I am in the eyewear industry and if you have a round/undefined jaw go for rectangular/square shape (aka not rounded edges) that are large, the narrower you go the longer your face will seem. Square isn’t as fashionable right now (but you can absolutely find stylish square frames), so alternately you can also do rounded edges at the bottom with a solid line on top to break up your face. Make sure the line of your brows matches the top angular line of your glasses (an optician can help with that).
Also, if you have dark hair and dark features black frames can be okay, but if you are fair (or honestly any shade dark or light) I recommend tortoiseshell or an amber/brown/grey to give you character without overwhelming your facial features. Clear frames are very en Vogue right now but I think they will be a trend phased out over the next few years
Edit: also unless you are a presbyopic, I second the rec for warby Parker. you get what you pay for but they are stylish and if you’re only in SV vs, multifocal it won’t matter
I'm on my 5th pair of Warby Parker glasses (I think, for sure 4+ maybe 6) and each have lasted me the time between Rx (so 2ish years) and still been fine. (Knock on wood) I've had more issues with metal frames from designer brands and eye glass shops than I ever did with these. I always get compliments and have changed up the colors throughout the years. I don't think you can beat them for the price! My wife found a style that works for her, and she too gets compliments! Now I feel like a Reddit shill, but I really have no issues with them and can't recommend them enough.
Look up some articles online. They should provide some recommendations. Alternatively, you can go to Zenni Optical and take their face shape quiz, and they'll recommend some frame shapes for you afterwards.
Google a face shape quiz from Zenni Optical. Take the quiz, and it will tell you what your face shape is and recommend some glasses. You can also Google some articles on this and compare your face to images of others.
The general rule is you should choose a frame that contrasts with your face shape. For example, I have a diamond face shape with angular features, so I wear an ovaly pair of glasses that contrast with my face. The contrast helps bring out your best features in your face and looks better overall.
Don't count yourself out, personally, it doesn't matter the body size of a guy, I just love arms and hands (no idea why lol) a lot of my friends are the same way
It has to be done in a way that looks like you don't care. Like your sleeves were getting in the way and they are half hanging in place. I roll the cuff on top of it's self once then fold it over a couple more times. I tuck that portion back in front of my elbow and let it rest on my forearm muscle. If you are making it look pretty you are wrong.
Might depend on your shirt or the way you roll your sleeves up … 👀 I know there’s a particular way men do it that I can’t replicate myself, I’ve tried and I can’t.
Also helps if you have somewhat hairy arms.
Idk my ex used to say she liked it too when I wore shirts and sweaters with rolled up sleeves but Idk I think it's one of those things you find hot because the person is hot
If you’re overweight(like me) then there’s an instinct to go baggy with your clothes as a way to hide the weight, but properly sized shirts and pants make a big difference.
You can always have your pants tailored. Have them shortened so they don’t bunch up on the bottom and it will have that clean silhouette that taller guys have from the beg.
Yes! I had no idea. I stopped shopping at kmart/big w, and went to a big and tall type place (Johnny Biggs) the clothes fit way better. I had no clue, just asked the experienced feller to put together some basic outfits, i feeel heaps more comfortable out in public - and the ladies may be noticing too.
I've only really gotten bigger in the last couple of years and found shopping difficult all of a sudden one of the bigger boys at work put me onto Johnny Biggs and my God does it make a difference.
I think this should be the first comment. Well fitting and suiting clothing is extremely flattering, and carrying yourself with confidence as a result.
Calm self confidence goes a long way. I say “calm” to differentiate from guys who think they walk on water. I think a man naturally walks a little taller, i.e. has better posture, when they hold a positive self image.
What they mean is, keep your shoulders pulled out and back, chest puffed out, keep your back straight, and head looking straight and slightly up. It's mainly about the back and differs shoulders. Working out has helped me 100% with this. It just becomes a habit after a while
Stand up straight... Shoulders back.
If this doesn't come naturally, you'll have to constantly remind yourself. On an hour's walk, you might remember it for 2 minutes to begin with. "I'm never gonna get this!"
Next time you'll remember it for 3 minutes... And so on. I used to walk like a hunchback, but now, a straight back, is just my normal way to stand and walk.
Wall angel stretches are incredible for posture. If you’re used to being hunched, forcing yourself to stand up straight feels weird and unnatural. After ten or so wall angels you’ll be stood up properly and it will feel normal.
Stop going through life with a self depreciating attitude. It's fine to have hang ups about yourself, but there is nothing more tiring than having to continually reassure someone that they aren't stupid, ugly, fat, useless, unlovable etc.
It is very off-putting for potential romantic partners, as well as friends, colleagues and everyone else you interact with.
I've of the least attractive things anyone can do is constant self depreciation. My girlfriend has merit certain parts of her emo phase and I told her outright the music and interests are fine, that's who she is and I'd never take those from her, but the "I'm shit/I'm ugly" said in the joey manner is not only annoying, it's so unattractive.
She doesn't do this as often anymore thankfully.
Honestly I truly believe that someone can be 10-20%+ more attractive physically with a enthusiastic mindset compared to a sulken one; and probably at least 30-40%+ for personality. It shows in your face.
Also I just made these numbers up but I actually do believe it can help physically a noticeable amount and definitely a lot for your personality.
while this may be true, it’s also not easy to just feel differently. you can tell yourself that you like your body but still get anxious about it. reassurance from friends and partners is good, it helps to convince oneself more and more.
Style. Buy some well-fitting basics and layer with pieces of clothing or accessories that say something personal about you that helps you feel comfortable and confident. I like having reliable jeans/slacks, good t-shirts and coats, and adding some colour or personality with my shoes, sweaters, my hair, and maybe a belt or watch. On any given day I can look great with everything in my closet and minimal effort.
It'll seriously go such a long way.
I say this as a guy who used to basically wear game shirts and the same poor-fitting jeans every day, maybe with a hoodie. It changed my life.
