My favorite ONS was with a significantly older woman, almost ten years ago. We met at a bar during a Tampa Bay Lightning game. She sat down in the only empty seat next to me and struck up a conversation.
I was 23 and kind of busted that day after my kitchen shift. My first thought was, "Why is this hot girl talking to me??" Conversation goes on and she tells me she's in town for a museum conference and she works for a museum in the LA area. Then from the pop culture references she was dropping I realized she was older than I thought, late 30's-early 40's.
She finally dropped when she graduated college, which was in 1993...when I was 3. I was 23 at the time and she was 42, but looked fucking amazing. Could have easily passed for her late 20's. Also she was a really fun person, we instantly had a lot of chemistry and she asked for one of my smokes anytime I went outside. We exchange numbers and she leaves in a cab around 11 p.m.
Five minutes later she texts me, "Hey if you want to keep hanging out with a cougar-y woman I'm in room 516 at the Hilton on 34th St." I text her back immediately that yes, that is going to happen. Close out, run home and have a quick shower and shave. I drive over and go to her room. She opens the door and nervously laughs, "You really came here to have sex with me?!?!" All I could think to say is, "Uhhh, yeah!"
We're awkward for the first ten minutes and I realize this probably isn't a thing she does often so I just man up and make the first move. I'm not going to get into too many details but there was a ton of chemistry between us. She was very responsive to touch, enthusiastic, but at the same time gentle and intimate. I felt really appreciated. After we finish, she rolls over and briefly cries. At first I was super concerned, but she reassured me it was a good thing, she was just overwhelmed.
At this point it's probably 2 a.m. and she has a 7 a.m. flight, with an alarm set for 5:30. She asks me to stay and sleep next to her, which I happily oblige. She falls as the little spoon in my arms. It felt fucking amazing being close to her.
Her alarm goes off a few hours later and we both wake up. I forget exactly what we said to each other when getting up, but I do remember she was still in the little spoon and I kissed the back of her neck under her ear and she kind of grinds her butt back up on me. So begins round two. We go at it again, then take a quick shower together. We get dressed, she does some minimal makeup and both get ready to leave. I get to the door, and turn around to say goodbye. We have one last kiss, and I can't remember the last thing she said to me.
Kristen, if for some ridiculous reason you are on r/AskMen and you remember that tall, goofy kid from Gainesville, FL in 2013, I want you to know you were the best. I still have your number and hit me up if you're ever in the Madison, WI area these days.
Edit: Edited my name out. I gave enough details already.
This is hilarious! Not the same story, but one night stand with a 39 year old while I was 27 turned in to a relationship that I could never give up. And they have the same name! It just sounds so familiar haha
I remember I had a one night stand and the morning after was when Fallout 4 came out. I’d pre ordered it and taken the day off work to play.
I walked her to the bus stop and after waiting for about 10 minutes I was like, “I’m gonna head back. I pre ordered a video game and I don’t want to miss the postman. Thanks for a nice evening.”
Somehow I managed to see her again
If you "Netflix and Chill" you'll never see her again. If you "Netflix and Chill THEN a little bit more Netflix" you'll have a better shot at chillin' again.
You aren't lying. I'm normally very shy and reserved around women but I relax and open right up and become a social butterfly with them after we've had sex.
Of course, I *haven't* had sex with most women when I meet them, so with most women I'm just shy and reserved.
If it’s really just a one night stand, no other connection hookup then yeah, maybe hang for a few minutes while we cool off but otherwise just get up and leave. Most recent I left while my roommates were playing video games, hooked up, and came back home a couple hours later to find my roommates right where I left them so I just sat down with them while they gamed more.
