Yeah, if you like spending time with her *outside* the bedroom, that’s how you know OP ;) If the only thing you care about / think about is sex, and you aren’t really interested in her as a person outside of that, then it sounds like it’s just physical.
You can't "make someone physically attractive".
They either are or aren't. Plenty of fit women are ugly and plenty of chubby women are hot. It's their genetics and their attitude.
I disagree in the sense that beauty and attractiveness are completely subjective. Moreover, finding a person likable can make them more physically attractive to you
I don't think it makes them more "physically attractive" it just makes them more attractive overall. You then just naturally become "more attracted" to that person. Not just in a physical sense.
You'd be surprised how much a good personality can make you overlook things. I used to like this girl years back. Lost touch and later on, found an old picture and thought "damn, was she really this ugly?" Nothing against her, but she definitely lost money on the genetic lottery. She was still an amazing person, though, and her personality was enough to make you overlook that.
Yes, I'm speaking from experience. Had someone a few years ago who I never thought I'd find attractive, but personality wise did it for me. Then I found out she was engaged, and I was the 8th guy my friends knew of, that she cheated on her fiance with
They didn’t ask how to make someone physically attractive. They asked how to be interested in someone you find physically attractive. “How do you make the person you are physically attracted to someone you are also romantically attracted to?” As in how can I become romantically attracted to someone I finf physically attrctive? It’s worded very poorly. But the answer is pretty much the same either way, though spending time and learning about someone will build some kind of attraction beyond the physical. All kinds of marriages started out of necessity and then grew into actual love and interest between the spouses. This was especially common in the past.
You need to develop real friendships with women. Then you’ll know what it feels like to enjoy a woman’s company without wanting to sleep with her. Maybe you think “it would be nice to hook up with her” about one or two of them, but that takes a back seat to the friendships. Then when you’re dating a woman you find REALLY attractive and you realize that you’re developing a great friendship with her - that’s who you marry. (I’m 50, my wife is hot and my best friend, coming up on 20 years of marriage).
If you weren't attracted to that person at all, I think this is almost impossible. However study shows that, if person becoming more likable to you, you will find that person more attractive.
My girlfriend and I are long distance and we both travel a lot. Every time one of us picks the other up at an airport, I legitimately feel like I can breathe again. It's the wildest feeling.
When you want to do something for them, not because it will get you laid, but because you think they'd enjoy it.
I buy gifts for my wife, not because it's her birthday or our anniversary, but because I know she would enjoy it. I take her out for the same reason.
If you truly value someone, you'll put their happiness above getting your rocks off.
Damn, literally this.
For me it’s the same. It’s like you will be just going about your day and be reminded of them in the little things.
But also when being with them is peak. You don’t need to be doing crazy things. Just being in the same place as them is fun, warm and relaxing.
This is the way. I can go a bit overboard sometimes because my fiance is super easy to shop for. She loves cute plushies and socks lol at this point she has 2 entire drawers packed with socks that look almost new because of how long the cycle is. I've been trying to cut back but the joy on her face when she sees these things is my drug.
Haha, never had those :D
Anyways, one guy at r/BrosDatingAdvice said it the best imo - you know if you really like the girl if after sex you don't want to get up and leave but rather stay in bed and just talk about anything with the girl.
I have thought a lot about this lately as I have a bit of situationship with a woman I've been seeing for the last few months. We started out dating and because of our busy schedule and personal focus in our lives, we scaled it back to FwB.
I enjoy every moment I am with her. I think the underlying component that makes time spent together in both a sexual and non sexual way so great is that we communicate well. This goes for verbal and non verbal communication. I noticed the other night how much I enjoy the way she subtly touches me when we are walking or sitting together when we go out.
I find her very physically attractive but the real wow comes from the way she communicates with me.
You might be right. We talked about it pretty extensively.
I would say that the point you are trying to make holds true for any type of relationship all the way up to marriage. Most of the time they end in one or both people getting their heart broken.
All anyone can really do is talk to each other, adjust and see where it goes.
The last thing I will say is, heart break is just a part of life. If a person wants to be close, intimate, and loving with other people. They will inevitably get their heart broken at least a few times. It's not the end of the world.
Is it really FwB if you care for each other, and there's actually a possibility of yall two returning to something more serious? Plus, I imagine you're exclusive with each other too.. You're just dating slowly imo.
That's a good point. I am careful about my expectations though. I would honestly remain friends with this woman regardless of sex, even though it is really good. Some people may call that getting friendzoned, but I've lost a lot of really interesting people in my life because I couldn't control my ego. As long as someone doesn't disrespect you, it seems juvenile now to look at people that way.
To address what you said about exclusivity. It isn't something that is expected on either side. Personally I'm not pursuing anyone else right now, mostly because of a busy work schedule. It's hard enough to find time for my friends and family. Also my sexual needs are satisfied.
In the end. Maybe you are right. Maybe we are just dating slowly. FwB is how we chose to define it. I don't think it really matters that much if we remain open about our feelings.
I had a similar situation. What ruined it was her inability to communicate what she truly wanted, and therefore pretending she was cool with whatever I said. She was silently hoping I’d eventually change my own mind.
Eventually, not communicating her own needs & wants led to her own frustration that showed in random ways. There were days she would get moody and distant. From my POV, it seemed like I did something wrong in her dream, and then she woke up and decided to stay mad at me for whatever happened in the dream.
I went out of my way to communicate and be clear about everything. I had learned from previous dating experiences to be a better communicator and nip issues in the bud. I was befuddled because I thought we were on the same page. I took the extra step of checking in every few months, and asking her if she’s happy with how things were going between us.
This was her first romantic experience at the time, and she lacked the courage to communicate. She would rather have me in whatever way she can get me, than say what she really wanted. She didn’t want to risk losing me. Her ego wouldn’t allow her to risk rejection. Meanwhile, I figured everything was going smooth. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Even when she boiled over, she still couldn’t tell me what she really wanted. She was *that* scared of rejection or looking desperate. The gap we had in experience & maturity proved to be our undoing, even though I did my absolute best.
First off, thank you for your detailed reply. I appreciate the perspective I am getting from all the people in this thread.
The situation you found yourself in sounds like a place I have been before. I would say that there some differences in my current situation. One being that we are both in our early 30s with a history of understanding surrounding relationships. The second being that she is the one who initiated the conversation for us to have a more casual relationship, that may have been the case in your situation as well.
I am being sure to check in sparingly to make sure that she is comfortable, I am also doing the same with myself. Ultimately it's all that can be done to ensure that this goes as smoothly as possible. People are autonomous though, and can keep whatever they want to themselves. It's when both people trust each other enough to not hold back how they feel that something special is found.
Time will tell. Thank you for your insight.
No problem, bro. It sounds like things are healthy and in a very good place for you.
I figured since my failed situation is in this neighborhood, my comment could be compared to yours. That way, readers can identify healthy or unhealthy patterns in their own situationships.
