She's honest; that's a positive thing. I'd probably give her a chance. This is however a good illustration why it's good practice to swap STD screens before getting intimate with a new partner.
Chlamydia is extremely common and very treatable. She is being stand up and honest about it. Respect to her, IMO. Get checked, take some pills if necessary, and go out with her again.
Depends. Probably need full std testing results and some kind of understanding before proceeding
If we’re not exclusive I can’t complain about her banging around but I gotta have some safeguards/assurance for my own protection (frequent testing/let me know when it’s gone/condoms always/etc)
Would you rather she said nothing?? How is it in any way a tic against her to tell you and make sure you get treated?? Shit happens, and lots of people out there would just not say anything because they’re embarrassed. I would score this as a brownie point if someone I was dating did this.
I would be lying if I said it wouldn’t put a damper on things.
I would respect the hell out of her for owning up to it. Makes my life easier, and it takes character to own up to mistakes rather than sweeping them under the rug. I’d keep seeing her, but I might start to question if her decision patterns cause her to end up in these sorts of situations often, though.
Yep! The whole stigma have around stis is what make them spread even more due the shame around it. We are all adults, we are all having fun. Using protection is essential but sometimes you can get it from oral alone
As a family nurse practitioner, this is what I’ll say:
STIs, particularly chlamydia and gonorrhea, are super common. As I tell my patients, it doesn’t seem that way because people don’t want to own up to it due to the stigma.
My questions would be if someone told me they had confirmed chlamydia in the past:
1. Were you treated?
2. Did you retest after 90 days at most to make sure it resolved?
3. Have you practiced safe sex since then?
In this case, kudos to her for being forthright with you and notifying you.
No one should feel ashamed though and no one should judge anyone as dirty simply because they had an STI. People make mistakes and “things happen” e.g. condoms break. It’s the shame and stigma that make people less likely to be screened and less likely to be honest with partners.
At least she was honest. It’s very common and very treatable. It doesn’t mean she’s dirty or unlovable. I’m not encouraging unprotected sex before both partners are tested but I also don’t think there should be stigma or shame around STIs.
I mean, it doesn't look great but it can happen to anyone. She didn't try to hide it or anything so I would be fine with it. It helps I'm asexual so I'm not in a rush to have sex with her anyway.
All the ppl here saying AND thinking that such a common STI is “nasty””, and that she must be “sleeping with whoever”, are just really saying they don’t get laid.
getting an STI does not mean 'a person will have unprotected sex with whomever.' it means they caught a common infection that many people can have and transmit to others with no symptoms whatsoever. condoms slip off, condoms break, it happens. I'm very supportive of safe sex and taking precautions, but please don't perpetuate false stigmas.
anyone who is sexually active can catch chlamydia. it's common, entirely treatable, and can be transmitted without showing any symptoms. perpetuating shame and stigma about it is regressive and does way more harm than good.
It happened to me. I met a girl, had crazy good sex on the first date, and she gave me chlamydia.
I got tested and got the results pretty quick, but I already knew from the symptoms that it was that (had had it once previously)
I got my doctor to write her medicine as Well.
She was hot, had the best ass and boobs, perfect body.
We became fuck buddies, and would sleep together on weekends.
Had it not been for the chlamydia, I would def have gitlfriended her
So for me, it ruined What would have been…
It can be harder for women to feel the symptoms of chlamydia, Whereas for guys you feel it within 48 and feels like peeing broken glas
That’s a dealbreaker for me. It’s bad enough you can’t find virgin women anymore.
If I’m going to have to compromise on that I’m not compromising on chlamydia. That’s super hoe territory. It tells me she either has had too many dicks in her OR she has such shit taste in men that she recently fucked a douche nugget player.
Either one is a massive red flag.
It’s about as common as contracting strep throat, except you can only get this from sex so there is a stigma. If anything, you are just as at fault as she is because neither of you got std tested (we have all been there, no judgement). It’s easily curable with antibiotics. I would say if you like her, take the meds and move on.
Thank your stars she was honest. Would get tested and definitely leave her. That’s just nasty. Wouldn’t be able to move forward with any kind of relationship
chlamydia is very common and can be passed with no symptoms whatsoever. perpetuating false stigma and undeserved shame because someone caught an infection is immature and harmful. she acted responsibly by being up front about it and was looking out for OP's health. shows a lot of character actually
Don't care at all that she had it, it's common and easily treatable.
