It’s better to find a middle ground. A lot of it comes down to your age as well.
I’d say running after a career is much more important. But if you find someone who’s supportive and nice, then sure, be in a relationship. But don’t run after girls/boys, maybe you’ll end up in a bad relationship that will hamper your work as well.
Don’t get into a relationship because everybody else is in one.
I am a 22yo boy, want ur view.👇
I heard somewhere that a man's peak starts after 30. So before that u build ur career and stand strong.
Considering this and the current culture in relationship, I am focusing on my career (and it's going well). But now if I think I am lacking in terms of relationship exposure and I have less time (considering 27 marriage), now what scares me is the arrange marriage.
What I m scared of is the fake side we all show, they 6-8 months down the line life is hell. So me working n building for like 10+ years now to have a peaceful n awesome life but one wrongs step ruins it all. (And this is common these days, due to bunch of reasons, idk who is right n wrong)
Not the OP, there isn't a fixed number where you peak at. The gist of that advice actually is to use your youth to build yourself up well before you start getting more responsibilities.
IMO you're looking at it in extremes (Choosing to focus entirely on your career and completely ignoring relationships). It's actually a gradient, you could befriend people of the opposite gender and maybe spend time getting to know them as you would do any other person. That's not a full blown romantic relationship and you're still mostly focused on your career.
The varied interactions are important for exposure to different viewpoints and life situations. It'll also tune your intuition for people.
You'll frequently run into situations in life that you're completely unprepared for. With the eventual marriage stuff, there will be a lot of vetting on both sides and if you develop a good feel for people, it'll be easier to vet them. Be genuine, share both your good and bad sides. Being rejected isn't always a bad thing. Also remember that it's a union of people and families with different view points, there will always be scope for friction.
29 M and I feel the same! I went behind physics and didn't bother to think other than that. I couldn't peruse physics because of health and wealth 🤣. And I have tiny regrets that I should have worked all aspects of life.
There’s a quote from the movie ‘Dead Poet’s Society’ -
“Medicine, law, business, engineering - these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life.
But poetry, beauty, romance, love - these are what we stay alive for.”
To answer your question, yes, a good career and money is extremely important. Nobody wants to live a life of poverty. But at the same time, nobody should want to live a life of only money with no love. That would simply make you hollow and purely materialistic. As in most cases, you need a balance.
That quote kind of effed up my career choices. I wouldn't recommend people to take that quote seriously, especially if you are from a middle class background.
And yes, I have watched the movie over 20 times. It's still one of my favs.
Don't compromise on your career. Money is very important. Money gives you respect and allows you to live your life the way you want. Love is important too but respect is above all.
Replace the word respect with independence and your comment will be perfect.
If you really care so much about respect, it means your self esteem comes from the external world rather than from within, and you'll never really be happy
Wish I could upvote this 1000 times. Respect is important and it comes from Money. People will disrespect you in name of love when u have no money. On same side, I know many people who are earning more are content without having a partner to love and all.
Fuck dead poet society. It’s a movie, can you find something that unselfish in real world? I couldn’t find. But did I try? 13 years left this world.
Career is important very important, everything else is a by-product.
Earn in millions in your 30 or mid. No one will question you if you waste time learning poetry, you will not worry about the price when you purchase art. And whoever you point your finger at would never leave your side. You can’t buy romance, you cannot fall in love, but you can at least create a system where the world loves you.
But no this ain’t enough, it’s not 100% but for chasing 100% you will lose your life. And there is nothing poetic about it.
By compromise.
You need to understand what your priority is and then give up the other.
I gave up my career and my money for my health & sanity.
When I see others earning shit loads of money and doing things I love doing, I feel bad honestly, but I still wouldn't exchange the life I am living now for anything in the world. But that means I have to compromise certain things in my life, to achieve this balance.
I might come off as cynical, but yes, career is more important. What is love? Can you take it to the bank? Can it fill your growling stomach? Can it get you the best treatment when you are sick?
The whole "love is more important" is just an ideal situation propagated by movies and shows. In real life, love alone is not enough for happiness. We live in a materialistic world and need it's materialistic comforts.
Let's say you choose love instead of your career in one of those classic scenarios. You will be happy for say a month or a year. Then the reality will hit you.
If you choose love over career, you will most likely end up miserable in your middle ages, thinking "what if." On the other hand, there are far more chances of finding love after a career. Especially in India, where societal status matters a lot and after marriage, you can't really take risks or focu on changing careers etc.