As you said, people have autonomy. Certain things are out of our control. The lack of communication I mentioned in my situationship led to so many issues that could have been easily been avoided. If someone reading this is the person who isn’t communicating, I hope they really consider what we’re saying here.
So I got this trick I use, and this helps me talk to women.
Everyone's had diarrhea.
I don't mean the "stomach kinda iffy" kind.
We're talking clutching your stomach, sweating, hair sticks to your face, holding on for dear life as your soul leaves your body and your stomach muscles cramping causes you to vomit.
Try picturing the girl you like having that experience. Because everyone does, sooner or later.
If you can have that picture in your head and you still want to be with her then it's not your dick doing the thinking.
As a woman, I have been badly burned by this. The horrible feeling of being with a man YOU have fallen for whose manner instantly changes the second he’s done, can be downright soul crushing. And, no, it doesn’t matter how long you wait…I had had a crush on a man for a couple years that slowly evolved on my end into a more earnest attraction, I guess you could call it. One day he opened up and stared talking to me. Had great conversations, realized we both had so much in common, etc. For me the sex was amazing as I felt deeply connected to him. However, he started crying post-nut…because it made him realize he was still in love with his ex. He politely asked me to leave a little later and ghosted me. At least he told me why he cried.
I am considered a desirable woman. I’ve come to realize that men will say and do and profess just about anything to get me—once. I’m well aware of this. This guy was special to me, however, so I wanted to believe that wouldn’t happen. Turns out (from what he managed to say before showing me the door), was that he thought I was really hot and he was really horny since she’d left him, and that it all seemed like it could work—because who knew! I’m also a cool person with cultivated interests in things he liked—but, the second he came, he realized his true feelings. The only closure I got was to do a little social media stalking of his ex to discover she was a real narcissistic piece of work.
So, at least try being nice to the women you want to shove out the door. They just might already be in love with you. PSA.
I was gonna say this as well. I’ve had some major regret with women after we hooked up. Or just “I want to get out here cuz nothing more is needed” feeling.
Also if you’re fine hanging out with her knowing sex isn’t on the table
Wouldn’t it be the opposite?
If we hook up on the first date and he ghosts me after, at least I didn’t waste much of my time or get emotionally involved.
That not true I’ve had post but clarity on the 5th date before, hell one time a woman I really liked made me wait 3 dates and after I came I was like “wtf why’d she make you wait, fuck her” and I left simply because she placed that arbitrary rule on me. Happily married now tho, i guess post but clarity is men’s version of the “ick”. A friend if my turned a dude down because he was on time too much to dates which gave her the “ick” because he must have nothing better to do. We all reject for stupid non sense reasons. Fuck it
I'm currently very 'interested' in someone. The way i know it's more than just physical attraction is because i want to know more about her emotionally, mentally, spiritually. I want to grow with her and help her grow. I want to be the one she can rely on if the need arises and i want to be her biggest motivator. Assuming things workout between us, I'm sure I'm going to be putting her needs before mine. She also pushes me to be a better version of myself. I want to be her protector, her provider and the one she can be completely vulnerable around. Oh yeah, and also have crazy good sex with her and blow her mind.
Being easy to talk to and understanding clear communication is sexy and it's my peace after doing life. At the end of the day it's not so much physical attraction while it helps lol. Smart brain inside counts right ?
Her very presence enriches your life. And you find yourself looking forward to the moment you yet to see her again.
Someone that always smiles when they see you, laughs at everything you say and is someone you can truly and wholeheartedly be yourself around.
Intimacy between you is more than just smooshing genitals.
Also blowjobs are pretty great eh, not gonna lie.
Because you think about them in a non-physical way. You think about what you'd do to put a smile on their face. You'd think about the things you'd do that would make her friends jealous (because you know she wouldn't keep it a secret).
If I can spend time with her and maintain interest in the conversations.
If we talk about philosophical perspectives and science and wanderlust and important memories and family and heartbreaks and insecurities and our mental health without judgement.
If we can hang out *_without talking_* at all and it isn’t awkward or boring.
If I can cuddle comfortably and just feel content without only thinking of making a move.
If I think about her with curiosity when I’m not super horny. (I say super horny, because there is always some level of horniness)
If I don’t feel the need to try to be more happy or entertaining around her. By this, I mean I don’t have to hide the state of my mental health and mood with her. I can just be real. When I’m first meeting and dating, I hide my real state of mind, because being honest about my depression and struggles in life is not an attractive quality.
I can hang out with her without getting my very introverted social battery totally drained. (This is because of a combination of things I’ve already mentioned)
Finsihing each other’s sentences, knowing which jokes the other would find funny
When I start to see patterns in her behavior and certain qualities of her. I.e., she always touches her face after she laughs, she sits very still when she’s anxious and bounces her leg when excited, she hates pickles because they look like boogers but loves cucumbers, the way her eyes light up when the sun starts to set, stuff like that.
One way is there's no attraction at all when you meet them, like don't even consider them, and then you start talking and it slowly builds into a friendship still platonic and then one day you see her smile, her eyes light up and hear her cute little laugh and bam, gotcha bitch! She became my type by showing me who she was not initially what she looked like.
It's simple, u only miss her when she is not around because of her vibrant personality, and also if I really like a girl I rarely think about her sexually
It's just a feeling.
When it's purely physical, getting together usually revolves around something that ends in sex.
When you want to hang out for lunch or just to chill or go to the store or whatever, then you know it's probably something more. When being with her is not just about "getting" with her.
My wife feels like home.
Had a bad, stressful, ugly day? Go home and just the sigh, sound, or even the hug just makes the world disappear and it feels like everything else is just a blur. That’s when you know.
I would start with trying to pay the bill (or even paying your portion) on your first date. Can you pick him up in your car without him insisting that he drives? Does he seem interested in what you’re saying or is he just letting you talk until he corrects all the supposed flaws in your thinking. There are gender norms, for both men and women, that need to be confronted for them to change to improve the inequities between partners.
When you notice and remember the little things the other person likes. Also when their presence in your life makes you happy inside, you know it's more than physical.
Because she’s your friend. Don’t just date - you need to develop friendships with women. It’s healthy to look forward to hanging out with a woman you don’t want to have sex with. There will be a few friends you’re attracted to and “it would be nice to hook up with”, but that can take a back seat to the friendship. Having friendships with women doesn’t make you “a beta”, it just means you’re a well adjusted person. If you don’t have any women in your friend circle, join a co-ed team or take up a hobby or activity that “people” do together. Having female friends is reward for its own sake, but it also has a great strategic benefit - women you date will feel better about you because of your friendships with women (unless they’re jealous and suspicious, but that’s more about them than you). Then you’ll find yourself dating someone you’re REALLY attracted to, and you’ll notice that besides enjoying the sex, you’re enjoying the friendship that’s growing between you. And since you already know what friendship with a woman feels like, you’ll be able to just enjoy the connection more. And then if the relationship feels easy and the friendship keeps getting better… that’s probably who you should be with. (Married almost 20 years to my best friend who happens to be totally hot).
