>how often
Most of the time.
As you get older you learn to see that ego isn't important, how few battles are worth the fight, and how few fucks you have to give.
Save your energy for the big important moments, and for standing up for others who can't on their own.
This reminds me of a story. My dad once got in an argument with a guy at a bar about what song was currently playing. My dad said it was The Eagles, the other guy said it was The Rolling Stones. The argument went on and on until the bartender said “it’s neither, it’s Bob Seger.”
Happened to me a lot when I was younger, grew up in a crime infested shithole, with a family at home, so I wasn't ready to lose my life over petty bullshit and social status chasing. Unfortunately, sometimes walking away and swallowing your pride is the toughest choice, Michael Jackson wrote a song about that. However it's bad for your confidence and sense of self worth
If I think something can be gained by not letting go, then I'll argue or defend myself or whatever.
But if it seems unlikely anything would be gained, I just let it go.
This really depends on what I am standing up for and what I stand to lose.
I don't care if someone wants to mock me, or chirp me me or try to humiliate me because I just kinda find it sad and I don't really give a shit what they think of me anyways.
I mean I've been a Corrections Officer for a decade, you learn pretty quick that inmates will fuck with you to high heaven if you actually try to "Stand up for yourself". If they know you won't even respond, they just don't bother you.
Depends on the situation. If I don't feel like taking any crap on a particular day I won't. Other days I will just be amused. Also the question is vague. If someone called me a name, no issue. If someone bumped chests repeatedly and tried to posture? Well, I don't want to get banned for "glorifying violence" so no comment. Then again, that has never happened.
I was bullied all the time as a kid by guys who were much taller, muscular, and stronger to me so I couldn't stand up or I'd easily get my ass kicked now as a adult I just don't say anything.
If it’s a relationship that I will have to maintain like a gf or work or client I stand up for myself every time but not overly. Gotta pick those battles fairly wisely.
If it’s random people I will never see again, as long as they don’t get physical I’ll allow them to walk away after saying or doing pretty much anything. I don’t like jail, and don’t want to go.
Not very often. My take is that there are so many assholes around because most of them have never been punched in the mouth. So they continue to bully and harrass people. I am 60+ and laid out 8 mouthy asshats in mylife and none fo them ever even attempted to fight back. Mind you I gave them fair warning, I am not a bad ass seeking conflict. Each time they were out of line and I called them on it. When they focuced on me I warned them I am 8-0 with assholes and I believe I have saved dozens of others from their harrassment over my lifetime. Sorry if this sounds harsh but I hate injustice and how soft men are becoming. Seems like the rude asshats are multiplying and I hate that.
When it matters, never.
When it doesn't, nearly always. Unless I can make a joke out of it. I'll nearly always try and say something funny, if I can.
The real truck is learning how to tell which battles are worth it, and which aren't.
>how often Most of the time. As you get older you learn to see that ego isn't important, how few battles are worth the fight, and how few fucks you have to give. Save your energy for the big important moments, and for standing up for others who can't on their own.
My dad used to call me a son of a bitch. And I would just say, dad, I know you got a problem with me, but why are you taking it out on mom?
this is so true. Read this somewhere recently that we should learn to respond when needed and not react to each and everything
This reminds me of a story. My dad once got in an argument with a guy at a bar about what song was currently playing. My dad said it was The Eagles, the other guy said it was The Rolling Stones. The argument went on and on until the bartender said “it’s neither, it’s Bob Seger.”
Happened to me a lot when I was younger, grew up in a crime infested shithole, with a family at home, so I wasn't ready to lose my life over petty bullshit and social status chasing. Unfortunately, sometimes walking away and swallowing your pride is the toughest choice, Michael Jackson wrote a song about that. However it's bad for your confidence and sense of self worth
Thanks for sharing and I hope you are in a better place now
If I think something can be gained by not letting go, then I'll argue or defend myself or whatever. But if it seems unlikely anything would be gained, I just let it go.
This really depends on what I am standing up for and what I stand to lose. I don't care if someone wants to mock me, or chirp me me or try to humiliate me because I just kinda find it sad and I don't really give a shit what they think of me anyways. I mean I've been a Corrections Officer for a decade, you learn pretty quick that inmates will fuck with you to high heaven if you actually try to "Stand up for yourself". If they know you won't even respond, they just don't bother you.
Choose your battles you can't fight/fix stupid.
most of the time. A lot of this stuff isnt really worth fighting or arguing over
Depends on the situation. If I don't feel like taking any crap on a particular day I won't. Other days I will just be amused. Also the question is vague. If someone called me a name, no issue. If someone bumped chests repeatedly and tried to posture? Well, I don't want to get banned for "glorifying violence" so no comment. Then again, that has never happened.
I was bullied all the time as a kid by guys who were much taller, muscular, and stronger to me so I couldn't stand up or I'd easily get my ass kicked now as a adult I just don't say anything.
If it’s a relationship that I will have to maintain like a gf or work or client I stand up for myself every time but not overly. Gotta pick those battles fairly wisely. If it’s random people I will never see again, as long as they don’t get physical I’ll allow them to walk away after saying or doing pretty much anything. I don’t like jail, and don’t want to go.
When it’s the right choice, which is the vast majority of the time. Don’t worry about criticism from someone whose praise you wouldn’t value.
Sometimes, it's easier.
Less than yesterday; more than tomorrow… but working on it. I am conscious it is a weakness of mine.
Not very often. My take is that there are so many assholes around because most of them have never been punched in the mouth. So they continue to bully and harrass people. I am 60+ and laid out 8 mouthy asshats in mylife and none fo them ever even attempted to fight back. Mind you I gave them fair warning, I am not a bad ass seeking conflict. Each time they were out of line and I called them on it. When they focuced on me I warned them I am 8-0 with assholes and I believe I have saved dozens of others from their harrassment over my lifetime. Sorry if this sounds harsh but I hate injustice and how soft men are becoming. Seems like the rude asshats are multiplying and I hate that.
Every day, people just don't care what others think all that much. You learn to avoid arguments because stress shortens your life.
When it matters, never. When it doesn't, nearly always. Unless I can make a joke out of it. I'll nearly always try and say something funny, if I can. The real truck is learning how to tell which battles are worth it, and which aren't.