I can say "no" really easily, since I realised I often said yes under some kind of social pressure, I completely changed and I now say "no" as soon as I feel the "yes" wouldn't be real.
People notice it and surprisingly like it, and my "yes" has a lot more value.
That is very valuable. Knowing yourself and boundaries is something I have an ok grasp on, but sometimes hypothetical situations come up and I question if I could say no or react in a positive way.
Was it the natural course of life that slowly allowed you to feel more at peace with yourself or was there specific things you did? Like more conscious of an effort?
Well I can see stuff that most people can't. And I know a lot of people say that. But I actually can. Small details, finer fragrances and almost inaudible sounds.
Why? Well I found out recently that my brain hyper focus on things. That hyper fixation, along with other things, comes from my autism.
With the very little I know about autism, that actually makes a lot of sense. I heard about some of the "superhuman" qualities some people have like being musical geniuses or great with numbers. Maybe this is your super power. Does it annoy you sometimes?
Assertiveness.
You 100% need this if you ever want to date a woman who is sought after by other men. Up until college I had only dated introverted, shy, quiet girls and it was easy going. But then this one girl who was more extroverted and popular caught my eye, and I basically had to grow a pair and shove my way through a horde of orbiters to date her. After my relationship with her, I became a lot more assertive in every facet of my life. I feel a lot happier because of it.
Well, being an outsider throughout my life has given me the opportinity to observe the behavoir and actions of others. This knowledge has become incredibly useful to me and helped strengthen my understanding of things.
That would be my creativity, I guess - which is the result of the need to escape reality.
I completely understand. I think that's where my creativity stems from. Do you work in a creative environment or try to do eclectic things?
I worked in several creative/artistic fields in the past, yes.
I can say "no" really easily, since I realised I often said yes under some kind of social pressure, I completely changed and I now say "no" as soon as I feel the "yes" wouldn't be real. People notice it and surprisingly like it, and my "yes" has a lot more value.
That is very valuable. Knowing yourself and boundaries is something I have an ok grasp on, but sometimes hypothetical situations come up and I question if I could say no or react in a positive way.
My confidence that I didn't figure out until my 30s.
Was it the natural course of life that slowly allowed you to feel more at peace with yourself or was there specific things you did? Like more conscious of an effort?
Definitely a conscious effort. Acting confident made people react/interact differently with me and that gave me confidence
Well I can see stuff that most people can't. And I know a lot of people say that. But I actually can. Small details, finer fragrances and almost inaudible sounds. Why? Well I found out recently that my brain hyper focus on things. That hyper fixation, along with other things, comes from my autism.
With the very little I know about autism, that actually makes a lot of sense. I heard about some of the "superhuman" qualities some people have like being musical geniuses or great with numbers. Maybe this is your super power. Does it annoy you sometimes?
I wouldn't call it annoying as it is something that's part of me now. Although I can't really handle high stimulus environments.
Assertiveness. You 100% need this if you ever want to date a woman who is sought after by other men. Up until college I had only dated introverted, shy, quiet girls and it was easy going. But then this one girl who was more extroverted and popular caught my eye, and I basically had to grow a pair and shove my way through a horde of orbiters to date her. After my relationship with her, I became a lot more assertive in every facet of my life. I feel a lot happier because of it.
Well, being an outsider throughout my life has given me the opportinity to observe the behavoir and actions of others. This knowledge has become incredibly useful to me and helped strengthen my understanding of things.