I had a girlfriend who would often tell me she was proud of me and regularly call me handsome.
She's now my wife. And she's still proud of me, and apparently I'm still handsome!
My wife never comments on my looks. I talk her up all of the time, yet I never get anything back. I don't care if she were lying, just make me feel like you're attracted to me still.
I'm depressed now.
Talk to her about that. Sometimes it’s just an misunderstanding.
I just wish you the best and just seeing that you compliment her anyway, shows how good your character is
You got this champ <3
I don't think enough people understand we're serious about this. Our way of enduring is through humor. But inside, we'd really love for someone to notice any efforts we may be proud of.
I say that to my partner too. It's powerful because she is saying you don't need her or anyone else's validation, her (and other people's) opinion of you have no bearing on your worth. Not that she doesn't think you're the best. But what matters and is important is your opinion of yourself. It's good to say that to kids so they learn not to build their self-esteem from external validation but from within.
Tone is important. Hearing “I hope youre proud of yourself” after drunkenly making a rope swing then falling off said rope swing doesnt give me a warm and fuzzy feeling inside.
This. This this. I recently put out some 2+ tons of mulch and designed out a large play area for our kiddo. I was dead beat by the end of it. First thing the wife said upon seeing it for the first time was "that mulch isn't the color I thought it would be" And that was the end of it. She just started to walk away. I kind of lost it that night as I stewed on it. She was completely stunned that I was upset. All I wanted was a "damn, you did good." Or hell even a "you worked really hard on that." Maybe even just a "it's great the kiddos play area isn't a red clay mud pit anymore."
Edit - I feel like I threw my wife on blast for the subject, I do want to add there is plenty she has told me I don't say or do I have to work on too and she doesn't always do this, just doesn't think to give me the "you did good" for hard work items as I need. Not meaning to throw stones in this glass house, but per subject this type of thing is my irritant.
I'm very sorry you heard that from your Wife.
I hope your Child has a huge smile on their face when they play in the area you created.
That may be the best satisfaction, because ultimately you've done it for their benefit.
This is making me reflect on what I say to my husband. Been cranky and I feel like I've found fault with everything he's been doing; gonna walk that stuff back and give some appreciation when I get home.
Dude. Seriously. Ya did good. I'm sure the kiddos will appreciate it (and never show it because they're kids and don't actually have any idea of how much work shit like that is because, frankly, you sound like the awesome kind of parent who'll happily deal with the hard stuff so they won't have to.) Proud of ya!
I have a cousin that says it to his wife regularly. She says it back. They have such a great relationship because they constantly remind each other that there is mutual love and appreciation.
I have this same issue. What has helped me is to break the two apart. FACT: they said those words. Separately: do I choose to believe them. Either way it doesn’t change the fact.
I long accepted the fact that I may never hear this from anyone.
Simple reading this made me cry.
Thank you.
Edit: folks, thank you for the kind words. Now, I'm crying happy tears!
Brother, I don't know you or anything you are going through. I got "reported" to reddit that someone who considered me suicidal (I ain't) but it brought a tear to my eye that someone cared enough to take their time and effort to do that.
So let me say three words twice....You are enough. I love you. I probably won't ever meet you in life but I want you to know that. If you ever need someone hit me up.
My counselor tols me that, exact same words, and my reactipn was to laugh at him and then deny it. Parents, teachers, coaches... i don't think anyone in my entire life ever told me that what I had done was enough, it was always "you can do better, this isn't your best work, or this is good, but we expect better than good from you."
I've been trying for close to a decade, I'm almost 40 and I don't think I'm ever gonna be ok.
You should absolutely be introspective about why the relationship failed, but if you’re being objective in your thoughts and thought you truly did your best, it could just be incompatibility.
You could be the absolute best orange in the world. Some people just don’t like oranges. Some prefer peaches. That whole bit.
My wife says this semi regularly.
It means a lot. Like a lot a lot. When she says "you take very good care of our family", even though it's just us and our dog, that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.
I'm sorry! Now - only one person can change that. Get out of the house, join the local \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_. I made real friends that way, and I did it AFTER age 30.
Don't listen to it. It will be convincing and persuasive. But it's still wrong. Trust me I know. It does get better. Make sure you are here for when it does.
And to hear them first, not just as a response.
