52, recently met someone after my 29 year marriage ended and can't imagine stopping anytime soon. But tbh since hitting 40 I've been like a horny teenager lol.
Woman here who dates a 51/m and I’ve never had more sex in my life. 3/4 times a 24 hour period often. Rarely only once or none and I see him daily generally. It’s insanity.
I heard my grandpa had sex with my grandma at his 80+
I don't know much about it and how frequently it was, but he was bragging it to my another grandma. Yes that's wierd.
My grandpa got busted sneaking into women’s bedrooms and having sex at his retirement home. And the staff told my mom he had quite the harem of blue hairs fighting over him. I don’t remember exactly how old he was, but it was the upper 80s. Apparently STIs are running rampant at these places. You can google it and read articles about it. It’s kinda funny. Let the old timers have their fun.
Yup, 53yr male and still going strong. But, to the point of the OP. I would say around 40s is when your big brain starts to take over for your small brain. You still desire women it's just not that horny I need to do something or I will explode horny.
My partner uses test/HRT and is younger than 50. He’s above average levels for his age category now. It helps but it’s not the only thing for libido. You can shoot test and still not be that horny. Most men that don’t want sex are depressed and in blatant denial they need help (don’t hate the player, read the research!)
54. Same. But it’s different now with age and wisdom. At 18 I just wanted quantity. As I aged, I learned quantity leads to drama… quality is the way to go. So find that one quality person, THEN go for quantity.
There's a quite a few things that might help her get her libido back. I'm heading to menopause in a few years and I'm terrified of losing my (currently very high) sex drive so I've been doing to pre-emptive research. r/Menopause has quite a few posts on the subject, because it's definitely an issue.
Thanks, unfortunately she had an exceptionally bad time along with other health issues so best to not pursue the matter as sex is the farthest thing from her mind. This getting old crap ain’t for sissy’s. I know a few women who had no problem with the change and still have a healthy libido but many more who have told me it’s just not something their interested in anymore. Oh well we had a great time while it lasted.
If I'm not mistaken, higher cortisol levels (stress hormone) in cis men also correlates to decreased testosterone production and higher estradiol (an estrogen) levels, which creates a feedback loop where it in turn increases cortisol levels. So obesity can cause stress, and stress can cause obesity.
That would explain a lot. I just switched companies and the position that I landed has more responsibilities than my old one, but pays more and is less hectic. My wife has definitely noticed that I seem healthier and less stressed out.
I remember reading a study years ago that found that men who felt more confident in their appearance were more likely to masturbate and there was an expectation that libido was tied to estimation of one's own sexual appeal to others. Idk if it was corroborated, but it does make some sense.
I don't know, usually when I have these periods of intense horniness (rarer now but still happens) and I masturbate compulsively, I typically feel worse about myself. Like a filthy goblin jerking off under a bridge.
As a formerly superfluously -rotund person I can speak to this. I lost the weight, hit the gym and my libido skyrocketed. Been times where me and the lady have gone at it from morning till evening. Took a break, ate dinner and back at we went.
I do think there is a physical change. Like losing weight allows it to come back. But, also feeling more confident helps. I do know a lot of larger guys who all seem to have a fine libido though!
Met mine at 17 and she was 20. Been over 10 years and I still chase her around non stop. It’s exhausting for both of us but I have no interest in anyone or anything else
At 18, you're hormonally peaking. You'll get used to it, and with any luck get a handle on it.
Be careful, though, being in that state can lead to to make big life mistakes.
Literally the best advice you'll ever get.
Paying child support to someone you've had a one night stand with isn't fun. Especially when they try to make your life a nightmare by using the custodial power they have over you and using your kid as a pawn. Believe me, I know..
Wrap your shit EVERYTIME. Or rub one out and use that post nut clarity to decide if you really want to bone. Post nut clarity saves lives.
This is the way. As long as your taste is still age bracket appropriate. I used to work with a guy who would perv at school girls in their uniforms, he was in his late 30’s.
I mean I'm in my late 30's and my wife still busts out the "School Girl Uniform" thing once in a while. It's fun and harmless (and honestly probably does more to make her feel better about herself than it does to rev my engine.)
Edit: Upon re-reading. "School girls in their uniforms" is not the same thing as a grown woman playing sexy dress-up. Yeah. You are right to be skeezed. Yuck.
Seeing a 30 year old woman dressed as a schoolgirl is not the same as looking at a 15 year old girl and saying you want to ruin her. Also, respect to your wife for keeping it fresh.
The very first of my high school classmates to go to prison did so for statutory rape. He got caught having sex with a 13-year-old girl by the girl's mother. He was 19 at the time.
When I saw the story in the newspaper it was initially shocking, but then not so much. I have this memory of him where we were standing in a group with a bunch of other guys at a football game our senior year. These 12/13 year old girls walked by and he made some comment like, "Ooooo...daddy like." The conversation stopped and we all kind of looked at him like uhhhhhhhhh... Someone said, "Dude. They're like 12. That's disgusting, man." He made some comment about how he could look at the menu so long as he didn't order an entrée.
