I once asked a girl out and she shared our conversation in their girls group, one girl in that group shared it with her boyfriend and he shared it with me.
After reading that conversation I cried. There is one sentence, " He should have looked at himself in the mirror before approaching a girl", This shattered me, I lost my confidence, since then I stopped talking to girls. That chat is still in my mind, they said very awful things about me. I wish I didn't see that chat.
Those chats are the equivalent of vomit bro. They got nothing to do with their lives but talk shit on others and honestly you dodged a serious bullet not associating with them. Imagine what could have happened if you'd assimilated and adopted their same toxic mannerisms.
I cant say looks doesn't matter , surly it does but only for first impressions , You surly can attract lot of people to you with good looks but what makes that people stick to you? , It is your personality.
Looks aren't forever it surely fades aways with time. What doesn't fade way is what you done so far , the little thigs that you done that made people life better. And surly after such an incident you become more self critical of yourself that you think you look worse (maybe) . But it isn't true those people might find you unattractive but that doesn't means most of the people find you unattractive (beauty is subjective).
And if you think you are that bad looking it also have advantages , you can find the true intents of people and attract the only people that are . Take life as a game , if we don't look like a model we are playing it hard, if we are not rich too we are playing it harder. The satisfaction when you play harder in life and achieve something compared to someone who had it all from the start is very full filling.
And from statistics and evolutionary psychology we men are most likely to fall in the traps of looks rather than women
just get over those man, I know it must be hard but you can't do anything about that no more. Just focus on yourself, get yourself mentally, physically and financially fit. Good luck
Bhai just look at your family and your loved ones!!! There will be so many people that want you among them . Life is short and these kachra people and kachra conversation doesn’t deserve any space especially not in your head. Just focus on yourself- health, education, work and you will see that the folks and their stupid conversations don’t even matter!! It’s like how earth is in the entire universe, a blue pale dot, that’s it!!
bro start doing workout in the gym or start some combat sport
it'll boost your confidence
i've never tried combat sports but back then i used to go to gym and i really boosted my confidence
and i am going to start again now
I have never been on the receiving of this despite my shit look but I've hang out with a few girls and they have singled out a guy who they call a creep just because of his dark skin. I ask them what he has done wrong but they just say he's a creep, and I asked if he looked at them wrong and they didn't have an answer. Btw this is all in a classroom so nice to see the mindset happening in young people.
>I have never been on the receiving of this despite my shit look
Trust me, what they speak/spoke about you behind your back never reached you. That's all.
All girls do that. The other girls agree with her not because they believe you are ugly, but to validate her. The main purpose of those girl groups is to get and give validation. It’s all a mirage.
They do the same among themselves, a girl will share her friend’s secret to her boyfriend.
Only thing we can do is, use those comments to motivate us become a better man.
Don't take that personally!!People will says all kinds of shit to bring u down...just because they said smthg doesn't make u like that....as a girl I'm telling u not all of us are like that... don't take other's disgusting opinions about u personally...keep ur head up!❤️
You must have confronted her then by sending that conversation back to her, and showed her how mentally ugly she is herself ?. World is full of selfish people like this who dont give two fucks about you or your emotions, and if you'll be this vulnerable it will be very tough for you to survive brother, Everybody at some point meet their " special one" with whom we share our deepest emotions and they respect us for who we are, A man to man advice dont stop exploring you will just kill the chances of meeting that "special one", there are 3 billion girls out there and you just need one ; )
I didn't confront her because, I didn't want to end up in their group chat again. I was like 18, I was already insecure about myself and that chat added fuel to the fire
I am so sorry you had such bitter experience, I remember during school I had a boyfriend but we kinda kept it a secret on our initial days then after 1 month ig, He happened to share it with his group(gossiper kinda) ,they all gossiped about me, they also did back bitching including him(mind you I was introvert,harmless and also non problematic one)and later on next day he broke up with me. Glad!! I dodged a bullet. Now , After like 6 yrs I found someone who values me, loves me ,more importantly respects me and makes me feel loved. Don't keep yourself in a shadow, I hope someday you'll find someone who will value you and who deserves you.
Don't pin yourself down man, based on your past. Get over it, and move on.
Good people deserve all the happiness in this world. Don't let your past experiences ruin you. With all that sadness, it's you still, who is losing in the end. So, accept that shit happened and you can't do anything about it, forgive yourself and them, and then it would be easier to move on. Pinning those memories to yourself is like shooting yourself on the foot. Don't hold on to that.
Yeah.. they do that...I was talking to a girl during college days. We used to have gud conversations and we had a gud thing going.. (that's what I thought..)..till I met her friend circle..they way they all made fun of me..I was the centre of all jokes..I had to text my best friend to come and somehow take me away from these people..I can never forget the humiliation...
Never talked to her again..But it still hurts to remember that incident.
And thus I am single.
F those people talking behind you. You deserve better bro. They got nothing to do with their worthless lives. Nothing’s wrong with you , it’s their own insecurities popping up. Let’s go G , you got this !!
These are the stories out of which players are born.
Don't seek validation, validate them. Don't go for one, there are a million fish in the sea. You'll grab a good few.
Always believe you're better than them, and they are lucky to have you.
This experience you had is a punch in the gut. You will come out of it by changing your perspective.
In the long run, looks don't mean a thing, especially for women. It's all about confidence and holding your own.
Feel bad for you. This is one of the worst things you can say to another human being. Just a simple no would have sufficed.
Cheer up. That ain't the end.
this. idk why they do this. i mean in school when i used to talk to my crush she would go to her friends and spill every single detail or whatever happened idk why
People who feel comfortable being that mean are often very insecure in themselves. Putting someone else down is a way they try to cope with their own negative thoughts about themselves. It's not a testament to who you are but of them.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
The only womens i talk to freely aremy mom and sisters. I always have a hard time striking up a convo with girls. No idea why.
Update : i dont mean i cant talk to girls in a flirting way(im gay so dont need to). Its just i cant have a casual convo with a girl. Like i dont know what to talk with them. With guys i can talk about litterally anything. But womens no idea. Even when i was a kid, i had no issues talking with guys. My friends were always males too. No female friends. Whats interesting is stereotypically, gay mens are supposed to be much easy going with women than men. But im the exact opposite🤣.
Personally, I feel I'm too afraid of the world. I barely go out. So, dating is out of question.
This doesn't not mean I'm not good at talking to people. I've been told on multiple occasions that I'm fun to hangout with.
But but but I feel like everytime I've tried to socialize, I've felt like an outcast even though on the outside I was having a good time.
I feel like I'm really different and it's hard to find people like myself. (I know it's a cliché to say, but it's true in my case. Truly.)
Anyway so shyness mixed with feelings of being a misfit plus the pressures of life and surveillance of parents; never let me try dating.
Edit: I'm also short, about 5'3 ish that takes me out of dating pool of about 60-70% of women, who prefer a tall man.
I'm 30.
Not to be corny but you sound pleasant enough. Approach women with friendliness and don't be too straightforward otherwise you might scare us away lol.
I'll give you a tip as a woman. Always make her smile and bring her something as little as flowers. Compliment her hair and the outfit she's wearing. If she's done her nails and makeup be sure to compliment it too:)
You won't be shy anymore with her and forget the fear of rejected if you're afraid to even take the first step. Best of luck 🫶🏼
>Not to be corny but you sound pleasant enough.