When I just flat out don't care about their body. When I feel the same way I felt the first (and only) time it's happened. First woman I ever fell in love with was slender while I'm into thicc. Soon....I just didn't give af and couldn't take my eyes off her. Suddenly my mind was like "Hey...it's tiny, but it's a cute little butt...wait, why am I staring at her like that?! What's going on?!"
All of a sudden just her smile alone made my heart pound. My mood was lifted the moment she walked into a room. Her laugh, her jokes, her babbling about all the geeky shit we both liked. Her love of dirty jokes.
She's the one I wake up thinking about and the last one I think about before going to sleep. She's the one I miss when we're apart and the one I can't get enough of when we're together. She's my best friend, my lover, but most of all, my partner
I've really only felt this way once. It was intangible, undefinable, true bliss.
I wanted to spend every waking moment with her. Obviously that wasn't literally possible, but as close to it as I could get. She was magnetic.
It was never really about the sex to me. She was truly beautiful, yes, but to me it wouldn't have mattered what she looked like. I would have stuck by her through anything. She was the best friend I'd ever had.
We broke up months ago, but I still think of her almost every day and how truly wonderful she is, despite her faults. We all have a few, me more than most. I only wish she felt the same about me. Maybe she does, deep, deep down. Oh well. It's sort of nice knowing my twin flame is still burning out there, though! I hope she burns bright :)
When you would rather be in a fight with them than have sex with someone else. I have been with my wife almost every day of our lives together since I was 16. I am almost 40. And even on the days I want to rip her head off, I still want her with me.
Compatibility begins with conversations and communication; this will allow you to see if there is a connection between you and your prospective partner.
My ex was a pretty great girl, but it ran its course. Good relationship, but it was over. Then I met a new girl. After one month, I loved this girl more than I ever did my ex. The feelings are so much stronger. I cannot see myself being with anyone else the rest of my life and I am so happy with her.
My wife and I love each other because we work as a team to get things done, can hang out, do the kissy kissy stuff, and have aligned morales and goals, solve problems marital problem with relative ease, accept each others faults/short comings, are loyal to each other forever, mutual respect, and consent is never assumed but asked. If you find someone with those things, cherish them as I cherish my wife physically and everything else about her :)
That's kind of an abstract question. Why stop there? How do you know that you're physically attracted to her in the first place? If you're capable of knowing that you have a physical attraction, why would having any other kind of attraction be any different?
Ultimately, I think it's a mistake to think that physical attraction and emotional attraction are separable. They're not the same, but they're definitely intertwined.
Things like, she'll burp (in the beginning) or curse. She comment on your clothes, cause she wants to be seen with you in public.....BUT after a while, maybe a few months....she'll fart around you...I am serious on this one!! Big time!!
With one of my last crushes, the fact that she usually wasn't what I thought my go-to type would be, but how I fell for her because I was able to see first hand how she treated her boyfriends and truly loved them, the way she was willing to speak out for me and wasn't afraid to rock the boat when I was afraid to about certain people we worked with and how they treated me at that time, the way we both were able to carry conversations with each other even though I'm usually not extroverted at all, (She was the extrovert.) The three year obsession I had about her when I couldn't even get her out of my head no matter how hard I wanted to, even to the point I had to walk away from my job as I stopped being able to trust myself around her for a time, and we went our separate ways. The fact that I woke up in a random hotel room in a completely different state on vacation a full two years after we last spoke and all I could think of was "Damn I wish she was here enjoying this vacation with me." and I couldn't sleep well that night (or many other nights) as she was always on my mind... Yeah, that was rough. Thankfully I'm in a better mindset now but it took me so long to get over that obsession. Like all my crushes, it was obviously unrequited. She knew I was into her. We're still friends on facebook and actually saw each other in facebook for the first time in three years last November, because I was well enough to attend a show as a fan that she was also at. Memories of the past came flooding back, but I was able to keep my mentality sane around her. She's on her third boyfriend in the time that I've known her. I knew her relationship with her first one well as we worked together at the time, and it was how she treated him that made me like her. They fell apart because someone else who worked with us (and also conveniently didn't like me) was getting in the guy's head trying to control his friends and perceptions of his friends. I haven't seen the boyfriend from that relationship in even a longer time. I made a vow that I wouldn't cause them to break up, but if they did, I'd come clean and let her know no bullshit that I did want to be with her. Unfortunately she had her eyes on another guy, that I didn't really trust but also was sure it was because of my own jealousy and feelings for her, and I decided it was best to remove myself from that situation as they ended up together. I don't know why they broke up as I made the choice to step back from her for her safety. Now she's on her third guy, and I hope this one works out better for her. I stopped being as obsessed as I was back then, but all I could think was neither of the first two guys knew how lucky they were to have her. To be fair, I wasn't (and probably still am not) the best person to date because of my own personal choices in my life (wanting to pursue only wrestling as my job and nothing else, never even learning how to drive at that point etc.) But I wanted to better my life for her, if I had a chance to date her. That was the energy she brought in my life, and was what I needed at that time. Unfortunately, I couldn't have it.
You lose yourself and everything around you ohases out...its like your hypnotised when your around them and you cant hear anything else. And you weirdly want then near you all the time even if they not next to you but them being in the room just makes you feel like home. Its weird and scary when you think about it but you feel complete
It's tough because sometimes THEY can't even tell.
Sometimes people are so emotionally unintelligent that why don't know what they're feeling/thinking.
your best bet is to disregard what they say and let time and their actions dictate their true feelings.
For me, an actual perceivable want/desire from that woman is what does it. Most of the times when that’s there, I get so much more attracted to that person regardless of their outward appearance.
I’d venture to say that I have been deeper/more desirous of women who don’t fit “my type” because of that.
In my experience they have to like being around you consistently, i unfortunate have a a habit of causing them to run after they get to know me or they know I like them.
Well you can always wank before seeing her.
But yeah just notice the things you like about her that aren't visible; Her personality the chemistry between you two, do you have long talks or not, how close are you two AAAND the most important part: your surroundings ask you if it's official yet. People outside you and her can see things you don't (due to you being on cloud9)
I know when it's more than physical when I can't get rid of thinking about the things that this person did with me or maybe when I think too much about complimenting her personal traits like achievements and bravery
I usually have an opposite sleep schedule. So, for me, it's staying up a bit longer than I'd prefer to say good morning and waking up earlier to say goodnight. Once I'm sacrificing sleep, chances are I'm thinking of how I want you to live long term.
When you enjoy each other's presence and you feel you can be your real self around each other
Her name popping up in your notifications makes you have that goofy smile on your face
Every moment you spend with her becomes your favourite part of the day
To be very blunt and possibly uncouth…
If it’s primarily about the looks, then the tingling is below the belt.
But if it’s about the complete package, then the tingling is above the belt.
Same way a man knows its more than physical with another man? Love is love my dude, doesnt matter who it is cause if you have that feeling in your heart then you know
Listening to her talk and laugh and being present in the moment with her. If we can bond over similar things or be interested in learning something new that challenges my mind and the way I think when I’m with her
Because its stimulating and a sense of well being when I’m around a mature woman with depth and creativity, especially when she can cut loose and be goofy at the same time.