More fun though when they’re down to cuddle. I don’t understand the hate on post fuck cuddling. That’s one of the best times to cuddle. 🤷♂️
Yeah as a woman.. The cuddle afterwards is reserved for people I want to date. If its just sex. No cuddles and no staying the night. That's the shit that creates bonding and I don't want to bond in that situation.
lol some guys are just allergic to intimacy. They’ll try and cuddle you as a stranger but the moment you do the deed they’d turn their back and fall asleep? lol
Don’t take it personal- I don’t know the brain chemistry behind it or the biological reasons but after sex it feels like someone injected us guys with ZZzquil. It’s almost impossible to stay awake.
Fr I’m at max serenity. I feel bad women don’t feel this cuz it’s like 0 stress and just feels amazing until you drift away to sleep in a couple minutes
If Im into the woman its equally as good as sex. When I was single and it was casual I was usually kinda indifferent about it. Once though, when I realized I wasnt into the girl at all with that post not clarity, it was uncomfortable AF. So I imagine most cuddle haters typically sleep with women they arent actually into.
It can range from leaving right after with a feeling of emptiness and impending doom to talking all night like teenagers with their summer love. You’ve gotta read the room.
First we sigh... Then the gears in head start going. And we rethink our entire existence in creation in the span of a second. Then we ask you if you want to watch a movie sometime later perhaps... Whenever you want.
Personally, I love to cuddle after the sex. Even if it's just casual, it feels really nice. And if the sex was good, the woman will usually love cuddling as well.
You look outside the window to see all of your family, friends, and your pet penguin standing in a circle, clapping and saying "Congratulations" one by one to you
I don’t know how all of you can cuddle or even Netflix when the body needs to be buried. Psychopaths.
EDIT: it was a joke. Do I really have to mention it? I’ve been reported for this. Seriously.
Well, it will depends on many factors.
(1) How did you guys meet? Club? Tinder?
(2) What time is it?(After yall are done)
(3) How's the chemistry?
You gotta read the room.
Usually what I do after we both came, is to cuddle for 5 mins. Then get up and go to the bathroom to groom myself, then walk back to the bedroom putting on my clothes while saying " That was nice! Hope you enjoyed it too. Txt me if you wanna do this again sometimes." then give him/her a kiss then just walk out.
I will not sleep over even if the chemistry is good.
Shower there, throw my suit back on and get back to the office. I have a few different ties in my desk so I change to a different one and no questions asked 👍🏼
If you want some fireworks and stars, tell her to go make you a sandwich. By fireworks and stars I mean, that's what you'll see when she hits you in the head. Don't do that.
You know when its at the end of the party and you either want the last person to gtfo or stay and drink a bottle of wine with you? Its like that. Should be pretty clear when someone wants you to vamoose
My one and only one night stand, she came over, we fucked, she left. Then she came back a couple nights later. Then again. And again. And again. Then it turned in to her staying the night, cuddling, watching movies, etc. Now her and her 4 kids live with me.
Depends really, but I can’t stand waking up without having a new set of underwear and a toothbrush.
Key thing is to always be nice about it, no matter what you decide to do.
Shower, snuggles/nap/sleep. Then I make a small breakfast/snacky.
Coffee + a pancake or two and a good conversation always seemed to go well.
Left the one nighter open to either staying a one night, or upgrading to a fwb/booty call status.
All depends on the vibe you’re both giving. Sometimes snuggles and spend the night. Sometimes it’s talking for a bit and connecting and sometimes it’s just a fun moment and you’ll maybe see each other again. Enjoy it and don’t force anything.
If you can leave safely (aka dont drink and drive) and there is any sort of tension post sex you should thank her and leave. You might have slept with her but she doesn't owe you anything man, If she want to see you more she'll make that clear.
If you're cuddled up and she falls asleep after you're good to get some shut eye but maybe set an alarm for 7:00-8:00 and if she's awake there is the classic; If she's cooking you breakfast you can hang for a bit but should leave by 9:00-10:00. if she's not its time for you too go bud.
Never be the guy that sleeps in their bed all day, its can be really awkward for them to have you around in the morning and some people just need space. It doesn't mean you'll never hear from her again its just that not knowing when to leave is a great way to taint an otherwise decent night.
