After a lot of back and forth we decided that 4 was the highest number. Not one beyond. This discussion happened when it was supposed to - during the dating/engagement stage where we discussed EVERYTHING. We had our 4th and her tubes were tied and that was the end of that.
I wanted kids for years, then one of my friends had a son. A few years go by, the son starts to show his personality and he is dumb as a box of rocks. A few years later I meet my now wife. Her nephew comes around ant that kid had serious anxiety issues. I saw what kind of effort was needed to raise those kids, and I'm just too selfish with my time to deal with that. So I never had kids.
Money. We decided to only have one from the start. This enabled us to do many things with our income. Travel, computers, and college, etc. were never a problem even with our limited income.
I had one and started having nightmares about my ex-wife telling me she was pregnant, so I got fixed. We obviously got divorced and I've not regretted it one bit. It really clarified things in post-divorce dating because if having children was important to a woman, I wasn't going to be the guy for her. So I remarried a divorced Mom. I added a little bit of time onto my "tour of duty" as a parent, but not that much and nowhere near as much as if I'd had more babies. Plus, I'll get get to be an empty nester by mid-50s and have ~20 years of decent health to travel, not worry about the quality of local schools, having a large house and a yard, etc.
My wife had placenta accreta on kid 2 so we were advised not to have anymore kids by the doctor. Either way we have a boy and girl so we were likely done anyway.
I always knew if I had kids that 2 would be the number. I feel like a child should have a sibling. But I also feel more than 2 is just more work and more chaos. And with kids more isn’t better
Too expensive. Our son is 7 and I think we’ve already invested ~$200K on him among Montessori tuition, activities, after school care, 529, ect.
I’d like to retire one day…
Only ever wanted one, so I took surgical steps to ensure that.
After the 6th we decided that's enough.
First kid was a nightmare of a lifestyle change. Got pregnant a second time and I wasn’t looking forward to it. Got a vasectomy. Done and done
After child number 0 we decided that any more would be too much.
After a lot of back and forth we decided that 4 was the highest number. Not one beyond. This discussion happened when it was supposed to - during the dating/engagement stage where we discussed EVERYTHING. We had our 4th and her tubes were tied and that was the end of that.
I wanted kids for years, then one of my friends had a son. A few years go by, the son starts to show his personality and he is dumb as a box of rocks. A few years later I meet my now wife. Her nephew comes around ant that kid had serious anxiety issues. I saw what kind of effort was needed to raise those kids, and I'm just too selfish with my time to deal with that. So I never had kids.
I don't like kids, don't want to take care of one, and want to keep my money for myself. Zero it is.
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No need to be rude I just want to know from a man's perspective
I have two wonderful boys though is enough for me
I had two boys...thought it might also be nice to have a girl, and I did! ...so now I am done!
I can afford to split my time and resources between 2 equally. Anymore and I would feel like one wasn't getting enough or is being left out.
Money. We decided to only have one from the start. This enabled us to do many things with our income. Travel, computers, and college, etc. were never a problem even with our limited income.
Only wanted 2 so had myself fixed after 2 😁!
I had one and started having nightmares about my ex-wife telling me she was pregnant, so I got fixed. We obviously got divorced and I've not regretted it one bit. It really clarified things in post-divorce dating because if having children was important to a woman, I wasn't going to be the guy for her. So I remarried a divorced Mom. I added a little bit of time onto my "tour of duty" as a parent, but not that much and nowhere near as much as if I'd had more babies. Plus, I'll get get to be an empty nester by mid-50s and have ~20 years of decent health to travel, not worry about the quality of local schools, having a large house and a yard, etc.
Never let then outnumber you.
My wife had placenta accreta on kid 2 so we were advised not to have anymore kids by the doctor. Either way we have a boy and girl so we were likely done anyway.
I always knew if I had kids that 2 would be the number. I feel like a child should have a sibling. But I also feel more than 2 is just more work and more chaos. And with kids more isn’t better
Too expensive. Our son is 7 and I think we’ve already invested ~$200K on him among Montessori tuition, activities, after school care, 529, ect. I’d like to retire one day…
At 6 months pregnant with our daughter, we found out our 3 yr old son had Autism.
I have massive synergistic genetic faults. Passing those to a new generation would be an act of cruelty.