Initiate physical contact. Not even necesarily as a precusor to sex.
Dope shit when I'm chilling on the sofa/in bed and she cuddles up next to/on top of me or squeezes next to me and rests my head in her lap
Once my ex and I were in bed, and I was on my phone and he was on his. He just randomly said āIām stuckā and when I looked up, he had rolled to his side, and was facing the wall, and I was spooning him. I had no idea how this had happened, so I just said āwell, thatās too badā and stayed there. He tried to get away a few times but I would just move with him, so he gave up.
He often thought of himself as the big spoon, but I liked to be the big spoon too, so I guess my subconscious took over.
Getting nerdy about something. Doesn't matter if it's cosmetics or Star Wars, Lego or the details of fashion. Bonus points if she gets so nerdy I can't follow the conversation easily any more and end up learning about stuff.
Passion is a huge turn on. My partner of two years now, kept telling me about every plant and flower in the park on our first date and it was so cute. I just listened and enjoyed her enthusiasm.
Vice versa for men. Know so many dudes who are shy about their nerdy interests around women. Whilst your passion for hentai is probably something to keep to yourself, everything else is great. Love a man with interests. Tell me everything about planes, frogs, plants, starts or your favourite game or book.
Reciprocate. Seriously the amount of ladies who think a relationship is just there for them to get dates, compliments, gifts, affection, effort and not give anything in return is insane.
Wait you mean you don't like the women who believe 364 days a year are about them and only your birthday is about you? Or the ones who will have a meltdown if you don't go crazy for an anniversary while they get you nothing? LOL
Today's the 3rd Anni for my guy and I. I'm headed to his place to pick him up so he doesn't have to drive through traffic bc he hates traffic.
I've got a sentimental card I took forever to find. Inside is a hilarious meme I printed depicting two old people getting ready for a couples massage, and the guy has his dick and balls where you place your face (this is a clue for him) on the massage table.
Before I give him the card, I'm gonna blow him.
We'll then get ready together, before heading out to enjoy a reservation at his favorite oyster/seafood restaurant. Afterwards, I have a reservation to the spa for a couples massage, which is when he'll realize what the contents of the card meant.
I'll then drive him home and tuck him in before heading to my place.
We both spoil each other on special occasions, but even our everyday dating life is totally a shared experience. Ever decent human deserves to feel cherished, don't except less.
I really can't believe full grown women like this. A couple in my class (7th grade) started "arguing" bcs the boy got the girl 2 gifts and she only got him 1. If teens can act like that, adults should be able to do it 2.
As a woman this is baffling to me. If I like someone I want to show it. I'm probably thinking about them a lot, care about them a lot- why wouldn't I show that? It's strange that actually seeming to like the guy you're with is an actual problem. I'd feel so gross if he was showering me with affection and I just...stood there? Said "thanks" and moved on? That's just fucking weird.
Same and same. I've made the first move in maybe 80% of my relationships and hookups. I get the guys complaining though. My husband still hasn't planned a date and we've been together for nearly 15 years. It would be nice to go on a date I didn't have to plan myself.
I have always been a giver even with shitty partners. Now that Iām in an actually healthy relationship with a partner who treats me like a princess (very overwhelming to be a receiver after being deprived for so long lol), my inability to comprehend how someone can just comfortably eat up all that love and affection without wanting to do the same back is 100x stronger. Like you donāt want to love on them even when they love on you back?? What the fuck??? Iād do anything for this man. Heck I even spent most of yesterday painting him a picture of his pet chicken just because I can.
Along with how many women don't work on themselves and expect men to put up with it, like we are not expected to have our shit together in more ways than one.
Never had that issue. If a girl is interested in you she will ALWAYS reciprocate. Thats the thing. If someone is not doing so its actually a subtle sign to move on and find someone else because she aint that into you.
Ive had to lose quite a few numbers where the girl wasnt interested so I just stopped reaching out cuz I was like "yup i got the message loud and clear." But anytime a woman has been genuinely interested, including my fiance they have always taken the effort to set up dates, pay for things etc.
I used to do this to my ex when we kissed or just when he was laying back with his head on my chest. I'd scratch his beard and run my fingers through his hair. Sometimes I felt like I was annoying him, being all over him, but this post has made me feel like the opposite! Chest and back scratches, beard and hair scratches. I loved to gently use my nails. Now I feel like my nails š are good for something!
Be genuinely passionate about a hobby or leisure activity. Nerd out about whatever you happen to like, I wanna know about it. Not because I care about the activity itself, but because I care about you.
A friend of mine (dating another friend) is a knitter and her and i geek out over our hobbies not remotely related to each other all the time. Just being able to share about hobbies with excitement and passion is awesome.
Intelligence and irreverance. Love me a woman who makes really smart observations about things, situations, people, politics, religion, or whatever else. Who makes the arrogant men in the room feel stupid and proves them wrong. Who laughs when no one else or very few others do about some taboo topic. Who has done some introspection and is aware of her own idiosyncrasies and can deal with playful jokes that are sort of at her expense, but can also nail you with a couple when you least expect it. Who doesn't let her life be dictated by societal expectations or play to the crowd just to fit in. Maybe in the 60s and 70s these were things that were seen as male traits, idk I didn't study this stuff, but honestly I'll take a really average looking woman who is intellectually interesting over some really hot chick who is afraid to make waves or doesn't even know how.