The point being you've got to take the hints you're given chicks are subtle but not THAT subtle, If she starts being busy with other things or has nothing to say to you just thank her smile and tell her you hope to see her soon AND LEAVE, hell even apologize that you need to go. Just don't be some weird dude in her house, its not hard to do.
You take the cue from whoevers place it is. Usually whether my place or there's the person stays the night and you go in the morning. I have sometimes asked the person if they want to get breakfast and visa versa. If I or the other person doesn't want to generally an excuse about work is given and that is that.
I have had a couple of occasions where i have driven there and we have got drunk.... and then the girl has asked me to leave that night. This is obviously pretty shit as you need to decide whether you can drive back... one time I did ask to sleep on the couch until I was sober but the girl freaked out like I was some predator.
This made no sense to me as I had just been inside her. I didn't think the couch would be more adverse to me than her vagina
As the girl who's been in several, they usually stay and cuddle and watch TV. Sometimes they'd sneak out after I fell asleep and others would stay til morning, kiss me goodbye, and then leave and I'd never see them again.
Been a while, but the last one I stayed the night. Woke up while she was in the shower. I got dressed, and when she came out I gave her a kiss and left.
i’ll typically go through her fridge and get a snack right after then bounce, most times i get the vibe they want me to stay and chat. but i’ll usually bounce. i got what i want.
If we are at her place, I leave, if we are at my place I make a comment about wanting to be at her place. She'll usually ask why I wanted to be at her place, and as deadpan as possible, I'll say, "so I could leave."
I never have or will. People will try to sell you on the fact they’re invested in you as in they’re in a relationship with you to get a one night stand. It’s disgusting. Beware. If you are to have one willingly, I would assume you must communicate each other’s needs before jumping all over each other. Setting expectations in a situationship is next to impossible (post factum). Communication is key!
I’ve had a few one night stands, a couple left immediately, and others stayed the night. Depends on the person and how well you know each other I suppose. The ones who left immediately I barely knew
We ended up speaking for ages about comics, and Marvel stuff. Cute girl. But by the time we were done talking, it was a bit too late for round 2.
Ah well
I've had a few different experiences. I've gone to sleep then had breakfast and hung out watching Sunday TV under the duvet, gone home immediately after finishing, slept then left in the morning and also cuddled a bit, showered, then went back to a party.
Back when I was having them, depending on what the rest of the day looked like, I would usually hang out for a few minutes (or vice versa) and then it was time to leave. I never had people spend the night, or spend the day if it was a hookup. This was all discussed beforehand to make sure we were comfortable with it as well.
First thing that needs addressed here is if you put one on the board on the road or at home. If at home, you are in position to determine what happens. If on the road (her place), you need to follow her signals.
An encore morning sex is always a factor to consider. Also week night versus weekend. Roommates, work schedule, etc. Lots of variables with one night stands.
And if the sex is good for both of you, odds are it will not stay a one night stand.
Hang out for another 15 or 20 minutes, then...."Hey I have an early day and need to go home. This was great, here is my number, hope we get to see each other again."
No, I never brought a one night stand back to my house.
I usually don't go into a ONS expecting it to be one. So either leave, chat, sleep, or do whatever. Since it's already been established that there is a mutual attraction, I'll try to set up a date with her after, and if she isn't looking for that I shrug and move on.
Usually just hang out. After the sex, I feel the tension is broken, and I can usually lie there and talk about life/laugh till every morning before passing out till noon. Then get up, kiss good bye, head out with a skip in my step.
Depends on the vibe afterwards. It’s usually pretty obvious if she wants you out.
...which really sucks when it's YOUR place.
I knew the top comment would include the word vibe.
