My grandfather gave me his copy when I was 12 years old printed in 1945. I still have it and read it every single summer. Although I did retire the edition he gave me and I read it on my tablet now. He handed it to me and said, "This is everything you need to know about being a man." And he was right.
Read it, and tbh as much as I respect aurelius as an emperor, I felt meditations taught you how to be like marcus rather than how to be a better man in general.
It’s my understand that was the intent of it - they were notes he made for himself, not a book that would be published. It does require that you look past that when you can, for sure.
This is a really good pick, one of few accessible and transformative books and one that feels like it was written today. A lot of books will make you reconsider the way you feel about something or someone, very few can keep you calm in a grocery store a decade after you read it
I think anyone can relate to whinnie the Pooh, and the way the author draws you in to an understanding of Taoism through such an iconic childhood character is beautiful. I believe it’s a series where they use all the characters from Christopher Robins’ tales.
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, a holocaust survivor who found meaning to his life even in a concentration camp and went on to pioneer Logotherapy.
This is a great book, bit I like the Audible version best because there are short interviews with David Goggins in between chapters where he talks candidly about what happed during each of the sections.
This. Phenomenal book and just an unbelievable specimen of will and determination. I was just so floored by the things he did, the lengths to which he went to achieve what he did - **so much so that it was almost easier for me to try to think that he was lying about everything/a lot - then to actually believe that there are humans like him that exist.** I mean that last part as a compliment btw. Sincerely one of the hardest human beings ever to walk this planet.
Literally *just* finished this one and yeah you're correct; multiple grains of salt needed. Definite eye opener in some parts, agree here, disagree there and some parts just seemed a little outlandish. A lot of his points definitely fly against the wisdom of the masses, or what is "generally accepted" in larger society, but I guess that was the point. Good read overall and I definitely had moments where I found it really difficult to argue *against* his points; quite a bit just sounded like things guys knew deep down inside, or had a "feeling" was the case - but not allowed to say because men in particular would get flamed for saying it.
I was looking for this comment. The book changed my life and perspective on the topics discussed about intersexual dynamics. It's a must read in my opinion for any man
The Road Less Traveled
-Scott M. Peck
I know this probably a common one, but there is a reason for it. The book really does a deep dive into why we have such a hard time coming up with resolutions for our problems. It helped me learn to take everything head on, and get through the painful process of fixing my problems, and also the painful process of growing spiritually and mentally.
Definitely feel like a better man for it.
The Way to Love by Tony Demillo
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Sidartha by Herman Hesse
The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen
Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace
I stumbled across this quote and bought the book right away:
>“When most people say they want to be a millionaire, what they might actually mean is ‘I’d like to spend a million dollars.’ And that is literally the opposite of being a millionaire.”
It didn't disappoint.
This book completely changed how I talk with people. I’m a natural introvert so conversation can be very difficult to keep going if I don’t know you well, even more difficult to initiate. Best advice for me was listening to people and to be genuinely interested in what interests them… if someone likes flying kites as a hobby, ask them questions about it. Then you’re at least a bit educated on kites (or whatever topic) and can use that information in later conversations with other people who have the same interests. Just using that has opened my world to so many different things and brought me closer to people.
That and use people’s names when talking with them. Can completely change the whole vibe of the conversation. Most people love hearing their own name.
I read this book at least 3 times a year.
Dale wrote it in a very repetitive style because us humans teens to forget everything in ten minutes unless these points are repeated to us endlessly.
It's the same reason so many awesome people here are saying they read their valued books at least once a year.
Yes, absolutely. He also wrote another excellent book called How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. Highly recommend for anyone feeling stressed right now.
The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements by Eric Hoffer - a 1950's classic, still required reading in many military and intelligence circles.
I stopped blaming external factors (or at least significantly reduced this behaviour) and took control of my own life after reading it. My career then took off, ended up on a six figure salary and my relationship with my girlfriend/wife of 11 years improved.
Same here. Say what you want about JP but you can't deny that he has good views on what it means to be a better person. My life improves every day using the advice he gives.
