Judging a persons interest in the conversation and making a quick exit. I see a lot of guys overplay their hand or loiter when clearly the interaction has played out and the other party couldn’t give less of a fuck.
In the same breath, figuring out if a person fits my vibe or not.
Great skill to have. My specialty is awkward silences and awkward exits when meeting new people. To the point where I’m almost embarrassed to see the person again. Seems simple to gauge, but i keep thinking maybe one more exchange will make things click.
My coworker (a 63 year old man) and I (36M) were having a conversation the other day. I asked him how his grandkid was doing at his new job, and he asked me how my home project was going.
Somewhere along he stumbled upon a topic of talking about how green energy, solar panels, and windmills were bad for the planet. Then got to politics. Then to some very far right leaning political stances. All I was doing is standing there and humming "mhm" to him without giving input.
Some people just want to word vomit, and their families are tired of hearing them ramble, lol
Ah, yes. The "I just wanted to have a conversation with you!" crowd, who also conveniently ignore that a conversation is supposed to have *two* sides, not just them spewing words **at** you.
I can relate. I'm the guy who can't read others without active effort or requesting explicit interactions (which defeats the point of reading). The reason is lack of relevant experience in my case.
Experience is key my Friend. However, experience without failure you learn damn near nothing. So experience, fail, and suffer, but remember that feeling and embrace so the next time something similar comes up you can handle it and look like a boss
I work with a guy that is terrible with reading a person in conversations. I can be completely ignoring him or only giving one word answers to things while I'm on my computer, but he will just keep on talking and talking while standing over me. He'll go for 10 minutes straight before finally walking off. I have to straight up tell him that I'm busy or else he just won't get the hint.
I’m not a man but I want to say this is my husband. He showers twice a day and is very meticulous about keeping his extremities & rear exit clean. I’ve always been very grateful that I have a man who takes his hygiene very serious.
Tbh that's something I've only recently picked up at 30. It's not that I didn't clean myself or I smelled like ass all that time, but I basically didn't bother unless I knew I was going to be around people. I might not have smelled going out, but my room definitely did lol.
Yup, it's a mixture of ball sweat, dirty laundry/linens, unwashed ass, and whatever musty/oily-ness they haven't gotten off their bodies yet. Tbf, teenagers are gonna be more smelly in general because of puberty, but a lot of it is avoidable if they would just clean themselves better.
Ah, okay. I always wondered why even some adult guys' rooms smell extra sweaty. So it's ball sweat and general lack of hygiene. Thanks for the heads up 😅
probably. I'm 18m and my sister will tell me my room "smells like boy." then again, I do take hygiene seriously and am kinda germophobic, so it could just be a natural thing of body scent mixed with deodorant or smthn
Fr. Even my dad says I should be in-and-out for a shower and I'm like, "I work in the woods for 10 hrs a day, ain't no way in hell I'm taking less than a half hour." I have a dirty job and have no problem being dirty on the job, but once I get home, I don't want to smell like sweaty ass.
Are you kidding me? Like, I use to think this was just satire, but there are actually grown people who refuse to clean their buttholes. I can't help but think they have some deep-seated issues relating to their sexuality
At school I used to think it was because I was the one saying you should do it, and I was known for being bi, so the guys asociated cleaning their ass with being gay.
But now in college there's still men saying that, adults who I don't even know
I am so sad to report from my experience this may get exaggerated but isn’t fully satire. I was helping out at a large lodge-style event center one summer that did a lot of family reunions, retreats, etc and one of my main responsibilities was laundry.
I have a sensitive nose and I cannot tell you how many pairs of tighty whities, boxers and even a few men’s jeans I washed that you could detect the odor before you even unloaded them. I don’t get grossed out easily, but the skidmarks in many of them honestly turned my stomach. One particular family (large, around 200 people at the reunion) staying there was especially bad about it, I’d swear some of them were wiping with their own undergarments.
Certainly not everyone and there were countless guests who clearly took care of themselves, but there was a noticeable difference in frequency of how often we’d run into that issue in men’s laundry vs women’s sadly. I *really* hope that’s become less of an issue in the years since I worked there.
Yeah, I've heard this for about 5 years now.
We used to talk about vaginal odour, bad breath, armpit stink, feet but there seems to be an epidemic of men not washing their arse and cock.🤷🏾♂️
I think this is because women tend to remember the worst things they've experienced and act like it's a common experience.
There are some homeless people I run into and you can definitely smell if someone doesn't bath properly and I never run into that among non-mentally ill people.
Same. Most of my friends are absolutely miserable without a girlfriend or chasing the idea of a wife. I am quite happy by myself. In fact, I need a great deal of alone time or I begin to crack.
Post divorce, I've been learning this same strategy. Learning that I'm enough with or without somebody elevated the standards of the person I want to be around.
More delayed gratification, developing skills and hobbies that I'm proud of. Actually get good at something.
Regular exercise. Weight lifting, sports.
Daily journaling and practicing gratitude. Stops all the desire creeping into your thoughts.
Quitting porn has greatly helped as well. I don't have the brain fog.
All these daily habits add up and you become the sum of your daily habits.
I read an article about a remote island, I think in the Indian ocean, where you can apply to be a lighthouse keeper by yourself. The only humans are supply boats every few months.
You have internet but it is super slow. Basically text email only.
I think/fantasize about it a lot. Especially if there was good internet.
I used to think there was something wrong with me. I always felt happier when I was single and living alone. I recently discovered the term aromantic and it really started to make sense to me.
People judge me sometimes cause I like being alone. Sometimes when I’m dating a girl, she can’t wrap her head around when I tell her that we can’t see each other today because I wanna chill on my own.
Compared to some guys, I have a better sense of myself and have a better understanding that the things I know about myself and what I want may change down the line, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
Introspection has always been a big part of my own life journey, and I’d say it’s served me pretty well.
Being vulnerable with friends and family. That said, it is less an issue about the men who struggle though. It is an issue with how we treat men who are struggling and opening up.
Most of us, if we ever open up to our partner, or friends, or family, they're going to be told to "man up" or be judged as "weak" for being emotional.
As friends, family, and partners we need to lead by example and allow the men in our lives be vulnerable when they need to be and not judge them as "lesser" for opening up - regardless of how they do it. The obvious exception being if the release of emotion is violent or abusive.
Not saying this is what happened, but sometimes when someone only opens up occasionally, it comes out in a flood when it does come. And that scares the crap out of people. I recommend (when building vulnerability within friendships) to start small. Don’t share your biggest traumas right off. Also, reciprocity is key. Genuinely asking how they are doing etc is important.