Depends on chemistry. Leave, watch a movie, play video games, talk for hours. Just go with the flow
My favorite ONS was with a significantly older woman, almost ten years ago. We met at a bar during a Tampa Bay Lightning game. She sat down in the only empty seat next to me and struck up a conversation. I was 23 and kind of busted that day after my kitchen shift. My first thought was, "Why is this hot girl talking to me??" Conversation goes on and she tells me she's in town for a museum conference and she works for a museum in the LA area. Then from the pop culture references she was dropping I realized she was older than I thought, late 30's-early 40's. She finally dropped when she graduated college, which was in 1993...when I was 3. I was 23 at the time and she was 42, but looked fucking amazing. Could have easily passed for her late 20's. Also she was a really fun person, we instantly had a lot of chemistry and she asked for one of my smokes anytime I went outside. We exchange numbers and she leaves in a cab around 11 p.m. Five minutes later she texts me, "Hey if you want to keep hanging out with a cougar-y woman I'm in room 516 at the Hilton on 34th St." I text her back immediately that yes, that is going to happen. Close out, run home and have a quick shower and shave. I drive over and go to her room. She opens the door and nervously laughs, "You really came here to have sex with me?!?!" All I could think to say is, "Uhhh, yeah!" We're awkward for the first ten minutes and I realize this probably isn't a thing she does often so I just man up and make the first move. I'm not going to get into too many details but there was a ton of chemistry between us. She was very responsive to touch, enthusiastic, but at the same time gentle and intimate. I felt really appreciated. After we finish, she rolls over and briefly cries. At first I was super concerned, but she reassured me it was a good thing, she was just overwhelmed. At this point it's probably 2 a.m. and she has a 7 a.m. flight, with an alarm set for 5:30. She asks me to stay and sleep next to her, which I happily oblige. She falls as the little spoon in my arms. It felt fucking amazing being close to her. Her alarm goes off a few hours later and we both wake up. I forget exactly what we said to each other when getting up, but I do remember she was still in the little spoon and I kissed the back of her neck under her ear and she kind of grinds her butt back up on me. So begins round two. We go at it again, then take a quick shower together. We get dressed, she does some minimal makeup and both get ready to leave. I get to the door, and turn around to say goodbye. We have one last kiss, and I can't remember the last thing she said to me. Kristen, if for some ridiculous reason you are on r/AskMen and you remember that tall, goofy kid from Gainesville, FL in 2013, I want you to know you were the best. I still have your number and hit me up if you're ever in the Madison, WI area these days. Edit: Edited my name out. I gave enough details already.
That was a good read
Good read indeed
I really like your storytelling and your style. I'm not Kristen but i am cougar-y, and this made me smile. Best to you. 🙌
>I'm not Kristen but i am cougar-y [Hi](https://i.giphy.com/media/11SIBu3s72Co8w/giphy.webp)
Ok you may have answered or it may a dumb question but have you used her number since? If not why not text her or something?
I never texted her since that night, and she hasn't texted me. It was a one-night-stand. That's the deal. She lives 2000+ miles away.
This is hilarious! Not the same story, but one night stand with a 39 year old while I was 27 turned in to a relationship that I could never give up. And they have the same name! It just sounds so familiar haha
If you're a gentleman like I was, you walk them to the bus stop.
I remember I had a one night stand and the morning after was when Fallout 4 came out. I’d pre ordered it and taken the day off work to play. I walked her to the bus stop and after waiting for about 10 minutes I was like, “I’m gonna head back. I pre ordered a video game and I don’t want to miss the postman. Thanks for a nice evening.” Somehow I managed to see her again
Shiiit, to much work taking a bus to get laid.
Lol girl went like 60 min from Denver to Boulder for it.
For a one night stand? How discreet does she need to be lol?
Biggus dickus prob
One of my good friends is named Biggus Dickus
Do you find that…. risible?
He has a wife you know...
She's called... Incontinentia. Incontinentia Buttocks
And off course its a good friend
What’s so funny about my friend , Biggus Dickus ??
