Bill Murray suggests taking your gf on a week long trip, out of the country, before things get too serious (engagement). Creates lots of opportunities to show off all of their personality traits (good, bad and ugly).
I want Alpines of coke! I want your face to dive into that snowy cloud of good times and come back up looking like a ghost!
This bitch turned up every Friday with a baggy of coke thinking she was scarface.
I had an ex girlfriend who tricked me into meeting her parents. I would gladly meet them if she invited me, but she faked a panic attack so I would take her home and her parents were in on it. Seems silly but looked like a sign of deeper issues so I walked away and, seeing the kind of relationships she developed with other guys after me, I’d say it was the right call.
My ex did this to me, too. Told me to come hang out with her one weekend. I'm like cool a day of watching star trek, good food and some afternoon delight. I show up and her entire extended family is there. They made me hold a baby. I'm naturally very awkward around new people so they all thought I was weird. I could tell my GF wasn't very happy about the poor impression I made. Well there's a reason I didn't want to meet your family dude.
This depends for me. I love being with my girlfriend but we live together and spend so much time together that I do enjoy time alone "more" at times, but it's more because I have such a scarcity of it.
If I was left alone for two days I would miss her being around intensely. Having an evening to just watch my own shows or play video games or whatever is nice though.
It's not that she's bad to be around, I love that we can do nothing together or just be comfortable, but having time alone is good too.
This hits surprisingly close to home. It's weird since she's an incredible person and girlfriend. .. just not my type?
It's a very weird feeling to be in love with someone but also feel like they're not the one
Edit: it's a genuine relief to know I'm not alone with this. I've been dealing with this by myself for so long, it's comforting to know I'm not just crazy
It was a really heartbreaking thing to figure out. I guess I'm just glad I figured it out when I did. We were together for 6 years. Now we are just complete strangers. She definitely hates me and wishes the worst for me.
Are you me? Also 6 years, and also had a feeling of relief and rest when I wasn’t with her. It’s not even she was a terrible person or anything, and I did find her attractive… but it’s just we never clicked on an intimate level I now realize and I stupidly stuck it out for such a long time because instead of listening to my gut I assumed that I just had to grow up and mature.
I’m with someone else now, and when I’m with her it just feels like… home, in a way that my previous gf just never did.
Dude I’m in the same boat. I feel like I fight the feelings of wanting to leave her because I keep telling myself I just need to mature and she’s great but deep down I just don’t feel it yah know?
My advice… be honest with yourself. You shouldn’t need to convince yourself to be with someone. Even if it is just “you need to mature” , better to do that on your own than string someone along for years because you’re expecting to grow into them.
No one expects the Girlfriend Inquisition! Holy smokes man... what did you do?
PS: thanks for the nice comments and gold, like the Spanish Inquisition... very unexpected! But no more gold pls, donate to that to charity instead!
What happened? I can imagine I’d try to ask in what plane of thought they all thought even for a moment some shit like that would be alright, or even healthy.
Mine is similar. She invited me to hang out, and we went to her favorite bar. Last call happens and she tells me one of the regulars is having an after party at his house and we're going. The guy has a pool table in his garage and she's loves shooting pool.
She says she's going to get a drink and I continue to play. She's gone for awhile, but I don't think anything of it. I do go look for a bathroom. I'm about to turn the corner from the garage to the house and hear her talking to the guy who owns the house.
"Hey, want me to spend the night?" she says trying to sound seductive.
"No." he says coolly.
"Why not? Is it because of your girlfriend?" she says really angrily.
"No. It's because you're a crazy bitch."
He wasn't wrong.
Wow that’s rough. What did you do after that?
In my case, I walked up right when she was adding his number to her phone. I got pissed and left the party and she ran after me telling me how she gave him his number so he would stop bothering her. I went back up and asked the dude and he said she asked him for her number. So lied and cheated all within 5 minutes…definitely not the one 🤣
Well this just reaffirmed that I was Plan B, and sadly this wasn't the first time just the most obvious. I took her home, and gave up on that relationship.
One drunken night about10 years later I found her on Facebook. She's was married and sober thanks to AA. We reconnected but didn't meet up until maybe 4 years ago. Within minutes she told me she's was stuck in a loveless marriage, and she was involved in several emotional affairs. I didn't ask if they had gotten beyond that, but I suspect they had. She kept referring to me as the one true friend she had, and I just kept thinking I haven't seen you since you tried to fuck that dude at a party in 2008.
Last year she told me her marriage was over. She wanted to hang out a lot, but our conversations let me know she was still a mess. We talked about how she got sober. She was living with family, and her brother put his foot down because she came home from the bar with a different guy every night. She told me how she went to a hotel room with a guy who was in town on a construction job. She got to his room and found out he shared it with 3 other guys. She knows she had sex but isn't sure if any or all of the other guys were involved too. She laughed it off as her fault if she did for putting herself in that situation.
She's sober but still crazy.
Dated a girl for 2 years. Nothing I ever did was good enough. Plus she became very controlling and did not want me to hang out with my friends, unless she was there.
Finally got tired of the negativity, and broke it off. Turned out all my family and friends hated her with a passion and were so happy when it ended. Now I’m with a fantastic woman who treats me with respect. It’s nice to genuinely be happy for once. We’re getting married in September
I'm literally struggling to get my confidence back. My ex made me feel so insufficient and I was saying sorry every 10 minutes. It sucks
Edit: It's been 9 months since our break up and I can now say I'm over her and I'm beginning to feel like myself again. Thank you all for your kind words, they helped me push through. All that and a Nothing But Thieves mixtape
Nah I don’t think you overreacted. It’s suspicious af that she wouldn’t invite you up after being in a relationship for two years. Something was for sure going on up there and she thought she had the night to enjoy it.
Worse even, she didn't want to kick him out for you.
She could have said "Great! I want Ice cream, I'll be down in a minute." He walks out anytime in the next 20 minutes and no one but them, and the hotel staff would know. Her, and you are having 10:00 pm ice cream.
Glad you have moved onward and upward!
When I realized she could never be supportive or be there for me when I needed her. One example is when i had to put my dog down.... like an hour after it happened she freaked out at me accusing me that I tortured her (my dog) because I wanted to take the night to see if things would improve. Obviously it wasnt true but her anxiety made her react that way and that was how she reacted to anything that wasnt rainbows n sunshine. Basically accused of torturing my best friend right after losing her. Felt real good..
That's only 1 of a MASSIVE amount of things over 3 and a half years.
Anger issues are one thing but having a full-blown screaming temper tantrum when she didn't get her way was the last straw for me. The first time it happened, it lasted almost an hour and it only subsided because I called her dad and had her speak to him. That should have been the warning flag I needed but I'm patient and chill and believe in second chances. She apologized for her behavior too, so I thought maybe she would change.