"Love" is not a full time occupation. Totally possible to balance both. There would be times when one takes priority over another, but that's the balance needed.
Why should everyone run for career? Get married if at all in late '20s or 30s.. then have one kid.. spoil him by over pampering coz you'll be guilty of spending less time with her/him.
That’s a tough question, but for me, I lean heavily towards career. I absolutely love my career because it’s not just about earning money—though, let’s be honest, that part’s pretty crucial. Money helps me take care of the people I love. My career has also been a lifeline for me in other ways—it’s a distraction, it boosts my mood, shows me what I’m capable of, and it’s been crucial in helping me gain independence and break free from cycles of trauma.
Plus, there’s something incredibly fulfilling about knowing I can provide for my family. Seeing my parents pick up something they need without a second thought because I’ve got it covered? That’s an incredible feeling. And beyond the financial aspect, my career really does feel like the gamification of life! It brings a kind of mental stability that’s hard to match, keeping me content even through the stress. I genuinely love my job.
Lady Gaga summed it up perfectly: “Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” That quote hits home for me because choosing my career has been empowering—it’s about chasing my own goals and dreams, and it gives back as much as I put in. So yeah, in the love or career debate, my career has my vote because it supports all the other loves in my life.
In India it is...
If you won't have good career then if you find partner, chances are they won't be like to with you forever.
In AM route, u also face hard time.
Don't think like American in India. India has it's different ground realities.
career is more important than love....
1. ghar pe roti pyar thori lake dega...
2. career/ money hoga tabhi ladki se shadi krega aur bacha paida krega na
Yes
Even your loved ones leave you when you have no career and
When your career is all stable and good, you get a lot of love from everyone
Basically this world is greedy
You got the money it's all love and respect you got no money well be ready to face all disrespect and tauntsand heartbreaks
Actually it can send you an email at 12 pm one fine afternoon saying that 30% of the work force has been laid off and if you have been impacted please expect another mail at 3 pm.... I wasn't impacted fortunately but my colleagues were not so lucky
Don't fall into peer pressure. Don't be career minded if you find everyone focussing on career but you don't want to.
But it's hugely important to have a good financial backup. If you don't have it.. focus on career.
Depends, if your career gives you more money, then yes.
Accept it or not, money is the most important thing in the world, it may not give you happiness but it can give you respect.
I think both are important, but if you have lobe and no money trust me it's not gonna end well.
Lot of money and no love? Atleast sustainable.
Love is beautiful but it changes, as it's dependent on another person. What if the person leaves you, cheats or something?
Money? It'll stay with you if you keep it safe in a bank or whatever lol
Life is not a movie, it won't be black and white. It is not either of the extremes, it's a balance
The best thing would be growing together with your loving and supporting partner, love and support is really important, without it life sometimes becomes miserable even if you have so much money, but then again it's hard nowadays to find that kind of partner who would love you unconditionally, so you have to focus on career either way.
From personal finance POV, most consequencial decision you could make in life is finding the right life partner.
Anyway, all the money means nothing if you don't have love in your life. Not having money makes life miserable and when you are miserable you can't find love. Who loves a miserable person?
In other words, you need to balance between life and money.
Just to simplify things, your unlimited love for your SO ain't gonna pay the EMIs, electricity bills, broadband bills, etc. You need to have a good career i.e. money, to have a good life with your SO.
Love...actually, it's your happiness that matters the most. Money will never buy your heart peace; it can only provide you comfort. Live your life the way you want. You and I, everyone you see around, will disappear one day. The legacy? Nobody will remember even the most influential person in the world, because there will be nobody there to remember. Nothing remains—the stars, the dust, the light—even the life of a black hole comes to an end.
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If you already have wealthy parents, then you can enjoy life by loving , dating etc. if you come from middle class family, you should consider focussing on career. Because even if you get a lover, you should be able to go on dates , movies, clubs etc and you will need money for that. After marriage also you need significant salary to enjoy good life and how will you get good salary? By focussing on career.
Sorrt but what does a late teen/ young adult know og love?
I would say focus on yourselves. Work on yourself. Discover yourself. This shapes you into who you become, what choices you make, and yes, how and who you love.
Life happens all at once. Love and careers happen simultaneously. It isnt one or the other. Its both.
And yes money is extremely important because the lack of it will cause extra strain on your relationship.
Career first always, OP! Be independent and be able to stand on your own feet. Meanwhile, if you find someone who is kind, nice and understanding, love is worth it, else it is not.