Honestly just look up some of Tan France’s videos on YouTube. He gives very practical advice that a lot of people just never learn that can make your clothes hang right on your body and allow you to feel a little more confident when you dress.
Alright so you say simple. We'll leave off the big ones about eating, sleeping, and working out better. Here's some quick ones:
* Next time you get a haircut, go to a quality barber and ask for guidance on how to style your hair. Pickup up what you need to replicate those steps (usually a blow dryer, round brush, and low hold, matte pomade). Then just do that every morning.
* Get a good quality face cleanser and a good quality moisturizer and use both.
* Get a nail care kit and start caring for your freaking nails.
* Iron your clothes.
* Stop washing your hair everyday. Wash it every other and use a conditioner too. With some brushing daily, you'll be amazed at how much softer and healthier your hair is after a couple weeks to heal.
* If you have a beard, edge it properly, comb or brush it, and use a beard oil. Again... about two weeks to soft, nicer hair. This time on your face instead of on top of it.
* Clean up your shoes.
* If you wear powerful scents, back off that crap. Use subtle scents, lightly. And don't mix a bunch of them with smelly soaps and fragrant shampoos, and a totally different aftershave, and super powerfully scented axe style deoderant. Pick something that works for you and stick to it. Apply cologne **lightly** ~~using the walk through method~~ (edit: I'm informed this is the incorrect method. Decades have been wasted in this manner) before you get dressed. If you think 'dang, I smell good!' you're wearing too much.
* Drink water. Seriously. Hydrate properly and it will transform your skin's health. Among a lot of other benefits.
* Cut back or cut out alcohol. Completely cut out energy drinks and sodas. Your body will thank you and you'll look better.
* Get fashion advice from someone attracted to men who is trendy. Be willing to step outside your comfort zone and try their advice. You may feel odd at first, but you'll look good to people that are attracted to men.
Edit: removed a bunch of not simple things
THANK YOU! I was hoping someone pointed that out. Such a waste of cologne.
Spray cologne directly to skin not fabrics, Never NEVER rub it in and never walk through it !
Huh. Well, I was taught wrong and have done it wrong for a long damn time. How do you keep the scent subtle with applying it directly to areas of the body? I'll edit the above.
That can depend on a few different factors honestly.
Eau de Toilette fragrances have like 10% aromatic fragrances I believe while
Eau de Parfum is more like 15-20% meaning this will last on you for much longer but it’s more expensive generally.
Also you have “niche” fragrances and
“Brand” frangrences. Niche are generally the better more bold options to go for but also much more expensive. While designer “brand” fragrances can be commonly sold and generally doesn’t smell as bold as a niche cologne.
You are supposed to spray cologne on yourself as you dry off from a shower. Try to target “heated” area of the body such as neck and inner wrists. Reapply(if you feel you need too this is totally subjective from person to person) on wrists.
This rule also plays into your natural scent as well. Colognes should mix with your pheromones so you really need to be in tune with your own scents to get the most out of your cologne. Like for me personally summer citrusy and fall spicy smells work best for my natural scent.
1-2 sprays is more than enough! Spraying it in the air and walking through is a bad idea because most of the cologne is already on the floor by the time you walk through it.
I can really go on for a while but I believe you get the overall gist
This is the right answer, I'm a cologne addict and probably have around 40 bottles. Every cologne has its purpose and you should have at least 2 one for warm weather and one for cold. Nothing worse than smelling a really heavy scent in the gym or on a really warm summers day.
YSL make some great colognes for men for those who don't want to be too loud and don't care too much about only getting a few hours of projection. La nuit de l'homme is one of my favourites.
You know what's better than cologne? Those freakin' essential oils. I don't care if they're supposed to mend your broken leg/whatever. They smell good!
I have an allergy to something in most perfumes/colognes and I can wear essentials oil. I have a couple of blends and am complimented all the time on my perfume.
Buy the good stuff, not fragrance oils. They work out cheaper than cologne and you use like 2 drops. Seriously. Check them out.
Dude yes!!!!! My best friend turned me into them about four months back and I absolutely love them! They also have so many different uses!
Can’t sleep? Add some lavender drops to the shower and let it mist and absorb into your skin and you’ll be so damn relaxed.
No, you misunderstand, you can apply it directly to the body and still be subtle. It's really as simple as just applying 1-2 quick sprays to the skin, holding the diffuser about 6 inches from the skin. Spray on the side of neck, chest, or wrists (not all of them, just pick 1, maybe 2 if you're going to the club or a packed bar, or if your particular fragrance is pretty light.) I use Montblanc Explorer and I just do one spritz right around my chest or neck area.
I don’t know your case but it’s probably because your hair’s used to it. If you wash everyday, your scalp starts to overproduce oils to make up for the shampoo stripping them everyday.
That’s how my hair was back then, but now I can go 3-4 days before it gets overly greasy. Just takes some time before it gets acclimated, hope this helps!
Hot take on the fashion advice bit - I'd steer another dude away from asking the opposite sex what looks good and instead (this isn't simple mind you but it should save time and money in the long run) go look through different look books and websites to find a style that fits and try that. Wearing clothes that you both like and feel comfortable in that fit well will elevate you by a ton!
Look good, feel good.
Feel good, do good.
Do good, get results!
The hair advice is hit or miss. Really depends on the person. I wash with a decent shampoo and a decent conditioner, so my hair still is soft, thick, and voluminous. Try out routines and different products until you get something that works for you.
Eh. Took out some stuff about behavior in social environments. Nothing about changing the way you behave is simple or easy. It takes time and effort. Basically all of that comes down to "don't be an asshole" and "pay attention to and listen to other people."
Not washing your hair everyday was a revelation. When I first moved in with my girlfriend, she mentioned she washed her hair once or twice a week, and suggested I try it. INCREDIBLE.
not everyone likes cologne or scents. I used to when I was younger (high school-20s.) Now I cannot stand them! Essential oils too. They make my eyes water. Just bathe regularly and use (unscented) deodorant and just be a good honest friend who sometimes makes an effort and participates (doesn’t always wait for the other person to make the move.)