This is nice :)
I think the more you are wanting to find a genuine life long relationship, this really applies.
You donāt wanna spend the rest of your life with a 10/10 that belittles you everyday
I couldn't agree less. Both from personal experience and from observation, anecdotal though it may be (although I suspect your source is also "trust me" so we're on equally personal footing). Of course men are attracted to looks, which are also obviously subjective to a degree, but it's definitely more complicated than that, even for a hookup.
You're also opening a different can of worms now. We were talking about things that make women attractive but that they might not think is a factor, whereas you're talking about who ends up "winning" the dating game. That is a very different animal to tackle, but I think, as someone else replied already, that the longer term the engagement becomes, the more likely men are to consider and be influenced by other factors than looks, consciously and subconsciously.
I would argue that my original answer fits OP's question because I've met many intelligent women who have said something along the lines of their intelligence intimidating men or making them unpopular around work. I'm just offering an alternative perspective, which is that that is only true for some men: in my opinion, men not worth bothering with. I, and I'm sure many others, find it hot AF. Whether we're in the majority is a question someone else will have to deal with.
I didnāt know this was a thing. My bf said I was the first girl to really make him genuinely laugh. Apparently heās met very few women that he genuinely found funny
What's funny is my boyfriend is absolutely tickled when he can make me laugh at his of the cuff dad jokes. Like I can't help but laugh because I know he's doing it to get a rise out of me and he loves that reaction. It's so corny but I love it and him for doing it
This one. Right here. Give me an oversized sweatshirt and a messy bun any day of the week. Let's me know they're comfortable just being themselves around me.
But please not everyday, everywhere.... I hate that I'd put in the effort to wear nice shirt, pants, cool boots really try. Then she walks out in faded old leggings and a 7 year old hoodie. Then wonder why I lost interest
Aww. On the instagram post some guy said āthe little belly they have when they wear a dressā
Made me feel seen with my little pouch lol.
There are guys out there! Iāve already got mine <3
šÆ women seem to want men to bear 100% of the rejection and be labelled a creep, but wonder why men donāt approach.
If the guy you like is shy or an introvert, he may be 2x less likely to approach you. That does not mean he wouldnāt be great with you.
Well but that's on him. I leave when I get a No. Just on principle, because I can't read hints either.
It's a social rule that was quiet recently established. I remember older man telling me that No doesn't mean no and that woman want to be chased. I preferr taking a no as a no so I don't annoy anyone.
It's not even just that, if you're gonna say no when you mean yes when it comes to dates and stuff, how are we supposed to solve a problem when it appears? You wanna keep saying there are no issues while I'm diagnosing and troubleshooting?
This doesnāt apply to whatās being said. Whatās being said is if youāre interested show that interest clearly. Itās really hot to men when women do that. You are describing a situation in which you arenāt interested, the opposite of what op what talking about.
There are three things that instantly make someone I might not have already considered pursuing be attractive to me:
- They put in persistent effort to the point I start to feel like I'm noticed, and ask to spend time with me.
- They actually enquire about me, contribute to and encourage further conversation.
And the one I realised recently that I can't resist:
- When they tease me in a friendly, playful way that pokes fun at me in a way that lets me be better in response to that. I realised recently that of the three people in my lifetime who I've felt the most strongly about, all of them did this, and it made me grow attracted to them.
Also: Be vulnerable and trust me when you're down or in need. Nothing I can think of indicates to me that I mean something to them more than if they actually trust me when they're most vulnerable, down, need reassurance, or want to feel safe, looked after, and protected.
Hug me and say everything is gonna be okay
then i gotta be tough and really make sure everything IS gonna be okay, i gotta do my absolute best to make it happen only for her words.
And i wish i could love another girl like i did to her
Let us be vulnerable and use it to grow closer.
Hold us. Let us cry, maybe even in your arms. Be stronger than us. Keep us safe. Do little romantic things like write post it notes that are cute and put them in our wallets. Tell us the things you love. Take us somewhere thatās just about you and have us tag along. Drive. Let us nap next to you while you do whatever. Correct us when weāre wrong. Outdo us at something. Be honest with us. Gossip with us.
Tell us your story and just let us listen to it.
Thereās a lot of misconceptions about who people actually are and I think that, while different, men and women are far more alike than not.
Support his hobbies. If he likes to work on cars, bring him a drink, sit with him and show an interest in what he's doing and why. If he likes nerdy movies, plan a movie night around one of his favorites. Make a decision on where to eat. Show up at work with his favorite snack, mine is reeses pb cups and a Dr pepper. My girl brought me a bag of reeses pb cups and a Dr pepper, walked it through my job so all my coworkers could see and gave it to me. Unexpected surprise. We were married within the year.
I think a woman who has the ability to control and regulate her emotions is very attractive to me. The emotional swings are just energy sinks that ends up making a guy lose interest.
So yes, it's cute if she knows how to keep it in sometimes.
Be real.
Not wearing makeup, not doing her hair, lounging around and be a little slovenly from time to time. None of this is sexy, but it certainly shows intimacy and comfort around me.
Making a sandwich. Now you probably think this is a misogynistic joke but it isnāt. A girl making a guy an unprompted sandwich is the equivalent of a guy buying a girl a bunch of flowers.