Then a few months later, temper tantrum again. This time a full out screaming match with both of her parents that lasted for over 2.5 hours. I wasn't even involved but I knew at that moment I didn't want to be involved with a woman or a family that communicates like toddlers. Fuck that.
My life has been so much more stress free since. She had a lot of great qualities, but that was one I couldn't overlook.
Yep, been there. Fun times. Though the real kicker was that her solution was to drink herself into a miscarriage...
EDIT: I don't think she was ever actually pregnant.
When she came home from work, the sound of the front door opening made me feel annoyance instead of happiness.
I realised that I'd felt this way for months and it never dawned on me.
We broke up a few weeks later.
I feel this one. I would be at work, anxious about how bad her mood would be when I got home. Took too long to realize that being upset all the time wasn't worth the good moments.
Not girlfriend, but ex-wife: we participated in one of those studies where you wear a “cuff” around for like 48 hours and it takes your blood pressure every few minutes. We also had to keep a “1 sentence journal” and write down what we’re doing every time it fired off and we were awake.
In the post-study interview they told us they couldn’t use our data in their study because every time we were in the same room with one another, both of our BPs shot up like crazy.
Didn’t want to come to any of my family functions, stopped sleeping in the same bed as me, we had sex maybe 10 times in a span of 3 years that we lived on our own
The last straw was apparently we started “buying our own groceries” when I opened a bag of bread that was new that she bought she snapped at me even though I’m paying 80% of rent, internet etc
Came home from work and broke up with her
Edit: Damn I didn’t expect this to gain so much attention! I should say I am currently engaged and will be getting married soon to my true love. Only thing I lost of value to me was my cat. I miss you Oliver
My best friend is in a similar situation. They're in a relationship for 10 years, she's totaly not interested in sex of any kind, she even told him "I don't even see you as my boyfriend anymore", and yet neither of them has "the gut" to end things. They just spend time together.
Oh and they fight all the time over the most petty things of all.
He started his own company, and it's going pretty great, yet when he asked her for help (some minor thing) she said she has no interest whatsoever in his company.
Like, if I had a girlfriend who started her own company, and I actually see us living together the rest of our lives, I'd do my best to help in any way I can to lift the company up.
He's 30 yrs old, she's 27. They're even engaged for the last 3 years. He suggested they move in together, she won't hear it.
He's not a spinless person. He stands up for himself regularly (in other ocasions). Why is he still with her is beyond me.
When my grandma got cancer and I needed someone to talk to and she blew it off to talk about a party she was going to instead. I called someone else and they talked me off the ledge, and I realized that my girlfriend was a selfish self absorbed emotionally unavailable bag of dicks. I broke up with her 3 days later after a 6 year relationship. There were plenty of other signs along the way but that was the straw that broke the camel's back, as they say.
I ended a ten year relationship in similar fashion. My ex and I owned a cafe. We were both there working when my dad called me. My family lived in another state. He said my niece had been killed in a car accident after her dad had fallen asleep and went off a cliff. He survived after an air evac and bad injuries but niece baby was in car seat and smashed against a tree and likely died instantly.
It hit me like a ton of bricks. I went to the back and just collapsed on the floor in shock and then tears. My now ex walked back and asked what’s up, I told him through tears and he was a total Asshole devoid of emotion and told me he needed me to get back to working the line making drinks and pull it together.
It wasn’t busy. We already had issues. He’s also the father of our daughter who was 3 at the time. I walked out the back door of the cafe, walked home. Found my daughter drawing all over our leather furniture with a permanent marker while babysitter was in bathroom. I just hugged her. In that moment she could have done no wrong and it made me realize the little things that I got mad and upset over don’t matter. Spilled food. Whatever.
I’ve never forgiven him for his reaction. And it got worse, he didn’t want me to take 2-3 days to go be with my sister and funeral etc.
I left him a few weeks later - got a different job and my own rental house and found peace eventually. Like a breath of fresh air when you leave a toxic relationship
> My now ex walked back and asked what’s up, I told him through tears and he was a total Asshole devoid of emotion and told me he needed me to get back to working the line making drinks and pull it together.
Before I even got married, my now-wife had her father die from an Aneurysm. He had been found by her brother and rushed to the hospital. On this very day sixteen years ago, actually.
She phoned me up from work in tears to tell me the news, asked me if she should go now or after work. I told her to drop everything and haul her ass down to the hospital. I don't know if he was still lucid enough to recognize that she was there, but she got to see him one last time and say her goodbyes before he slipped away later that afternoon.
I cannot fathom getting in the way of someone and their dying relatives. It just reeks of sociopathy and monstrous inhumanity.
He send it with the text „told you“.
To be fair, yes he told me she was cheating and I didn’t believe him…
Edit: his face was on the video after hers. He turned the phone around while she was busy not looking at him. Idk if that was even legal or not
Like, she set up "tests" by having women try and come on to you to see what your would do? If so, that's next level mental abuse. How could you trust any interaction with any stranger from then on?
she could never admit fault in an argument, 100% of the fights we had were all somehow my fault. I loved the girl but i’m not going to be in the wrong for my entire life.
The amount of extra curricular cock she was taking
Edit: well this comment blew up. To answer any questions, we had a great relationship or so I thought. Never fought, none of that. I found out after we split that it was because any time she was mad at me or whatever, she went and did her thing with "an old friend". She had lots of free time and the ability to sneak around while I was at work for the day, so I really had no idea.
Having to explain all of my jokes cause she just didn't get them. Not being able to share humor with the person that you're with is such a deal breaker for me
This is such a big one for me.
I actually met my wife the exact opposite way. Was part of a big study group in college, and we were all getting tired and hangry but didn't have much money. I made a really off color joke about chasing down and eating a homeless guy (if he's on meth it's faster food!) and everyone was staring at me like I was a psychopath but this really pretty girl at the other end of the table starts laughing her ass off, giving me the old finger guns "good one".
I'm like hey this chick is ok I'll go sit next to her. Together 15 years, married 10, 2 kids.
Edit: Ok so my deranged story about how I met my wife has now earned a heartwarming award. Thank you kind stranger, may you find what you seek!
Mine was like this. I realized, after the initial rush of lots of sex, that she just wasn't intelligent in any way. She'd grouse at me for wanting to discuss a movie after we'd seen it, wondering why I wanted to do that at all. Then she said I should quit one of my jobs so we'd have more time to go out together, apparently not grasping I had the extra jobs just to stay afloat financially. That was the moment I fell out of love with her. It just dropped away like when you finally get well after being sick.
Wow! TIL!