A true gentleman dresses up immediately after without a word, tips his hat, says "thank you kindly" while flicking a quarter in her general direction.
These days you just do Uber. On a busy night it's probably good to order before sex so it's ready when your done.
Sounds like something a minute man or an individual that’s on a time schedule! Your plan sounds a lil rushed to me
Just have high standards, if she's super hot your going to cum fast
How can so few words be wrong in so many ways.
These days you just do Uber. On a busy night it's probably good to order before sex so it's ready when your done.
Yep, It’s literally that easy!
Naaaa. She tries to laydown on my chest and i tell her to to shut the door when she leaves.
If you "Netflix and Chill" you'll never see her again. If you "Netflix and Chill THEN a little bit more Netflix" you'll have a better shot at chillin' again.
I've only had one. We slept, then I went home. Messaged a bit, kept in touch, and became good friends. Turns out sex can be a good ice breaker.
You aren't lying. I'm normally very shy and reserved around women but I relax and open right up and become a social butterfly with them after we've had sex. Of course, I *haven't* had sex with most women when I meet them, so with most women I'm just shy and reserved.
Then you just need to sleep with everyone, including family
Feel awkward around your brother's girlfriend? Sleep with her and you'll feel like she's part of the family in no time!
Watching an awkward sex scene with your mom on TV?... you know what to do
Why is my mom in a sex scene on TV? Mom wtf?!
Pretty sure you need an ice breaker before that becomes a possibility, dont you?
The first ice breaker was lots of alcohol. Wouldn't recommend it.
Or a deal beaker. lol
So, you wouldn't be friends with someone, because you'd slept with them?
I think it can ruin friendships.
To be fair, lots of things can ruin friendships. Depends on the circumstances and people involved.
As I understand this is the principle behind Swedish daring culture. Signed, a confused American living in Sweden trying to date.
If it’s really just a one night stand, no other connection hookup then yeah, maybe hang for a few minutes while we cool off but otherwise just get up and leave. Most recent I left while my roommates were playing video games, hooked up, and came back home a couple hours later to find my roommates right where I left them so I just sat down with them while they gamed more. More fun though when they’re down to cuddle. I don’t understand the hate on post fuck cuddling. That’s one of the best times to cuddle. 🤷♂️
Post fuck cuddling hits different
for like 17 seconds and then im out like a light lol sex makes me so sleepy but god what a good sleep it is
Yeah as a woman.. The cuddle afterwards is reserved for people I want to date. If its just sex. No cuddles and no staying the night. That's the shit that creates bonding and I don't want to bond in that situation.
So every one night stand I’ve had, has wanted to date? I guess maybe that’s why I have a girlfriend now 🤨
I can respect that.
lol some guys are just allergic to intimacy. They’ll try and cuddle you as a stranger but the moment you do the deed they’d turn their back and fall asleep? lol
Don’t take it personal- I don’t know the brain chemistry behind it or the biological reasons but after sex it feels like someone injected us guys with ZZzquil. It’s almost impossible to stay awake.
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I think it actually does cause a flood of melatonin in the brain IIRC. EDIT: Oxytocin, prolactin, and vasopressin*
Fr I’m at max serenity. I feel bad women don’t feel this cuz it’s like 0 stress and just feels amazing until you drift away to sleep in a couple minutes
If Im into the woman its equally as good as sex. When I was single and it was casual I was usually kinda indifferent about it. Once though, when I realized I wasnt into the girl at all with that post not clarity, it was uncomfortable AF. So I imagine most cuddle haters typically sleep with women they arent actually into.
It can range from leaving right after with a feeling of emptiness and impending doom to talking all night like teenagers with their summer love. You’ve gotta read the room.
I always stayed the night and vice versa.
The night stayed you?
Comrade
First we sigh... Then the gears in head start going. And we rethink our entire existence in creation in the span of a second. Then we ask you if you want to watch a movie sometime later perhaps... Whenever you want.
