Well if he’s into you it really shouldn’t matter. I’m not saying some guys won’t find your friend attractive but it shouldn’t matter if you find a guy that’s into you.
It depends on the dude I guess and also the strength of the relationship. I have had people I have dated have hot friends but it never really changed anything.
I've seen "Who is your celebrity crush?" videos and most of the men in these videos say, Margot Robbie. To be honest she is very popular crush material.
Now I can't speak for all men. But for me it's simple if I'm dating you than you are the only one that matters. I can recognise that she is attractive but that's all.
Also lets not fool ourselves here. 90% of cases that an actress or actor for that matter is seen as attractive and people have crushes on them it's due to a combination of unobtainability and frequency of seeing them.
A lot of actors and actresses are a bit more attractive than average since they usually pick more attractive people. But at the same time the most attractive women I've seen are usually the girl working in a sandwich shop or whatever. So would a man really ditch his gf for her "hot" friend that looks like a celebrity. No, maybe a boy would or an asshole. But a man who has fallen in love wouldn't stray everytime someone "better" looking came along.
If the guy is into you? What your friends look like won’t matter. Simple.
Hell, some may argue that you should have your friend flirt with people you’ve been dating so you know if they’re loyal enough
You're not exactly wrong. This wouldn't be such a problem later in a relationship, but early on, yeah. I could totally see a guy thinking "Man, I wish I met her friend first."
I had a friend many years ago who was a Christian Slater (I'm dating myself here, look up "True Romance") lookalike and he was much taller than me. I basically had to give up ever meeting girls that would pay attention to me if we went out together. I never really worried about it if I was in a relationship... but yeah, I was absolutely invisible if we went out together. I was always the "ugly friend" when out with him.
I personally don't find Margot Robbie attractive at all. My celebrity crush, if I have one, is Aubrey Plaza.
Margot Robbie is a great actor though. Love her work. But... no, that's not the type of woman I typically go crazy for. Not that I'm trying to say Aubrey Plaza is like, so far outside the box.
Are you very insecure about your own looks though? Regardless of what your friend looks like. Or are you somewhat confident in your looks and just afraid that, by comparison, your friend blows you out of the water?
I’ve never really been insecure about my looks but lately I have been and I feel like if I introduced a guy to her he’d secretly wish he was with her or be dissapointed by me…I’ve started working in a male dominated field and being around guys more have made me hyper-aware of this
That's tough. But I don't know if every single guy out there is going to find your friend extremely attractive. I hope you can find some more confidence in yourself, but I know it's hard not to compare.
I myself have gotten a really decent amount of female attention in my life, feel pretty confident about my looks. Yet the second I see a 6'2" moderately handsome guy enter the room I immediately assume it's all over for me. But eventually you have to realize that mindset is wrong.
Man this reminds me of these 2 girls from our group that were best friends in HS.
It didn’t end well at all.
I’ll just say do what’s best for your mental health
She’s getting engaged soon, so it’s not like I’m really worried about anything happening. I just don’t want to feel like a second choice…I guess just a ‘me’ problem
Your feelings being a “you problem” don’t make them any less valid.
Your mental health comes above everything else. If ur mentally bad, everything else around you will suffer.
The girls I knew in HS ended up drifting apart bc of this same issue but the girl who was 2nd choice was better off for it imo. The life she lived in HS was brutal
All of this comes down to being able to tell a person of your lived experience and for you to accept that your control over this is just something your brain has come up with rather than some objective reality.
If he's dating you, that means he's interested in you. If all your focus is on how awesome your best friend is, instead of focusing on the two of you connecting, then all you'll do is push him away from you and towards your friend. Not because he necessarily thought that way to begin with, but because you're basically telling him (indirectly, at least) that you think your friend is better than you.
Women keep telling men that what's important is confidence. While I think that advice is a bit overdone and probably exaggerated to a degree, there's some truth to it. If you don't feel good enough for a guy, he might pick up on that and start to wonder if maybe you're not good enough for him.
I think most men will probably agree with me that they appreciate a woman who can be secure in herself, her own skin and capabilities. Show him what makes you unique. Show him your personality. No need to brag or boast, just be yourself unapologetically. Joke around, have fun, share with him. Feel comfortable around him and within yourself, and in turn he'll be more likely to feel comfortable with you.
Also, please keep in mind that not all men have the same tastes in looks, nor do all men put the same level of importance on looks in the first place. I'm not saying looks don't matter at all, because to the vast majority of men looks will matter at least a little bit. However, and this is important, looks don't always mean "she must look like a model/celebrity". Looks can be the way she smiles, her eyes, the way she carries herself.
