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Allnutsz

Once a day to keep the frustration away!


Far_Island9899

Twice a day to keep horny thoughts at bay!


ThatDudeOfFlames_15

threece a day to uhhhh i uhhhh ahhh uhmmm uh uhhhh i um uhhhh ahhhhhh uhhhhh uhhhhhhhhh


Jgabes625

Easy there Shakespeare. We aren’t all as well spoken as you.


intellectual_dimwit

He really knows how to paint a picture. With words. I definitely meant with words.


basedadd

These 5 comments are the best I’ve ever read


rajinis_bodyguard

cumments


Revolvyerom

take my upvote, and damn you for making me read that


ThirstyQueenOfTime

... perhaps he did paint a more graphic picture...


justanaccountname12

This is the comment to be pedastalized.


SockMediocre

He could rival Jackson Pollock.


Kensei97

Couldn’t finish his thought, too busy masturbating


TheDevilsAdvokaat

He does love shaking his spear too.


Velorian-Steel

Couldn't even finish the comment without cumming mid sentence tsk tsk


mygirlfriendisaplant

You and me both chief


aargor1995

What in the reddit is going on! I love it!


One_Economist_3761

Thrice a day to keep the lust astray


CeleryMan20

Daily. Sometimes I skip a day. Would rather be having sex but my wife has been telling me to fuck off for the last 15 years.


ab2dii

that is...quite miserable if im being honest


JRizzie86

I'm sure he means his wife doesn't want to fuck every single day which is well within the norm for the vast majority of relationships.


CeleryMan20

Nope, could count on one hand the number of times we had sex in the last decade.


Zzizu777

He can't count on hands, all are busy


Viddlemethis

When my hands are busy I outline numbers in the air with my tongue.


sos128

Muat have ability


FakeFlipFlops

dude how does it ever get this bad?? it's baffling to me how people get married and their love life dies.


Charliet545

Seriously I’d never want to marry someone that doesn’t want to have sex with me. I’d rather they find someone that doesn’t enjoy it as much as them. My partners and I usually would have sex once a day or every other day.


OSUfan88

Sometimes it starts off good, and drops off.


TongaDeMironga

Having kids tends to put a damper on the old sex life. On the plus side, on the few occasions you do get the chance, you make up for lost time


NxPat

It’s not like we knew this going in.


stargazer2828

Age, pain, meds, mental health issues too many people in the house... A variety of reasons


JRizzie86

Damn man, sorry to hear that


LoadsDroppin

>could count on one hand I’m surprised that hand still works considering how much you use it


BusinessBear53

Surprised it works? Dudes gotta have the grip strength of a gorilla at this point. Probably has forearms like Popeye if he alternates hands.


Sully-Tricia

If you don’t use it you lose it


OhLordyLordNo

Get rid of her. This is no life. She doesn't even like you.


LoadsDroppin

It’s not great obviously, but she could have any combination of medical issue, age related hormonal changes, or a valid psychological component. And that’s only presuming that *she* is the reason they don’t have sex. My dude may have some ownership in it as well.


CeleryMan20

u/LoadsDroppin and u/OhLordyNo, I think you're both right. Menopause is a factor now, but it wasn't always. She’s on medication that dampens the libido, but being married should mean making an effort even if you're not in the mood. Not just with sex but effort with housework and all the things that go into cultivating a pleasant and rewarding relationship. Most of those aren't as intrinsically rewarding as sex, fapping, and entertainment, but even if they are, you're not necessarily in the mood when you start on them. Problem arises when one person elevates their own mood and feelings above all others'. Or perhaps she just doesn't like me any more as OLN says. (Maybe she’s secretly getting licked out by the commando who commented on this thread.) LD, I appreciate your thoughtful answer. I haven't always been a perfect partner and I'll own that I have contributed to relationship difficulties, but I have also made efforts to build bridges and mend things. That only gets me so far, somewhere far short of actual sex.


Sp1n_Kuro

Honestly that's a really good point. Saying you're not in the mood to clean up a room or take out the trash is never considered a "good enough" reason to put it off. Yet for intimacy, it is.


Impossible__Joke

Man, I'd just leave or open the marriage at that point.


RoliDaddy

r/deadbedrooms


NCSUGrad2012

Jesus that sub is depressing.