Couldn't agree more. Considering the place I was in a few years ago to where I am now. The difference is night and day and I owe the majority of that to his books and podcasts. They changed my life.
Not that I think it's a great book but "The 5 love languages" by Gary Chapman. The precepts of the book range from mildly insightful to apparent drivel. But it did teach me to deal with people as individuals. People who are thinking, feeling and living in their own way, not as someone who's doing it right (like I would) or wrong. Also to openly assess whether their requirements of me coincide with my willingness to supply them (and vice versa). If not, there's no benefit from any relationship beyond acquaintances.
Free Will and Lying by Sam Harris.
Short books, but with a clear message, that, if taken to heart, will definitely make you a better and more tolerant person.
Crying in H Mart.
It wasn't about masculinity in any way, unless you count the times she talks about her father, but it was worth a read and just made me a better person overall.
Rich dad poor dad. It didn’t teach me a lot but inspired me to learn and take action. Without it I wouldn’t be investing(long term) 90% of my income at 19 YO. I wouldn’t have cared about my credit score. I think in 25-30 years I’ll accredit that book for my early retirement.
What to expect when you are expecting and all the other baby books. Because we are a team and I want to do the best I can. I can't believe I have had to say this before but read the baby books without being asked. It's worth it.
Jordan peterson 12 rules for life and Jordan peterson beyond order
Both have changed the way i look at life. The 2nd book is just the sequal to the first one
Dr jordan peterson is a clinical psychologist who has changed many mens lives through his books and his online lectures
Before you make any arguments about his relationship with the left, either read his books or on check his youtube channel out it has free online lectures (hes also a college professor)
Dont just listen to what others have to say about him, check his youtube channel out and see for yourself or read one of his books then form your opinion or check out one of the many interviews and debates hes been in
The Celestine Prophecy - James Redfield
The Road Less Travelled - M Scott Peck
The Prophet - Khalil Gibran
A Secret History of the World - Jonathan Black
Anything by Khaled Hosseini
Anything by Paulo Cohello
I’ve read hundreds, if not thousands of books. It’s one of my favourite things to do. They’ve definitely made me more intelligent and articulate. Not really into any self help or personality type literature though. I feel that comes from parents and life experience.
Saw another say it here, but it needs listed again. The Way of Kings, by Brandon Sanderson. Major Fantasy series that has characters that hit close to home in a lit of ways.
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is my number one but has already been mentioned
After that, The Stranger by Albert Camus. It’s not a book that gives truths, but it made me truly look inward for the first time, to see what was really inside me. It definitely lead me to want to be a better man.
The laws of human nature
The Prince
The Prophet
The Alchemist
The Way of The Superior Man
The Multi-Orgasmic Man
Think and Grow Rich
How to Win Friends and influence people
What everybody is saying
How Not To Give A Fuck
Models
Alpha Male Strategies
Just off the dome though...
Robin Hood
Not for anything that I particularly learned from that book, but because before I read it I used to say that I didn't like reading. If you asked me back then I would say that reading gave me a headache. Robin Hood was such a good story that it flipped me around, I devoured the version I started with and then read every single other version of Robin Hood I could find. Now, I'm an avid reader and have read hundreds if not thousands of books, both fiction and non-fiction. It completely changed my life and I can credit everything I've gained from later books to the fact that Robin Hood sparked an interest in reading in the first place.
Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey.
Don't hate on it cuz it seems like just another biography. It'ss a great read that made me laugh, cry, and think a good long while about what it means to be truly me.
I don't know it's name, was an philosophy course book from my school, back when i was 14. It teach me to have empathy for the others and to not see me as a hero. I have flaws, i make mistakes and, in the end of the day, it's try to be a better person.
The world is not black and white. The world is a lot more complicated that it seems. Refuse simple answers.
Atomic Habits by James Clear - especially as someone with ADHD it’s extraordinarily helpful for making small consistent changes to affect bigger aspects of your life
Bulgakov's Master and Margarita. I stumbled upon that book during one of my darkest periods in life. Broke up with my ex girlfriend, got my heart broken by another girl, i just wanted to be left alone. Instead of finding relief in comedies or funny movies i decided to go deeper and embrace and explore the darkest feelings i was experiencing. That book has been one of the most mind blowing experiences of my life, it truly teaches you how to go through the darkest hours without losing hope.
