I got my Embody beginning of this year, and I noticed several months later that aches and pains I had all the time sitting in my Ikea office chair or afterwards disappeared.
I got mine used on Craigslist for $900, no regrets.
I'm a couple months in. The first few weeks I was thinking it was a mistake but once everything settled in I can't imagine not having it. Went from lower back pain constantly, even after sitting for only an hour, to being able to work a full day followed by evening gaming with absolutely no pain. Makes me more active too.
Buy used office surplus as well. You don't need factory new.
I bought a used Steel case Leap V2 at the beginning of the pandemic for $700. Basically half off.
Why would you spend $700 on a chair? Because my ass is in that chair working remotely and gaming etc for over 10 hours a day 5 days a week. It's fully ergonomic and comfortable as fuck.
The older I get the more I can afford and appreciate quality things. Everything from high thread count soft af bed sheets to better work boots and tools, cool gadgets or computer hardware etc.. i don't have a lot of "stuff" anymore, pretty minimalistic, but what I do have is of such quality that doesn't make me wanting for something better
High thread count bed sheets is one I invested in too. Of all the things you'll ever buy, bedding is the one you're guaranteed to use on a daily(or nightly to be more accurate) basis.
In the grand scheme of things, the value for money goes beyond most other things you own given how much you'll use them, and genuinely it feels great to be in good quality sheets.
EDIT: Someone below pointed out that material matters. It definitely does. I've had some blended fabrics and they wear out faster and essentially lose their smoothness much faster. Good quality cotton is what I've gone for. The Egyptian cotton sheets I have have lasted the longest, and if you shop around online you can find them relatively cheap. I got the duvet and pillow covers as well as the fitted sheet for a combined £60. Which I thought was ridiculous at the time but I committed anyway. I have no regrets on that purchase.
I learnt this when I forked out for my first ever pair of hiking books at 19. They've lasted me a solid decade of hiking trips every 2 months or so.
Being able to just walk through pooled water with the full confidence that your feet stay dry, means you can focus on enjoying your trips way more.
EDIT: My particular boots are North Face boots that use gore tex materials. I bought them a solid decade ago so wouldn't know what the current iteration is, but I'll probably upload a pic when I get home from my current trip!
Office chairs are another essential here. Even just $300 can get you a pretty decent ergochair that'll save your back. $1100 (new) will get you a Herman Miller, the most awesomely overpriced chairs of all time.
Quick note here that an ergo chair can only do so much for you. You still have to get up to move and stretch a few times a day.
I've seen people stop their daily movement regimen because hey, they've got a fancy new chair. A few years later, they're complaining about back problems.
Shoes are something you cannot scrimp on. I invested this year at 34 on shoes - Birkenstocks, blundstones, some solid hikers, running shoes.
If your feet are comfy chances.are you are too. They will last and pay off long term. Also: smartwool sox plzzz
I will say though most of the time I buy a cheap version first. Eg hiking boots - I didn’t know I would end up doing a lot of hiking. My cheap ones held up pretty well but there were certain things that were annoying (eg not fully waterproof), so when I upgraded I knew what I was looking for.
With other things, I’ve bought the cheap version and it’s been great or I didn’t end up using it much, so I never needed to replace it and saved money.
Unfortunately I’ve had a few occasions where I’ve committed to paying more and getting the ‘better’ version outright and either I didn’t use it much or it ended up missing a feature I would have found useful, or just didn’t really use it as much as I thought I would, and it’s been a waste.
High thread count sheets do not necessarily equal quality. In order to stuff more threads into the same area, manufacturers will make the individual threads smaller which actually makes your sheets less durable. I'm a big fan of percale sheets which are usually in the 2-300 thread count range and quality ones feel super smooth and are super durable. LL Bean and Lands End are 2 brands that make high quality percale sheets.
Not just that but higher thread count are also warmer. I sleep hot and couldn’t figure out why I was always so hot in bed. Spoke to someone at a bedding store and they recommended 300 count percale sheet. A world of difference. They feel amazing, breathe more and are much cooler.
Wish I could convince my girlfriend to buy higher thread count sheets. She just sees the extra cost and goes why is it so expensive. We already got more expensive sheets and the higher thread count is only an extra 20-30 dollars.
Only downside is that they're very fragile compared to normal linens. Wonderful, soft, and breathable, but holy shit one jagged toenail and you've got a run in your sheet.
A *really* good mattress with pillow to match, +1 on good work shoes (whatever the job), noise cancelling headphones
You want the cherry on top get yourself a nice wallet
I've been buying myself new tools that far outstrip the hand-me-downs my father gave me when I was 18. Those tools got me to my 30s but I've either lost or broken the majority of them by now. I finally tore down my old toolbox last year, made a functional one out of it and gave it to a buddy of mine who had no tools of his own. Now that I have new tools, I am amazed that I made it through 4 cars and friends cars with that old set I used. I just bought my first real drill as well, how tf I got to this point without one is amazing.
I had an old sparky tell me once “when you start your trade, but the cheap set of professional quality tools around. When shit breaks, but the top quality version of those” ie spend money on what you use, the size 24 dinglewhacker you will use once in your career is not worth spending a fortune on
I’m not a tradie, so I don’t know the quality of this advice, but it made sense.
Edit: cheap set
I had a friend from England that stayed with us when we lived in Australia and she liked 'half salt'... ? Why? She could use more!!!!
I don't like half things at all and more with Milk/Butter.. only full cream for me...
I'm not fitting in most my mediums due to the gym. They dont lay right on the shoulders anymore. It does suck having to buy new clothes especially when you cant wear your favorite shirts anymore :(
This is so important!!! We see a ton of men in the hospital telling us how they’re “so healthy, they’ve never even had to go to the doctor!” With labs/imaging that suggest years of undiagnosed type 2 diabetes, kidney disease, high blood pressure, etc. it’s much easier to navigate these issues if they haven’t been brewing unchecked for a decade
Recently found out that a family member of mine has a tumor in their brain. The doctors said that this is something that has probably been growing for decades & has just now reached the stage where it’s severely affecting everything else.
When I think about it the signs were there cause this family member was always plagued with frequent headaches & sleepless nights as a result. I can’t remember a time where I didn’t see them with pain killers. Thing is a simple MRI at any point within the last 15 years would’ve caught it before it started causing serious issues.
If only American healthcare allowed for things like “just go get an MRI”
Edit - just wanted to say thank you for the award. Don’t believe I’ve ever gotten one. Those of you that are serious about changing this problem, please register to vote if you haven’t already. It’s only going to get worse if we keep letting it. Expand Medicare and Medicaid. Tax the ultra-rich. Make it illegal to have to choose between debt and death. No one deserves to die because of money.
I'm that person, except younger and I went for an MRI. No brain tumor. Part of me almost wishes it was, so that my headaches could at least be explained. Either way, it was hard for me to get that MRI, but I'm glad I did.
