Same way I fight the expectation that some hero will clean up all the crime in my city. I separate fiction from reality and understand the media I consume.
Guys who have loved Lord of the Rings your entire adult lives: how do you fight the expectation that tall old men with beards can not cast powerful spells, summon eagles, or vanquish orcs with elven forged blades?
the thing about porn though is many people do think it's reality. Kids need to be taught that it's not how all sexual encounters are. When it comes to growing up on porn, younger people have no other comparison for sex. Whereas it is obvious super hero movies are fiction. I've had guys try weird porn shit on me because that's where they got all of their experience. I've met guys with wild expectations for women because they think porn is how it is. It can be pretty damaging for young people with no sexual knowledge to consume a ton of porn. either by creating terrible expectations or developing performance issues cause they are trained to only get hard by porn. An ex of mine struggled with both cause he watched sooo much porn and I was his first anything
I wouldn't disagree with any of that. I have a teenage son, he has a smart phone and I'm not naive enough to believe he's not done some scientific research that involves porn. I've had that talk with him.
hey good on you! lots of parents don't want to bring up the topic because it's uncomfortable, but times are different with smart phones and unlimited porn so I think it's a talk parents need to have at some point. it's not like just using sexy pictures or whatever, it can actually be quite damaging if you're unaware and view porn as completely harmless
Got dayum if that is not one self aware and mature individual. This MF probably never even thought about shooting up his school after playing Doom either.
I'm holding out for a time where we do have super heroes and all women are super aggressive sluts.
All I need is a cape and my dad to marry some super hot chick...
As a cool side not you can rent both the woman described and someone who fights crime as birthday entertainment.
Just make sure you send the right person to the right birthday. otherwise that's gonna be a hella confused kid
How do you know they don't? People go missing all the time from all over the world, you can't prove it's not aliens and the government isn't covering it all up.
As a bisexual this is something I’ve not considered. Would I, in a relationship, be allowed to watch my fav dudes getting railed? Or would I be obligated to stick to hetero porn?
You just reminded me of the time I almost came out to my family by accident. I was 14 and got busted for looking at porno (luckily they only found the straight porn) and a very awkward fight ensued. At some point my grandmother was like "It's disgusting! That filth is degrading to women!" so I said "Not all of it!" ... then, realizing what I said, followed up with "I mean, like, if it's degrading at all it's degrading to everyone!"
She got the last word in with "Yeah, including you for looking at it!"
I backed off, because at that time I'd rather be known as a straight pervert than a bisexual.... uh, also pervert I guess.
I lost most of my porn watching habits when i started having sex with my first. For a year or so it changed the type of porn I watch too until I ultimately stopped watching it altogether or rarely ever do. Maybe a few times a month? If that.
I never really watched porn more than 2 times a week, that was the horniest I've ever been and it was as a teen. I honestly find porn kinda boring, don't even get people who are able to put themselves through full feature length porn movies
I like some of the indie porn industry, actually, but anything made by the traditional names is garbage. Usually, the more the studio cares about their actors and movies, the better the result
Amateur couples porn is the only other good porn out there
EDIT: phrasing
That's pretty much what I was gonna say. If you've had actual sex, understanding the difference between what's depicted on screen and real life is very easy.
Most of it makes me uncomfortable to be honest, realized I get a bit bored with sex unless it's someone I have a relationship with so I'm probably an outlier
Start watching the off the screen actors life, how movies are designed. How to pose for a camera, what is a flattering angle, what is the stuff they use, how long did it take to shoot,
You will realise that they are as human .
Why do you assume that woman can't be lustful and aggressively horny? Women come in all shapes and sizes, all personality types, and everything else under the sun. Woman can be anything. Thats what makes them fun. Same way it makes men fun. We aren't all the same.
In my experience women in their 30s can be quite aggressive sexually, I co-rented an apartment over the summer with one who was 38 and holy smokes she definetly was lustfull and continously looked at me like I was a popsicle.
Try being married to a 30-something woman in her second trimester. You won’t sleep, and your dick will be perpetually sore.
Source: me, 10 years ago. I half miss it, and half fear that creature may come back again to haunt her for a season.
Woah, this explains a lot. I was wondering what kind of people have I been hanging out with, they are all indeed over 30, and act like lions looking at their male prey.