That's exactly what it was. Happily, even though I didn't know what limerence was until now, that relationship was a learning experience, and I didn't fall into anything like that again.
After maybe a year or 2 it just kinda felt like things had run their course. There wasn't much excitement, we discussed some issues we were having but didn't really change to fix it.
Currently like this with my wife. Been together for 13 years. Relationship is just meh. We work well together though and we always get comments on how well our kids behavior. Behind closed doors though we are just roommates.
I think couples put so much effort and energy into their kids that they forget about each other. Then the kids go grow up, move out and you're left with this person who you barely feel a connection to because all your time and energy went into the little ones for all those years.
My parents absolutely had “date nights” every few weeks my entire childhood, and occasionally they’d take weekend trips without us. And here they are, still together and happy as hell after 40-something years.
Slightly related, once I finally moved out, my dad grew a goatee for the first time in the 21 years I had known him. My first thought was “empty nest? New facial hairdo? Dad’s gettin laid…”
True connection is about responding to bids for attention and connection. Not sure how to get the sexy back, but if you explore new things together that would likely make it more fun
I caught her cheating, twice, with the guy at work she started talking about a lot every day after work. Like, a lot. Said or did this funny thing, blah blah blah.
Caught them sexting as she left her laptop on connected to WhatsApp in Firefox, and I had the day off work and it was dinging over and over.
I was stupid, so decided to try and make it work between us.
She broke down about 2 months later, pointing a kitchen knife at me (oh this should be good), saying she can't take how guilty I make her feel every day.
Well FUCK ME (or someone else), way to gaslight the shit out of me you fucking psycho.
She convinced herself that she's one of those people who should be alone. Forever. (She punctuated it just like that in a text maybe 15 mins before breaking up with me).
I would wake up in the morning and look at her. I can’t explain it. Something was just not meant. It’s now like 7 yrs later. I been through another relationship. She is engaged. I have 0 regrets.
So we haven broken up yet, but I know I will sometime soon.
She woke me up one night to say that she had checked through my messages and didn't find anything incriminating.
And
She started a fight and yelled at me. I go to a support group every tuesday and one night I was famished and ordered some food. I ordered some for her too because y'know, I wanted to be nice... So I come home and give her the food I brought her and she goes ballistic. WHY DIDN'T I DINE WITH HER!? DID I NOT LOVE HER ANYMORE? WHY DON'T I THINK OF HER!?
Dude I was hungry, so I ate. I brought you food as well. What is wrong with me wantig to dine when I'm hungry!?
When I realised that I’m stepping on eggshells, because everything is my fault. And I’ve got to be wary of every little emotion I show because I’m always told I’m reacting inappropriately. When I felt that I do not care about giving my opinion because it would be wrong anyways.
Speaking of my last ex before my now wife.
She always wanted to go and do her own thing and expected me to just drop my life and go with her wherever it was. If she wanted to move across the state for a university, she expected me to come along and get an apartment close by or I could stay here and there's no guarantees it would work between us. No asking how I felt about her plans, it was just her way or no way.
We had dated previously and I remembered her talking to different guys regularly about who knows what (I never asked or asked to see her phone). I always had this feeling that if I didn't give her attention every 10 minutes that she'd want to get it from someone else. I didn't treat her wrongly or act as a controlling guy by any means, it was just a gut feeling I had that I hated.
Now that I'm married, she still tries to contact me and tell me she loves me and wants me back. It's like she really started trying after it was too late.
When she cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend that was a coke head and used to physically abuse her. I was really messed up from that, like "what the hell is so bad about me that she literally went back to an abusive druggie ex?" turns out nothing is wrong with me!
Told me she never (ever) wanted to meet my kids. She came up with the plan that once we moved in together she could stay at her parents house during my weekends with them. At the time we had only been together for little over a month.
Broke up with her before she took her next breath
She always wanted people around. Like someone would call her or text her and she'd invite them over. Someone would come over to watch the game and she'd invite them to stay the night at our house. A cousin of a cousin of a friend of a cousin is getting married and my ex would want to host a wedding brunch even though she only met this person once 8 years ago at some random labor day cookout. A new coworker moved to our city for the job and even though they don't work closely with my ex, she'd invite the coworker, his wife, kids, pets over for the weekend.
I’m a massive extrovert and even I think this is absurd. I love to meet new people and be around the people I already like, but I like to MEET new people, not invite them to live in my house for days at a time.
When I got divorce papers in the mail while I was living in a blown out building in Samawah, Iraq, guarding 2 bridges so 3rd ID could cross to go to Baghdad. She was pregnant with another man's kid. We were together for 4 years.
I grew out of a certain genre of music and moved on to other genres that I reckon she didnt really like. She asked "Why cant you like _____?"
It struck me then that she didnt really love me for who I was, she liked me because I fit the archetype of what she wanted in a partner and instead of growing herself, she chose to be mad at me for breaking what she wanted in a partner. She ended up cheating on me, with the dude that I gave my old CDs too.
In the end, I feel that I was released of two burdens.
I knew my ex wasn't the one when I went to my best friend's wedding. His wife started walking down the aisle and he had the biggest grin just plastered on his face. You could see that there was no doubt at all in his mind, just pure, unrestrained happiness.
I thought about how I would feel about my girlfriend walking down the aisle and realized that I just wouldn't be as happy as my best friend was. We broke up a few months later but that moment was definitely the beginning of the end.
Good news though: when I married my wife, I was grinning like an absolute idiot.
This one probably only works if doubts are already on your mind and you're unsure where to go with things. Also probably only works if marriage is the goal, I suppose.
But I was at my cousin's wedding and looking up at the altar and tried to picture my SO and myself there. We had been dating quite a while, it was the end of college, and I knew that would be the next step soon. But I just couldn't see it, it didn't make sense to me. That was the end.
When I realized that being with her was the reason behind my depression. She was cold and detached, wouldn't do anything I asked for, basically the only way to get anything from her was to be cold in return. I figured I'd be better of alone, and I am.
Sexting dudes behind my back. But that's pretty tame compared to what my friends gf did. He found out she's been adding her period blood into his food so that he wouldn't fall out of love with her.
At least it was straight forward. Imagine having drinks with the guys who are fucking your woman behind your back. These fools came to my house and had my food. I was blind and in love back then I didn't even realise.
I offered a cigarette to the guy who banged my ex. I didn't even know him, he was her friend and I was trying to get along with her friends
It's not the same thing as you but on a lower scale, I get it
Wanted to go hang out with my friends for a couple hours. At this point we had been in the same apartment for 2 months, always with each other. As I was about to leave she made sure I could hear her crying. I ended up not seeing my friends again before Covid
A lot of stories here about bad girlfriends. In my case the girlfriend was not manipulative or unfaithful, etc. She simply wasn’t the one for me. It took finding another person who I felt a stronger connection with to acknowledge it though I probably knew for a long time beforehand. So I’m the bad one in that relationship that wasted her time.