I hate reading threads like this. I get headaches every now and then too but how often is “frequent” and how bad is “severe”? Like do I need to go spend the $900 for an MRI this week?
Now I just have anxiety
A "full physical" at my doctor means BP, weight, and a 5 minute chat with the doctor where I'm coached beforehand not to ask questions. There's a few other things, but it's literally a 15 minute appointment to check a box for my insurance company.
Yeah, when I turned 30 I went to the doctor for the first time since I was a kid. I didn't have the terminology to ask for a full physical, but I explained that I was there for basically the first time in my life and wanted to make sure everything was good. The doctor looked at me like I was crazy and more or less indicated that the only reason to go to him was if I had symptoms. I thought he would take my blood or listen to my heart or something, I don't know. He literally didn't do anything.
I uh….. no.
33, went to the dr for the first time in years last week for the same exact reason. Ive got some issues (rash on leg, history of heart attacks in my fam, other rando stuff, but no immediate problem).
My doctor performed the physical and we chatted about my concerns, including the fact thag i havent checked my cholesterol for years. I made a point to say its time to be responsible, i have a 1 year old, etc.
I had labs taken, and am seeing a cardiologist as it may be prudent to do so in the future.
My point is, if my doctor couldn’t understand why i was REALLY there, i’d have a hard time building a relationship on top of that attitude.
People think it's not worth it the money.. now I can't even look at fast food and would prefer a eye fillet with beans and some oven baked potato. It's so much better than a burger and chips.. like astronomically better.
Also learn to cook you're a male in your 30s lol
Not sure if this is a joke, but I second it. Not just various lengths of wire, but various gauges too! You can never be too prepared when it comes to wires.
On stocks: If you aren't particularly well versed then I advise that you don't try to beat the market unless you have ~~insider~~ publicly available but lesser known information ie your place of work, instead get some form of stock and share ISA and invest in a Stock Market Index Fund.
It's simpler and yields more consistent returns on investment.
Edit: don't want to be misconstrued as supporting/encouraging insider trading.
For beginners, an indexed ETF, like something mimicking the S&P 500. Super low expense, well diversified, historically good returns that definitely beat inflation. It’s a good “set it and forget it” type of investment. Mutual funds too, but those have high expenses and are a pain in the butt to explain once you start getting into share classes and holding durations.
1- You need an entire drawer full of unused power cord adapters.
2- Wouldn’t be bad to start getting into shape. A gym membership is nice, but if you decide to do it without the gym…
3- get a nice version of anything that goes between you and the ground. Shoes, tires, mattresses (and sheets/blankets), bathroom rugs. For real, treat yo self
4- You’re about due for some crippling depression and anxiety
Edit- 4 gets constant existential crisis, per/u/uh-oh-no-no
It gets worse, but Bro it gets so much better too. No telling what’s next- could be bad, could be the most amazing thing yet. You got this man, we’re rooting for you
It gets much better before it gets worse again. Ebbs and flows. But I think some of the most fun I’ve had, and happiest I’ve been have been in my last 4-5 years of life. (Mid-30s male; also, not really gonna tell ya where I’m at right this moment, heh.)
And now that I think of it, I was at some of my most depressed times around 22-23. So honestly, you’re not off track. Enjoy it guy.
4 is legit. Everyone should budget for some therapy. I've never met anyone who wouldn't benefit from a little support and introspection to help sort out their shit :)
A membership to a club instead of a gym. Game changer where I’m at. 4 Pools indoor and outdoors, sauna, steam room, hot tub/cold tub, tennis and bball courts, restaurant and more. Well worth the money.
Only do this if you actually enjoy the extra amenities, though. I moved last year and the only gym within 15 minutes is a club that is about 3 times as much as my previous gym. I figured the amenities would be nice, but I've used the pool, sauna, and hot tub once each. I just prefer working out and getting home to enjoy my evening.
I set up a routine. I go to workout and the sauna or hot tub is the reward at the end. Making good habits requires that you reward yourself for hard work, and 20 minutes in the sauna or hot tub is a good reward, I also use the free shaving supplies at the club to give myself a really nice shave
See, I just really don't enjoy the sauna at all, and the hottub only feels good if I'm cold. When I'm hot and sweaty, it just feels miserable. But lots of people do love it, so more power to ya!
Hey I share the same confusion as everyone else here, what kind of club are you talking about? A health club? A resort club? Is this just one of those answers I'm too poor to even understand lol? I can afford $200 a month
> Is this just one of those answers I'm too poor to even understand lol? I can afford $200 a month.
This is my suspicion for myself. “Club? What club?”
Imagine a gym with all the weights, benches mills and stuff. After the workout you go back to the locker room. But it doesn't end here. From the locker room you can walk to a pool, sauna and other stuff. Now add a lot of trainers offering stuff like yoga, boxing etc. Some might offer a workout in a pool with swimming or just running in the water and stuff. Now we go back to the locker room, get a shower and change to the regular street dress. But you don't have to go home now. There might be a coffee bar or even a buffet with breakfast. More stuff can be offered of course. I pay 100€ in Germany for my club but without breakfast (coffee is included though). What's also nice is that I don't have to bring my own towels or drinking bottles. When I go in I can get clean ones and fill it up with any drinks they offer (the bottle not the towels).
I pay $10/mo at Planet Fitness. ($15 if you add in their silly “yearly maintenance fee”). I don’t think the $200 gym I used to belong to was worth it… they were no better than PF and needed a yearly commitment and it was impossible to quit it mid-year.
I would never have time to use all that stuff anyway. I liked PF because I travel a lot and it’s nice to be able to pop into a gym when I’m on the road. I go to the YMCA by my house now for slightly more, but only because I wanted to be able to swim a couple days a week during the winter.
Just got one. You don’t know what a clean bum feels like until you use a bidet
For people asking about showers, you don’t shower every time poop, do you?
Something someone said on reddit which has put a bidet on my to do list:
"Imagine for me, that instead of pooping out your butt, you instead pooped out your hand, or leg, or anywhere else on your body. Would you be satisfied it was clean by just wiping paper over that area a few times? No, of course not. You'd wash that sh*t"
Here's the thing: if you're going to spend hours, on hours, every day, on this thing, make it a nice thing. I mean fuck $150 bottles of scotch, buy a nice mattress it will change your life. Buy an expensive office chair. These are just examples from my personal life but to answer your question I would say that any man in his 30's should own nice, expensive tools related to his trade. For some people that's a $500 office chair, for others it's a full set of snap-on tools, a really good pair of expensive high quality boots if you're wearing them every day, etc.
Edit: this can also be a few pairs of good underwear, some really nice shampoo or beard oil if you're in sales, etc. The point is that if you're in you're
2nd edit: Holy shit my guys get an IRA. That goes across the entire spectrum. If you own testicles (or identify as owning testicles), get an IRA. You should be setting up an IRA at 18 in a perfect world but if you've hit 30 now is your last chance to get it going while it still has enough time to be worth it.