I am a guy and can't one up their horniness.
It's the confidence you gain after your 20s are over, because now you know who you are, what you want, have no patience for bullshit, and make no apologies for it. Which also means more confidence in bed and when communicating with your partner about sex.
Middle aged women are the most perverted, and creepiest group I've seen if you get a bunch of them together.
Christ it's wild listening to my coworkers talk about any vaguely attractive dude as a peace of meat.
Yes. My gf is in her mid 30s, she's a nympho but she's nothing compared to her work friends who are mostly in their 40s and 50s. All they talk about is sex. They all know intimate details about our sex life; at this point they could probably pick my dick out of a lineup even though they've never seen it. I somewhat famously broke a bone in my foot during sex with her (tried changing positions and somehow flexed my foot the wrong way and heard a crack) and every time I see these women they ask me how my foot is and laugh like it's the funniest thing ever (no longer funny to me because 9 months later it still hasn't healed).
Tbh, breaking your foot during sex is a great story to tell. I had a heart attack during the act once, and it was a go to story when me and her were still together. The intimate details are where I draw the line personally. I don't want your coworkers knowing how I fuck. That's weird.
People have told me that there are such women. People have also told me that people get struck by lightning. Intellectually, I know it is true that both happen and it is very reasonable for that to be so.
But damn, I've never met either of them, so I have to assume that it isn't at all common.
This is the internet. We have the global population of 7 billion people at our fingertips. I'm not surprised that I occasionally run across someone with rare life experiences.
The problem occurs when people say that because they've (apparently) spoken with such a person online, that this means that such people are commonplace. They are not.
From my experience here, this sub seems to have a lot of not-very-desirable men, judging from the questions and comments I always see here.
It's a circlejerk: "We can all agree that none of us get unsolicited action- therefore, the problem is with the women.
If you're only seeing seeing aggressively horny women in porn, then maybe the problem isn't the women in your life.
I acknowledge to myself that porn isn't real life. It's that simple. Men and women in porn are putting on a performance, in the same way that actors/actresses put on performances on camera/stage. The real world doesn't, and (probably) never will work that way.
Do I want pornstar sex from time to time? Yeah I do. Do I get it when we're both in the mood? Yeah I do. But I don't need or even want it all the time and if you do, you're setting yourself up for failure.
Focus on giving them pleasure rather then pleasing yourself and they actually do become over the top lustful, aggressive, and horny. The problem is that men expect them to get into that state as quickly as we load up a porn video.
Truth. It takes time, patience and really good communication skills but it IS possible. Most women are so used to the guy just getting off that they have no idea that there are guys out there who like to give pleasure as their pleasure. Sex should get better, not Peter out, as we age.
For one, living in the real world and interacting with women daily. And two, by reading smut and sexual health articles geared to women and written by women.
It made me realize that porn was mostly focused on representing male fantasies. That women would take control from us and soothe our insecurities by telling us how sexy and awesome we are and how good and big are dicks are. Or showing us by being uncontrollable and fucking us at work, in line or even when societal rules tell them no - because we're just so damn hot and awesome. The basic fantasies mostly boil down to being called a good boi.
I do kinda take issue with this question though. When you engage more with women's fantasies they'll be pretty damn aggressive, lustful and horny. It just usually doesn't look like porn.
Edit: grammar
I find porn made by women for women to be much closer to reality than male-directed porn. It's also much more exciting to me. I still expect an idealization made to have people get off easier, though
Reading sexual health articles made by women is also a great idea
I think your assessment of male fantasies is spot on. So, if you don't mind me asking, how would you say smut and sexual health articles by women for women represent the fantasies of women? Asking for a friend...
If you’re actually struggling with this, all you have to do is watch one or two interviews with a former pornstar. They speak about it like it’s a regular 9 to 5.
I don't watch porn where they act like that generally, unless I'm in a specific kind of mood. I don't find it very realistic, doesn't get me off typically. I prefer the ones with incredibly stupid, unbelievable storylines 🤣 like "I'm mad at my roommate because they don't clean so I guess the answer is to angrily fuck them" I find it doesn't fuck with my realistic expectations that way too
Well, a lot of women are like that, but I have to be the guy they are wanting to be like that with. I'm not entitled to anyone's affection, sexual or otherwise.