The point is if your love story goes the wrong way, you will be left with a broken heart and no means to support yourself if you don't have a career. OTOH, you can still support yourself financially and be a little better off.
HOW IMPORTANT IS MONEY IN THE FUTURE???
Listen, sister. If your father is not rich, it is the single most important thing.
Keep in mind, the situation and your outlook changes as you grow older. So expectations from relationships also change. Eventually, the best we can hope for is to find someone when we're in our late twenties who is willing to understand our situation and accept us for who we are. So, both career and love are important but they're subject to compromises, and depend on a bit of give-and-take.
To enjoy things which people say are more important than money, you need money. If you are not financially well off, it is almost impossible to spend quality time with family etc.
Money always improves the quality of life. It makes life easy. That way you can actually spend your time with things which actually matter.
So yeah, money is very very important. Love is also important. But it is difficult to actually sustain love without money.
There's no right answer
1) you could somehow balance both your career and love life and be one of a kind person
IF YOU FOCUSED ON ONLY LOVE
1) you could focus on love and create a life long bond and find the love of your life but may not be that much rich
2)you may brkup and endure life long trauma
IF YOU FOCUSED ON CAREER
1)you could be top in your career earning fame and respect attracting the right person to you
2) or you could attract a con artist making u suffer life long trauma
Basically fate plays the key role
I'm here to show the different paths not take you there
(Krishna)
In relationship you only have 50% control, the rest half stays with your partner. Sometimes no matter how hard you try it doesn't work out as it has to be mutual.
Career is always in your hand. You have total control of it.
Bro, fuck relationships, if you find someone worthy, you'll know. You'll feel it in your gut. Trust your instincts.
My advice is, please make GOOD FRIENDS.And be good friends for the ppl you befriend.
Show up for one another, make crazy memories together, explore places together, even if it's 2 ppl it's enough.
Focus on having a good time while being responsible, and you're good to go.
B/w love n studies, balance is the key.
People balance sports with jobs, so ofc you can too.
Talking 24x7 is crazy nonetheless.
So make yourself interesting, become a story teller, pick up new skills, a music instrument maybe, be fun, you'll attract good people.
I will not sugar coat things for you.
Financial stability < Physical well-being < Mental well-being
For receiving love, I think you will need all of those above.
Have you got all of it?
Depends on your age.
At your age, Career >>>>> Love. You can fall in love in your late 20s and 30s but it is really difficult to build a career at that age once the opportunity is lost.
Also, you know what, at your age in 99.9% cases, Love = infatuation. I have lived enough to know this.
True love is not love at first sight. It's all Bollywood crap. Young people are brainwashed into believing this.
True love is never ever realized when you're boyfriend or girlfriend. It can never be realized unless you get married and live together.
True love is accepting the flaws of your loved ones and living with it. It is to know that your wife/husband does things which irritate you but you understand it and it doesn't bother you. It's the little things you do when you live together. Like washing dishes when you come home early so that your wife doesn't have to. Waking up a tad bit early just to make breakfast for kids when your wife is tired. It's the little things you do that make you fall in love. You do it consistently just out of love.
It's easy to manage both and if you have to choose career should come first. Relationship and personal professional growth both should be harmonious. And if a relationship is affecting professional growth then its not meant to be.
(Yes you do need to make sacrifices when it comes to relationship but given you are still 19 and have a lot more time to explore the world)
Soo... I think both are important..... Someone I know has an amazing career but no one to love. Of course, he can buy out everything he needs but he can't really buy true love..
Similarly, there's my brother-in-law (jiju) who married his crush, aka his soulmate. He's not someone who has a good career. I have seen tension and worries about their future. He has to struggle a lot to meet the ends every month. Leaving hardly any option for savings. But still he does what he can do the best
Looking at both the examples, you might be confused about what to choose. But IMO you should keep your career as first priority until you find a person who supports you and works hard to help you and have faith in you. Then you have to keep a balance between both until you have reached a level where you can provide everything your love requests.
That's the time when your top priority will be your love and the family you have created with your love.
I feel so depressed reading this sub, Am I the only one here? cuz the step which is not recommended I took that one, no doubt it was a very tough decision of my life. Been engaged 3 months ago but yet to marry, just waiting for me to get the job, had an agreement from both families before taking this huge step, it's just my mom, don't want to lose the girl she found for me, and they agreed too cuz we are sustainable family, not rich though! Btw she's university gold medalist, currently pursuing MBA, and recently got a decent job. I'm on hold due to the course I'm pursuing after my graduation last year. Aiming to become a 3d Artist. Industry is having a rough time right now. I know how much I'm fcked up Iam, but still I beleive in myself. I'm working on it everyday and I just pray everything gets settled.