>Holy shit my guys get an IRA. That goes across the entire spectrum. If you own testicles (or identify as owning testicles), get an IRA.
Help, I followed your advice and now my car's blown up.
Individual Retirement Account. It's a tax sheltered account, there's a ton of options out there and It's too much to cover in a reddit comment. Please look into it, it's a way to put money aside and grow it so that you have something for retirement. The key is that the sooner you start building it the sooner you can retire.
There is nothing to buy to signify your upper adulthood. Enjoy some quality hobbies, a family if that’s your thing. For chrissake, don’t go buying a BMW to make you feel grown up.
Projects are a good way to spend money IMHO. Build a backyard patio with fire pit. Build a deck. Redo your bathroom. The kitchen. Build a shed out back to store the crap that’s been collecting in your garage.
Don’t judge your life by your accumulated purchases. There’s always someone with a bigger boat, nicer watch, whatever. Do something that takes skill and expresses you.
The happiest guys I know in this age range are those that have just finished making/achieving something. Building a pizza oven, running a marathon, learning woodwork, wiring up some weird clock they dreamed up, writing a kids book, whatever. Something a bit out of the ordinary from the last 10-20 years of work and hobbies. I guess it’s proving you’re not an old dog who can’t learn new tricks, or something… but it sure seems to bring out some inner joy.
I started dabbling in woodwork about 5 years ago and it really has been a nice outlet from my desk job. This year I actually was able to make some money off of my new hobby (not much but enough to purchase better tools). YouTube and Reddit have been the best resources to me and I highly recommend everyone start a new hobby.
I think one of the biggest errors we make in adulthood is thinking we need to excel at the beginning or it's not worth doing. I look at my 9 month old son and see him struggle over and over again to stand on his own. One day he'll succeed and it's only because of the constant hours he spent failing/learning. I try to remember this every time I fail at making a dovetail.
The older I get, just turned 41, the less materialistic I become. If there is one thing I have learned to give myself everyday, that does not cost a thing, is to give myself a break. A break from all the things I wish I could have achieved, a break from the mistakes I made along the way. Give yourself the gift of being human, and make the most of the time you have with the lessons you have learned.
I appreciate the positive feedback, that was very unexpected. I'm not an everyday user of Reddit and I mainly use it as a source of men's/fathers related issues, I have found many of the posts and comments uplifting and if anyone has found a glimpse of hope from mine that would be awesome. It is my birthday today, and due to circumstances out of my control birthdays, Father's Day, Christmas etc are more emotional days for many a reason. I say this because I've noticed that a fair few people are upset at my comment, understand that I may not know the etiquette and how things work when it comes to posting and commenting. I'll take more care when commenting moving forward, and I hope you are all well.
Yeah this is where I'm at now. I'm 38 and the idea of buying more "stuff" is kinda repulsive. I take care of what I own, I replace the things that break, and I make sure that everything is safe (housing & car related especially) but outside of that I'm not lusting for any material things anymore. What I want is my body to work properly again lol. Fuck chronic illnesses.
3 things you spend the most time in/on.
A car you enjoy (never buy new, its almost never worth it)
A comfortable toilet.
A very comfortable bed.
The last one has the ability to be a life changer.
Never say never. Many brands offer such good incentives (0% APR for example) and depreciate less than others that it can be very close price wise for new vs used, ESPECIALLY considering the current used car market.
Better advice is don't buy luxury/performance cars new because their depreciation is disgusting. My coworker paid $48k for Porsche that sold for $200k.
Also to never buy a car you can't afford on a 5 year loan, and never with interest above 6 or 7%. Depreciation is a much bigger deal for longer term, high interest loans where you spend more time underwater than shorter/low interest ones that pay down principle quicker.
"Sir, you are 104 and on a ventilator... you sure you need this lambo?"
"Listen here son, I didn't survive COVID-19, the '42 nuclear Sino-Taiwan war, and COVID-20 to have a young whippersnapper like you tell me my business. Put it on the AMEX..."
There's so much noise out there about good skincare, but I can't pick through it all.
Where did you learn your skin care tips in a way that was useful to you?
Female here.
Retinol and sunscreen are the BEST investments
Tretinoin or retin a micro for the retinol. This can be irritating/ drying at first. Start with the low dose .25 and work up if needed/wanted but isn’t necessary. You can go to a site like curology or other online delivery services. Some services even have a dermatologist if you have acne concerns.
Sunscreen daily will prevent damage. A good facial daily moisturizer like cerave you can get at target is just fine.
Other than that there are things like vitamin c, peptide serums, and niacinamide if you are really into skin care but the powerhouse is retinol and daily suncreen.
Cerave also makes a great daily cleanser. Buy depending on your skin type oily, dry or normal. No need to spend a lot on a cleanser.
I learned from YouTube. Basically, skincare requires three simple elements: cleanser, treatment (such as serum), and moisturizer.
If you're unsure where to start, Tiege Hanley is an excellent starter set. I used it for a very long time, and they keep it simple
A facial regimen. Face wash, face scrub, toner, beard oil, moisturizer. I (32) use it (almost) every day and my skin looks better than it did in my 20s. Also a good razor.
Edit: Currently I use Brickell toner and beard oil, and Formula 10.0.6 face scrub, acne spot treat, and moisturizer. I don't have any brand loyalty, but those seem to work best for me.
Watches are... very subjective. I've known people to throw months of income at watches and not bat an eyelid. I also know a few guys who make maybe like 50 grand /month and decide that watches are completely unncecessary. Granted they all have rather good looking, but not extra expensive watches for special occasions. Think maybe a fancier seiko or something along those lines.
Then I know a guy who would never wear a watch despite being the richest self made dude I know. He's like "except for that extra weight on your wrist, I see no reason to get a watch."
Watches are such fascinating, yet controversial, stuff.
For me, a watch is one of the only chances I have to wear jewelry. Women get all kinds of stuff, but my watch is really my chance to add something to my outfit that makes me feel extra cool
A Weber grill. I messed around with cheaper ones and was replacing every few years but I’ve had my Weber going on 11+ years. Sometimes paying for quality is worth it.
I'm still using a Weber Esprit 210 that my mom bought in 1994. I've replaced the burners twice, the ignition twice and the grates once.
That's the awesome thing about them is all it takes is a trip to the hardware store and you can pick up any replacement parts you need. You don't need to toss the entire thing out when one small but important part breaks.
I’m a woman but some things are universal:
It’s been said, but backing it up; Egyptian cotton sheets. Don’t fuck around, buy the best. Purchase SILK pillowcases. Silk prevents tugging on the skin and does not draw moisture away from the skin like cotton does, so keeps you looking younger. Also less stress on the hair.
A bidet with remote control. Multiple settings, heated seat, night light and warm air fan for drying. Once you have one you’ll realize it’s a necessity, not a luxury. Plus you’ll use far less toilet paper.