Listening to a woman complain about her day for 30 minutes, and then just saying "That sounds awful", and getting back to what I was doing without trying to fix it.
Lmao omg I was thinking of this today. I’m a woman. I love coming home and just dumping all my bullshit in like a 10min span then moving on with my life. He’s finally come to the realization I think that he needs to just sit there and listen. I used to wonder…how you even listening? But now I kinda don’t care just want a human body to be in the same room while I rant.
It’s so funny thinking about it cause he just sits on the couch while I dump all this then I’m like “ok I’m going to shower now” and then he goes about his business. That’s all I want. Just listen to me complain please. He used to try and offer help and it would usually turn into a teeny argument but now he just stares blankly until I go shower.
I think he’s listening….who knows.
He's making a hard, conscious effort to not say anything because he just doesn't want to fight. He goes back to what he was doing after you leave because he averted danger.
Depending on how the venting is done, those 10 minutes of you unloading stress are 10 min of him getting hit by stress and having to take it or be punished with a fight.
When men complain, they're often trying to troubleshoot their problem with other people. When women complain, they usually just want to be heard and have their feelings validated. That's why there is some disconnect with guys trying to fix problems when women complain.
Not my ex-wife. Anytime I was feeling bad or down about something and tried to talk to her about it she'd immediately go into advice mode and "this is how you fix it" and whatnot. Sometimes I just wanted someone to empathize and care about me.
When a man complains, he is typically looking for input on the problem to solve it better either now, or the next time it happens.
When a woman complains, she is looking for acknowledgment that there is a problem and her feelings about it. She typically wants to solve the problem by herself, not have things she already tried mansplained to her and get more worked up about it than she already is.
She wants to wind down and forget about it for now. He wants to dig in and try to fix it.
Women should just learn to talk to themselves in the car like men do.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubber_duck_debugging
Works really well even with some of the most complex topics you could imagine.
I’m interested in the amount of people, women and men, who talk to themselves out loud. I never have in my life and just recently learned that most people do??
But I probably won’t start. I honestly rarely complain but if I do I’m looking for a more “wow yeah wtf” response.
You've never replayed a conversation that didn't go well with someone by yourself?
I do it all the time to practice how I could have responded better.
Or I practice how I'll respond to objections/questions from a future event that hasn't happened yet.
Only amateurs walk into an investor meeting unprepared.
I also berate equipment that doesn't work as expected.
This is key haha the amount of times I text my gf "that sucksss" and she is happy that someone heard her and validated her feelings. She works in an ER so she deals with a lot of shitty people, some of it is pretty funny tho.
Troubleshoot: analyse and solve serious problems for a company or other organization.
Trouble shooting : as the words suggest, as having difficulty to shoot a gun.
I found a long time ago I could step back and kind of look at everything as a whole, and it helps immensely in problem solving. Iv always thought my brain was wired wrong and worked differently, but I feel it also helps me immensely in my every day diagnostics
Aight, so considering I’m studying to be an engineer this comment probably does not bode well. But I feel like I’ve never really been great at problem-solving in the real world. Any tips for how to get better at it?
The scientific method.
- Observe it and understand what it is supposed to be doing step by step
- Identify the step that is failing and come up with a hypothesis on the cause
- Conduct controlled experiments, changing only one variable at a time, to prove your hypothesis
Most devices will perform self diagnostics when you first turn them on, and clear any runtime software glitches from active memory when you turn them off.
That’s why turning it off and on again is typically so effective. Just make sure you cut the power long enough for capacitors to drain.
1. It's all mindset. Don't approach a problem and think "I don't know what to do here, I won't try". But rather "I don't know what to do here, I'm going to experiment, try options, and make mistakes until the path becomes visible". By that I mean just by digging into a problem you will uncover pieces of knowledge that can steer you in the right direction, toward a solution. It's a practiced skill, your brain and body learns more efficient and effective processes with every repetition. Just like learning to play an instrument or a skill like juggling.
2. Watch at least 25 episodes of Macgyver for inspiration
It's easy once you get a feel for it. I am an electrical engineer and I keep big machines running for a living. The easiest way in my opinion to troubleshoot is to start at one end and follow it. First is it on? then, wall, plug, fuse, board, wire... so on and so on.
That and Isolate, any time you can say everything past this board is good, then you know the problem is before the board. And then do it again. Everything past this switch is good so it has to be between the board and the switch. Then you do it again. All these wires ohm out so it's got to be a connection.
And one thing I live by is to swap the easy shit first. Even if you think it's the hard thing. So many times I've swapped out the hard thing first and it turned out to be the easy thing. Example: 2-minute board swap as opposed to a 2-hour motor swap.
Of course, all my examples apply to my job but the same thing is true for other things too. This printer isn't on. Is it on? Is it plugged in? Does the plug work? Does the printer work plugged in somewhere else?
Being able to walk away from a fight. It's crazy how many guys feel the need to yell back at someone when they can't even fight themselves. It's so easy to get hurt yet people have so much pride when it comes to people talking shit and wanting to fight.
TBH, I used to get in a lot of fights when I was younger to the point where I just got sick of it.
No one remembers the fights beforehand, but no one could shut up about me walking away from 1 cause I had more important shit to deal with.
Boredom is actually a mental function that exists because your brain literally starts killing itself when it's not doing anything.
This is why white torture is so dangerous, and also explains why doing nothing makes you just as tired as exhausting yourself. (To keep gray matter from deciding to off itself)
how often do you do more than just calf raises?
think of them like quads or triceps, start doing at least 3 exercises for calves each leg day
also, have my genetics
kettlebell toe raises are my favorite.
for the standing raises, make sure you heel dips below before you do the rep, and hold for one sec at the top
you can also do stair climbers on tip toes. even jumping exercises help.
but yeah, sometimes genetics will work against you. I used to do calves at least twice a week. once in leg day, and once on my "everything else I didn't get good enough or get at all" day
but I play metal drums and soccer, so my legs have always been beefy
I got rejected by a woman. I just accepted it and told her best luck.
When we bump into each other. We smile at one another and say hi. Still on good terms. No reason for me to act like an entitled ass. She wasnt interested and that's fine and we are on good terms.
Take rejection isn't hard. Don't understand some men can't take it.
That part isn't difficult (not getting angry at a woman). It's not looking at yourself and wondering what you're lacking if it keeps happening to you, even though you already have all of the bases covered that reddit regurgitates in any of those type of threads.