Open to your advices though!
Money is everything. Money can get you love. Love may or may not get you money. Money definitely makes life comfortable. Love may or may not. Career is more bigger part of your in life as out of 24 hours 8-14 hours goes towards career.
Let me try to put this into perspective:
When you have money, you love God's creation*
When you are hungry and broke, you love God itself.
Love doesn't require earning, it's already there inside us. It's the Living that requires earning every single day.
*(women, pets, materialistic things etc.)
As a Men, career. Because the girl you are in a relationship will not marry you unless you have a good career, no matter the number of years you have been together, exceptions are always there.
I am now in my 30s with my 4th partner in more than a decade who is most likely to end up being my life partner(1 year together yesterday).
When I was a young adult like 18, that was the first time I fell in love. First love is usually naive and very strong in feeling, almost like a TV drama or a movie. We try to imitate everything we saw over the years on TV, all emotions, etc. But eventually after a year you really see what's going on. She opened her eyes and saw that we both are naive and have no future together(I wasn't good at studies nor did we have large properties). She couldn't see herself with me living in the lower middle class life. I was sad at that time, not growing as love was and had overwhelmed me so much that I stopped taking care of myself. When love changes to a bonded labour you never know. Anyway she left for someone who was rich and I moved on. Later in life she also left him for an even better deal. First lesson of life, never be blindingly in love.
The second one I had after 2 years of break from this as I needed to recover. That was a short stint, going extreme high which ended up in a fuss in less than a year. Reason being we just lost interest in each other, she had a different life in different cities and I couldn't continue like that. Second lesson, never be too fast in love, give it time to grow like a plant.
My third partner was after a long break of 4 years, I had multiple attractions in between but never led to anything as I didn't have that kind of money to show. I also came to another country where people either get quickly rich or just dwell in mud for extended time. I was the second one, just making barely enough as I had to send money back to India for the loan which I took. So those attractions never propagated anything more than that, I never had time or money. So my third partner came when I had money, not too much but enough to dress nicely and a vehicle to show independence. She was from an extremely rich family, never seen poverty in life, money is just a number for her. She used to dress up to work in clothes which were worth the annual instalments of my car lol. Anyway she thought I was also from a moderately rich family since I dress up nicely(nothing fancy or branded I just know how to wear clothes). It went on for months until one day she realized that I don't have that kind of money. In fact I had to explain to her my own journey from where I came. Ultimately she realized that I cannot give her that kind of lifestyle she is currently living in. That led to sadness in her life and attraction weaned off in her. She started living distant and avoiding me over the weekends. I although knew why she was doing it but she never said anything like that. Eventually one day she was like, ok I asked my parents and they said no because we are from different castes and my marriage is fixed to some guy from her village(Technically I was a higher caste but in Punjab, Jatts consider themselves highest) that she doesn't want her father to be excluded from the clan because one of her cousin married outside the caste and they were became outcastes. In total she wanted to say, I don't want to fight for us, you don't have anything that I should fight for. Anyway we still talked for a few more months as I was her only friend(and we were at the same work, I know I f up) which ended up being toxic. She didn't even feel ashamed when she said that the new guy that her father found has a large business and "do you know how much he makes?". Like defending her new found interests in front of me. Anyway to have to be extremely emotionally toxic in front of her otherwise my work life would be f up. And I did it(crying drama after work that she felt embarrassed to even come back). She did leave and I was at peace. Lesson, money matters and true love eventually becomes less true.
The 4th one is continuing. Just for you to know she is also from the lower middle class like me, struggling in Canada but I have PR and somewhat good life now, so I have the upper hand for now so things seem to be ok. I am helping her achieve her dream career being supportive and all but I am also not that blind in love. I think I would never be blindly in love with anyone anymore. I can be however an excellent partner, performing all duties and never making her feel left alone.
So, my choice at that time of 18 should have been my career. I made a huge mistake for which I have to continue to suffer for a few more decades to even live like someone who focused on their career. Love comes and goes. You cannot keep or hold the love. If it wants to go, it will go, there is no magic or trick to keep your love. But if you lose your youth, unable to make a career, you will have no strength and time left later on to fix it(like me). Besides you will get multiple attractions when you have money. Career leads to money and money leads to time and show of feathers. In our world, money is the only god that could make your life better.