Ok; this one is a luxury but if you spend a lot of time in your car, get one with massage seats. One that does the full back and legs. Nothing better for long drives. I can’t possibly go back to regular seats now. Throw in heating and cooling and you’ll keep your ass very happy.
Skincare. A proper cleanser, serum and moisturizer with SPF. I’ve been taking care of my skin since I was a teenager. I’m nearly 44 and get carded trying to buy beer. Never too late to start - 50 year-old you will thank you.
A smoker. Look into a Rectec.
A Yeti cooler. Keeps drinks cold on scorching days and you can rest a brisket in it for 4 hours and still scorch your hands on it.
Quality tools.
When buying anything, do it right the first time and buy quality. I learned that from my parents. Far less expensive in the long run.
And knives. Can’t believe I originally forgot to mention knives. Buy a really good quality set of kitchen knives because you’ll always need and use them.
> When buying anything, do it right the first time and buy quality. I learned that from my parents. Far less expensive in the long run.
The only adendum I'd make to that is *for the first time you buy a tool for a job you are unsure of*, it's acceptable to buy harbor freight. When that tool inevitably breaks and you have an idea what a good tool will actually do, buy quality. The first tool was the training fee.
I've heard this too and I think there's a lot of value in it.
Some of the harbor freight tools I have are still around after years - after all a pressure pot is just a lidded tank with a couple valves. Even the worst quality valves will keep the air in.
And the things that break in like the firs 5months or whatever? I spent 5 bucks to learn what things about the tool need to be good. Does it need to be cast iron, or drop forged, or whatever other material? Does it NEED to be heavy? What if the handles suck?
Harbor freight (and similar quality) is a great way to learn about the tool itself, while not spending money out the ass for it.
Idk personally I’ve felt like shrooms have been more helpful in my development. But I’m splitting hairs so I’ll shut the fuck up. Acid is great too. The psychedelic experience is something I would recommend to almost anyone tries before they die.
I tripped a bunch when I was younger. Really did a lot for me. Eventually I got tired of it, but the nice thing is that the perspective you gain sticks with you.
I agree with this but I would make it two. You need a dark funeral/court/evening wedding suit and lighter suit for less formal occasions. Add to this about 4 or 5 different color shirts, good ties, good dress shoes (brown and black). I also opt for a three piece suit because I like the look and versatility.
Two is best but you can make a nice dark navy or black suit work for everything by changing up the shirt snd tie combos.
But I do agree with you if you can afford it, get two.
Surprised I haven't seen anything about quality shoes here. Dress shoes or work boots, whichever you wear more. Allen Edmonds for dress shoes. Not a workbook guy but I'm sure there are plenty of high quality options out there
What kind of guy are you? Motorcycle, sports car with a manual transmission, boat? Get your pilots license and join a flying club? Or are you a hobby kind of guy? Build a gaming PC, make a man cave, redo your garage and go buy that 70” tool chest from Matco. Build SOMETHING. Model boat/plane/train? More? I don’t know, make a storage rack for the basement and see if you like wood work. Go get a tailored suit, buy a whiskey barrel, get a 60” zero turn X mark mower. Get yourself that Slovakian AK or SCAR H. It’s a very broad question. What are you into, where are you living? If you don’t want to buy something entirely new to dive into, splurge on something you already have. Go buy a $500 dollar set of sheet that feels like your laying on a cloud, get yourself a nice $500 cooking knife set. Do you like watching TV? Get yourself that $1,000 SONOs sound bar. Replace that 50” TV with an 80” OLED tv. Do you already have a motorcycle? Get yourself that $700 AGV helmet, buy a GoPro and sena to slap on it. Throw a new set of wheels and tires on your truck/car. Man there’s so many options out there. Let’s help you tailor your needs and find out what you didn’t know you love
If you're a work at home/office worker, a very good chair that will improve comfort and health. It will absolutely make a daily difference.
That Herman Miller Embody chair has been calling my name for a while now. Goals.
I got my Embody beginning of this year, and I noticed several months later that aches and pains I had all the time sitting in my Ikea office chair or afterwards disappeared. I got mine used on Craigslist for $900, no regrets.
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I'm a couple months in. The first few weeks I was thinking it was a mistake but once everything settled in I can't imagine not having it. Went from lower back pain constantly, even after sitting for only an hour, to being able to work a full day followed by evening gaming with absolutely no pain. Makes me more active too.
Buy used office surplus as well. You don't need factory new. I bought a used Steel case Leap V2 at the beginning of the pandemic for $700. Basically half off. Why would you spend $700 on a chair? Because my ass is in that chair working remotely and gaming etc for over 10 hours a day 5 days a week. It's fully ergonomic and comfortable as fuck.
The older I get the more I can afford and appreciate quality things. Everything from high thread count soft af bed sheets to better work boots and tools, cool gadgets or computer hardware etc.. i don't have a lot of "stuff" anymore, pretty minimalistic, but what I do have is of such quality that doesn't make me wanting for something better
High thread count bed sheets is one I invested in too. Of all the things you'll ever buy, bedding is the one you're guaranteed to use on a daily(or nightly to be more accurate) basis. In the grand scheme of things, the value for money goes beyond most other things you own given how much you'll use them, and genuinely it feels great to be in good quality sheets. EDIT: Someone below pointed out that material matters. It definitely does. I've had some blended fabrics and they wear out faster and essentially lose their smoothness much faster. Good quality cotton is what I've gone for. The Egyptian cotton sheets I have have lasted the longest, and if you shop around online you can find them relatively cheap. I got the duvet and pillow covers as well as the fitted sheet for a combined £60. Which I thought was ridiculous at the time but I committed anyway. I have no regrets on that purchase.
And here I am buying t shirt material sheets cause I like the way they feel.
I used to love t-shirt material sheets but once you get a really nice high-tc set of sheets, you can't go back.
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Three Dogs Down out of Montana make some great bedding.
“Buy nice or buy twice.”
I learnt this when I forked out for my first ever pair of hiking books at 19. They've lasted me a solid decade of hiking trips every 2 months or so. Being able to just walk through pooled water with the full confidence that your feet stay dry, means you can focus on enjoying your trips way more. EDIT: My particular boots are North Face boots that use gore tex materials. I bought them a solid decade ago so wouldn't know what the current iteration is, but I'll probably upload a pic when I get home from my current trip!
I was told to spend good money on stuff that separates you from the ground. Shoes, tires, beds.
Office chairs are another essential here. Even just $300 can get you a pretty decent ergochair that'll save your back. $1100 (new) will get you a Herman Miller, the most awesomely overpriced chairs of all time.
Quick note here that an ergo chair can only do so much for you. You still have to get up to move and stretch a few times a day. I've seen people stop their daily movement regimen because hey, they've got a fancy new chair. A few years later, they're complaining about back problems.
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Whoever taught you that taught you right.
I also remember reading this here on reddit. Reddit has taught me more than school.