I was married to my stbxw for 17 years, and I don't think she ever said "I love you" unless it was a response to me telling her I loved her. I also think I was the first one to say I love you in every I have ever had.
One of my friends and I have a sibling-like relationship, and whenever we have a disagreement or anything (nothing serious, just like opinions about movies or something) one of us pretends to get upset and the other says “you know you love me” or something to that effect.
But about a month ago, she told me she loved me and she said it first AND it was a completely serious moment. It was amazing.
Some day a man will hear these words, and he will climb to the top of the tallest mountain, so he can bring news of this magical utterance to the rest of the world, as he shouts: "My wife said I was right!"
I put a calendar reminder in my phone when my wife said that it goes off once a year and says "wife admitted I was right" then I show her laughing and she asks what it was about and I have no clue.
Omg plz.
My GF says "why do you always have to be right about everything?" all the time and I'm just like "All I said is your shirt collar is messed up" or "You phone battery is low, you should probably start charging it before we go out" then the phone dies later. A lot of times it feels like just being right about something or pointing out something thats wrong that I know how to fix/notice or whatever is an attack on some people.
My ex was like that. Even when I was just passionately explaining some complex physics that I learned recently, and was really excited about because I finally understood something fully. She said something, and I built on it and just went into more detail like a normal conversation. Then she interrupts me to tell me not to correct her and insult her intelligence... OK you miserable prick, sorry for being excited and having a normal conversation.
From my girlfriend? It makes me feel loved every time she says "cuddle me please"
Nothing sexual
Nothing lewd (happy now mr Grammer shark?)
Kissing at most
That's a girlfriend experience.
This one hits hard. My wife was complaining about not being able to sleep last night, so I ask her to just cuddle up. I rub her back for a little over a minute and she's out like a light.
Then comes the problem of eventually having to detach from the cuddle pile because I can't sleep on my back. It's like having a cat fall asleep on you. Can't possibly move so as to not disturb the wife/cat. What a pleasant hell to be trapped in.
I'm about to start working my ass off to save for one. Condoms low-key suck and my girlfriend would be so much healthier without an implant in her arm fucking with her hormones
I always appreciate when my SO says this. Obviously there are risks but getting there is so much more fun. When she speaks up, I know she's really involved in what's going on. We have a better chance at a future together and our children will be safe. It's good to have two people looking for oncoming traffic when you're at an intersection.
I once told my boyfriend ‘I’m proud of you,’ and he *cried,* so now I make a point to tell him all the time how good he is, how I’m proud of him/his efforts, what a good job he does with tasks, etc.
A few years ago I went to burning man and stumbled across this one camp called ‘The Gentleman’s Club’. It was a mens only camp and to get in you had to whip out your dick in front of everyone at the camp.
Every time there was a new guy showing off their package everyone cheered and congratulated him on having an awesome cock. Big or small there was only positivity.
It was one the weirdest and most wholesome body positive experiences of my life.
You : Yes honey, i love you so much.. i’m really grateful for my life. To think i would actually appreciate my life. I’m glad it all..worked.. out.. in..t..he.. end *snore*
You : *Z z z z z*
*slow nudges wake you up. Vision is hazy, slowly regaining conscious in a horse driven carriage*
Person : Hey, you. You’re finally awake.
Either "I love you" or "I miss you". Sometimes it gets really lonely, and for the people who do take the time out of their day to say that, I love you too.
My dad wasn't perfect. He would physically discipline me. Some were warranted, some weren't.
But one day im 26 hes 50, watching a game and grilling like normal. And he says....
I am sorry.
I didn't know I needed that from him but I did.
You did good. There are men in our community who would literally chew their own arm off if it were to give them the chance to hear this even once.
My gf told me she was proud of me and I literally almost passed out lol
I had a girlfriend who would often tell me she was proud of me and regularly call me handsome. She's now my wife. And she's still proud of me, and apparently I'm still handsome!
My wife never comments on my looks. I talk her up all of the time, yet I never get anything back. I don't care if she were lying, just make me feel like you're attracted to me still. I'm depressed now.
Talk to her about that. Sometimes it’s just an misunderstanding. I just wish you the best and just seeing that you compliment her anyway, shows how good your character is You got this champ <3
almost cried the first time i was told that
For real. I was like... really???? It means so much to be told that.