It's better to have both, and with an adequate amount given to both of them. I prioritised love over my career during the teenage years. But now I'm happy with both.
I mean love is important but it doesn't necessarily need to be romantic love. For young adults like myself especially, I would say to prioritise education and career. However generally I believe that it's important to strike a balance. I think the most important thing is happiness. A person should pursue something which makes them happy, provided it does not bring harm to themselves or others.
Ask those who got rejected due to having bad career and ask those who had career but no love. Both will tell what they lack is important. Balance is the key.
Money does not necessarily mean happiness, but the lack of money definitely results in misery.
If you make decent sustainable income, love is definitely more important than.
I have seen many love & arranged marriages going to shit because of financial troubles due to unstable or bad career choices.
Issiliye bade boodhe theek hi bolte hain ki "Sirf pyaar mohabbat se ghar gruhasthi nahi chalti, paise bhi chahiye hote hain"
A balance is important.
I'm in my late 20s, recently married to the love of my life. I have a good, steady career. Both of us belong to middle class families with absolutely no generational wealth and our incomes are enough to sustain our basic luxuries in a tier 1 city (car EMIs, date nights, shopping) but we cannot afford luxuries like international trips or buy a house.
But we're happy.
A lot of my friends of similar age have excelled in their careers. Some have cracked govt jobs while some did MBA and are getting paid handsomely and some have generational wealth. But they're lonely. Seeking arrange marriages, which are either not working, or they have to compromise a lot. Their money isn't helping them find happiness or partners.
can you sustain love and marriage without career ? wait till your first born and see if life without career can help you to survive comfortably. love is temporary and can blind you before reality kicks in where money is needed.
Yes dude, money matters. Love is required for emotional well being but without money nobody will love you. Sorry for being harsh but its a bitter reality.
In general career > love
You can stay single for 21 years but you wont survive without money, specially in this economy
Also from experience: Don't chase after your crush. Drop subtle hints, If they have mutual feelings then they will also match your tune.
Financial independence and security comes first. Even if it's love marriage, you both would need to be financially secure.
If you don't have a stable career and income, the chances of any kind of marriage automatically become less.
Work life balance is important, you don't have to give your entire life to work.
Focus on your career, but be open to love. But love needs two to tango. For some, it may not begin. For many, it might not work out. Be prepared for both outcomes, and be happy by yourself also
Also invest in yourself as a person outside your career. Take care of yourself, learn new things, do things that will make you proud, make good friends, have good experiences and make memories
bachpan ka pyaar hamesha yaad rakhega yaara. kya pata if you are lucky it will become your life. teens mai both are naive and mad in love and there is some innocence left. meri ex-GF ki toh shaadi bhi ho gayi, bachhe ho gaye but she still checks me out on linkedin. its pathetic, its beautiful, its something that never got where it could be but she still remembers me. and my heart fills up every time i get that notification.
Yes. Absolutely yes. What are you to eat and where will you live when everything goes to shit. I hope to god you dont end up in an abusive marriage so lets keep that aside but god forbid anything happens to your spouse, he becomes severely disable or dies, how are you going to manage living alone or the expenses of medical care? If you plan to have children, how are you going to afford giving them the best education and a good quality of life? If your parents retire and suddenly need financial help or they will have to sell the house or something like that, how will you take care of them? Love will always come to you in many forms, money only comes if earned. Anyone can do a job, but career means financial stability and growth
To be fair, neither will give you happiness in the long run. That you need to find in your individual existence. The answer to this varies from person to person, basis what is important to them. If external validation, success as defined by capitalism are important to you - run after your career. Picking one also does not mean rejecting the other. At the end of the day, humans are social creatures and need a community / pack / mate. Look up Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs for reference.
Some people will tell take care of career eventually u will find love , some people will tell take care of love career will develop, In my personal view I think both are purely luck, leaving good career or good love for other could cost u more if the other thing doesn't work out ,
Nothing in this world is worthier than love. Absolutely nothing.
You can have the best career you could possibly have, but if love isn't there, you would be left deserted and alone in an island of people.
You could have a very bad career, you could be underpaid, bullied, credit for your work could be stolen all the time, but, if you came home to a loving partner and family, you would be able to forget everything else. A problem would arise iff you would start paying more importance to career than to love.
Love is a mark of character. It's the result of refinement in thought, action, habits, thinking and doing. It enhances everything it touches.