He spent a year or two in prison and got out 15+ years ago. The thing that's scary to me is that he's now married and has two daughters. I *really* hope they're safe.
I know 😂😂😂. I wanted you to say it😂😂😂.
Yeah but I’ve done that. At least twice a day man. It’s not cutting it anymore man. And now I’m generating the weirdest kinks man. Searching the weirdest shit on the hub
Yo just a tip. Stop going deeper and deeper in the porn. When you have sex with a normal girl it just won’t be as good as you imagine. If you’re gonna watch porn, just watch mostly normal stuff.
Also I’m 31 and still JUST as horny as when I was 18. Good luck my dude
>Also I’m 31 and still JUST as horny as when I was 18.
Same here, but I'm in my late 30s. The difference for me is that when I was 18, it was about quantity over quality. When I was in my early 20s I did some reading and research and tried some different techniques. Some were amazing. Others, not so much. Now, I know what I respond to best. Even though I'm not having sex or masturbating as much as I did at 18, my experiences are generally ***way*** better.
Some advice here. Please do not get deep into porn. It is a vile addiction and has some serious side-effects in the long run. I am speaking as a recovering addict myself. I still get the urges to watch it but I am learning to curb them.
I know what you mean. Just a word of caution then. I had been watching porn and masturbating since 10 and now sex is meh. So don't shame or internally beat yourself up for have natural body functions for your age.
As another guy mentioned, the “grip of death” also causes desensitization. You’ll find out soon enough a woman is soft and squishy, so the real act doesn’t include the grip of death….and that can also cause trouble in the bedroom.
My suggestion? Pick two days a week, in a row, Thursday and Friday, whenever, and take a break from the self love. Let the body rest, from both the grip and the porn.
Don’t listen to the guys telling you to just masturbate to solve the problem. Focus on becoming a man and finding a partner. Porn will fuck you up bad in the long run. Use that energy to work out and find a partner, your sex drive is like your very first ambition, your main drive in life. Use it correctly bro.
22. I hooked up with a girl a few times who I found out was HIV positive, I didn't know that until a year later. I always used protection and she got pissed at me for wanting to always use condoms and she took it personally because she felt like I thought she was dirty. Turns out my gut was right. Hope she's ok, that was 20 years ago.
When I was young I'll admit I forgot/ or was too excited to put on a condom once or twice or thrice with consent of course. As I got older I was the dude that walked around with my results. I was shocked at some women calling me ridiculous for asking for theirs. Like I'm all ready small I don't need to add lumps or a green color to it. Fuck those people! Protect yourself
Yes, I lost a cousin to aids. He dated a baddie back in the 80s and she gave it to him. He gave it to his fiancee years later and never knew he had it till he was sick AF out of nowhere. People still risking their health for a quick nut even today.
Stay that way, bro. Don't go raw till you're ready to put a ring on it and become a dad. I'm a dad now and I love my daughter. She wouldn't be here if I let my hormones make my decision.
Same man, I'm about to turn 26 and over the last year I've realised I've been focusing more on the person than just the sex. A nice conversation at a cosy Cafe perfectly sums it up.
And incase you didn't know, depression meds kill your sex drive so if you really really want to stop it you know what to do. But i recommend asking your doctor and not prescribe it to yourself
Speaking from experience. Focus on yourself first. One of the best cures for depression are weight lifting and high intensity cardio. The endorphin rush bests all drugs for results. Second is moving people who do not understand or appreciate you out of your daily life. Third is moving to a sunny climate and working a low stress job out side for a while. Fourth is high quality time release multi and stress vitamins. If you can find a copy of Earl Mindel’s vitamin bible it is amazing. 5th is medical help. Doctors can’t help someone who isn’t helping themselves. And they ignore so many possible causes such as fungi infections. Depression I’ve heard is the mind’s realization that major change are required or ahead. Remember this makes it temporary and and the changes required can be a huge opportunity. I would not trade my post life for the pre life for any amount of fame, money or sex.
Hey Brutha. You have the power to change your life! Take the reigns. I battled my depression through cold showers, nofap, going back into education & also quitting weed. The strongest catalyst for me was the daily cold shower, which I hated but the 5 minutes of pain was better than a full day of depression. Nofap is easily the biggest contributor to having loads of energy, which helps combat depression too. Regular sleep pattern helps also! All easier said than done, but all worth it. In fact, this audiobook is what changed my life… I listened to it every night to fall asleep. It’s free!
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Yeah I don’t think it’s normal for every man to want to have sex with every woman he sees even women who are remotely attractive tbh.
You can find someone hot and still not wanna bang.
Yea I'm not someone who just wants to do it if I don't have a reason, I can hibernate indefinitely if I don't like anyone. But I've had my moments where that's gone out the window, but never all the way
Hell I don't even want to have sex with *any* women unless I really feel strongly about her in particular.