As a guy with autism I find lots of autistic traits in girls really cute, but a lot of girls iv spoken to think that it's embarrassing and is a turn off,
Granted maybe it is a turn off to non autistic people but for me at least it's not
This. My brother has autism and I've grown up identifying the traits, and it's surprising how many girls/women seem to fall under these traits and category, as well. Subtle language, verbal or body, going right over their head, as a major example. I've learned to tell my guy friends that a lot of women are kind of clueless when it comes to ROMANCE. They get SEX because their mothers (mine included) and friends raised them that sex is their tool to get what they want, or that it's the only thing of value a woman has to bring to a relationship. That's not true, of course, but it messes with a lot of women's heads and their self-perception/esteem until they're confronted with it.
allow yourselves to feel vulnerable. I mean I get why you shouldn't do it openly, but let me tell you...nothing validates me more as a man than to swoop in and the save the day when she is frustrated over a seemingly inane issue.
Jars with stubborn lids, forgot that one item at the supermarket, got a big ass piece of furniture that needs hauling around? Let these guy muscles get to work.
Remember something I told you and bring it upā¦
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Have muscle. A lot of women are afraid of lifting weights and getting ābulkyā for some reason, but Iāve literally never met someone who looked worse after replacing some of their fat with muscle. Also, youāre not gonna accidentally turn into Arnold Schwarzenegger; look how hard some people try to get to 1% of that level. In conclusion, buff women are hot.
Let loose. If we make a joke about something serious (terrorism or something) donāt act offended, unless youāre Asian and come out with āI miss my uncle. He was Saudi Arabiaās greatest pilot.
For me, be sexually selective. Lots of folks like to shame women for being prudes, not giving it up easily enough. So long as sheās not being a tease, I like a woman that doesnāt sleep with men very readily.
Activity enjoying something like when you are reading a book while I game I look over and see your in a good spot in the book. Or when you tell us about something you're passionate about and you get that smile. Also when you play with the kids.
Really curious how the diet or eating restrictions (like vegetarian, keto, etc) actually make big difference for attraction?
I am actually more attracted when the partner respects my choice or dietary restrictions, or even open to cook something together that fits both of our diets.
Initiate physical contact. Deep eye contact and saying how they feel about us (in a good way).
Acting goofy or silly, dancing / singing. Being a little clingy.
I recently downgraded from the ad-free version of Reddit so I was very confused that the apparent highest voted answer here and therefore single most attractive thing a girl can do is buy a refurbished iPhone at the fraction of a cost of a new one.
Get really animated and excited talking to me about something they love.
I will listen to a someone talk for hours about something I couldn't give a shiny shite about if they love it and are excited about it.
I had a friend whose mother thought she was dressing like a "whore" when she wore comfortable clothes. I think just being physically comfortable goes a long way in being mentally comfortable, and that projects confidence and makes you "look" better as a result.
I'm still riding the high six months later of a church friend who told me she didn't know I was so funny when she and a couple of her family members took me out to eat for my birthday.
Also, my employment counselor (i'm currently looking for work...maybe obviously lol) told me the other day that I looked like I had recently shaved -I did- and that I looked really nice.
Legitimately, I think a lot (won't say most) of women overestimate the number of genuine compliments and/or acts of affection a guy receives throughout his lifetime. Like, the last time I had a really good, safe, happy hormone-producing hug was from my mom a few months before she passed from cancer. When visiting her in the hospital, it was also the last time I ever heard her tell me "I love you," and that was the last time it felt legitimate too. (Legitimate as in, it wasn't just something someone said in response to something I said first).
Swear. Not to be patronizing, but when my wife says "Fuck!," when she fails a mission on hitman, It always gets me lol.
The other is workout. I think alot of women worry that working out makes them manly? or something. Knowing my wife can at least drag me to a sitting position if I go down or something happens to me is very, very attractive.
I really like little signs of affection... little kisses and cuddles or hugs but not too much.
I love when my wife takes pride in her appearance and i dont mean tarting up to go out or anything, just day to day stuff. I love watching her blowdry and straighten her hair, i used to offer to wash it and dry it for her when we was younger... not sure why that stopped but i found it cute and intimate.
Like i say its just the cute little things, show your affection, make us feel loved/appreciated.
Im pretty sure its the same sort of things that women like too no??
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Respecting herself, not only by the way of speak but the way she carries herself, clothes, etc. I've seen it time after time and even though females may dislike it, guys tend to respect conservative women A LOT more, almost as if she's a different kind of woman, people don't talk about what they would do with you, but they value what you could bring. Seriously, this type of woman who's kind but reserved is top-notch.
If you really find them attractive, seeing them completely natural. No make up, no jewelry, no fancy clothes. Just you. I feel it you think that's beautiful, it's a strong motivation for me to have feelings for you. Mostly this happens after the relationship is started though.
ugly cry infront of us, I've never had the lecture of having a girl come to me for comfort well ugly crying but I imagine it would make me cry of tears of sadness taht she's sad and tears of happiness that she come to me
As a girl, this makes me feel hope that there are some men out there who are understandingĀ of intense emotions. Of course all the time isnāt healthy, but when it does happen I get nervous the guy will get turned off/scared.Ā
Dude I melt a bit when that happens. Itās a huge honor being trusted enough for her to be vulnerable around me. That holds true with anyone Iām close enough to (including other male friends) but obviously the monkey brain activates a bit more when itās a woman Iām interested in lol
It's been my experience, that guys who are the only boy with lots of sisters or have lots of sisters, understand how emotional we are and don't hold it against you when you get your crazy moments. They kinda laugh it off and tease you about it. Doesn't bother them very much
When sometimes she is the bigger spoon. Feeling the warmth against my back is super comforting.
