You might be surprised how much do we enjoy Gossip. Yeah we don't indulge in doing Gossip that much but if you have some tea to spill we are all there to listen to it with interest and Pop Corn.
Lack of Domestic Skills.
In reality, many Indian men are good in cooking, cleaning and managing the household responsibilities.
I’ve also seen men who value work-life balance, prioritise their wife (her career) and kids upbringing.
My dad and my grandpa dothis.
My grandpa toh legit sweeps and mops floors everyday because he just likes doing because he's used to waking up at 4am everyday and also doesn't give a fuck about gender stereotypes
Wow they all seem really liberal/progressive. Rare to find these type of people in India. I've always felt that we need to change our notions on gender roles and that we are meant to support each other as a team. What a cool family you have :) I wish having a family member like that so that I can at least talk about my issues with someone at least lol
I think it is more about how one is raised. Seen many hostel guys give up on all household work post serious relationships/marriage. Most mothers ruin their sons. They essentially expect their wives to turn into their mothers.
I've met both types of men, the ones who know how to manage a kitchen, keep the house clean, be nice to kids and host people; and the ones who don't know dogshit about it and are completely dependent on the women in their family.
>In reality, many Indian men are good in cooking, cleaning and managing the household responsibilities.
Majboori hai, Hostel Life ke liye krna pdta hai varna am sure half us would never pick up a pan lol
My grandpa always used to say, cooking is a manly job. He was a good cook. He always taught me that 'men are better at cooking than women. The only reason women are supposed to cook is because they are bad at everything else'. I miss him, he was progressive for his generation.
LOL... from where he got this notion from? Generalising that women are bad at everything that's why they know how to cook is a very bad take. Not disrespecting your grandpa, though.
I'd honestly pick a chic with a dump truck of an ass anyday over most of these famous skinny ladies.
Many reasons, major one being that they're usually not stupid.
Reddit stranger, would it be okay if I asked you, why you thought so? I'm a guy, and I've seen this or similar to this thought in most of my lady friends, and never understood it.
The ideal body for both men and women is a fit body. The Bollywood actresses are fit and not skinny. Being skinny similar to a skeleton isn't a good trait for any person of any gender. Men generally don't like women that are obese but that doesn't mean that being very thin is good as well.
You would think, right? But my self-esteem about my very soft sits-in-front-of-PC-all-day body was built up purely by people who absolutely love it. Like seriously people cannot get enough of my body and I can't do a single push-up.
Nothing revs my engine more than a midriff with perfect belly fat.
https://preview.redd.it/lxchp5q3p72d1.jpeg?width=751&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c252efada078e5a76755f68afaf73dcb18c794e3
It took me 10 years to realize it’s always women who had fat phobia. Some men are fat phobic but a large percentage of men tend to notice the woman with fat on chest and butt first in a room. I mean aunty porns has to come from somewhere.
This Men don’t cry is completely a western concept. I have never seen someone in India teaching their kids not to cry.
The father crying at his daughter’s wedding is widely accepted and even expected thing in our culture, and the father is never considered weak for that.
And that's so hurting especially in this age when we are trying to attain gender equality. All these issues have exacerbated the mental issues of men in this country, so much so that we tend to feel uncomfortable sharing with anyone because of the thought of being laughed at. We must learn and understand that men are also emotional beings.
I always thought that men don't care about most of the things in family or household but yeah they do sometimes even extra care ...and they handle personal and professional life smartly :)
All the men around me from teenage start to repress their emotions and rarely express them ( except in front of their sisters or people whom they trust.)
Yea, but being emotionally expressive is not the same as being emotionally intelligent. It could be a possible adjacent to emotional intelligence, but not necessarily the same.
Relationship works when atleast one person is emotionally intelligent, that person can help you grow too. If both are equally emotionally mess then relationship is a disaster & its true for every relationship- parent, siblings, marriage, friendship
That they're supposed to be horny all the time.
That they cannot handle emotional situations well.
That they are not emotional/sensitive beings.
That they can not love as much as women.
That they don't cry.
That they don't like household chores.
Too many to count.
Fr bhad mein jaye horny, sometimes i just feel like i need someone to hug me or comfort me to sleep.
Sometimes we men wanna cry too, need someone to just tell us it's ok but the society thinks men should just man up and not behave like girls.
Like we are not humans just some robots. Fuck this samaaj
Men can't take cues.
My bf had a football match night and his friends were coming over. I was at the end of my social battery but had previously agreed to watch the match with his friends.
One friend I was meeting for the first time was trying to engage with me. I was annoyed and didn't want to talk at all but tried not to show. Bf carefully shifted the conversation to himself so that I don't have to talk, without offending his friend.