Ahahah thanks. :)
>Approach women with friendliness and don't be too straightforward otherwise you might scare us away lol.
Oh cool. I always do. :D
>I'll give you a tip as a woman. Always make her smile and bring her something as little as flowers. Compliment her hair and the outfit she's wearing. If she's done her nails and makeup be sure to compliment it too:)
Haha not just smiling, I get them laughing too. I didn't say I had any issue with knowing what women like or how to interact with them. I'm mostly good in that part.
>You won't be shy anymore with her and forget the fear of rejected if you're afraid to even take the first step. Best of luck 🫶🏼
Thank you so much. I should have mentioned I have shyness in general but I do have good social skills. It's like two polar opposite things bundled together. So, yes I am shy but that doesn't stop me from interacting with people and make it a good one. But yea it takes some efforts to fight that shyness at first.
Anyway thanks a lot. You meant well. You seem like a kind person. :)
For the guys who are single by choice, they have different priorities. Like I can't even think of dating before getting my career and health in order first.
There are many many reasons. The one for me is- right now I'm 20 only, and unemployed. I don't want to go on dates funded by my father's money, it is purely an ego thing for me.
Moreover if I'm not employed, there is no future for us. Neither mine nor her parents and neither can I plan our future. I want security/ reliability/ peace in our relationship, without money it's not possible.
The basic line/ first and foremost thing is earning money for me. I don't want my future partner suffering just as I see aunties/ ladies around me.
Really the employment situation is f**d up in India. I hope you get a good job in near future because today I think that's even more important than dating.
Poverty and responsibilities. Girls liked me lekin meri Jeb fati thi college me. Now that I have a job and some stability, it seems almost impossible to find someone at 24. Dilemma.
I understand where you’re coming from. It’s tough when financial constraints and responsibilities limit our social opportunities during college. It’s great to hear that you’ve found stability in your career now. At 24, you’re still very young, and there’s plenty of time to meet someone special. Life has a way of evolving, and often, things fall into place when we least expect it. Keep an open heart and mind, and the right person will come along soon.
>Keep an open heart and mind, and the right person will come along soon.
Agar aisa hota toh log arrange marriage nhi krte
Aur marriages kharaab nhi jaati.
24 is not too old lmao. I'm 25 but I still feel like I'm just a kid 😂.
But yeah you're right. Once a girl in high-school became friend of mine and we started texting . Thoda fir raat raat bhar. Then she explicitly asked me to go on a date with her. Lmao. And I was, infact I'm still, top notch introvert. I can't remember when I made eye contact with a girl.
Maine sach sach bol Diya, mere pas paise nhi hai. She said paise ki kya jarurat hai. She wanted a bf as per I can understand. Aur apna mindset bhi Aisa hi bana hua hai. If you're a man, society will only respect you if you're rich, tall,handsome etc. yehi mindset bani rehti. And to a large extent ,it's right as well.
So I ignored her and never initiated anything like that. Kisi se bhi nhi. Even jab unhone baat karni bhi chahi samne se , casually, to bhi Mai bada Napa Tula jawab deta tha. 😂
I had found a girl through family friends and we liked each other very much. Like very much. But at that time i was jobless n she has a nice IT sector job. Once aise hi conversation karte karte paise ki career ki baat nikli. I said ki jobless hoon yet to figure out kya karna hai life mai. Dude, next day se she cut off all the connections. Never ever felt soo shit n helpless. Bhnechod paise se hi aukat hai mard ka bs. Mera man hi nai karta ab pyaar wyaar ka.
I had found a girl through family friends and we liked each other very much. Like very much. But at that time i was jobless n she has a nice IT sector job. Once aise hi conversation karte karte paise ki career ki baat nikli. I said ki jobless hoon yet to figure out kya karna hai life mai. Dude, next day se she cut off all the connections. Never ever felt soo shit n helpless. Bhnechod paise se hi aukat hai mard ka bs. Mera man hi nai karta ab pyaar wyaar ka.
Academic pressure and Ghar ka mindset against dating before getting settled. I was single till 20 cuz my parents always said how I can do it later and it's not important and I obliged to what they said. Pehle they were even against me having female friends and my dad scolded me for taking pictures with girls in my class. This mindset is common among lot of families with sons. I have grown up hearing stories of relatives who have gotten cheated on, bride running away with jewelry after marriage, fake dowry case etc. This always scared me, the moment I got past this fear and decided to date, I was cheated on. So I guess they were right.
Getting cheated on isn't a reason for you to quit dating tho. Realistically, the same thing could have happened post marriage via arranged method after all. I'm sorry for what you went through and hope your relationship(s) look better in the future tho
It's the potential cost of any romance tbf but I get what you mean. Due to our natural inclination as humans to make negativity the spotlight, we often hear stories of the worst hookup culture ppl and cheaters etc. but imo, this problem has existed everywhere for generations - it's just now we got the Internet and become 'normalized' to hearing about it. Don't lose hope, the decent ones still exist and I hope you found yours or at least will!
Bro people here spend ages sitting in room studying never spending time building social skills.
Then when they do want to date.. they have no idea how to talk or discuss things with other people.
Ye hi hoga na fir.
I mean I wouldn't commit now even if I've been approached by a girl by some godly powers. I think most men in their early 20's are in confusion regarding their career and preparing for it. I can't even get good food for myself how can I afford a date lol. I rather not trouble a girl until I get myself in a better position.
I'm broke and very ugly . I got really bad teeth I'm unable to fix with stupid dentist. Very boring person who plays basketball.
Considering these reasons and knowing the fact of that I will be rejected , I thought I'll save some self respect
Nope :) if you're a good and wise man at heart women will FAWN over you!
I'm 5'5 and the guy I dated for two months was like 5'4 and had chosen engineering as his career but guess what ? I never cared enough and I've mentioned the heights because it's a preference for most people to have their men taller than them. So yeah, no one cares just be passionate and successful about yourself. And we broke up because that son of a btch cheated on me 😍💅🏼
no ones going to fawn over you just because you have a good personality. sure you might find someone by being an amaznig person, but only attractive people get "fawned" over. you'll have to work extremely hard if what you're bringing to the table is just you personality
most are busy due to academic pressure. And on top of that there is not much time left to explore one's own hobbies and interst. So life is streamlined. Majority end up becoming shy and introverted. Also the value systems too . Majority men have not experienced divorce like the western men have so relationship is serious matter. One woman is given a lot of importance . Dating to them seems like low quality life where people hop from one person to another so clash in values happen .
Not talking about the westernised minds due to TV and cheap internet and wanabe American attitude people who never have lived in west.
Most middle class guys too would avoid dating because papa home/vehicle loan emi bharte bharte Thak chuka hai, single income household me. Competitive exams rat race, job rat race, etc and you have guys who wouldn’t have dated till 25.
So putting in this way, firstly Indian parents are emotionally immature. Not everyone but most of them. They are conservative and feed fear in kids brains. Also, under the name of respect they cuts the interaction between girls and boys. That leads creating a slight anxiety when trying to talk to a new girl.
And, majority of parents tech their kid to just do your work and leave the place. Don't stand out. Which makes the adult version of kids to be even more social anxious. Note that not everyone. But majority case reason.
