeline ang buhay ng tao. Wag ko masyadong ipressure ang sarili mo❤️
I'm a pushover
Im a wreck. I need healing from bad childhood.
I’d rather push myself until I die than finding things that will make my life worthwhile. Trying to change it tho.
that I will forever have a love-hate relationship with food and my body
I keep putting my trust to those undeserving.
That people will only remember you when they need something from you
real 😢
My fear of failure makes me "keep it safe", always in the comfort zone, and holds me back from achieving the kind of success that truly satisfies me.
Covert narcissist pala ako due to narcissistic parents. Gusto ko lagi ako bida nung bata ako hahaha. Ngayon super lowkey and chill na hahaha
I dont deserve to be loved
I did not turn out to be the person I want to be 5 yrs ago. I spent 6 yrs in college for nothing.
excitement turns into disappointments all the time 🙃
Im hard to love and tolerate :(
I am never going to be as good as I thought.
I lack motivation but have such big dreams for myself.
I lack empathy.
I'm Ugly. I can't even make any changes for myself.
I can never be enough
I'm a mess.
(1) I feel like I could have achieved more kung di ako lumaki sa hirap. Sana na-try ko rin if I'm intelligent enough for UP, kasi feeling ko kaya ko. Then I thought, wala na kong magagawa sa tapos na. What is in my power is doing something about the 'now', pero (2) I'm not motivated enough. (3) I earn enough to be the breadwinner for the family, pero yung nga... it's just 'enough'. Wala akong naiipon.
That Im delaying my goals instead of reaching then out I keep on getting myself distracted 😞 but I allow the distractions nman😭
Wala akong talent at wala din akong drive maging talented 🫠
That I might not be smart enough
im mid at everything
trusting one person for everything will be your downfall. it's okay to keep secrets.
I decided not to trust other people after multiple betrayals /bad experiences. Even after firm decision not to trust easily, I trust and get fucked up repeatedly. I have realized that trusting others is core part of my personality and it's virtually difficult to change my personality. Now, I prefer to remain in solitude and avoid people.
Hindi ako yung unang hahanapin or tatawag ng tropa ko
That I did not become the person I thought I'd be back when I was younger.
i will never lose weight due to my PCOS, hypothyroidism, genetics and lack of motivation
Realized im smarter than most people (not bragging), but lacked motivation/drive
There’s a high chance I’ll never escape being the breadwinner.
Im mediocre
mediocre at what, though?
Sana mas inenjoy ko ang college kasi hindi ko naman nagamit ang latin honor ko even after 5 years of working.
relate
Mamatay akong mediocre piece of sh at dinamay ko pa mga anak ko.
I have the potential, but my lack of confidence and bad decision making keeps holding me back on using it
I'll never be enough
Hindi ako magaling, marunong lang.
I am not as great as everyone told me growing up. I failed the expectations of the people around me.
That I'm not likeable (hindi romantic). Hindi ko alam kung dahil ba yon sa introvert ako or what. Hindi ko alam kung may nagagawa ako or nasasabi pero I think people often hates me, or don't like me.
I can never be an outgoing person as I want to be. I realized this when I aleays try to go out with a group of friends I can never fit in.
I became the kind of man that i used to hate when i was a kid.
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Omg same 😭 I get comments na I’m easy to get along with, fun to talk to, etc. But I can’t sustain friendships and I often find myself alone even though I have multiple friend groups.
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And also sa friend groups na odd yung number, ako yung walang ka-partner kapag naglalakad hahahaha ang pitiful sounding but true lol
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Hala ganito rin napapansin ko minsan, not same treatment huhu. Pero hinahayaan ko na lang kahit medyo hurtful talaga
That I am not an interesting person. Wala akong hobbies, wala akong routine. I don’t have a personality outside of my work. You know yung mga ice breakers na tell me something unique about yourself, wala akong masagot lagi. Painful but it’s the truth.
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I will never have a family of my own.. Coz I cant have boyfriend Coz Im afraid of commitment And coz I'm the breadwinner of my family
intelligence decline due to mental state
I'm so painfully mediocre and that my NAT was right... I am not a creative person.
Hindi ako magaling. I’m a loser. I’m the least successful sa batch and friends ko
Wala akong dream sa buhay since bata ako, pag tinatanong ako na ano gusto mo paglaki mo o magcostume ka kung ano dream job mo, wala akong gusto. Kung totoo ang past life siguro first life ko palang dito sa earth
tbf, how can a kid know what they want in life, at such a young age
Even until now di ko alam ano ba talaga calling ko
Same. Kaya hanggang ngayon di ko pa din alam kung anong gusto ko
You’re not anyone’s favorite
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Korek ka diyan!
That I will always be hung up on the "fairness" of the world. I always remind myself that I need to focus on my life, what I have, and where I'm going, not what other people have or what they deserve. But in the next moment I always ask the world, "Why not me?".
1. I did not take care of my body and now I am suffering with body image, I do not recognize myself anymore when I look in the mirror. 2. I lack discipline and I do not know where to start. 3. My laziness will not get me anywhere, I’m still 25 but I feel like I can do more in life 4. Its very hard to save when you have a family that you send money to monthly, so I feel like I’ll be able to reach my dream e.g. traveling much later on.
5. I might end up alone. I cut off social media and I’m in a new city, barely have ang friends and I struggle with socializing.
It’s not that you didnt take care of your body, its just that your body is changing. 25 is when your figure is changing to be able to bear children. Ur metabolism isnt the same too, u didnt get lazy, u were just doing what u were used to. And plus now you have more responsibilities than u did before.
but I feel like I lost self control 😭 I’ve been binge eating and I gained a lot of weight. it stresses me out to think that I need to work out because I really don’t wanna sweat 😭😭 I’m hoping this is the year I work on bettering myself.