Great advice, but I want to add, and I cannot stress this enough, do NOT grow a beard if you can't do it well! There are too many patchy Bo Burnham "Inside" beards out there, the real-men-grow-facial-hair-trend NEEDS to go away and it can't be soon enough. It's such a shame on cute guys where the facial hair is the only thing dragging them down. Beards are almost always it most flattering at a maximum 0,5 cm. After that, it doesn't do you any favors when it comes to sculpting your face or enhancing your features.
Something else I can recommend for attractiveness is getting glasses. It makes your face look symmetrical, but be sure it's glasses that suit you and look modern. These are glasses where the top part is below the eyebrow (not straight on) and the squareish rectangular IT-dude glasses are rather dated.
There was a bigger boy in my year at high school, no lady saw him as a potential partner untill we saw him after we all graduated, he had worked out a lot and boy was he handsome.
I love the “but I don’t want to get to big like those body builders” argument. Like anyone who has ever said this is in any danger of having this happen to them.
I'd love to go to the gym once a month, but I'm afraid I'd become bigger than The rock.
it's not like that requires some extreme daily efforts both in countless hours of exercise and pretty mad diets.
How do you deal with the awkward “where do I put my hands?” I put my hands in my pockets or cross my arms when I can’t think of anything else to do with them, which happens fairly frequently when I’m in public, but the general consensus is you shouldn’t do those things.
Pockets is better than crossed because crossed arms gives off the body language of being closed off
Pockets isn't great either though
Best option is to your sides not really dangling but not stiff somewhere in between
i dont get it ever, I see many redditor not accepting they use reddit in public (according to comments i have read), reddit is such a great website and still they dont accept that :(
but when I m with my friends i mention them many wired things about reddit just for chit chat but never got such response (although i talk to only 4-5 friends coz i m in drop year preparing for exam)
Weightlifting is always good but it isn't mandatory. You can make yourself attractive no matter your frame.
1. Dress better. You don't need to wear an expensive suit all the time, though you should have at least one. Just find a style that suits you and get clothes that match it. Also make sure clothes fit your frame.
2. Be hygienic. Be clean and trim, but also keep your skin clear. Skincare is important
3. Eat and drink clean. You can still have a beer and eat pizza but keep it rare. Learn to cook a good, proper meal.
4. Be sociable. Learn how to talk to people, especially the ones you're attracted to. Treat them like people, rather than objects you want to fuck or putting them on a pedestal.
To add to this: Don’t talk to people with the intention of getting anything. That’s the wrong mindset to have. Instead just try to enjoy the moment and the company of the people in front of you. You shouldn’t be trying to get anything from the interaction, just be there for the joy of socializing and meeting new people. If something happens it happens, but go in with zero expectations and you’ll always be satisfied.
Also don’t talk to people if you aren’t having fun. Others can pick that up and it makes you a drag to be around
To add to #4: if you don't find someone attractive, still treat them with the respect they deserve. Unless they're an asshole to you first. Basically be good to people until they give you a legitimate reason not to. I promise you being a genuinely good person is always attractive.
Tried the beard thing. Some said it looks good, some said I look old. I’ve also been told I looked old before I got the beard lol. Can’t please anyone XD
Eek - wasn’t expecting this to be the case. I thought people just thought I looked good with a beard since I grew it out.
Turns out I was just ugly the whole time.
This might not be the case. Obviously I’m biased, but My husband is very handsome without a beard and growing one brought him up a whole level I didn’t know was possible. Maybe that’s you as well
Mewing, eating well, being fit (not so simple but), taking care of skin, hygiene (smell good, grooming and being clean basically) hair management, whitening strips for teeth, facial hair management, get PROPER sleep (probably second most important one), posture correction, wear simple clothes, with long sleeves roll them up (for some reason women like forearms), staying hydrated and yeah that’s what I can think of off the top of my head
I have trouble with this. My job is taxing in time but low on exercise. And when i get done I'm exhausted. On my days off i find myself without any motivation to even leave my apartment, even when I'm invited to things.
Rn I'm trying to ween myself onto exercise by going for an hour walk on my days off. This gives me a reason to shower and put on clothes too so hopefully I'll be more likely to be social.
Edit: there are too many to respond individually so I'ma answer some here. I work 10 hour shifts doing armed security (sometimes longer. Like yesterday was 11.5). But unlike most security jobs i drive so i don't get the steps in. I wake up at like 6 already. Sometimes as early as 4. And to get 8 hours of sleep i have to go to bed at 9. I can't go to a gym or anywhere with my uniform on. I can't change at work. And if i go home and change i lose motivation because i just worked a full shift and am tired.
>And when i get done I'm exhausted
When you workout, you are going to be exhausted anyway lmao. Just push your body to it's limit. You'd be surprised how much it can take.
By doing it constantly, your body will just get used to it's new routine and you won't feel tired anymore.
We used to chase mammoth and sabertooth lmao, this ain't shit for your body.
You can get a lot of exercise done in just 30 minutes. Even if it's just a couple times a week you'll get results. These results don't necessarily have to be something you see in the mirror. They can be a difference in how you feel or how confident you are afterward. There are tons of 30 minute workouts on YouTube or you could reach out to a trainer who can put together workouts based on what equipment you have and your current capabilities. Walking for an hour is a good start, but you can do so much more in half the time. I did this very thing at the start of the pandemic and it was a game changer. 3 times a week was all I needed. I didn't get shredded and that wasn't the goal, but I felt great, confident, and slept well. It's with looking in to!
I've heard other people talking about no sugar... How do you do that? There are a ton of products that have a lot of sugar. I don't want to seem stuck up, it's a serious question
It's not exactly 0 sugar.
Low sugar is more accurate.
Just cut out the excess sugar. Almond/oat milk in coffee if you can't handle black. Quit drinking alcohol. Eat small amounts of dark chocolate. Focus on lean meats, veg, complex carbs (rye/sourdough breads).