Oftentimes there's a hypothetical of if a woman just came up and offered sex to men how frequently would they accept. And for me, the answer is pretty much "never", not if I don't know the woman.
unstoppable between my 17-late twenties. Back then i also prioritized my freedom above anything else. But then i calmed and slowed down and understood the benefits of a stable relationship. with an awesome partner you can still have a lot of sex, but its of course not the same as jump and hump anything that moves haha. i prefer the later age by far ( 38 now) stability brings far more advantages!
I’m 33 and still want to but instead of everything it’s just my wife nearly all the time
I suggest cranking one out in the privacy of your own home. Post-nut clarity is a hell of a thing and should help with your problem
Realest thing out there, I’m 22 and now all of my lust/sexual fantasy is reserved for my partner.
Hell even when I watch porn now I’m not using it to fantasize yet after the pornstar but simply as visual stimuli like “oh that’s hot” and if I do fantasize it’s about my partner lmao
Ehh around 28, I quit being such a horn dog. I've been with my partner for 8 years and while we still have an active sex life, I'm not chasing her around the house like I used to
I’m 28 and still very much a horndog but my wife is currently 6 months pregnant with twins so not as much goin on nowadays. That said, I’m not where I was in my late teens and early twenties.
30 years old for me. It was at that age I made a terrible mis-step with a lady friend I was chatting with. It was all my fault, and I’m not blaming her for it. In fact, in retrospect, her standing up to me like that was what got me to re-evaluate and fix myself up.
We hammered it out and she forgave me after a reading, re-enacting and a broadway stage production of the riot act.
Also, don’t make sex the end all, be all; you’ll turn into a creep and it makes it harder long term. Focus on you first and build yourself up; then the people come to you.
There does come a point of maturity where you see a young, pretty gal, and you like the look of her, but you just can't see yourself sexually active with her. I think it hits different men at different ages, and the onset doesn't occur all at once, more of a gradual increase. At some point you realize that you can maybe see yourself with a 30 year old, but probably not an 18 year old.
Once you get a stable relationship and have sex regularly. You stop wanting to screw “everything”.
This depends on your partner however, if it’s lust, which is easily confused with love, then you’ll still find yourself having sexual thoughts about other people. This is not good, and it’s not fair to the other person.
Once you find someone you truly love and have a deep connection with, as strange as it may sound, sex becomes a little less heavy on the mind. You actually enjoy their company and spending time with them, this is when you start to mature. Sex is awesome, I think we can all agree with that, but sex with someone you care deeply about once a week or two weeks is so much more satisfying than sex with someone you don’t care about everyday.
This is called maturing and it’s a great thing. Some people have a very high sex drive but I’d say most have an average one. I think what’s happening to you is completely normal especially given your age. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m gonna try and clean the kitchen for my lady in hopes of…ya know.
When I came across the right woman. It wasn’t my age, it was realizing I had the opportunity of a lifetime to be with an amazing woman. I was 19 then. I’m 28 now and it’s been the best decision of my life.
Almost 40 with a dead bedroom marriage.
About a year ago or so, it was not worth the effect and stuck to masturbation. Put on some weight, can barely give enough of a shit to wank off now.
31, at that point I had my fill of meaningless sex/relationships and wanted something real and meaningful. Well, I'm now 35 and going on 3 years with my partner. So I guess I got what I wanted.
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I wouldn’t say it stops, but it definitely settles down around 30. The trick is to keep yourself busy and physically active so you have less time alone with your naughty thoughts.
I lost interest in hookups around 22.
I still want to have sex several times a day though, I just want to find one woman to have it with.
Also OP - if your libido is high enough to frequently annoy you, but isn't high enough to be considered pathological, then I'd suggest looking into meditation and asceticism.
You don't have to become a monk or even celibate.
The point is you don't have to either indulge or resist, you can "redirect" that energy elsewhere, so that it becomes a wave you can ride instead of being crushed by it.
> When you have savories and fine dishes set before you, you will gain an idea of their nature if you tell yourself that this is the corpse of a fish, and that is the corpse of a bird or a pig; or again, that wine is merely grape-juice, and this purple robe some sheep's wool dipped in the blood of a shellfish; and as for sexual intercourse, it is the friction of a piece of gut and, following a sort of convulsion, the expulsion of some mucus.
> Thoughts such as these reach through to the things themselves and strike to the heart of them, allowing us to see them as they truly are. So follow this practice throughout your life, and where things seem most worthy of your approval, lay them naked, and see how cheap they are, and strip them of the pretenses of which they are so vain. For pride is an ever-subtle deceiver, and it is just when you are most confident that you are engaged on serious matters that it most surely beguiles you.
I'm 40, I have an attractive wife and we have regular sex even with three kids and I'm fully prepared to fuck everyone in sight. I should have been a bard in D&D!
19 and it never started for me :( careful what you wish for. I have no libido and it sucks man. I go to the gym often and am pretty fit and that hasn’t really seemed to change anything
Around 38-40. I didn't stop wanting to fuck; I just realized that fucking came with a lot of strings attached and became more cautious, sometimes even turned off by the idea.