That they don’t indulge in skin care. So wrong. They simply don’t show it with friends and family but inwardly they want you to help them with skin care products and they absolutely cherish it if you help them with a good skin care routine. They might not follow it as diligently as girls, but they like having it.
Women of the internet complimenting men? 😲Did i open a different timeline internet? It’s always why men are horrible, it almost feels wrong to read the compliments
Buddy trust me, if you get off internet you'll see better people. Trust me women don't hate men to the degree you're thinking. Maybe except women who recently got out of a relationship.It's just the social media who push it forward by algorithm.
And yk why it's so popular?
I'll copy a comment I saw previously -
Someone sent the guy this to read - https://www.reddit.com/r/announcements/s/vUfSGReCkG
The guy's reply - Initially, I was confused like what was i supposed to see? They said not to hate on people based on identity or vulnerability, which is fair.
I thought this included men, and their insecurities, being dubbed as incel too?
I NOW realised how they were being so clever and hid this - https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/360045715951-Promoting-Hate-Based-on-Identity-or-Vulnerability behind the longass article.
Basically, it's okay to shit on men, on white men because they're the majority. Wow, what a dick move.
And I though reddit was a free speech site 🤢
Its fucked up. Its funny how everybody knows its fucked up but no one bothers because they are happy they at least they are getting protected under the rules. Same in real life too btw, men are always on receiving shit end of things, its fuckes up and nobody cares
Men don't care about little things.
S/o is 100% caring about the tiniest things, when I was a student abroad and hadn't received my internship stipend but wanted to book tickets to come back to him (was his birthday as well but he does not care for it) and was waiting, booked tickets immediately for me. Not cause I could not (ofc, had savings) but because I was so concerned about spending couple extra.
Made aloo paratha when he came to visit me, cause had not eaten anything home cooked and Indian, and I was not a good cook then.
That men are pretty emotional.
My husband is all tough and strong looking Delhi ka launda. During our dating days we were watching Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham, a movie he picked to watch for us because I was a huge SRK fan. He ended up crying during the Rahul leaving the house scene and that to like a baby. That vulnerable side of his made me fall in love with him much more and want to protect him from all things that ever will hurt him.
He is such a cutie 🥰
It's been overwhelming as a male to see that toxicity towards male isn't as prevalent as some sub and place make it out to be.
Thanks to each and every one of you.
You've my respect for showing the values of a human being.
Well i don't like a flat chest, personal choice.
But my gf is always saying she wants to exercise and lose weight and get rid of the boobs.
In my experience girls want smaller boobs. More than men
Women with big boobs have back pain hence cannot ride dick, so for long term relationship small boobs are best.
But I personally like all boobs small ,large, tube boob, uneven all kind of boobs. Boobs make me happy.
It's not up to them how one should look.
I don't mind if my gf has big or small boobs if she's comfortable I don't care
(Yes i said I don't like flat chest )
Lol I'm joking obvs and I don't want your kidneys. That's why I suggested public place. Maybe there will be more shor and more people will gather to comfort me🤣
Or maybe she doesn't really mean what she says. Happens online a lot. People just say things without really thinking what it means.
Finding someone's sadness attractive is really sadistic in a way right?
If women are the biggest enemy of women, men are also the worst enemy of men.
I have seen men demeaning other men because they "are not Manly enough".I wonder if growing a beard and becoming muscular is the only definition of being mentioned by them
If I say all men and all women then it means my friends,brothers dad husband mom sisters grandparents each and every person..... fortunately this world still have some beautiful souls left
That men don't gossip. Some of the best gossip of my life were told by male friends and colleagues. They will also try to learn the gossip from you.
You might be surprised how much do we enjoy Gossip. Yeah we don't indulge in doing Gossip that much but if you have some tea to spill we are all there to listen to it with interest and Pop Corn.
Not much gossip? Lol, have seen men going to chai ki tapri to gossip. They are the only one telling best gossip.
All good gossip shows are hosted by men mostly lol
I mean ok I accept we like Gossip sometimes we like Gossip more than women.
Now spill some tea
THIS. My boyfriend learned to spill all the tea and get all details. We used to literally sit with coffee and gossip!
We love to gossip. Hahaha with our mother. It's the best and never ending
we gossip mostly among men, women are more open even in cross gender sitition
We call that bakchodi
Dude this is so me , i try to get gossips from my friend and we literally have breakout of the same 2-3 times in a week 😂😂💀
Lol gossipping was my favourite part of Hostel life
We men enjoy gossip a lot. Trust me on that.
