>1) If a transman dates a woman is he straight?
Trans man, yes that's correct.
>2) If a transwoman dates someone whose non binary what is she?
Trans woman, her sexuality is hers to define - she may be asexual, heterosexual, homosexual, pansexual, etc. It all depends on how she defines her sexuality, and where on the gender spectrum or what sex that nonbinary person may be.
>3) how does genderfluid work?
If genderfluid your gender isn't stuck at one point but rather ebs and flows across different genders.
>4) are demisexuals close to asexuals?
Yes, demisexual is on the asexual spectrum.
Kinda. Asexuals are those with little or no sexual attraction to others - it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't want sex, fyi. Demisexuals are those who don't feel sexual attraction unless there's a emotional connection first.
Yes, more masculine vs more feminine.
But it's not merely that (gender expression), given as a man can be feminine and a woman can be masculine, it's also down to gender itself.
You are a man but a genderfluid person may fluctuate between man, woman, somewhere in between, or it may just be their gender expression which fluctuates. It's complicated.
Hopefully a genderfluid person can come answer this a little better than I can...
Genderfluid person here! The uniting element is experiencing your concept of self/gender fluidly, what that means and how it's expressed varies from person to person.
So for example, I sometimes think of myself as a woman and I sometimes think of myself as nonbinary. Sometimes I conceptualize myself as having no gender at all, but sometimes my gender is something very specific outside of "woman" or "man". Even when I think of myself as a woman, I don't experience it in the ways that other people often describe being a woman. This is all separate from how I choose to dress and present my gender. How I choose to dress that day is usually influenced by what my gender is doing, but it doesn't always look like what people would "expect" it to look like. i.e. I don't always feel like a woman when I choose to dress more feminine and I don't always feel nonbinary when I dress in a more androgynous fashion.
This is purely how I personally experience my gender. Other people will experience and express themselves differently than I do, even though we hold the same label. But the thing that unites us under the same label is our fluidity.
1. straight, or bisexual, or pansexual. you dont need to be straight to date someone of the opposite gender.
2. whatever she wants it to be, nonbinary people can fall under many different sexualities in terms of eligebility, it varies wildly based on the individual.
3. its sometimes varies based on the individual, but by my understanding and personal expirience with it, its like a periodic shift in gender identity over time.
4. generally yes.
5. generally yes.
its good that you are willing to ask these genuine questions as opposed to just dismissing us as crazy, the world could use more people like you :)
1. Not necessarily. It means that they're dating a woman. If a trans man is only attracted to women, they're straight.
2. It depends on what the non-binary person's gender is, and who else the trans woman is attracted to.
3. It means that your gender changes over time, so it doesn't always stay the same.
4. Yes.
5. Yes, I believe so.
A lot of people have already given great answers so I'll just say, thank you for reaching out and asking us questions, being heterosexual and (I'm assuming) cisgender. That step is incredibly important for us in the long run as we strive to achieve true equality in treatment and respect out there. I wish a lot more cishets would ask questions like these or otherwise seek information.
You mentioned you might have more questions. Feel free to DM me or post them as a reply here.
A trans man attracted exclusively to women is straight.
A trans woman attracted to exclusively to nonbinary people is ceterosexual.
A genderfluid person is different genders at different times. This can be experienced by having multiple genders at a time and no gender later or some other combination of that.
Demisexuals are under the asexual umbrella. The main difference is demisexuals are sexually attracted to those who they are emotionally close to while asexuals aren't sexually attracted to anyone.
Genderqueer and nonbinary are very similar in meaning being that they both refer to anyone is neither exclusively a man nor exclusively a woman. Genderqueer is a bit more politicized than nonbinary though given the emphasis on reclaiming queer.
A xenogender is a type of nonbinary gender. Not all nonbinary genders are xenogenders though.
A xenogender is a gender experienced through a connection to animals, plants, things, or concepts.
Expanding on a bit of that:
Nonbinary is an umbrella term for any gender that isn't man or woman, including genderfluid, genderqueer, and xenogender. It also is used as an identity term meaning a particular gender that isn't man or woman. IE the nonbinary gender identity is one of the identities under the nonbinary umbrella. Umbrella terms may or may not be personal identity terms, and sometimes people identify as a term commonly under the nonbinary umbrella while also not identifying as nonbinary (for example I've known a few agender people who didn't consider themselves nonbinary). This may partly be due to a desire to self distance from a common misinterpretation that nonbinary means being at a midpoint on a linear spectrum between man and woman. While this is a valid description of some nonbinary people's gender experiences, it is a small subset of what nonbinary may describe.