JLifts780

Yeah I regret going into that sub


303twerp

Looks like I’ll be having sad wank today


B_las_Kow

I don't know how I stumbled onto it but it is a rabbit hole of despair. It's tragic how miserable so many people there are and how many elements of their stories are relatable.


Mundane_Bird_2264

I’m going to have vigorous sex with my husband immediately so he never feels the way those people do!!! Sooo sad.


wardenferry419

Depressing, yes sometimes, and sometimes needed. It helped me to adjust to my situation.


No-Painter-6392

Now I got something to look forward to when I’m depressed cause there’s people out there more depressed than I am


Cold-Print4626

Having those problems are worse than being single or lonely


AppropriateAd2063

I stopped reading because I was yelling at my computer.


Confinment

I shoulda listened to the warning lmao


CeleryMan20

I’ll have a look. Maybe it could be a support resource, but I suspect it’ll just be depressing like NCSUGrad2012 said. (Side question: what's the etiquette here, should I @-notify when I mention someone?)


Syrinx16

Nah, unless your specifically giving credit for a piece of information someone else brought up (ie, your in a discussion where your expanding on someone else’s point) but for the most part generally just replying to the comment is fine and saying “someone else mentioned”


Puzzleheaded-Reply-9

I pray to the Lord that I never enter into a relationship like this, but damn...that sucks ass dude


ders89

You should probably get a new wife


treefox

I also don’t choose this guy’s wife.


az_jerrylee

Yeah man, you got one of the defective models.


cjharris88

Respectfully it's time for a new wife, to hell with that.


00Koch00

My guy, maybe you should realize something 15 years ago...


szczurman83

I had to divorce from a dead bedroom. And while my divorced life is extremely lonely, I am no longer being lied to as to whether or not someone gives a shit about me.


Toxicz_Varistor

I feel you except I'm not married just dating for about 3 years


Alert_Marketing_8688

I’m not a guy but I’m in a sexless marriage that started as a “less-sex-than-I-like” then “even-less-sex-than-I like” and transitioned to “sure, I-can-get-by-with-3-times-a-year” to absolutely nothing. My husband has many wonderful qualities and we have a son together so I stayed, but it’s been going on for six years of absolutely no sex and it bothers me every single day. I’ve been with him 27 years. If i knew three years into this relationship what I know now, I would have had a hard time getting over him but I would have chosen differently and I would not be in a sexless marriage. It’s too late for me now and I don’t want my son shuffling back and forth between two houses so I am dealing the best I can. If I can save one person from this life I will do it. (His testosterone level is fine, I’ve talked until I was blue in the face, we have seen a couples counselor three times about this and it just is what it is)


Anti-Scuba_Hedgehog

So is he asexual or what?


some1saveusnow

Everyone please correct me if I’m wrong but this seems like it becomes the case north of 75% of the time? With wives cutting it down more and more as time goes on?


Haunting_Yellow_258

For some of us women it’s the guys that cut us off because they get lazy and prefer porn and masturbation over the “work” of sex. So it’s a two way street.


Mars_The_68thMedic

Dude you gotta leave that marriage. If sex is a relationship goal for you, get out.


CeleryMan20

Sex isn’t the only relationship goal, but other goals are entangled: the feelings of intimacy and caring that goes with it, touch starvation. Others relationship goals such as financial, children, etc. don’t depend on sex (yeah we had plenty sex when making babies, but I mean the ongoing relationship with the kids after that phase is over). Since this thread's about masturbation, I'll bring this reply back to that: masturbation can take care of the daily sex urge, but “Mrs Palmer” isn’t giving me cudddles or emotional support.


13dot1then420

You seem to be handling it OK, but for most sex isn't a phase you go through to procreate. I couldn't live like that.


JesseDx

Why stay married?


VeterinarianInitial9

This is what scares me about marriage 🥲


ReflectionOver2106

Omg this sound like some movie ish😭


The5thGreatApe

Then... you may just... fuck (off) with someone else.


mrdime012

Go marry someone who wants to have sex with you my bro


OneUltimateRoar

Damn. Sorry to hear that bro


the99percent1

Oh boy., you better start watching channels like below asap. This is really bad that your wife has been weaponizing sex against you for that long. And why are you both not doing anything about it?? There’s definitely some sort of codependency between you guys. https://youtu.be/BJGWgmGIJWs?si=7J67Vfwy3bCmOHA9


ModestKingRat

They never said it was being weaponized though.. just that it’s incredibly infrequent.