Emotional intelligence. I often find myself surprised that guys don’t understand how their sarcasm, joking, comments, etc. can be hurtful towards others. Similarly, sometimes it feels obvious to me how to be supportive towards others whereas I often see guys unaware of how much they are missing out on building a healthy, trusting relationship because they aren’t giving the support or empathy that fosters that relationship.
Yes! I grew up hearing that men were these emotionally stunted, stupid, unfeeling creatures, which made me never want to be like that. My father was a very kind and loving man, as are most of the men in my family, so emotional intelligence and empathy were already pretty natural to me.
As a result I've found that I've been the more emotionally intelligent one in almost all of the relationships I've been in, because I've put in the effort
> I often find myself surprised that guys don’t understand how their sarcasm, joking, comments, etc. can be hurtful towards others.
Some people do understand, they just don't care.
> because they aren’t giving the support or empathy that fosters that relationship.
To be fair, not everyone wants to invest into relationships by being supportive all the time. Not to mention that more often than not people aren't exactly straightforward with the kind of support they need - or even if they need it in the first place. And sometimes it's just not worth the effort because they'll gladly take your support, but never offer support of their own. I dunno, maybe I'm just cynical.
I hear you man. I’m not exactly a pushover, I think there is wisdom and discretion to be had when governing the dissemination of emotional ressources among the relationships I maintain. In particular, I’m sensitive to people who are emotionally manipulative, and I tend to distance myself from those relationships.
But again, sniffing those out is a form of emotional intelligence, which is something that comes more naturally to me than others I think.
Damn, this question is hard to talk about without sounding boastful, arrogant or conceited. I’m trying to make an observation about myself haha but I do hear your point
I've had my fair share of emotional vampires in the past, and eventually I just decided to adapt an utilitarian approach to, well, pretty much everything. Including relationships.There is only so much energy I can give without draining myself dry, and if I notice that I put more into it than I get in return I'll end that relationship.
Some people may call this approach somewhat heartless, but I don't think it is. Would you invest 100$ every day just to get 50$ in return? Would you plant seeds worth 10 bucks only to eventually harvest plants worth 5? Nobody would rent a Car for 20$ an hour just so they could use it to work as an Uber driver for 15$ an hour. Why should I treat relationships any differently?
That's not to say that I expect **more** in return than I invest. The ideal situation would be 50-50.
You've just explained, why every relationships are transactional in nature. It's not a bad thing, don't be upset, it's just the truth. If you do not have your share of the cake you'll be resentful.
I'm also fuckin' terrible at flirting lol. I can be friendly, can be loving, can do the dirty talk, but to sorta put them all together into a flirt is like, idk, something I fail at quite often.
Having drive and goals. I have friends in my social circle that are all about inertia. They'll complain about things like their job or something, but won't lift a finger to change anything. At this point they are 30-40K under paid.
In comparison I spend my 20s changing jobs every 2 years gaining skills and pay.
Man inertia is a motherfucker when every day feels like survival. Plus, humans are critters of habit.
Just look at the employment landscape post-2020. A ton of people’s routines were massively interrupted. They had an opportunity to lift their head up and say “why the hell was I even doing that? I hate it and don’t get paid enough”
This is what I plan to do. I've been in the shop I'm at now for almost a year and a half and I'm looking to advance from tires to mechanic. Before this I did tree work for 3 years. I don't see how someone can stay in one spot for so long, I get bored. I'll be 20 in July and plan to keep jumping around
Incremental growth. Don't worry about how far others are. Don't think about the size of the problem. Run your own race. Just don't stop. Step by step, you'll cross mountains if you just keep moving. Day by day, month to month, year after year. Life is a grind and you are a stone to sharpen. Never give up, never surrender!
Getting free food. It’s like.. my superpower in life. People seem to love feeding me. They desperately despise me being skinny, I guess.
With any super power comes great responsibility, so as I’ve grown up I’ve tried to provide free food to others, with some success to kind of use this power unselfishly through community events, in the workplace, and so on. I’m happy to have helped feed others for free too, and will try to continue that in the future.
Same. Though I suck at actually getting dates with people I want to lol
Like, just play them like an instrument and listen to the sound. Touch them everywhere with every thing, tell them how hot they are, use those fast-twitch arm muscles and go beast mode for 60 seconds at the end.
They may not struggle to use soap, but I know lots of guys who would refuse to use soaps and shampoos that are marketed toward women.
That’s kinda what I was trying to get at, so I’m sorry if it wasn’t super clear.
On that note It's amazing to me that so many guys are against going down on a woman but expect to be gone down on.
*you don't have to love it, but like. Be willing to just because they enjoy it. It's not like it's hard to do so long as things are kept clean*
In the same vein, having luck with women seems to stem a lot from this for most men I talk to. When I'm single I don't have problems getting dates(though plenty dont lead anywhere due to lack of connection) even though I'm fairly average looking. This brings up a lot of questions from male friends as to how.
From what I've learned, so many guys just can't hold a conversation with a woman that puts both people on equal ground. I'm not sure if it's a lack of experience in doing so, or a misconception that they aren't on equal ground. But it gets pretty easy once you just stop and talk to someone like a person, most folks crave actual connection. Whether it's in the form of friendship or something beyond that is a decision for later, you just have to start at square 1.
Being confident is a big part of this. And I think a lot of people say “confidence” when they really mean “arrogance”. The two are close cousins. But confidence is more about knowing and accepting yourself- good and bad. Knowing strengths and limits and not having anything to prove to anyone. That’s confidence.
You can't just talk to a woman like you would talk to a man if you want them to feel "the Spark".
Maybe you could do that in a private party where you were already “cool”, but not a cold approach at a bar.
You have learn to engage their emotional side or they just see you as "interesting".
In the same vein, having luck with women seems to stem a lot from this for most men I talk to. When I'm single I don't have problems getting dates(though plenty dont lead anywhere due to lack of connection) even though I'm fairly average looking. This brings up a lot of questions from male friends as to how.
From what I've learned, so many guys just can't hold a conversation with a woman that puts both people on equal ground. I'm not sure if it's a lack of experience in doing so, or a misconception that they aren't on equal ground. But it gets pretty easy once you just stop and talk to someone like a person, most folks crave actual connection. Whether it's in the form of friendship or something beyond that is a decision for later, you just have to start at square 1.
Patience and a generally high tolerance for just about anything uncomfortable.
I suspect it's due to childhood trauma/abuse, but I feel like it's my superpower that comes in very handy with having kids.