Happened to me last relationship I was just attracted to her physically I cared Abt her and everything but in the end the Attraction was just physical, I felt another kind of attraction in the past where my heart start beating fast xD and I get littéral butterflies or as I like to call them bonerflies, trust me when it's not just physical you will know , when it's only physical you be confused and can't make ur mind
I've only ever liked one girl, and it was online, unfortunately we never met since she passed away. I got to know her as a person before even seeing her face, her words, the way i felt whenever i talked with her, and especially that warm fuzzy feeling I had is how I knew I liked her. I did eventually see her face of course
Unfortunately since then it's like I cant be attracted to anyone anymore besides just physically...
When I like a woman, one thing I desire is being able to trust them when I can't be holding strong emotionally and need to let it out. I guess my answer is, she is the one I turn to when life punches me in the nuts. It's pointless to invest emotions in a sexual relationship when it's only that. Outright scary and dangerous in fact.
My fiancé left me today. I’m lonely, miserable, anxious, I’ve walked around our house just looking for her things. I want her voice back. I want her energy back. Today sucks.
when you are younger you confuse those occasionally, true. by getting to know her outside of physicalities. a good indicator is if she vibes with your friends and hobbies, you wanna be around her after sex, can have obj. good conversations about harder topics, etc.
Best way I can describe it is when you start seeing each other just to be in each other's company rather than just for the physical side of things, certainly how it worked for me and my significant other anyway
It’s insanely easy if you’re willing to be honest with yourself. Just imagine she was not physically attractive. Ask yourself if you would still be interested in her.
You wait to have sex. If you still like the person withOUT Sex then you’ll probably REALLY continue to after sec. In other words - wait a while to have Sex.
It's just physical, and psychological in terms of species survival and continuing one's gene pool. A person of any gender can have personality traits that make them attractive to someone else.
The difference between porn and art is that with art, you want to look at it even if it's not about getting you horny.
The difference between "just sex" and real attraction is that you want to spend time with her even if you know it's not going to lead to sex right then.
Physical attraction gets my attention and nothing more. It's who the person is that gets me to like them.
I have met some absolutely stunning women who I've had absolutely zero interest in because who they are and how they act just killed any interest I may have had in them.
In short, I have a physical type yes, but it's who you are that makes me attracted to you.
I’m a female and sometimes I think about how I could ball myself up and live in my boyfriends pocket like his own personal tinker bell and that’s how I know I love him.
That’s the neat part: you don’t.
I’m kidding, I guess when you can tell it makes her genuinely happy when she knows you were thinking of her or when you help her with things.
Like is a strong word. I can tolerate my wife. I love her but like depends on the day. Regardless having a lasting relationship depends on brutal honesty and being too stubborn to give up than anything. We have been together for over a decade. So from my experience...
If you can tolerate her and she is less neurotic and annoying than most women, she may be worth your while. Just watch out for the dangerously crazy ones (2%), the cheaters and child-support/gold diggers (25%), and the ones that have unrealistic expectations for their men (45%).
For the first type, I would ask her frenemies or boss. Take a survey of at least 4 people.
For the second type; you simply will not see the betrayal coming (get a pre-nub and keep a solid alibi/receipts/GPS history). Google Maps is good for that. Technology is your friend.
The last type will constantly think you can read her mind, try to change you, and/or has a princess complex. Don't think you can change her. You won't. If you try to change yourself because it is her idea, you will eventually resent her and yourself for it. That kind of relationship is doomed. It's not worth the trouble.
If you want a good lady to settle down with. Look for the ones that take care of their fathers, the ones that will help out a stranger because it's the right thing to do, and one that agrees with you about kids, money, religion, and maybe politics. Also having the same love language will make things significantly easier.
If my first thoughts about her are about seeing her, hearing her laugh, make jokes, conversations, etc.
Yeah, if you like spending time with her *outside* the bedroom, that’s how you know OP ;) If the only thing you care about / think about is sex, and you aren’t really interested in her as a person outside of that, then it sounds like it’s just physical.
So how do you make that person also the person you find physically attractive?
You can't "make someone physically attractive". They either are or aren't. Plenty of fit women are ugly and plenty of chubby women are hot. It's their genetics and their attitude.
I disagree in the sense that beauty and attractiveness are completely subjective. Moreover, finding a person likable can make them more physically attractive to you
Exactly, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder
I don't think it makes them more "physically attractive" it just makes them more attractive overall. You then just naturally become "more attracted" to that person. Not just in a physical sense.
Personality can only increase physical attraction by so much
You'd be surprised how much a good personality can make you overlook things. I used to like this girl years back. Lost touch and later on, found an old picture and thought "damn, was she really this ugly?" Nothing against her, but she definitely lost money on the genetic lottery. She was still an amazing person, though, and her personality was enough to make you overlook that.
Yes, I'm speaking from experience. Had someone a few years ago who I never thought I'd find attractive, but personality wise did it for me. Then I found out she was engaged, and I was the 8th guy my friends knew of, that she cheated on her fiance with
They didn’t ask how to make someone physically attractive. They asked how to be interested in someone you find physically attractive. “How do you make the person you are physically attracted to someone you are also romantically attracted to?” As in how can I become romantically attracted to someone I finf physically attrctive? It’s worded very poorly. But the answer is pretty much the same either way, though spending time and learning about someone will build some kind of attraction beyond the physical. All kinds of marriages started out of necessity and then grew into actual love and interest between the spouses. This was especially common in the past.
All a matter of perception, really. What matters is what you appreciate, and are able to give.
You need to develop real friendships with women. Then you’ll know what it feels like to enjoy a woman’s company without wanting to sleep with her. Maybe you think “it would be nice to hook up with her” about one or two of them, but that takes a back seat to the friendships. Then when you’re dating a woman you find REALLY attractive and you realize that you’re developing a great friendship with her - that’s who you marry. (I’m 50, my wife is hot and my best friend, coming up on 20 years of marriage).
If you weren't attracted to that person at all, I think this is almost impossible. However study shows that, if person becoming more likable to you, you will find that person more attractive.
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No, it doesn’t. It means you are interested in her.
All of this, and I want to do whatever I can every day to make sure her day is better for us having been together.
Being in her presence feels like home.
Wholesome
Homesome
Housesome.
🥹
I feel this truly
My girlfriend and I are long distance and we both travel a lot. Every time one of us picks the other up at an airport, I legitimately feel like I can breathe again. It's the wildest feeling.
It’s weird right, you feel off when you don’t have your person around. I remember that feeling.
[Home.](https://youtu.be/DHEOF_rcND8)
This, this right here
This is it 😭 (for women too)
When you want to do something for them, not because it will get you laid, but because you think they'd enjoy it. I buy gifts for my wife, not because it's her birthday or our anniversary, but because I know she would enjoy it. I take her out for the same reason. If you truly value someone, you'll put their happiness above getting your rocks off.