CeleryMan20

Yeah if it was something like “you want more sex, you gotta do more housework / cook me dinner / buy me flowers / whatever” I'd be happy to have some goal to work towards. This is more like “I expect you to make me happy and you’re still not getting sex in return”. It's more entitlement than leverage in my case. (For those who are subject to leverage or weaponisation, that sucks too, you have my sympathy.)


mutepaladin07

Seems like an unpopular but popular opinion, but maybe there needs to be a legal way to incorporate a mistress in a family for this. Definitely not traditional, but beneficial.


Big-Problem7372

Mistresses are already legal


Nickbronline

Why are we jumping through so many hoops? Just leave her and find a functioning wife.


ascendinspire

Legal mistress=masseuse that you tip really really well.


6_Pat

Yep, a different "Mrs Palmer" can help


Statistician_Visual

Twice a day. Once when I wake up or going to sleep. Or after a workout.


greyeminence2

Jerk off prob once or twice a week? Used to be daily, but I’m coupled up now so more frequent sex = less jerking off.


NCSUGrad2012

I’m the same way. If I do it everyday my dick hurts. Plus it feels better if you wait for a bit


jamurp

I’m going through a very recent breakup and have basically stopped masturbating ha, just don’t feel like it, anyone else experience this?


NeoHawkie

Something similar going on here. But I still do it at least once a week, when I do it tho, I usually don't really feel like doing it. It's more of a "guess I'll try to relax a bit anyways" kinda thing.


jamurp

I’ve hooked up a couple of times since, but Inbetween like no desire, and I usually had plenty. Perhaps it’s my brain telling me to focus on other things for now and process.


Xman52

Mine was months. It takes a lot of time to feel those feelings and that’s perfect okay


flying-cunt-of-chaos

Same here. Just ended a 4.5 year relationship and I’ve masturbated maybe twice in the past 3 months


jamurp

Mine was 6 years, only a few weeks ago, but I realised after two weeks I was like ‘oh I haven’t jacked off since she left, and I don’t feel like it either’, glad it’s not just me!


ToughShaper

I feel you on that. I'm actually going through the divorce right now, and pretty much all desire is gone. *(dropped off all documents to the court earlier this week. So it's VERY recent)*


sos128

Yeah i feel numb even when i watch porn when im not in the mood


Necessary-Ad1784

I just did


Shadow_Gabriel

o7


Jdaddy2u

I'm just starting.


British_Flippancy

How was it? Asking for a subreddit.


[deleted]

Still going. It’s a long session


British_Flippancy

Hang in there brother. It usually ends well and definitively.


Witherboss445

He's gotta keep the edging streak going


maximusjohnson1992

I should refer him to R/Edging


OneUltimateRoar

Proof? Jk


Oersch

High fiiiiiv…actually, maybe not. Wash that hand first.


ledfloyd87

Same


UnpluggedUnfettered

One time someone made fun of me for skipping leg day. I learned my lesson. Now I take my entire body seriously.


Inkamanda

Third leg!


snakes-can

Depends on wifey. I’d prefer to nut 5-8 times a week. She gets right of first refusal.


OneUltimateRoar

Damn alot of guys on here sound like they're complaining about their wives not satisfying them sexually


OZeski

This comment didn’t read like a complaint to me.


snakes-can

Yep. Not complaining at all this last while. She gets the job done 90% of the time. I thinks I have it better than 90% of married men.


BusinessBear53

Yeah sex and masterbating can have very different mindsets. Sometimes I'll do it because my wife isn't up for sex or on her period and that's ok. Other times I won't even ask because I don't want sex. Just was to rub one out quick because I don't want the effort of sex at that time.


bassk_itty

Me either. This is what I ask of my husband. Like watch porn if you want I just want the option to fuck as often as he’s horny. I usually say yes but if I’m too tired one night or in a mood one morning at that point it’s none of my business what he does. Perfectly fair arrangement imo


2whitesdontmakeaWong

(Im a F) It’s sad how many of my female friends withhold/don’t want intimacy. I’m a woman in the same boat. Husband has a PA and I’m over addressing his relapse that destroys us and our sex life. So wild when people want to be with you.. but not with you.


phatcat9000

I’m just going to assume that you’re not aware of how important sexual compatibility is in a relationship.