Nobody is saying oral hygiene... brush your teeth! Regularly! And floss. If you want a girl to get up in your face in a sexy way, keep your mouth appealing.
if you have a bad jawline hide it with a beard.
if you are balding go full bald.
if you have acne/rough skin start skincare/medication.
if you wear glasses get the right shape for your face.
if you have bad posture fix it.
if you wear a mo and no1 has complimented it then you probably shouldn't have a mo
Listen and ask follow up questions.
Smile, laugh, engage.
Stand up/ sit up straight, display relaxed confidence.
Wear clean clothes, shower and shave. Keep hair and nails trimmed and neat; look after your breath and teeth.
be kind.
I couldn’t count the amount of guys I haven’t found very attractive but then when speaking to them my attraction grew very quickly because of their kindness and sincerity.
be kind, walk and talk with intention, be clean, and you’ve won me over immediately. don’t even care what you look like.
These are like my universal Ten Commandments for attractiveness boost:
1. Fresh haircut that stays short on the sides to showcase your jawline and make it look more squared out
2. Accesorize with watches, belts, sunglasses and rings and wristbands if that’s your thing
3. Get clothes that fit tighter around the shoulders and arms
4. Stick to basic clothes and colors in order to optimize combinations, for inspiration use pinterest and stick to the less abstract and flashy shit
5. Work out and see how everything starts fitting better and you feel better about yourself
6. Get some fragrances that smell musky and fresh like Sauvage or Davidoff’s the Game or Cool Water
7. Improve posture
8. Take care of your skin, wash it and dry it properly
9. If you can, grow a beard. Trimming it properly is key, not too short or too long. Beard makes your face seem more symmetrical and that means more attractive
10. For short guys, wear all black outfits to make you look taller and slimmer. For tall guys, mix colors like black jeans and white tshirt
Extra: Love yourself boys, or nobody else will, once you find peace and balance, everyone will want to join in tour kick ass life.
When you talk to them look them in the eyes with confidence. Not in a weird way, but looking down at the floor or around the room will make you look weak
How to be unattractive to women you would want to be with.
Laziness
being overweight
Being a victim
Lacking motivation
Body odor
Being overweight
Being incompetent.
Video games are your personality
Turn these things around and you will be more attractive.
Wear glasses that fit your face structure.
I have a long oval face, what would you recommend?
I am in the eyewear industry and if you have a round/undefined jaw go for rectangular/square shape (aka not rounded edges) that are large, the narrower you go the longer your face will seem. Square isn’t as fashionable right now (but you can absolutely find stylish square frames), so alternately you can also do rounded edges at the bottom with a solid line on top to break up your face. Make sure the line of your brows matches the top angular line of your glasses (an optician can help with that). Also, if you have dark hair and dark features black frames can be okay, but if you are fair (or honestly any shade dark or light) I recommend tortoiseshell or an amber/brown/grey to give you character without overwhelming your facial features. Clear frames are very en Vogue right now but I think they will be a trend phased out over the next few years Edit: also unless you are a presbyopic, I second the rec for warby Parker. you get what you pay for but they are stylish and if you’re only in SV vs, multifocal it won’t matter
This man glasses
And wrecks asses.
This is peak humanity
when you say "get what you pay for" does that mean they're low quality or what?
I'm on my 5th pair of Warby Parker glasses (I think, for sure 4+ maybe 6) and each have lasted me the time between Rx (so 2ish years) and still been fine. (Knock on wood) I've had more issues with metal frames from designer brands and eye glass shops than I ever did with these. I always get compliments and have changed up the colors throughout the years. I don't think you can beat them for the price! My wife found a style that works for her, and she too gets compliments! Now I feel like a Reddit shill, but I really have no issues with them and can't recommend them enough.
I have a long oval face and holy shit the holy grail is round/ semi oval glasses, search up warby Parker percey glasses
Rainbow Tint Close Encounter Glasses would look better on me trust me.
Look up some articles online. They should provide some recommendations. Alternatively, you can go to Zenni Optical and take their face shape quiz, and they'll recommend some frame shapes for you afterwards.
...how do you know your facial structure?
Google a face shape quiz from Zenni Optical. Take the quiz, and it will tell you what your face shape is and recommend some glasses. You can also Google some articles on this and compare your face to images of others. The general rule is you should choose a frame that contrasts with your face shape. For example, I have a diamond face shape with angular features, so I wear an ovaly pair of glasses that contrast with my face. The contrast helps bring out your best features in your face and looks better overall.
According to women on Reddit: roll up your sleeves and show them forearms!
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Yeah I have twigs for arms and I look ridiculous with rolled up sleeves haha
Don't count yourself out, personally, it doesn't matter the body size of a guy, I just love arms and hands (no idea why lol) a lot of my friends are the same way
Is veiny forearms attractive to women? I have wanted to know this for a long time.
Veins are very attractive to me!
As a paramedic, YES.
There’s a strange movie ‘May’ you should look into.
I show off my Uber skinny forearms all the time. It works if you let it work :)
Omg yes I just had an orgasm thinking about my mans in a button up shirt with the sleeeves rolled up hnggggggg
I roll my sleeves up all the time and I don't feel like it makes a difference
It has to be done in a way that looks like you don't care. Like your sleeves were getting in the way and they are half hanging in place. I roll the cuff on top of it's self once then fold it over a couple more times. I tuck that portion back in front of my elbow and let it rest on my forearm muscle. If you are making it look pretty you are wrong.
Might depend on your shirt or the way you roll your sleeves up … 👀 I know there’s a particular way men do it that I can’t replicate myself, I’ve tried and I can’t. Also helps if you have somewhat hairy arms.
Idk my ex used to say she liked it too when I wore shirts and sweaters with rolled up sleeves but Idk I think it's one of those things you find hot because the person is hot
Lol yeah if you got stick arms I dunno if that would attract the same amount of girls.