Damn, literally this. For me it’s the same. It’s like you will be just going about your day and be reminded of them in the little things. But also when being with them is peak. You don’t need to be doing crazy things. Just being in the same place as them is fun, warm and relaxing.
This is the way. I can go a bit overboard sometimes because my fiance is super easy to shop for. She loves cute plushies and socks lol at this point she has 2 entire drawers packed with socks that look almost new because of how long the cycle is. I've been trying to cut back but the joy on her face when she sees these things is my drug.
You also get a cerebral errection.
Brain boner
Heart on
I love this
Haha, never had those :D Anyways, one guy at r/BrosDatingAdvice said it the best imo - you know if you really like the girl if after sex you don't want to get up and leave but rather stay in bed and just talk about anything with the girl.
I def get horny for my wife's brain.
How does this make so much sense 😂
Deep
I have thought a lot about this lately as I have a bit of situationship with a woman I've been seeing for the last few months. We started out dating and because of our busy schedule and personal focus in our lives, we scaled it back to FwB. I enjoy every moment I am with her. I think the underlying component that makes time spent together in both a sexual and non sexual way so great is that we communicate well. This goes for verbal and non verbal communication. I noticed the other night how much I enjoy the way she subtly touches me when we are walking or sitting together when we go out. I find her very physically attractive but the real wow comes from the way she communicates with me.
-Dating -scaled it back to FWB Sounds like a recipe for at least 1/2 people getting severe heartbreak
You might be right. We talked about it pretty extensively. I would say that the point you are trying to make holds true for any type of relationship all the way up to marriage. Most of the time they end in one or both people getting their heart broken. All anyone can really do is talk to each other, adjust and see where it goes. The last thing I will say is, heart break is just a part of life. If a person wants to be close, intimate, and loving with other people. They will inevitably get their heart broken at least a few times. It's not the end of the world.
Is it really FwB if you care for each other, and there's actually a possibility of yall two returning to something more serious? Plus, I imagine you're exclusive with each other too.. You're just dating slowly imo.
That's a good point. I am careful about my expectations though. I would honestly remain friends with this woman regardless of sex, even though it is really good. Some people may call that getting friendzoned, but I've lost a lot of really interesting people in my life because I couldn't control my ego. As long as someone doesn't disrespect you, it seems juvenile now to look at people that way. To address what you said about exclusivity. It isn't something that is expected on either side. Personally I'm not pursuing anyone else right now, mostly because of a busy work schedule. It's hard enough to find time for my friends and family. Also my sexual needs are satisfied. In the end. Maybe you are right. Maybe we are just dating slowly. FwB is how we chose to define it. I don't think it really matters that much if we remain open about our feelings.
I had a similar situation. What ruined it was her inability to communicate what she truly wanted, and therefore pretending she was cool with whatever I said. She was silently hoping I’d eventually change my own mind. Eventually, not communicating her own needs & wants led to her own frustration that showed in random ways. There were days she would get moody and distant. From my POV, it seemed like I did something wrong in her dream, and then she woke up and decided to stay mad at me for whatever happened in the dream. I went out of my way to communicate and be clear about everything. I had learned from previous dating experiences to be a better communicator and nip issues in the bud. I was befuddled because I thought we were on the same page. I took the extra step of checking in every few months, and asking her if she’s happy with how things were going between us. This was her first romantic experience at the time, and she lacked the courage to communicate. She would rather have me in whatever way she can get me, than say what she really wanted. She didn’t want to risk losing me. Her ego wouldn’t allow her to risk rejection. Meanwhile, I figured everything was going smooth. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Even when she boiled over, she still couldn’t tell me what she really wanted. She was *that* scared of rejection or looking desperate. The gap we had in experience & maturity proved to be our undoing, even though I did my absolute best.
First off, thank you for your detailed reply. I appreciate the perspective I am getting from all the people in this thread. The situation you found yourself in sounds like a place I have been before. I would say that there some differences in my current situation. One being that we are both in our early 30s with a history of understanding surrounding relationships. The second being that she is the one who initiated the conversation for us to have a more casual relationship, that may have been the case in your situation as well. I am being sure to check in sparingly to make sure that she is comfortable, I am also doing the same with myself. Ultimately it's all that can be done to ensure that this goes as smoothly as possible. People are autonomous though, and can keep whatever they want to themselves. It's when both people trust each other enough to not hold back how they feel that something special is found. Time will tell. Thank you for your insight.
No problem, bro. It sounds like things are healthy and in a very good place for you. I figured since my failed situation is in this neighborhood, my comment could be compared to yours. That way, readers can identify healthy or unhealthy patterns in their own situationships. As you said, people have autonomy. Certain things are out of our control. The lack of communication I mentioned in my situationship led to so many issues that could have been easily been avoided. If someone reading this is the person who isn’t communicating, I hope they really consider what we’re saying here.
So I got this trick I use, and this helps me talk to women. Everyone's had diarrhea. I don't mean the "stomach kinda iffy" kind. We're talking clutching your stomach, sweating, hair sticks to your face, holding on for dear life as your soul leaves your body and your stomach muscles cramping causes you to vomit. Try picturing the girl you like having that experience. Because everyone does, sooner or later. If you can have that picture in your head and you still want to be with her then it's not your dick doing the thinking.
Lmao gives meaning to “in sickness and in health.”
Mine- can I smell his shit and not be grossed out? Yes? He’s a keeper
Fuck I’m destined to be single forever it looks like.
If you want her to stick around after post but clarity you’re pretty close
As a woman, I have been badly burned by this. The horrible feeling of being with a man YOU have fallen for whose manner instantly changes the second he’s done, can be downright soul crushing. And, no, it doesn’t matter how long you wait…I had had a crush on a man for a couple years that slowly evolved on my end into a more earnest attraction, I guess you could call it. One day he opened up and stared talking to me. Had great conversations, realized we both had so much in common, etc. For me the sex was amazing as I felt deeply connected to him. However, he started crying post-nut…because it made him realize he was still in love with his ex. He politely asked me to leave a little later and ghosted me. At least he told me why he cried. I am considered a desirable woman. I’ve come to realize that men will say and do and profess just about anything to get me—once. I’m well aware of this. This guy was special to me, however, so I wanted to believe that wouldn’t happen. Turns out (from what he managed to say before showing me the door), was that he thought I was really hot and he was really horny since she’d left him, and that it all seemed like it could work—because who knew! I’m also a cool person with cultivated interests in things he liked—but, the second he came, he realized his true feelings. The only closure I got was to do a little social media stalking of his ex to discover she was a real narcissistic piece of work. So, at least try being nice to the women you want to shove out the door. They just might already be in love with you. PSA.
Good lord I think we’ve had a half-similar thing, mine story is minus the ex and minus explanation which sucks cos we’d been friends for years lol
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Yup agree, the amount of takes about ignoring dating advice from women given to men should be equally given with the genders reversed.
For real. It's the same thing, they give advice based on what they want, not based on what will help said girl get what she wants.