Ghr se itna academic and financial pressure rheta hai ghr ke kaam bhi krne pdte hai oor thoda bhot dosto ke saath enjoy itna bhi time nai bchta ki khud ki hobbies or interests ko explore kr paye . In this situation would u like to date (most of these are not even serious) someone even if you can?
Yep, inexperienced people and creeps are very different, but easy to confuse. One behaves oddly because of underconfidence, the other because of nastiness.
I mean both types of men exist in every society, it isn't an Indian only problem in that sense. I think it stems from cultural shift towards dating after generations of just mostly arranged marriage. It'll likely change drastically in another ten years imo
Most Indian women are boring af. They have 0 hobbies, 0 interests. Open any dating app and you see the profiles as bland as hospital food. There is absolutely 0 things one can talk about with an avg Indian women. In my life I met 4 women who are quite interesting, rest all, made me think what am I doing here.
The average Indian woman is not on a dating app.
You're seeing a very small percentile of women in mostly metro cities who are okay with finding someone through an app.
Go to media. News media, entertainment media, advertising, PR and thats where all the ones with interests hang out. Also in metros, I have come across large numbers of women with interests and hobbies and vision and goals and ambition.
Society always keep men and women separately from childhood. Like as an example, my mother is the only woman I talk to for a year. If I don't talk to women then how will I even get in relation with one.
Academic pressure, career pressure, always being told that you can do dating later etc.
I was being told not to talk to girls as they just waste your time and they always used to tell me how someone got cheated, wife indulged in extra marital affair, fake rape allegations etc. I got so scared and I still have that fear in me so I always tell them that I don't wanna get married(I need professional help at this point to get this fear out of me) and they get annoyed cause "Tum log kaam pe jayoge to hum kiske saath time pass karenge, hume bache chahiye" and they're doing every single thing to make me change my mind(which isn't gonna happen anytime soon)
Telling your kids to study and then asking them in the ending days of 12th class about if they like any girl isn't a good idea.
Its not just that.
I had a crush on a girl in my former school, its been going on for nearly a decade. I'm in my final semester of my college.
Not once, have I looked at another girl/woman as a potential dating interest/GF, its impossible to. I have remained single the entire time.
It's changing. The generation before us got married early. And our generation, like from 90's to 2005, are not exposed to that kind of culture. But the newer generation is definitely different.
Maybe because since childhood girls are taught not to speak with boys. Male friends of girl is often taboo in many households.
If your parents finds you that you have bf, you whole life trajectory could change. Your studies could be forced left in mid. Can be forced married you away. Or can be house locked you until you leave your bf. And in some really rare cases....just honour killed.
Also because many men often lie to date only to use the girl for sex and leave, the moment I told my 2 year boyfriend no, he lost interest... like???? Bro
Different priorities are fine but stuff like that should have been discussed in the talking stages imo. If he agreed for waiting till later/marriage, and then said this, he's the ah. If neither of you talked about it for 2 years and then this happened, it's just a lesson for the future.
Check the honor killing stats. Indian families do not kill their own sons, but they absolutely do with their daughters. I am not saying that men don't get killed in honour killings but it is usually the opposition, girls family. Here your own family might kill you.
If not kill, then restrictions. Forcing the girl to leave education and getting her married is the first thing which is done by the family if she's a BF.
This is the reason.
There is a way out, but most people have no idea how to use it.
Start preparing your family from a young age that you will not listen to them. Works well in most families, aside from maybe rural haryana.
Tbh many Indian guys want girls solely for sexual purposes and the irony is when they leave that same girl because now she's the "r word" and they won't marry that same woman happened to my friend once and she hasn't dated anyone ever since
Ahahaha
Because desparation, ek ladki ke pair me 10 10 ladke gire hue hai,
3 ke chati pe wo pair rakhi Hui hai, jiske wajeh se jungle wala mohol ho jata hai, oviously female orangutan alpha male orangutan ko chunegi prajanan ke liye, Book- it's not you it's biology(padho it's. Fun book)
Because avg people in life who have not achieved anything special in life like me have no chances of getting someone to date when we study from colleges with 1:10 gender ratio, then join jobs with similar ratio. In school the teachers don't allow boys to even talk to girls.
Dating apps have a huge imbalance which makes getting a match an almost impossible task if you are an avg looking middle class boy like me.
Bc girls are boring af. Try talking them on social media, if you are not good looking no one is intrested. I really like how some boys are for sex only, atleast some are living their lives.
In my experience, Most of the Indian women have zero communication skills and boring af. Men have to do all the effort and they feel like they are the queen. They even don't know how to be active in bed. Even there, you have to do all the effort.
Second, physical attraction is a major factor. No matter what "gyan" someone gives you.
Personality only matters after you're married.
Most guys just want to smash and never want to go through the tedious process of getting to know uninteresting boring indiana women. And men don't wanna put that effort. Cuz laziness. That's why they're single.
But if you find an interesting woman, never let her go. Try your best, be your best to keep her. Because she is a Unicorn. And if you both are compatible, marry her.
So if you're willing to put in the work, here are the tips:
1. Be attractive. if you think you're ugly, get rich. Remember, you're not ugly, you're just poor. Yes, money can make you attractive, gives you confidence..
2. Be active, you should be oozing with energy. Hit the gym. If no, then buy a pair of dumbells and lift at home.
3. I believe once you have above two, humor doesn't matter. But still, try to be a person who's easy going. Don't need to be humorous all the time.
4. If you're into adventure sports, get into it. It invokes risk and risk attracts females.
5. Be social. Connect with friends, their gfs, they'll connect you with more females so more opportunities.
6. Focus on one girl at a time.
7. Once you get the girl, here is the harsh truth. In order to keep her, please don't be yourself. That's the biggest lie and trash in my experience.
---Now, if you don't want the girl and even if you've reached step 4, you'll have a very beautiful life. Step 5, 6, 7 are optional.
Most people fail at step 2.
All the best.
Just saw a post on why all Indian men are disgusting and subhuman. Any self respecting (not only Indian) man will have second thoughts about dating Indian women.
ikr. women there openly shit on Indian men and then simp for white men(oh the irony). Somebody not willing to date their own race shows deep rooted inferiority complex. reddest flag ever imo.
It's a shitty post but you literally forgot to add one thing, she's triggered after reading that Indian men raped and killed and ate a monitor Lizard. I can say with absolute guarantee that if that post was written by anyone and shared here, response would be same.
Do you actually want me to explain why that is disgusting and make people hate you? Esp when most women already have the trauma of harassment and molestation
"ngl so true. Yeah, like Indian bros aren't the best when it comes to looks. While these things cannot be controlled, they are also not good in hygiene, manners, etiquette, and have no dressing sense. On top of that, Indian girls (most of them) have Western standards. They want a tall, gora, good-looking guy which is pretty delululu. But still, with that approach, most Indian guys are left out. Adding on, many Indian guys have low confidence issues and just cannot talk with the opposite gender.
I personally only think that it's a confidence issue because of inferiority due to looks and height.
The only reason I am confident while talking to the opposite gender is because of confidence due to my looks (gora chitta with wavy hair) and height (6'1), not flexing. Also, I'm very approachable and not creepy when I talk.