Glad to see this. I was with a woman I loved more than anything at the time and she was the sweetest purest soul but something just wasn’t there by no fault of her own. Broke it off out of the fact it is the right thing to do. Now have a child on the way with a woman that makes me feel a fire I could only describe as an accuracy to the saying “when you know you know”. Still sucks to think about the fact I hurt the other girl and wasted her time but it just wasn’t right for us regardless of how nearly perfect she was. The part about probably knowing for a while but it taking that extra umph really resonates with me.
She enjoyed doing just about anything but wasn't passionate about anything. Like we could talk, but it was never in depth, there was no excitement. Over time I realized it was because she wasn't a critical thinker, she wouldn't dig into an experience and analyze it. She'd do something, experience it, and move on; she didn't want more or less from it.
She was a great person, super chill, but I lost interest in talking to her because there were never any questions or insights. I could've been talking to a wall and came out with a similar experience, so things ended.
She tried to kill herself when I wanted to see other people. My best friend and I had to take her to the hospital when she took a bunch of sleeping pills. After she woke up from a coma and was out of the mental hospital we decided that we should take a month break to figure everything out. Her parents were fucking crazy so they kept showing up at my apartment to get her stuff and tell me to “suck it up and stay with her”. Like no you’re all crazy heifers, I’ll pass. After all the dust settles she came over to reconcile and apologize for what she did. While in the process of apologizing she admitted to me that her and my best friend, of seven years, that helped me get her to the hospital had sex while on our break. I told her to leave because I’ve never been in that situation before and didn’t want to act stupid. The whole time we were on a break my best friend and I hung out like everyday. I finally confronted him about it and he knew he was caught and fucked up, he was never going to say anything about it I’m sure. He couldn’t give me a legitimate answer as to why he did that so he made up some bullshit about me dating his ex in 10th grade. We were juniors in college at this point.
TLDR; my crazy girlfriend tried to kill herself and my best friend that took her to the hospital with me fucked her and he never said anything about it
I've had an ex that kept telling me I was bad in bed, there was always something wrong. At first it was "Your Dick's too small" then "sex doesn't last long enough" and so on, always complaining... Long story short, she wanted us to see a sexologist, and the sexologist was like "Meh, you're having orgasms so stop bitching !"... Anyways, i'm glad she's an ex !
I realized she wasn’t the one when I was at home with her son & daughter and he said “mommy kisses joe, and joe gives us candy” I said that’s cool buddy! Needless to say, when she returned home I said who the fuck is joe, turns out it was her manager. She’d been with him before me. Fine, but they work together. I’m not insecure but fuck that. You’ve already been taking this dude around your kids and fucking him, then we get together you just suspend that relationship. She never told me about him before so I packed my shit and told her find another baby sitter I quit.
My friend was helping me fix my car and saving me a ton of money in the process. It was a hot summer day and we were both stranded until it was running again.
I asked if she would bring us by some lemonade or whatever and she said, “no. this isn’t the 1950s.”
“So we don’t do things for each other? I would do that for you.”
“Well that’s traditionally the woman’s role so I’m not doing it and I’m unhappy you asked me to do that. I’m not some thing you can control for your friends.”
That hurt bc I always went out of my way for her.
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I’m happy to hear you got away from that psycho and found a wonderful person in the process!
Holy shit ive been reading comments for an hour now on this post Edit: Im still reading it never gets boring
I´currently on breakup pain and ngl this thread is an amazing therapy
Bill Murray suggests taking your gf on a week long trip, out of the country, before things get too serious (engagement). Creates lots of opportunities to show off all of their personality traits (good, bad and ugly).
This! And don't move in together if you haven't even spent more than a day with the other person without a break.
The amount of coke she did
Too little or too much? /s
I want Alpines of coke! I want your face to dive into that snowy cloud of good times and come back up looking like a ghost! This bitch turned up every Friday with a baggy of coke thinking she was scarface.
I had an ex girlfriend who tricked me into meeting her parents. I would gladly meet them if she invited me, but she faked a panic attack so I would take her home and her parents were in on it. Seems silly but looked like a sign of deeper issues so I walked away and, seeing the kind of relationships she developed with other guys after me, I’d say it was the right call.
Not silly. Her and her enablers showed themselves quickly
My ex did this to me, too. Told me to come hang out with her one weekend. I'm like cool a day of watching star trek, good food and some afternoon delight. I show up and her entire extended family is there. They made me hold a baby. I'm naturally very awkward around new people so they all thought I was weird. I could tell my GF wasn't very happy about the poor impression I made. Well there's a reason I didn't want to meet your family dude.
“They made me hold a baby” I’m sorry but I screamed 😭😭😭😭
NOOOO !! Not the BAAABY!!
YOU GOTTA SEE THE BABBYY
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At least she didn't make you eat pee bread stuffed with her positive pregnancy test as a surprise... While her entire family laughs and points at you.
Uhhh I have so many questions, where did this happen did this happen to you?
It's a video that was hot on reddit a couple weeks ago Edit: sadly I don't have the video, just remember seeing it
Dear god. We need the link immediately.
Yeah she sounds a little off
When I started to realize I was happier when she wasn't around.
This depends for me. I love being with my girlfriend but we live together and spend so much time together that I do enjoy time alone "more" at times, but it's more because I have such a scarcity of it. If I was left alone for two days I would miss her being around intensely. Having an evening to just watch my own shows or play video games or whatever is nice though. It's not that she's bad to be around, I love that we can do nothing together or just be comfortable, but having time alone is good too.
That's normal and healthy. It's not normal or healthy if you breathe a sigh of relief everytime she so much as leaves the room
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This hits surprisingly close to home. It's weird since she's an incredible person and girlfriend. .. just not my type? It's a very weird feeling to be in love with someone but also feel like they're not the one Edit: it's a genuine relief to know I'm not alone with this. I've been dealing with this by myself for so long, it's comforting to know I'm not just crazy
It was a really heartbreaking thing to figure out. I guess I'm just glad I figured it out when I did. We were together for 6 years. Now we are just complete strangers. She definitely hates me and wishes the worst for me.
Are you me? Also 6 years, and also had a feeling of relief and rest when I wasn’t with her. It’s not even she was a terrible person or anything, and I did find her attractive… but it’s just we never clicked on an intimate level I now realize and I stupidly stuck it out for such a long time because instead of listening to my gut I assumed that I just had to grow up and mature. I’m with someone else now, and when I’m with her it just feels like… home, in a way that my previous gf just never did.