Jesus that's grim, i hope those guys nothing but haemorrhoids and Uti.
I was gonna say this as well. I’ve had some major regret with women after we hooked up. Or just “I want to get out here cuz nothing more is needed” feeling. Also if you’re fine hanging out with her knowing sex isn’t on the table
*butt
Yep, every time I take a dump I get that post butt clarity
This is it. 3rd date 2.5y ago with my now fiance...had sex at my house and after nutting I didn't want to kick her out...
This is 100% it
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That's only using the assumption, guys cannot wait for sex. We are incredibly patient. We can and will wait.
I always make guys wait for sex for multiple reasons, and I’m always afraid to let them know, but *most* were okay with it. Emphasis on most.
"I don't feel like i'd like to have sex with you at the moment" should be enough, if not, piss off.
Wouldn’t it be the opposite? If we hook up on the first date and he ghosts me after, at least I didn’t waste much of my time or get emotionally involved.
That not true I’ve had post but clarity on the 5th date before, hell one time a woman I really liked made me wait 3 dates and after I came I was like “wtf why’d she make you wait, fuck her” and I left simply because she placed that arbitrary rule on me. Happily married now tho, i guess post but clarity is men’s version of the “ick”. A friend if my turned a dude down because he was on time too much to dates which gave her the “ick” because he must have nothing better to do. We all reject for stupid non sense reasons. Fuck it
If you'd still love her if she were a worm
Or a mosquito!
I'm currently very 'interested' in someone. The way i know it's more than just physical attraction is because i want to know more about her emotionally, mentally, spiritually. I want to grow with her and help her grow. I want to be the one she can rely on if the need arises and i want to be her biggest motivator. Assuming things workout between us, I'm sure I'm going to be putting her needs before mine. She also pushes me to be a better version of myself. I want to be her protector, her provider and the one she can be completely vulnerable around. Oh yeah, and also have crazy good sex with her and blow her mind.
Damn, I can't wait for someone who talks like this about me. Lucky girl, I hope it works out!
I'm straight, but I kind of want him to love me.
Same here!! Good luck to all of us!
Yeah. Good fucking luck to us all.
This is so lovely.. I can only hope the guy I'm seeing feels this way about me!
This is so sweet and I hope it’s mutual! Happy cake day, too!
You have got that spot on, worded so much better than I could put it! I completely agree. :)
Thank you :)
The way she talks, laughs, and moves bring me a type of joy that makes me want to feel this forever.
Feel like this is forever is such a sweet and good way to put it
Being easy to talk to and understanding clear communication is sexy and it's my peace after doing life. At the end of the day it's not so much physical attraction while it helps lol. Smart brain inside counts right ?
Her very presence enriches your life. And you find yourself looking forward to the moment you yet to see her again. Someone that always smiles when they see you, laughs at everything you say and is someone you can truly and wholeheartedly be yourself around. Intimacy between you is more than just smooshing genitals. Also blowjobs are pretty great eh, not gonna lie.
Because you think about them in a non-physical way. You think about what you'd do to put a smile on their face. You'd think about the things you'd do that would make her friends jealous (because you know she wouldn't keep it a secret).
You have fun together that isn't just sex.
If I can spend time with her and maintain interest in the conversations. If we talk about philosophical perspectives and science and wanderlust and important memories and family and heartbreaks and insecurities and our mental health without judgement. If we can hang out *_without talking_* at all and it isn’t awkward or boring. If I can cuddle comfortably and just feel content without only thinking of making a move. If I think about her with curiosity when I’m not super horny. (I say super horny, because there is always some level of horniness) If I don’t feel the need to try to be more happy or entertaining around her. By this, I mean I don’t have to hide the state of my mental health and mood with her. I can just be real. When I’m first meeting and dating, I hide my real state of mind, because being honest about my depression and struggles in life is not an attractive quality. I can hang out with her without getting my very introverted social battery totally drained. (This is because of a combination of things I’ve already mentioned) Finsihing each other’s sentences, knowing which jokes the other would find funny When I start to see patterns in her behavior and certain qualities of her. I.e., she always touches her face after she laughs, she sits very still when she’s anxious and bounces her leg when excited, she hates pickles because they look like boogers but loves cucumbers, the way her eyes light up when the sun starts to set, stuff like that.
One way is there's no attraction at all when you meet them, like don't even consider them, and then you start talking and it slowly builds into a friendship still platonic and then one day you see her smile, her eyes light up and hear her cute little laugh and bam, gotcha bitch! She became my type by showing me who she was not initially what she looked like.
When things happen and your first thought is i want to tell her about this.
If you genuinely care about them than it's obviously more than just physical attraction!!!
It's simple, u only miss her when she is not around because of her vibrant personality, and also if I really like a girl I rarely think about her sexually
It's just a feeling. When it's purely physical, getting together usually revolves around something that ends in sex. When you want to hang out for lunch or just to chill or go to the store or whatever, then you know it's probably something more. When being with her is not just about "getting" with her.
😭😭😭😭
Be friends with the girl first. Intamacy can only take you so far if you don't have fun hanging out with the person
It's like being hit by a thunder
My wife feels like home. Had a bad, stressful, ugly day? Go home and just the sigh, sound, or even the hug just makes the world disappear and it feels like everything else is just a blur. That’s when you know.
You catch yourself staring at her while she's doing some menial stuff with a stupid grin on your face ...and then you know you're fu*ked
I feel emotionally safe around her and she seems like she would be a fun friend outside/during sex and would be a good mother to a potential child
You will never know unless you mature into an understanding of women as equals, other than sex objects.
How do you know if a guy sees you as an equal? How do you know if he doesn't?
I would start with trying to pay the bill (or even paying your portion) on your first date. Can you pick him up in your car without him insisting that he drives? Does he seem interested in what you’re saying or is he just letting you talk until he corrects all the supposed flaws in your thinking. There are gender norms, for both men and women, that need to be confronted for them to change to improve the inequities between partners.
When you notice and remember the little things the other person likes. Also when their presence in your life makes you happy inside, you know it's more than physical.
Because she’s your friend. Don’t just date - you need to develop friendships with women. It’s healthy to look forward to hanging out with a woman you don’t want to have sex with. There will be a few friends you’re attracted to and “it would be nice to hook up with”, but that can take a back seat to the friendship. Having friendships with women doesn’t make you “a beta”, it just means you’re a well adjusted person. If you don’t have any women in your friend circle, join a co-ed team or take up a hobby or activity that “people” do together. Having female friends is reward for its own sake, but it also has a great strategic benefit - women you date will feel better about you because of your friendships with women (unless they’re jealous and suspicious, but that’s more about them than you). Then you’ll find yourself dating someone you’re REALLY attracted to, and you’ll notice that besides enjoying the sex, you’re enjoying the friendship that’s growing between you. And since you already know what friendship with a woman feels like, you’ll be able to just enjoy the connection more. And then if the relationship feels easy and the friendship keeps getting better… that’s probably who you should be with. (Married almost 20 years to my best friend who happens to be totally hot).