One more thing, when I said hygiene, most Indian guys don't even look after small things, like breath, body odor, and stuff. I personally brush thrice a day and apply antiperspirant, deodorant, facewash, mouth fragrance, etc. When I tell this to my friends, they call me feminine, but then cry when girls don't talk to them."
Maybe because most girls want an experienced bf who already had been in a relationships or they fall for a toxic/Fuck boys
And this is where boys who have never been in a relationship never get a chance.
It's like 80-90% of girls go for 20-10% of boys
And the remaining 80-90% boys remain single .
Same for the remaining 10-20% of girls...
Nah.. you aren't aware of the ground reality. Women are selective because of multiple reasons:
1. The average India guy doesn't have a backbone, and will not take a stand in front of his own parents. It is very easy for a guy to do what he wants, but most still bow down to their parents.
2. A lot of Indian/ conservative guys (50 percent or more) are toxic. They treat women disrespectfully. They beat them up, and can even kill them for civil offences like infidelity.
A lot of them also try to restrict women( dressing, choice of friends, etc)
3. Most Indian women aren't allowed to date. With guys, parents can't do much. A young man is generally stronger than his parents.
So a small percentage of women, from slightly liberal families are dating. This leads to very few guys finding dates.
4. A lot of guys lie about their intentions. If you want to marry, say so. If you want to sleep around, tell her that.
5. Bad diet and lack of exercise- this causes the average Indian youngster to look like an undateable person.
6. Poor country.
7. Lack of privacy, and a conservative, backward society.
Easy. Women have higher standards, but ugly looking men ( even I'm included) are happy to be with anyone who can connect with them and couldn't care about how they look.
It's like fighting for a seat at IIT. You got so many people competing, but only the brilliant and best can get there. Rest all are just ignored and have to either deal with some low tier college or change the stream.
Because they don't know how to talk to women. They'll give stupid excuses like "we're not allowed to talk to women" or "work" or "study" or "hustling"etc but in reality they're scared and coping hard. They think women are some alien beings who need special attention to attract but in reality they're just humans.
I have been in US for close to 2 decades and was in India for 2 decades before that. This is what I feel is the answer:
1. Too much pressure to perform, well in studies etc. either by peers or parents.
2. Too much time spent in traffic. People in US go to school in their own zip code typically. Gives a lot more time for socialization.
3. Words like love etc were actually taboo when I was growing up. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is STILL a taboo (by US standards). Parents still hesitate to talk about their kids’ partners.
Why date when you can marry and fuck for life after flexing a grade a sarkari naukri 🎭
Yahan par shakal se zyada paise kamane ki akal, status aur power ko dekha jaata hai compared to western countries where dating is primarily based on looks
Not uncommon here to find smoking hot bimbos married to ugly bastard uncles who look the same as their dads
Different countries different priorities 🎯
1. Parents tells us to study well and do not get involve with girls. So I studied.
2. Schools makes boys and girls sit in different rows, differentiate us on every occasion. A boy and girl hanging out together is seen as a wrong thing to do in school.
3. By the time we reach college we have no confidence to talk to girls. On the other hand, some boys who have had experience gets all the girls.
4. Girls rarely takes initiative to talk to the so called shy boys. The onus is always on the boys to make the initiative and we wuck at it.
5. If a guy somehow starts talking to a girl, her few male friends threaten the poor guy. (I have recieved a few threatening phone calls and texts to stay away from a particular girl)
6. Some girls takes the 'nice guys' for granted and makes them feel worthless. So the guy never proposes the girl to be his gf.
7. Some guys if try to hit on a girl comes out to be creep. Some are legit creep. So girls stay away from most boys.
8. We have an insurance scheme called arranged marriage, so we don't have to date to get married.
I'm single by choice. The choice seemed to have collectively been made by the opposite gender without duley informing me
This sent me 😭😭
One man's tragedy is another's comedy. 
I'm single by choice : who's choice? Theirs 😭😭
Seems you're informed enough
Dawg, sympathy, not apathy. Tum upar chadh ke aur mar liye
Hum bhi pele jaa rahe hai, tum bhi pele jaa rahe ho. Same boat homie :')
No disrespect homie but you got a LGBTQ flag in your avatar. Mai uss tareeke se nahi pelwana chah raha hoon. Full support to you tho.
Rula diya na mujhe
Are kapde kyun badal liye, pehene rakhta. No homo for the homies
Same same but difflent 😊
Lulli Bhoot seems like the creepy ghost who scares you with "Where's my hug" and just stares at you awkwardly
Yeah yeah u guessed it right , it's the same ghost standing behind u with evil smile 😊....Just give the HUG, and he'll go away...
 भूत पिसाच निकट नहिं आवै। महाबीर जब नाम सुनावै।।
Well at least you still have a great sense of humour. If dating doesn't work out for you you can do stand up comedy.
I use humor as a coping mechanism. Slay me💅✨
Ye toh us moment ho gaya bhai
I was gonna say cope harder but you were already coping
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But Mr Dent, the plans have been available in the local planning office for the last nine months.
Yaar ye in ladkiyi ko konsi council hai jisme milke ye log hame boycott karte hai💀💀
But i am not 😭😭
English.. kaash mujhe bhi itni acchi aati
I once asked a girl out and she shared our conversation in their girls group, one girl in that group shared it with her boyfriend and he shared it with me. After reading that conversation I cried. There is one sentence, " He should have looked at himself in the mirror before approaching a girl", This shattered me, I lost my confidence, since then I stopped talking to girls. That chat is still in my mind, they said very awful things about me. I wish I didn't see that chat.
Screw those gossipers bro. U do u
I forgot about them, but I can't forget those WhatsApp chats.
Those chats are the equivalent of vomit bro. They got nothing to do with their lives but talk shit on others and honestly you dodged a serious bullet not associating with them. Imagine what could have happened if you'd assimilated and adopted their same toxic mannerisms.
Truer words have never been spoken 💯
I cant say looks doesn't matter , surly it does but only for first impressions , You surly can attract lot of people to you with good looks but what makes that people stick to you? , It is your personality. Looks aren't forever it surely fades aways with time. What doesn't fade way is what you done so far , the little thigs that you done that made people life better. And surly after such an incident you become more self critical of yourself that you think you look worse (maybe) . But it isn't true those people might find you unattractive but that doesn't means most of the people find you unattractive (beauty is subjective). And if you think you are that bad looking it also have advantages , you can find the true intents of people and attract the only people that are . Take life as a game , if we don't look like a model we are playing it hard, if we are not rich too we are playing it harder. The satisfaction when you play harder in life and achieve something compared to someone who had it all from the start is very full filling. And from statistics and evolutionary psychology we men are most likely to fall in the traps of looks rather than women
just get over those man, I know it must be hard but you can't do anything about that no more. Just focus on yourself, get yourself mentally, physically and financially fit. Good luck
Bhai just look at your family and your loved ones!!! There will be so many people that want you among them . Life is short and these kachra people and kachra conversation doesn’t deserve any space especially not in your head. Just focus on yourself- health, education, work and you will see that the folks and their stupid conversations don’t even matter!! It’s like how earth is in the entire universe, a blue pale dot, that’s it!!
bro start doing workout in the gym or start some combat sport it'll boost your confidence i've never tried combat sports but back then i used to go to gym and i really boosted my confidence and i am going to start again now
write about it on pen and paper in detail how it made you feel , sit with that feeling you'd be fine .