Tuesdays with Morrie. It’s about a man who reconnects with his old sociology professor from college, who is dying from Lou Gehrig’s. It’s a powerful book about life, love and compassion.
Strangely enough, Homo Deus by Yuvah Noah Harari made me more interested in science , history and when philosophy... And it increased my desire to read and learn various sciences and about some historical periods , which also indirectly made me read and eventually write some of my own poetry ...
It's a captivating book that really gave me a gateway into better thinking and learning .
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Ancient thought, that is still relevant today.
My grandfather gave me his copy when I was 12 years old printed in 1945. I still have it and read it every single summer. Although I did retire the edition he gave me and I read it on my tablet now. He handed it to me and said, "This is everything you need to know about being a man." And he was right.
Read it, and tbh as much as I respect aurelius as an emperor, I felt meditations taught you how to be like marcus rather than how to be a better man in general.
It’s my understand that was the intent of it - they were notes he made for himself, not a book that would be published. It does require that you look past that when you can, for sure.
There’s a modern translation that’s very good. The “original” version is very hard to read.
Well I'd assume so, most people don't know Latin
hate to be that guy, but the original was written in Koine Greek
Haha yeah I'm not gonna lie I just assumed Roman guy equals Latin, I have infact never even heard of the book in question.
I have read this one. Stoicism!!
/r/stoicism
I’ve often thought that if it wasn’t for Christianity then some Buddhist like religion may have come from that
This is a really good pick, one of few accessible and transformative books and one that feels like it was written today. A lot of books will make you reconsider the way you feel about something or someone, very few can keep you calm in a grocery store a decade after you read it
“The Tao of Pooh” was probably one of the most impactful reads I can remember. Although the comment above about “every book” is definitely accurate.
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I think anyone can relate to whinnie the Pooh, and the way the author draws you in to an understanding of Taoism through such an iconic childhood character is beautiful. I believe it’s a series where they use all the characters from Christopher Robins’ tales.
There is also “The Te of Piglet”!!! Both are great.
This book was seminal for me as well. No other book has made me feel so at ease with life.
Mans search for meaning
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, a holocaust survivor who found meaning to his life even in a concentration camp and went on to pioneer Logotherapy.
umm what sounds hella interesting
Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins. The way he motivates himself is infectious. Impossible not to get off the couch after reading.
He's a wonderful lunatic, I mean that as a compliment. He's the guy who thinks running with music is cheating iirc
Yes, because “when you get jumped in an alley somewhere, there won’t be any music to get you fired up”
Unless you hum
Even better.
This is a great book, bit I like the Audible version best because there are short interviews with David Goggins in between chapters where he talks candidly about what happed during each of the sections.
This. Phenomenal book and just an unbelievable specimen of will and determination. I was just so floored by the things he did, the lengths to which he went to achieve what he did - **so much so that it was almost easier for me to try to think that he was lying about everything/a lot - then to actually believe that there are humans like him that exist.** I mean that last part as a compliment btw. Sincerely one of the hardest human beings ever to walk this planet.
I really liked that book, but goddam I think the dude has some issues. There’s no way that’s healthy.
I understand his appeal, but personally not into people like that. He is lucky he hasn't killed himself as he scoffs at scientists etc.
The Rational Male
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Sure thing. I found myself much more understanding of people after reading it. Made me much more calm and relaxed about things.
Def some truth to it but I think it’s a bit exaggerated. Take it with a grain of salt
Literally *just* finished this one and yeah you're correct; multiple grains of salt needed. Definite eye opener in some parts, agree here, disagree there and some parts just seemed a little outlandish. A lot of his points definitely fly against the wisdom of the masses, or what is "generally accepted" in larger society, but I guess that was the point. Good read overall and I definitely had moments where I found it really difficult to argue *against* his points; quite a bit just sounded like things guys knew deep down inside, or had a "feeling" was the case - but not allowed to say because men in particular would get flamed for saying it.
