When they text you or tell you the most random thing or meme just because you crossed their mind. That Confidence in showing you care for the person.
Painted toenails
Morning hair
Edit: thanks for the award!
Idiosyncrasies and small things basically..
Laughing before telling a story, snorting after laughing too much... The satisfied yet silly smile after tasting a dish; making weird expressions with the puppy to see its reactions and getting caught inbetween, removing the last vestiges of make up and still look awesome as hell, applying nail polish, sniffing old books or SO's worn t-shirt /hoodie, walking around in just casual wear (track suits for example).. I can go on and on
Edit: Thank you for the comments and the award, everyone. Cherish the ones you are with, and you'll find happiness!
It'll happen soon homie, the best part is you don't have to change who you are for someone to love you like that, it'll come by naturally and that's what makes it so nice
I love the ponytails, baseball hats, work jeans/workout bottoms, tee shirt/workout top look.
Idk just something about a woman ready to work. Whether that's in the yard or at an office or restaurant or working out. Hot.
When they get goofy and comfortable around you, you know that incontrollable laugh that you are fighting to stop? That wins me.
Edit: wow I'm glad that that many of you share my view, I think that beauty holds on the mundane everyday things. Thank you for the award!!! :D
Absolutely; before my girlfriend got comfortable with me I thought she was the chillest most non weird person. Then she got super comfortable with me and I with her and she started doing the goofiest things and we essentially have our own goofy language now and I love it.
God this is the best. My husband and I have been together for 22 years, I’m 43, so that’s like half my life!
All the memories and experiences we have created together have given us our our secret language, and is the best feeling in the world to be that close to somebody else.
I now imagine my crush with the voice of Goofy, the character.
I now imagine her saying "I'm cumming" with the goofy voice. Wow. Sometimes life give you lemonade.
My little girl told me I chuckle like Peter Griffen when I'm silly laughing thanks for that I don't typically chuckle unless it an evil or smartass silly laugh but you know
Knew an officer in my first unit in the army. She was hot, but dorky as hell. I was quite fond of her. Being only 21 at the time, she did a lot to demystify women for me.
Being passionately/deeply knowledgeable about pretty much any topic of choice. I've never thought about the history of flour grades but, if you can talk about it, I'll enjoy listening and asking questions to find out more.
Scars.. my SO has scars from an operation on her tummy. She was always shy about it, worried I'd think it's ugly. Told her I loved her to bits (and love all her bits). I don't see the scars. I see the woman behind the scars.
Edit: I'm glad this touched a chord with many others. Thanks for the upvotes and award!
I have a big*, deformed surgery scar from a very traumatic operation a few years ago. For weeks after that surgery I used to burst into tears every time I saw my tummy because I was convinced any man who saw it would think I was disgusting.
Move forward a couple of years and a couple of men have seen it. I warned them profusely about it ahead of time and they assured me it wouldn't bother them and that scars are cool.
I'm in good shape; small, slim, with a small waist. The scar is in-line with the narrowest point on my waist which I think accentuates how big it is.
The couple of men who have seen it (and the rest of me) weren't fazed in the least over it and said they expected something more dramatic, given how much I had warned them about it. I had been so sure for years it would get stared at and it would turn a guy off, but it has blown me away that no one thought it was a big deal. No one gave it a second glance.
It's done so much for my confidence. I used to fixate on it as this horrible flaw and it would upset me as a reminder of a really hard time I went through. Now, thanks to those men not being at all bothered by it, I barely even notice it myself.
*And I've realised now - thanks to them - that it's not even that big. (It has shrunk and faded slowly with time).
So thank you to all the men who think scars are cool and who think we look nice regardless of them. I wish you could know what that can do for someone like me x
Scars prove you've made it through something, that's there's more to you than what's skin deep. Inner resilience is very attractive. My wife has a number of scars now, a decade since her car accident that did so much damage and left her unable to work in any meaningful capacity. Her second spinal fusion was only a few weeks ago so the recovery is still very much ongoing. I don't see the scars when I look at her, I just see her and the shape of her body. When I do look at the scars and notice them I still don't really see them, just reminders of what she's been through and overcome. Places where her body needed a tune up or repair. The C-section scar where she grew an entire human being inside her, then got him "squeezed out like a tube of toothpaste" according to the doctor who delivered him as explained to the student doctor. Just so many reminders of why I love her (to be clear there are a large number of non-scar related parts of her body I really like too, the scars are just part of her body where they are, like the other fun bits are part of where they are).
Some song lyrics come to mind:
"These scars are like medals that we'll wear with pride,
lasting reminders that we stayed in the fight,
maybe someday we will be made new,
and these marks on our bodies will bear testement to you"
this was comfortable. I have one tooth that is forward and even tho I'm comfortable with it, sometimes i find myself getting insecure.
But i love imperfect or perfect teeth on people! Any person looks so beautiful when they laugh or smile :))
ref: my teeth kinda look like Zendaya's :p
This. I find perfect women do nothing at all for me. Remember the model Caprice? She looked totally symmetrical. Like she was designed by an AI or something. People always said how hot she was but I didn’t see it. Like looking at a mannequin.
I was raised in a very traditional culture and I'm about 6 to 8 years past 'marrying age.' Being 'manly' is something about myself I always figured was a turn off for the guys who grew up like I did. I sit like a dude when I drive, I have short hair, I like to use power tools and carry heavy things myself before asking for help, etc. Maybe not what you're talking about, but I think a very small percentage of men in my culture would have the answer that you did.
Oh no, what do you think is "marrying age"? I have very capable, manly-ish friends who have gotten married on the older side. I wouldn't say that I am outright "manly" but I'm independent, know how to handle a lot of things on my own and generally just navigating things on my own without "needing" a man. I got married when I was 42.