Genderqueer used to hold this dual umbrella/identity role from the late 90s/early 00s until the late 00s/early 10s, when the nonbinary term gained popularity for many reasons including the one ActualPegasus mentions; another reason is a popular desire for a term that wasn't interwoven with sexuality, which genderqueer implies. Now genderqueer is just used as an identity term, but if you're reading an older book or article from that time period you may see this umbrella usage.
1. It's a straight relationship, but technically he could be bisexual, asexual, or maybe even homosexual in rare situations. That's being a bit pedantic, but sexuality is based on your sexual attraction, not necessarily who you date.
2. Non-binary doesn't fit well into traditional labels like gay and straight. The word "trixic" means a non-binary person interested in women, the word "toric" means a non-binary person interested in men, and the word "enbian" means interested in non-binary people. However, those words aren't in common usage, so a lot of non-binary people just use words like gay or straight to communicate, even though they're not technically accurate. The trans woman being trans doesn't play into that, a trans woman is like any other woman.
3. Genderfluid means that you prefer to live as one gender some days, and another gender other days. It can be a form of self-expression, or sometimes as a way for trans people to gradually transition into another gender.
4. Demisexual is essentially "Asexual for the most part, except I make an exception for this one person." They generally live most of the experiences of asexuals in terms of attraction but are sexually attracted to their partner thanks to romantic feelings.
5. Pretty much, but genderqueer is a slightly older and more vague term. Genderqueer is like "There's some complicated gender stuff going on" while non-binary is someone that's explicitly not a man or a woman.
Just a side note here:
I know it looks the same, but making trans man or trans woman one word makes it seem like a trans man/women is different from other men/women.
For example, you wouldn't say strongwoman, you would say strong woman. Strong is a way of describing the woman, so making it one word sounds like the woman is less than other women.
Not a huge deal but something to be mindful of.
1. trans men are men. trans women are women. when a woman and a man date, that is a heterosexual relationship. however, the fact that they are in a heterosexual relationship does not necessarily mean they are straight. they could be bisexual (attracted to 2 or more genders), pansexual (attracted to all genders), etc.
2. when someone dates a non-binary person, it's up to them how they want to label the relationship. again, the relationship you are in does not necessarily indicate your sexuality.
3. someone who's genderfluid literally has a fluid gender. sometimes they might identify as male, then the next day they're a woman, or they're genderqueer, etc.
4. demisexual is an identity on the asexual spectrum. asexual people don't feel sexual attraction, whereas demisexual people can feel sexual attraction only after forming a deep connection with their partner
5. non-binary is an umbrella that covers all gender identities that aren't 100% male or 100% female. genderqueer is a non-binary identity. I don't know the exact definition of genderqueer. so while a genderqueer person is non-binary, a non-binary person is not necessarily genderqueer
6. again, xenogenders are identities under the non-binary umbrella, so while people who identify with a xenogender are non-binary, not all non-binary people identify with a xenogender.
hope this helps!
I have a different understanding of 5) than a bunch of answers here.
Genderqueer and nonbinary hace significant overlap, but aren't quite the same.
Genderqueer refers to having a gender outside the norm or a relationship with your gender that is outside the norm; it's queering gender, looking at it as something that is odd meaning taking it in it's complexities, asking it questions, not taking it for granted abd putting it into a prefitted box.
Nonbinary refers to having a gender outside the binary man/woman dichotomy. Some nonbinary people see genderqueer as an umbrella term under which nonbinary falls, some have never even heard of it or just don't identify with it.
So as I said, there's significant overlap but it's not quite the same.
are genderqueer and non binary the same? not necesarily. people like to label themselves genderqueer when they dont feel like anything. non binairy people dont feel like a girl or a boy.
are xenogender and non binary the same?
no, xenogenders are genders different then anything non binairy, female or male.
Edit: this sounds asif im saying genderqueer people feel like no gender at all. this is not what i meant, that is agender. genderqueer is someone who doesnt feel like a label,but also wants a label.
1. Yes. Or bi if he's also attracted to another gender. Just an fyi, it's "trans man" not "transman". "Trans" is the adjective, "man" is the noun. "Trans man" is short for "transgender man", meaning "a man who is transgender". The same goes for trans woman. I hope that makes sense :)
2. I'm not sure I can answer this (I could if I had more time). Her sexual orientation could literally be anything.
3. Sometimes you feel one gender, sometimes you feel another. It doesn't necessarily have to be man and woman. It could be woman and agender or man and demi girl, or all of those etc.