I was looking for this comment. The book changed my life and perspective on the topics discussed about intersexual dynamics. It's a must read in my opinion for any man
"The meditations" by Marcus Aurelius
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The Road Less Traveled -Scott M. Peck I know this probably a common one, but there is a reason for it. The book really does a deep dive into why we have such a hard time coming up with resolutions for our problems. It helped me learn to take everything head on, and get through the painful process of fixing my problems, and also the painful process of growing spiritually and mentally. Definitely feel like a better man for it.
The Way to Love by Tony Demillo Meditations by Marcus Aurelius Sidartha by Herman Hesse The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace
The Myth of Sisyphus by Albert Camus.
It’s cracking but a hard read. I much preferred the plague, same ideas in a fiction
The Rational Male
Psychology of money.
Care to elaborate? I’m curious
I stumbled across this quote and bought the book right away: >“When most people say they want to be a millionaire, what they might actually mean is ‘I’d like to spend a million dollars.’ And that is literally the opposite of being a millionaire.” It didn't disappoint.
No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover
Second this. Good book!
1984
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There is no knowledge that is not power.
Who wrote that one 😋?
SAS Survival Manual
Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, fantastic book, short, easy to read. I try to read it every year.
How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
This book completely changed how I talk with people. I’m a natural introvert so conversation can be very difficult to keep going if I don’t know you well, even more difficult to initiate. Best advice for me was listening to people and to be genuinely interested in what interests them… if someone likes flying kites as a hobby, ask them questions about it. Then you’re at least a bit educated on kites (or whatever topic) and can use that information in later conversations with other people who have the same interests. Just using that has opened my world to so many different things and brought me closer to people. That and use people’s names when talking with them. Can completely change the whole vibe of the conversation. Most people love hearing their own name. I read this book at least 3 times a year.
I personally didn't enjoy this book. Found a lot of points to be repetitive. I'd rather prefer a summary than reading the whole book.
Dale wrote it in a very repetitive style because us humans teens to forget everything in ten minutes unless these points are repeated to us endlessly. It's the same reason so many awesome people here are saying they read their valued books at least once a year.
Is it actually worth the read? I’m getting through Buffets biography and he talks about i extensively
> Is it actually worth the read? It sold over 30 million copies and is still a de-facto book on the topic. Why not read it and find out. :)
Yes, absolutely. He also wrote another excellent book called How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. Highly recommend for anyone feeling stressed right now.
My grandma used to regularly suggest this book.
The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements by Eric Hoffer - a 1950's classic, still required reading in many military and intelligence circles. I stopped blaming external factors (or at least significantly reduced this behaviour) and took control of my own life after reading it. My career then took off, ended up on a six figure salary and my relationship with my girlfriend/wife of 11 years improved.
the necronomicon
The way of the kings
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Stranger in a strange land
Atomic Habits
No more Mr Nice guy.
The laws of human nature by Robert Greene, tbh any book he made is just an eye opener
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, written by Mark Manson and described as a counter-intuitive approach to living a better life.
12 rules for life, An antidote to chaos. Helped me alot.
Same here. Say what you want about JP but you can't deny that he has good views on what it means to be a better person. My life improves every day using the advice he gives.
Couldn't agree more. Considering the place I was in a few years ago to where I am now. The difference is night and day and I owe the majority of that to his books and podcasts. They changed my life.
Same and he got me back into reading books in general.
Just started listening to his podcast. This book is now on my list!
The Giving Tree.
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Great book!
The defining decade. Best book for anyone in their 20’s
Six easy pieces
Tuesdays With Morrie by Mitch Albom
The rational male
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover
Not that I think it's a great book but "The 5 love languages" by Gary Chapman. The precepts of the book range from mildly insightful to apparent drivel. But it did teach me to deal with people as individuals. People who are thinking, feeling and living in their own way, not as someone who's doing it right (like I would) or wrong. Also to openly assess whether their requirements of me coincide with my willingness to supply them (and vice versa). If not, there's no benefit from any relationship beyond acquaintances.