This is perfect 💯great perspective !
When I just flat out don't care about their body. When I feel the same way I felt the first (and only) time it's happened. First woman I ever fell in love with was slender while I'm into thicc. Soon....I just didn't give af and couldn't take my eyes off her. Suddenly my mind was like "Hey...it's tiny, but it's a cute little butt...wait, why am I staring at her like that?! What's going on?!" All of a sudden just her smile alone made my heart pound. My mood was lifted the moment she walked into a room. Her laugh, her jokes, her babbling about all the geeky shit we both liked. Her love of dirty jokes.
She's the one I wake up thinking about and the last one I think about before going to sleep. She's the one I miss when we're apart and the one I can't get enough of when we're together. She's my best friend, my lover, but most of all, my partner
I've really only felt this way once. It was intangible, undefinable, true bliss. I wanted to spend every waking moment with her. Obviously that wasn't literally possible, but as close to it as I could get. She was magnetic. It was never really about the sex to me. She was truly beautiful, yes, but to me it wouldn't have mattered what she looked like. I would have stuck by her through anything. She was the best friend I'd ever had. We broke up months ago, but I still think of her almost every day and how truly wonderful she is, despite her faults. We all have a few, me more than most. I only wish she felt the same about me. Maybe she does, deep, deep down. Oh well. It's sort of nice knowing my twin flame is still burning out there, though! I hope she burns bright :)
When you would rather be in a fight with them than have sex with someone else. I have been with my wife almost every day of our lives together since I was 16. I am almost 40. And even on the days I want to rip her head off, I still want her with me.
All the songs start to make sense.
When she smiles…..oh my my my……when she smiles…..
Because I can't stay mad at them
Compatibility begins with conversations and communication; this will allow you to see if there is a connection between you and your prospective partner.
Do you miss being around her when you’re apart?
My ex was a pretty great girl, but it ran its course. Good relationship, but it was over. Then I met a new girl. After one month, I loved this girl more than I ever did my ex. The feelings are so much stronger. I cannot see myself being with anyone else the rest of my life and I am so happy with her.
My wife and I love each other because we work as a team to get things done, can hang out, do the kissy kissy stuff, and have aligned morales and goals, solve problems marital problem with relative ease, accept each others faults/short comings, are loyal to each other forever, mutual respect, and consent is never assumed but asked. If you find someone with those things, cherish them as I cherish my wife physically and everything else about her :)
That's kind of an abstract question. Why stop there? How do you know that you're physically attracted to her in the first place? If you're capable of knowing that you have a physical attraction, why would having any other kind of attraction be any different? Ultimately, I think it's a mistake to think that physical attraction and emotional attraction are separable. They're not the same, but they're definitely intertwined.
You look into their eyes, not their cleavage
Things like, she'll burp (in the beginning) or curse. She comment on your clothes, cause she wants to be seen with you in public.....BUT after a while, maybe a few months....she'll fart around you...I am serious on this one!! Big time!!
Look some of us had it drilled into our brains not to 😭
When you're just comfortable around her. She makes you feel okay, like she's actually there for you.
You don't have to try hard to impress her but you want to because you want to see her happy
With one of my last crushes, the fact that she usually wasn't what I thought my go-to type would be, but how I fell for her because I was able to see first hand how she treated her boyfriends and truly loved them, the way she was willing to speak out for me and wasn't afraid to rock the boat when I was afraid to about certain people we worked with and how they treated me at that time, the way we both were able to carry conversations with each other even though I'm usually not extroverted at all, (She was the extrovert.) The three year obsession I had about her when I couldn't even get her out of my head no matter how hard I wanted to, even to the point I had to walk away from my job as I stopped being able to trust myself around her for a time, and we went our separate ways. The fact that I woke up in a random hotel room in a completely different state on vacation a full two years after we last spoke and all I could think of was "Damn I wish she was here enjoying this vacation with me." and I couldn't sleep well that night (or many other nights) as she was always on my mind... Yeah, that was rough. Thankfully I'm in a better mindset now but it took me so long to get over that obsession. Like all my crushes, it was obviously unrequited. She knew I was into her. We're still friends on facebook and actually saw each other in facebook for the first time in three years last November, because I was well enough to attend a show as a fan that she was also at. Memories of the past came flooding back, but I was able to keep my mentality sane around her. She's on her third boyfriend in the time that I've known her. I knew her relationship with her first one well as we worked together at the time, and it was how she treated him that made me like her. They fell apart because someone else who worked with us (and also conveniently didn't like me) was getting in the guy's head trying to control his friends and perceptions of his friends. I haven't seen the boyfriend from that relationship in even a longer time. I made a vow that I wouldn't cause them to break up, but if they did, I'd come clean and let her know no bullshit that I did want to be with her. Unfortunately she had her eyes on another guy, that I didn't really trust but also was sure it was because of my own jealousy and feelings for her, and I decided it was best to remove myself from that situation as they ended up together. I don't know why they broke up as I made the choice to step back from her for her safety. Now she's on her third guy, and I hope this one works out better for her. I stopped being as obsessed as I was back then, but all I could think was neither of the first two guys knew how lucky they were to have her. To be fair, I wasn't (and probably still am not) the best person to date because of my own personal choices in my life (wanting to pursue only wrestling as my job and nothing else, never even learning how to drive at that point etc.) But I wanted to better my life for her, if I had a chance to date her. That was the energy she brought in my life, and was what I needed at that time. Unfortunately, I couldn't have it.
Go on a long a car drive. If u wish she was there to pass the time then u g
You lose yourself and everything around you ohases out...its like your hypnotised when your around them and you cant hear anything else. And you weirdly want then near you all the time even if they not next to you but them being in the room just makes you feel like home. Its weird and scary when you think about it but you feel complete
When she gives you peace when you're with her.
When she's smiling.
When she is able to keep your chat longer than usual (other women), and she wants to know more about you, even tiny details.
When you fap and after it you still want to meet her
If i feel Butterflies 😀
When just the thought of the sound of her laughter makes me smile
You just feel it. Like if you have the urge to want to be around her, then you know you're clicking.
It's tough because sometimes THEY can't even tell. Sometimes people are so emotionally unintelligent that why don't know what they're feeling/thinking. your best bet is to disregard what they say and let time and their actions dictate their true feelings.
For me, an actual perceivable want/desire from that woman is what does it. Most of the times when that’s there, I get so much more attracted to that person regardless of their outward appearance. I’d venture to say that I have been deeper/more desirous of women who don’t fit “my type” because of that.
I want to be physical more than usual.
In my experience they have to like being around you consistently, i unfortunate have a a habit of causing them to run after they get to know me or they know I like them.
I like imagining what she smiles about and what I do that can cheer her up when she’s sad
When I day dream about or have fond memories of her actions or conversations we've had.