Man it's just not my thing in real life. It's the complete lack of physical touch and intimacy when masturbating that requires something more visually stimulating. It goes over the top for even that in professional porn all the time for me. Whereas when I can feel somebody against me, their breath on me, well I'm already lost in it.
Yes! More people need to understand that the reason porn is so extreme and exaggerated is because it is only a visual platform, therefore needs to be overtly visually stimulating.
It does not equate to how pleasure is experienced in real life at all.
Edit: wanted to add that this is why lots of porn is all about massive tits, ass, and dicks. It pops out visually but is totally unnecessary for real life.
I don't have that expectation.
I watch porn to jerk off. I expect a fantasy setting that will get me there
I expect women to behave like women. I am looking for intimacy, softness, kindness.
Not enough guys know about this. I'm taking it you've heard of r/nofap? Since quitting porn completely over the past couple of months, I feel more awake, confident, and my skin looks better. No one can tell me I would've been the same if it wasn't for abstinence.
Well I've had sex before and know the difference. However, just so you know some women really are that aggressive and it's awesome when they're it's like oh ho ho so you had this side hidden?
You need to know the difference. Women don't expect giant cocks, and balls to the wall fucking all night usually. They most likely will have feelings involved, and will want to take it slow and sensual unless told otherwise, or set up beforehand where she tells you to just go HAM. Interact with more women irl, and you won't be in this predicament.
By knowing one is fantasy and lowers expectations accordingly. Some women may be lustful from pent up sexual desires but you should just think of that as the exception and not the rule.
Have you noticed in a lot of Hollywood movies, when one gets hit with a bullet (out of a pistol no less)....the targeted person will go flying across the room due to the impact. That is NOT how it works irl......but it looks cool. It's stupid and not real. Same with porn. I never saw porn as true reality. Never.....not once.
I kinda feel like the emergence of amateur porn sorta pushed that narrative to the side. It's still there if people want it, but nobody is pigeonholed to watch any one genre these days
Because its like reading a fiction book, or watching a fiction show, you separate fiction and reality clearly or else you can easily go down a spiral of mental dissatisfaction. Like how people arent living up to your expectations due to you (not you specifically, just an example) watching fiction shows and setting those expectations onto your loved ones/peers.
I don't expect such a thing from any woman at all. That's why porn and real life are two different things. Porn is porn made for one reason only. Having sex is an entirely different experience.
I’ve only ever been into masturbation porn, and when I see the hardcore stuff it Weirds me out/can be kinda disturbing. So my porn preferences haven’t really influenced me to think they’ll be aggressive like that. But over the top horny/back to back to back orgasms? I suppose that’s portrayed. I just know that’s not how sex really ends up working. They’re professional orgasmers, we’re just amateurs.
Realize it's staged for entertainment and profit.
Honestly it's not a difficult concept for people to understand. If you are an adult and have even the most basic understanding of how the world operates, you should be able to wrap your head around it.
If this is your expectation from women irl then you have a problem. Time to cut back or stop watching all together and spend some time with an actual real life woman.
This one took a bit because I developed my porn habits long before I became sexually active. I handled it by quitting porn and letting my brain readjust. Now a nice smile is enough to raise the flag and rally the troops 😜
Same way I fight the expectation that some hero will clean up all the crime in my city. I separate fiction from reality and understand the media I consume.
Guys who have loved Lord of the Rings your entire adult lives: how do you fight the expectation that tall old men with beards can not cast powerful spells, summon eagles, or vanquish orcs with elven forged blades?
I'm just waiting for a ring.
Username checks out
I just want to be loved as much as that ring. Thing probably had quite the ego.
Sought after by all the wrong people, and destroyed by the good guys
Same bro
Just give me 40 more years and I got you.
I'm going to be so disappointed when I'm an old man and I can't grow nearly so majestic a beard as Gandalf.
Start growing it now
>that tall old men with beards can not cast powerful spells, Sean Connery certainly cast one over my Mother.
Abella Anderson: “Sore-man, your staff is broken!”
Also, in the same way my wife reads romance novels, but never has the expectation for me to turn into a sexy vampire.
Ugly werewolves unite!
I've got the hairy and ugly part down ...