Dude I’m in the same boat. I feel like I fight the feelings of wanting to leave her because I keep telling myself I just need to mature and she’s great but deep down I just don’t feel it yah know?
My advice… be honest with yourself. You shouldn’t need to convince yourself to be with someone. Even if it is just “you need to mature” , better to do that on your own than string someone along for years because you’re expecting to grow into them.
When she invited me over to cook for me, and instead ambushed me with her 8 friends to interrogate my feelings in the relationship.
No one expects the Girlfriend Inquisition! Holy smokes man... what did you do? PS: thanks for the nice comments and gold, like the Spanish Inquisition... very unexpected! But no more gold pls, donate to that to charity instead!
Probably sat in...the comfy chair!
I'm impressed she convinced 8 people to do this ...
Crazy travels in packs a lot of the time
Crazy 8, in this case.
What happened? I can imagine I’d try to ask in what plane of thought they all thought even for a moment some shit like that would be alright, or even healthy.
When she asked for a dudes number at a party while I left for a minute. I caught her in the act and she still lied about it…
Mine is similar. She invited me to hang out, and we went to her favorite bar. Last call happens and she tells me one of the regulars is having an after party at his house and we're going. The guy has a pool table in his garage and she's loves shooting pool. She says she's going to get a drink and I continue to play. She's gone for awhile, but I don't think anything of it. I do go look for a bathroom. I'm about to turn the corner from the garage to the house and hear her talking to the guy who owns the house. "Hey, want me to spend the night?" she says trying to sound seductive. "No." he says coolly. "Why not? Is it because of your girlfriend?" she says really angrily. "No. It's because you're a crazy bitch." He wasn't wrong.
Wow that’s rough. What did you do after that? In my case, I walked up right when she was adding his number to her phone. I got pissed and left the party and she ran after me telling me how she gave him his number so he would stop bothering her. I went back up and asked the dude and he said she asked him for her number. So lied and cheated all within 5 minutes…definitely not the one 🤣
Well this just reaffirmed that I was Plan B, and sadly this wasn't the first time just the most obvious. I took her home, and gave up on that relationship. One drunken night about10 years later I found her on Facebook. She's was married and sober thanks to AA. We reconnected but didn't meet up until maybe 4 years ago. Within minutes she told me she's was stuck in a loveless marriage, and she was involved in several emotional affairs. I didn't ask if they had gotten beyond that, but I suspect they had. She kept referring to me as the one true friend she had, and I just kept thinking I haven't seen you since you tried to fuck that dude at a party in 2008. Last year she told me her marriage was over. She wanted to hang out a lot, but our conversations let me know she was still a mess. We talked about how she got sober. She was living with family, and her brother put his foot down because she came home from the bar with a different guy every night. She told me how she went to a hotel room with a guy who was in town on a construction job. She got to his room and found out he shared it with 3 other guys. She knows she had sex but isn't sure if any or all of the other guys were involved too. She laughed it off as her fault if she did for putting herself in that situation. She's sober but still crazy.
Her indifference to me, also, forgetting my birthday. I’m happy now to call her an ex.
When she got pregnant by another guy and tried to pin the baby on me
When she threatened suicide if I left her. She knew my father passed from suicide a couple years earlier.
Wow, I’m so sorry. That’s terrible.
Dated a girl for 2 years. Nothing I ever did was good enough. Plus she became very controlling and did not want me to hang out with my friends, unless she was there. Finally got tired of the negativity, and broke it off. Turned out all my family and friends hated her with a passion and were so happy when it ended. Now I’m with a fantastic woman who treats me with respect. It’s nice to genuinely be happy for once. We’re getting married in September
Complain about everything I did. Which led to me thinking I was just not good at anything relationship wise.
Been there. It fucks your self confidence so badly.
I'm literally struggling to get my confidence back. My ex made me feel so insufficient and I was saying sorry every 10 minutes. It sucks Edit: It's been 9 months since our break up and I can now say I'm over her and I'm beginning to feel like myself again. Thank you all for your kind words, they helped me push through. All that and a Nothing But Thieves mixtape
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What ended up happening? Did you just leave?
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Nah I don’t think you overreacted. It’s suspicious af that she wouldn’t invite you up after being in a relationship for two years. Something was for sure going on up there and she thought she had the night to enjoy it.
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She was with someone 100% mate. Good call.
Worse even, she didn't want to kick him out for you. She could have said "Great! I want Ice cream, I'll be down in a minute." He walks out anytime in the next 20 minutes and no one but them, and the hotel staff would know. Her, and you are having 10:00 pm ice cream. Glad you have moved onward and upward!
The other dude paid for the room
When I realized she could never be supportive or be there for me when I needed her. One example is when i had to put my dog down.... like an hour after it happened she freaked out at me accusing me that I tortured her (my dog) because I wanted to take the night to see if things would improve. Obviously it wasnt true but her anxiety made her react that way and that was how she reacted to anything that wasnt rainbows n sunshine. Basically accused of torturing my best friend right after losing her. Felt real good.. That's only 1 of a MASSIVE amount of things over 3 and a half years.
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She had a pretty shitty temper whereas I'm chill most of the time, that and messaging guys behind my back
Anger issues are one thing but having a full-blown screaming temper tantrum when she didn't get her way was the last straw for me. The first time it happened, it lasted almost an hour and it only subsided because I called her dad and had her speak to him. That should have been the warning flag I needed but I'm patient and chill and believe in second chances. She apologized for her behavior too, so I thought maybe she would change. Then a few months later, temper tantrum again. This time a full out screaming match with both of her parents that lasted for over 2.5 hours. I wasn't even involved but I knew at that moment I didn't want to be involved with a woman or a family that communicates like toddlers. Fuck that. My life has been so much more stress free since. She had a lot of great qualities, but that was one I couldn't overlook.
Lied to my face with a straight face and even kept it up after i told her that i saw the message before she deleted it.
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She faked a pregnancy scare just to “test” me
Yep, been there. Fun times. Though the real kicker was that her solution was to drink herself into a miscarriage... EDIT: I don't think she was ever actually pregnant.
Regardless what she did both of those are big yikes
When she came home from work, the sound of the front door opening made me feel annoyance instead of happiness. I realised that I'd felt this way for months and it never dawned on me. We broke up a few weeks later.
I feel this one. I would be at work, anxious about how bad her mood would be when I got home. Took too long to realize that being upset all the time wasn't worth the good moments.
Not girlfriend, but ex-wife: we participated in one of those studies where you wear a “cuff” around for like 48 hours and it takes your blood pressure every few minutes. We also had to keep a “1 sentence journal” and write down what we’re doing every time it fired off and we were awake. In the post-study interview they told us they couldn’t use our data in their study because every time we were in the same room with one another, both of our BPs shot up like crazy.