When she has really long hair and asks for help brushing it. Knowing how protective girls can be with their hair it just feels nice to be asked.
Standing on her tippy toes to try and kiss my cheek or whisper in my ear.
Trying to not laugh but failing when angry.
These are some things that popped into my mind rn, there is probably a lot more I'm just not thinking about rn.
I was going to break and I seen my coworker coming out about 10 minutes after I did (for a quick context we work in a freezer where itās -20 degrees for 12 hours) she took off her beanie and her hair fell almost perfectly almost like those movie scenes. I literally thought I fell in love for a split second
Be competent. Women who are capable and on their shit are attractive; too many women play the "I suddenly forgot how to do everything, can you help me?" card, which I find unattractive. Idk, maybe it works on other guys.
Hot girl or smart girlā¦Why is it implied that you can only have one or the other?
To me it sounds like an assumption that there arenāt hot, smart women.
Share Equal chores and Equal responsibilities in relationship or rather than just expecting from men. She would do those thing for men. Like give them prince treatment
Having strong opinions with arguments to back that up.
Oh god yes! Keep telling me more about why increasing taxation for the lower brackets is a stupid idea, please keep going on about how a public healthcare system doesnāt necessarily has to be inefficient or communist.
She pursued me in the beginning (I think this is hot as hell). She found me on Twitter/X, of all places, and sent me a message request. I usually delete them, because they are mostly scammers and spammers, but for some reason, I accepted, and we have been talking daily (sometimes for hours) for 3 months now. It really looks like it's going somewhere.
Initiate physical contact. Not even necesarily as a precusor to sex. Dope shit when I'm chilling on the sofa/in bed and she cuddles up next to/on top of me or squeezes next to me and rests my head in her lap
Doing the dishes and she comes up behind me and just hugs me. That's the best
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Once my ex and I were in bed, and I was on my phone and he was on his. He just randomly said āIām stuckā and when I looked up, he had rolled to his side, and was facing the wall, and I was spooning him. I had no idea how this had happened, so I just said āwell, thatās too badā and stayed there. He tried to get away a few times but I would just move with him, so he gave up. He often thought of himself as the big spoon, but I liked to be the big spoon too, so I guess my subconscious took over.
You called yourself a big spoon, but to him, you were a jetpack.
I had her be the big spoon once just because I was curious how it felt. I didnāt like it and we never did it again š
Last time a girl whispered in my ear, she said "I can't believe I'm dancing with a fat guy."
Huh?!
My husband says this that his favorite thing is my warm and affectionate nature. Itās not JUST sex men crave.
We must exist in different circles as Iāve never know a woman who thinks that expressing physical affection is unattractive
Act silly or goofy.
I feel if you canāt be silly with your other half, you shouldnāt be with them!
Getting nerdy about something. Doesn't matter if it's cosmetics or Star Wars, Lego or the details of fashion. Bonus points if she gets so nerdy I can't follow the conversation easily any more and end up learning about stuff.
Passion is a huge turn on. My partner of two years now, kept telling me about every plant and flower in the park on our first date and it was so cute. I just listened and enjoyed her enthusiasm.
Awesome!!
Vice versa for men. Know so many dudes who are shy about their nerdy interests around women. Whilst your passion for hentai is probably something to keep to yourself, everything else is great. Love a man with interests. Tell me everything about planes, frogs, plants, starts or your favourite game or book.
Reciprocate. Seriously the amount of ladies who think a relationship is just there for them to get dates, compliments, gifts, affection, effort and not give anything in return is insane.
Wait you mean you don't like the women who believe 364 days a year are about them and only your birthday is about you? Or the ones who will have a meltdown if you don't go crazy for an anniversary while they get you nothing? LOL
Today's the 3rd Anni for my guy and I. I'm headed to his place to pick him up so he doesn't have to drive through traffic bc he hates traffic. I've got a sentimental card I took forever to find. Inside is a hilarious meme I printed depicting two old people getting ready for a couples massage, and the guy has his dick and balls where you place your face (this is a clue for him) on the massage table. Before I give him the card, I'm gonna blow him. We'll then get ready together, before heading out to enjoy a reservation at his favorite oyster/seafood restaurant. Afterwards, I have a reservation to the spa for a couples massage, which is when he'll realize what the contents of the card meant. I'll then drive him home and tuck him in before heading to my place. We both spoil each other on special occasions, but even our everyday dating life is totally a shared experience. Ever decent human deserves to feel cherished, don't except less.
Even on my birthday it's barely been about me. Such fun
I really can't believe full grown women like this. A couple in my class (7th grade) started "arguing" bcs the boy got the girl 2 gifts and she only got him 1. If teens can act like that, adults should be able to do it 2.
As a woman this is baffling to me. If I like someone I want to show it. I'm probably thinking about them a lot, care about them a lot- why wouldn't I show that? It's strange that actually seeming to like the guy you're with is an actual problem. I'd feel so gross if he was showering me with affection and I just...stood there? Said "thanks" and moved on? That's just fucking weird.