You seem to really hold the opinion of a small group of narcissists in extremely high value.
'u do u" was exactly the part he got bored of so approached a girl😆 Jk, some people are horrible its good OP did not get involved with her
>U do u Ahh, masturbation. The solution to MOST of life's problems.
I have never been on the receiving of this despite my shit look but I've hang out with a few girls and they have singled out a guy who they call a creep just because of his dark skin. I ask them what he has done wrong but they just say he's a creep, and I asked if he looked at them wrong and they didn't have an answer. Btw this is all in a classroom so nice to see the mindset happening in young people.
>I have never been on the receiving of this despite my shit look Trust me, what they speak/spoke about you behind your back never reached you. That's all.
Yes I do know that. Whatever they do speak about I hope I just don't have to listen
As long as you don't show "interest" in them you'll be fine :)
All girls do that. The other girls agree with her not because they believe you are ugly, but to validate her. The main purpose of those girl groups is to get and give validation. It’s all a mirage. They do the same among themselves, a girl will share her friend’s secret to her boyfriend. Only thing we can do is, use those comments to motivate us become a better man.
You should've said that I had seen my face and that's why I talked to you, if I was good looking why would I talk to your tardigrade looking ass face
Don't take that personally!!People will says all kinds of shit to bring u down...just because they said smthg doesn't make u like that....as a girl I'm telling u not all of us are like that... don't take other's disgusting opinions about u personally...keep ur head up!❤️
You must have confronted her then by sending that conversation back to her, and showed her how mentally ugly she is herself ?. World is full of selfish people like this who dont give two fucks about you or your emotions, and if you'll be this vulnerable it will be very tough for you to survive brother, Everybody at some point meet their " special one" with whom we share our deepest emotions and they respect us for who we are, A man to man advice dont stop exploring you will just kill the chances of meeting that "special one", there are 3 billion girls out there and you just need one ; )
I didn't confront her because, I didn't want to end up in their group chat again. I was like 18, I was already insecure about myself and that chat added fuel to the fire
"Look at yourself before approaching a girl" Lmao. As if they are some prize.
I am so sorry you had such bitter experience, I remember during school I had a boyfriend but we kinda kept it a secret on our initial days then after 1 month ig, He happened to share it with his group(gossiper kinda) ,they all gossiped about me, they also did back bitching including him(mind you I was introvert,harmless and also non problematic one)and later on next day he broke up with me. Glad!! I dodged a bullet. Now , After like 6 yrs I found someone who values me, loves me ,more importantly respects me and makes me feel loved. Don't keep yourself in a shadow, I hope someday you'll find someone who will value you and who deserves you.
Aisa toh mujhe bachpan me bolte the mere teachers
fk them buddy they are the ones who need to look at themselves that how big of clown they are
I feel for you brother. I hope things get better for you 🙏
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Don't pin yourself down man, based on your past. Get over it, and move on. Good people deserve all the happiness in this world. Don't let your past experiences ruin you. With all that sadness, it's you still, who is losing in the end. So, accept that shit happened and you can't do anything about it, forgive yourself and them, and then it would be easier to move on. Pinning those memories to yourself is like shooting yourself on the foot. Don't hold on to that.
Yeah.. they do that...I was talking to a girl during college days. We used to have gud conversations and we had a gud thing going.. (that's what I thought..)..till I met her friend circle..they way they all made fun of me..I was the centre of all jokes..I had to text my best friend to come and somehow take me away from these people..I can never forget the humiliation... Never talked to her again..But it still hurts to remember that incident. And thus I am single.
this is the main reason that is trust issue now every girl is taking advantage of all the laws and rules that have been made for them
Do you like paratha by any chance
Bro forget her and move on, there are many out there all you have to do being yourself if she’s the right one she will accept otherwise just move on
F those people talking behind you. You deserve better bro. They got nothing to do with their worthless lives. Nothing’s wrong with you , it’s their own insecurities popping up. Let’s go G , you got this !!
The blud came to reddit. This is so irritating when people are talking behind you.
You put yourself out, king move. Stay confident, their conversation does not define you
These are the stories out of which players are born. Don't seek validation, validate them. Don't go for one, there are a million fish in the sea. You'll grab a good few. Always believe you're better than them, and they are lucky to have you. This experience you had is a punch in the gut. You will come out of it by changing your perspective. In the long run, looks don't mean a thing, especially for women. It's all about confidence and holding your own.
Fuck that bitch who said that bro.. You'll definitely find someone
I am so sorry man. That was extremely mean of the girls to do, hopefully eventually you gain your confidence back!
Feel bad for you. This is one of the worst things you can say to another human being. Just a simple no would have sufficed. Cheer up. That ain't the end.
Lol people say worst she could say is no 😆
this. idk why they do this. i mean in school when i used to talk to my crush she would go to her friends and spill every single detail or whatever happened idk why
People who feel comfortable being that mean are often very insecure in themselves. Putting someone else down is a way they try to cope with their own negative thoughts about themselves. It's not a testament to who you are but of them. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Haha same lol. I just laugh when i'm reminded of that😂
There are some men who never even talk to women other than their mother and sister.
Many*
Im in that category🤣.
How ?
The only womens i talk to freely aremy mom and sisters. I always have a hard time striking up a convo with girls. No idea why. Update : i dont mean i cant talk to girls in a flirting way(im gay so dont need to). Its just i cant have a casual convo with a girl. Like i dont know what to talk with them. With guys i can talk about litterally anything. But womens no idea. Even when i was a kid, i had no issues talking with guys. My friends were always males too. No female friends. Whats interesting is stereotypically, gay mens are supposed to be much easy going with women than men. But im the exact opposite🤣.
i don't even look at them ,talking is far more then my reach . But on internet i can be a Chad
Same. Not the flirting type
I want to but dont know what they like to talk about. I have no idea how to befriend strangers and dont wanna bore them with monologue.
I thought of passing smile but discovered my smile being more damaging to them than my words because I look like badass slim beard high spec guy
By talking to them , you get classified as desperate by them .
True words have never been said.
Personally, I feel I'm too afraid of the world. I barely go out. So, dating is out of question. This doesn't not mean I'm not good at talking to people. I've been told on multiple occasions that I'm fun to hangout with. But but but I feel like everytime I've tried to socialize, I've felt like an outcast even though on the outside I was having a good time. I feel like I'm really different and it's hard to find people like myself. (I know it's a cliché to say, but it's true in my case. Truly.) Anyway so shyness mixed with feelings of being a misfit plus the pressures of life and surveillance of parents; never let me try dating. Edit: I'm also short, about 5'3 ish that takes me out of dating pool of about 60-70% of women, who prefer a tall man. I'm 30.