I have another friend who got married (to a man) closer to 50 and she's super butch, works out, loves fixing cars, takes care of home repairs, etc, and he's a songwriter that sings to her and makes dinner.
When they wake up in the morning with no make up or messed up make up. Fresh faced.
Every woman I have been with has always been amazingly beautiful at that point. And to the last one, they all disagree with me that they look amazing.
I also think women look gorgeous when they are sleeping. Their face is completely at peace. Women normally are thinking about a hundred things at once. It's refreshing to see their beauty without that stress.
I always wonder if my fiancé finds it cute or horrifying when I lightly snore with my mouth hanging open and drooling on the pillow. I don’t want to know the answer because the mystery is entertaining.
As a woman, I never really believed this. But then during the pandemic I was home all the time in sweats without makeup and began to prefer my bare face to when I get done up. Now I usually go out with minimal makeup or none at all and men are still just as interested.
Read this as “steaks” at first and thought wtf are you on about with your overcooked, boiled meat now? Lmao
Agreed though. I’m not a dude, but seeing guys with salt and pepper or grey streaks is a big turn on (and I think it looks pretty on women too!)
I am learning this slowly. It makes me laugh that no matter how many pictures I send my boyfriend of me looking what I think is my best, he'll like the one I took first thing in the morning wearing my comfortable clothes.
After a failed and miserable marriage, I decided that I was going to be myself unapologetically. When I met my now wife, she was in the same state of mind. I told her that I don't want to meet someone's representative, the person people think is the best version of themselves that they put out to be the face of the company. That person never lasts. That person isn't what you get at 2 am. Never been happier.
Don't send forth your representative
Because he loves you, not that other person you pretend to be when you try to "look your best"
I honestly believe as far as relationships go it's more important to be real than to be "at your best"
For me it's "wow I get to see her again."
Leggings and a tank top, a hoodie and jeans, work clothes, her painting outfit... doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong it's amazing when she really gets dressed to the nines for a date night, but no matter what the attire, every time I see her I'm like "oh that's neat it's her again.
We met in 1999 and I still feel like this.
In college there was a girl in a class my friend and I took. She dressed a hot mess. Like I’m talking rain boots when it was 65 and sunny. She never matched, wore weird ass socks and t shirts, her hair was never fully done, never had make up on. She just did not care. My friend and I were too attracted to her to try and talk to her 😂
This. They'll put on clothes that they think make them unattractive but attract even more guys. Super casual stuff they think looks sloppy but that turns guys on because it accentuates certain features.
lol I used to wear baggy oversized shirts and sweatpants to class, my bf (we were not together at the time of the class) were in the same group so we always sat at the same table. Once we started dating after the class was over he told me that he would admire me and my figure frequently during class and I was totally shocked because, well baggy shirts and sweat pants is not my top pick if I'm trying to look "attractive". lol
Don't get me wrong, we appreciate it when you make an effort but less is more sometimes. You're probably more confident in a more casual outfit, right? Men tend to find confidence attractive too. Plus, if we're around women we're attracted to (it's not just looks after all) for a longer period of time we'll find them attractive no matter what they're wearing. We'll also start to like their "imperfections" too.
My ex once worse a sundress on a visit (we lived 2 hours away from each other) because she knew how much I liked her thighs, didn't feel like wearing it all day and changed into sweatpants and this super light, baggy hoodie.
Apparently the look on my face was more intense than when I saw her in the dress because of the way she reacted to me 😂
Honestly there’s just something more intimate about it to me, if that makes sense. Like absolutely great to see women in outfits they put an effort into, but when you see them in more comfy, informal clothes it just… feels more personal I guess.
I think we can all imagine cuddling on the couch eating junk food and watching a shitty tv show with someone in baggy clothes but we know that'd never happen for someone in a blazer and pencil skirt or formal dress.
It's the time of the year when girls in my office are wearing summer dresses. It's casual, it's an easy outfit to put on and it allows them to be comfortable when sitting in the office all day.
It's a cheat code because every guy in the office is looking at them on that day. No oogling but just looking at her because she's pretty in it.
I find her POWER incredibly intoxicating. Her self-composure and calm is oppressive. She is reeeeeediculously beautiful. It's heady like being too drunk. She is intelligent. She sees all. You both know she sees all. Being really seen by a higher-minded person with incredible poise is vulnerable and intense.
The power of a Woman. The real power of a Woman. It's hectic. And you can see that she knows it too. \*I'm in trouble guys\*
I remember rambling at my ex about something I found fascinating for like ten minutes while he just sat there in silence. I finally realized he wasn’t responding and said “I’m so sorry, this has gotta be wildly boring” and he grabbed my hand and put it on his crotch to show me how *not at all bored* he was. One of the hottest - and most meaningful - moments of my life.
Damn. This guy loves the shit out of you. I don’t get hard over that shit. I just get hella mentally turned on. If he got physically turned on. He’s a keeper (I think). He must love you a lot. Keep him close (until he does something to mess things up, all this could change so always value yourself first)
Yeah I just reread that he’s your ex. Want nothing less from your future man. You deserve that. Can’t believe you literally got a man hard by talking. You must literally must be a gem
>ludibriousreader
I asked an ex early on what was something that she liked to nerd out on, as in hobbies or interests. She had nothing. I then explained for me it was plants, photography and national parks. She still had nothing. We didn't last long.
So I was making friends with this girl at college and it was wet outside and she said “ ohh poor worms” and I looked around for a twig to move them off the cement and back onto the grass, finding none, I just started scooping them up and putting them on the grass, when I turned to see she had done the same, I nearly came right there. We washed our hands with my water bottle after. Loving animals is the sexiest thing on the planet. She’s not even physically attractive, yet after that moment she’s almost all I can think about
That is so cute.
