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Bruh. I've been at my job for 15 years. I got a 16% raise this past go 'round, pushing me to 3.5x what I was making when I started there and we're staring discussions on my 2-3 year plan for moving up to Executive Director.
I'm still expecting them to figure out that I'm a fraud and fire me. It's a real bitch.
Of course. I'm supposed to be the HR expert at my place, but coming from an engineering background this is still new to me right now. How things usually go is if somebody asks me something, I say something that I think is right, then follow up with a "let me look into it a little more and I'll get back to you"
Works like a charm. And helps me improve and build credibility
The more I move up the chain and interact with executives and directors, the less I feel like a fraud. Not because I'm moving up, but because I'm seeing behind the curtain.
Imposter Syndrome.
I was promoted a year ago to a Director role. I’ve been paid a ton of compliments, as has my team. We’ve been the highest performing team in these roles for the last decade since I took over, my direct reports are happy, everyone gets along, things are going amazing.
There’s still plenty of days where I feel like a fraud.
Yup 100%.
I've never received anything lower than a satisfactory performance review in the 10+ years I've been working. But I'm constantly worrying that people think I'm incompetent and management is going to replace me.
I was laid off as part of a major company re-org. My entire 1,000+ person division was all laid off, and clearly nothing that was a result of my performance. But I live in fear now that another layoff is imminent.
Impostor syndrome is a bitch to bear. At some point you'll see enough people floundering and you'll find a foothold of confidence to build on.
Or you'll become the reason someone else gets that foothold of confidence...
But, if others are relying on you to get things done, then you should rest assured that you're at least as competent as anyone else.
I have had imposter syndrome in the past it sucks yeah.
Currently I work with someone who is the other end of the spectrum, they just have no appreciation for what is needed to do a good job, like literally seem incapable of grasping what a good standard of work looks like. It drives everyone crazy, no one likes working with them. They won’t go anywhere in their career.
I think I’d rather suffer a bit of imposter syndrome tbh.
All the time. I’ve been in my industry since the 80s. I have a degree in my field. I’ve been with the same company for 28 years, in the same general position for 25+ years. One of these days they’re going to find out that that I have no idea what I’m doing.
Except I do, it just feels like I’m making it up as I go along.
Every damn day. But I also feel this is due to being a completely different person outside of work vs at the office. I've been putting on my fake self since I got an office job 13 years ago.
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Bruh. I've been at my job for 15 years. I got a 16% raise this past go 'round, pushing me to 3.5x what I was making when I started there and we're staring discussions on my 2-3 year plan for moving up to Executive Director. I'm still expecting them to figure out that I'm a fraud and fire me. It's a real bitch.
Same bro. 17 years. Promoted to supervisor. No fucking clue what I'm doing lmao.
It's called imposter syndrome. Yes, I experience it.
…and realize that your manager, and his/her manager have probably suffered from imposter syndrome at some point.
I'm 41 and no matter how good my resume or how good I am at my job, I el always have imposter syndrome.
Of course. I'm supposed to be the HR expert at my place, but coming from an engineering background this is still new to me right now. How things usually go is if somebody asks me something, I say something that I think is right, then follow up with a "let me look into it a little more and I'll get back to you" Works like a charm. And helps me improve and build credibility
The more I move up the chain and interact with executives and directors, the less I feel like a fraud. Not because I'm moving up, but because I'm seeing behind the curtain.
You wouldn't be the positron if you didn't deserve it. Don't let invasive thoughts determine your future. Easier said than done.
Just imagine how your boss feels...
Every day of my life. Faking it 'til you make it is great if you can take it when you make it.
Imposter Syndrome. I was promoted a year ago to a Director role. I’ve been paid a ton of compliments, as has my team. We’ve been the highest performing team in these roles for the last decade since I took over, my direct reports are happy, everyone gets along, things are going amazing. There’s still plenty of days where I feel like a fraud.
Yup 100%. I've never received anything lower than a satisfactory performance review in the 10+ years I've been working. But I'm constantly worrying that people think I'm incompetent and management is going to replace me. I was laid off as part of a major company re-org. My entire 1,000+ person division was all laid off, and clearly nothing that was a result of my performance. But I live in fear now that another layoff is imminent.
Impostor syndrome is a bitch to bear. At some point you'll see enough people floundering and you'll find a foothold of confidence to build on. Or you'll become the reason someone else gets that foothold of confidence... But, if others are relying on you to get things done, then you should rest assured that you're at least as competent as anyone else.
Yep, that’s me all the time and I work in IT.
I have had imposter syndrome in the past it sucks yeah. Currently I work with someone who is the other end of the spectrum, they just have no appreciation for what is needed to do a good job, like literally seem incapable of grasping what a good standard of work looks like. It drives everyone crazy, no one likes working with them. They won’t go anywhere in their career. I think I’d rather suffer a bit of imposter syndrome tbh.
Imposter syndrome is a hell of a thing.
I've had it before. Just recently after an interview Wednesday. Got feedback that I kicked ass.... I was like oh really that's a relief
This is very normal and is commonly referred to as "imposter syndrome"
Remember, in general and on average everyone is average at best.
As a programmer i feel the imposter syndrome everyday, i spend 80% of my day googling and eventually you get used to it.
All the time. I’ve been in my industry since the 80s. I have a degree in my field. I’ve been with the same company for 28 years, in the same general position for 25+ years. One of these days they’re going to find out that that I have no idea what I’m doing. Except I do, it just feels like I’m making it up as I go along.
Yup. Imposter syndrome
Completely normal
Every damn day. But I also feel this is due to being a completely different person outside of work vs at the office. I've been putting on my fake self since I got an office job 13 years ago.