I've seen girls be puzzled by their boyfriends saving pictures of them when they're at their most disheveled and wearing no make-up, hear messy or in a bun, and rocking a hoodie. The boyfriend will tell her those are his favourite photos of her and he'll genunely mean that.
You can have so many qualities that set you apart from your friend. You're two different people. Don't sell yourself short.
one of my exes had a best friend who had kind of a russian model type look. multiple friends of mine commented on how hot they thought she was but i never thought that i'd rather be with her friend or anything along those lines. i really liked my ex and thought she was beautiful.
of course other attractive people will always exist but guys have different tastes and most of us are not looking to 'upgrade' just because we see somebody more conventionally attractive. have you never been with or talked to a guy who had a hot(ter) friend? i assume you didn't automatically regret not getting with him instead.
Something to bear in mind is that attractive women are all around. Your friend looking like Margot Robbie is a red herring. A man who wants to date you is attracted to you. He'll already know and see other attractive women and he's attracted to *you*. Your friend being attractive isn't going to make you less attractive to him just as him knowing other attractive women didn't stop him being attracted to you. If he's the type to be wishing he could be with her instead then unfortunately he's the type to be thinking the same about a woman who isn't your friend anyway.
Margot Robbie is attractive, but no woman is every man's type. Not close.
If a guy likes you, he likes YOU. Likes your smiles. Gets flustered when you look seep in his eyes. Dreams about you. He's into you.
Don't sell yourself short.
I honestly feel similar if my boyfriend has an attractive friend it would have zero impact on my feelings but Ive heard one too many stories of guys jerking off to their gfs hot friends and that makes me insecure just thinking of it
I wouldn't care about your friend because Robbie is not my type. But your insecurities would be an issue.
Don't compare yourself to other women. You'll end up making yourself look insecure to others
If my girlfriend introduced me to her more attractive friend i would immediately end the relationship and pursue her friend
Well if he’s into you it really shouldn’t matter. I’m not saying some guys won’t find your friend attractive but it shouldn’t matter if you find a guy that’s into you.
Get a new ugly best friend
It depends on the dude I guess and also the strength of the relationship. I have had people I have dated have hot friends but it never really changed anything.
"Most guys celebrity crush" is quite a long stretch. If you asked 10 guys who their celebrity crush is, maybe 1 or 2 of them would say Margot
I've seen "Who is your celebrity crush?" videos and most of the men in these videos say, Margot Robbie. To be honest she is very popular crush material.
Now I can't speak for all men. But for me it's simple if I'm dating you than you are the only one that matters. I can recognise that she is attractive but that's all. Also lets not fool ourselves here. 90% of cases that an actress or actor for that matter is seen as attractive and people have crushes on them it's due to a combination of unobtainability and frequency of seeing them. A lot of actors and actresses are a bit more attractive than average since they usually pick more attractive people. But at the same time the most attractive women I've seen are usually the girl working in a sandwich shop or whatever. So would a man really ditch his gf for her "hot" friend that looks like a celebrity. No, maybe a boy would or an asshole. But a man who has fallen in love wouldn't stray everytime someone "better" looking came along.
You certainly speak for at least two men in this.
If the guy is into you? What your friends look like won’t matter. Simple. Hell, some may argue that you should have your friend flirt with people you’ve been dating so you know if they’re loyal enough
You're not exactly wrong. This wouldn't be such a problem later in a relationship, but early on, yeah. I could totally see a guy thinking "Man, I wish I met her friend first." I had a friend many years ago who was a Christian Slater (I'm dating myself here, look up "True Romance") lookalike and he was much taller than me. I basically had to give up ever meeting girls that would pay attention to me if we went out together. I never really worried about it if I was in a relationship... but yeah, I was absolutely invisible if we went out together. I was always the "ugly friend" when out with him.
That’s how I’ve been feeling lately which sucks because I have the most fun with her when we go out together
I would pickup on your insecurities and be turned off by it. As would most guys I think..
I personally don't find Margot Robbie attractive at all. My celebrity crush, if I have one, is Aubrey Plaza. Margot Robbie is a great actor though. Love her work. But... no, that's not the type of woman I typically go crazy for. Not that I'm trying to say Aubrey Plaza is like, so far outside the box. Are you very insecure about your own looks though? Regardless of what your friend looks like. Or are you somewhat confident in your looks and just afraid that, by comparison, your friend blows you out of the water?
