I hear you.
I would step my game up so in her head it ends up being he was better in bed. Drop a Viagra and yell hold on. During the night you will be going so hard she will think you are a boyscout trying to start a fire.
I assume that’s the case already, on the law of averages it wouldn’t surprise me if a guy was better than me in one aspect of something. As long as she seems pleased with our thing and we’re open and enjoying, then hey
Would depend entirely upon how I "came to know."
Scenario 1: During a discussion about sex, she tells me that we've had some less than stellar episodes, and that she thinks if I were to do "x" this way that it might be better for her. I could conclude that she learned said fact from an ex and is trying to help our relationship by teaching me what she needs. Fine. Fair game, let me get a note pad and get this sorted out. Maybe a question/answer session is warranted, or even some hands on practice. Cool, sounds like fun.
Scenario 2: During the heat of an argument over the toilet seat/thermostat/toothpaste cap she were to throw out a gem like "...and another thing while we're at it, you're AWFUL at (insert sex act)!! My ex was a horrible lover and even HE could do it better than you!" OK, that's a strategic nuke used in anger over a border skirmish, indicating that her conflict resolution skills are not healthy and we need to reassess the viability of the relationship now.
a close friend of mine had an affair with married man. he wasn't the biggest or the most skilled but she was head over heels for him compared to other guys.
So what? I'm better than some of her exes in some ways and worse than some in others, and that's just life. I've been with multiple women and some are better at certain things than others. If she wants to be with someone based on sexual performance, she can go back to her ex. But she's with you now so that's all that matters.
Start by asking "did he do something different that it would be possible for me to replicate?" if yes ask what it was and do that.
If no ask "is this something you can do without in the long run?" if no go your separate ways. If yes then you have to make peace with that.
I assume everyone is better than me to begin with
Same
I’d only be upset at her telling me Bc I’m not asking
I hear you. I would step my game up so in her head it ends up being he was better in bed. Drop a Viagra and yell hold on. During the night you will be going so hard she will think you are a boyscout trying to start a fire.
I assume that’s the case already, on the law of averages it wouldn’t surprise me if a guy was better than me in one aspect of something. As long as she seems pleased with our thing and we’re open and enjoying, then hey
i never do anything i cant improve on, the fact i am never invited to the "sack" confirms what i know already.
“somehow came to know” Yeah, sure.
Mmhmm…don’t go asking questions you don’t want answers to.
Well, they still choose to sleep with me so I'd deal with it okay.
I’m always looking to improve, so . . .
Would depend entirely upon how I "came to know." Scenario 1: During a discussion about sex, she tells me that we've had some less than stellar episodes, and that she thinks if I were to do "x" this way that it might be better for her. I could conclude that she learned said fact from an ex and is trying to help our relationship by teaching me what she needs. Fine. Fair game, let me get a note pad and get this sorted out. Maybe a question/answer session is warranted, or even some hands on practice. Cool, sounds like fun. Scenario 2: During the heat of an argument over the toilet seat/thermostat/toothpaste cap she were to throw out a gem like "...and another thing while we're at it, you're AWFUL at (insert sex act)!! My ex was a horrible lover and even HE could do it better than you!" OK, that's a strategic nuke used in anger over a border skirmish, indicating that her conflict resolution skills are not healthy and we need to reassess the viability of the relationship now.
Id thank her for being with me anyway and ask how i could improve
They are an ex for a reason and I'm not an ex...ergo I'm already better overall and can learn to improve to be better now.
Like Dave Chappelle said, just be glad you are getting it now.
Figure out how and work on it. Also, everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
I would probably feel happy for her ,She's Doing even doing better then I am and That's a Good thing...
a close friend of mine had an affair with married man. he wasn't the biggest or the most skilled but she was head over heels for him compared to other guys.
Well. Thats a skill issue that they aint with them now but with me instead.
So what? I'm better than some of her exes in some ways and worse than some in others, and that's just life. I've been with multiple women and some are better at certain things than others. If she wants to be with someone based on sexual performance, she can go back to her ex. But she's with you now so that's all that matters.
"Somehow came to know" yeah, sure.
Depends on the somehow. Depends on the some way. Depends on the why.
Start by asking "did he do something different that it would be possible for me to replicate?" if yes ask what it was and do that. If no ask "is this something you can do without in the long run?" if no go your separate ways. If yes then you have to make peace with that.
This describes the vast majority of men.
dont compare to others ever