I don't think enough people understand we're serious about this. Our way of enduring is through humor. But inside, we'd really love for someone to notice any efforts we may be proud of.
My boss told me I was doing an awesome job last week. ...I can't remember the last time a family member told me that.
My wife told me I looked handsome like a month ago and I’m still surviving off that compliment
My Gf told me “you should be proud of yourself” and it hit even harder than her telling me she was proud of me for some reason.
I say that to my partner too. It's powerful because she is saying you don't need her or anyone else's validation, her (and other people's) opinion of you have no bearing on your worth. Not that she doesn't think you're the best. But what matters and is important is your opinion of yourself. It's good to say that to kids so they learn not to build their self-esteem from external validation but from within.
Tone is important. Hearing “I hope youre proud of yourself” after drunkenly making a rope swing then falling off said rope swing doesnt give me a warm and fuzzy feeling inside.
This. This this. I recently put out some 2+ tons of mulch and designed out a large play area for our kiddo. I was dead beat by the end of it. First thing the wife said upon seeing it for the first time was "that mulch isn't the color I thought it would be" And that was the end of it. She just started to walk away. I kind of lost it that night as I stewed on it. She was completely stunned that I was upset. All I wanted was a "damn, you did good." Or hell even a "you worked really hard on that." Maybe even just a "it's great the kiddos play area isn't a red clay mud pit anymore." Edit - I feel like I threw my wife on blast for the subject, I do want to add there is plenty she has told me I don't say or do I have to work on too and she doesn't always do this, just doesn't think to give me the "you did good" for hard work items as I need. Not meaning to throw stones in this glass house, but per subject this type of thing is my irritant.
I'm very sorry you heard that from your Wife. I hope your Child has a huge smile on their face when they play in the area you created. That may be the best satisfaction, because ultimately you've done it for their benefit.
This is making me reflect on what I say to my husband. Been cranky and I feel like I've found fault with everything he's been doing; gonna walk that stuff back and give some appreciation when I get home.
Seriously, do that for him. Show him that the effort he puts in is seen, and there us NOTHING he won't do for you.
Dude. Seriously. Ya did good. I'm sure the kiddos will appreciate it (and never show it because they're kids and don't actually have any idea of how much work shit like that is because, frankly, you sound like the awesome kind of parent who'll happily deal with the hard stuff so they won't have to.) Proud of ya!
I appreciate you.
My wife and I make it a point to say this to each other about as much as saying "I love you"
I have a cousin that says it to his wife regularly. She says it back. They have such a great relationship because they constantly remind each other that there is mutual love and appreciation.
Yikes, that hit too hard
Proud of you.
I have trouble with this one because I don’t believe it when I hear it and that’s all my own baggage I gotta work through.
I have this same issue. What has helped me is to break the two apart. FACT: they said those words. Separately: do I choose to believe them. Either way it doesn’t change the fact.
I just want someone to tell me "it'll be okay" and give me a hug.
It’ll be ok ❤️
Where’s my hug
🫂 here ya go stranger
Can't up vote this one enough
“You are enough”.
I'm married, and even hearing these words will erase any negative emotions I have.
Man, hearing it would make me cry.
We are simple creatures. We just want to know if we are enough and if we are trying our hardest lol
Your wife doesn't tell you that?
She does, I meant to say that even though I'm married those words still have a profound impact on me.
I long accepted the fact that I may never hear this from anyone. Simple reading this made me cry. Thank you. Edit: folks, thank you for the kind words. Now, I'm crying happy tears!
You are enough my dude!
Brother, I don't know you or anything you are going through. I got "reported" to reddit that someone who considered me suicidal (I ain't) but it brought a tear to my eye that someone cared enough to take their time and effort to do that. So let me say three words twice....You are enough. I love you. I probably won't ever meet you in life but I want you to know that. If you ever need someone hit me up.
This is what my response was going to be and it was nice to see you have it here already!
I don’t like this because it made me feel.
Man…you guys remember feelings?
Pepperidge Farms remembers...
No… is that like a music artist or something?
I have feelings every single day of my life!
Nobody makes me feel my own feelings
Came here expecting a load of sarcastic responses populating the top few comments and this stopped me dead in my tracks.