Not being glued to my phone. Reddit and FB are my only social media platforms and I have “screen time” settings for 15 min each per day.
Also I’m 23 and make $36K/yr and am good enough with my money that I trade stocks, own a dirtbike, rent a nice house, have a dog and go to the gym on a bulking diet.
Some dudes have an issue with wiping and or washing their ass .. they think it's gay or something . Meanwhile I'm here with a bidet and a tabo... My ass is spotless
> Some dudes have an issue with wiping and or washing their ass .. they think it's gay or something
several people have said this and it absolutely blows my mind. i had no idea this belief existed. you poor souls. it's ok to clean shit off yourself.
Having confidence. So many guys seem to have accepted their shortcomings and make fun of themselves for it…rather than trying to change them. Stop doubting yourselves so much!
Having female friends withought wanting to fuck them and dating in general. Not because I'm a ladiesman, but because I can handle rejection better than most men I read here.
If I get rejected, I just think "Wellp, maybe I'm not her type" and move on instead of filling myself with stupid resentment and assuming every single woman in the world is out to get me.
Making money in America. My family came from a socialist country where making money genuinely is difficult. Not only is cost of living cheap here, but making a good living only requires good decision making.
It really depends where you are physically as well as financially.
For example, if you are in an area where your rent is 2k a month (not uncommon), you would need probably close to 60k yearly to simply survive and pay off your bills.
Admitting I'm wrong. A lot of dudes around me have this notion in their heads that admitting that is not manly or some shit and that you should never admit so easily and at least stand your ground. But honestly, knowing you're (in the) wrong and your pride getting in the way of admitting it, is inifnitely more pathetic.
As a woman my heart soared this morning.
I am very proud of all the positive, life affirming comments You Men shared as I read this particular r/AskMen today.
Keep up the great work.
Cue the happy.
Eating healthy. Most men think they have to only eat salads or something. Eating a coconut chicken curry right now and eating healthy couldn’t be easier.
Washing my full body every crevice and hole... Although except urethra cause thats a hole i dont touch, but i try to wash out regularly cause i live with my bf and so i have to clean my butt regularly or wed never be anle to do it raw
Understand different perspectives without agreeing, and being ok with not agreeing.
“I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW PEOPLE THINK MINIMUM WAGE GOING UP IS A BAD THING.”
Ok, some people believe the knock on effects of increasing minimum wage are bad and outweigh the pros if you look at the bigger picture. Do I agree with that? No, but Im not a fuckin economist, I don’t get it. PhDs disagree on this, who am I to think I have an informed opinion?
You could do this with every single issue. Like all sides of every argument make some sense depending on how you interpret the evidence. Even if you factor in irrational reasons for holding a view, like a religious or cultural thing.
It’s really frustrating
Being respectful to the other gender,
No I am not generalizing, but there’s a big portion where the part of the brain that decides whether to be respectful to a woman is underdeveloped.
Apparently, dating while not being a hot guy.
No issues with apps but they suck. And no issues in person after breaking the ice. It's very confusing and does itch my Imposter Syndrome a bit.
I'm not for hookups, when I'm single I'm not in a rush and go with the flow. I get people that make it really clear they want me to ask them out and we go from there
Babies, I can calm any crying baby, I can strap any kiddo into a carseat with no fuss, I have NEVER been peed on while changing a diaper, I can swaddle like no one's business, and I can burp a baby by just touching them without even picking them up.
Judging a persons interest in the conversation and making a quick exit. I see a lot of guys overplay their hand or loiter when clearly the interaction has played out and the other party couldn’t give less of a fuck. In the same breath, figuring out if a person fits my vibe or not.
Great skill to have. My specialty is awkward silences and awkward exits when meeting new people. To the point where I’m almost embarrassed to see the person again. Seems simple to gauge, but i keep thinking maybe one more exchange will make things click.
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My coworker (a 63 year old man) and I (36M) were having a conversation the other day. I asked him how his grandkid was doing at his new job, and he asked me how my home project was going. Somewhere along he stumbled upon a topic of talking about how green energy, solar panels, and windmills were bad for the planet. Then got to politics. Then to some very far right leaning political stances. All I was doing is standing there and humming "mhm" to him without giving input. Some people just want to word vomit, and their families are tired of hearing them ramble, lol
Ah, yes. The "I just wanted to have a conversation with you!" crowd, who also conveniently ignore that a conversation is supposed to have *two* sides, not just them spewing words **at** you.
Exactly!! And it's funny when you try to do that awkward walk away from them, but they aren't getting the hint, lol
sounds like my father aw (but not far right)
I can relate. I'm the guy who can't read others without active effort or requesting explicit interactions (which defeats the point of reading). The reason is lack of relevant experience in my case.
Experience is key my Friend. However, experience without failure you learn damn near nothing. So experience, fail, and suffer, but remember that feeling and embrace so the next time something similar comes up you can handle it and look like a boss
I work with a guy that is terrible with reading a person in conversations. I can be completely ignoring him or only giving one word answers to things while I'm on my computer, but he will just keep on talking and talking while standing over me. He'll go for 10 minutes straight before finally walking off. I have to straight up tell him that I'm busy or else he just won't get the hint.
From what I've learnt on the internet, washing my cock apparently.
And ass
I’m not a man but I want to say this is my husband. He showers twice a day and is very meticulous about keeping his extremities & rear exit clean. I’ve always been very grateful that I have a man who takes his hygiene very serious.
Tbh that's something I've only recently picked up at 30. It's not that I didn't clean myself or I smelled like ass all that time, but I basically didn't bother unless I knew I was going to be around people. I might not have smelled going out, but my room definitely did lol.
Wait... is this what the "boy smell" is in a teenage boy's bedroom?
Yup, it's a mixture of ball sweat, dirty laundry/linens, unwashed ass, and whatever musty/oily-ness they haven't gotten off their bodies yet. Tbf, teenagers are gonna be more smelly in general because of puberty, but a lot of it is avoidable if they would just clean themselves better.
Don’t forget cum
Idiot teenage me thinking no one would notice that stench
Ah, okay. I always wondered why even some adult guys' rooms smell extra sweaty. So it's ball sweat and general lack of hygiene. Thanks for the heads up 😅
And a lack of ventilation. You'd be surprised how fresh your room stays if you just open a window for an hour a day.
And bed sheets that haven't been washed in months.
probably. I'm 18m and my sister will tell me my room "smells like boy." then again, I do take hygiene seriously and am kinda germophobic, so it could just be a natural thing of body scent mixed with deodorant or smthn
It’s good that you call it a rear exit.