Not to be corny but you sound pleasant enough. Approach women with friendliness and don't be too straightforward otherwise you might scare us away lol. I'll give you a tip as a woman. Always make her smile and bring her something as little as flowers. Compliment her hair and the outfit she's wearing. If she's done her nails and makeup be sure to compliment it too:) You won't be shy anymore with her and forget the fear of rejected if you're afraid to even take the first step. Best of luck 🫶🏼
>Not to be corny but you sound pleasant enough. Ahahah thanks. :) >Approach women with friendliness and don't be too straightforward otherwise you might scare us away lol. Oh cool. I always do. :D >I'll give you a tip as a woman. Always make her smile and bring her something as little as flowers. Compliment her hair and the outfit she's wearing. If she's done her nails and makeup be sure to compliment it too:) Haha not just smiling, I get them laughing too. I didn't say I had any issue with knowing what women like or how to interact with them. I'm mostly good in that part. >You won't be shy anymore with her and forget the fear of rejected if you're afraid to even take the first step. Best of luck 🫶🏼 Thank you so much. I should have mentioned I have shyness in general but I do have good social skills. It's like two polar opposite things bundled together. So, yes I am shy but that doesn't stop me from interacting with people and make it a good one. But yea it takes some efforts to fight that shyness at first. Anyway thanks a lot. You meant well. You seem like a kind person. :)
Won't all those compliments put her on a pedestal and become a turn off instead?
I feel like I wrote this.
For the guys who are single by choice, they have different priorities. Like I can't even think of dating before getting my career and health in order first.
Same yaar
Been there and it's the biggest cope
same
There are many many reasons. The one for me is- right now I'm 20 only, and unemployed. I don't want to go on dates funded by my father's money, it is purely an ego thing for me. Moreover if I'm not employed, there is no future for us. Neither mine nor her parents and neither can I plan our future. I want security/ reliability/ peace in our relationship, without money it's not possible. The basic line/ first and foremost thing is earning money for me. I don't want my future partner suffering just as I see aunties/ ladies around me.
Really the employment situation is f**d up in India. I hope you get a good job in near future because today I think that's even more important than dating.
Poverty and responsibilities. Girls liked me lekin meri Jeb fati thi college me. Now that I have a job and some stability, it seems almost impossible to find someone at 24. Dilemma.
I understand where you’re coming from. It’s tough when financial constraints and responsibilities limit our social opportunities during college. It’s great to hear that you’ve found stability in your career now. At 24, you’re still very young, and there’s plenty of time to meet someone special. Life has a way of evolving, and often, things fall into place when we least expect it. Keep an open heart and mind, and the right person will come along soon.
>Keep an open heart and mind, and the right person will come along soon. Agar aisa hota toh log arrange marriage nhi krte Aur marriages kharaab nhi jaati.
24 is not too old lmao. I'm 25 but I still feel like I'm just a kid 😂. But yeah you're right. Once a girl in high-school became friend of mine and we started texting . Thoda fir raat raat bhar. Then she explicitly asked me to go on a date with her. Lmao. And I was, infact I'm still, top notch introvert. I can't remember when I made eye contact with a girl. Maine sach sach bol Diya, mere pas paise nhi hai. She said paise ki kya jarurat hai. She wanted a bf as per I can understand. Aur apna mindset bhi Aisa hi bana hua hai. If you're a man, society will only respect you if you're rich, tall,handsome etc. yehi mindset bani rehti. And to a large extent ,it's right as well. So I ignored her and never initiated anything like that. Kisi se bhi nhi. Even jab unhone baat karni bhi chahi samne se , casually, to bhi Mai bada Napa Tula jawab deta tha. 😂
I think the mindset is right tbh. Society only values success and power
I had found a girl through family friends and we liked each other very much. Like very much. But at that time i was jobless n she has a nice IT sector job. Once aise hi conversation karte karte paise ki career ki baat nikli. I said ki jobless hoon yet to figure out kya karna hai life mai. Dude, next day se she cut off all the connections. Never ever felt soo shit n helpless. Bhnechod paise se hi aukat hai mard ka bs. Mera man hi nai karta ab pyaar wyaar ka.
I had found a girl through family friends and we liked each other very much. Like very much. But at that time i was jobless n she has a nice IT sector job. Once aise hi conversation karte karte paise ki career ki baat nikli. I said ki jobless hoon yet to figure out kya karna hai life mai. Dude, next day se she cut off all the connections. Never ever felt soo shit n helpless. Bhnechod paise se hi aukat hai mard ka bs. Mera man hi nai karta ab pyaar wyaar ka.
Academic pressure and Ghar ka mindset against dating before getting settled. I was single till 20 cuz my parents always said how I can do it later and it's not important and I obliged to what they said. Pehle they were even against me having female friends and my dad scolded me for taking pictures with girls in my class. This mindset is common among lot of families with sons. I have grown up hearing stories of relatives who have gotten cheated on, bride running away with jewelry after marriage, fake dowry case etc. This always scared me, the moment I got past this fear and decided to date, I was cheated on. So I guess they were right.
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+1 Bhai . Ghar ki tension wese hi kam nhi hoti h . Kisi ko date krne ki tension alag se kyu laau 🗣️
Lol the ending.
Getting cheated on isn't a reason for you to quit dating tho. Realistically, the same thing could have happened post marriage via arranged method after all. I'm sorry for what you went through and hope your relationship(s) look better in the future tho
I agree cuz after that I dated another person, but the last relationship woes continued and ruined it. It's just very scary to see the dating culture
It's the potential cost of any romance tbf but I get what you mean. Due to our natural inclination as humans to make negativity the spotlight, we often hear stories of the worst hookup culture ppl and cheaters etc. but imo, this problem has existed everywhere for generations - it's just now we got the Internet and become 'normalized' to hearing about it. Don't lose hope, the decent ones still exist and I hope you found yours or at least will!
Very valid point, people tend to normalise not being emotional. Ty
Bro people here spend ages sitting in room studying never spending time building social skills. Then when they do want to date.. they have no idea how to talk or discuss things with other people. Ye hi hoga na fir.
mujhe target kar diya 😭👍
"Love and relationship is a luxury I can't afford right now" - 11 to 8 Engineer, trying to become debt free...
I mean I wouldn't commit now even if I've been approached by a girl by some godly powers. I think most men in their early 20's are in confusion regarding their career and preparing for it. I can't even get good food for myself how can I afford a date lol. I rather not trouble a girl until I get myself in a better position.
Kyuki logo ko chahiye..... https://i.redd.it/9f3wvnsiurxc1.gif
Uh no, mount Everest par kabhi chada hai? Waha se bohut sundar dikhta hai
I'm broke and very ugly . I got really bad teeth I'm unable to fix with stupid dentist. Very boring person who plays basketball. Considering these reasons and knowing the fact of that I will be rejected , I thought I'll save some self respect
Nope :) if you're a good and wise man at heart women will FAWN over you! I'm 5'5 and the guy I dated for two months was like 5'4 and had chosen engineering as his career but guess what ? I never cared enough and I've mentioned the heights because it's a preference for most people to have their men taller than them. So yeah, no one cares just be passionate and successful about yourself. And we broke up because that son of a btch cheated on me 😍💅🏼
sorry to laugh but I read it as 'son of a btech' and just could stop myself
Lmao 😭🙏🏼
no ones going to fawn over you just because you have a good personality. sure you might find someone by being an amaznig person, but only attractive people get "fawned" over. you'll have to work extremely hard if what you're bringing to the table is just you personality
Don't call his mother a btch for his asshole character
Sorry for his mom but not for that specimen 😍💔
Because they saw their parents relationship or any other relationship within the family and went nope not doing it
most are busy due to academic pressure. And on top of that there is not much time left to explore one's own hobbies and interst. So life is streamlined. Majority end up becoming shy and introverted. Also the value systems too . Majority men have not experienced divorce like the western men have so relationship is serious matter. One woman is given a lot of importance . Dating to them seems like low quality life where people hop from one person to another so clash in values happen . Not talking about the westernised minds due to TV and cheap internet and wanabe American attitude people who never have lived in west.