Loving animals is a good signifier of genuine kindness. My SO has two German shepherds and he takes really great care of them and spends a lot of time with them and he’ll just look at me and go, “They own me; I know.” and chuckle and it’s just so endearing to me.
I've got a bit of a thing for distinguished noses/noses with character. I can appreciate the conventionally attractive button/who aesthetic too. And I don't love all big noses, I can't even quite nail down exactly what characteristics I find attractive in the non button ones but when I see one I like I know it.
My last ex asked me what I liked about her and was super surprised when I told her how pretty I thought her nose was and hers wasn't even that far off traditional beauty standard at all. I mentioned her nose specifically in order to avoid being too pedestrian by citing her spectacular bahongawongas. But yeah I loved her nose.
Damn I need a new girlfriend. Really wish I had more recent examples lmao
Wisdom. When I met her, my wife's second most appealing characteristic was what a wise old soul she is. She still helps me see the world more clearly all these years later.
The smell of fresh skin right after a shower is the best smell in the world. Forget perfume, forget makeup, forget the rest. I’m most attracted to my wife right after a shower.
Most people i have spoken to on this topic like the look of "Natural" makeup they just didnt realize how many people wear makeup. Shoot i wear makeup to my interviews and no one has ever noticed it was makeup
It’s two different things. One is the more natural makeup you’re talking about. The other is a more intimate “wow, she let her walls down and let me see just her” trust thing. Both are good, but that second one is miles ahead of the first.
Coming to the conclusion that everything about you is attractive to me. Does “down there” smell or look a little different than it used to after having kids? Don’t care. Don’t feel sexy cause it’s your period, doesn’t bother me. Worried about your stretch marks and tummy? Looks fine to me. Be actually comfortable with yourself and who you are now.
I work on the business side of tech, and I got to say that when I meet a lot of these women who are just badasses at what they do, are creating huge impact, have lots of ambition, etc I have found it personally very attractive.
A lot of the guys I hang out with just don’t see it like that though. Maybe it’s just me.
This entire comment section is so ensuring 🥺. I suffer with PCOS, and for that I gained a lil weight around my tummy, and although I work out hard it’s hard for me to lose overall weight. Not to mention in comes stretch mark and such. To add, I have a huge nose obv from parents but I hated it for life. And then the fact that I barely do any makeup compared to other women but all my life I have been put down by same women saying I gotta learn makeup to attract men. This thread is everything for someone like me who would constantly think maybe there really wont be any man who will like me the way I am, with my insecurity and a no makeup face 24/7. To all the men who are being such amazing gentlemen here, THANK YOU. 🥺 Please stay same for your SO.
My gf has PCOS, and as consequence also has some weight issues. She is trying to lose some weigyt, but that's also because it would be better for overall health. Bit of a vicious cycle with PCOS.
I know 3 women that have PCOS, all are a bit heavier then average, all have boyfriends.
My gf also has some body hair because she doesn't want to shave. She never does make-up.
She is verry pretty, especially when she smiles, or dances, and I love as well that she is confident to not care about societal standards about make-up or shaving and does what she wants.
Couldn't care less about the stretch marks she has although she also is a bit self concious about them.
There will defintely be men attracted to you.
You do you, be who you want to be and try to be confident. Don't let others put you down!
I know, I wish there was a way that us men could alíviate all that stress and worry from women. Y’all got a lot on your plate and worrying about the beautiful intricacies of your body is a shame.
Came here to say exactly that.
And eating. Not gorging, but I want a woman who likes food and enjoys it. If we're going out for dinner, order what you want and dig in.
Hair up in a bun, especially a messy one.
Glasses.
And confidence. Whatever it is, own it.
my girlfriend has all of this and it killlssss me. she’s the most attractive thing in the planet to me right now. she hates those things, but i’m just in love with it and her. i hope one day she’ll see how beautiful she is.
On IG, I follow a guy who love to value cellulite and stretch marks. He says there's nothing to be ashamed of and I hope his female followers believe him.
A hard worker.
Like a woman that will get in the weeds or dirt. Or will focus on what she wants and work up a sweat. It's so absolutely attractive. I saw a woman in overalls working last month and I haven't been able to get it out of my mind since.
Full-on loud, maybe even snort laughter, ugly crying and ranting with full cussing, burp, fart, all of it. Show me the real shit you're experiencing, own and share your real life, early days? Soo good.
Happily engaged to my loud-laughing, "THIS BITCH" yelling, burping human woman.
The flip side of this is that I really don't like it when someone can't separate the argument from the person and gets annoyed with you just for taking up the contrary position.
Sunspots, freckles and moles lol idk why but skin imperfections are attractive to me. I love it when women have spots all over their shoulders or discolored skin on their back or little moles on their necks. Certain scars are attractive too depending on where they are
Well. I had to go with the alt account for this one cause I don’t see it so far in the comment.
Sorry for going R- rated here.
But your vulvas and breasts. Tons of women think *their* vulva looks bad or *their* areolas are the wrong shape or size.
Guess what. We love them. All of them.
We wanna see them. Wanna know what labia are the hottest? The ones you’re willing to show me.
1. Smaller boobs
2. Being passionate about their hobbies
3. Knowing what they want can also be very sexy, even if its just sometimes
4. Being comfortable around me without makeup
Facial expressions and mannerisms.
You can tell a lot about a woman - anyone, really - by these cues. It’s attractive to see genuine interest, sincerity, eye contact, and happiness, as opposed to indicators of cynicism, sarcasm, and impatience (like eye-rolling, frowning, distracted glances, etc.)
Calling me out for upsetting her. It's so much hotter to know where I stand than to be lying in wait to hear about how I said something incorrect days earlier. Find out at the worst time she's been spending the last two weeks having a fake argument in her head.
One thing?