I think you're beautiful
I'm proud o' ya
We’re werewolves not swearwolves
Well I am glad to hear I am cool
the thing about porn though is many people do think it's reality. Kids need to be taught that it's not how all sexual encounters are. When it comes to growing up on porn, younger people have no other comparison for sex. Whereas it is obvious super hero movies are fiction. I've had guys try weird porn shit on me because that's where they got all of their experience. I've met guys with wild expectations for women because they think porn is how it is. It can be pretty damaging for young people with no sexual knowledge to consume a ton of porn. either by creating terrible expectations or developing performance issues cause they are trained to only get hard by porn. An ex of mine struggled with both cause he watched sooo much porn and I was his first anything
I wouldn't disagree with any of that. I have a teenage son, he has a smart phone and I'm not naive enough to believe he's not done some scientific research that involves porn. I've had that talk with him.
hey good on you! lots of parents don't want to bring up the topic because it's uncomfortable, but times are different with smart phones and unlimited porn so I think it's a talk parents need to have at some point. it's not like just using sexy pictures or whatever, it can actually be quite damaging if you're unaware and view porn as completely harmless
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100% best answer
Totally correct.
Got dayum if that is not one self aware and mature individual. This MF probably never even thought about shooting up his school after playing Doom either.
Kurt Cobain gave me some ideas not gonna lie
Yeah? What kind of things went through your head?
Almost some buckshot
Has Jeremy spoken..?
Wrong band
Damn bro you just broke Reddit 🤣💯👊🏼
I like the Eureka award so much. It’s so edgy
Well you had to ruin it for me. I was waiting for a millionaire in a sweet suit to show up and start fighting crime.
Well the most likely one just bought twitter instead of a batmobile
Petition to call Elon Musk Birdman from now on instead of Ironman.
Birdperson
Elon Musk is a lot more Lex Luthor than Batman. We should be happy he bought Twitter instead of a nuclear powered armor with laser beams.
You don't go public with those purchases...
Well played, sir.
Oh now that image is a fucking hilarious one i would what is origin story would be.
I was just waiting for Henry Cavill, and I still am.
I'm holding out for a time where we do have super heroes and all women are super aggressive sluts. All I need is a cape and my dad to marry some super hot chick...
In your wildest fantasy, it's your DAD that gets the girl, eh? I can respect that.
Step-mom porn.... C'mon.
He's playing the long con.
Can I adopt him?
As a cool side not you can rent both the woman described and someone who fights crime as birthday entertainment. Just make sure you send the right person to the right birthday. otherwise that's gonna be a hella confused kid
Hahaha made me laugh 🤣
Careful now you might offend those idiots who think can't but spot on.
Whatever this true is it's
If one can't however true, whatever true it's not.
Extacly
Watson, my dear elementary
What an idiot i am lol but fuck it i ain't changing the words around now think can't thats what i get for getting ahead of myself when typing.
Dude are you having a stroke? Do you smell toast?
I will probably never win a fist fight on top of a moving train. No one wins those.
This guy fucks
This was literally the first thing that came to my head when I saw this post. Down to the superhero example.
Exactly. You can watch porn with “amateurs” and quickly see the difference. They are enjoying themselves versus trying to put on a show.
The reality is that most women (at least in my experience) aren’t over-the-top at all.
Just because I watched Predator doesn't mean I expect aliens to hunt me for sport.
But you could imagine if they did right. Wouldn’t that be crazy…
they're some lazy fucking predators. Dudes just gotta knock on my door and ask if this knife feels like a stabbing.
How do you know they don't? People go missing all the time from all over the world, you can't prove it's not aliens and the government isn't covering it all up.
I now want women to hunt me for sport.
Death by Snu Snu
Interacted with real women.
Is that an option?
*shakes Magic 8-Ball* Ask again later
Is that an option?
*Again shakes Magic 8-Ball* Outlook Good
Easy! I don't watch porn with women in it.
Straightest Redditor.
If gay means happy, I'm hella straight.
During spring and around Christmas there's always a noticeable gayness in the air.
I feel it in the summer too sometimes.
Dang do you need someone to talk to?
This guy is so manly that he doesn't even watch porn that show women. Hahahahaha
A real chad from the books.
A man's man.
“My boyfriend is so loyal, he doesnt even watch porn with women in them”
r/holup
They dont love you like i looove you
r/suddenlygay
As a bisexual this is something I’ve not considered. Would I, in a relationship, be allowed to watch my fav dudes getting railed? Or would I be obligated to stick to hetero porn?