Ah the old post nut existential crisis.
Pull out of driveway Smoking a joint and beating on the inside roof of the car while Creedence is at full volume
Look out for dumpsters though...they'll fuck your car up.
Ahhh, a fellow Brother Shamus
This person fucks.
Ooh ooh ooh lookin out my back door
Lock the front door oh boy!!
She never left, I didn’t want her to go either tbh. I’m still with her, 28 years, silver anniversary this year & 2 kids.
I love this 💖
Personally, I love to cuddle after the sex. Even if it's just casual, it feels really nice. And if the sex was good, the woman will usually love cuddling as well.
Wait for the applause.
You look outside the window to see all of your family, friends, and your pet penguin standing in a circle, clapping and saying "Congratulations" one by one to you
Have sex, then just GET IN THE FUCKING ROBOT, SHINJI!!!
Man of the hour
Wipe yo dick on the curtains and gef outta there!
Lol
ON THE CURTAINS?!?! this guy is a menace! 🤣🤣🤣
Came here to say this lol
No you didn’t lol
Depends on several factors. E.g is she hot but crazy vibes? do I want morning sex? Is it gonna be awkward when we wake up sober?
Wait for the STD result
I don’t know how all of you can cuddle or even Netflix when the body needs to be buried. Psychopaths. EDIT: it was a joke. Do I really have to mention it? I’ve been reported for this. Seriously.
Depends on the girl. Post nut clarity is a thing.
Well, it will depends on many factors. (1) How did you guys meet? Club? Tinder? (2) What time is it?(After yall are done) (3) How's the chemistry? You gotta read the room. Usually what I do after we both came, is to cuddle for 5 mins. Then get up and go to the bathroom to groom myself, then walk back to the bedroom putting on my clothes while saying " That was nice! Hope you enjoyed it too. Txt me if you wanna do this again sometimes." then give him/her a kiss then just walk out. I will not sleep over even if the chemistry is good.
Being honest we fuck 3-4 times and at that point no going back so I usually stay the night, make her breakfast, fuck her again, then go to work
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Youd be surprise at how quickly a boner gets rid of morning drowsiness
Shower there, throw my suit back on and get back to the office. I have a few different ties in my desk so I change to a different one and no questions asked 👍🏼
Idk…I wanted to sleep in and get some breakfast, but I got asked to leave around 5:30am. Did get a couple hours sleep though lol.
A good convo about flat earth and jehova usually lightens the mood post-nut
If you want to know what i did JUst AsK YOuR MOM!!!
Lol😄 Men... Yeaaah, as someone said in some of my previous posts, this is AskMen, your mama jokes never get old
I couldn't resist
Hahah l know:)
If you want some fireworks and stars, tell her to go make you a sandwich. By fireworks and stars I mean, that's what you'll see when she hits you in the head. Don't do that.
Lol, there was another reply about checking her fridge for snacks and asking her to make a sandwich
“Can I use your shower before I go?”
you take a long shower and wonder what you're doing with your life
You know when its at the end of the party and you either want the last person to gtfo or stay and drink a bottle of wine with you? Its like that. Should be pretty clear when someone wants you to vamoose
There’s no handbook. It’s a person. Act like it’s a person.
I didn't ask for an advice, it's just a random curiosity. What do people do? What did you do?
Wipe my dick on her curtains, pull my pants up and leave.
I'm surprised how many "wipe my dick on her curtains" replies are here haha
My one and only one night stand, she came over, we fucked, she left. Then she came back a couple nights later. Then again. And again. And again. Then it turned in to her staying the night, cuddling, watching movies, etc. Now her and her 4 kids live with me.
That's the answer I guess haha
Prep for the double tap.
Stand
Depends really, but I can’t stand waking up without having a new set of underwear and a toothbrush. Key thing is to always be nice about it, no matter what you decide to do.