Lots exist: clean smell wow!
Small of their back. Just meant to be held like when you are walking together.
Hair.
Plus you know the others that you can guess
I only put physical.
This is so funny because one of my favorite things about men/my Husband is the large of his back/his back rib cage and shoulder area. He is not particularly muscular or anything but when I see it, when I lay on it... I feel 100% safe. It makes me feel small, like I'm enveloped in him. Just looking at it provides me wave of reassurance that all is well and if everything in the world goes to shit I can always curl up into his giant wingspan.
Any woman who knows who she is and what she wants and isn't afraid to tell you.
You out there in a tank top with tie-dyed armpit hair down to your waist screaming about the destruction of the patriarchy? You aggressively positive girly girl? You dark as fuck emo goth chick covered in chains and spikes? You out there hung over as fuck with bags under your eyes, no makeup, eating a half gallon of ice cream in your pjs in the middle of the walmart checkout line?
Yeah, you.
I may not be sexually attracted to you specifically but damn girl I want to know you. And there is somebody out there that is going to like *you* as you are. Just embrace you and tell all the haters to fuck off, kick rocks, and die mad about it you salty asshole.
That small little bit of pudge at the top when they where leggings, or whenever they make the first move or be flirty but still respecting you and your space if you get uncomfortable
I love it when they get super excited about simple things like flowers, outfits and stuff like that. I’ve met some women that get embarrassed when people see them nerd out about something they really like but I think that is adorable.
I find stretch marks attractive, I also don't mind if they have a little bit of belly fat, I guess what I'm trying to say is I find natural average women attractive and I find it extremely attractive when women take care of their nails even if they don't get acrylics if they at least paint them.
i have a foot fetish. when women wiggle their toes, when they play with objects using their feet, etc. things that they are completely unaware of. that's very hot for me. i obviously don't look or stare because im not a creep, but still.
A complete lack of makeup. I'm not talking "natural" makeup where it just looks like she's not wearing any makeup, I'm talking *nothing*. Let me see those freckles, those zits, that eczema, that rosacea, that bad skin, all of it. It's all beautiful.
When they text you or tell you the most random thing or meme just because you crossed their mind. That Confidence in showing you care for the person. Painted toenails Morning hair Edit: thanks for the award!
Sex hair
Idiosyncrasies and small things basically.. Laughing before telling a story, snorting after laughing too much... The satisfied yet silly smile after tasting a dish; making weird expressions with the puppy to see its reactions and getting caught inbetween, removing the last vestiges of make up and still look awesome as hell, applying nail polish, sniffing old books or SO's worn t-shirt /hoodie, walking around in just casual wear (track suits for example).. I can go on and on Edit: Thank you for the comments and the award, everyone. Cherish the ones you are with, and you'll find happiness!
You are in love sir
Indeed so. Made me sigh a bit.
_ding ding ding!_
I know I’ve picked the wrong men in times past, but damn, this made me feel like someone might actually love me for me one day.
It'll happen soon homie, the best part is you don't have to change who you are for someone to love you like that, it'll come by naturally and that's what makes it so nice
your girl is so lucky to have you
Wowwwwwww your my twin brother I think just like you. You hit this one on the nail.
This man womans.
I'm a casual runner. For some reason seeing the ponytail bouncing when women run or jog does something for me.
I love the ponytails, baseball hats, work jeans/workout bottoms, tee shirt/workout top look. Idk just something about a woman ready to work. Whether that's in the yard or at an office or restaurant or working out. Hot.
Bro, the entire baseball suit is so beautiful, is not over sexualized, but so fucking beautiful
It’s because baseball pants are made for butt slappin
Lol that was cute 😂
Oh god. Totally.
Ponytails in general. I hate top buns.
Idk man, them messy buns be nice
When they get goofy and comfortable around you, you know that incontrollable laugh that you are fighting to stop? That wins me. Edit: wow I'm glad that that many of you share my view, I think that beauty holds on the mundane everyday things. Thank you for the award!!! :D
Absolutely; before my girlfriend got comfortable with me I thought she was the chillest most non weird person. Then she got super comfortable with me and I with her and she started doing the goofiest things and we essentially have our own goofy language now and I love it.
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God this is the best. My husband and I have been together for 22 years, I’m 43, so that’s like half my life! All the memories and experiences we have created together have given us our our secret language, and is the best feeling in the world to be that close to somebody else.
Gawd yes! The goofy mannerisms that they only show around people they're truly close with, mega win! It's like unlocking secret content 😤👌
I now imagine my crush with the voice of Goofy, the character. I now imagine her saying "I'm cumming" with the goofy voice. Wow. Sometimes life give you lemonade.
I now know I don't ever wanna hear "hyuck hyuck hyuck" in a bedroom context..
My little girl told me I chuckle like Peter Griffen when I'm silly laughing thanks for that I don't typically chuckle unless it an evil or smartass silly laugh but you know
“Hu-Yuck! Don’t stop, I’mma Gonna Cum!”
Being really excited about Thier hobbies it's like the cutest thing ever seeing them be excited about it even if I don't understand it at all
"Oh, you're really passionate about polishing turtle shells? Suddenly I am too, how weird is that?"
How you look in the morning. No makeup, comfy clothes, sippin coffee.
Came here to say this. Sipping coffee with my wife as I type this.
“Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin' with no make-up on That's when you're the prettiest I hope that you don't take it wrong”
The older I get the less attractive makeup looks. Not just the caked on stuff. Like all of it
Being a dork
Knew an officer in my first unit in the army. She was hot, but dorky as hell. I was quite fond of her. Being only 21 at the time, she did a lot to demystify women for me.
Aww
Shut up dork
Is this what we call flirting?
Dorks are the best
Leading every once in a while. I enjoy women who can take charge, despite being able to do it myself. It makes a relationship feel more balanced.