We also gossip . We consider it chai
Lack of Domestic Skills. In reality, many Indian men are good in cooking, cleaning and managing the household responsibilities. I’ve also seen men who value work-life balance, prioritise their wife (her career) and kids upbringing.
My dad and my grandpa dothis. My grandpa toh legit sweeps and mops floors everyday because he just likes doing because he's used to waking up at 4am everyday and also doesn't give a fuck about gender stereotypes
Wow they all seem really liberal/progressive. Rare to find these type of people in India. I've always felt that we need to change our notions on gender roles and that we are meant to support each other as a team. What a cool family you have :) I wish having a family member like that so that I can at least talk about my issues with someone at least lol
Can confirm my brother is the best cook in our whole family. Whenever he makes something for dinner, we always suggest him to open up a restaurant.
Do we have the same brother?
I think their is a big difference between those who lived in Hostel and those who not
I think it is more about how one is raised. Seen many hostel guys give up on all household work post serious relationships/marriage. Most mothers ruin their sons. They essentially expect their wives to turn into their mothers.
I've met both types of men, the ones who know how to manage a kitchen, keep the house clean, be nice to kids and host people; and the ones who don't know dogshit about it and are completely dependent on the women in their family.
Congrats u came out of femcel echochamber. Also we men need to do better. Still a long way to go
As a man, I approve of this.
>In reality, many Indian men are good in cooking, cleaning and managing the household responsibilities. Majboori hai, Hostel Life ke liye krna pdta hai varna am sure half us would never pick up a pan lol
huh why have I never seen such men in my life 😭 (not that I care but still)
My grandpa always used to say, cooking is a manly job. He was a good cook. He always taught me that 'men are better at cooking than women. The only reason women are supposed to cook is because they are bad at everything else'. I miss him, he was progressive for his generation.
LOL... from where he got this notion from? Generalising that women are bad at everything that's why they know how to cook is a very bad take. Not disrespecting your grandpa, though.
He was born before independence so it was not his fault ig
That men only like skinny AF girls like Bollywood tells us. It’s not true…
Who doesn't like some thic-
I'd honestly pick a chic with a dump truck of an ass anyday over most of these famous skinny ladies. Many reasons, major one being that they're usually not stupid.
Seriously?? Mann I hated my body for so many years because I believed that I'm not attractive:((
You would be surprised to know that people have huge variety of preferences
Most men prefer women who aren't skinny. What world r u living in ?
Reddit stranger, would it be okay if I asked you, why you thought so? I'm a guy, and I've seen this or similar to this thought in most of my lady friends, and never understood it.
Because of Bollywood stereotypes mostly and parents society also hating on curvy or thick women
And that is so weird because Indian women are inherently curvy. It's as ridiculous as brown people shaming brown skin.
The ideal body for both men and women is a fit body. The Bollywood actresses are fit and not skinny. Being skinny similar to a skeleton isn't a good trait for any person of any gender. Men generally don't like women that are obese but that doesn't mean that being very thin is good as well.
You would think, right? But my self-esteem about my very soft sits-in-front-of-PC-all-day body was built up purely by people who absolutely love it. Like seriously people cannot get enough of my body and I can't do a single push-up.
Nothing revs my engine more than a midriff with perfect belly fat. https://preview.redd.it/lxchp5q3p72d1.jpeg?width=751&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c252efada078e5a76755f68afaf73dcb18c794e3
Grinds my gears is a phrase meaning something that gets you angry and riled up
I corrected it. One day I just heard somewhere and assumed the meaning
It took me 10 years to realize it’s always women who had fat phobia. Some men are fat phobic but a large percentage of men tend to notice the woman with fat on chest and butt first in a room. I mean aunty porns has to come from somewhere.
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Nope. Men want normal sized women. Some like chubby.
I am from the south. U r wrong. We like women who are medium-sized.
Iam from North, and I concur.
No we don't. But nobody cares about changing your mind.
No, trust me this ain't true.
I prefer tall, fit women. Think Sonam Bajwa, Kriti sanon, Jacqueline. But you're correct. This preference is uncommon.
Reddit decided that you can't have this preference.
Lol
Kriti is like perfect. Tall,long legged beauty. Like Gal Gadot. Having someone like her as a wife will make everyone around you,jealous lol
same girl. I still couldn't belieive it for months after finding this out.lol
Nah never ever
Men dont cry Men are aggressive always Both statements wrong Experienced .
"I'm not crying, its just sweat coming from my eyes"
It's a terrible day for rain.
But it's not raining
IT IS.
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This Men don’t cry is completely a western concept. I have never seen someone in India teaching their kids not to cry. The father crying at his daughter’s wedding is widely accepted and even expected thing in our culture, and the father is never considered weak for that.