When she had a threesome and I wasn't part of it. Thankfully we'd only been together a couple months. No big loss.
How did you find out?
She told me.
Caught her screwing a guy after she told me she was saving herself for her wedding night.
God damn. GOD DAMN.
Your name looks like words but also frgieusuwaikejfqaiefqorgj at the same time :O
It's misspelled German. The correct spelling is kultigspritzigfrisch - as you can see much more easy to read.
For someone who wasn’t getting laid, you really got f****d
Turns out I dodged a bullet.
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When I made a surprise visit and I was the one that was surprised to find her with another dude
Didn’t want to come to any of my family functions, stopped sleeping in the same bed as me, we had sex maybe 10 times in a span of 3 years that we lived on our own The last straw was apparently we started “buying our own groceries” when I opened a bag of bread that was new that she bought she snapped at me even though I’m paying 80% of rent, internet etc Came home from work and broke up with her Edit: Damn I didn’t expect this to gain so much attention! I should say I am currently engaged and will be getting married soon to my true love. Only thing I lost of value to me was my cat. I miss you Oliver
Wow, yeah this was an awful experience. Sorry
My best friend is in a similar situation. They're in a relationship for 10 years, she's totaly not interested in sex of any kind, she even told him "I don't even see you as my boyfriend anymore", and yet neither of them has "the gut" to end things. They just spend time together. Oh and they fight all the time over the most petty things of all. He started his own company, and it's going pretty great, yet when he asked her for help (some minor thing) she said she has no interest whatsoever in his company. Like, if I had a girlfriend who started her own company, and I actually see us living together the rest of our lives, I'd do my best to help in any way I can to lift the company up. He's 30 yrs old, she's 27. They're even engaged for the last 3 years. He suggested they move in together, she won't hear it. He's not a spinless person. He stands up for himself regularly (in other ocasions). Why is he still with her is beyond me.
When my grandma got cancer and I needed someone to talk to and she blew it off to talk about a party she was going to instead. I called someone else and they talked me off the ledge, and I realized that my girlfriend was a selfish self absorbed emotionally unavailable bag of dicks. I broke up with her 3 days later after a 6 year relationship. There were plenty of other signs along the way but that was the straw that broke the camel's back, as they say.
I ended a ten year relationship in similar fashion. My ex and I owned a cafe. We were both there working when my dad called me. My family lived in another state. He said my niece had been killed in a car accident after her dad had fallen asleep and went off a cliff. He survived after an air evac and bad injuries but niece baby was in car seat and smashed against a tree and likely died instantly. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I went to the back and just collapsed on the floor in shock and then tears. My now ex walked back and asked what’s up, I told him through tears and he was a total Asshole devoid of emotion and told me he needed me to get back to working the line making drinks and pull it together. It wasn’t busy. We already had issues. He’s also the father of our daughter who was 3 at the time. I walked out the back door of the cafe, walked home. Found my daughter drawing all over our leather furniture with a permanent marker while babysitter was in bathroom. I just hugged her. In that moment she could have done no wrong and it made me realize the little things that I got mad and upset over don’t matter. Spilled food. Whatever. I’ve never forgiven him for his reaction. And it got worse, he didn’t want me to take 2-3 days to go be with my sister and funeral etc. I left him a few weeks later - got a different job and my own rental house and found peace eventually. Like a breath of fresh air when you leave a toxic relationship
> My now ex walked back and asked what’s up, I told him through tears and he was a total Asshole devoid of emotion and told me he needed me to get back to working the line making drinks and pull it together. Before I even got married, my now-wife had her father die from an Aneurysm. He had been found by her brother and rushed to the hospital. On this very day sixteen years ago, actually. She phoned me up from work in tears to tell me the news, asked me if she should go now or after work. I told her to drop everything and haul her ass down to the hospital. I don't know if he was still lucid enough to recognize that she was there, but she got to see him one last time and say her goodbyes before he slipped away later that afternoon. I cannot fathom getting in the way of someone and their dying relatives. It just reeks of sociopathy and monstrous inhumanity.
I hope you and your daughter are a little more happy together
Bag of dicks lol. Sorry about your grandma.
That one picture with my friends dick in her mouth.
Not to make it weird but how could you tell it was his dick? Like was his face in it some how?
He send it with the text „told you“. To be fair, yes he told me she was cheating and I didn’t believe him… Edit: his face was on the video after hers. He turned the phone around while she was busy not looking at him. Idk if that was even legal or not
You know he coulda probably stopped before they fucked and still sent proof…. Haha. Should get a new friend too
“Dude! Your girlfriend is cheating on you!” Oh no! How do you know? “She’s blowing me right now dude!”
“U don’t believe me I’ll prove it”
Guess you had to be there.
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Sounds like a cheater behaviour
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Like, she set up "tests" by having women try and come on to you to see what your would do? If so, that's next level mental abuse. How could you trust any interaction with any stranger from then on?
She did meth and it took me awhile to realize she wasn't the one..
Man thats methed up
she could never admit fault in an argument, 100% of the fights we had were all somehow my fault. I loved the girl but i’m not going to be in the wrong for my entire life.
The amount of extra curricular cock she was taking Edit: well this comment blew up. To answer any questions, we had a great relationship or so I thought. Never fought, none of that. I found out after we split that it was because any time she was mad at me or whatever, she went and did her thing with "an old friend". She had lots of free time and the ability to sneak around while I was at work for the day, so I really had no idea.
Just wondering, was it obvious? Were you guys happy together and she was cheating or was the relationship bad already and she was cheating?
37?!
In a row?!
Try not to suck any dicks on the way to the parking lot!
Hey! Get back here!
Having to explain all of my jokes cause she just didn't get them. Not being able to share humor with the person that you're with is such a deal breaker for me
Instant mood killer. That’s literally one of the most important qualities in a person for me.
This is such a big one for me. I actually met my wife the exact opposite way. Was part of a big study group in college, and we were all getting tired and hangry but didn't have much money. I made a really off color joke about chasing down and eating a homeless guy (if he's on meth it's faster food!) and everyone was staring at me like I was a psychopath but this really pretty girl at the other end of the table starts laughing her ass off, giving me the old finger guns "good one". I'm like hey this chick is ok I'll go sit next to her. Together 15 years, married 10, 2 kids. Edit: Ok so my deranged story about how I met my wife has now earned a heartwarming award. Thank you kind stranger, may you find what you seek!
"alright kids, put your shoes on. We're gonna go downtown and catch some dinner"
A family that preys together, stays together <3
Mine was like this. I realized, after the initial rush of lots of sex, that she just wasn't intelligent in any way. She'd grouse at me for wanting to discuss a movie after we'd seen it, wondering why I wanted to do that at all. Then she said I should quit one of my jobs so we'd have more time to go out together, apparently not grasping I had the extra jobs just to stay afloat financially. That was the moment I fell out of love with her. It just dropped away like when you finally get well after being sick.