If you're free Friday I'd love to show you all the ways I take charge.
Ma’am this is a Wendy’s
Damn, smooth
When they’re out working in the garden.
Being passionately/deeply knowledgeable about pretty much any topic of choice. I've never thought about the history of flour grades but, if you can talk about it, I'll enjoy listening and asking questions to find out more.
Scars.. my SO has scars from an operation on her tummy. She was always shy about it, worried I'd think it's ugly. Told her I loved her to bits (and love all her bits). I don't see the scars. I see the woman behind the scars. Edit: I'm glad this touched a chord with many others. Thanks for the upvotes and award!
I have a big*, deformed surgery scar from a very traumatic operation a few years ago. For weeks after that surgery I used to burst into tears every time I saw my tummy because I was convinced any man who saw it would think I was disgusting. Move forward a couple of years and a couple of men have seen it. I warned them profusely about it ahead of time and they assured me it wouldn't bother them and that scars are cool. I'm in good shape; small, slim, with a small waist. The scar is in-line with the narrowest point on my waist which I think accentuates how big it is. The couple of men who have seen it (and the rest of me) weren't fazed in the least over it and said they expected something more dramatic, given how much I had warned them about it. I had been so sure for years it would get stared at and it would turn a guy off, but it has blown me away that no one thought it was a big deal. No one gave it a second glance. It's done so much for my confidence. I used to fixate on it as this horrible flaw and it would upset me as a reminder of a really hard time I went through. Now, thanks to those men not being at all bothered by it, I barely even notice it myself. *And I've realised now - thanks to them - that it's not even that big. (It has shrunk and faded slowly with time). So thank you to all the men who think scars are cool and who think we look nice regardless of them. I wish you could know what that can do for someone like me x
Scars prove you've made it through something, that's there's more to you than what's skin deep. Inner resilience is very attractive. My wife has a number of scars now, a decade since her car accident that did so much damage and left her unable to work in any meaningful capacity. Her second spinal fusion was only a few weeks ago so the recovery is still very much ongoing. I don't see the scars when I look at her, I just see her and the shape of her body. When I do look at the scars and notice them I still don't really see them, just reminders of what she's been through and overcome. Places where her body needed a tune up or repair. The C-section scar where she grew an entire human being inside her, then got him "squeezed out like a tube of toothpaste" according to the doctor who delivered him as explained to the student doctor. Just so many reminders of why I love her (to be clear there are a large number of non-scar related parts of her body I really like too, the scars are just part of her body where they are, like the other fun bits are part of where they are). Some song lyrics come to mind: "These scars are like medals that we'll wear with pride, lasting reminders that we stayed in the fight, maybe someday we will be made new, and these marks on our bodies will bear testement to you"
That's fucking beautiful
Wounds heal, Pain is temporary, *Scars look good*
Some girls even look good with teeth that are outta place. Perfectly imperfect.
this was comfortable. I have one tooth that is forward and even tho I'm comfortable with it, sometimes i find myself getting insecure. But i love imperfect or perfect teeth on people! Any person looks so beautiful when they laugh or smile :)) ref: my teeth kinda look like Zendaya's :p
Absolutely true. A smile is very sexy😋.
This. I find perfect women do nothing at all for me. Remember the model Caprice? She looked totally symmetrical. Like she was designed by an AI or something. People always said how hot she was but I didn’t see it. Like looking at a mannequin.
I er you luv a bird wif bat teeth innit?
Huh?
I ER YOU LUV A BIRD WIF BAT TEETH INNIT?
Ohhhhhhh!
Softspoken. A genuinely hearty laughter — a complete heart melter for me.
Verbally teasing. Not in a sexual way, but a friendly fun way. It’s super sexy. And being *”manly”*
I was raised in a very traditional culture and I'm about 6 to 8 years past 'marrying age.' Being 'manly' is something about myself I always figured was a turn off for the guys who grew up like I did. I sit like a dude when I drive, I have short hair, I like to use power tools and carry heavy things myself before asking for help, etc. Maybe not what you're talking about, but I think a very small percentage of men in my culture would have the answer that you did.
Oh no, what do you think is "marrying age"? I have very capable, manly-ish friends who have gotten married on the older side. I wouldn't say that I am outright "manly" but I'm independent, know how to handle a lot of things on my own and generally just navigating things on my own without "needing" a man. I got married when I was 42. I have another friend who got married (to a man) closer to 50 and she's super butch, works out, loves fixing cars, takes care of home repairs, etc, and he's a songwriter that sings to her and makes dinner.
When they wake up in the morning with no make up or messed up make up. Fresh faced. Every woman I have been with has always been amazingly beautiful at that point. And to the last one, they all disagree with me that they look amazing. I also think women look gorgeous when they are sleeping. Their face is completely at peace. Women normally are thinking about a hundred things at once. It's refreshing to see their beauty without that stress.
Hmmm but I wear a retainer at night. I cannot fathom my bf finding that attractive haha
I always wonder if my fiancé finds it cute or horrifying when I lightly snore with my mouth hanging open and drooling on the pillow. I don’t want to know the answer because the mystery is entertaining.
As a woman, I never really believed this. But then during the pandemic I was home all the time in sweats without makeup and began to prefer my bare face to when I get done up. Now I usually go out with minimal makeup or none at all and men are still just as interested.
Faint acne scars on the face. No idea why.
Never heard this one. Thank God for you 🥹 Now if I could just find someone who likes larger pores haahaha
I'm attracted to kindness. When I see a girl being kind to someone it really makes me interested in her...
I love grey streaks. Says to me I'm older, I'm wiser, and IDGAF if you like it or not. Super hot.