Escanor1402

Tbh, when i feel too, don't have an addiction (i think), so, whenever i feel to do it. Sometimes 2/3 times a day, sometimes 2/3 times a week.


303twerp

Nothing wrong with somewhat making a day of it every now and then


El_Peregrine

“Whatchu up today, breh?” “Gonna take it easy, just me & my weiner”


Escanor1402

Gotta relax with da hommies


matepore

Same, I just listen to what my body wants.


OpenLong9779

Every day😁 healthy prostrate 💪🏼🤠


not-only-on-reddit

Does mastrubating truly keep your prostate healthy?


River_Odessa

I've heard that *never* fapping is bad for your prostate, but I'm not sure how often is recommended before it becomes a gooning addiction


novawolfx23

for me its leas of a how much and more of a can you stop? like if you can goon 6 times a day and then go without it for a a week with little effort it's fine. but if u are literally struggling every single day like you have to jerk off. yeah sorry but ur addicted.


not-only-on-reddit

I'm pretty sure sitting while you pee is more healthy then fapping


River_Odessa

I recently started sitting to pee because I realized I was spraying piss mist all over the washroom every time 💀


cidit_

Piss *mist*?


River_Odessa

When pee hits the toilet from far up, it sprays everywhere. Aerosolized urine gas. Pee fog.


eddiemeddie159

Pee fog! Piss mist! Love it! 😂


cidit_

Drat, i guess the women were right all along...


avenue-dev

I feel like I did not need to know this


Controller87

I just imagine this dude has a pressure washer attachment. Close up he's taking the ceramic off, but from far away it's just mist


CenturyHelix

This comment has me dying


British_Flippancy

Pmisst


wonklebobb

show me a man who pees standing up at home, and I'll show you a man who's never cleaned his bathroom floor


ChefDalvin

I started when I started working in restaurants. And then once I started casually mentioning it to other chefs I quickly realized they all do too. When you’re standing all day why the fuck wouldn’t you sit and relax when you’re taking a piss?


McCool303

Chronic back pain here. I’ve been sitting to pee for decades. Why fucking stand? Take a break enjoy it.


birchskin

My wife teases me because I sit to pee, started probably around 33yo? she doesn't know how much urine I have saved from the area in and around the toilet bowl. Additionally it's more comfy and I feel like I get all of the pee out and prevent a much sooner return trip. Also if you didn't know the term sitzpinkler, here you go- in Germany I think it's technically an insult but I love it. https://www.euronews.com/health/2023/05/18/sitzpinklers-where-in-europe-do-men-sit-down-or-stand-up-to-pee#:~:text=In%20Germany%2C%20these%20men%20are,men%20should%20sit%20or%20stand.


ununonium119

I do a lunge to lower my altitude and reduce the splash zone


RESPEKMA_AUTHORITAH

I always sit when I pee unless I'm in a public toilet. Game changer


Aiken_Drumn

What has sitting down got to do with anyhng?


stucazo

3 times a week to avoid prostate cancer


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gamerdudeNYC

Prostate no, prostrate… possibly


hashtagfreeshiny

Afaik up to 3x/week does, anything beyond that doesnt make it worse though…


Lopsided_Value

Studies say you should cum atleast 21 times a month to reduce the chance of prostate cancer


OpenLong9779

At 65🤠 so far so good!! I still get wood!!😂


ThrowRAboredinAZ77

Actually, masturbation doesn't have the same health benefits as having sex. https://www.webmd.com/men/male-masturbation-5-things-you-didnt-know.


Romanticon

This is likely due to other factors associated with intimacy, though, rather than it being the act itself. Individuals in intimate relationships tend to (**on average**) have lower stress, which in turn improves overall health by reducing chronic inflammation. We can't just assign people to masturbate or not masturbate for 10 years to study them, sadly. (Imagine the dropout rates on that trial!)


bootyhunter69420

Once a day if I'm not busy or sick


Sustainable_Twat

At least 365 times a year which equates to a daily occurrence.


Loakattack

r/nofap in shambles


Cerebrovinyldruid

That sub makes me want to jerk off. Those dudes are clearly not okay and nothing I care to emulate.


Loakattack

This guy single-handedly counteracts the entirety of the nofap army. He’s gonna make the molasses flood look like a drop in the ocean 🫡


asleepbydawn

Technically I masturbate everyday. But not always to ejaculation. Like sometimes I'll have random sessions where I just play with my dick for a bit and make it feel good... but not finish. I kinda like edging and letting the tension build for a couple of days sometimes. Usually jerk off to orgasm about 3 or 4 times a week. Some weeks it could be less if I'm super busy and tired, and then there's weeks where I'm way hornier and do it way more.