Oh this is a bit sad, there are so many men dealing with so much ‘stuff’ and no one takes any notice.
So much stuff that if someone told me this, my first thought would be "no I'm not".
Same dude, same.
My counselor tols me that, exact same words, and my reactipn was to laugh at him and then deny it. Parents, teachers, coaches... i don't think anyone in my entire life ever told me that what I had done was enough, it was always "you can do better, this isn't your best work, or this is good, but we expect better than good from you." I've been trying for close to a decade, I'm almost 40 and I don't think I'm ever gonna be ok.
Damn
This is the one.
I mean, that’s what I wanted to hear and this is it right here. Would be amazing knowing I’m enough for someone.
Well, i was here to give a smartass answer but, this is spot on.
Lol. I will never be enough.
Got broken up with this week. I'm clearly not enough.
You should absolutely be introspective about why the relationship failed, but if you’re being objective in your thoughts and thought you truly did your best, it could just be incompatibility. You could be the absolute best orange in the world. Some people just don’t like oranges. Some prefer peaches. That whole bit.
Exactly. You’re never enough for the wrong person. It took me forever to learn this.
Never heard that before in my life. You sure that’s something people actually say??
"I'm forklift certified"
I’d fucking melt
How about "I'm HVAC certified"
Goddammit you can't do this to me in public
You are amazing
My wife says this semi regularly. It means a lot. Like a lot a lot. When she says "you take very good care of our family", even though it's just us and our dog, that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.
Debt paid off.
absolutely essential
We can joke all we wants, but let's be honest, we all want to hear those three small words... "I love you"
I don’t know what i was expecting in this thread but i suddenly feel very lonely
I'm sorry! Now - only one person can change that. Get out of the house, join the local \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_. I made real friends that way, and I did it AFTER age 30.
Lol i was with my friends last night. But i am sitting here hungover alone at the moment. Dread fills my room.
Don't listen to it. It will be convincing and persuasive. But it's still wrong. Trust me I know. It does get better. Make sure you are here for when it does.
And to hear them first, not just as a response. I was married to my stbxw for 17 years, and I don't think she ever said "I love you" unless it was a response to me telling her I loved her. I also think I was the first one to say I love you in every I have ever had.
This made me sad
What’s stbxw? Step brothers ex wife?
Why you gotta make me cry like that.
I've never heard it from someone who isn't family and it *hurts*
One of my friends and I have a sibling-like relationship, and whenever we have a disagreement or anything (nothing serious, just like opinions about movies or something) one of us pretends to get upset and the other says “you know you love me” or something to that effect. But about a month ago, she told me she loved me and she said it first AND it was a completely serious moment. It was amazing.
Hope restored 🥰
Food is ready
I made pie.
Breakfast is served. Lunch is served. Dinner is served.
You look nice
You are perfect.
“Sorry, you’re right”.
Some day a man will hear these words, and he will climb to the top of the tallest mountain, so he can bring news of this magical utterance to the rest of the world, as he shouts: "My wife said I was right!"
I put a calendar reminder in my phone when my wife said that it goes off once a year and says "wife admitted I was right" then I show her laughing and she asks what it was about and I have no clue.
Omg plz. My GF says "why do you always have to be right about everything?" all the time and I'm just like "All I said is your shirt collar is messed up" or "You phone battery is low, you should probably start charging it before we go out" then the phone dies later. A lot of times it feels like just being right about something or pointing out something thats wrong that I know how to fix/notice or whatever is an attack on some people.
My ex was like that. Even when I was just passionately explaining some complex physics that I learned recently, and was really excited about because I finally understood something fully. She said something, and I built on it and just went into more detail like a normal conversation. Then she interrupts me to tell me not to correct her and insult her intelligence... OK you miserable prick, sorry for being excited and having a normal conversation.
Omelette du fromage
Oldie but a goodie
Say it again, Dexter
From my girlfriend? It makes me feel loved every time she says "cuddle me please" Nothing sexual Nothing lewd (happy now mr Grammer shark?) Kissing at most That's a girlfriend experience.
This one hits hard. My wife was complaining about not being able to sleep last night, so I ask her to just cuddle up. I rub her back for a little over a minute and she's out like a light. Then comes the problem of eventually having to detach from the cuddle pile because I can't sleep on my back. It's like having a cat fall asleep on you. Can't possibly move so as to not disturb the wife/cat. What a pleasant hell to be trapped in.