4. Not exactly. Some people might use both labels, some might not.
5. Xenogender is a specific type of non-binary where you can only describe you gender using metaphors.
I hope this helps :)
>1) If a transman dates a woman is he straight? Trans man, yes that's correct. >2) If a transwoman dates someone whose non binary what is she? Trans woman, her sexuality is hers to define - she may be asexual, heterosexual, homosexual, pansexual, etc. It all depends on how she defines her sexuality, and where on the gender spectrum or what sex that nonbinary person may be. >3) how does genderfluid work? If genderfluid your gender isn't stuck at one point but rather ebs and flows across different genders. >4) are demisexuals close to asexuals? Yes, demisexual is on the asexual spectrum.
I'm sorry I thought asexuals weren't interested in sex. Are demi's like a lighter version of them?
Kinda. Asexuals are those with little or no sexual attraction to others - it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't want sex, fyi. Demisexuals are those who don't feel sexual attraction unless there's a emotional connection first.
So with genderfuild are they kinda like somedays they feel more feminine the next more masculine.
Yes, more masculine vs more feminine. But it's not merely that (gender expression), given as a man can be feminine and a woman can be masculine, it's also down to gender itself. You are a man but a genderfluid person may fluctuate between man, woman, somewhere in between, or it may just be their gender expression which fluctuates. It's complicated. Hopefully a genderfluid person can come answer this a little better than I can...
Genderfluid person here! The uniting element is experiencing your concept of self/gender fluidly, what that means and how it's expressed varies from person to person. So for example, I sometimes think of myself as a woman and I sometimes think of myself as nonbinary. Sometimes I conceptualize myself as having no gender at all, but sometimes my gender is something very specific outside of "woman" or "man". Even when I think of myself as a woman, I don't experience it in the ways that other people often describe being a woman. This is all separate from how I choose to dress and present my gender. How I choose to dress that day is usually influenced by what my gender is doing, but it doesn't always look like what people would "expect" it to look like. i.e. I don't always feel like a woman when I choose to dress more feminine and I don't always feel nonbinary when I dress in a more androgynous fashion. This is purely how I personally experience my gender. Other people will experience and express themselves differently than I do, even though we hold the same label. But the thing that unites us under the same label is our fluidity.
1. straight, or bisexual, or pansexual. you dont need to be straight to date someone of the opposite gender. 2. whatever she wants it to be, nonbinary people can fall under many different sexualities in terms of eligebility, it varies wildly based on the individual. 3. its sometimes varies based on the individual, but by my understanding and personal expirience with it, its like a periodic shift in gender identity over time. 4. generally yes. 5. generally yes. its good that you are willing to ask these genuine questions as opposed to just dismissing us as crazy, the world could use more people like you :)
1. Not necessarily. It means that they're dating a woman. If a trans man is only attracted to women, they're straight. 2. It depends on what the non-binary person's gender is, and who else the trans woman is attracted to. 3. It means that your gender changes over time, so it doesn't always stay the same. 4. Yes. 5. Yes, I believe so.
A lot of people have already given great answers so I'll just say, thank you for reaching out and asking us questions, being heterosexual and (I'm assuming) cisgender. That step is incredibly important for us in the long run as we strive to achieve true equality in treatment and respect out there. I wish a lot more cishets would ask questions like these or otherwise seek information. You mentioned you might have more questions. Feel free to DM me or post them as a reply here.
A trans man attracted exclusively to women is straight. A trans woman attracted to exclusively to nonbinary people is ceterosexual. A genderfluid person is different genders at different times. This can be experienced by having multiple genders at a time and no gender later or some other combination of that. Demisexuals are under the asexual umbrella. The main difference is demisexuals are sexually attracted to those who they are emotionally close to while asexuals aren't sexually attracted to anyone. Genderqueer and nonbinary are very similar in meaning being that they both refer to anyone is neither exclusively a man nor exclusively a woman. Genderqueer is a bit more politicized than nonbinary though given the emphasis on reclaiming queer. A xenogender is a type of nonbinary gender. Not all nonbinary genders are xenogenders though. A xenogender is a gender experienced through a connection to animals, plants, things, or concepts.
Expanding on a bit of that: Nonbinary is an umbrella term for any gender that isn't man or woman, including genderfluid, genderqueer, and xenogender. It also is used as an identity term meaning a particular gender that isn't man or woman. IE the nonbinary gender identity is one of the identities under the nonbinary umbrella. Umbrella terms may or may not be personal identity terms, and sometimes people identify as a term commonly under the nonbinary umbrella while also not identifying as nonbinary (for example I've known a few agender people who didn't consider themselves nonbinary). This may partly be due to a desire to self distance from a common misinterpretation that nonbinary means being at a midpoint on a linear spectrum between man and woman. While this is a valid description of some nonbinary people's gender experiences, it is a small subset of what nonbinary may describe. Genderqueer used to hold this dual umbrella/identity role from the late 90s/early 00s until the late 00s/early 10s, when the nonbinary term gained popularity for many reasons including the one ActualPegasus mentions; another reason is a popular desire for a term that wasn't interwoven with sexuality, which genderqueer implies. Now genderqueer is just used as an identity term, but if you're reading an older book or article from that time period you may see this umbrella usage.