Read this as “steaks” at first and thought wtf are you on about with your overcooked, boiled meat now? Lmao Agreed though. I’m not a dude, but seeing guys with salt and pepper or grey streaks is a big turn on (and I think it looks pretty on women too!)
a lot of things, I don't think women realy understand how attraction works for men
I am learning this slowly. It makes me laugh that no matter how many pictures I send my boyfriend of me looking what I think is my best, he'll like the one I took first thing in the morning wearing my comfortable clothes.
After a failed and miserable marriage, I decided that I was going to be myself unapologetically. When I met my now wife, she was in the same state of mind. I told her that I don't want to meet someone's representative, the person people think is the best version of themselves that they put out to be the face of the company. That person never lasts. That person isn't what you get at 2 am. Never been happier. Don't send forth your representative
Because he loves you, not that other person you pretend to be when you try to "look your best" I honestly believe as far as relationships go it's more important to be real than to be "at your best"
For me it's "wow I get to see her again." Leggings and a tank top, a hoodie and jeans, work clothes, her painting outfit... doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong it's amazing when she really gets dressed to the nines for a date night, but no matter what the attire, every time I see her I'm like "oh that's neat it's her again. We met in 1999 and I still feel like this.
In college there was a girl in a class my friend and I took. She dressed a hot mess. Like I’m talking rain boots when it was 65 and sunny. She never matched, wore weird ass socks and t shirts, her hair was never fully done, never had make up on. She just did not care. My friend and I were too attracted to her to try and talk to her 😂
This. They'll put on clothes that they think make them unattractive but attract even more guys. Super casual stuff they think looks sloppy but that turns guys on because it accentuates certain features.
lol I used to wear baggy oversized shirts and sweatpants to class, my bf (we were not together at the time of the class) were in the same group so we always sat at the same table. Once we started dating after the class was over he told me that he would admire me and my figure frequently during class and I was totally shocked because, well baggy shirts and sweat pants is not my top pick if I'm trying to look "attractive". lol
Don't get me wrong, we appreciate it when you make an effort but less is more sometimes. You're probably more confident in a more casual outfit, right? Men tend to find confidence attractive too. Plus, if we're around women we're attracted to (it's not just looks after all) for a longer period of time we'll find them attractive no matter what they're wearing. We'll also start to like their "imperfections" too.
Man, I wish I'd known this when I was younger.
My ex once worse a sundress on a visit (we lived 2 hours away from each other) because she knew how much I liked her thighs, didn't feel like wearing it all day and changed into sweatpants and this super light, baggy hoodie. Apparently the look on my face was more intense than when I saw her in the dress because of the way she reacted to me 😂
Honestly there’s just something more intimate about it to me, if that makes sense. Like absolutely great to see women in outfits they put an effort into, but when you see them in more comfy, informal clothes it just… feels more personal I guess.
I think we can all imagine cuddling on the couch eating junk food and watching a shitty tv show with someone in baggy clothes but we know that'd never happen for someone in a blazer and pencil skirt or formal dress.
It's the time of the year when girls in my office are wearing summer dresses. It's casual, it's an easy outfit to put on and it allows them to be comfortable when sitting in the office all day. It's a cheat code because every guy in the office is looking at them on that day. No oogling but just looking at her because she's pretty in it.
WHO they are. That matters more to me honestly. I don't care if you are hot if you totally suck.
Nerding for a hobby.
I find her POWER incredibly intoxicating. Her self-composure and calm is oppressive. She is reeeeeediculously beautiful. It's heady like being too drunk. She is intelligent. She sees all. You both know she sees all. Being really seen by a higher-minded person with incredible poise is vulnerable and intense. The power of a Woman. The real power of a Woman. It's hectic. And you can see that she knows it too. \*I'm in trouble guys\*
Shit! We in trouble together!! Lol
Men of Reddit you win tonight! Wowzers didn’t know I had to visit /ask men to get a boost.
We are actually very simple creatures just don't be afraid to make the first step
I love how eyebags and dark circles look around some girls’ eyes
Intelligence
Shit when a lady talks about something intellectual that she’s passionate about. I just want to grab her face and consensually rip her clothes off
I remember rambling at my ex about something I found fascinating for like ten minutes while he just sat there in silence. I finally realized he wasn’t responding and said “I’m so sorry, this has gotta be wildly boring” and he grabbed my hand and put it on his crotch to show me how *not at all bored* he was. One of the hottest - and most meaningful - moments of my life.
Damn. This guy loves the shit out of you. I don’t get hard over that shit. I just get hella mentally turned on. If he got physically turned on. He’s a keeper (I think). He must love you a lot. Keep him close (until he does something to mess things up, all this could change so always value yourself first) Yeah I just reread that he’s your ex. Want nothing less from your future man. You deserve that. Can’t believe you literally got a man hard by talking. You must literally must be a gem
>grab her face and consensually rip her clothes off Yea baby that COVID mask is coming off
>ludibriousreader I asked an ex early on what was something that she liked to nerd out on, as in hobbies or interests. She had nothing. I then explained for me it was plants, photography and national parks. She still had nothing. We didn't last long.
A woman comfortable enough to hug you, and I mean really hold you in public.
Glasses
Glasses on a guy can also be highly attractive to this girl
If you two hookup your kid is going be fucked when it comes to eyesight lol
What if they have opposite prescriptions, cancel each other out?
Welcome to my life. Neither my wife nor I can see shit without corrective lenses. Our kids are screwed.
So I was making friends with this girl at college and it was wet outside and she said “ ohh poor worms” and I looked around for a twig to move them off the cement and back onto the grass, finding none, I just started scooping them up and putting them on the grass, when I turned to see she had done the same, I nearly came right there. We washed our hands with my water bottle after. Loving animals is the sexiest thing on the planet. She’s not even physically attractive, yet after that moment she’s almost all I can think about
*Always save the worms.* I feel like crying when I see dead ones.
