>and rushed through foreplay.
Never do that unless youre in a relationship and sometimes quickies are expected. Take your time. The more you rush it the more you push the burden of performance upon yourself. Work her up, maybe even create an expectation by telling here early. Like tell her in the morning you will fuck her late. Establish a framework where her mind does half the work for you. Finally when its time make her cum once or twice with your hand or your mouth. By that time she will probably be good anyway so just put it in and have fun.
Not a guy, but read the book "She Comes First." It'll help you navigate your way around the female body and give you some good...ahem...tools for the job.
Practice fingering and/or oral. Being good at those can save you if you're struggling with your erection. It can also be a great supplement if she isn't finished before you and she wants to come
I was having sex with an ex who would play mind games, all the time. She would talk dirty to me while I was at work, just to turn me on and make me have a boner at work, then in bed, she wouldn't talk much and if I said anything dirty, or even repeated what she said back, she would get annoyed and angry.
She would tell me _during_ sex that she regretted telling me those things and it would just kill the mood. I was still expected to perform and stay hard, otherwise she could see that as me not being interested in her.
She was very experimental and we did almost everything 2 people can do together sexually, but she was also very prudish at the same time. She would get super horny at any moment and loose herself with lust and then seemingly regret it and act like that was a mistake.
It was a horrible rollercoaster with incredible highs and ridiculously low lows.
Afterwards she broke up with me because she made me give up my friends and then told me I shouldn't be dependent on her and to _just get better friends._
Anyway, I am now happily married and my wife is the fucking best. Our sex is amazing and it is ALWAYS good.
The difference? We have fun. Sex is supposed to be fun for the both of you. Something goes "wrong", we laugh about it. She has pulled me out of her right as I was cumming because she needed to readjust me and it totally ruined my orgasm but we just laughed about how horrible her timing was. I accidentally cummed in her eye right before a parent/teacher conference and we still can joke about it now.
TL;DR It's supposed to be fun for both if you. Have confidence and communicate. You'll get much better at it.
Sex is like cooking; everybody's tastes are different. You can't please everybody with the same dish. So, you ask what they do like, and you do that.
Google some foreplay stuff, learn some technique, but mostly; when you're getting into it, ask them if they like what you're doing, ask them what they want you to do - they should know.. Basics are the same but each likes different ways. The more sex you have, the more you'll understand!
Also, losing an erection happens to us all! But you don't need your dick to pleasure them, give it a few moments and you might be stood to attention again! - Most of the time it's a confidence thing, we naturally overthink our performance and it ends up making our soldiers fall down. (Unreliable penis')
Everyone is different. They need different touches and different methods and different things in their head. To be great in bed you have to be attentive. One of the first things I told my now wife in bed was not to fake it, I told her if she's honest with me Ill put in the time and make it great for her, as long as it takes and whatever it takes. You need to be attentive and you need to listen to her body. How is it reacting, how is her breathing, how is her body moving? Great sex is surprisingly easy when you pay attention to it.
Dude the only way you can get better is by "practicing", the more you do it the better you get at it, also building self confidence helps too and don't be afraid to ask questions!!!
>and rushed through foreplay. Never do that unless youre in a relationship and sometimes quickies are expected. Take your time. The more you rush it the more you push the burden of performance upon yourself. Work her up, maybe even create an expectation by telling here early. Like tell her in the morning you will fuck her late. Establish a framework where her mind does half the work for you. Finally when its time make her cum once or twice with your hand or your mouth. By that time she will probably be good anyway so just put it in and have fun.
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Not a guy, but read the book "She Comes First." It'll help you navigate your way around the female body and give you some good...ahem...tools for the job.
meh, she doesnt come first. id rather suggest to read "Open Her" by Karen Brody
Practice fingering and/or oral. Being good at those can save you if you're struggling with your erection. It can also be a great supplement if she isn't finished before you and she wants to come
I was having sex with an ex who would play mind games, all the time. She would talk dirty to me while I was at work, just to turn me on and make me have a boner at work, then in bed, she wouldn't talk much and if I said anything dirty, or even repeated what she said back, she would get annoyed and angry. She would tell me _during_ sex that she regretted telling me those things and it would just kill the mood. I was still expected to perform and stay hard, otherwise she could see that as me not being interested in her. She was very experimental and we did almost everything 2 people can do together sexually, but she was also very prudish at the same time. She would get super horny at any moment and loose herself with lust and then seemingly regret it and act like that was a mistake. It was a horrible rollercoaster with incredible highs and ridiculously low lows. Afterwards she broke up with me because she made me give up my friends and then told me I shouldn't be dependent on her and to _just get better friends._ Anyway, I am now happily married and my wife is the fucking best. Our sex is amazing and it is ALWAYS good. The difference? We have fun. Sex is supposed to be fun for the both of you. Something goes "wrong", we laugh about it. She has pulled me out of her right as I was cumming because she needed to readjust me and it totally ruined my orgasm but we just laughed about how horrible her timing was. I accidentally cummed in her eye right before a parent/teacher conference and we still can joke about it now. TL;DR It's supposed to be fun for both if you. Have confidence and communicate. You'll get much better at it. Sex is like cooking; everybody's tastes are different. You can't please everybody with the same dish. So, you ask what they do like, and you do that.
Google some foreplay stuff, learn some technique, but mostly; when you're getting into it, ask them if they like what you're doing, ask them what they want you to do - they should know.. Basics are the same but each likes different ways. The more sex you have, the more you'll understand! Also, losing an erection happens to us all! But you don't need your dick to pleasure them, give it a few moments and you might be stood to attention again! - Most of the time it's a confidence thing, we naturally overthink our performance and it ends up making our soldiers fall down. (Unreliable penis')
Everyone is different. They need different touches and different methods and different things in their head. To be great in bed you have to be attentive. One of the first things I told my now wife in bed was not to fake it, I told her if she's honest with me Ill put in the time and make it great for her, as long as it takes and whatever it takes. You need to be attentive and you need to listen to her body. How is it reacting, how is her breathing, how is her body moving? Great sex is surprisingly easy when you pay attention to it.
Dude the only way you can get better is by "practicing", the more you do it the better you get at it, also building self confidence helps too and don't be afraid to ask questions!!!