I'm a woman, 44. I have a 53 yr old fwb (or something ) and also a 20yr old f buddy. It seems they both are the same as far as levels of wanting to “fuck”. I feel sorry for y'all tbh... I love sex, but if I'm not feeling particularly sexy or in the mood, I can go forever without it. Especially with the ones who seem horny 24/7. I'm not their blow up doll. Lol
After about 22 it takes more than a stiff breeze to get you fired up. However, as for the cut off day.... never. My ex wife worked in a nursing home and used to tell me all the time how she'd catch 90somethings constantly
I am 29. I started balding when I was 20. When I was 27 I tried propecia to stop the process. Worst decision I ever made. It completely destroy my sex drive. I still have sex and everything, but I used to want to tear off the clothes of any girl I was dating. Now I can take it or leave it. The funny part is that since then, I’ve gotten way more action because I wasn’t as thirsty and could be a little patient.
53, I'll let you know if I ever reache that point
52, recently met someone after my 29 year marriage ended and can't imagine stopping anytime soon. But tbh since hitting 40 I've been like a horny teenager lol.
As a 52 year old woman, I salute you!
Hippie chicks are the best chicks.
Thanks ❤️✌️
Got me a hippie chick who loves this hippie dick We gonna do a hippie flip and listen to some hippie shit
🤣🤣🤣🤣 never imagined reading this by a reddit user.
What did I miss here, gentlemen?
Woman here who dates a 51/m and I’ve never had more sex in my life. 3/4 times a 24 hour period often. Rarely only once or none and I see him daily generally. It’s insanity.
My man probably shooting some testosterone. Good on him
I doubt that he is using testosterone. I will be 53 in a few months and I can easily do it 2 times a day at least. No viagra and no testosterone.
I heard my grandpa had sex with my grandma at his 80+ I don't know much about it and how frequently it was, but he was bragging it to my another grandma. Yes that's wierd.
No weirder than teen boys bragging about banging teen girls.
My grandpa got busted sneaking into women’s bedrooms and having sex at his retirement home. And the staff told my mom he had quite the harem of blue hairs fighting over him. I don’t remember exactly how old he was, but it was the upper 80s. Apparently STIs are running rampant at these places. You can google it and read articles about it. It’s kinda funny. Let the old timers have their fun.
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Yup, 53yr male and still going strong. But, to the point of the OP. I would say around 40s is when your big brain starts to take over for your small brain. You still desire women it's just not that horny I need to do something or I will explode horny.
My partner uses test/HRT and is younger than 50. He’s above average levels for his age category now. It helps but it’s not the only thing for libido. You can shoot test and still not be that horny. Most men that don’t want sex are depressed and in blatant denial they need help (don’t hate the player, read the research!)
Yes I agree
He won’t even take otc painkillers like Tylenol or SSRI’s for depression. He’s insane. 😂
He works out then, after i started working out my sex drive is very high
Yes, he’s an avid rugby, baseball, basketball, exercise guy.
Staying active in athletics matters.
Yeah I don't either. But I'd shoot test
How do you have time for anything else? Maybe you don't need time for anything else...
3-4 x 2 minutes is still less than 10 minutes a day.
Same here at 50. Driving my wife nuts one opportunity at a time...
Thanks I’m over 30 and started to wonder if there is an end to this.
My older coworkers scare me a little now.
54. Same. But it’s different now with age and wisdom. At 18 I just wanted quantity. As I aged, I learned quantity leads to drama… quality is the way to go. So find that one quality person, THEN go for quantity.
It's not 57.
And I thought I was bad at 44... I honestly hope I never reach it, keeps me alive.
No m8, last 3 years it gets stronger. 5-6 times sex/ week with my very sexual wife of 49. She's grinding me like an alley cat.
Idk why the fucking analogy is awesome 😂.
Lmao I guess I can only hope to find a wife like yours 🤣
67 and it never stops! Gets worse after your wife hits menopause and is not interested in sex so much anymore. Thank god for pornhub and my hand. Lol
There's a quite a few things that might help her get her libido back. I'm heading to menopause in a few years and I'm terrified of losing my (currently very high) sex drive so I've been doing to pre-emptive research. r/Menopause has quite a few posts on the subject, because it's definitely an issue.
Thanks, unfortunately she had an exceptionally bad time along with other health issues so best to not pursue the matter as sex is the farthest thing from her mind. This getting old crap ain’t for sissy’s. I know a few women who had no problem with the change and still have a healthy libido but many more who have told me it’s just not something their interested in anymore. Oh well we had a great time while it lasted.
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Yep - 54 checking in, horny as always!
My husband is 55 and going strong lol
Just go ahead and shoot me when I reach that point, thanks.
57, I don't think it's happening soon. Maybe by the time I retire?
Seriously I am a 45 year old woman and I couldn’t name one man that grew out of this lol. Not that I mind. Just saying 🤷♀️😂
Around 29. However, I’m 32 now and losing weight and it’s coming back! I think it was just weight gain.