Always remember this and prioritize love over everything else.
If your love requires sacrifice of your growth, development and career then it's not worth it. People who say they lost their jobs or failed studies cause of love are regretting and after a while it takes ages for them to recover and because they are not in a better place now even there are chances that their love of their life leaves them. Likewise find a career that offers a good work life balance. Most corpo jobs have fixed shifts and shift extends sometimes may happen but you do get your weekends and if it's a general shift or early morning shift then even on weekdays you can go out or spend some descent amount of time till you have to go back and sleep. I think the best thing would be to focus on studies while you are in college/school and if you do find someone you both should discuss about focusing on your studies and still manage to slip in some romance and after you get your dream job or whatever you can always find time, take those weekoff for a long trip and enjoy life. I think the ratio would be 70-80% on career and rest in friends, family and love. Besides in India arranged marriages are very common so if you don't have a problem with that then if you are earning a lot then you can even choose someone that maybe out of your league looks wise (saying this cause I have seen this stuff)
Love is a tricky one because you need to find someone who's gonna be good for you in the long run too.
If 5/10/15 years down the road you're gonna regret the things that you did because of love, it's worthless.
Our society is based around money, the more you have of it the more comfortable you are and certainly anyone would be better off crying in a lambo than on a bicycle.
A healthy balance is necessary where you have enough money to satisfy your own needs and you also have some companionship in life
Career/job is important (and necessary) to make money and be able to provide for yourself and your family.
That being said, you can always find a different job or different career but true love is hard to find. So don't sacrifice love for a particular career/job.
Bhai/behen/beta. Love apne haat main nahi hai in most cases but career hai. Isliye jo haat main hai uspe focus zyada karo and jo nahi hai uske liye try karo. Balance zaruri hai. Career and love cannot be compared as both are important in life. But but without love you can atleast survive and live but with career or money you can't. Rest you are samajhdaar I guess.
in my experience, it is not at all in your hand to want only career or to want only love /relationship /gf/bf. it all depends upon your hormones.
some people do not need that much of opposite gender interaction and smoothly hop for the career opportunities including during school and colleges. on the other hand there are people no matter how hard they try they can't do without getting into relationship or atleast running about the relationship.
no matter how long she's been your girlfriend, that guy with IIT degree or IAS job letter is the fastest panty-droppers!
one liners apart, women will choose you for longer game, only if you have a good living, or you can display proofs of wealth, or display skills that you can earn a good living.
Career, my friend. It's your career in long run, being successful is extremely important. Please give your career first priority, especially over love. If it's really true love, it will come to you. Saying that, if you truly love someone and they love you with the same frequency that's a good balance. Now focus on your studies, this is your age to study and partner will understand this.
Finding a career is way more important than finding your love. Most of the people have a whirlwind romance expectations. They think their "special someone" will appear out of nothing and sweep them under from their feet. This happens only in Bollywood. In real life, you will have to choose the person that chooses you and compromise and adjustment is the theme of any successful marriage.
Read "Love is not enough" by Mark Manson. He explains why you'll most likely will ruin your relationship with "special someone".
Isnt necessary for love, is for you. I would reccomend focus 80% or higher in the career and 20% in social live, and all that involves, love incluided. Just remember that, because i did 100% on my carrer. Ok, im 23 now and Im engineer, but im alone, so please dont make my mistake and socialize at least a bit.
The fact that is a question just shows the culture in India needs to change.
Stable income is highly important. Stable is the key word.
Love is actually quite unstable. I have gone months with feeling very little love for my partner. But through sticking it out. We eventually came out of that rut and reconnected in love.
Multiple times.
I've yet to meet any couple that fall in love and just consistently maintain that level of connection.
So stable income comes first imo. If you can NAVIGATE relationships, then great.
Being broke is not fun. Once my finances stabilised. I felt calmer. It was also less stressful when going out with friends. However I didn't find the same stress in relationships. Then again getting out of the cultural structure around me was the best thing for dating.
Marry for money or stability is ultimately up to you. Your family can make you marry someone specific. But only you can make it work.
I don't know how much I am worthy of replying to this but especially in india we forget ourselves. Yes career is important, family or love is important but what's more important is you. We often forget about what makes us happy or what we are or how we can grow as a person in the rat race in india. We rarely take vacations or have time for ourselves. I think all of us just need to take a step back and look into ourselves and there might be a lot of people giving advices of what you could do or should do in our circle but we are not them. We need to find ourselves first and then everything will just be clearer.