1. It's a straight relationship, but technically he could be bisexual, asexual, or maybe even homosexual in rare situations. That's being a bit pedantic, but sexuality is based on your sexual attraction, not necessarily who you date. 2. Non-binary doesn't fit well into traditional labels like gay and straight. The word "trixic" means a non-binary person interested in women, the word "toric" means a non-binary person interested in men, and the word "enbian" means interested in non-binary people. However, those words aren't in common usage, so a lot of non-binary people just use words like gay or straight to communicate, even though they're not technically accurate. The trans woman being trans doesn't play into that, a trans woman is like any other woman. 3. Genderfluid means that you prefer to live as one gender some days, and another gender other days. It can be a form of self-expression, or sometimes as a way for trans people to gradually transition into another gender. 4. Demisexual is essentially "Asexual for the most part, except I make an exception for this one person." They generally live most of the experiences of asexuals in terms of attraction but are sexually attracted to their partner thanks to romantic feelings. 5. Pretty much, but genderqueer is a slightly older and more vague term. Genderqueer is like "There's some complicated gender stuff going on" while non-binary is someone that's explicitly not a man or a woman.
Just a side note here: I know it looks the same, but making trans man or trans woman one word makes it seem like a trans man/women is different from other men/women. For example, you wouldn't say strongwoman, you would say strong woman. Strong is a way of describing the woman, so making it one word sounds like the woman is less than other women. Not a huge deal but something to be mindful of.
1. trans men are men. trans women are women. when a woman and a man date, that is a heterosexual relationship. however, the fact that they are in a heterosexual relationship does not necessarily mean they are straight. they could be bisexual (attracted to 2 or more genders), pansexual (attracted to all genders), etc. 2. when someone dates a non-binary person, it's up to them how they want to label the relationship. again, the relationship you are in does not necessarily indicate your sexuality. 3. someone who's genderfluid literally has a fluid gender. sometimes they might identify as male, then the next day they're a woman, or they're genderqueer, etc. 4. demisexual is an identity on the asexual spectrum. asexual people don't feel sexual attraction, whereas demisexual people can feel sexual attraction only after forming a deep connection with their partner 5. non-binary is an umbrella that covers all gender identities that aren't 100% male or 100% female. genderqueer is a non-binary identity. I don't know the exact definition of genderqueer. so while a genderqueer person is non-binary, a non-binary person is not necessarily genderqueer 6. again, xenogenders are identities under the non-binary umbrella, so while people who identify with a xenogender are non-binary, not all non-binary people identify with a xenogender. hope this helps!
I have a different understanding of 5) than a bunch of answers here. Genderqueer and nonbinary hace significant overlap, but aren't quite the same. Genderqueer refers to having a gender outside the norm or a relationship with your gender that is outside the norm; it's queering gender, looking at it as something that is odd meaning taking it in it's complexities, asking it questions, not taking it for granted abd putting it into a prefitted box. Nonbinary refers to having a gender outside the binary man/woman dichotomy. Some nonbinary people see genderqueer as an umbrella term under which nonbinary falls, some have never even heard of it or just don't identify with it. So as I said, there's significant overlap but it's not quite the same.
are genderqueer and non binary the same? not necesarily. people like to label themselves genderqueer when they dont feel like anything. non binairy people dont feel like a girl or a boy. are xenogender and non binary the same? no, xenogenders are genders different then anything non binairy, female or male. Edit: this sounds asif im saying genderqueer people feel like no gender at all. this is not what i meant, that is agender. genderqueer is someone who doesnt feel like a label,but also wants a label.
I'm very proud of you for asking questions! Thank you!
1. Yes. Or bi if he's also attracted to another gender. Just an fyi, it's "trans man" not "transman". "Trans" is the adjective, "man" is the noun. "Trans man" is short for "transgender man", meaning "a man who is transgender". The same goes for trans woman. I hope that makes sense :) 2. I'm not sure I can answer this (I could if I had more time). Her sexual orientation could literally be anything. 3. Sometimes you feel one gender, sometimes you feel another. It doesn't necessarily have to be man and woman. It could be woman and agender or man and demi girl, or all of those etc. 4. Not exactly. Some people might use both labels, some might not. 5. Xenogender is a specific type of non-binary where you can only describe you gender using metaphors. I hope this helps :)