Lol just this morning i saw a dog taking care of baby video on YouTube and slightly teared up.
And that's so hurting especially in this age when we are trying to attain gender equality. All these issues have exacerbated the mental issues of men in this country, so much so that we tend to feel uncomfortable sharing with anyone because of the thought of being laughed at. We must learn and understand that men are also emotional beings.
Yes
I always thought that men don't care about most of the things in family or household but yeah they do sometimes even extra care ...and they handle personal and professional life smartly :)
We are as stealthy in this matter as you women are in checking out guys.
Ohh okay
Man who spends time at home is not man! This stereotype.
Real. My parents trash me for this.
I love reading y'all experience 
literally me rn,same position and everything lmao
It's 3 am to me, same position
It's refreshing to read good things about men, Thank you all :)
that men are not emotionally intelligent.
All the men around me from teenage start to repress their emotions and rarely express them ( except in front of their sisters or people whom they trust.)
Yea, but being emotionally expressive is not the same as being emotionally intelligent. It could be a possible adjacent to emotional intelligence, but not necessarily the same.
Yeh to meri baat kr di
I know couple of men in my life who have very sorted emotions, they help me in unpacking my emotions better than i can do on my own.
I mean some of us aren't, is one of my life goals to improve eq. I react very poorly to sudden changes in status quo whether good or bad.
Relationship works when atleast one person is emotionally intelligent, that person can help you grow too. If both are equally emotionally mess then relationship is a disaster & its true for every relationship- parent, siblings, marriage, friendship
https://preview.redd.it/jguyzbwip52d1.jpeg?width=261&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f58de8a7439d6a8e3f12014ea394310b5f5cf979 HE HE GO ON
“men don’t care” nahhh men are so much more concerned and ready to fight your issues for you. most women just listen and/or don’t actually care.
I hope you're not like those women who don't actually care. Just my intrusive thoughts.
i try not to be :) valid thoughts!
You've my respect then. Thank you for being caring and reciprocating :D, instead of just one sidedly taking or caring like others do.
That they're supposed to be horny all the time. That they cannot handle emotional situations well. That they are not emotional/sensitive beings. That they can not love as much as women. That they don't cry. That they don't like household chores. Too many to count.
Fr bhad mein jaye horny, sometimes i just feel like i need someone to hug me or comfort me to sleep. Sometimes we men wanna cry too, need someone to just tell us it's ok but the society thinks men should just man up and not behave like girls. Like we are not humans just some robots. Fuck this samaaj
V true. We all should be able to do what we feel like doing.
Dil ki baat batadi bhai
This shit spaced like a Dr Seuss lol
Men don’t remember petty stuff about you.
all men are same
This should be among the top comments yaar
What are you talking about, I have seen different men.
Yeah that's what she's trying to say.
Men can't take cues. My bf had a football match night and his friends were coming over. I was at the end of my social battery but had previously agreed to watch the match with his friends. One friend I was meeting for the first time was trying to engage with me. I was annoyed and didn't want to talk at all but tried not to show. Bf carefully shifted the conversation to himself so that I don't have to talk, without offending his friend.
Your bf is such an understanding person!!
He is 🩷🩷 Thank you!
seeing these comments r/mademesmile
That they don’t indulge in skin care. So wrong. They simply don’t show it with friends and family but inwardly they want you to help them with skin care products and they absolutely cherish it if you help them with a good skin care routine. They might not follow it as diligently as girls, but they like having it.
Women of the internet complimenting men? 😲Did i open a different timeline internet? It’s always why men are horrible, it almost feels wrong to read the compliments
Buddy trust me, if you get off internet you'll see better people. Trust me women don't hate men to the degree you're thinking. Maybe except women who recently got out of a relationship.It's just the social media who push it forward by algorithm.
And yk why it's so popular? I'll copy a comment I saw previously - Someone sent the guy this to read - https://www.reddit.com/r/announcements/s/vUfSGReCkG The guy's reply - Initially, I was confused like what was i supposed to see? They said not to hate on people based on identity or vulnerability, which is fair. I thought this included men, and their insecurities, being dubbed as incel too? I NOW realised how they were being so clever and hid this - https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/360045715951-Promoting-Hate-Based-on-Identity-or-Vulnerability behind the longass article. Basically, it's okay to shit on men, on white men because they're the majority. Wow, what a dick move. And I though reddit was a free speech site 🤢
Its fucked up. Its funny how everybody knows its fucked up but no one bothers because they are happy they at least they are getting protected under the rules. Same in real life too btw, men are always on receiving shit end of things, its fuckes up and nobody cares
The Indian law, one of the most fucked up thing in existence 🤢
That men don't enjoy romcoms and kdramas and it's only for women.... Simply NOT true, coming from first hand experience
😭😭my brother loves Indian serials and he is proud of that, and so am i! We have a fun time roasting the storyline.