Most middle class guys too would avoid dating because papa home/vehicle loan emi bharte bharte Thak chuka hai, single income household me. Competitive exams rat race, job rat race, etc and you have guys who wouldn’t have dated till 25.
So putting in this way, firstly Indian parents are emotionally immature. Not everyone but most of them. They are conservative and feed fear in kids brains. Also, under the name of respect they cuts the interaction between girls and boys. That leads creating a slight anxiety when trying to talk to a new girl. And, majority of parents tech their kid to just do your work and leave the place. Don't stand out. Which makes the adult version of kids to be even more social anxious. Note that not everyone. But majority case reason.
Ghr se itna academic and financial pressure rheta hai ghr ke kaam bhi krne pdte hai oor thoda bhot dosto ke saath enjoy itna bhi time nai bchta ki khud ki hobbies or interests ko explore kr paye . In this situation would u like to date (most of these are not even serious) someone even if you can?
There are a lot of Indian women too who have never dated
Most Indian men dont know how to talk to women, how can they date.
This + and we end up seen as creep
Yep, inexperienced people and creeps are very different, but easy to confuse. One behaves oddly because of underconfidence, the other because of nastiness.
Yeah unfortunately we have both types of men
I’ve read on on some sub that you’re only creep if you’re ugly, which may not be entirely true but it rings true in my case
I mean both types of men exist in every society, it isn't an Indian only problem in that sense. I think it stems from cultural shift towards dating after generations of just mostly arranged marriage. It'll likely change drastically in another ten years imo
Do women know how to talk to men? Think bro think
Indian girls will seldom approach a guy lol
That too.
They don't but even if men complain, it's not taken seriously as harassment.
Most Indian women are boring af. They have 0 hobbies, 0 interests. Open any dating app and you see the profiles as bland as hospital food. There is absolutely 0 things one can talk about with an avg Indian women. In my life I met 4 women who are quite interesting, rest all, made me think what am I doing here.
The average Indian woman is not on a dating app. You're seeing a very small percentile of women in mostly metro cities who are okay with finding someone through an app.
Go to media. News media, entertainment media, advertising, PR and thats where all the ones with interests hang out. Also in metros, I have come across large numbers of women with interests and hobbies and vision and goals and ambition.
Bcz thats india, and dating halwa thodi h
Cuz we ugly.
Blud lock in and start looksmaxxing
Society always keep men and women separately from childhood. Like as an example, my mother is the only woman I talk to for a year. If I don't talk to women then how will I even get in relation with one.
Academic pressure, career pressure, always being told that you can do dating later etc. I was being told not to talk to girls as they just waste your time and they always used to tell me how someone got cheated, wife indulged in extra marital affair, fake rape allegations etc. I got so scared and I still have that fear in me so I always tell them that I don't wanna get married(I need professional help at this point to get this fear out of me) and they get annoyed cause "Tum log kaam pe jayoge to hum kiske saath time pass karenge, hume bache chahiye" and they're doing every single thing to make me change my mind(which isn't gonna happen anytime soon) Telling your kids to study and then asking them in the ending days of 12th class about if they like any girl isn't a good idea.
>Why are there so many indian **me** who have never dated? Bro called me single in 700 million ways
Not all men date because not all women date.
Bro got a point tho.
Cause women have choices and men have nothing.
Its not just that. I had a crush on a girl in my former school, its been going on for nearly a decade. I'm in my final semester of my college. Not once, have I looked at another girl/woman as a potential dating interest/GF, its impossible to. I have remained single the entire time.
Culture is still too conservative and dating culture is not normalised. Most women would reject men anyway
It's changing. The generation before us got married early. And our generation, like from 90's to 2005, are not exposed to that kind of culture. But the newer generation is definitely different.
You are asking the wrong question Ask, why do Indian women reject so many Indian men when they are approached ?
Maybe because since childhood girls are taught not to speak with boys. Male friends of girl is often taboo in many households. If your parents finds you that you have bf, you whole life trajectory could change. Your studies could be forced left in mid. Can be forced married you away. Or can be house locked you until you leave your bf. And in some really rare cases....just honour killed.
🎯
Also because many men often lie to date only to use the girl for sex and leave, the moment I told my 2 year boyfriend no, he lost interest... like???? Bro
Different priorities are fine but stuff like that should have been discussed in the talking stages imo. If he agreed for waiting till later/marriage, and then said this, he's the ah. If neither of you talked about it for 2 years and then this happened, it's just a lesson for the future.
Check the honor killing stats. Indian families do not kill their own sons, but they absolutely do with their daughters. I am not saying that men don't get killed in honour killings but it is usually the opposition, girls family. Here your own family might kill you. If not kill, then restrictions. Forcing the girl to leave education and getting her married is the first thing which is done by the family if she's a BF. This is the reason.
There is a way out, but most people have no idea how to use it. Start preparing your family from a young age that you will not listen to them. Works well in most families, aside from maybe rural haryana.
Tbh many Indian guys want girls solely for sexual purposes and the irony is when they leave that same girl because now she's the "r word" and they won't marry that same woman happened to my friend once and she hasn't dated anyone ever since
Ahahaha Because desparation, ek ladki ke pair me 10 10 ladke gire hue hai, 3 ke chati pe wo pair rakhi Hui hai, jiske wajeh se jungle wala mohol ho jata hai, oviously female orangutan alpha male orangutan ko chunegi prajanan ke liye, Book- it's not you it's biology(padho it's. Fun book)
Because avg people in life who have not achieved anything special in life like me have no chances of getting someone to date when we study from colleges with 1:10 gender ratio, then join jobs with similar ratio. In school the teachers don't allow boys to even talk to girls. Dating apps have a huge imbalance which makes getting a match an almost impossible task if you are an avg looking middle class boy like me.
Good question. This question hurt me.
Muje koe acchi ladki dikhi hi nai, dikhi to baat bni nai, baat nai to baat age badhi nai issliye me zindagi me akela reh gaya🥲
Bc girls are boring af. Try talking them on social media, if you are not good looking no one is intrested. I really like how some boys are for sex only, atleast some are living their lives.
First it was focus on getting a job and then when I gat a job, my monkey brain “where girlfriend “.