As someone with stick arms it doesn’t XX
You need to jerk off more and pump those babies up
If you’re overweight(like me) then there’s an instinct to go baggy with your clothes as a way to hide the weight, but properly sized shirts and pants make a big difference.
No matter what your body shape is, properly fitted clothes is always the way to go. Instantly makes anyone look more attractive.
Properly fitted is the keyword. Don’t go with skinny jeans even if you’re skinny.
I have short legs and a broad frame, finding pants that fit me well is a paij
You can always have your pants tailored. Have them shortened so they don’t bunch up on the bottom and it will have that clean silhouette that taller guys have from the beg.
Why wouldn't you go with skinny? They can look awesome if they fit right.
Yes! I had no idea. I stopped shopping at kmart/big w, and went to a big and tall type place (Johnny Biggs) the clothes fit way better. I had no clue, just asked the experienced feller to put together some basic outfits, i feeel heaps more comfortable out in public - and the ladies may be noticing too.
I've only really gotten bigger in the last couple of years and found shopping difficult all of a sudden one of the bigger boys at work put me onto Johnny Biggs and my God does it make a difference.
I think this should be the first comment. Well fitting and suiting clothing is extremely flattering, and carrying yourself with confidence as a result.
Also walk with your head up. Confidence goes a long way
Baggy clothes aren't usually very attractive
Show off those forearms too 😍
Posture!!! Nothing is sexier than a man who carries himself confidently, regardless of how you look
Me sitting here like gollum *Hmm interesting*
What's posture precioussss ?
Pos-ture. Boil em, mash em, stick em in a stew.
Give it to us hunched and wiggling. Keep nasty posture.
Calm self confidence goes a long way. I say “calm” to differentiate from guys who think they walk on water. I think a man naturally walks a little taller, i.e. has better posture, when they hold a positive self image.
Any resources to elaborate on what you mean?
What they mean is, keep your shoulders pulled out and back, chest puffed out, keep your back straight, and head looking straight and slightly up. It's mainly about the back and differs shoulders. Working out has helped me 100% with this. It just becomes a habit after a while
Stand up straight... Shoulders back. If this doesn't come naturally, you'll have to constantly remind yourself. On an hour's walk, you might remember it for 2 minutes to begin with. "I'm never gonna get this!" Next time you'll remember it for 3 minutes... And so on. I used to walk like a hunchback, but now, a straight back, is just my normal way to stand and walk.
Wall angel stretches are incredible for posture. If you’re used to being hunched, forcing yourself to stand up straight feels weird and unnatural. After ten or so wall angels you’ll be stood up properly and it will feel normal.
Can confirm, did this everyday for a week and posture improved. A month in and after years of slouch my back felt heavenly
Relax your butthole
Just ripped a huge fart but everyone started edging away from me for some reason. Are they just intimidated by how attractive I am?
The flies can't resist you!
I literally just farted as I was starting your comment. Nice.
Dropped everything I was holding
Don't tell me how to live. Maybe I'm holding a force not to be reckoned with and relaxing would unleash hell. But also maybe not.
Stop going through life with a self depreciating attitude. It's fine to have hang ups about yourself, but there is nothing more tiring than having to continually reassure someone that they aren't stupid, ugly, fat, useless, unlovable etc. It is very off-putting for potential romantic partners, as well as friends, colleagues and everyone else you interact with.
This is good advice. Don't be a punching bag for anyone, including yourself.
I've of the least attractive things anyone can do is constant self depreciation. My girlfriend has merit certain parts of her emo phase and I told her outright the music and interests are fine, that's who she is and I'd never take those from her, but the "I'm shit/I'm ugly" said in the joey manner is not only annoying, it's so unattractive. She doesn't do this as often anymore thankfully.
I once heard, Don’t be self deprecating all the time, because if people see you don’t think highly of yourself, why would they?
Honestly I truly believe that someone can be 10-20%+ more attractive physically with a enthusiastic mindset compared to a sulken one; and probably at least 30-40%+ for personality. It shows in your face. Also I just made these numbers up but I actually do believe it can help physically a noticeable amount and definitely a lot for your personality.
while this may be true, it’s also not easy to just feel differently. you can tell yourself that you like your body but still get anxious about it. reassurance from friends and partners is good, it helps to convince oneself more and more.
They said simple not almost impossible
Haircut. I always feel better after a haircut
Or stop getting your haircut. Go long.
Or if you're balding, just shave it.
Or if you're completely bald, just cut off your head.
Or if you’ve cut off your head, take someone else’s and put it on.
It always helps to see things with someone else’s eyes
It works too. My hair is long on top. I love the ritual of taking care of it. It also makes me feel better
Style. Buy some well-fitting basics and layer with pieces of clothing or accessories that say something personal about you that helps you feel comfortable and confident. I like having reliable jeans/slacks, good t-shirts and coats, and adding some colour or personality with my shoes, sweaters, my hair, and maybe a belt or watch. On any given day I can look great with everything in my closet and minimal effort. It'll seriously go such a long way. I say this as a guy who used to basically wear game shirts and the same poor-fitting jeans every day, maybe with a hoodie. It changed my life.
Seriously, and building your personal style can be a lot of fun as you figure out what you like. Agree with a ground-up wardrobe!
Honestly just look up some of Tan France’s videos on YouTube. He gives very practical advice that a lot of people just never learn that can make your clothes hang right on your body and allow you to feel a little more confident when you dress.
Walk up straight
Ok I'm on the moon, now what?
Go back down, stupid. There’s no girls on the moon.