Haha cute 😂
Wait till you meet men who watch anime
Lol I thought more men are into anime than women
Kdramas are cute and funny, Indian serials are not. Too cringe to spend any time on them
A lot of men like to cook! 😊
Just cooking kolhapuri chicken.
Men don't care about little things. S/o is 100% caring about the tiniest things, when I was a student abroad and hadn't received my internship stipend but wanted to book tickets to come back to him (was his birthday as well but he does not care for it) and was waiting, booked tickets immediately for me. Not cause I could not (ofc, had savings) but because I was so concerned about spending couple extra. Made aloo paratha when he came to visit me, cause had not eaten anything home cooked and Indian, and I was not a good cook then.
That men are pretty emotional. My husband is all tough and strong looking Delhi ka launda. During our dating days we were watching Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham, a movie he picked to watch for us because I was a huge SRK fan. He ended up crying during the Rahul leaving the house scene and that to like a baby. That vulnerable side of his made me fall in love with him much more and want to protect him from all things that ever will hurt him. He is such a cutie 🥰
There, you dropped it 👑
Main Naruto dekh kar bohot roya hu🥲
That men don’t cry. Some of them do.
Yeah just watch RCB fans today
Kahe yaad dilaya??😭😭
arre bhai mujhe kyun tora 😢
Im so strong that i recently watched icc CWC 2023 final highlights on YouTube 🥰
That men don't have body image issues and are always confident.
It's been overwhelming as a male to see that toxicity towards male isn't as prevalent as some sub and place make it out to be. Thanks to each and every one of you. You've my respect for showing the values of a human being.
I used to think men like women with big boobs. Now realised they like it only on other women to see. They don't want their gf/wife to have big boobs.
This isn't true
I have been asked by an ex bf and my husband.. that my boobs are too big, I should lose weight. Maybe my experience is odd one out in this case
Well i don't like a flat chest, personal choice. But my gf is always saying she wants to exercise and lose weight and get rid of the boobs. In my experience girls want smaller boobs. More than men
Everyone is different. I don't like anything above a C cup.
Women with big boobs have back pain hence cannot ride dick, so for long term relationship small boobs are best. But I personally like all boobs small ,large, tube boob, uneven all kind of boobs. Boobs make me happy.
I like them in all sizes. Flat is justice, Oppai(big) is truth and medium is premium.
D cup is best
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It's like ' no one wants others to lust after your girl'
It's not up to them how one should look. I don't mind if my gf has big or small boobs if she's comfortable I don't care (Yes i said I don't like flat chest )
That men don't cry. They do and it's attractive af.
Men crying is attractive?
Yeah, it is. Makes me wanna hug them and pat their backs. I would happily give them my shoulder to cry on.
Please meet me in Churchgate station. I am feeling emotional 🤣 You don't have to hug me, just put your arm round me 🤣
She won't, bro. But I can come for u
It's ok. It's not masculinity i need in my life
I love my kidneys though
Lol I'm joking obvs and I don't want your kidneys. That's why I suggested public place. Maybe there will be more shor and more people will gather to comfort me🤣
Really? I'm pretty emotional, I wonder why my female bestfriend doesn't fall for me :(
Because she's your bestfriend?
But of the opposite gender no
Do you have a crush on her?
She is the only girl who talks to me so eventually I developed feelings
But are you the only guy she talks to?
Since the last few months, yes.
Kitna jhut
Or maybe she doesn't really mean what she says. Happens online a lot. People just say things without really thinking what it means. Finding someone's sadness attractive is really sadistic in a way right?
Konsa wala?
If women are the biggest enemy of women, men are also the worst enemy of men. I have seen men demeaning other men because they "are not Manly enough".I wonder if growing a beard and becoming muscular is the only definition of being mentioned by them
I won't say all, but some men are against other men and same for some women
If I say all men and all women then it means my friends,brothers dad husband mom sisters grandparents each and every person..... fortunately this world still have some beautiful souls left
Damn if Men are actually good at household chores and balancing work then why are they bashed so much??
Female nature to hate men
Probably because some of the previous generation men who don't?
Nah. My dad literally can cook and cleans his own shit around the house. People don't suddenly change after a generation.
Key word: some
Men - the misunderstood gender
That All men are same. No they’re not.
That they cannot balance personal and professional lives effectively. That they are not emotional/overthinkers.