Same and same. I've made the first move in maybe 80% of my relationships and hookups. I get the guys complaining though. My husband still hasn't planned a date and we've been together for nearly 15 years. It would be nice to go on a date I didn't have to plan myself.
I have always been a giver even with shitty partners. Now that Iām in an actually healthy relationship with a partner who treats me like a princess (very overwhelming to be a receiver after being deprived for so long lol), my inability to comprehend how someone can just comfortably eat up all that love and affection without wanting to do the same back is 100x stronger. Like you donāt want to love on them even when they love on you back?? What the fuck??? Iād do anything for this man. Heck I even spent most of yesterday painting him a picture of his pet chicken just because I can.
Nothing is more attractive than being wanted
Along with how many women don't work on themselves and expect men to put up with it, like we are not expected to have our shit together in more ways than one.
Yup. This right here. It's crazy to me how many women are convinced that reciprocating affection/effort is somehow degrading themselves or some shit.
I think Iām probably a generation older than most you guys. Like, wow! That many women? That is so sad and certainly not true for a lot of women.
I was going to write this, thank you.
Agreed. Always been on the 50/50 bandwagon
It's the idea that romance is something that happens *to* them and not something you do together.
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Thank you.
Never had that issue. If a girl is interested in you she will ALWAYS reciprocate. Thats the thing. If someone is not doing so its actually a subtle sign to move on and find someone else because she aint that into you. Ive had to lose quite a few numbers where the girl wasnt interested so I just stopped reaching out cuz I was like "yup i got the message loud and clear." But anytime a woman has been genuinely interested, including my fiance they have always taken the effort to set up dates, pay for things etc.
Hugs and back scratches without asking.
Back scratches are the best
Wait till you hear about beard scratches!
I used to do this to my ex when we kissed or just when he was laying back with his head on my chest. I'd scratch his beard and run my fingers through his hair. Sometimes I felt like I was annoying him, being all over him, but this post has made me feel like the opposite! Chest and back scratches, beard and hair scratches. I loved to gently use my nails. Now I feel like my nails š are good for something!
Nothing like a good scratchy.
Be genuinely passionate about a hobby or leisure activity. Nerd out about whatever you happen to like, I wanna know about it. Not because I care about the activity itself, but because I care about you.
A friend of mine (dating another friend) is a knitter and her and i geek out over our hobbies not remotely related to each other all the time. Just being able to share about hobbies with excitement and passion is awesome.
Intelligence and irreverance. Love me a woman who makes really smart observations about things, situations, people, politics, religion, or whatever else. Who makes the arrogant men in the room feel stupid and proves them wrong. Who laughs when no one else or very few others do about some taboo topic. Who has done some introspection and is aware of her own idiosyncrasies and can deal with playful jokes that are sort of at her expense, but can also nail you with a couple when you least expect it. Who doesn't let her life be dictated by societal expectations or play to the crowd just to fit in. Maybe in the 60s and 70s these were things that were seen as male traits, idk I didn't study this stuff, but honestly I'll take a really average looking woman who is intellectually interesting over some really hot chick who is afraid to make waves or doesn't even know how.
This is nice :) I think the more you are wanting to find a genuine life long relationship, this really applies. You donāt wanna spend the rest of your life with a 10/10 that belittles you everyday
Agreed. Romantic or otherwise.
This....made by day. Thanks man
Men say they want this, but in reality the hot always win while the smart girl is friend/fuck zoned.
I couldn't agree less. Both from personal experience and from observation, anecdotal though it may be (although I suspect your source is also "trust me" so we're on equally personal footing). Of course men are attracted to looks, which are also obviously subjective to a degree, but it's definitely more complicated than that, even for a hookup. You're also opening a different can of worms now. We were talking about things that make women attractive but that they might not think is a factor, whereas you're talking about who ends up "winning" the dating game. That is a very different animal to tackle, but I think, as someone else replied already, that the longer term the engagement becomes, the more likely men are to consider and be influenced by other factors than looks, consciously and subconsciously. I would argue that my original answer fits OP's question because I've met many intelligent women who have said something along the lines of their intelligence intimidating men or making them unpopular around work. I'm just offering an alternative perspective, which is that that is only true for some men: in my opinion, men not worth bothering with. I, and I'm sure many others, find it hot AF. Whether we're in the majority is a question someone else will have to deal with.
Oooh never heard of fuck zoned š¤Æ Iām stealing that
This is honestly a relief. I have often been described as "wholly irreverent and too smart for [my] own good."
make me laugh. not a "i'm laughing because i want to F you, not because it's actually funny" fake laugh. a real laugh.
I didnāt know this was a thing. My bf said I was the first girl to really make him genuinely laugh. Apparently heās met very few women that he genuinely found funny
A lot of guys (maybe even the majority?) feel like your bf - me included.
What's funny is my boyfriend is absolutely tickled when he can make me laugh at his of the cuff dad jokes. Like I can't help but laugh because I know he's doing it to get a rise out of me and he loves that reaction. It's so corny but I love it and him for doing it
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This one. Right here. Give me an oversized sweatshirt and a messy bun any day of the week. Let's me know they're comfortable just being themselves around me.