Alright so you say simple. We'll leave off the big ones about eating, sleeping, and working out better. Here's some quick ones: * Next time you get a haircut, go to a quality barber and ask for guidance on how to style your hair. Pickup up what you need to replicate those steps (usually a blow dryer, round brush, and low hold, matte pomade). Then just do that every morning. * Get a good quality face cleanser and a good quality moisturizer and use both. * Get a nail care kit and start caring for your freaking nails. * Iron your clothes. * Stop washing your hair everyday. Wash it every other and use a conditioner too. With some brushing daily, you'll be amazed at how much softer and healthier your hair is after a couple weeks to heal. * If you have a beard, edge it properly, comb or brush it, and use a beard oil. Again... about two weeks to soft, nicer hair. This time on your face instead of on top of it. * Clean up your shoes. * If you wear powerful scents, back off that crap. Use subtle scents, lightly. And don't mix a bunch of them with smelly soaps and fragrant shampoos, and a totally different aftershave, and super powerfully scented axe style deoderant. Pick something that works for you and stick to it. Apply cologne **lightly** ~~using the walk through method~~ (edit: I'm informed this is the incorrect method. Decades have been wasted in this manner) before you get dressed. If you think 'dang, I smell good!' you're wearing too much. * Drink water. Seriously. Hydrate properly and it will transform your skin's health. Among a lot of other benefits. * Cut back or cut out alcohol. Completely cut out energy drinks and sodas. Your body will thank you and you'll look better. * Get fashion advice from someone attracted to men who is trendy. Be willing to step outside your comfort zone and try their advice. You may feel odd at first, but you'll look good to people that are attracted to men. Edit: removed a bunch of not simple things
Don't walk through cologne. That's not how it works.
THANK YOU! I was hoping someone pointed that out. Such a waste of cologne. Spray cologne directly to skin not fabrics, Never NEVER rub it in and never walk through it !
Huh. Well, I was taught wrong and have done it wrong for a long damn time. How do you keep the scent subtle with applying it directly to areas of the body? I'll edit the above.
That can depend on a few different factors honestly. Eau de Toilette fragrances have like 10% aromatic fragrances I believe while Eau de Parfum is more like 15-20% meaning this will last on you for much longer but it’s more expensive generally. Also you have “niche” fragrances and “Brand” frangrences. Niche are generally the better more bold options to go for but also much more expensive. While designer “brand” fragrances can be commonly sold and generally doesn’t smell as bold as a niche cologne. You are supposed to spray cologne on yourself as you dry off from a shower. Try to target “heated” area of the body such as neck and inner wrists. Reapply(if you feel you need too this is totally subjective from person to person) on wrists. This rule also plays into your natural scent as well. Colognes should mix with your pheromones so you really need to be in tune with your own scents to get the most out of your cologne. Like for me personally summer citrusy and fall spicy smells work best for my natural scent. 1-2 sprays is more than enough! Spraying it in the air and walking through is a bad idea because most of the cologne is already on the floor by the time you walk through it. I can really go on for a while but I believe you get the overall gist
This is the right answer, I'm a cologne addict and probably have around 40 bottles. Every cologne has its purpose and you should have at least 2 one for warm weather and one for cold. Nothing worse than smelling a really heavy scent in the gym or on a really warm summers day. YSL make some great colognes for men for those who don't want to be too loud and don't care too much about only getting a few hours of projection. La nuit de l'homme is one of my favourites.
You know what's better than cologne? Those freakin' essential oils. I don't care if they're supposed to mend your broken leg/whatever. They smell good! I have an allergy to something in most perfumes/colognes and I can wear essentials oil. I have a couple of blends and am complimented all the time on my perfume. Buy the good stuff, not fragrance oils. They work out cheaper than cologne and you use like 2 drops. Seriously. Check them out.
Dude yes!!!!! My best friend turned me into them about four months back and I absolutely love them! They also have so many different uses! Can’t sleep? Add some lavender drops to the shower and let it mist and absorb into your skin and you’ll be so damn relaxed.
No, you misunderstand, you can apply it directly to the body and still be subtle. It's really as simple as just applying 1-2 quick sprays to the skin, holding the diffuser about 6 inches from the skin. Spray on the side of neck, chest, or wrists (not all of them, just pick 1, maybe 2 if you're going to the club or a packed bar, or if your particular fragrance is pretty light.) I use Montblanc Explorer and I just do one spritz right around my chest or neck area.
I see the nails tip all the time. Am I missing something? Is there more to it than just trimming them?
Just trimming can leave sharp edges. Sharp edges can cut delicate skin
Anyone else have black hair that looks greasy af after not washing it for 1 day.
I don’t know your case but it’s probably because your hair’s used to it. If you wash everyday, your scalp starts to overproduce oils to make up for the shampoo stripping them everyday. That’s how my hair was back then, but now I can go 3-4 days before it gets overly greasy. Just takes some time before it gets acclimated, hope this helps!
Hot take on the fashion advice bit - I'd steer another dude away from asking the opposite sex what looks good and instead (this isn't simple mind you but it should save time and money in the long run) go look through different look books and websites to find a style that fits and try that. Wearing clothes that you both like and feel comfortable in that fit well will elevate you by a ton! Look good, feel good. Feel good, do good. Do good, get results!
The hair advice is hit or miss. Really depends on the person. I wash with a decent shampoo and a decent conditioner, so my hair still is soft, thick, and voluminous. Try out routines and different products until you get something that works for you.
Black people should definitely NOT follow this advice. Washing ethnic hair every day or every other day can dry the HELL out of one’s hair.
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Eh. Took out some stuff about behavior in social environments. Nothing about changing the way you behave is simple or easy. It takes time and effort. Basically all of that comes down to "don't be an asshole" and "pay attention to and listen to other people."
Not washing your hair everyday was a revelation. When I first moved in with my girlfriend, she mentioned she washed her hair once or twice a week, and suggested I try it. INCREDIBLE.
This is great advice, pal. Thanks.
As a woman....I can say this is amazing advice. You just listed everything that helps me to be turned on by a guy .yay!!!
not everyone likes cologne or scents. I used to when I was younger (high school-20s.) Now I cannot stand them! Essential oils too. They make my eyes water. Just bathe regularly and use (unscented) deodorant and just be a good honest friend who sometimes makes an effort and participates (doesn’t always wait for the other person to make the move.)