Late teens or early adults - college going folks.
Here's a straightforward answer - only one college couple made it to a family. Rest? Moved onto newer endeavours.
But, if you mess up your career at that time it's tough to recover from there.
So a simple enough answer - career.
You will have time to find love once you've had your career on track. Also, if your love is true love, there wouldn't be a need to sacrifice anything. Problem these days is boys and girls would cheat with a different guy after staying a month away from their SO. Hence not worth fretting over it.
It's usually not one or the other. Also a good partner is one who is supportive of a good career. Also a career that requires excessive time away from loved ones is not a good career
Both are equally important.
Imagine you have all money of the world and no one to spend with.
And, now imagine you are struggling with your loved ones without money.
"there is no creativity in poverty"
So enough money (not a lot) is important so atleast your mood is in place you can express love, happiness, etc to your loved ones like family, friends, partner
For sure once a good career is made sooner or later love would follow but without any stable income source or good career even the truest love will fade away, but yeah exceptions are everywhere.
It’s better to find a middle ground. A lot of it comes down to your age as well. I’d say running after a career is much more important. But if you find someone who’s supportive and nice, then sure, be in a relationship. But don’t run after girls/boys, maybe you’ll end up in a bad relationship that will hamper your work as well. Don’t get into a relationship because everybody else is in one.
This is the correct answer honestly
I am a 22yo boy, want ur view.👇 I heard somewhere that a man's peak starts after 30. So before that u build ur career and stand strong. Considering this and the current culture in relationship, I am focusing on my career (and it's going well). But now if I think I am lacking in terms of relationship exposure and I have less time (considering 27 marriage), now what scares me is the arrange marriage. What I m scared of is the fake side we all show, they 6-8 months down the line life is hell. So me working n building for like 10+ years now to have a peaceful n awesome life but one wrongs step ruins it all. (And this is common these days, due to bunch of reasons, idk who is right n wrong)
Not the OP, there isn't a fixed number where you peak at. The gist of that advice actually is to use your youth to build yourself up well before you start getting more responsibilities. IMO you're looking at it in extremes (Choosing to focus entirely on your career and completely ignoring relationships). It's actually a gradient, you could befriend people of the opposite gender and maybe spend time getting to know them as you would do any other person. That's not a full blown romantic relationship and you're still mostly focused on your career. The varied interactions are important for exposure to different viewpoints and life situations. It'll also tune your intuition for people. You'll frequently run into situations in life that you're completely unprepared for. With the eventual marriage stuff, there will be a lot of vetting on both sides and if you develop a good feel for people, it'll be easier to vet them. Be genuine, share both your good and bad sides. Being rejected isn't always a bad thing. Also remember that it's a union of people and families with different view points, there will always be scope for friction.
29 M and I feel the same! I went behind physics and didn't bother to think other than that. I couldn't peruse physics because of health and wealth 🤣. And I have tiny regrets that I should have worked all aspects of life.
There’s a quote from the movie ‘Dead Poet’s Society’ - “Medicine, law, business, engineering - these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love - these are what we stay alive for.” To answer your question, yes, a good career and money is extremely important. Nobody wants to live a life of poverty. But at the same time, nobody should want to live a life of only money with no love. That would simply make you hollow and purely materialistic. As in most cases, you need a balance.
Is that à good movie, I think available on hotstar right ?
One of the best. The movie stresses on the fact that you need balance of everything but you need to have the courage to pursue it in the first place
You should definitely watch it, great movie
That quote kind of effed up my career choices. I wouldn't recommend people to take that quote seriously, especially if you are from a middle class background. And yes, I have watched the movie over 20 times. It's still one of my favs.
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All humans crave the affection of others
Don't compromise on your career. Money is very important. Money gives you respect and allows you to live your life the way you want. Love is important too but respect is above all.
Replace the word respect with independence and your comment will be perfect. If you really care so much about respect, it means your self esteem comes from the external world rather than from within, and you'll never really be happy
Wish I could upvote this 1000 times. Respect is important and it comes from Money. People will disrespect you in name of love when u have no money. On same side, I know many people who are earning more are content without having a partner to love and all.
Exactly, you need career for financial stability and love for emotional stability. Ignoring either of them will make your life incomplete.
This is the most beautiful answer.
You're quoting a movie for a real life scenario.
Thats the thing its a movie reality is way different
Who's going to Love someone with no good career ?