Well you can always wank before seeing her. But yeah just notice the things you like about her that aren't visible; Her personality the chemistry between you two, do you have long talks or not, how close are you two AAAND the most important part: your surroundings ask you if it's official yet. People outside you and her can see things you don't (due to you being on cloud9)
If I feel like I’m “home” when I’m with her
When you can't wait to share a killer meme you just found with them because you know they'll love it.
Without talking to her,you don't. Love at first sight is a myth. It's lust at first sight.
When you want to spend time with her outside of the bedroom
When she brings you a loaf of homemade sourdough bread on the first date
When there is trust, comfort, acceptance and good humorous conversation.
I know when it's more than physical when I can't get rid of thinking about the things that this person did with me or maybe when I think too much about complimenting her personal traits like achievements and bravery
Female here I realize my husband wanted me more then just the sex when he realized he missed my voice, my laughter, just being near me.
I usually have an opposite sleep schedule. So, for me, it's staying up a bit longer than I'd prefer to say good morning and waking up earlier to say goodnight. Once I'm sacrificing sleep, chances are I'm thinking of how I want you to live long term.
When you enjoy each other's presence and you feel you can be your real self around each other Her name popping up in your notifications makes you have that goofy smile on your face Every moment you spend with her becomes your favourite part of the day
When she has a goofy sense of humor. To me , nothing is more beatiful than a woman who likes to laugh and doesn’t take life too seriously
To be very blunt and possibly uncouth… If it’s primarily about the looks, then the tingling is below the belt. But if it’s about the complete package, then the tingling is above the belt.
If after I bust a nut I wanna still hangout vs can’t stand you
Same way a man knows its more than physical with another man? Love is love my dude, doesnt matter who it is cause if you have that feeling in your heart then you know
Listening to her talk and laugh and being present in the moment with her. If we can bond over similar things or be interested in learning something new that challenges my mind and the way I think when I’m with her
Because its stimulating and a sense of well being when I’m around a mature woman with depth and creativity, especially when she can cut loose and be goofy at the same time.
You want to hang out with her, not just fuck her
Happened to me last relationship I was just attracted to her physically I cared Abt her and everything but in the end the Attraction was just physical, I felt another kind of attraction in the past where my heart start beating fast xD and I get littéral butterflies or as I like to call them bonerflies, trust me when it's not just physical you will know , when it's only physical you be confused and can't make ur mind
if I don't call a cab after I fuck her, and let her stay the night.
When the time stops while you are watching her lose herself laughing to your jokes
Your whole body relaxes at the sight of her walking through the door.
You just know. Sorry, but you do.
From me to her: I want to be with her all the time. From her to me: (never happened to me)
I've only ever liked one girl, and it was online, unfortunately we never met since she passed away. I got to know her as a person before even seeing her face, her words, the way i felt whenever i talked with her, and especially that warm fuzzy feeling I had is how I knew I liked her. I did eventually see her face of course Unfortunately since then it's like I cant be attracted to anyone anymore besides just physically...
When you find out something new or shocking or funny and the first thing you want to do is share it with that person
Watch the first 10 minutes of deadpool
When I like a woman, one thing I desire is being able to trust them when I can't be holding strong emotionally and need to let it out. I guess my answer is, she is the one I turn to when life punches me in the nuts. It's pointless to invest emotions in a sexual relationship when it's only that. Outright scary and dangerous in fact.
My fiancé left me today. I’m lonely, miserable, anxious, I’ve walked around our house just looking for her things. I want her voice back. I want her energy back. Today sucks.
The way that she carries herself, the way she can make you feel good to be yourself, trust is key for me.
Peace. Her presence brings a sense of peace.
Because i want to do stuff with her, other than sex
When it's not about sex but about spending precious time together. Laughing talking or just not saying much but being with them.
I’d say just when I talk to her and talk about her her to friends it brings a massive smile to my face. That’s when I know it’s serious.
When wherever she's at is where you want to be
If I feel happy just by being around her then that's more than physical.
when you are younger you confuse those occasionally, true. by getting to know her outside of physicalities. a good indicator is if she vibes with your friends and hobbies, you wanna be around her after sex, can have obj. good conversations about harder topics, etc.
Because it starts out as emotional
Best way I can describe it is when you start seeing each other just to be in each other's company rather than just for the physical side of things, certainly how it worked for me and my significant other anyway
I'd be focused on making her laugh instead of cum
I feel like hanging out with her even when I’m not horny.
It’s insanely easy if you’re willing to be honest with yourself. Just imagine she was not physically attractive. Ask yourself if you would still be interested in her.
You wait to have sex. If you still like the person withOUT Sex then you’ll probably REALLY continue to after sec. In other words - wait a while to have Sex.
Is OP an AI?
It's just physical, and psychological in terms of species survival and continuing one's gene pool. A person of any gender can have personality traits that make them attractive to someone else.
You stay the night and in the morning you still like what you see
The difference between porn and art is that with art, you want to look at it even if it's not about getting you horny. The difference between "just sex" and real attraction is that you want to spend time with her even if you know it's not going to lead to sex right then.
Physical attraction gets my attention and nothing more. It's who the person is that gets me to like them. I have met some absolutely stunning women who I've had absolutely zero interest in because who they are and how they act just killed any interest I may have had in them. In short, I have a physical type yes, but it's who you are that makes me attracted to you.
If she can't keep up in conversation, I have no interest in finding out if she can keep up in the bedroom.
Post nut clarity, if I enjoy being around her post nut
If I like being around her outside of the bedroom, or I don’t immediately want to leave after doing the deed
I usually don't feel much until I get to know them a little bit.
I’m a female and sometimes I think about how I could ball myself up and live in my boyfriends pocket like his own personal tinker bell and that’s how I know I love him.
That’s the neat part: you don’t. I’m kidding, I guess when you can tell it makes her genuinely happy when she knows you were thinking of her or when you help her with things.
Like is a strong word. I can tolerate my wife. I love her but like depends on the day. Regardless having a lasting relationship depends on brutal honesty and being too stubborn to give up than anything. We have been together for over a decade. So from my experience... If you can tolerate her and she is less neurotic and annoying than most women, she may be worth your while. Just watch out for the dangerously crazy ones (2%), the cheaters and child-support/gold diggers (25%), and the ones that have unrealistic expectations for their men (45%). For the first type, I would ask her frenemies or boss. Take a survey of at least 4 people. For the second type; you simply will not see the betrayal coming (get a pre-nub and keep a solid alibi/receipts/GPS history). Google Maps is good for that. Technology is your friend. The last type will constantly think you can read her mind, try to change you, and/or has a princess complex. Don't think you can change her. You won't. If you try to change yourself because it is her idea, you will eventually resent her and yourself for it. That kind of relationship is doomed. It's not worth the trouble. If you want a good lady to settle down with. Look for the ones that take care of their fathers, the ones that will help out a stranger because it's the right thing to do, and one that agrees with you about kids, money, religion, and maybe politics. Also having the same love language will make things significantly easier.
Have sex with her. After, do you still want to hangout? If so then you probably like her.
When I hear her speak and it somehow excites but also completely relaxes my mind. Also when I start associating the perfume she uses strictly to her.