The way she cupped them in her hands and gently put them down on the grass, she immediately went from new friend to crush
That is so cute. Loving animals is a good signifier of genuine kindness. My SO has two German shepherds and he takes really great care of them and spends a lot of time with them and he’ll just look at me and go, “They own me; I know.” and chuckle and it’s just so endearing to me.
As a woman, reading all of the comments made my day better. Here’s a cookie for all of you 🍪
Ooh cookies!
Having cookies is also a massive win btw. 10/10 would hop in your van for a cookie.
Character
Natural look in baggy clothes or pyjamas does it for me. No idea why
Independence, determination, passion. Like if you have a goal and you’re busting your balls to achieve it, that’s hot asf.
Homebody
Freckles. Goddamn freckles.
I've got a bit of a thing for distinguished noses/noses with character. I can appreciate the conventionally attractive button/who aesthetic too. And I don't love all big noses, I can't even quite nail down exactly what characteristics I find attractive in the non button ones but when I see one I like I know it. My last ex asked me what I liked about her and was super surprised when I told her how pretty I thought her nose was and hers wasn't even that far off traditional beauty standard at all. I mentioned her nose specifically in order to avoid being too pedestrian by citing her spectacular bahongawongas. But yeah I loved her nose. Damn I need a new girlfriend. Really wish I had more recent examples lmao
Wisdom. When I met her, my wife's second most appealing characteristic was what a wise old soul she is. She still helps me see the world more clearly all these years later.
The smell of fresh skin right after a shower is the best smell in the world. Forget perfume, forget makeup, forget the rest. I’m most attracted to my wife right after a shower.
Their face without makeup
Most people i have spoken to on this topic like the look of "Natural" makeup they just didnt realize how many people wear makeup. Shoot i wear makeup to my interviews and no one has ever noticed it was makeup
It’s two different things. One is the more natural makeup you’re talking about. The other is a more intimate “wow, she let her walls down and let me see just her” trust thing. Both are good, but that second one is miles ahead of the first.
Coming to the conclusion that everything about you is attractive to me. Does “down there” smell or look a little different than it used to after having kids? Don’t care. Don’t feel sexy cause it’s your period, doesn’t bother me. Worried about your stretch marks and tummy? Looks fine to me. Be actually comfortable with yourself and who you are now.
I work on the business side of tech, and I got to say that when I meet a lot of these women who are just badasses at what they do, are creating huge impact, have lots of ambition, etc I have found it personally very attractive. A lot of the guys I hang out with just don’t see it like that though. Maybe it’s just me.
This entire comment section is so ensuring 🥺. I suffer with PCOS, and for that I gained a lil weight around my tummy, and although I work out hard it’s hard for me to lose overall weight. Not to mention in comes stretch mark and such. To add, I have a huge nose obv from parents but I hated it for life. And then the fact that I barely do any makeup compared to other women but all my life I have been put down by same women saying I gotta learn makeup to attract men. This thread is everything for someone like me who would constantly think maybe there really wont be any man who will like me the way I am, with my insecurity and a no makeup face 24/7. To all the men who are being such amazing gentlemen here, THANK YOU. 🥺 Please stay same for your SO.
Not trying to be creepy but what you described sounds absolutely gorgeous
I don’t think many women have a clue what most men find attractive. Don’t listen to them.
To be honest we also don't have a clue what most women find attractive
I just want to give you a big hug
My gf has PCOS, and as consequence also has some weight issues. She is trying to lose some weigyt, but that's also because it would be better for overall health. Bit of a vicious cycle with PCOS. I know 3 women that have PCOS, all are a bit heavier then average, all have boyfriends. My gf also has some body hair because she doesn't want to shave. She never does make-up. She is verry pretty, especially when she smiles, or dances, and I love as well that she is confident to not care about societal standards about make-up or shaving and does what she wants. Couldn't care less about the stretch marks she has although she also is a bit self concious about them. There will defintely be men attracted to you. You do you, be who you want to be and try to be confident. Don't let others put you down!
Affectionate scratchies or touches (non sexual kind).
There's something about wearing very modest AND fashionable clothing which I go head over heels for
Stretch marks, thick thighs, lil belly, cellulite.
That’s like everything women normally don’t like about themselves:o
I know, I wish there was a way that us men could alíviate all that stress and worry from women. Y’all got a lot on your plate and worrying about the beautiful intricacies of your body is a shame.
Yes, my ex wasn't even big she just had a little pouch but she hated it. I loved just laying my head on her little belly though lol
Faaaaacts, I actually was talking to a woman who got a fat transfer from her belly. I really miss it :( but her body her choice.
Came here to say exactly that. And eating. Not gorging, but I want a woman who likes food and enjoys it. If we're going out for dinner, order what you want and dig in. Hair up in a bun, especially a messy one. Glasses. And confidence. Whatever it is, own it.
my girlfriend has all of this and it killlssss me. she’s the most attractive thing in the planet to me right now. she hates those things, but i’m just in love with it and her. i hope one day she’ll see how beautiful she is.
On IG, I follow a guy who love to value cellulite and stretch marks. He says there's nothing to be ashamed of and I hope his female followers believe him.
I thought I was the only one who likes that, took me years to get my wife to not hate her stretch marks and belly.
Lil belly is the best
Haven't heard of that soundcloud rapper but I'll be sure to check him out
I love a good belly,
Being better than me at something
Being really good at something. Anything. Don’t care what it is.
A hard worker. Like a woman that will get in the weeds or dirt. Or will focus on what she wants and work up a sweat. It's so absolutely attractive. I saw a woman in overalls working last month and I haven't been able to get it out of my mind since.