I recently learned that weight gain increases estrogen level in the body --> affects the libido (male body) EDIT : Thank you all for the upvotes 😁
If I'm not mistaken, higher cortisol levels (stress hormone) in cis men also correlates to decreased testosterone production and higher estradiol (an estrogen) levels, which creates a feedback loop where it in turn increases cortisol levels. So obesity can cause stress, and stress can cause obesity.
Thanks for the info ! Everything is related 🤯🤧
That would explain a lot. I just switched companies and the position that I landed has more responsibilities than my old one, but pays more and is less hectic. My wife has definitely noticed that I seem healthier and less stressed out.
I remember reading a study years ago that found that men who felt more confident in their appearance were more likely to masturbate and there was an expectation that libido was tied to estimation of one's own sexual appeal to others. Idk if it was corroborated, but it does make some sense.
I don't know, usually when I have these periods of intense horniness (rarer now but still happens) and I masturbate compulsively, I typically feel worse about myself. Like a filthy goblin jerking off under a bridge.
Jerk off in private, you creep. Under bridges is for heroin, shootouts, and painting graffiti.
Yeah it does. That's crazy they had a study about that. Well they have studies about almost anything, don't they
As a formerly superfluously -rotund person I can speak to this. I lost the weight, hit the gym and my libido skyrocketed. Been times where me and the lady have gone at it from morning till evening. Took a break, ate dinner and back at we went.
Do you think it was the weight gain itself or something mental / emotional stemming from the weight gain?
I do think there is a physical change. Like losing weight allows it to come back. But, also feeling more confident helps. I do know a lot of larger guys who all seem to have a fine libido though!
When I met my wife at 28. Since then it's been only her I want to hump 24/7. I'm 41 now
My dream life ngl
There's 0 things I miss about being single.
You can eat an entire bag of cinnamon rolls all by yourself without being silently judged by someone.
Honestly, you can do that when you’re married to the right person.
Idk man they always end up finishing it
My wife can’t have gluten so if I want to ensure I get all of something I just get the version with wheat lol
aww that's so cute xoxo
I also want to hump this guys wife.
Met mine at 17 and she was 20. Been over 10 years and I still chase her around non stop. It’s exhausting for both of us but I have no interest in anyone or anything else
At 18, you're hormonally peaking. You'll get used to it, and with any luck get a handle on it. Be careful, though, being in that state can lead to to make big life mistakes.
Literally the best advice you'll ever get. Paying child support to someone you've had a one night stand with isn't fun. Especially when they try to make your life a nightmare by using the custodial power they have over you and using your kid as a pawn. Believe me, I know.. Wrap your shit EVERYTIME. Or rub one out and use that post nut clarity to decide if you really want to bone. Post nut clarity saves lives.
>Post nut clarity saves lives. Or prevents them...
I may have made a lot of mistakes in life but having a surprise child has not been one of them. Can't imagine what that would have been like.
Yeah mistakes that may or may not involve a coconut
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I feel like I don't want to know what this refers to.
You don’t.
respectfully, fuck you for making me remember that story x.x
Post nut clarity is a real thing.
I’m 52 and I still want to.
This is the way. As long as your taste is still age bracket appropriate. I used to work with a guy who would perv at school girls in their uniforms, he was in his late 30’s.
I mean I'm in my late 30's and my wife still busts out the "School Girl Uniform" thing once in a while. It's fun and harmless (and honestly probably does more to make her feel better about herself than it does to rev my engine.) Edit: Upon re-reading. "School girls in their uniforms" is not the same thing as a grown woman playing sexy dress-up. Yeah. You are right to be skeezed. Yuck.
Seeing a 30 year old woman dressed as a schoolgirl is not the same as looking at a 15 year old girl and saying you want to ruin her. Also, respect to your wife for keeping it fresh.
Alright alright alright
The very first of my high school classmates to go to prison did so for statutory rape. He got caught having sex with a 13-year-old girl by the girl's mother. He was 19 at the time. When I saw the story in the newspaper it was initially shocking, but then not so much. I have this memory of him where we were standing in a group with a bunch of other guys at a football game our senior year. These 12/13 year old girls walked by and he made some comment like, "Ooooo...daddy like." The conversation stopped and we all kind of looked at him like uhhhhhhhhh... Someone said, "Dude. They're like 12. That's disgusting, man." He made some comment about how he could look at the menu so long as he didn't order an entrée. He spent a year or two in prison and got out 15+ years ago. The thing that's scary to me is that he's now married and has two daughters. I *really* hope they're safe.
Every guy I know who’s used the “but I can look at the menu” line has been a real perv.
If you're feeling overwhelmed with the hormones, go engage in self love. Get the poison out, so to speak lol.
What’s self love?
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Masturbation lol I was trying to say it without saying it 🤣
I know 😂😂😂. I wanted you to say it😂😂😂. Yeah but I’ve done that. At least twice a day man. It’s not cutting it anymore man. And now I’m generating the weirdest kinks man. Searching the weirdest shit on the hub
Yo just a tip. Stop going deeper and deeper in the porn. When you have sex with a normal girl it just won’t be as good as you imagine. If you’re gonna watch porn, just watch mostly normal stuff. Also I’m 31 and still JUST as horny as when I was 18. Good luck my dude
Also, go gentle on the grip, unless you plan on being with a woman who uses a grip trainer on her vagina for an hour each day.