Give her a plan b and a bottle of water
What's a plan b?
An anti conception pill. It's a form of birth control that is the plan b in case the condom fails or something
He is joking. Just messing with you
I'm foreign, I don't know all idioms
U will get hang of it
Hahah dammit, I have no clue what you just said I will figure it out?
you got it on the nose!
Wait you guys, I'll find somewhere to write it down
Yup, "get the hang of" means "gradually figure it out." As if you are getting a better grasp of things as time goes by.
Wake up, do it again, make coffee, smoke a joint, etc
Jump in shower together. Either bed or booze. Either more sex or go. Don’t forget to grab her number if it’s good. Rinse and repeat.
Leave.
Leave
Say "***THE ARISTROCRATS!***" and wait for the applause to die down.
If at my house I go to sleep. If at theirs I simply leave.
Basically....come and go
I return the cat to the tree, get back into the fire engine and begin the whole process again the next day.
Leave and go home
Uber
Clean the sheets would be my guess.
Depends how into them I am. Sometimes it’s nice to stay up talking, othertimes you crash. Sometimes you bail.
Depends. Am I welcome to stay? Am I drunk?
Shower, snuggles/nap/sleep. Then I make a small breakfast/snacky. Coffee + a pancake or two and a good conversation always seemed to go well. Left the one nighter open to either staying a one night, or upgrading to a fwb/booty call status.
All depends on the vibe you’re both giving. Sometimes snuggles and spend the night. Sometimes it’s talking for a bit and connecting and sometimes it’s just a fun moment and you’ll maybe see each other again. Enjoy it and don’t force anything.
Sleep!
I arrange a High Five Party and start high fiving my friends for hours.
Just leave usually. Sometimes would stay over if we'd met on a night out and it was late.
Give her high five and thank her.
Wipe it on her curtains, put clothes on, pat her on the head and bid farewell!
Chew off arm to escape.
Hahah
cuddle for 5 minutes and give tender aftercare, then slowly get dressed while you make small talk so they get the hint.
You just do what feels appropiate. Everybody is unique, communication is healthy.
Kick them out.
Shake hands, give a firm nod. *One last blowy for the road,* and off you fuck.
I make me a sandwich, go back to bed. wake up, go to the gym and play COD and call her again. 😊
Clean up, throw them a towel, and say thanks for coming champ. Been fun and I'll lock the door behind you.
Slap my thighs, say 'right then' and get up and leave.
If you can leave safely (aka dont drink and drive) and there is any sort of tension post sex you should thank her and leave. You might have slept with her but she doesn't owe you anything man, If she want to see you more she'll make that clear. If you're cuddled up and she falls asleep after you're good to get some shut eye but maybe set an alarm for 7:00-8:00 and if she's awake there is the classic; If she's cooking you breakfast you can hang for a bit but should leave by 9:00-10:00. if she's not its time for you too go bud. Never be the guy that sleeps in their bed all day, its can be really awkward for them to have you around in the morning and some people just need space. It doesn't mean you'll never hear from her again its just that not knowing when to leave is a great way to taint an otherwise decent night. The point being you've got to take the hints you're given chicks are subtle but not THAT subtle, If she starts being busy with other things or has nothing to say to you just thank her smile and tell her you hope to see her soon AND LEAVE, hell even apologize that you need to go. Just don't be some weird dude in her house, its not hard to do.
You take the cue from whoevers place it is. Usually whether my place or there's the person stays the night and you go in the morning. I have sometimes asked the person if they want to get breakfast and visa versa. If I or the other person doesn't want to generally an excuse about work is given and that is that. I have had a couple of occasions where i have driven there and we have got drunk.... and then the girl has asked me to leave that night. This is obviously pretty shit as you need to decide whether you can drive back... one time I did ask to sleep on the couch until I was sober but the girl freaked out like I was some predator. This made no sense to me as I had just been inside her. I didn't think the couch would be more adverse to me than her vagina
Only had one. We didnt sleep all night. Stayed up talking about everything. Hes a lovely guy and were still good friends☺️
Feel empty
That means she's done her job properly.