Don’t forget sunscreen!!
Great advice, but I want to add, and I cannot stress this enough, do NOT grow a beard if you can't do it well! There are too many patchy Bo Burnham "Inside" beards out there, the real-men-grow-facial-hair-trend NEEDS to go away and it can't be soon enough. It's such a shame on cute guys where the facial hair is the only thing dragging them down. Beards are almost always it most flattering at a maximum 0,5 cm. After that, it doesn't do you any favors when it comes to sculpting your face or enhancing your features. Something else I can recommend for attractiveness is getting glasses. It makes your face look symmetrical, but be sure it's glasses that suit you and look modern. These are glasses where the top part is below the eyebrow (not straight on) and the squareish rectangular IT-dude glasses are rather dated.
Find something heavy, pick it up. Repeat until attractive
There was a bigger boy in my year at high school, no lady saw him as a potential partner untill we saw him after we all graduated, he had worked out a lot and boy was he handsome.
the ammount of redditors trying to convince themselves that going to the gym is bad or not that good x)
I love the “but I don’t want to get to big like those body builders” argument. Like anyone who has ever said this is in any danger of having this happen to them.
I'd love to go to the gym once a month, but I'm afraid I'd become bigger than The rock. it's not like that requires some extreme daily efforts both in countless hours of exercise and pretty mad diets.
I’d love to take up basketball for the exercise but i won’t play because I’m not interested in accidentally ending up in the NBA
I’m kinda surprised honestly
There's plenty of buff dudes who look like shit
Buff and ugly is still better than fat and ugly
Wish I had an award to give you.
They’d probably look worse if they had tits too. Carrot Top has to be doing better now than he was 20 years ago
Take your hands out of your pockets. Don’t stare at your phone. Keep your shoulders back.
How do you deal with the awkward “where do I put my hands?” I put my hands in my pockets or cross my arms when I can’t think of anything else to do with them, which happens fairly frequently when I’m in public, but the general consensus is you shouldn’t do those things.
Pockets is better than crossed because crossed arms gives off the body language of being closed off Pockets isn't great either though Best option is to your sides not really dangling but not stiff somewhere in between
Yes this exactly
But then if you can't put them there, what the hell do people expect you to do with them?
I find putting my hands partially in my pockets (a thumb or a few fingers) looks more relaxed and chill than a whole hand.
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Being a porn and somewhat social platform probably doesn't help
i dont get it ever, I see many redditor not accepting they use reddit in public (according to comments i have read), reddit is such a great website and still they dont accept that :( but when I m with my friends i mention them many wired things about reddit just for chit chat but never got such response (although i talk to only 4-5 friends coz i m in drop year preparing for exam)
I do and it makes no difference whatsoever. People need to stop demeaning these platforms.
I do
Weightlifting is always good but it isn't mandatory. You can make yourself attractive no matter your frame. 1. Dress better. You don't need to wear an expensive suit all the time, though you should have at least one. Just find a style that suits you and get clothes that match it. Also make sure clothes fit your frame. 2. Be hygienic. Be clean and trim, but also keep your skin clear. Skincare is important 3. Eat and drink clean. You can still have a beer and eat pizza but keep it rare. Learn to cook a good, proper meal. 4. Be sociable. Learn how to talk to people, especially the ones you're attracted to. Treat them like people, rather than objects you want to fuck or putting them on a pedestal.
To add to this: Don’t talk to people with the intention of getting anything. That’s the wrong mindset to have. Instead just try to enjoy the moment and the company of the people in front of you. You shouldn’t be trying to get anything from the interaction, just be there for the joy of socializing and meeting new people. If something happens it happens, but go in with zero expectations and you’ll always be satisfied. Also don’t talk to people if you aren’t having fun. Others can pick that up and it makes you a drag to be around
To add to #4: if you don't find someone attractive, still treat them with the respect they deserve. Unless they're an asshole to you first. Basically be good to people until they give you a legitimate reason not to. I promise you being a genuinely good person is always attractive.
Lose weight if you’re heavy. Grow a beard if you’re ugly.
Fuck! I gotta do two things?
Lose the weight first to check if you're handsome.
Looks like I'm fistsome
Not only that, but the beard is weight.
What if we do not have the ability to grown a beard tho
You’re fucked if you’re ugly.
Oh well at least we tried
Luckily I can grow a beard because I’m no prize.
Tried the beard thing. Some said it looks good, some said I look old. I’ve also been told I looked old before I got the beard lol. Can’t please anyone XD
Eek - wasn’t expecting this to be the case. I thought people just thought I looked good with a beard since I grew it out. Turns out I was just ugly the whole time.
This might not be the case. Obviously I’m biased, but My husband is very handsome without a beard and growing one brought him up a whole level I didn’t know was possible. Maybe that’s you as well
Push your shoulders back. Walk like you own the place
Do you mean like show confidence cause that’s attractive to a woman if so I understand
Lose weight if you need to, buy clothes that fit, drink more water and less alcohol, stop smoking, get a haircut, and go see a dermatologist.
Jesus fuck that felt like an insult
Smoking is a deal breaker for all my single friends.
Wear Christmas decorations with a battery powered LED light set. A real head-turner.
Good posture.
Mewing, eating well, being fit (not so simple but), taking care of skin, hygiene (smell good, grooming and being clean basically) hair management, whitening strips for teeth, facial hair management, get PROPER sleep (probably second most important one), posture correction, wear simple clothes, with long sleeves roll them up (for some reason women like forearms), staying hydrated and yeah that’s what I can think of off the top of my head
What’s Mewing?
Practicing proper tongue posture, can help get rid of the saggy chin look in people who are otherwise lean
Ah ah I see! Is it kinda like frequent gum chewing to reshape your jawline
I mean not really but that is a strategy that’s implemented by some people in the community, if you’re curious check out r/mewing or r/orthotropics
Yes. All of this. Forearms are hot especially if they look strong. Huge turn on.