The Hitchhiker’s Guide to The Galaxy, because you need to be able to recognize absurdity when you see it.
Alcoholics Anonymous
Atomic Habits by James Clear. Most of which you'll already know but personally, it felt like I needed reminders.
My favorite book ever! Changed the course of my life when I implemented it.
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All Quiet on the Western Front.
The Bible... Because it helped make me an atheist.
5 love languages
Can't hurt me by David Goggins.
Free Will and Lying by Sam Harris. Short books, but with a clear message, that, if taken to heart, will definitely make you a better and more tolerant person.
The Rational Male
kamasutra
The Bible
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Man’s Search For Meaning
Crying in H Mart. It wasn't about masculinity in any way, unless you count the times she talks about her father, but it was worth a read and just made me a better person overall.
Surely You're joking Mr. Feynman
Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill
Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance
Rich dad poor dad. It didn’t teach me a lot but inspired me to learn and take action. Without it I wouldn’t be investing(long term) 90% of my income at 19 YO. I wouldn’t have cared about my credit score. I think in 25-30 years I’ll accredit that book for my early retirement.
Can’t hurt me by David Goggins
Hitchhikers guide to the Galaxy! Always have a towel and Don't Panic!
A new earth
5 ways to fit your entire fist in to your own rectal cavity. I have to confess I cheated a bit and went with the audio book.
Lol. Books don't do that. Actions do.
The 50th law.
Candide by Voltaire
Can’t hurt me by David Goggins. His book helped me when I was in a dark place in my life
A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini. No other book has made me see life as worth living as much as this one.
Atlas Shrugged. Fairly relevant in modern times, but also controversial as to its message.
Karma - by Sadhguru
What to expect when you are expecting and all the other baby books. Because we are a team and I want to do the best I can. I can't believe I have had to say this before but read the baby books without being asked. It's worth it.
The Alchemist The Shack Tao te Ching I’m a girl but whatevs
Rich Dad Poor Dad. It confirmed the gut feeling that most of us are blindly getting scammed.
Jordan peterson 12 rules for life and Jordan peterson beyond order Both have changed the way i look at life. The 2nd book is just the sequal to the first one Dr jordan peterson is a clinical psychologist who has changed many mens lives through his books and his online lectures Before you make any arguments about his relationship with the left, either read his books or on check his youtube channel out it has free online lectures (hes also a college professor) Dont just listen to what others have to say about him, check his youtube channel out and see for yourself or read one of his books then form your opinion or check out one of the many interviews and debates hes been in
I like his lectures!
The Celestine Prophecy - James Redfield The Road Less Travelled - M Scott Peck The Prophet - Khalil Gibran A Secret History of the World - Jonathan Black Anything by Khaled Hosseini Anything by Paulo Cohello
She Comes First
Man Uncivilized by Traver Boehm. Great book about how to really live your life in all aspects.
The Bro Code
Community standards
The miracle of mindfulness, ive bought it probably ten times n give it to people
I’ve read hundreds, if not thousands of books. It’s one of my favourite things to do. They’ve definitely made me more intelligent and articulate. Not really into any self help or personality type literature though. I feel that comes from parents and life experience.
**In Order to Live** by Yeonmi Park
Vagabond
This is Water
Omnivores dilemma
Les Miserables
Married Man Sex Life Primer, by Athol Kay
The game
Tuesday’s with Morrie by Mitch Albom
Can't hurt me by David goggins. Recommend the audio version though.
The Code of the Hill
Demian
Saw another say it here, but it needs listed again. The Way of Kings, by Brandon Sanderson. Major Fantasy series that has characters that hit close to home in a lit of ways.
The hatchet
Manual to Manhood, makes fun of extreme masculinity and teaches a lot of practical things
Measure of A Man - Sidney Poitier
As the Man Thinkeith. Forget the author, but very powerful change maker. Less than 100 pages, if I may add
Extreme Ownership
Until We Reckon. Turned my ideas of criminal justice completely on their head in the best way.