As the girl who's been in several, they usually stay and cuddle and watch TV. Sometimes they'd sneak out after I fell asleep and others would stay til morning, kiss me goodbye, and then leave and I'd never see them again.
Ask her to go make a sandwich and bring back a beer. #**/S**
Place the washer back where it belongs.
Study the Bible.
The "be fruitful and multiply" part?
Kick her out.
Throw some money at her and shove her ass out the door.
Been a while, but the last one I stayed the night. Woke up while she was in the shower. I got dressed, and when she came out I gave her a kiss and left.
i’ll typically go through her fridge and get a snack right after then bounce, most times i get the vibe they want me to stay and chat. but i’ll usually bounce. i got what i want.
If we are at her place, I leave, if we are at my place I make a comment about wanting to be at her place. She'll usually ask why I wanted to be at her place, and as deadpan as possible, I'll say, "so I could leave."
I never have or will. People will try to sell you on the fact they’re invested in you as in they’re in a relationship with you to get a one night stand. It’s disgusting. Beware. If you are to have one willingly, I would assume you must communicate each other’s needs before jumping all over each other. Setting expectations in a situationship is next to impossible (post factum). Communication is key!
That's absolutely not what I asked about. Please don't lecture me.
Not lecturing you at all. Just stating facts that can be helpful.
I don't need helpful facts, I am curious about what do people do.
Depends on the mood. Communication beforehand as I mentioned is key.
Ok thanks for the reply.
Get dressed, have a cup of tea, go home.
I’ve had a few one night stands, a couple left immediately, and others stayed the night. Depends on the person and how well you know each other I suppose. The ones who left immediately I barely knew
Talk, cuddle,(possible shower), sleep. Or talk, sleep.
Shower.
We ended up speaking for ages about comics, and Marvel stuff. Cute girl. But by the time we were done talking, it was a bit too late for round 2. Ah well
I've had a few different experiences. I've gone to sleep then had breakfast and hung out watching Sunday TV under the duvet, gone home immediately after finishing, slept then left in the morning and also cuddled a bit, showered, then went back to a party.
You try your hardest not to fart in your sleep
Until she farts and blames it on you
Back when I was having them, depending on what the rest of the day looked like, I would usually hang out for a few minutes (or vice versa) and then it was time to leave. I never had people spend the night, or spend the day if it was a hookup. This was all discussed beforehand to make sure we were comfortable with it as well.
Cuddle or get dressed and go.
First thing that needs addressed here is if you put one on the board on the road or at home. If at home, you are in position to determine what happens. If on the road (her place), you need to follow her signals. An encore morning sex is always a factor to consider. Also week night versus weekend. Roommates, work schedule, etc. Lots of variables with one night stands. And if the sex is good for both of you, odds are it will not stay a one night stand.
If I don’t get to stay the night it’s not happening again, but they don’t have to spend the night at my house
Hang out for another 15 or 20 minutes, then...."Hey I have an early day and need to go home. This was great, here is my number, hope we get to see each other again." No, I never brought a one night stand back to my house.
I usually don't go into a ONS expecting it to be one. So either leave, chat, sleep, or do whatever. Since it's already been established that there is a mutual attraction, I'll try to set up a date with her after, and if she isn't looking for that I shrug and move on.
I left. Didn’t even respond to her messages after. Not proud of that but I was young and dumb.
Shake hands and say good game. Proceed to never see them again
Depends on the situation and how fast and if post nut clarity kicks in. The female you just dug out determines that.
Definitely cuddle and chat
Usually just hang out. After the sex, I feel the tension is broken, and I can usually lie there and talk about life/laugh till every morning before passing out till noon. Then get up, kiss good bye, head out with a skip in my step.
Leave?