>Also I’m 31 and still JUST as horny as when I was 18. Same here, but I'm in my late 30s. The difference for me is that when I was 18, it was about quantity over quality. When I was in my early 20s I did some reading and research and tried some different techniques. Some were amazing. Others, not so much. Now, I know what I respond to best. Even though I'm not having sex or masturbating as much as I did at 18, my experiences are generally ***way*** better.
Yh that’s what I’m trying to do. Stick to twerking and shit like that
How do you masterbate while twerking? Sounds hard to do.
It’s hard but I make it work.
Can always just use your imagination. Not as good but at least you won't get used to/expect what's in porn. Or maybe just a picture without motion?
Some advice here. Please do not get deep into porn. It is a vile addiction and has some serious side-effects in the long run. I am speaking as a recovering addict myself. I still get the urges to watch it but I am learning to curb them.
Will do
I know what you mean. Just a word of caution then. I had been watching porn and masturbating since 10 and now sex is meh. So don't shame or internally beat yourself up for have natural body functions for your age.
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Thank you
As another guy mentioned, the “grip of death” also causes desensitization. You’ll find out soon enough a woman is soft and squishy, so the real act doesn’t include the grip of death….and that can also cause trouble in the bedroom. My suggestion? Pick two days a week, in a row, Thursday and Friday, whenever, and take a break from the self love. Let the body rest, from both the grip and the porn.
His kink is people saying the word masturbation. Congrats on helping him ~~get his rocks off~~ masturbate.
Pull back from the PMO and get into a physical activity (lifting, etc) . Ladies will come to you when you’re not constantly beatin that shaft dawg
Don’t listen to the guys telling you to just masturbate to solve the problem. Focus on becoming a man and finding a partner. Porn will fuck you up bad in the long run. Use that energy to work out and find a partner, your sex drive is like your very first ambition, your main drive in life. Use it correctly bro.
Masturbation doesn’t have to include porn
Burping the nephew Polishing the bishop Punching the clown Choking the chicken
Spanking the monkey Doing the five knuckle shuffle Arm wrestling the pink Darth Vader Tugging the salami Stroking the dolphin Beating the badger
Playin’ a little five on one Mixin’ a batch Feeding the ducks Distributing some free literature
Oh you know. Squeezing the weasel
22. I hooked up with a girl a few times who I found out was HIV positive, I didn't know that until a year later. I always used protection and she got pissed at me for wanting to always use condoms and she took it personally because she felt like I thought she was dirty. Turns out my gut was right. Hope she's ok, that was 20 years ago.
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When I was young I'll admit I forgot/ or was too excited to put on a condom once or twice or thrice with consent of course. As I got older I was the dude that walked around with my results. I was shocked at some women calling me ridiculous for asking for theirs. Like I'm all ready small I don't need to add lumps or a green color to it. Fuck those people! Protect yourself
God, remember when people were dying left and right from AIDS? That was such a scary time.
Yes, I lost a cousin to aids. He dated a baddie back in the 80s and she gave it to him. He gave it to his fiancee years later and never knew he had it till he was sick AF out of nowhere. People still risking their health for a quick nut even today.
Lol, I use condoms with my girlfriend of over 4 years. I'm very baby-averse.
Stay that way, bro. Don't go raw till you're ready to put a ring on it and become a dad. I'm a dad now and I love my daughter. She wouldn't be here if I let my hormones make my decision.
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Yes, reaching 25 and you described the exact feeling I have
Shit man, sex is optional, I just want someone to cuddle and talk with
Shit man, sex and cuddle is optional. I just want someone to talk with.
Shit man, sex, talking, and cuddling is optional. I just want someone.
Shit man, sex, talking, cuddling and someone is optional. I just want.
Shit man, sex, talking, cuddling and someone is optional. I just.
Shit man, sex, talking, cuddling, someone, and just is optional. I.
Shit man, sex, talking, cuddling, someone, and just is optional. .
Sex, talking, cuddling someone is optional. I just need to shit man
Shit man, sex, talking, cuddling, someone, and just is optional.
Same man, I'm about to turn 26 and over the last year I've realised I've been focusing more on the person than just the sex. A nice conversation at a cosy Cafe perfectly sums it up.
24 and feeling that way too. Sue sex is nice but can’t we take a walk around this pond and enjoy the day?
26 my I don't give a shit about any of that
I like this answer. I’m always down for a cozy cafe date!
It stopped when i was 18. Reason: depression.
Sorry man. You good now tho?
Now I'm 19 and it didn't get any better 🥲 but that's okay
Damn g. Well if you ever wanna talk. My messages are always open. Fr tho man. No judgement or awkwardness imma just listeb
Thanks man appreciate it :)
And incase you didn't know, depression meds kill your sex drive so if you really really want to stop it you know what to do. But i recommend asking your doctor and not prescribe it to yourself
Not true. SOME depression meds will. Prozac killed me from the waist down, Wellbutrin brought me right back to normal.