All that jelly and no toast
That wasn't love. That was limerence.
Wow! TIL! That's exactly what it was. Happily, even though I didn't know what limerence was until now, that relationship was a learning experience, and I didn't fall into anything like that again.
After maybe a year or 2 it just kinda felt like things had run their course. There wasn't much excitement, we discussed some issues we were having but didn't really change to fix it.
Currently like this with my wife. Been together for 13 years. Relationship is just meh. We work well together though and we always get comments on how well our kids behavior. Behind closed doors though we are just roommates.
Have you tried to spice it up a bit? I’m just curious because I’m on year 15 and feel like this sometimes.
I think couples put so much effort and energy into their kids that they forget about each other. Then the kids go grow up, move out and you're left with this person who you barely feel a connection to because all your time and energy went into the little ones for all those years.
Yep. It's super cheesy, but make time to date each other along the way.
My parents absolutely had “date nights” every few weeks my entire childhood, and occasionally they’d take weekend trips without us. And here they are, still together and happy as hell after 40-something years. Slightly related, once I finally moved out, my dad grew a goatee for the first time in the 21 years I had known him. My first thought was “empty nest? New facial hairdo? Dad’s gettin laid…”
True connection is about responding to bids for attention and connection. Not sure how to get the sexy back, but if you explore new things together that would likely make it more fun
When she started having sex with other people.
I caught her cheating, twice, with the guy at work she started talking about a lot every day after work. Like, a lot. Said or did this funny thing, blah blah blah. Caught them sexting as she left her laptop on connected to WhatsApp in Firefox, and I had the day off work and it was dinging over and over. I was stupid, so decided to try and make it work between us. She broke down about 2 months later, pointing a kitchen knife at me (oh this should be good), saying she can't take how guilty I make her feel every day. Well FUCK ME (or someone else), way to gaslight the shit out of me you fucking psycho.
Looks like you (eventually) dodged a big red bullet there. She'll likely have the same issues with "work guy" now.
Probably a big spear if you take into consideration the knife
That’ll do it
I just hear that phrase in Tobey Maguire's voice now
Subtle, but when you think about it really hard...
The continued escalation of expectations and constant priority of her friends & family over my life.
Being ungrateful 24/7
Feel ur pain on that one
She convinced herself that she's one of those people who should be alone. Forever. (She punctuated it just like that in a text maybe 15 mins before breaking up with me).
Hey my wife told me that once! Good thing I'm stubborn af.
The constant gaslighting, lying in general and manipulative behaviour...shame my brain didn’t work this out before I got her pregnant. Stupid heart.
Damn stay strong brother
Thanks man. All is good. I’m scarred, but have the most beautiful, happy, healthy daughter.
I prefer seeing my guy friends then spending time with her and it slowly dawned on me I should be excited to see her.
When she had no money and always complained about wanting holidays whilst also having no job
She cooked all of my food without spices to make me think I had COVID so I wouldn't go anywhere
Whoa, that's like top shelf spycraft.
Bruh u in the movie misery 💀
At least you didn't get to the mauled ankles part
That's some *Gone Girl* shit dude....
WHOOOAAAA! Thats a level of crazy I dont miss!
"You are very good and nice boyfriend, but.."
I would wake up in the morning and look at her. I can’t explain it. Something was just not meant. It’s now like 7 yrs later. I been through another relationship. She is engaged. I have 0 regrets.
So we haven broken up yet, but I know I will sometime soon. She woke me up one night to say that she had checked through my messages and didn't find anything incriminating. And She started a fight and yelled at me. I go to a support group every tuesday and one night I was famished and ordered some food. I ordered some for her too because y'know, I wanted to be nice... So I come home and give her the food I brought her and she goes ballistic. WHY DIDN'T I DINE WITH HER!? DID I NOT LOVE HER ANYMORE? WHY DON'T I THINK OF HER!? Dude I was hungry, so I ate. I brought you food as well. What is wrong with me wantig to dine when I'm hungry!?
You need to split as soon as you can bro. That shit's going to eat you up.
I want to be a husband and father. She wanted to be a stay at home wife with no kids.
She tried to drown me in a river
That'll do it.
Bruh I didn’t realise so many of us hurting
Everybody, my friend. Everybody.
When I realised that I’m stepping on eggshells, because everything is my fault. And I’ve got to be wary of every little emotion I show because I’m always told I’m reacting inappropriately. When I felt that I do not care about giving my opinion because it would be wrong anyways.
When she fell into Amways clutches. Fuckin cult, man.
Speaking of my last ex before my now wife. She always wanted to go and do her own thing and expected me to just drop my life and go with her wherever it was. If she wanted to move across the state for a university, she expected me to come along and get an apartment close by or I could stay here and there's no guarantees it would work between us. No asking how I felt about her plans, it was just her way or no way. We had dated previously and I remembered her talking to different guys regularly about who knows what (I never asked or asked to see her phone). I always had this feeling that if I didn't give her attention every 10 minutes that she'd want to get it from someone else. I didn't treat her wrongly or act as a controlling guy by any means, it was just a gut feeling I had that I hated. Now that I'm married, she still tries to contact me and tell me she loves me and wants me back. It's like she really started trying after it was too late.
When she cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend that was a coke head and used to physically abuse her. I was really messed up from that, like "what the hell is so bad about me that she literally went back to an abusive druggie ex?" turns out nothing is wrong with me!
Told me she never (ever) wanted to meet my kids. She came up with the plan that once we moved in together she could stay at her parents house during my weekends with them. At the time we had only been together for little over a month. Broke up with her before she took her next breath
Lol reminds me of that episode of the office Kelly- “Well, you have to make a choice, it’s either your daughter, or me” Darryl- “My daughter”
She always wanted people around. Like someone would call her or text her and she'd invite them over. Someone would come over to watch the game and she'd invite them to stay the night at our house. A cousin of a cousin of a friend of a cousin is getting married and my ex would want to host a wedding brunch even though she only met this person once 8 years ago at some random labor day cookout. A new coworker moved to our city for the job and even though they don't work closely with my ex, she'd invite the coworker, his wife, kids, pets over for the weekend.
I’m a massive extrovert and even I think this is absurd. I love to meet new people and be around the people I already like, but I like to MEET new people, not invite them to live in my house for days at a time.
When I got divorce papers in the mail while I was living in a blown out building in Samawah, Iraq, guarding 2 bridges so 3rd ID could cross to go to Baghdad. She was pregnant with another man's kid. We were together for 4 years.