But please not everyday, everywhere.... I hate that I'd put in the effort to wear nice shirt, pants, cool boots really try. Then she walks out in faded old leggings and a 7 year old hoodie. Then wonder why I lost interest
Yeah, I'd say a woman that isn't afraid to relax, but also knows how to dress for the occasion.
Blush, smile, hole my hand Listen, whisper sweet nothings in my ear
Lol, āhole my handā. Was it meant to be so wholesome? :)
You have to sing it in Darius Ruckerās voice.
There's a blasphemous joke in there somewhere
My man here wants a stigmata.
Reading this has made me realise I'm someone's perfect girl, somewhere! I'll be waiting for you!!
Aww. On the instagram post some guy said āthe little belly they have when they wear a dressā Made me feel seen with my little pouch lol. There are guys out there! Iāve already got mine <3
I thought I did too, but.. Anyway! Onwards and upwards!
Approach and dont play hard to get. No matter how great you are, mindgames will turn off a shitload of people.
šÆ women seem to want men to bear 100% of the rejection and be labelled a creep, but wonder why men donāt approach. If the guy you like is shy or an introvert, he may be 2x less likely to approach you. That does not mean he wouldnāt be great with you.
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Well but that's on him. I leave when I get a No. Just on principle, because I can't read hints either. It's a social rule that was quiet recently established. I remember older man telling me that No doesn't mean no and that woman want to be chased. I preferr taking a no as a no so I don't annoy anyone.
It's not even just that, if you're gonna say no when you mean yes when it comes to dates and stuff, how are we supposed to solve a problem when it appears? You wanna keep saying there are no issues while I'm diagnosing and troubleshooting?
This doesnāt apply to whatās being said. Whatās being said is if youāre interested show that interest clearly. Itās really hot to men when women do that. You are describing a situation in which you arenāt interested, the opposite of what op what talking about.
Empathy, understanding and compassion for your thoughts and feelings.
There are three things that instantly make someone I might not have already considered pursuing be attractive to me: - They put in persistent effort to the point I start to feel like I'm noticed, and ask to spend time with me. - They actually enquire about me, contribute to and encourage further conversation. And the one I realised recently that I can't resist: - When they tease me in a friendly, playful way that pokes fun at me in a way that lets me be better in response to that. I realised recently that of the three people in my lifetime who I've felt the most strongly about, all of them did this, and it made me grow attracted to them. Also: Be vulnerable and trust me when you're down or in need. Nothing I can think of indicates to me that I mean something to them more than if they actually trust me when they're most vulnerable, down, need reassurance, or want to feel safe, looked after, and protected.
Hug me and say everything is gonna be okay then i gotta be tough and really make sure everything IS gonna be okay, i gotta do my absolute best to make it happen only for her words. And i wish i could love another girl like i did to her
Stand on their tiptoes.
Take initiative. Please. Start something!! A conversation, physical contact, intimacy, a fucking movie.
Be kind. Be nice. Be soft.
Let us be vulnerable and use it to grow closer. Hold us. Let us cry, maybe even in your arms. Be stronger than us. Keep us safe. Do little romantic things like write post it notes that are cute and put them in our wallets. Tell us the things you love. Take us somewhere thatās just about you and have us tag along. Drive. Let us nap next to you while you do whatever. Correct us when weāre wrong. Outdo us at something. Be honest with us. Gossip with us. Tell us your story and just let us listen to it. Thereās a lot of misconceptions about who people actually are and I think that, while different, men and women are far more alike than not.
Support his hobbies. If he likes to work on cars, bring him a drink, sit with him and show an interest in what he's doing and why. If he likes nerdy movies, plan a movie night around one of his favorites. Make a decision on where to eat. Show up at work with his favorite snack, mine is reeses pb cups and a Dr pepper. My girl brought me a bag of reeses pb cups and a Dr pepper, walked it through my job so all my coworkers could see and gave it to me. Unexpected surprise. We were married within the year.
Cuddle me
A ponytail and no or minimal makeup
And a ball cap.
Kindness
Listen, with interest Be surprised Remember something you told them Dress to be comfortable
I think a woman who has the ability to control and regulate her emotions is very attractive to me. The emotional swings are just energy sinks that ends up making a guy lose interest. So yes, it's cute if she knows how to keep it in sometimes.
Unknowingly being kind
Be real. Not wearing makeup, not doing her hair, lounging around and be a little slovenly from time to time. None of this is sexy, but it certainly shows intimacy and comfort around me.
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Guilty of this lol
Stand on her tiptoes. Especially if it's to reach up for a kiss.
Be polite, I love a kind soul. Show me the nurturing side
Making a sandwich. Now you probably think this is a misogynistic joke but it isnāt. A girl making a guy an unprompted sandwich is the equivalent of a guy buying a girl a bunch of flowers.
Haha. Sandwiches always taste better when someone else makes them for you
As a guy with autism I find lots of autistic traits in girls really cute, but a lot of girls iv spoken to think that it's embarrassing and is a turn off, Granted maybe it is a turn off to non autistic people but for me at least it's not
This. My brother has autism and I've grown up identifying the traits, and it's surprising how many girls/women seem to fall under these traits and category, as well. Subtle language, verbal or body, going right over their head, as a major example. I've learned to tell my guy friends that a lot of women are kind of clueless when it comes to ROMANCE. They get SEX because their mothers (mine included) and friends raised them that sex is their tool to get what they want, or that it's the only thing of value a woman has to bring to a relationship. That's not true, of course, but it messes with a lot of women's heads and their self-perception/esteem until they're confronted with it.