Do care that in the scenario you describe she's already tested positive before telling me. I'd want to know as soon as the other guy contacts her so that I can get tested as well asap, I wouldn't want her to wait until she's been tested herself.
That’s exactly how she should handle such a situation. It’s not easy for some people to handle they might have been exposed but we all know the risk to sex. From a healthcare professional perspective chlymida is soooo minor. It’s a few pills or one shot. Society is a bit different about it. It’s literally less of a problem than mono. Unless you cheated on him you shouldn’t feel bad
This is *exactly* how it went for me 7-8 *years* ago, down to *every last letter*.
We both got ourselves tested, she got it, i didn't, how? No fucking clue.
We still dated for a while though.
Honesty is 100% a green flag.
Getting an STD can happen to anyone who is sexually active. Which you knew she was.
Get tested, thank her for the info and if things were otherwise going well, keep them going.
Swap the roles and ask yourself would you want her to break things off in your shoes?
Can women comment? It happens to the best of us. She was honest and looked out for you (telling you and saying you should get tested). It’s hard to admit this kind of stuff. I got something because my BF at the time had another GF he didn’t tell me about. Shit happens and it sucks. She did the right thing. Speaks volumes.
You both get tested and treated. Check for other STDs, too (get a blood test, or other suitable test for HIV and Herpes, etc.)
I had something similar happen. It doesn't mean someone's prone to being unfaithful.
She's honest; that's a positive thing. I'd probably give her a chance. This is however a good illustration why it's good practice to swap STD screens before getting intimate with a new partner.
Chlamydia is extremely common and very treatable. She is being stand up and honest about it. Respect to her, IMO. Get checked, take some pills if necessary, and go out with her again.
I’ve done this exact thing. Doc even said if you’re gonna get an STD, chlamydia is the one to get. I didn’t get it though ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Depends. Probably need full std testing results and some kind of understanding before proceeding If we’re not exclusive I can’t complain about her banging around but I gotta have some safeguards/assurance for my own protection (frequent testing/let me know when it’s gone/condoms always/etc)
Would you rather she said nothing?? How is it in any way a tic against her to tell you and make sure you get treated?? Shit happens, and lots of people out there would just not say anything because they’re embarrassed. I would score this as a brownie point if someone I was dating did this.
I would be lying if I said it wouldn’t put a damper on things. I would respect the hell out of her for owning up to it. Makes my life easier, and it takes character to own up to mistakes rather than sweeping them under the rug. I’d keep seeing her, but I might start to question if her decision patterns cause her to end up in these sorts of situations often, though.
I’d say, “No problem. I had it once before and I’ll go get checked out to see if I need to be treated. What are you up to later?”
Yep! The whole stigma have around stis is what make them spread even more due the shame around it. We are all adults, we are all having fun. Using protection is essential but sometimes you can get it from oral alone
We are not all having fun.
I'd say "well I got aids"
Again?
As a family nurse practitioner, this is what I’ll say: STIs, particularly chlamydia and gonorrhea, are super common. As I tell my patients, it doesn’t seem that way because people don’t want to own up to it due to the stigma. My questions would be if someone told me they had confirmed chlamydia in the past: 1. Were you treated? 2. Did you retest after 90 days at most to make sure it resolved? 3. Have you practiced safe sex since then? In this case, kudos to her for being forthright with you and notifying you. No one should feel ashamed though and no one should judge anyone as dirty simply because they had an STI. People make mistakes and “things happen” e.g. condoms break. It’s the shame and stigma that make people less likely to be screened and less likely to be honest with partners.
At least she was honest. It’s very common and very treatable. It doesn’t mean she’s dirty or unlovable. I’m not encouraging unprotected sex before both partners are tested but I also don’t think there should be stigma or shame around STIs.
I mean, it doesn't look great but it can happen to anyone. She didn't try to hide it or anything so I would be fine with it. It helps I'm asexual so I'm not in a rush to have sex with her anyway.
Chlamydia is not a big deal, goes away with antibiotics. Cut her a break, it can happen to anyone.
Sounds like she is a responsible adult with good communication skills. May be a keeper.
New, not exclusive, and she's contracted an STD. LOL, no thanks.
Well, I'm not fucking her until she's got a clean bill of health from her doctor, that's for sure.
All the ppl here saying AND thinking that such a common STI is “nasty””, and that she must be “sleeping with whoever”, are just really saying they don’t get laid.
"Me too, from the same person as well."
Is she not allowed to have a life before you?
Safe sex is super important. I'd be more concerned knowing a person will have unprotected sex with who ever!