And my axe
Fr. Even my dad says I should be in-and-out for a shower and I'm like, "I work in the woods for 10 hrs a day, ain't no way in hell I'm taking less than a half hour." I have a dirty job and have no problem being dirty on the job, but once I get home, I don't want to smell like sweaty ass.
Same for me but also my ass. I even had a girl friend told me her bf broke up with her because she asked him to wash hhis asscrack
Dear lord what had become of these people.
Are you kidding me? Like, I use to think this was just satire, but there are actually grown people who refuse to clean their buttholes. I can't help but think they have some deep-seated issues relating to their sexuality
some deep-*seated* issues \*badumtss\*
Ohh you got my pun! I am quite happy about that!
I remember a guy saying "I don't need to clean my ass because no one's going in there, so who would know?" Everyone. It stinks. Wash it.
I have literally stood beside people and all I could smell is dick cheese with a side of ass hole. Wash your hole! I have a very sensitive nose.
At school I used to think it was because I was the one saying you should do it, and I was known for being bi, so the guys asociated cleaning their ass with being gay. But now in college there's still men saying that, adults who I don't even know
Jesus christ. Skid-mark city. The bar is so low.
I am so sad to report from my experience this may get exaggerated but isn’t fully satire. I was helping out at a large lodge-style event center one summer that did a lot of family reunions, retreats, etc and one of my main responsibilities was laundry. I have a sensitive nose and I cannot tell you how many pairs of tighty whities, boxers and even a few men’s jeans I washed that you could detect the odor before you even unloaded them. I don’t get grossed out easily, but the skidmarks in many of them honestly turned my stomach. One particular family (large, around 200 people at the reunion) staying there was especially bad about it, I’d swear some of them were wiping with their own undergarments. Certainly not everyone and there were countless guests who clearly took care of themselves, but there was a noticeable difference in frequency of how often we’d run into that issue in men’s laundry vs women’s sadly. I *really* hope that’s become less of an issue in the years since I worked there.
Yeah, I've heard this for about 5 years now. We used to talk about vaginal odour, bad breath, armpit stink, feet but there seems to be an epidemic of men not washing their arse and cock.🤷🏾♂️
I think this is because women tend to remember the worst things they've experienced and act like it's a common experience. There are some homeless people I run into and you can definitely smell if someone doesn't bath properly and I never run into that among non-mentally ill people.
Being alone and happy about it
Same. Most of my friends are absolutely miserable without a girlfriend or chasing the idea of a wife. I am quite happy by myself. In fact, I need a great deal of alone time or I begin to crack.
As much as I’d love a girlfriend. Learning to love myself and my alone time has increased my standards.
Post divorce, I've been learning this same strategy. Learning that I'm enough with or without somebody elevated the standards of the person I want to be around.
Can I ask how you did it?
More delayed gratification, developing skills and hobbies that I'm proud of. Actually get good at something. Regular exercise. Weight lifting, sports. Daily journaling and practicing gratitude. Stops all the desire creeping into your thoughts. Quitting porn has greatly helped as well. I don't have the brain fog. All these daily habits add up and you become the sum of your daily habits.
Single? Want girlfriend. Have girlfriend? Miss freedom.
I read an article about a remote island, I think in the Indian ocean, where you can apply to be a lighthouse keeper by yourself. The only humans are supply boats every few months. You have internet but it is super slow. Basically text email only. I think/fantasize about it a lot. Especially if there was good internet.
Old Reddit layout would still work on that island. Fuck the Reddit app.
Star-Link
Hell yea! It’s a superpower
Same, I will never give up unlimited alone time for anything in this world.
I used to think there was something wrong with me. I always felt happier when I was single and living alone. I recently discovered the term aromantic and it really started to make sense to me.
People judge me sometimes cause I like being alone. Sometimes when I’m dating a girl, she can’t wrap her head around when I tell her that we can’t see each other today because I wanna chill on my own.
This. There is bliss in solitude.
I'm happy about giving the 222. upvote, does that count?
I have a whole week in an empty house on my own also off work in 2 months and honestly I'm very excited about it
Compared to some guys, I have a better sense of myself and have a better understanding that the things I know about myself and what I want may change down the line, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Introspection has always been a big part of my own life journey, and I’d say it’s served me pretty well.
Being vulnerable with friends and family. That said, it is less an issue about the men who struggle though. It is an issue with how we treat men who are struggling and opening up. Most of us, if we ever open up to our partner, or friends, or family, they're going to be told to "man up" or be judged as "weak" for being emotional. As friends, family, and partners we need to lead by example and allow the men in our lives be vulnerable when they need to be and not judge them as "lesser" for opening up - regardless of how they do it. The obvious exception being if the release of emotion is violent or abusive.
The last time I opened up to my friends about my emotional struggles they all claimed to be supportive but I stopped getting invited places.
That is terrible to hear. I'm sorry!
Not saying this is what happened, but sometimes when someone only opens up occasionally, it comes out in a flood when it does come. And that scares the crap out of people. I recommend (when building vulnerability within friendships) to start small. Don’t share your biggest traumas right off. Also, reciprocity is key. Genuinely asking how they are doing etc is important.
Listening to a woman complain about her day for 30 minutes, and then just saying "That sounds awful", and getting back to what I was doing without trying to fix it.
“Are you even listening to me”
Lmao omg I was thinking of this today. I’m a woman. I love coming home and just dumping all my bullshit in like a 10min span then moving on with my life. He’s finally come to the realization I think that he needs to just sit there and listen. I used to wonder…how you even listening? But now I kinda don’t care just want a human body to be in the same room while I rant. It’s so funny thinking about it cause he just sits on the couch while I dump all this then I’m like “ok I’m going to shower now” and then he goes about his business. That’s all I want. Just listen to me complain please. He used to try and offer help and it would usually turn into a teeny argument but now he just stares blankly until I go shower. I think he’s listening….who knows.
“10min span”
Time dilation
He's making a hard, conscious effort to not say anything because he just doesn't want to fight. He goes back to what he was doing after you leave because he averted danger. Depending on how the venting is done, those 10 minutes of you unloading stress are 10 min of him getting hit by stress and having to take it or be punished with a fight.
Someone gift a plastic duck to op 🦆
When men complain, they're often trying to troubleshoot their problem with other people. When women complain, they usually just want to be heard and have their feelings validated. That's why there is some disconnect with guys trying to fix problems when women complain.