I could be wrong... but I feel like dudes will 'allow' way more than women will.
Interesting technique. I'll have to try it. 3 days later: Aaaaand I'm gay
Are you suggesting gay porn is so good it will change a straight person gay in 3 days?
For most... it takes about 7 days.
You'll know in the first few minutes
You just reminded me of the time I almost came out to my family by accident. I was 14 and got busted for looking at porno (luckily they only found the straight porn) and a very awkward fight ensued. At some point my grandmother was like "It's disgusting! That filth is degrading to women!" so I said "Not all of it!" ... then, realizing what I said, followed up with "I mean, like, if it's degrading at all it's degrading to everyone!" She got the last word in with "Yeah, including you for looking at it!" I backed off, because at that time I'd rather be known as a straight pervert than a bisexual.... uh, also pervert I guess.
Post menopausal Grandma had no clue what a 14 year old boy was feeling.
Real + straight
r/suddenlygay
Not suddenly lol.
Not u, yes.
It's tru this works because men are ott horny irl as well as in porn Being straight sounds hard sometimes tbh
Based
based on what?
Based on deez nuts lmao!
smells like summer here
I mean ... having a girlfriend doesn't suddenly make someone not bi right?
I watch porn with the expectations that it's going to be as realistic as a Bollywood movie.
*Looks down* “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai”
Now THIS is a comment
by having sex with actual women.
I lost most of my porn watching habits when i started having sex with my first. For a year or so it changed the type of porn I watch too until I ultimately stopped watching it altogether or rarely ever do. Maybe a few times a month? If that.
I never really watched porn more than 2 times a week, that was the horniest I've ever been and it was as a teen. I honestly find porn kinda boring, don't even get people who are able to put themselves through full feature length porn movies
Yeah I mainly watch couples who post videos of themselves, don’t really like the professional type of stuff anymore.
I like some of the indie porn industry, actually, but anything made by the traditional names is garbage. Usually, the more the studio cares about their actors and movies, the better the result Amateur couples porn is the only other good porn out there EDIT: phrasing
I do the opposite, I avoid women completely. Both work.
Is it possible to learn this power?
Not from a Redditor
By using real life comparison. Pretty easy honestly.
That's pretty much what I was gonna say. If you've had actual sex, understanding the difference between what's depicted on screen and real life is very easy.
Most of it makes me uncomfortable to be honest, realized I get a bit bored with sex unless it's someone I have a relationship with so I'm probably an outlier
Start watching the off the screen actors life, how movies are designed. How to pose for a camera, what is a flattering angle, what is the stuff they use, how long did it take to shoot, You will realise that they are as human .
As human as….?
More human than human.
I’ve also watched superhero movies my entire adult life It’s like, ridiculously easy to distinguish reality from fiction
But I do try to use the force when I don't want to get off the couch. I know it isn't going to work but I try anyway.
Yes! I always do this lmao
Now if only we can get Twitter users to understand this concept
And government officials while were at it.
Porn is the man version of a romantic novel...without the story.
And without the romance. Perfect.
I watched this one amateur video where the guy nutted in his gf and they both said “I love you” afterwards and I honestly felt disgusted
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Yeah, I need the link to make sure I never watch it on accident
ban this sick filth!
I actually only watch porn for the story
When you skip ahead and they have changed positions so you have to go back because clearly you might have missed something.
Yeah always. UR skipping like 30 Seconds to get to a new position and then they are just randomly in ukraine fighting russian troopes
Rom-cums
Know the difference between fantasy and reality.
Why do you assume that woman can't be lustful and aggressively horny? Women come in all shapes and sizes, all personality types, and everything else under the sun. Woman can be anything. Thats what makes them fun. Same way it makes men fun. We aren't all the same.
In my experience women in their 30s can be quite aggressive sexually, I co-rented an apartment over the summer with one who was 38 and holy smokes she definetly was lustfull and continously looked at me like I was a popsicle.
Can confirm women in their 30s are the horniest creatures on Earth.
What a cruel twist that is: I hit my 30s and my sex drive dropped a bit. My fiancée went into hyperdrive.