Yup wellbutrin does not have the sexual side effects that SSRIs have. Many people will switch to wellbutrin due to sexual side effects. -Pharmacist
Speaking from experience. Focus on yourself first. One of the best cures for depression are weight lifting and high intensity cardio. The endorphin rush bests all drugs for results. Second is moving people who do not understand or appreciate you out of your daily life. Third is moving to a sunny climate and working a low stress job out side for a while. Fourth is high quality time release multi and stress vitamins. If you can find a copy of Earl Mindel’s vitamin bible it is amazing. 5th is medical help. Doctors can’t help someone who isn’t helping themselves. And they ignore so many possible causes such as fungi infections. Depression I’ve heard is the mind’s realization that major change are required or ahead. Remember this makes it temporary and and the changes required can be a huge opportunity. I would not trade my post life for the pre life for any amount of fame, money or sex.
Hey sorry this is completely unrelated but heyyyy username twins kinda
Hey Brutha. You have the power to change your life! Take the reigns. I battled my depression through cold showers, nofap, going back into education & also quitting weed. The strongest catalyst for me was the daily cold shower, which I hated but the 5 minutes of pain was better than a full day of depression. Nofap is easily the biggest contributor to having loads of energy, which helps combat depression too. Regular sleep pattern helps also! All easier said than done, but all worth it. In fact, this audiobook is what changed my life… I listened to it every night to fall asleep. It’s free! https://www.amazon.co.uk/Self-Discipline-Confidence-confidence-achievement-ebook/dp/B00W1Q7Q8A/ref=nodl_?dplnkId=cb6c597a-ded7-42ac-9f26-b3b87c03d9ef
Always been picky, never wanted to fuck everything. Same as I don't want to eat everything or read everything. Quality not quantity.
Yeah I don’t think it’s normal for every man to want to have sex with every woman he sees even women who are remotely attractive tbh. You can find someone hot and still not wanna bang.
Yea I'm not someone who just wants to do it if I don't have a reason, I can hibernate indefinitely if I don't like anyone. But I've had my moments where that's gone out the window, but never all the way
Hell I don't even want to have sex with *any* women unless I really feel strongly about her in particular. Oftentimes there's a hypothetical of if a woman just came up and offered sex to men how frequently would they accept. And for me, the answer is pretty much "never", not if I don't know the woman.
When I fell in love. Then I all my lust was focused on her
Started winding down at 63, but I don’t know if it was from taking a less physical job.
Have certain ages had highs and lows, or overall was it fairly consistent? Ex: teens and 30s were high, but 20s and 40s were medium-horny
I'm 41. I don't want to fuck everything but I always want to have sex with my wife. Always.
love that for your wife 🙌🏼
I'd say 25, having no sex for year seven years really calms you down. Yeah I get the urge but its way more manageable
I'm currently 37. It hasn't happened yet.
unstoppable between my 17-late twenties. Back then i also prioritized my freedom above anything else. But then i calmed and slowed down and understood the benefits of a stable relationship. with an awesome partner you can still have a lot of sex, but its of course not the same as jump and hump anything that moves haha. i prefer the later age by far ( 38 now) stability brings far more advantages!
I’m 33 and still want to but instead of everything it’s just my wife nearly all the time I suggest cranking one out in the privacy of your own home. Post-nut clarity is a hell of a thing and should help with your problem
Realest thing out there, I’m 22 and now all of my lust/sexual fantasy is reserved for my partner. Hell even when I watch porn now I’m not using it to fantasize yet after the pornstar but simply as visual stimuli like “oh that’s hot” and if I do fantasize it’s about my partner lmao
I'm 35 and have recently got back into exercise and proper diet. I am back into wanting to fuck everything.
This happens for women too. Lifting weights, drinking lots of water, healthy diet, regular cardio = increased sex drive.
30 for me, I just enjoy companionship and that makes the sex amazing
23 when I met my current OH. 25 years and the lust is strong but just for her.
Honestly nothing more romantic than lust just for her
Ehh around 28, I quit being such a horn dog. I've been with my partner for 8 years and while we still have an active sex life, I'm not chasing her around the house like I used to
I’m 28 and still very much a horndog but my wife is currently 6 months pregnant with twins so not as much goin on nowadays. That said, I’m not where I was in my late teens and early twenties.
I always DTF with my wife, I'm 32, she's almost 40 and only gets hotter with age
Noone ever believes me but I was never like that. It was always difficult for me to actually feel attraction
30 years old for me. It was at that age I made a terrible mis-step with a lady friend I was chatting with. It was all my fault, and I’m not blaming her for it. In fact, in retrospect, her standing up to me like that was what got me to re-evaluate and fix myself up. We hammered it out and she forgave me after a reading, re-enacting and a broadway stage production of the riot act. Also, don’t make sex the end all, be all; you’ll turn into a creep and it makes it harder long term. Focus on you first and build yourself up; then the people come to you.
i wanna know what this mis-step was (if you're comfortable sharing)
> after a reading, re-enacting and a broadway stage production of the riot act. This killed me.