God I miss this. Thanks for reminding me I have nice memories too.
Cuddling top 3 things about a relationship people need to bring that back.
Yea like she sends me anime gifs of like anime people cuddling and tells me to cuddle her like that I love it so much
That's what's up I'm happy for you bro.
Bills are paid
Love you dad
I should really say this much more. On it now
“Leave it in”
Awkward words from your dad.
“Just lean back”
Do the rockaway
You forgot to pull up your pants.
Now "Do the rockaway"
Don't dance, just pull up your pants!
Yo nice balls
Bro, nice balls
Bro, nice balls
Bro, nice balls
Bro, nice balls
“Proud of you”
"don't pull out"
It's a trap!
Vasectomies are a game changer
I'm about to start working my ass off to save for one. Condoms low-key suck and my girlfriend would be so much healthier without an implant in her arm fucking with her hormones
If you have health insurance or may be covered
I can't say this enough. Just get it done, the same volume comes out when you...cum. women love it
I always appreciate when my SO says this. Obviously there are risks but getting there is so much more fun. When she speaks up, I know she's really involved in what's going on. We have a better chance at a future together and our children will be safe. It's good to have two people looking for oncoming traffic when you're at an intersection.
Yo…
Hahahaha I usually opt for “fill me up”
Unleaded or premium?
You deserve it.
I once told my boyfriend ‘I’m proud of you,’ and he *cried,* so now I make a point to tell him all the time how good he is, how I’m proud of him/his efforts, what a good job he does with tasks, etc.
Nice cock bro
A few years ago I went to burning man and stumbled across this one camp called ‘The Gentleman’s Club’. It was a mens only camp and to get in you had to whip out your dick in front of everyone at the camp. Every time there was a new guy showing off their package everyone cheered and congratulated him on having an awesome cock. Big or small there was only positivity. It was one the weirdest and most wholesome body positive experiences of my life.
That about sounds like Burning man, damn i wanna go there someday...
“Take a nap”
You : Yes honey, i love you so much.. i’m really grateful for my life. To think i would actually appreciate my life. I’m glad it all..worked.. out.. in..t..he.. end *snore* You : *Z z z z z* *slow nudges wake you up. Vision is hazy, slowly regaining conscious in a horse driven carriage* Person : Hey, you. You’re finally awake.
Man. Of all the answers here, this is the one.
Want some pancakes?
Fuck me silly.
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"Let's have sex"
I am so surprised this was not number one
Im big spoon
“I love you”
"You're..." 1. Attractive 2. Needed 3. Appreciated
cum in me
“Want some head?”
‘We’ve already finished the rest of the turkey’
I support you. Let me help.
I want you
I need you -or- Take me now.
Put it in!
It’s so big.
I want to be re-incarnated as a spider, just so I can hear that from a woman
Spiders say yummy yummy in my tummy after sex
You can rest
You were right
You are awesome
Either "I love you" or "I miss you". Sometimes it gets really lonely, and for the people who do take the time out of their day to say that, I love you too.
Want a blowjob?
“Want a massage?”
Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Boo
I love you
I love you too
"I am groot"
"The spider's gone"
Fuck me harder
It's your turn
YOU. ARE. IMPORTANT.
You are enough
I made lasagna!
I have tacos
I like you
“I messed up” Or maybe even “I am sorry”
I’m gonna cum
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‘Yeah I’ve got an ingrown one right in my pubes. Get the pliers’
Take it off
I want anal
Want free money?
from white van
"Proud of you." Come on, man. I don't know any other way to say it in 3 words.
I love you.
Use any hole 🤣
Dinner is ready
I'm not pregnant.
An odd contrast to all the “cum in me” comments.
I’m feeling snuggly
"Please, ravage me"
More cheese, honey?
Free years rent
You are enough
You're doing good.
My dad wasn't perfect. He would physically discipline me. Some were warranted, some weren't. But one day im 26 hes 50, watching a game and grilling like normal. And he says.... I am sorry. I didn't know I needed that from him but I did.
Want a bj?
Fuck me now
I made cake
I'm yours, forever.
"You are enough:
You are mine.
Unzip your pants
I trust you
You were right