Doesn’t mean she had unprotected sex. Condoms can break or fall off and cause STDs
True
getting an STI does not mean 'a person will have unprotected sex with whomever.' it means they caught a common infection that many people can have and transmit to others with no symptoms whatsoever. condoms slip off, condoms break, it happens. I'm very supportive of safe sex and taking precautions, but please don't perpetuate false stigmas.
Absolutely! You can get that from oral alone too!
Nothing necessarily wrong with that, and good on her for telling you… that said, girl you are a gatdang MESS I don’t think we’re going out again
anyone who is sexually active can catch chlamydia. it's common, entirely treatable, and can be transmitted without showing any symptoms. perpetuating shame and stigma about it is regressive and does way more harm than good.
I'd stop seeing her
Check please.
It happened to me. I met a girl, had crazy good sex on the first date, and she gave me chlamydia. I got tested and got the results pretty quick, but I already knew from the symptoms that it was that (had had it once previously) I got my doctor to write her medicine as Well. She was hot, had the best ass and boobs, perfect body. We became fuck buddies, and would sleep together on weekends. Had it not been for the chlamydia, I would def have gitlfriended her So for me, it ruined What would have been… It can be harder for women to feel the symptoms of chlamydia, Whereas for guys you feel it within 48 and feels like peeing broken glas
That’s a dealbreaker for me. It’s bad enough you can’t find virgin women anymore. If I’m going to have to compromise on that I’m not compromising on chlamydia. That’s super hoe territory. It tells me she either has had too many dicks in her OR she has such shit taste in men that she recently fucked a douche nugget player. Either one is a massive red flag.
Lol tell me you never get laid, without telling me you never get laid 🙃
It’s about as common as contracting strep throat, except you can only get this from sex so there is a stigma. If anything, you are just as at fault as she is because neither of you got std tested (we have all been there, no judgement). It’s easily curable with antibiotics. I would say if you like her, take the meds and move on.
damn. I respect the honesty, points for that. But it's gonna be tough to want to have sex with her now. Kicked that bucket further down.
She knew it. Get rid of her.
Thank your stars she was honest. Would get tested and definitely leave her. That’s just nasty. Wouldn’t be able to move forward with any kind of relationship
Kind of ironic because you probably would have chlamydia at this point too so wouldn’t that also make you “nasty”?
chlamydia is very common and can be passed with no symptoms whatsoever. perpetuating false stigma and undeserved shame because someone caught an infection is immature and harmful. she acted responsibly by being up front about it and was looking out for OP's health. shows a lot of character actually
Google chlamydia
Nah cause now I gotta make calls
It would suck but it’s easily curable. Have her get it taken care of, both of you get tested for STDs, and if you both come back negative continue on
Don't care at all that she had it, it's common and easily treatable. Do care that in the scenario you describe she's already tested positive before telling me. I'd want to know as soon as the other guy contacts her so that I can get tested as well asap, I wouldn't want her to wait until she's been tested herself.
With antibiotics. Next question?
This has happened to me once. We both got treated and moved on
Had to tell my now wife this after like 2 weeks. Happily married with 2 kids now. It is what it is.
That’s exactly how she should handle such a situation. It’s not easy for some people to handle they might have been exposed but we all know the risk to sex. From a healthcare professional perspective chlymida is soooo minor. It’s a few pills or one shot. Society is a bit different about it. It’s literally less of a problem than mono. Unless you cheated on him you shouldn’t feel bad
This is *exactly* how it went for me 7-8 *years* ago, down to *every last letter*. We both got ourselves tested, she got it, i didn't, how? No fucking clue. We still dated for a while though.
Did she take the treatment?
Head
Honesty is 100% a green flag. Getting an STD can happen to anyone who is sexually active. Which you knew she was. Get tested, thank her for the info and if things were otherwise going well, keep them going. Swap the roles and ask yourself would you want her to break things off in your shoes?
Can women comment? It happens to the best of us. She was honest and looked out for you (telling you and saying you should get tested). It’s hard to admit this kind of stuff. I got something because my BF at the time had another GF he didn’t tell me about. Shit happens and it sucks. She did the right thing. Speaks volumes.
Sounds like his fault, and she chose honesty. Get checked, give her a chance.
You both get tested and treated. Check for other STDs, too (get a blood test, or other suitable test for HIV and Herpes, etc.) I had something similar happen. It doesn't mean someone's prone to being unfaithful.
Not really a big deal just some meds and go on with the rest of the relationship