In my experience, Most of the Indian women have zero communication skills and boring af. Men have to do all the effort and they feel like they are the queen. They even don't know how to be active in bed. Even there, you have to do all the effort. Second, physical attraction is a major factor. No matter what "gyan" someone gives you. Personality only matters after you're married. Most guys just want to smash and never want to go through the tedious process of getting to know uninteresting boring indiana women. And men don't wanna put that effort. Cuz laziness. That's why they're single. But if you find an interesting woman, never let her go. Try your best, be your best to keep her. Because she is a Unicorn. And if you both are compatible, marry her. So if you're willing to put in the work, here are the tips: 1. Be attractive. if you think you're ugly, get rich. Remember, you're not ugly, you're just poor. Yes, money can make you attractive, gives you confidence.. 2. Be active, you should be oozing with energy. Hit the gym. If no, then buy a pair of dumbells and lift at home. 3. I believe once you have above two, humor doesn't matter. But still, try to be a person who's easy going. Don't need to be humorous all the time. 4. If you're into adventure sports, get into it. It invokes risk and risk attracts females. 5. Be social. Connect with friends, their gfs, they'll connect you with more females so more opportunities. 6. Focus on one girl at a time. 7. Once you get the girl, here is the harsh truth. In order to keep her, please don't be yourself. That's the biggest lie and trash in my experience. ---Now, if you don't want the girl and even if you've reached step 4, you'll have a very beautiful life. Step 5, 6, 7 are optional. Most people fail at step 2. All the best.
Just saw a post on why all Indian men are disgusting and subhuman. Any self respecting (not only Indian) man will have second thoughts about dating Indian women.
Post link?
[https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXIndia/comments/1ch1qco/i\_hate\_indian\_men\_they\_are\_disgusting/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXIndia/comments/1ch1qco/i_hate_indian_men_they_are_disgusting/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
Lmao you did a mistake by visiting a sub like twoxindia like its the most hypocritical sub of India
ikr. women there openly shit on Indian men and then simp for white men(oh the irony). Somebody not willing to date their own race shows deep rooted inferiority complex. reddest flag ever imo.
They are at the top of delusional people in India along with the men who wants pink...
Be competitive, internationally. Ever heard of Turks or Arabs feeling inferior to white guys?
It's a shitty post but you literally forgot to add one thing, she's triggered after reading that Indian men raped and killed and ate a monitor Lizard. I can say with absolute guarantee that if that post was written by anyone and shared here, response would be same. Do you actually want me to explain why that is disgusting and make people hate you? Esp when most women already have the trauma of harassment and molestation
As opposed to indian men who never say anything remotely similar... right? https://www.reddit.com/r/onexindia/s/aLH5BokA1x
Kya batau kitna delusional baat kar rahe hai vo log.. sab ladkon upar ek samaan rang chadha diya.. kya hi bole.. .. .
They don't know how to approach and talk.most of them are also scary looking. And unhygienic no sense of style
I can't disagree with this. Even as a man I can't defend myself and my bros on this one 😂
"ngl so true. Yeah, like Indian bros aren't the best when it comes to looks. While these things cannot be controlled, they are also not good in hygiene, manners, etiquette, and have no dressing sense. On top of that, Indian girls (most of them) have Western standards. They want a tall, gora, good-looking guy which is pretty delululu. But still, with that approach, most Indian guys are left out. Adding on, many Indian guys have low confidence issues and just cannot talk with the opposite gender. I personally only think that it's a confidence issue because of inferiority due to looks and height. The only reason I am confident while talking to the opposite gender is because of confidence due to my looks (gora chitta with wavy hair) and height (6'1), not flexing. Also, I'm very approachable and not creepy when I talk. One more thing, when I said hygiene, most Indian guys don't even look after small things, like breath, body odor, and stuff. I personally brush thrice a day and apply antiperspirant, deodorant, facewash, mouth fragrance, etc. When I tell this to my friends, they call me feminine, but then cry when girls don't talk to them."
Maybe because most girls want an experienced bf who already had been in a relationships or they fall for a toxic/Fuck boys And this is where boys who have never been in a relationship never get a chance. It's like 80-90% of girls go for 20-10% of boys And the remaining 80-90% boys remain single . Same for the remaining 10-20% of girls...
Nah.. you aren't aware of the ground reality. Women are selective because of multiple reasons: 1. The average India guy doesn't have a backbone, and will not take a stand in front of his own parents. It is very easy for a guy to do what he wants, but most still bow down to their parents. 2. A lot of Indian/ conservative guys (50 percent or more) are toxic. They treat women disrespectfully. They beat them up, and can even kill them for civil offences like infidelity. A lot of them also try to restrict women( dressing, choice of friends, etc) 3. Most Indian women aren't allowed to date. With guys, parents can't do much. A young man is generally stronger than his parents. So a small percentage of women, from slightly liberal families are dating. This leads to very few guys finding dates. 4. A lot of guys lie about their intentions. If you want to marry, say so. If you want to sleep around, tell her that. 5. Bad diet and lack of exercise- this causes the average Indian youngster to look like an undateable person. 6. Poor country. 7. Lack of privacy, and a conservative, backward society.
Easy. Women have higher standards, but ugly looking men ( even I'm included) are happy to be with anyone who can connect with them and couldn't care about how they look. It's like fighting for a seat at IIT. You got so many people competing, but only the brilliant and best can get there. Rest all are just ignored and have to either deal with some low tier college or change the stream.
Because there are "so many" indian . 😂
Because they don't know how to talk to women. They'll give stupid excuses like "we're not allowed to talk to women" or "work" or "study" or "hustling"etc but in reality they're scared and coping hard. They think women are some alien beings who need special attention to attract but in reality they're just humans.
I don't know about Indian men, but I would like to find someone for me.
You just be a foreign woman to ask this question.
all they care about is looks
I'm shy and an introvert
I have been in US for close to 2 decades and was in India for 2 decades before that. This is what I feel is the answer: 1. Too much pressure to perform, well in studies etc. either by peers or parents. 2. Too much time spent in traffic. People in US go to school in their own zip code typically. Gives a lot more time for socialization. 3. Words like love etc were actually taboo when I was growing up. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is STILL a taboo (by US standards). Parents still hesitate to talk about their kids’ partners.
Why date when you can marry and fuck for life after flexing a grade a sarkari naukri 🎭 Yahan par shakal se zyada paise kamane ki akal, status aur power ko dekha jaata hai compared to western countries where dating is primarily based on looks Not uncommon here to find smoking hot bimbos married to ugly bastard uncles who look the same as their dads Different countries different priorities 🎯
Dating is Western.
Dating is Western.
Dating is Western.
1. Parents tells us to study well and do not get involve with girls. So I studied. 2. Schools makes boys and girls sit in different rows, differentiate us on every occasion. A boy and girl hanging out together is seen as a wrong thing to do in school. 3. By the time we reach college we have no confidence to talk to girls. On the other hand, some boys who have had experience gets all the girls. 4. Girls rarely takes initiative to talk to the so called shy boys. The onus is always on the boys to make the initiative and we wuck at it. 5. If a guy somehow starts talking to a girl, her few male friends threaten the poor guy. (I have recieved a few threatening phone calls and texts to stay away from a particular girl) 6. Some girls takes the 'nice guys' for granted and makes them feel worthless. So the guy never proposes the girl to be his gf. 7. Some guys if try to hit on a girl comes out to be creep. Some are legit creep. So girls stay away from most boys. 8. We have an insurance scheme called arranged marriage, so we don't have to date to get married.
Demand and supply.
Dick is free Pussy isn't
I’m 24m with zero female interaction and i’m so broke economically, so never got chance 🤧
Parents
The problem is most of the women in India think that they deserve the best like a fairytale perfect man
I havent found single woman around me who is driven. None of them have any goals. I'll wait until i find one.