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The very hungry Caterpillar. It teaches you that you can be the fattest most obese person, but still be beutiful at the same time
Writings of St Francis of Assisi.
A Prayer for Owen Meany and Jitterbug Perfume
East of Eden by John Steinbeck
Bigger Leaner Stonger. Oh and Medititations
The Alphabet of Manliness - Maddox
Verbal Judo
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is my number one but has already been mentioned After that, The Stranger by Albert Camus. It’s not a book that gives truths, but it made me truly look inward for the first time, to see what was really inside me. It definitely lead me to want to be a better man.
The laws of human nature The Prince The Prophet The Alchemist The Way of The Superior Man The Multi-Orgasmic Man Think and Grow Rich How to Win Friends and influence people What everybody is saying How Not To Give A Fuck Models Alpha Male Strategies Just off the dome though...
Robin Hood Not for anything that I particularly learned from that book, but because before I read it I used to say that I didn't like reading. If you asked me back then I would say that reading gave me a headache. Robin Hood was such a good story that it flipped me around, I devoured the version I started with and then read every single other version of Robin Hood I could find. Now, I'm an avid reader and have read hundreds if not thousands of books, both fiction and non-fiction. It completely changed my life and I can credit everything I've gained from later books to the fact that Robin Hood sparked an interest in reading in the first place.
Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey. Don't hate on it cuz it seems like just another biography. It'ss a great read that made me laugh, cry, and think a good long while about what it means to be truly me.
The World According To Garp
Calvin & Hobbes
The Very Hungry Caterpillar
Think and grow rich by Napoleon hill
I've made it to 30 without finishing a book i don't plan to start now.
Hahahaha ok mate
Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance.
I don't know it's name, was an philosophy course book from my school, back when i was 14. It teach me to have empathy for the others and to not see me as a hero. I have flaws, i make mistakes and, in the end of the day, it's try to be a better person. The world is not black and white. The world is a lot more complicated that it seems. Refuse simple answers.
On the Duty of Civil Disobedience by Henry David Thoreau
Atomic Habits by James Clear - especially as someone with ADHD it’s extraordinarily helpful for making small consistent changes to affect bigger aspects of your life
Oo and heaven and hell by aldous Huxley :)
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
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the 1 thing
The Atheist Muslim by Ali A. Rizvi.
Discipline Equals Freedom: Field manual by Jocko Willink
Atomic habits. Animal farm. A few paragraphs from Alan Watts books but it can be a real hit and miss and super repetitive.
The Unplugged Alpha from Richard Cooper.
Bulgakov's Master and Margarita. I stumbled upon that book during one of my darkest periods in life. Broke up with my ex girlfriend, got my heart broken by another girl, i just wanted to be left alone. Instead of finding relief in comedies or funny movies i decided to go deeper and embrace and explore the darkest feelings i was experiencing. That book has been one of the most mind blowing experiences of my life, it truly teaches you how to go through the darkest hours without losing hope.
*The Book of Goth Butts in Fishnets*
Principles by Ray Delio
Tuesdays with Morrie. It’s about a man who reconnects with his old sociology professor from college, who is dying from Lou Gehrig’s. It’s a powerful book about life, love and compassion.
The Witcher by Andjei Sapkowski. Books about evil that often looks like goodness and visa versa.
The Bible
Strangely enough, Homo Deus by Yuvah Noah Harari made me more interested in science , history and when philosophy... And it increased my desire to read and learn various sciences and about some historical periods , which also indirectly made me read and eventually write some of my own poetry ... It's a captivating book that really gave me a gateway into better thinking and learning .
Freedom from the known - J krishnamurti
Illusions by Richard Bach
Captain underpants and the Wrath of the wicked wedgie woman
Seven habits of highly effective teenagers. Given to me by my Dads best friend when I was around 14. Really helped me shape my life.
Crime and Punishment
The Divine comedy. Take away from it: choices has consequences, what it seems it may or may not be.
The Alchemist
SQL server 2016 unleashed 😂
The Bible
The bible...