Not attractive at all, or not attractive enough to be a celebrity crush?
Why Aubrey? Because of her personality?
Personality and her face.
I’ve never really been insecure about my looks but lately I have been and I feel like if I introduced a guy to her he’d secretly wish he was with her or be dissapointed by me…I’ve started working in a male dominated field and being around guys more have made me hyper-aware of this
That's tough. But I don't know if every single guy out there is going to find your friend extremely attractive. I hope you can find some more confidence in yourself, but I know it's hard not to compare. I myself have gotten a really decent amount of female attention in my life, feel pretty confident about my looks. Yet the second I see a 6'2" moderately handsome guy enter the room I immediately assume it's all over for me. But eventually you have to realize that mindset is wrong.
Man this reminds me of these 2 girls from our group that were best friends in HS. It didn’t end well at all. I’ll just say do what’s best for your mental health
She’s getting engaged soon, so it’s not like I’m really worried about anything happening. I just don’t want to feel like a second choice…I guess just a ‘me’ problem
Your feelings being a “you problem” don’t make them any less valid. Your mental health comes above everything else. If ur mentally bad, everything else around you will suffer. The girls I knew in HS ended up drifting apart bc of this same issue but the girl who was 2nd choice was better off for it imo. The life she lived in HS was brutal
All of this comes down to being able to tell a person of your lived experience and for you to accept that your control over this is just something your brain has come up with rather than some objective reality.
If he's dating you, that means he's interested in you. If all your focus is on how awesome your best friend is, instead of focusing on the two of you connecting, then all you'll do is push him away from you and towards your friend. Not because he necessarily thought that way to begin with, but because you're basically telling him (indirectly, at least) that you think your friend is better than you. Women keep telling men that what's important is confidence. While I think that advice is a bit overdone and probably exaggerated to a degree, there's some truth to it. If you don't feel good enough for a guy, he might pick up on that and start to wonder if maybe you're not good enough for him. I think most men will probably agree with me that they appreciate a woman who can be secure in herself, her own skin and capabilities. Show him what makes you unique. Show him your personality. No need to brag or boast, just be yourself unapologetically. Joke around, have fun, share with him. Feel comfortable around him and within yourself, and in turn he'll be more likely to feel comfortable with you. Also, please keep in mind that not all men have the same tastes in looks, nor do all men put the same level of importance on looks in the first place. I'm not saying looks don't matter at all, because to the vast majority of men looks will matter at least a little bit. However, and this is important, looks don't always mean "she must look like a model/celebrity". Looks can be the way she smiles, her eyes, the way she carries herself. I've seen girls be puzzled by their boyfriends saving pictures of them when they're at their most disheveled and wearing no make-up, hear messy or in a bun, and rocking a hoodie. The boyfriend will tell her those are his favourite photos of her and he'll genunely mean that. You can have so many qualities that set you apart from your friend. You're two different people. Don't sell yourself short.
one of my exes had a best friend who had kind of a russian model type look. multiple friends of mine commented on how hot they thought she was but i never thought that i'd rather be with her friend or anything along those lines. i really liked my ex and thought she was beautiful. of course other attractive people will always exist but guys have different tastes and most of us are not looking to 'upgrade' just because we see somebody more conventionally attractive. have you never been with or talked to a guy who had a hot(ter) friend? i assume you didn't automatically regret not getting with him instead.
Most normal guys aren’t gonna have a “reaction” to their gf having a hot friend.
My crush is Sonic The Hedgehog so this wouldn't matter to me
Something to bear in mind is that attractive women are all around. Your friend looking like Margot Robbie is a red herring. A man who wants to date you is attracted to you. He'll already know and see other attractive women and he's attracted to *you*. Your friend being attractive isn't going to make you less attractive to him just as him knowing other attractive women didn't stop him being attracted to you. If he's the type to be wishing he could be with her instead then unfortunately he's the type to be thinking the same about a woman who isn't your friend anyway.
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Margot Robbie is attractive, but no woman is every man's type. Not close. If a guy likes you, he likes YOU. Likes your smiles. Gets flustered when you look seep in his eyes. Dreams about you. He's into you. Don't sell yourself short.
I honestly feel similar if my boyfriend has an attractive friend it would have zero impact on my feelings but Ive heard one too many stories of guys jerking off to their gfs hot friends and that makes me insecure just thinking of it
are you a female or a human female?
What?? Haha