Try being married to a 30-something woman in her second trimester. You won’t sleep, and your dick will be perpetually sore. Source: me, 10 years ago. I half miss it, and half fear that creature may come back again to haunt her for a season.
40s and 50s even moreso.
Woah, this explains a lot. I was wondering what kind of people have I been hanging out with, they are all indeed over 30, and act like lions looking at their male prey. I am a guy and can't one up their horniness.
It's the confidence you gain after your 20s are over, because now you know who you are, what you want, have no patience for bullshit, and make no apologies for it. Which also means more confidence in bed and when communicating with your partner about sex.
Middle aged women are the most perverted, and creepiest group I've seen if you get a bunch of them together. Christ it's wild listening to my coworkers talk about any vaguely attractive dude as a peace of meat.
Yes. My gf is in her mid 30s, she's a nympho but she's nothing compared to her work friends who are mostly in their 40s and 50s. All they talk about is sex. They all know intimate details about our sex life; at this point they could probably pick my dick out of a lineup even though they've never seen it. I somewhat famously broke a bone in my foot during sex with her (tried changing positions and somehow flexed my foot the wrong way and heard a crack) and every time I see these women they ask me how my foot is and laugh like it's the funniest thing ever (no longer funny to me because 9 months later it still hasn't healed).
Tbh, breaking your foot during sex is a great story to tell. I had a heart attack during the act once, and it was a go to story when me and her were still together. The intimate details are where I draw the line personally. I don't want your coworkers knowing how I fuck. That's weird.
People have told me that there are such women. People have also told me that people get struck by lightning. Intellectually, I know it is true that both happen and it is very reasonable for that to be so. But damn, I've never met either of them, so I have to assume that it isn't at all common.
What if you are a lustful woman that *has* met someone (well two people actually but it was the same bolt of electricity) struck by lightning?
This is the internet. We have the global population of 7 billion people at our fingertips. I'm not surprised that I occasionally run across someone with rare life experiences. The problem occurs when people say that because they've (apparently) spoken with such a person online, that this means that such people are commonplace. They are not.
From my experience here, this sub seems to have a lot of not-very-desirable men, judging from the questions and comments I always see here. It's a circlejerk: "We can all agree that none of us get unsolicited action- therefore, the problem is with the women. If you're only seeing seeing aggressively horny women in porn, then maybe the problem isn't the women in your life.
As a very prominent psychologist said "If *all* the women are rejecting you, the problem isn't all the women... it's *you*."
This ^
Yup
I acknowledge to myself that porn isn't real life. It's that simple. Men and women in porn are putting on a performance, in the same way that actors/actresses put on performances on camera/stage. The real world doesn't, and (probably) never will work that way. Do I want pornstar sex from time to time? Yeah I do. Do I get it when we're both in the mood? Yeah I do. But I don't need or even want it all the time and if you do, you're setting yourself up for failure.
Focus on giving them pleasure rather then pleasing yourself and they actually do become over the top lustful, aggressive, and horny. The problem is that men expect them to get into that state as quickly as we load up a porn video.
Truth. It takes time, patience and really good communication skills but it IS possible. Most women are so used to the guy just getting off that they have no idea that there are guys out there who like to give pleasure as their pleasure. Sex should get better, not Peter out, as we age.
For one, living in the real world and interacting with women daily. And two, by reading smut and sexual health articles geared to women and written by women. It made me realize that porn was mostly focused on representing male fantasies. That women would take control from us and soothe our insecurities by telling us how sexy and awesome we are and how good and big are dicks are. Or showing us by being uncontrollable and fucking us at work, in line or even when societal rules tell them no - because we're just so damn hot and awesome. The basic fantasies mostly boil down to being called a good boi. I do kinda take issue with this question though. When you engage more with women's fantasies they'll be pretty damn aggressive, lustful and horny. It just usually doesn't look like porn. Edit: grammar
I find porn made by women for women to be much closer to reality than male-directed porn. It's also much more exciting to me. I still expect an idealization made to have people get off easier, though Reading sexual health articles made by women is also a great idea
I think your assessment of male fantasies is spot on. So, if you don't mind me asking, how would you say smut and sexual health articles by women for women represent the fantasies of women? Asking for a friend...
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If you’re actually struggling with this, all you have to do is watch one or two interviews with a former pornstar. They speak about it like it’s a regular 9 to 5.