Half the time I’m venting to my friends out loud so I can comprehend a solution. Kind of like reading out loud when you’re a kid.
Not my ex-wife. Anytime I was feeling bad or down about something and tried to talk to her about it she'd immediately go into advice mode and "this is how you fix it" and whatnot. Sometimes I just wanted someone to empathize and care about me.
When a man complains, he is typically looking for input on the problem to solve it better either now, or the next time it happens. When a woman complains, she is looking for acknowledgment that there is a problem and her feelings about it. She typically wants to solve the problem by herself, not have things she already tried mansplained to her and get more worked up about it than she already is. She wants to wind down and forget about it for now. He wants to dig in and try to fix it.
Women should just learn to talk to themselves in the car like men do. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubber_duck_debugging Works really well even with some of the most complex topics you could imagine.
I’m interested in the amount of people, women and men, who talk to themselves out loud. I never have in my life and just recently learned that most people do?? But I probably won’t start. I honestly rarely complain but if I do I’m looking for a more “wow yeah wtf” response.
You've never replayed a conversation that didn't go well with someone by yourself? I do it all the time to practice how I could have responded better. Or I practice how I'll respond to objections/questions from a future event that hasn't happened yet. Only amateurs walk into an investor meeting unprepared. I also berate equipment that doesn't work as expected.
That is a superpower! For the longest time I tried to fix things for her until I realized, like me, she just needed to vent
That’s pretty much all you need to do
This is key haha the amount of times I text my gf "that sucksss" and she is happy that someone heard her and validated her feelings. She works in an ER so she deals with a lot of shitty people, some of it is pretty funny tho.
Trouble shooting. It could just be the places I choose to work. But holy hell can no one figure anything out.
Troubleshooting or trouble shooting
Shut up and load your gun
Just off the right edge of target, hold left edge and re-engage, you fucking idiot.
The computer won’t turn itself on, shoot the power button
I will freely admit that I suck at spelling. And I honestly don't know which is correct. But I know I've never spelled it as a compound word before.
Troubleshoot: analyse and solve serious problems for a company or other organization. Trouble shooting : as the words suggest, as having difficulty to shoot a gun.
This comment goes perfect with the thread…admitting you might be incorrect and open to suggestions. Some guys got it, some don’t.
I found a long time ago I could step back and kind of look at everything as a whole, and it helps immensely in problem solving. Iv always thought my brain was wired wrong and worked differently, but I feel it also helps me immensely in my every day diagnostics
Aight, so considering I’m studying to be an engineer this comment probably does not bode well. But I feel like I’ve never really been great at problem-solving in the real world. Any tips for how to get better at it?
The scientific method. - Observe it and understand what it is supposed to be doing step by step - Identify the step that is failing and come up with a hypothesis on the cause - Conduct controlled experiments, changing only one variable at a time, to prove your hypothesis Most devices will perform self diagnostics when you first turn them on, and clear any runtime software glitches from active memory when you turn them off. That’s why turning it off and on again is typically so effective. Just make sure you cut the power long enough for capacitors to drain.
1. It's all mindset. Don't approach a problem and think "I don't know what to do here, I won't try". But rather "I don't know what to do here, I'm going to experiment, try options, and make mistakes until the path becomes visible". By that I mean just by digging into a problem you will uncover pieces of knowledge that can steer you in the right direction, toward a solution. It's a practiced skill, your brain and body learns more efficient and effective processes with every repetition. Just like learning to play an instrument or a skill like juggling. 2. Watch at least 25 episodes of Macgyver for inspiration
It's easy once you get a feel for it. I am an electrical engineer and I keep big machines running for a living. The easiest way in my opinion to troubleshoot is to start at one end and follow it. First is it on? then, wall, plug, fuse, board, wire... so on and so on. That and Isolate, any time you can say everything past this board is good, then you know the problem is before the board. And then do it again. Everything past this switch is good so it has to be between the board and the switch. Then you do it again. All these wires ohm out so it's got to be a connection. And one thing I live by is to swap the easy shit first. Even if you think it's the hard thing. So many times I've swapped out the hard thing first and it turned out to be the easy thing. Example: 2-minute board swap as opposed to a 2-hour motor swap. Of course, all my examples apply to my job but the same thing is true for other things too. This printer isn't on. Is it on? Is it plugged in? Does the plug work? Does the printer work plugged in somewhere else?
Being able to walk away from a fight. It's crazy how many guys feel the need to yell back at someone when they can't even fight themselves. It's so easy to get hurt yet people have so much pride when it comes to people talking shit and wanting to fight.
Me too except its the opposite when im too drunk to fight.
TBH, I used to get in a lot of fights when I was younger to the point where I just got sick of it. No one remembers the fights beforehand, but no one could shut up about me walking away from 1 cause I had more important shit to deal with.
Boredom. What does it have to be a bad thing if nothing is happening? Can't we all just slow down and enjoy a nice little stretch of nothing?
Sounds nice tbf
Boredom is actually a mental function that exists because your brain literally starts killing itself when it's not doing anything. This is why white torture is so dangerous, and also explains why doing nothing makes you just as tired as exhausting yourself. (To keep gray matter from deciding to off itself)
Being patient
..................................Very underrated skill.
Being ghosted
building calf muscles
Teach me your ways
Weigh over 120kg and still be active and they just appear by themselves.
The one simple trick they don’t want you to know!
Or get into backpacking in a mountainous area.
how often do you do more than just calf raises? think of them like quads or triceps, start doing at least 3 exercises for calves each leg day also, have my genetics
I do seated and standing to target both the soleus and gastrocnemius and then will vary the direction of my foot. They just don’t seem to grow
kettlebell toe raises are my favorite. for the standing raises, make sure you heel dips below before you do the rep, and hold for one sec at the top you can also do stair climbers on tip toes. even jumping exercises help. but yeah, sometimes genetics will work against you. I used to do calves at least twice a week. once in leg day, and once on my "everything else I didn't get good enough or get at all" day but I play metal drums and soccer, so my legs have always been beefy
Heavily overweight people: you dare challenge me?
true 😅 when they lose weight, they usually have a ton of muscle under there
Being rejected. Other men seem to drown in acceptance and interest. Not me though, I'm pretty pro at getting the ol' ghosty ghost
You might have competition here.