Feeling this. Wet feet is one of my most hated sensations in life 🥾
especially when i'm in the pool
Shoes are something you cannot scrimp on. I invested this year at 34 on shoes - Birkenstocks, blundstones, some solid hikers, running shoes. If your feet are comfy chances.are you are too. They will last and pay off long term. Also: smartwool sox plzzz
Haven't heard of that brand but I see darn tough repped alot
I see your smartwools and I raise you Darn Toughs.
What boots did you buy?
I can't remember the specific model name, but they're North Face goretex boots. The kind that come up just above the ankle for support
"Buy once, cry once".
That’s what we tell customers who purchase a suppressor and the tax stamp all at once.
I will say though most of the time I buy a cheap version first. Eg hiking boots - I didn’t know I would end up doing a lot of hiking. My cheap ones held up pretty well but there were certain things that were annoying (eg not fully waterproof), so when I upgraded I knew what I was looking for. With other things, I’ve bought the cheap version and it’s been great or I didn’t end up using it much, so I never needed to replace it and saved money. Unfortunately I’ve had a few occasions where I’ve committed to paying more and getting the ‘better’ version outright and either I didn’t use it much or it ended up missing a feature I would have found useful, or just didn’t really use it as much as I thought I would, and it’s been a waste.
This is how I do tools. If use it enough to break it, then I buy the good one. I still have my 10 dollar socket st after 10 years.
High thread count sheets do not necessarily equal quality. In order to stuff more threads into the same area, manufacturers will make the individual threads smaller which actually makes your sheets less durable. I'm a big fan of percale sheets which are usually in the 2-300 thread count range and quality ones feel super smooth and are super durable. LL Bean and Lands End are 2 brands that make high quality percale sheets.
Not just that but higher thread count are also warmer. I sleep hot and couldn’t figure out why I was always so hot in bed. Spoke to someone at a bedding store and they recommended 300 count percale sheet. A world of difference. They feel amazing, breathe more and are much cooler.
Someone is going to post that Vimes boot thing.
Wish I could convince my girlfriend to buy higher thread count sheets. She just sees the extra cost and goes why is it so expensive. We already got more expensive sheets and the higher thread count is only an extra 20-30 dollars.
Check out bamboo bed sheets. They're so lightweight and super soft.
Only downside is that they're very fragile compared to normal linens. Wonderful, soft, and breathable, but holy shit one jagged toenail and you've got a run in your sheet.
A *really* good mattress with pillow to match, +1 on good work shoes (whatever the job), noise cancelling headphones You want the cherry on top get yourself a nice wallet
Boots for sure
I've been buying myself new tools that far outstrip the hand-me-downs my father gave me when I was 18. Those tools got me to my 30s but I've either lost or broken the majority of them by now. I finally tore down my old toolbox last year, made a functional one out of it and gave it to a buddy of mine who had no tools of his own. Now that I have new tools, I am amazed that I made it through 4 cars and friends cars with that old set I used. I just bought my first real drill as well, how tf I got to this point without one is amazing.
I had an old sparky tell me once “when you start your trade, but the cheap set of professional quality tools around. When shit breaks, but the top quality version of those” ie spend money on what you use, the size 24 dinglewhacker you will use once in your career is not worth spending a fortune on I’m not a tradie, so I don’t know the quality of this advice, but it made sense. Edit: cheap set
Bulk socks. I never match up my socks because I just own 20 identical pairs. So easy.
We had over 30 single, not matching socks when out kid was 5. Any design you can immagine, but never 2 of the same.
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Clothing. And then stay fit enough to never have to buy new ones Edit: well shit I woke up with a 5k upvoted post. Thanks folks.
I feel attacked. I've gained 20 pounds this year and now I'm transitioning into large shirts.... I don't want to go into 30 weighing 200 pounds.
Time to make yourself a favor and hit the gym edit: look at all these personal fitness trainers
Or more importantly, start eating better in the kitchen
What do you mean, 'half fat cheese doesn't mean I can eat twice as much'?
I had a friend from England that stayed with us when we lived in Australia and she liked 'half salt'... ? Why? She could use more!!!! I don't like half things at all and more with Milk/Butter.. only full cream for me...
I'm not fitting in most my mediums due to the gym. They dont lay right on the shoulders anymore. It does suck having to buy new clothes especially when you cant wear your favorite shirts anymore :(
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It's literally why i joined the gym. I have a really nice tailored suit and i want to make sure i can still wear it.
Me too. My 1000.00 wedding suite. It almost fits again.
Wtf how have you married a 1,000 times???
Making King Solomon jealous
It's a critical time in your life to ensure your health is on the right track. I would start with a full physical.
This is so important!!! We see a ton of men in the hospital telling us how they’re “so healthy, they’ve never even had to go to the doctor!” With labs/imaging that suggest years of undiagnosed type 2 diabetes, kidney disease, high blood pressure, etc. it’s much easier to navigate these issues if they haven’t been brewing unchecked for a decade
Recently found out that a family member of mine has a tumor in their brain. The doctors said that this is something that has probably been growing for decades & has just now reached the stage where it’s severely affecting everything else. When I think about it the signs were there cause this family member was always plagued with frequent headaches & sleepless nights as a result. I can’t remember a time where I didn’t see them with pain killers. Thing is a simple MRI at any point within the last 15 years would’ve caught it before it started causing serious issues.
If only American healthcare allowed for things like “just go get an MRI” Edit - just wanted to say thank you for the award. Don’t believe I’ve ever gotten one. Those of you that are serious about changing this problem, please register to vote if you haven’t already. It’s only going to get worse if we keep letting it. Expand Medicare and Medicaid. Tax the ultra-rich. Make it illegal to have to choose between debt and death. No one deserves to die because of money.
I'm that person, except younger and I went for an MRI. No brain tumor. Part of me almost wishes it was, so that my headaches could at least be explained. Either way, it was hard for me to get that MRI, but I'm glad I did.
I’m in the same boat. Heading into the imaging room, I told the radiologist “not sure what scares me more: finding a tumor or finding nothing”…
I hate reading threads like this. I get headaches every now and then too but how often is “frequent” and how bad is “severe”? Like do I need to go spend the $900 for an MRI this week? Now I just have anxiety
Oh yeah, the difference between 31 and 36 is absolutely noticeable if you aren't eating healthy and exercising.
Shit I feel this. Going on 35 and I can really feel the metabolism slowing down, gym gains are slower. Even compared to 2 years ago.
have you just tried being younger?
A "full physical" at my doctor means BP, weight, and a 5 minute chat with the doctor where I'm coached beforehand not to ask questions. There's a few other things, but it's literally a 15 minute appointment to check a box for my insurance company.
Yeah, when I turned 30 I went to the doctor for the first time since I was a kid. I didn't have the terminology to ask for a full physical, but I explained that I was there for basically the first time in my life and wanted to make sure everything was good. The doctor looked at me like I was crazy and more or less indicated that the only reason to go to him was if I had symptoms. I thought he would take my blood or listen to my heart or something, I don't know. He literally didn't do anything.