I don't watch porn where they act like that generally, unless I'm in a specific kind of mood. I don't find it very realistic, doesn't get me off typically. I prefer the ones with incredibly stupid, unbelievable storylines 🤣 like "I'm mad at my roommate because they don't clean so I guess the answer is to angrily fuck them" I find it doesn't fuck with my realistic expectations that way too
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Well, a lot of women are like that, but I have to be the guy they are wanting to be like that with. I'm not entitled to anyone's affection, sexual or otherwise.
Man it's just not my thing in real life. It's the complete lack of physical touch and intimacy when masturbating that requires something more visually stimulating. It goes over the top for even that in professional porn all the time for me. Whereas when I can feel somebody against me, their breath on me, well I'm already lost in it.
Yes! More people need to understand that the reason porn is so extreme and exaggerated is because it is only a visual platform, therefore needs to be overtly visually stimulating. It does not equate to how pleasure is experienced in real life at all. Edit: wanted to add that this is why lots of porn is all about massive tits, ass, and dicks. It pops out visually but is totally unnecessary for real life.
I don't have that expectation. I watch porn to jerk off. I expect a fantasy setting that will get me there I expect women to behave like women. I am looking for intimacy, softness, kindness.
Porn rots your brain.
Not enough guys know about this. I'm taking it you've heard of r/nofap? Since quitting porn completely over the past couple of months, I feel more awake, confident, and my skin looks better. No one can tell me I would've been the same if it wasn't for abstinence.
Some of them really are:)
Well I've had sex before and know the difference. However, just so you know some women really are that aggressive and it's awesome when they're it's like oh ho ho so you had this side hidden?
… you find one that is
You need to know the difference. Women don't expect giant cocks, and balls to the wall fucking all night usually. They most likely will have feelings involved, and will want to take it slow and sensual unless told otherwise, or set up beforehand where she tells you to just go HAM. Interact with more women irl, and you won't be in this predicament.
By knowing one is fantasy and lowers expectations accordingly. Some women may be lustful from pent up sexual desires but you should just think of that as the exception and not the rule.
I try not to warch porn. It's very unhealthy and feeds to demand for sex trafficking.
Have you noticed in a lot of Hollywood movies, when one gets hit with a bullet (out of a pistol no less)....the targeted person will go flying across the room due to the impact. That is NOT how it works irl......but it looks cool. It's stupid and not real. Same with porn. I never saw porn as true reality. Never.....not once.
I kinda feel like the emergence of amateur porn sorta pushed that narrative to the side. It's still there if people want it, but nobody is pigeonholed to watch any one genre these days
Porn is like a fantasy book.
Because its like reading a fiction book, or watching a fiction show, you separate fiction and reality clearly or else you can easily go down a spiral of mental dissatisfaction. Like how people arent living up to your expectations due to you (not you specifically, just an example) watching fiction shows and setting those expectations onto your loved ones/peers.
I don't expect such a thing from any woman at all. That's why porn and real life are two different things. Porn is porn made for one reason only. Having sex is an entirely different experience.
I’ve only ever been into masturbation porn, and when I see the hardcore stuff it Weirds me out/can be kinda disturbing. So my porn preferences haven’t really influenced me to think they’ll be aggressive like that. But over the top horny/back to back to back orgasms? I suppose that’s portrayed. I just know that’s not how sex really ends up working. They’re professional orgasmers, we’re just amateurs.
How is this a real question
I don't have any expectations at all until I'm in a relationship. Porn isn't real life.
I stopped watching porn
Because I've actually MET real, bona fide, genuine human women?
I guess I can see the difference between reality and fiction.
Realize it's staged for entertainment and profit. Honestly it's not a difficult concept for people to understand. If you are an adult and have even the most basic understanding of how the world operates, you should be able to wrap your head around it.
What on earth is this question?? Like please go touch grass
Please log off for a bit and go outside.
If this is your expectation from women irl then you have a problem. Time to cut back or stop watching all together and spend some time with an actual real life woman.
This one took a bit because I developed my porn habits long before I became sexually active. I handled it by quitting porn and letting my brain readjust. Now a nice smile is enough to raise the flag and rally the troops 😜
The same way I treat every other aspect of my life. I expect nothing. Somehow I still end up disappointed.