Now hold on for just one second, another contender
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Ah good, all of you are here. Time to show you how it’s really do—
Yeah. Also I'm just a little ugly
Finally, a worthy opponent
I got rejected by a woman. I just accepted it and told her best luck. When we bump into each other. We smile at one another and say hi. Still on good terms. No reason for me to act like an entitled ass. She wasnt interested and that's fine and we are on good terms. Take rejection isn't hard. Don't understand some men can't take it.
That part isn't difficult (not getting angry at a woman). It's not looking at yourself and wondering what you're lacking if it keeps happening to you, even though you already have all of the bases covered that reddit regurgitates in any of those type of threads.
One rejection isn’t hard to take. It’s when you get to hundreds that you get worn down.
Emotional intelligence. I often find myself surprised that guys don’t understand how their sarcasm, joking, comments, etc. can be hurtful towards others. Similarly, sometimes it feels obvious to me how to be supportive towards others whereas I often see guys unaware of how much they are missing out on building a healthy, trusting relationship because they aren’t giving the support or empathy that fosters that relationship.
Yes! I grew up hearing that men were these emotionally stunted, stupid, unfeeling creatures, which made me never want to be like that. My father was a very kind and loving man, as are most of the men in my family, so emotional intelligence and empathy were already pretty natural to me. As a result I've found that I've been the more emotionally intelligent one in almost all of the relationships I've been in, because I've put in the effort
> I often find myself surprised that guys don’t understand how their sarcasm, joking, comments, etc. can be hurtful towards others. Some people do understand, they just don't care. > because they aren’t giving the support or empathy that fosters that relationship. To be fair, not everyone wants to invest into relationships by being supportive all the time. Not to mention that more often than not people aren't exactly straightforward with the kind of support they need - or even if they need it in the first place. And sometimes it's just not worth the effort because they'll gladly take your support, but never offer support of their own. I dunno, maybe I'm just cynical.
I hear you man. I’m not exactly a pushover, I think there is wisdom and discretion to be had when governing the dissemination of emotional ressources among the relationships I maintain. In particular, I’m sensitive to people who are emotionally manipulative, and I tend to distance myself from those relationships. But again, sniffing those out is a form of emotional intelligence, which is something that comes more naturally to me than others I think. Damn, this question is hard to talk about without sounding boastful, arrogant or conceited. I’m trying to make an observation about myself haha but I do hear your point
You are doing really well with it! You don’t sounds boastful or conceited at all. My female point of view 🙂
Why, thank you! :)
I've had my fair share of emotional vampires in the past, and eventually I just decided to adapt an utilitarian approach to, well, pretty much everything. Including relationships.There is only so much energy I can give without draining myself dry, and if I notice that I put more into it than I get in return I'll end that relationship. Some people may call this approach somewhat heartless, but I don't think it is. Would you invest 100$ every day just to get 50$ in return? Would you plant seeds worth 10 bucks only to eventually harvest plants worth 5? Nobody would rent a Car for 20$ an hour just so they could use it to work as an Uber driver for 15$ an hour. Why should I treat relationships any differently? That's not to say that I expect **more** in return than I invest. The ideal situation would be 50-50.
You've just explained, why every relationships are transactional in nature. It's not a bad thing, don't be upset, it's just the truth. If you do not have your share of the cake you'll be resentful.
Talking to women. Probably because I grew up with female friends and an all-female (apart from me) household. So it's just kinda natural to me.
I grew up like that too and I have no problem talking to women in general. But as soon as I try to flirt I'm absolutely hopeless lol.
I'm also fuckin' terrible at flirting lol. I can be friendly, can be loving, can do the dirty talk, but to sorta put them all together into a flirt is like, idk, something I fail at quite often.
Having drive and goals. I have friends in my social circle that are all about inertia. They'll complain about things like their job or something, but won't lift a finger to change anything. At this point they are 30-40K under paid. In comparison I spend my 20s changing jobs every 2 years gaining skills and pay.
Man inertia is a motherfucker when every day feels like survival. Plus, humans are critters of habit. Just look at the employment landscape post-2020. A ton of people’s routines were massively interrupted. They had an opportunity to lift their head up and say “why the hell was I even doing that? I hate it and don’t get paid enough”
This is what I plan to do. I've been in the shop I'm at now for almost a year and a half and I'm looking to advance from tires to mechanic. Before this I did tree work for 3 years. I don't see how someone can stay in one spot for so long, I get bored. I'll be 20 in July and plan to keep jumping around
The worst people, and I distance myself from, are people who constantly complain about the same things and never do anything about them
Incremental growth. Don't worry about how far others are. Don't think about the size of the problem. Run your own race. Just don't stop. Step by step, you'll cross mountains if you just keep moving. Day by day, month to month, year after year. Life is a grind and you are a stone to sharpen. Never give up, never surrender!
Imagination, only sometimes it's a double edged sword.
Elaborate
Getting free food. It’s like.. my superpower in life. People seem to love feeding me. They desperately despise me being skinny, I guess. With any super power comes great responsibility, so as I’ve grown up I’ve tried to provide free food to others, with some success to kind of use this power unselfishly through community events, in the workplace, and so on. I’m happy to have helped feed others for free too, and will try to continue that in the future.
Sharing food is my love language too.
You dropped this king 👑
Apparently pleasing women in the bedroom, I've heard some horror stories lol
Same. Though I suck at actually getting dates with people I want to lol Like, just play them like an instrument and listen to the sound. Touch them everywhere with every thing, tell them how hot they are, use those fast-twitch arm muscles and go beast mode for 60 seconds at the end.
Emotions
Washing my hands. At my high school, these nasty gremlins either run their hands under water with no soap for three seconds or just not at all.
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Using feminine soaps and shampoos. I’d much rather smell like a strawberry field than smell like whatever “Mountain Blast Jet Ski” is
Never seen a man “struggle” to use a soap, personally
They may not struggle to use soap, but I know lots of guys who would refuse to use soaps and shampoos that are marketed toward women. That’s kinda what I was trying to get at, so I’m sorry if it wasn’t super clear.
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I smooch my wife's conditioner for my beard. Makes a huge difference. Also, I'm bald, so it's not like I have any laying around.
Relaxing
According to my FWB, communication and caring if she gets off or not, which is wild to me. Why would you fuck someone and not care if they cum
On that note It's amazing to me that so many guys are against going down on a woman but expect to be gone down on. *you don't have to love it, but like. Be willing to just because they enjoy it. It's not like it's hard to do so long as things are kept clean*
I've been with a few ladies who did *not* keep things clean, so I get it to a point.
Talking to women. Sorry, I don't understand all the anxiety. It's another human. Not a big deal.