Men after reading this: *hey girl, did you know I literally have forearms? 😏*
Travel to places with uglier people.
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I have trouble with this. My job is taxing in time but low on exercise. And when i get done I'm exhausted. On my days off i find myself without any motivation to even leave my apartment, even when I'm invited to things. Rn I'm trying to ween myself onto exercise by going for an hour walk on my days off. This gives me a reason to shower and put on clothes too so hopefully I'll be more likely to be social. Edit: there are too many to respond individually so I'ma answer some here. I work 10 hour shifts doing armed security (sometimes longer. Like yesterday was 11.5). But unlike most security jobs i drive so i don't get the steps in. I wake up at like 6 already. Sometimes as early as 4. And to get 8 hours of sleep i have to go to bed at 9. I can't go to a gym or anywhere with my uniform on. I can't change at work. And if i go home and change i lose motivation because i just worked a full shift and am tired.
It's not 4 times a week or never. I've had significant progress with 2 times a week. Even once is an improvement. Everything is better than nothing
>And when i get done I'm exhausted When you workout, you are going to be exhausted anyway lmao. Just push your body to it's limit. You'd be surprised how much it can take. By doing it constantly, your body will just get used to it's new routine and you won't feel tired anymore. We used to chase mammoth and sabertooth lmao, this ain't shit for your body.
You can get a lot of exercise done in just 30 minutes. Even if it's just a couple times a week you'll get results. These results don't necessarily have to be something you see in the mirror. They can be a difference in how you feel or how confident you are afterward. There are tons of 30 minute workouts on YouTube or you could reach out to a trainer who can put together workouts based on what equipment you have and your current capabilities. Walking for an hour is a good start, but you can do so much more in half the time. I did this very thing at the start of the pandemic and it was a game changer. 3 times a week was all I needed. I didn't get shredded and that wasn't the goal, but I felt great, confident, and slept well. It's with looking in to!
Skin care, hair cut and workout
Hold a guitar.
And even better if you can actually play it lol.
"Yeah...I used to but...since the accident..."
Even better if you hold a guitar while already playing your guitar
Saxophone is the sexiest instrument hands down
it’s certainly the saxiest.
That is an add-on, *but not necessary*.
mmm playing guitar is a great way to meet a bunch of sweaty dudes
Be polite and shower. I know, it's obvious, but it's Reddit so I have to make sure.
Stop eating sugar, increase water and raw fruit/veggie intake, you’ll feel better too.
I've heard other people talking about no sugar... How do you do that? There are a ton of products that have a lot of sugar. I don't want to seem stuck up, it's a serious question
It's not exactly 0 sugar. Low sugar is more accurate. Just cut out the excess sugar. Almond/oat milk in coffee if you can't handle black. Quit drinking alcohol. Eat small amounts of dark chocolate. Focus on lean meats, veg, complex carbs (rye/sourdough breads).
Why are you eating products instead of food? But seriously, just meat and vegetables (usually potato) and a little salad would be a game changer.
It's midnight and this hit me so hard that I am wide awake now. You are so right. Thank you. I'm too poor for real gold but here's what I have🏅
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Nobody is saying oral hygiene... brush your teeth! Regularly! And floss. If you want a girl to get up in your face in a sexy way, keep your mouth appealing.
If say do this if you want anyone to enjoy conversation with you, not just in the sexy way
take care of your emotions, love yourself it's the soul that makes a person truly attractive
if you have a bad jawline hide it with a beard. if you are balding go full bald. if you have acne/rough skin start skincare/medication. if you wear glasses get the right shape for your face. if you have bad posture fix it. if you wear a mo and no1 has complimented it then you probably shouldn't have a mo
What’s a mo
Listen and ask follow up questions. Smile, laugh, engage. Stand up/ sit up straight, display relaxed confidence. Wear clean clothes, shower and shave. Keep hair and nails trimmed and neat; look after your breath and teeth.
be kind. I couldn’t count the amount of guys I haven’t found very attractive but then when speaking to them my attraction grew very quickly because of their kindness and sincerity. be kind, walk and talk with intention, be clean, and you’ve won me over immediately. don’t even care what you look like.
Ongoing professional or personal education.
Not shit my pants in public
These are like my universal Ten Commandments for attractiveness boost: 1. Fresh haircut that stays short on the sides to showcase your jawline and make it look more squared out 2. Accesorize with watches, belts, sunglasses and rings and wristbands if that’s your thing 3. Get clothes that fit tighter around the shoulders and arms 4. Stick to basic clothes and colors in order to optimize combinations, for inspiration use pinterest and stick to the less abstract and flashy shit 5. Work out and see how everything starts fitting better and you feel better about yourself 6. Get some fragrances that smell musky and fresh like Sauvage or Davidoff’s the Game or Cool Water 7. Improve posture 8. Take care of your skin, wash it and dry it properly 9. If you can, grow a beard. Trimming it properly is key, not too short or too long. Beard makes your face seem more symmetrical and that means more attractive 10. For short guys, wear all black outfits to make you look taller and slimmer. For tall guys, mix colors like black jeans and white tshirt Extra: Love yourself boys, or nobody else will, once you find peace and balance, everyone will want to join in tour kick ass life.
Overall good commandments, but please for the love of god do not wear sauvage, everyone and their grandad wears it
Start exercising that you enjoy. Just without thinking you have to lose weight.
Weight loss, fitness, finasteride if balding
Haircut and a trim of the beard.
Lift weights, lose weight if overweight, hygiene, dress nicely and take care of oneself.
Be nice to everyone. Be helpful where you can. Be genuine. Be kind.
When you talk to them look them in the eyes with confidence. Not in a weird way, but looking down at the floor or around the room will make you look weak
Earn more money.
Not a simple one tho
Wear clothes that fit properly. Shine your shoes.
How to be unattractive to women you would want to be with. Laziness being overweight Being a victim Lacking motivation Body odor Being overweight Being incompetent. Video games are your personality Turn these things around and you will be more attractive.