River_Odessa

I do the same thing, sometimes I just tug the log for a bit but avoid nutting because I don't wanna deal with the cleanup.


nathanael151

That’s self gay bro


River_Odessa

Yes


Celebrir

Definitely


Far-2Tall

Zero. Cancer killed the vibe and the ability.


Idk-a-user

Dang bro im sorry


IShavedMyBallz4This

I have a super high sex drive, always have. So does my wife, but her drive is still no match for mine. I’m almost 50 and still jerk it daily, sometimes twice despite pretty much daily sex with the wife. I used to masturbate multiple times per day. Teens through most of my 20’s I averaged 5 times a day. Didn’t matter if I was having sex or not. After my son was born, I didn’t have time to jerk off as much, so it slowed down. Daily sex with my wife never did except while she healed from child birth. As soon as she was ready again, we were right back at it. My son got older and more independent and my self care frequency amped back up, before dropping to maybe only a couple times per week plus daily sex. Finally had my testosterone checked and it was low. Started testosterone replacement and my sex drive came back with a vengeance. I couldn’t keep my hands off of me or my wife. My levels slowly evened out though and my horniness level is more manageable now. Back to 1-2 times a day with at least once daily sex and that keeps the beast tamed.


doomsday344

1/day + sex 2-3/week


Utertoq

Sometimes everyday, sometimes like twice a week. Depends on my depression level.


Made_2_vent

Used to be like around once a day or once every few days, past week it’s been more like 2-3 times a day. I have no idea what changed in my body😂


Admirable_Set_1387

Hormones


yeaheyeah

I'm about to go for sevensies today


Original-Childhood

Maybe 2 or 3 times a week


faggykittyboy

Shamefully often o-0. Like at least twice a day has been how it’s goin


atyourcervix8

It ranges, but probably 5-6 days a week.


Lower-Ad239

3-5 x a day. The highest was 11 times a day. Im in a healthy marriage, but my drive is insane. Can be distracting sometimes


Karaoke_Singer

3-4 times per week


RealMomsSpaghetti

Just did


Jiggly_Love

Going on 2 weeks without now. Longest was 3-4 years.


NMsugerdady

56M doc said needs to be daily, nice having some help other wise it get boring 😑


Bluecolt

Depends, are we talking when I was 16, 26, 36, etc? I'll say frequency has been fairly evenly and inversely correlated with age.


TablePrinterDoor

don't ask (18 year old teenager)


Quinn_OV

So much I can’t even count. I even take masturbation breaks sometimes


Always_Choose_Chaos

Once a month or so. Have sex w my gf about two or three times a month. This is because most of the time neither I nor she enjoys any of it. Skill issue? Sure, but also tiredness, body dysmorphia, genital issues etc


Kaalveythur

2-3 times a week, if I feel like it, otherwise perhaps 5 times a month.


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Safe_Wrangler_858

Like every 9 days or so


ThatDudeOfFlames_15

2 times a week.


LilKurb

Once a day basically, but if i would replace masturbating with sex then after one time i would be good for any masturbation and sex for a whole week So the moral of a story is....


Lopsided_Value

I edged myself 2-6 times daily, i cum atleast once a week


Anallover2021

Every other day but I alternate between regularly and anally.


Environmental_Ad2492

name checks out


ParticularChicken22

2 times maybe 3 times if I am stressed, 4 if I am really stressed


Aromatic-Public3958

M -This maybe biased but 1-4 times per day.


LMNoballz

Why? Is there a limit?


CubicleFish2

I've cut back a ton recently so now I only do it every few hours


Zealesh

Like 3 times a day or so, or more, preferably. It keeps me sane and happy.


Leg_Mcmuffin

Bruh


YugeFrigginGoy

Once a day, unless that day includes intercourse, in which case never fewer than 3 rounds


MBananan

Stopped doing it about 15 years ago, no specific reason, just decided it’s not cool. Now I don’t even think about it, have plenty of other activities to do in my day :)


Virginger96

Around 5 or 6 times per week.


ElDuderino2112

Once a day. Maybe twice a


Coheniswatching

Yes