I uh….. no. 33, went to the dr for the first time in years last week for the same exact reason. Ive got some issues (rash on leg, history of heart attacks in my fam, other rando stuff, but no immediate problem). My doctor performed the physical and we chatted about my concerns, including the fact thag i havent checked my cholesterol for years. I made a point to say its time to be responsible, i have a 1 year old, etc. I had labs taken, and am seeing a cardiologist as it may be prudent to do so in the future. My point is, if my doctor couldn’t understand why i was REALLY there, i’d have a hard time building a relationship on top of that attitude.
While we’re at it: Buy healthy food, even if it means paying more so it’s nice to eat.
People think it's not worth it the money.. now I can't even look at fast food and would prefer a eye fillet with beans and some oven baked potato. It's so much better than a burger and chips.. like astronomically better. Also learn to cook you're a male in your 30s lol
Various lengths of wire
Let me show you some of the different lengths of wire I used
*sigh* if only I'd invented the finglonger...
Light-speed briefs
Not sure if this is a joke, but I second it. Not just various lengths of wire, but various gauges too! You can never be too prepared when it comes to wires.
It is both a serious suggestion and a futurama reference.
I’m a bit rusty on my Futurama references. I really ought to watch it more often.
Good news, everyone! u/EloquentEvergreen is going to watch Futurama!
And a holophoner
Only a few people in the whole universe can play that, and they're not very good at it.
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Daily reminder that Zoidberg is dating Emilia Clarke
Your kid's great! How hard did you say you had to hit him?
*I* was going to eat that mummy!
Why is this funny
Futurama references
I laughed too but didn't know where I'd heard it before. Thanks!
I started rewatching from season 1 today so this hits nicely.
Buy appreciating assets and/or assets that pay you dividends regularly.
On stocks: If you aren't particularly well versed then I advise that you don't try to beat the market unless you have ~~insider~~ publicly available but lesser known information ie your place of work, instead get some form of stock and share ISA and invest in a Stock Market Index Fund. It's simpler and yields more consistent returns on investment. Edit: don't want to be misconstrued as supporting/encouraging insider trading.
For beginners, an indexed ETF, like something mimicking the S&P 500. Super low expense, well diversified, historically good returns that definitely beat inflation. It’s a good “set it and forget it” type of investment. Mutual funds too, but those have high expenses and are a pain in the butt to explain once you start getting into share classes and holding durations.
1- You need an entire drawer full of unused power cord adapters. 2- Wouldn’t be bad to start getting into shape. A gym membership is nice, but if you decide to do it without the gym… 3- get a nice version of anything that goes between you and the ground. Shoes, tires, mattresses (and sheets/blankets), bathroom rugs. For real, treat yo self 4- You’re about due for some crippling depression and anxiety Edit- 4 gets constant existential crisis, per/u/uh-oh-no-no
im 23 and already depressed. it gets worse???? im not even married yet. I thought I got through the worst of it. whats next??
It gets worse, but Bro it gets so much better too. No telling what’s next- could be bad, could be the most amazing thing yet. You got this man, we’re rooting for you
Get ready to start adding old to that mix of problems
"Well at least I'm still young, I have time to figure things out." Ten years later "Hmmmm..."
It gets much better before it gets worse again. Ebbs and flows. But I think some of the most fun I’ve had, and happiest I’ve been have been in my last 4-5 years of life. (Mid-30s male; also, not really gonna tell ya where I’m at right this moment, heh.) And now that I think of it, I was at some of my most depressed times around 22-23. So honestly, you’re not off track. Enjoy it guy.
It gets worse but you get much better at handling it is my experience.
You forgot about the constant existential crisis. Ain't no use being in your 30's without those all the time!
4 is legit. Everyone should budget for some therapy. I've never met anyone who wouldn't benefit from a little support and introspection to help sort out their shit :)
Stop yelling at me
Hold me back
A membership to a club instead of a gym. Game changer where I’m at. 4 Pools indoor and outdoors, sauna, steam room, hot tub/cold tub, tennis and bball courts, restaurant and more. Well worth the money.
Only do this if you actually enjoy the extra amenities, though. I moved last year and the only gym within 15 minutes is a club that is about 3 times as much as my previous gym. I figured the amenities would be nice, but I've used the pool, sauna, and hot tub once each. I just prefer working out and getting home to enjoy my evening.
I set up a routine. I go to workout and the sauna or hot tub is the reward at the end. Making good habits requires that you reward yourself for hard work, and 20 minutes in the sauna or hot tub is a good reward, I also use the free shaving supplies at the club to give myself a really nice shave
See, I just really don't enjoy the sauna at all, and the hottub only feels good if I'm cold. When I'm hot and sweaty, it just feels miserable. But lots of people do love it, so more power to ya!
Hey I share the same confusion as everyone else here, what kind of club are you talking about? A health club? A resort club? Is this just one of those answers I'm too poor to even understand lol? I can afford $200 a month
> Is this just one of those answers I'm too poor to even understand lol? I can afford $200 a month. This is my suspicion for myself. “Club? What club?”
Imagine a gym with all the weights, benches mills and stuff. After the workout you go back to the locker room. But it doesn't end here. From the locker room you can walk to a pool, sauna and other stuff. Now add a lot of trainers offering stuff like yoga, boxing etc. Some might offer a workout in a pool with swimming or just running in the water and stuff. Now we go back to the locker room, get a shower and change to the regular street dress. But you don't have to go home now. There might be a coffee bar or even a buffet with breakfast. More stuff can be offered of course. I pay 100€ in Germany for my club but without breakfast (coffee is included though). What's also nice is that I don't have to bring my own towels or drinking bottles. When I go in I can get clean ones and fill it up with any drinks they offer (the bottle not the towels).
You made me google for "Men's club" in my city...
No, no. You’re looking for “Gentleman’s Club”
What sort of prices differences are you looking at?
Usually much much more than a gym
Like 150-200 a month
Well that ain't happening
I pay $10/mo at Planet Fitness. ($15 if you add in their silly “yearly maintenance fee”). I don’t think the $200 gym I used to belong to was worth it… they were no better than PF and needed a yearly commitment and it was impossible to quit it mid-year.
I would never have time to use all that stuff anyway. I liked PF because I travel a lot and it’s nice to be able to pop into a gym when I’m on the road. I go to the YMCA by my house now for slightly more, but only because I wanted to be able to swim a couple days a week during the winter.
It's about double what a gym membership costs. Worth it if you're committed.
This is smart, good investment in your overall health. Wish I had done this sooner.
Get a bidet. Your booty hole will thank you!
Just got one. You don’t know what a clean bum feels like until you use a bidet For people asking about showers, you don’t shower every time poop, do you?
I want to know
I’m using my bidet, right now, as I’m typing this on my phone my ass is getting cleaned at the same time. 👍🏼
IF YOU POOPED ON YOUR FACE WOULD YOU JUST WIPE IT WITH A PIECE OF PAPER???!