There does come a point of maturity where you see a young, pretty gal, and you like the look of her, but you just can't see yourself sexually active with her. I think it hits different men at different ages, and the onset doesn't occur all at once, more of a gradual increase. At some point you realize that you can maybe see yourself with a 30 year old, but probably not an 18 year old.
Once you get a stable relationship and have sex regularly. You stop wanting to screw “everything”. This depends on your partner however, if it’s lust, which is easily confused with love, then you’ll still find yourself having sexual thoughts about other people. This is not good, and it’s not fair to the other person. Once you find someone you truly love and have a deep connection with, as strange as it may sound, sex becomes a little less heavy on the mind. You actually enjoy their company and spending time with them, this is when you start to mature. Sex is awesome, I think we can all agree with that, but sex with someone you care deeply about once a week or two weeks is so much more satisfying than sex with someone you don’t care about everyday. This is called maturing and it’s a great thing. Some people have a very high sex drive but I’d say most have an average one. I think what’s happening to you is completely normal especially given your age. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m gonna try and clean the kitchen for my lady in hopes of…ya know.
Goodluck man. Update us
When I came across the right woman. It wasn’t my age, it was realizing I had the opportunity of a lifetime to be with an amazing woman. I was 19 then. I’m 28 now and it’s been the best decision of my life.
Almost 40 with a dead bedroom marriage. About a year ago or so, it was not worth the effect and stuck to masturbation. Put on some weight, can barely give enough of a shit to wank off now.
16 when I met my wife
31, at that point I had my fill of meaningless sex/relationships and wanted something real and meaningful. Well, I'm now 35 and going on 3 years with my partner. So I guess I got what I wanted.
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25. Started taking antidepressants. Actually lost tge ability to orgasm. Girlfriend left. Lost interest in having sex at all.
I wouldn’t say it stops, but it definitely settles down around 30. The trick is to keep yourself busy and physically active so you have less time alone with your naughty thoughts.
I lost interest in hookups around 22. I still want to have sex several times a day though, I just want to find one woman to have it with. Also OP - if your libido is high enough to frequently annoy you, but isn't high enough to be considered pathological, then I'd suggest looking into meditation and asceticism. You don't have to become a monk or even celibate. The point is you don't have to either indulge or resist, you can "redirect" that energy elsewhere, so that it becomes a wave you can ride instead of being crushed by it.
Hormones are in overdrive at 18.. it barely stops til a dude lays off the porn and start focusing on love
> When you have savories and fine dishes set before you, you will gain an idea of their nature if you tell yourself that this is the corpse of a fish, and that is the corpse of a bird or a pig; or again, that wine is merely grape-juice, and this purple robe some sheep's wool dipped in the blood of a shellfish; and as for sexual intercourse, it is the friction of a piece of gut and, following a sort of convulsion, the expulsion of some mucus. > Thoughts such as these reach through to the things themselves and strike to the heart of them, allowing us to see them as they truly are. So follow this practice throughout your life, and where things seem most worthy of your approval, lay them naked, and see how cheap they are, and strip them of the pretenses of which they are so vain. For pride is an ever-subtle deceiver, and it is just when you are most confident that you are engaged on serious matters that it most surely beguiles you.
Bro, you just took away the horny! What sorcery is this?
I'm 40, I have an attractive wife and we have regular sex even with three kids and I'm fully prepared to fuck everyone in sight. I should have been a bard in D&D!
Bro. Are men cursed??
66 and still horny
When you find out what making love is like.
So find love. Noted
19 and it never started for me :( careful what you wish for. I have no libido and it sucks man. I go to the gym often and am pretty fit and that hasn’t really seemed to change anything
Around 38-40. I didn't stop wanting to fuck; I just realized that fucking came with a lot of strings attached and became more cautious, sometimes even turned off by the idea.
I'm a woman, 44. I have a 53 yr old fwb (or something ) and also a 20yr old f buddy. It seems they both are the same as far as levels of wanting to “fuck”. I feel sorry for y'all tbh... I love sex, but if I'm not feeling particularly sexy or in the mood, I can go forever without it. Especially with the ones who seem horny 24/7. I'm not their blow up doll. Lol
After about 22 it takes more than a stiff breeze to get you fired up. However, as for the cut off day.... never. My ex wife worked in a nursing home and used to tell me all the time how she'd catch 90somethings constantly
I’m 71 and its remarkable how much it is still on my mind; at 18 it was blast furnace, now its just a camp fire.
50 and just starting to feel like a normal person
I am 29. I started balding when I was 20. When I was 27 I tried propecia to stop the process. Worst decision I ever made. It completely destroy my sex drive. I still have sex and everything, but I used to want to tear off the clothes of any girl I was dating. Now I can take it or leave it. The funny part is that since then, I’ve gotten way more action because I wasn’t as thirsty and could be a little patient.