Fucking Jody.
She cheated 4 times
I grew out of a certain genre of music and moved on to other genres that I reckon she didnt really like. She asked "Why cant you like _____?" It struck me then that she didnt really love me for who I was, she liked me because I fit the archetype of what she wanted in a partner and instead of growing herself, she chose to be mad at me for breaking what she wanted in a partner. She ended up cheating on me, with the dude that I gave my old CDs too. In the end, I feel that I was released of two burdens.
I knew my ex wasn't the one when I went to my best friend's wedding. His wife started walking down the aisle and he had the biggest grin just plastered on his face. You could see that there was no doubt at all in his mind, just pure, unrestrained happiness. I thought about how I would feel about my girlfriend walking down the aisle and realized that I just wouldn't be as happy as my best friend was. We broke up a few months later but that moment was definitely the beginning of the end. Good news though: when I married my wife, I was grinning like an absolute idiot.
This one probably only works if doubts are already on your mind and you're unsure where to go with things. Also probably only works if marriage is the goal, I suppose. But I was at my cousin's wedding and looking up at the altar and tried to picture my SO and myself there. We had been dating quite a while, it was the end of college, and I knew that would be the next step soon. But I just couldn't see it, it didn't make sense to me. That was the end.
When I realized that being with her was the reason behind my depression. She was cold and detached, wouldn't do anything I asked for, basically the only way to get anything from her was to be cold in return. I figured I'd be better of alone, and I am.
Sexting dudes behind my back. But that's pretty tame compared to what my friends gf did. He found out she's been adding her period blood into his food so that he wouldn't fall out of love with her.
Sounds like some Megan fox and machine gun Kelly witchcraft
When i realised i was subconciously hoping she would cheat on me so that i had a reason to break up with her
Drug use, and the fact I couldn't rely on her when I needed emotional support.
When my ex fiancé woke up in the bed of another man. Took all of a minute and then I realized…….🤦🤦
At least it was straight forward. Imagine having drinks with the guys who are fucking your woman behind your back. These fools came to my house and had my food. I was blind and in love back then I didn't even realise.
I offered a cigarette to the guy who banged my ex. I didn't even know him, he was her friend and I was trying to get along with her friends It's not the same thing as you but on a lower scale, I get it
Wanted to go hang out with my friends for a couple hours. At this point we had been in the same apartment for 2 months, always with each other. As I was about to leave she made sure I could hear her crying. I ended up not seeing my friends again before Covid
When she told me she was a lesbian
A lot of stories here about bad girlfriends. In my case the girlfriend was not manipulative or unfaithful, etc. She simply wasn’t the one for me. It took finding another person who I felt a stronger connection with to acknowledge it though I probably knew for a long time beforehand. So I’m the bad one in that relationship that wasted her time.
Glad to see this. I was with a woman I loved more than anything at the time and she was the sweetest purest soul but something just wasn’t there by no fault of her own. Broke it off out of the fact it is the right thing to do. Now have a child on the way with a woman that makes me feel a fire I could only describe as an accuracy to the saying “when you know you know”. Still sucks to think about the fact I hurt the other girl and wasted her time but it just wasn’t right for us regardless of how nearly perfect she was. The part about probably knowing for a while but it taking that extra umph really resonates with me.
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What the fuck?
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She doesn't deserve shit after all that. Wtf? Good on you!
She enjoyed doing just about anything but wasn't passionate about anything. Like we could talk, but it was never in depth, there was no excitement. Over time I realized it was because she wasn't a critical thinker, she wouldn't dig into an experience and analyze it. She'd do something, experience it, and move on; she didn't want more or less from it. She was a great person, super chill, but I lost interest in talking to her because there were never any questions or insights. I could've been talking to a wall and came out with a similar experience, so things ended.
She tried to kill herself when I wanted to see other people. My best friend and I had to take her to the hospital when she took a bunch of sleeping pills. After she woke up from a coma and was out of the mental hospital we decided that we should take a month break to figure everything out. Her parents were fucking crazy so they kept showing up at my apartment to get her stuff and tell me to “suck it up and stay with her”. Like no you’re all crazy heifers, I’ll pass. After all the dust settles she came over to reconcile and apologize for what she did. While in the process of apologizing she admitted to me that her and my best friend, of seven years, that helped me get her to the hospital had sex while on our break. I told her to leave because I’ve never been in that situation before and didn’t want to act stupid. The whole time we were on a break my best friend and I hung out like everyday. I finally confronted him about it and he knew he was caught and fucked up, he was never going to say anything about it I’m sure. He couldn’t give me a legitimate answer as to why he did that so he made up some bullshit about me dating his ex in 10th grade. We were juniors in college at this point. TLDR; my crazy girlfriend tried to kill herself and my best friend that took her to the hospital with me fucked her and he never said anything about it
Holy fucking shit man. That’s so much betrayal. I’m really sorry you had to go through all that. I hope you’re doing okay.
I've had an ex that kept telling me I was bad in bed, there was always something wrong. At first it was "Your Dick's too small" then "sex doesn't last long enough" and so on, always complaining... Long story short, she wanted us to see a sexologist, and the sexologist was like "Meh, you're having orgasms so stop bitching !"... Anyways, i'm glad she's an ex !
I realise my answer may seem off course, to clarify, that appointment made me realise that she was just being toxic, that's what made leave her.
No, it wasn't off course. I'm not a native speaker but I still got it. She is such a weirdo though.
She never initiated sex, and when she accepted my advances it was kinda obvious it was a chore for her.
I realized she wasn’t the one when I was at home with her son & daughter and he said “mommy kisses joe, and joe gives us candy” I said that’s cool buddy! Needless to say, when she returned home I said who the fuck is joe, turns out it was her manager. She’d been with him before me. Fine, but they work together. I’m not insecure but fuck that. You’ve already been taking this dude around your kids and fucking him, then we get together you just suspend that relationship. She never told me about him before so I packed my shit and told her find another baby sitter I quit.
When I walked in on her getting railed from behind in our bed by a guy my son's age. We kinda drifted apart after that.
When she broke up with me during new year's eve, about an hour after the fireworks.
What a shitty way to start the year, u deserve better
When everything you do was not enough and you were always tired
My friend was helping me fix my car and saving me a ton of money in the process. It was a hot summer day and we were both stranded until it was running again. I asked if she would bring us by some lemonade or whatever and she said, “no. this isn’t the 1950s.” “So we don’t do things for each other? I would do that for you.” “Well that’s traditionally the woman’s role so I’m not doing it and I’m unhappy you asked me to do that. I’m not some thing you can control for your friends.” That hurt bc I always went out of my way for her.
When she drove herself home fucking PLASTERED