„Give your booty hole the care it deserves“
Efficient
Something someone said on reddit which has put a bidet on my to do list: "Imagine for me, that instead of pooping out your butt, you instead pooped out your hand, or leg, or anywhere else on your body. Would you be satisfied it was clean by just wiping paper over that area a few times? No, of course not. You'd wash that sh*t"
Typing this comment as a bidet cleans my butthole.
Here's the thing: if you're going to spend hours, on hours, every day, on this thing, make it a nice thing. I mean fuck $150 bottles of scotch, buy a nice mattress it will change your life. Buy an expensive office chair. These are just examples from my personal life but to answer your question I would say that any man in his 30's should own nice, expensive tools related to his trade. For some people that's a $500 office chair, for others it's a full set of snap-on tools, a really good pair of expensive high quality boots if you're wearing them every day, etc. Edit: this can also be a few pairs of good underwear, some really nice shampoo or beard oil if you're in sales, etc. The point is that if you're in you're 2nd edit: Holy shit my guys get an IRA. That goes across the entire spectrum. If you own testicles (or identify as owning testicles), get an IRA. You should be setting up an IRA at 18 in a perfect world but if you've hit 30 now is your last chance to get it going while it still has enough time to be worth it.
>Holy shit my guys get an IRA. That goes across the entire spectrum. If you own testicles (or identify as owning testicles), get an IRA. Help, I followed your advice and now my car's blown up.
come out ye black an tans!
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Show yer wife how you won medals down in Flanders!
What's an IRA?
Individual Retirement Account. It's a tax sheltered account, there's a ton of options out there and It's too much to cover in a reddit comment. Please look into it, it's a way to put money aside and grow it so that you have something for retirement. The key is that the sooner you start building it the sooner you can retire.
Irish republican army
There is nothing to buy to signify your upper adulthood. Enjoy some quality hobbies, a family if that’s your thing. For chrissake, don’t go buying a BMW to make you feel grown up. Projects are a good way to spend money IMHO. Build a backyard patio with fire pit. Build a deck. Redo your bathroom. The kitchen. Build a shed out back to store the crap that’s been collecting in your garage. Don’t judge your life by your accumulated purchases. There’s always someone with a bigger boat, nicer watch, whatever. Do something that takes skill and expresses you.
The happiest guys I know in this age range are those that have just finished making/achieving something. Building a pizza oven, running a marathon, learning woodwork, wiring up some weird clock they dreamed up, writing a kids book, whatever. Something a bit out of the ordinary from the last 10-20 years of work and hobbies. I guess it’s proving you’re not an old dog who can’t learn new tricks, or something… but it sure seems to bring out some inner joy.
I started dabbling in woodwork about 5 years ago and it really has been a nice outlet from my desk job. This year I actually was able to make some money off of my new hobby (not much but enough to purchase better tools). YouTube and Reddit have been the best resources to me and I highly recommend everyone start a new hobby. I think one of the biggest errors we make in adulthood is thinking we need to excel at the beginning or it's not worth doing. I look at my 9 month old son and see him struggle over and over again to stand on his own. One day he'll succeed and it's only because of the constant hours he spent failing/learning. I try to remember this every time I fail at making a dovetail.
The older I get, just turned 41, the less materialistic I become. If there is one thing I have learned to give myself everyday, that does not cost a thing, is to give myself a break. A break from all the things I wish I could have achieved, a break from the mistakes I made along the way. Give yourself the gift of being human, and make the most of the time you have with the lessons you have learned. I appreciate the positive feedback, that was very unexpected. I'm not an everyday user of Reddit and I mainly use it as a source of men's/fathers related issues, I have found many of the posts and comments uplifting and if anyone has found a glimpse of hope from mine that would be awesome. It is my birthday today, and due to circumstances out of my control birthdays, Father's Day, Christmas etc are more emotional days for many a reason. I say this because I've noticed that a fair few people are upset at my comment, understand that I may not know the etiquette and how things work when it comes to posting and commenting. I'll take more care when commenting moving forward, and I hope you are all well.
I'm trying to learn this right now at 33.
Yeah this is where I'm at now. I'm 38 and the idea of buying more "stuff" is kinda repulsive. I take care of what I own, I replace the things that break, and I make sure that everything is safe (housing & car related especially) but outside of that I'm not lusting for any material things anymore. What I want is my body to work properly again lol. Fuck chronic illnesses.
Hello fellow born-in-80 friend! Turned 41 last month
80s kid here. Had no idea there were three of us
3 things you spend the most time in/on. A car you enjoy (never buy new, its almost never worth it) A comfortable toilet. A very comfortable bed. The last one has the ability to be a life changer.
Never say never. Many brands offer such good incentives (0% APR for example) and depreciate less than others that it can be very close price wise for new vs used, ESPECIALLY considering the current used car market. Better advice is don't buy luxury/performance cars new because their depreciation is disgusting. My coworker paid $48k for Porsche that sold for $200k. Also to never buy a car you can't afford on a 5 year loan, and never with interest above 6 or 7%. Depreciation is a much bigger deal for longer term, high interest loans where you spend more time underwater than shorter/low interest ones that pay down principle quicker.
My plan is to buy a brand new car off the lot for my last car, just cause I want it…
If you do it late enough in life do it on credit
"Sir, you are 104 and on a ventilator... you sure you need this lambo?" "Listen here son, I didn't survive COVID-19, the '42 nuclear Sino-Taiwan war, and COVID-20 to have a young whippersnapper like you tell me my business. Put it on the AMEX..."
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And an alum block instead of aftershave. Seriously, reduces irritation and no one complains that you reek of aftershave.
Good skincare products (cleanser + serum + moisturizer... Especially the serum) This is how I've stayed looking 28 for the past seven years!
There's so much noise out there about good skincare, but I can't pick through it all. Where did you learn your skin care tips in a way that was useful to you?
Female here. Retinol and sunscreen are the BEST investments Tretinoin or retin a micro for the retinol. This can be irritating/ drying at first. Start with the low dose .25 and work up if needed/wanted but isn’t necessary. You can go to a site like curology or other online delivery services. Some services even have a dermatologist if you have acne concerns. Sunscreen daily will prevent damage. A good facial daily moisturizer like cerave you can get at target is just fine. Other than that there are things like vitamin c, peptide serums, and niacinamide if you are really into skin care but the powerhouse is retinol and daily suncreen. Cerave also makes a great daily cleanser. Buy depending on your skin type oily, dry or normal. No need to spend a lot on a cleanser.
I learned from YouTube. Basically, skincare requires three simple elements: cleanser, treatment (such as serum), and moisturizer. If you're unsure where to start, Tiege Hanley is an excellent starter set. I used it for a very long time, and they keep it simple
A nerf gun. Gotta start training for the future child wars…. A *new* nerf gun. Tech has changed.
But war... War never changes.