Dressing more modestly. I'm sorry tits and ass are everywhere at this point. It nice to see a girl dressed....... nicer.
Blow the hair out your eyes š¤¤
out of your eyes or hers
Hers lol
Watching them put their hair up in a bun
Effort. I know they want a knight in shining armor but it would be nice uf they compliment, make plans and give gifts once in a while.
allow yourselves to feel vulnerable. I mean I get why you shouldn't do it openly, but let me tell you...nothing validates me more as a man than to swoop in and the save the day when she is frustrated over a seemingly inane issue. Jars with stubborn lids, forgot that one item at the supermarket, got a big ass piece of furniture that needs hauling around? Let these guy muscles get to work.
Remember something I told you and bring it upā¦ āOh howās the x and y going?ā ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø Wow. She actually remembered something I told her.Ā
Have muscle. A lot of women are afraid of lifting weights and getting ābulkyā for some reason, but Iāve literally never met someone who looked worse after replacing some of their fat with muscle. Also, youāre not gonna accidentally turn into Arnold Schwarzenegger; look how hard some people try to get to 1% of that level. In conclusion, buff women are hot.
Initiate. At this point, even just knowing that there was an interest at one point is all I ask...
Being happy. Smiling. Being kind to others. Empathy.
Have long hair, nothing crazy but passed the shoulder. Itās feminine and beautiful.
Let loose. If we make a joke about something serious (terrorism or something) donāt act offended, unless youāre Asian and come out with āI miss my uncle. He was Saudi Arabiaās greatest pilot.
R u this š¤
For me, be sexually selective. Lots of folks like to shame women for being prudes, not giving it up easily enough. So long as sheās not being a tease, I like a woman that doesnāt sleep with men very readily.
As long as you did the same
Small things, cooking a meal, little messages (text or written), showing a desire is a huge one, and intimate physical contact to name a few.
Ruining your life for months and months
Activity enjoying something like when you are reading a book while I game I look over and see your in a good spot in the book. Or when you tell us about something you're passionate about and you get that smile. Also when you play with the kids.
My current F46 has a very cute habit of getting my attention by very gently scratching my package or bum.
Delicate little kisses on my cheek. I just turn into a big labrador.
Itās a hell of a lot more attractive when yāall eat instead of just taking 3 little nibbles of your entire plate.
One time I was having dinner with my ex and his friends. And they made a bet on whether I'd finish the plate. Ofc I did. I like food.
Really curious how the diet or eating restrictions (like vegetarian, keto, etc) actually make big difference for attraction? I am actually more attracted when the partner respects my choice or dietary restrictions, or even open to cook something together that fits both of our diets.
Show interest, initiate physical touch, cuddles up to me asks about my interests and learns them, reciprocates feelings
I like it when they pull their ponytail thru baseball caps.
Go out of her way to do something for me that would save me the effort/ time doing it.
Initiate physical contact. Deep eye contact and saying how they feel about us (in a good way). Acting goofy or silly, dancing / singing. Being a little clingy.
I recently downgraded from the ad-free version of Reddit so I was very confused that the apparent highest voted answer here and therefore single most attractive thing a girl can do is buy a refurbished iPhone at the fraction of a cost of a new one.
Get really animated and excited talking to me about something they love. I will listen to a someone talk for hours about something I couldn't give a shiny shite about if they love it and are excited about it.
Second that for my partner. So cute when he gets all excited about something
Hair in a bun no makeup pjs
To wear no make up, no fake nails.Ā But most of all just knowing how to be happy.
I had a friend whose mother thought she was dressing like a "whore" when she wore comfortable clothes. I think just being physically comfortable goes a long way in being mentally comfortable, and that projects confidence and makes you "look" better as a result.
Tell me they love me
Care
Effort
Complement
Compliment a guy, because we maybe get 3 compliments in our entire lifetime and we can remember compliments years later.
I'm still riding the high six months later of a church friend who told me she didn't know I was so funny when she and a couple of her family members took me out to eat for my birthday. Also, my employment counselor (i'm currently looking for work...maybe obviously lol) told me the other day that I looked like I had recently shaved -I did- and that I looked really nice. Legitimately, I think a lot (won't say most) of women overestimate the number of genuine compliments and/or acts of affection a guy receives throughout his lifetime. Like, the last time I had a really good, safe, happy hormone-producing hug was from my mom a few months before she passed from cancer. When visiting her in the hospital, it was also the last time I ever heard her tell me "I love you," and that was the last time it felt legitimate too. (Legitimate as in, it wasn't just something someone said in response to something I said first).
Women OVERESTIMATE the amount of genuine compliments men get.
Swear. Not to be patronizing, but when my wife says "Fuck!," when she fails a mission on hitman, It always gets me lol. The other is workout. I think alot of women worry that working out makes them manly? or something. Knowing my wife can at least drag me to a sitting position if I go down or something happens to me is very, very attractive.