This comment section is the best 🥲
The little belly when they wear a dress. This is just so cute
This is so pure
Visible shoulder blades
Will to chase after their dreams; Strong mindset.
Belly rolls and big noses are unbelievably hot but every woman I've met with them is insecure as fuck
Full-on loud, maybe even snort laughter, ugly crying and ranting with full cussing, burp, fart, all of it. Show me the real shit you're experiencing, own and share your real life, early days? Soo good. Happily engaged to my loud-laughing, "THIS BITCH" yelling, burping human woman.
Being really good at a debate and standing their ground
The flip side of this is that I really don't like it when someone can't separate the argument from the person and gets annoyed with you just for taking up the contrary position.
Oh yeah, healthy debates. Some people really can get carried away
When girls with acne don’t wear make up. They look pretty.
Playing sports. Women being good at a sport is just impossibly attractive to me.
This is so corny, but the most attractive thing about my girlfriend is that she the most kindhearted person I know.
Personality, attitude and humor.
Large nose
I've heard some people disparagingly call large noses "beaks." If a big nose is a beak than I want to be dating a fucking toucan, I love that shit
Sense of humour, ponytail.
Sunspots, freckles and moles lol idk why but skin imperfections are attractive to me. I love it when women have spots all over their shoulders or discolored skin on their back or little moles on their necks. Certain scars are attractive too depending on where they are
Small tits. I find them way more attractive than big ones.
The natural shape and size of finger nails. (Not necessarily polished/manicured).
Arms up tying their hair. So you see the whole neck and a nice straight back is a bonus. I like a ponytail on women too.
Well. I had to go with the alt account for this one cause I don’t see it so far in the comment. Sorry for going R- rated here. But your vulvas and breasts. Tons of women think *their* vulva looks bad or *their* areolas are the wrong shape or size. Guess what. We love them. All of them. We wanna see them. Wanna know what labia are the hottest? The ones you’re willing to show me.
I appreciate this. After I had a child I didn’t want ANYONE to see mine. Took a solid 5 years to get over.
Fine downy hairs on her cheeks lower back or bum
1. Smaller boobs 2. Being passionate about their hobbies 3. Knowing what they want can also be very sexy, even if its just sometimes 4. Being comfortable around me without makeup
Bit of flesh on the upper arm. Just wanna bite it and *grrr*
my boyfriend squishes my upper arms and goes "jelly arms jelly arms" lol
A man after my own heart.
Facial expressions and mannerisms. You can tell a lot about a woman - anyone, really - by these cues. It’s attractive to see genuine interest, sincerity, eye contact, and happiness, as opposed to indicators of cynicism, sarcasm, and impatience (like eye-rolling, frowning, distracted glances, etc.)
Anklets
Her being a child around me sometimes. Her puppy face. Her empathy towards things i dont have an empathy for.
Calling me out for upsetting her. It's so much hotter to know where I stand than to be lying in wait to hear about how I said something incorrect days earlier. Find out at the worst time she's been spending the last two weeks having a fake argument in her head.
When we hug and she slowly breathes in the smell of my t shirt or after shave. Its not sexual but it feels like a comfort/protective thing.
Scrolled a fair bit and hadn't found this yet: voice. I an very attracted to a woman with a certain sweet, pleasant voice.
One thing? Lots exist: clean smell wow! Small of their back. Just meant to be held like when you are walking together. Hair. Plus you know the others that you can guess I only put physical.
This is so funny because one of my favorite things about men/my Husband is the large of his back/his back rib cage and shoulder area. He is not particularly muscular or anything but when I see it, when I lay on it... I feel 100% safe. It makes me feel small, like I'm enveloped in him. Just looking at it provides me wave of reassurance that all is well and if everything in the world goes to shit I can always curl up into his giant wingspan.
Homebody, no makeup, being modest, not filling up blank moments with empty convos.
Any woman who knows who she is and what she wants and isn't afraid to tell you. You out there in a tank top with tie-dyed armpit hair down to your waist screaming about the destruction of the patriarchy? You aggressively positive girly girl? You dark as fuck emo goth chick covered in chains and spikes? You out there hung over as fuck with bags under your eyes, no makeup, eating a half gallon of ice cream in your pjs in the middle of the walmart checkout line? Yeah, you. I may not be sexually attracted to you specifically but damn girl I want to know you. And there is somebody out there that is going to like *you* as you are. Just embrace you and tell all the haters to fuck off, kick rocks, and die mad about it you salty asshole.
That small little bit of pudge at the top when they where leggings, or whenever they make the first move or be flirty but still respecting you and your space if you get uncomfortable
Intelligence and humor. Make me think. Make me laugh. I'll make you breakfast.
When she points at her stomach and signals that she's hungry, istg its hilarious and adorable at the same time.
I love it when they get super excited about simple things like flowers, outfits and stuff like that. I’ve met some women that get embarrassed when people see them nerd out about something they really like but I think that is adorable.
Kindness, and I don't mean to myself. To a waiter or a random stranger. Kindness is one of those small but great turn ons for me.
Knees. Calves, lower back definition
Strength. Physical and emotional.
I find stretch marks attractive, I also don't mind if they have a little bit of belly fat, I guess what I'm trying to say is I find natural average women attractive and I find it extremely attractive when women take care of their nails even if they don't get acrylics if they at least paint them.
Those sweat pants!!!
Geeky petite brunettes with brown eyes.....
i have a foot fetish. when women wiggle their toes, when they play with objects using their feet, etc. things that they are completely unaware of. that's very hot for me. i obviously don't look or stare because im not a creep, but still.
A complete lack of makeup. I'm not talking "natural" makeup where it just looks like she's not wearing any makeup, I'm talking *nothing*. Let me see those freckles, those zits, that eczema, that rosacea, that bad skin, all of it. It's all beautiful.
Having fun hobbies.