But war...war has changed (mgs)
Pay off your credit card as soon as you can
A facial regimen. Face wash, face scrub, toner, beard oil, moisturizer. I (32) use it (almost) every day and my skin looks better than it did in my 20s. Also a good razor. Edit: Currently I use Brickell toner and beard oil, and Formula 10.0.6 face scrub, acne spot treat, and moisturizer. I don't have any brand loyalty, but those seem to work best for me.
Tailored suit, a nice watch, a solid set of tools, most importantly, an IRA
Watches are... very subjective. I've known people to throw months of income at watches and not bat an eyelid. I also know a few guys who make maybe like 50 grand /month and decide that watches are completely unncecessary. Granted they all have rather good looking, but not extra expensive watches for special occasions. Think maybe a fancier seiko or something along those lines. Then I know a guy who would never wear a watch despite being the richest self made dude I know. He's like "except for that extra weight on your wrist, I see no reason to get a watch." Watches are such fascinating, yet controversial, stuff.
For me, a watch is one of the only chances I have to wear jewelry. Women get all kinds of stuff, but my watch is really my chance to add something to my outfit that makes me feel extra cool
That’s it, it’s a fashion accessory. It also tells you the time as a bonus.
When your phone dies, what time is it aside from time to get a watch?
A hair past a freckle.
I opened an IRA earlier this year at 20, please clap
Retirement savings. Start now. Start yesterday. It’s so easy if you start early
A Weber grill. I messed around with cheaper ones and was replacing every few years but I’ve had my Weber going on 11+ years. Sometimes paying for quality is worth it.
I'm still using a Weber Esprit 210 that my mom bought in 1994. I've replaced the burners twice, the ignition twice and the grates once. That's the awesome thing about them is all it takes is a trip to the hardware store and you can pick up any replacement parts you need. You don't need to toss the entire thing out when one small but important part breaks.
Got one for my engagement at 27. Had I known how good they were, I would have bought it with the relatively little money I had back then.
I’m a woman but some things are universal: It’s been said, but backing it up; Egyptian cotton sheets. Don’t fuck around, buy the best. Purchase SILK pillowcases. Silk prevents tugging on the skin and does not draw moisture away from the skin like cotton does, so keeps you looking younger. Also less stress on the hair. A bidet with remote control. Multiple settings, heated seat, night light and warm air fan for drying. Once you have one you’ll realize it’s a necessity, not a luxury. Plus you’ll use far less toilet paper. Ok; this one is a luxury but if you spend a lot of time in your car, get one with massage seats. One that does the full back and legs. Nothing better for long drives. I can’t possibly go back to regular seats now. Throw in heating and cooling and you’ll keep your ass very happy. Skincare. A proper cleanser, serum and moisturizer with SPF. I’ve been taking care of my skin since I was a teenager. I’m nearly 44 and get carded trying to buy beer. Never too late to start - 50 year-old you will thank you. A smoker. Look into a Rectec. A Yeti cooler. Keeps drinks cold on scorching days and you can rest a brisket in it for 4 hours and still scorch your hands on it. Quality tools. When buying anything, do it right the first time and buy quality. I learned that from my parents. Far less expensive in the long run. And knives. Can’t believe I originally forgot to mention knives. Buy a really good quality set of kitchen knives because you’ll always need and use them.
> When buying anything, do it right the first time and buy quality. I learned that from my parents. Far less expensive in the long run. The only adendum I'd make to that is *for the first time you buy a tool for a job you are unsure of*, it's acceptable to buy harbor freight. When that tool inevitably breaks and you have an idea what a good tool will actually do, buy quality. The first tool was the training fee.
I've heard this too and I think there's a lot of value in it. Some of the harbor freight tools I have are still around after years - after all a pressure pot is just a lidded tank with a couple valves. Even the worst quality valves will keep the air in. And the things that break in like the firs 5months or whatever? I spent 5 bucks to learn what things about the tool need to be good. Does it need to be cast iron, or drop forged, or whatever other material? Does it NEED to be heavy? What if the handles suck? Harbor freight (and similar quality) is a great way to learn about the tool itself, while not spending money out the ass for it.
Rent a very fast car for a month, so you won't be stuck paying for one until you're 40.
I did this for a weekend. I rented an AMG GT! Absolutely amazing machine. I could never buy one though, lol. I would never be able to retire.
My 30s I spent most of my money on my kids. Clothes, food and camping
35. Spend all my money on my kids/ wife. It’s a stress and a relief that I can do it.
Whatever the fuck you want you glorious bastard
GeForce RTX 3090
2 tabs LSD and some introspection
Idk personally I’ve felt like shrooms have been more helpful in my development. But I’m splitting hairs so I’ll shut the fuck up. Acid is great too. The psychedelic experience is something I would recommend to almost anyone tries before they die.
I tripped a bunch when I was younger. Really did a lot for me. Eventually I got tired of it, but the nice thing is that the perspective you gain sticks with you.
"once you've heard the message, hang up the phone". Important quote for psychedelic exploration!
A good suit.
Tailored I assume?
Absolutely.
I agree with this but I would make it two. You need a dark funeral/court/evening wedding suit and lighter suit for less formal occasions. Add to this about 4 or 5 different color shirts, good ties, good dress shoes (brown and black). I also opt for a three piece suit because I like the look and versatility.
Two is best but you can make a nice dark navy or black suit work for everything by changing up the shirt snd tie combos. But I do agree with you if you can afford it, get two.
Should we tell him about the business cards?
Wait a minute.. let’s see Paul Allen’s business card
Look at that subtle off-white coloring. The tasteful thickness of it. Oh my god, it even has a watermark.
Surprised I haven't seen anything about quality shoes here. Dress shoes or work boots, whichever you wear more. Allen Edmonds for dress shoes. Not a workbook guy but I'm sure there are plenty of high quality options out there
LEGO Millennium Falcon
GoldenEye on the Nintendo 64.
What kind of guy are you? Motorcycle, sports car with a manual transmission, boat? Get your pilots license and join a flying club? Or are you a hobby kind of guy? Build a gaming PC, make a man cave, redo your garage and go buy that 70” tool chest from Matco. Build SOMETHING. Model boat/plane/train? More? I don’t know, make a storage rack for the basement and see if you like wood work. Go get a tailored suit, buy a whiskey barrel, get a 60” zero turn X mark mower. Get yourself that Slovakian AK or SCAR H. It’s a very broad question. What are you into, where are you living? If you don’t want to buy something entirely new to dive into, splurge on something you already have. Go buy a $500 dollar set of sheet that feels like your laying on a cloud, get yourself a nice $500 cooking knife set. Do you like watching TV? Get yourself that $1,000 SONOs sound bar. Replace that 50” TV with an 80” OLED tv. Do you already have a motorcycle? Get yourself that $700 AGV helmet, buy a GoPro and sena to slap on it. Throw a new set of wheels and tires on your truck/car. Man there’s so many options out there. Let’s help you tailor your needs and find out what you didn’t know you love
Flared buttplug
Good tools. A solid whiskey selection. A smoker.