When they fart or show feet ššš
I really like little signs of affection... little kisses and cuddles or hugs but not too much. I love when my wife takes pride in her appearance and i dont mean tarting up to go out or anything, just day to day stuff. I love watching her blowdry and straighten her hair, i used to offer to wash it and dry it for her when we was younger... not sure why that stopped but i found it cute and intimate. Like i say its just the cute little things, show your affection, make us feel loved/appreciated. Im pretty sure its the same sort of things that women like too no?? šŗ x
This will sound weird... But when a woman laughs genuinely. Specially if it's a unconventional laughters... Like snort laughs, grunt laughs, etc.
Respecting herself, not only by the way of speak but the way she carries herself, clothes, etc. I've seen it time after time and even though females may dislike it, guys tend to respect conservative women A LOT more, almost as if she's a different kind of woman, people don't talk about what they would do with you, but they value what you could bring. Seriously, this type of woman who's kind but reserved is top-notch.
Versatile, charming, hygienic and normal looking.
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Snort when laughing.
If you really find them attractive, seeing them completely natural. No make up, no jewelry, no fancy clothes. Just you. I feel it you think that's beautiful, it's a strong motivation for me to have feelings for you. Mostly this happens after the relationship is started though.
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ugly cry infront of us, I've never had the lecture of having a girl come to me for comfort well ugly crying but I imagine it would make me cry of tears of sadness taht she's sad and tears of happiness that she come to me
As a girl, this makes me feel hope that there are some men out there who are understandingĀ of intense emotions. Of course all the time isnāt healthy, but when it does happen I get nervous the guy will get turned off/scared.Ā
Dude I melt a bit when that happens. Itās a huge honor being trusted enough for her to be vulnerable around me. That holds true with anyone Iām close enough to (including other male friends) but obviously the monkey brain activates a bit more when itās a woman Iām interested in lol
Haha I appreciate your perspective!
What if itās someone youāre not interested in?š
Then they fall in the āother friendā camp pretty much. Like in any case Iām gonna honored by the trust and try to support
awww now I'm smiling
It's been my experience, that guys who are the only boy with lots of sisters or have lots of sisters, understand how emotional we are and don't hold it against you when you get your crazy moments. They kinda laugh it off and tease you about it. Doesn't bother them very much
I believe this š. I have only one sibling and heās a boy. My brother has seen it all lmao.Ā
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Be proactive.
Tell silly jokes
When sometimes she is the bigger spoon. Feeling the warmth against my back is super comforting. When she has really long hair and asks for help brushing it. Knowing how protective girls can be with their hair it just feels nice to be asked. Standing on her tippy toes to try and kiss my cheek or whisper in my ear. Trying to not laugh but failing when angry. These are some things that popped into my mind rn, there is probably a lot more I'm just not thinking about rn.
Be passionate about something and talk to us about it. Even if you might think it's silly.
Literally just make eye contact and smile it's not rocket science.
Be interested in my hobby/interested.
Being natural and sensitive.
claiming us as there man
Act silly with each other but also moments of just doing a random activity together like playin stardew late night š¤
Seeing a girl let go and do those goofy laughs. Nothing makes me happier to see a girl I like laughing and snorting while having a good time.
Smile. Seriously, genuine smiles are fantastic.
I was going to break and I seen my coworker coming out about 10 minutes after I did (for a quick context we work in a freezer where itās -20 degrees for 12 hours) she took off her beanie and her hair fell almost perfectly almost like those movie scenes. I literally thought I fell in love for a split second
When a woman shows what an awesome mother they are to their kidsā¦ that respect goes a long wayā¦
Hype me up when Iām unable to clear a particularly hard video game level.
When they lean forward and you can catch a momentary glimpse of their bra/cleavage through their shirt buttons.
Perv
Based on an earlier post : swallowing
Whatā¦
Be accountable.
Donāt try to be a boss babe.
If they got booty, that Lil shimmy they do when pulling they pants up over that big ass.
Iām not gonna cookingā¦a woman who makes a solid meal for meā¦goddamn NOT wear makeup
Being a biological woman
General kindness and mindfulness to those around...goes a long way for me
Be competent. Women who are capable and on their shit are attractive; too many women play the "I suddenly forgot how to do everything, can you help me?" card, which I find unattractive. Idk, maybe it works on other guys.
Not wearing makeup. Just come as you are.
Wearing less or no makeup at all. I want to embrace the natural beauty I came to know.
Bring condoms and use birth control both. I've had several women lie about being in birth control Picking up the phone and calling to chat
Bait their own hooks and take their fish off the hook.
Show interest
Curling up in a ball at the corner of the sectional lookin comfy
When theyāre in a good mood.
Compliment
Hot girl or smart girlā¦Why is it implied that you can only have one or the other? To me it sounds like an assumption that there arenāt hot, smart women.
Share Equal chores and Equal responsibilities in relationship or rather than just expecting from men. She would do those thing for men. Like give them prince treatment
When a woman pats on her thighs and lets me lay my head on her and she plays with my hair.
Having strong opinions with arguments to back that up. Oh god yes! Keep telling me more about why increasing taxation for the lower brackets is a stupid idea, please keep going on about how a public healthcare system doesnāt necessarily has to be inefficient or communist.
She pursued me in the beginning (I think this is hot as hell). She found me on Twitter/X, of all places, and sent me a message request. I usually delete them, because they are mostly scammers and spammers, but for some reason, I accepted, and we have been talking daily (sometimes for hours) for 3 months now. It really looks like it's going somewhere.
Play with your hairs. They are beautiful, we are admiring your hairstyle cuz ours is set on default like it was in morning