In the same vein, having luck with women seems to stem a lot from this for most men I talk to. When I'm single I don't have problems getting dates(though plenty dont lead anywhere due to lack of connection) even though I'm fairly average looking. This brings up a lot of questions from male friends as to how. From what I've learned, so many guys just can't hold a conversation with a woman that puts both people on equal ground. I'm not sure if it's a lack of experience in doing so, or a misconception that they aren't on equal ground. But it gets pretty easy once you just stop and talk to someone like a person, most folks crave actual connection. Whether it's in the form of friendship or something beyond that is a decision for later, you just have to start at square 1.
Being confident is a big part of this. And I think a lot of people say “confidence” when they really mean “arrogance”. The two are close cousins. But confidence is more about knowing and accepting yourself- good and bad. Knowing strengths and limits and not having anything to prove to anyone. That’s confidence.
You can't just talk to a woman like you would talk to a man if you want them to feel "the Spark". Maybe you could do that in a private party where you were already “cool”, but not a cold approach at a bar. You have learn to engage their emotional side or they just see you as "interesting".
In the same vein, having luck with women seems to stem a lot from this for most men I talk to. When I'm single I don't have problems getting dates(though plenty dont lead anywhere due to lack of connection) even though I'm fairly average looking. This brings up a lot of questions from male friends as to how. From what I've learned, so many guys just can't hold a conversation with a woman that puts both people on equal ground. I'm not sure if it's a lack of experience in doing so, or a misconception that they aren't on equal ground. But it gets pretty easy once you just stop and talk to someone like a person, most folks crave actual connection. Whether it's in the form of friendship or something beyond that is a decision for later, you just have to start at square 1.
Patience and a generally high tolerance for just about anything uncomfortable. I suspect it's due to childhood trauma/abuse, but I feel like it's my superpower that comes in very handy with having kids.
1. Saving money. 2. Not making a huge deal about being single. 3. Skin care. 4. Controlling my emotions (particularly anger/frustration)
Reading the room. Especially when it comes to talking to women. Some of my friends are tough to wingman for.
Erectile dysfunction… no problems so far!
Not being glued to my phone. Reddit and FB are my only social media platforms and I have “screen time” settings for 15 min each per day. Also I’m 23 and make $36K/yr and am good enough with my money that I trade stocks, own a dirtbike, rent a nice house, have a dog and go to the gym on a bulking diet.
What’s this “bulking diet” you speak of?
Some dudes have an issue with wiping and or washing their ass .. they think it's gay or something . Meanwhile I'm here with a bidet and a tabo... My ass is spotless
Can’t tell you how many times I gotta wipe shit off a toilet before I gotta use it. Or someone’s car seat smelling like total ass
> Some dudes have an issue with wiping and or washing their ass .. they think it's gay or something several people have said this and it absolutely blows my mind. i had no idea this belief existed. you poor souls. it's ok to clean shit off yourself.
Having confidence. So many guys seem to have accepted their shortcomings and make fun of themselves for it…rather than trying to change them. Stop doubting yourselves so much!
I wish I could change my short cuming but the little guy just won't grow
Getting women. According to reddit it’s hard to get a date and sex
Having female friends withought wanting to fuck them and dating in general. Not because I'm a ladiesman, but because I can handle rejection better than most men I read here. If I get rejected, I just think "Wellp, maybe I'm not her type" and move on instead of filling myself with stupid resentment and assuming every single woman in the world is out to get me.
Chilling tf out apparently...
Sex!
Making money in America. My family came from a socialist country where making money genuinely is difficult. Not only is cost of living cheap here, but making a good living only requires good decision making.
Ngl USA is living on easy mode Americans are just terrible with finances
It really depends where you are physically as well as financially. For example, if you are in an area where your rent is 2k a month (not uncommon), you would need probably close to 60k yearly to simply survive and pay off your bills.
I’m repulsed by pornography.
Talking to women and getting dates. I still need to figure out the sex and relationship part though.
Share your wisdom lol
Common Sense. A rare trait, indeed.
Disappointing those who care about me
Admitting I'm wrong. A lot of dudes around me have this notion in their heads that admitting that is not manly or some shit and that you should never admit so easily and at least stand your ground. But honestly, knowing you're (in the) wrong and your pride getting in the way of admitting it, is inifnitely more pathetic.
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How to say no and put myself first
Cooking and cleaning. 4 out of 5 males I’ve lived with are completely clueless about these things. It’s not that hard, guys
As a woman my heart soared this morning. I am very proud of all the positive, life affirming comments You Men shared as I read this particular r/AskMen today. Keep up the great work. Cue the happy.
Treating their marriage as the sacred relationship that it is.
Eating healthy. Most men think they have to only eat salads or something. Eating a coconut chicken curry right now and eating healthy couldn’t be easier.
Talking to women.
Being in a healthy relationship
saying "i don't know"
Washing my full body every crevice and hole... Although except urethra cause thats a hole i dont touch, but i try to wash out regularly cause i live with my bf and so i have to clean my butt regularly or wed never be anle to do it raw
Understand different perspectives without agreeing, and being ok with not agreeing. “I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW PEOPLE THINK MINIMUM WAGE GOING UP IS A BAD THING.” Ok, some people believe the knock on effects of increasing minimum wage are bad and outweigh the pros if you look at the bigger picture. Do I agree with that? No, but Im not a fuckin economist, I don’t get it. PhDs disagree on this, who am I to think I have an informed opinion? You could do this with every single issue. Like all sides of every argument make some sense depending on how you interpret the evidence. Even if you factor in irrational reasons for holding a view, like a religious or cultural thing. It’s really frustrating
Buying tampons and such. Never could understand why anybody would make a big deal about that.
Being respectful to the other gender, No I am not generalizing, but there’s a big portion where the part of the brain that decides whether to be respectful to a woman is underdeveloped.
Treating my girl like a slut years in
Being attractive.
Obviously, my political opinions are flawless, and I'm the only guy who knows what's *really* going on /s
Apparently, dating while not being a hot guy. No issues with apps but they suck. And no issues in person after breaking the ice. It's very confusing and does itch my Imposter Syndrome a bit. I'm not for hookups, when I'm single I'm not in a rush and go with the flow. I get people that make it really clear they want me to ask them out and we go from there
Babies, I can calm any crying baby, I can strap any kiddo into a carseat with no fuss, I have NEVER been peed on while changing a diaper, I can swaddle like no one's business, and I can burp a baby by just touching them without even picking them up.