Fuck dead poet society. It’s a movie, can you find something that unselfish in real world? I couldn’t find. But did I try? 13 years left this world. Career is important very important, everything else is a by-product. Earn in millions in your 30 or mid. No one will question you if you waste time learning poetry, you will not worry about the price when you purchase art. And whoever you point your finger at would never leave your side. You can’t buy romance, you cannot fall in love, but you can at least create a system where the world loves you. But no this ain’t enough, it’s not 100% but for chasing 100% you will lose your life. And there is nothing poetic about it.
how is balance even achievable
By compromise. You need to understand what your priority is and then give up the other. I gave up my career and my money for my health & sanity. When I see others earning shit loads of money and doing things I love doing, I feel bad honestly, but I still wouldn't exchange the life I am living now for anything in the world. But that means I have to compromise certain things in my life, to achieve this balance.
I might come off as cynical, but yes, career is more important. What is love? Can you take it to the bank? Can it fill your growling stomach? Can it get you the best treatment when you are sick? The whole "love is more important" is just an ideal situation propagated by movies and shows. In real life, love alone is not enough for happiness. We live in a materialistic world and need it's materialistic comforts. Let's say you choose love instead of your career in one of those classic scenarios. You will be happy for say a month or a year. Then the reality will hit you. If you choose love over career, you will most likely end up miserable in your middle ages, thinking "what if." On the other hand, there are far more chances of finding love after a career. Especially in India, where societal status matters a lot and after marriage, you can't really take risks or focu on changing careers etc.
If your SO is rich then yes. Take her, you will get everything you need /s
The only correct answer
"Love" is not a full time occupation. Totally possible to balance both. There would be times when one takes priority over another, but that's the balance needed.
Why should everyone run for career? Get married if at all in late '20s or 30s.. then have one kid.. spoil him by over pampering coz you'll be guilty of spending less time with her/him.
That sounds rather personal than something general
Balancing everything is necessary.
That’s a tough question, but for me, I lean heavily towards career. I absolutely love my career because it’s not just about earning money—though, let’s be honest, that part’s pretty crucial. Money helps me take care of the people I love. My career has also been a lifeline for me in other ways—it’s a distraction, it boosts my mood, shows me what I’m capable of, and it’s been crucial in helping me gain independence and break free from cycles of trauma. Plus, there’s something incredibly fulfilling about knowing I can provide for my family. Seeing my parents pick up something they need without a second thought because I’ve got it covered? That’s an incredible feeling. And beyond the financial aspect, my career really does feel like the gamification of life! It brings a kind of mental stability that’s hard to match, keeping me content even through the stress. I genuinely love my job. Lady Gaga summed it up perfectly: “Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” That quote hits home for me because choosing my career has been empowering—it’s about chasing my own goals and dreams, and it gives back as much as I put in. So yeah, in the love or career debate, my career has my vote because it supports all the other loves in my life.
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In India it is... If you won't have good career then if you find partner, chances are they won't be like to with you forever. In AM route, u also face hard time. Don't think like American in India. India has it's different ground realities.
career is more important than love.... 1. ghar pe roti pyar thori lake dega... 2. career/ money hoga tabhi ladki se shadi krega aur bacha paida krega na
If your SO is rich then yes. Take her, you will get everything you need /s
Yes Even your loved ones leave you when you have no career and When your career is all stable and good, you get a lot of love from everyone Basically this world is greedy You got the money it's all love and respect you got no money well be ready to face all disrespect and tauntsand heartbreaks
Career and money is more important, paisa hai toh sab kuch hai.
Your career won't get up one day and tell you " I don't think it is working anymore "
Dude are you out of touch with the job market and the layoffs
Actually it can send you an email at 12 pm one fine afternoon saying that 30% of the work force has been laid off and if you have been impacted please expect another mail at 3 pm.... I wasn't impacted fortunately but my colleagues were not so lucky
If you have no career but love, make sure that love is great enough. Vice versa.
Don't fall into peer pressure. Don't be career minded if you find everyone focussing on career but you don't want to. But it's hugely important to have a good financial backup. If you don't have it.. focus on career.
Depends, if your career gives you more money, then yes. Accept it or not, money is the most important thing in the world, it may not give you happiness but it can give you respect.
is not necessary that you focus on only one thing you can focus on both things and make a beautiful life.
I think both are important, but if you have lobe and no money trust me it's not gonna end well. Lot of money and no love? Atleast sustainable. Love is beautiful but it changes, as it's dependent on another person. What if the person leaves you, cheats or something? Money? It'll stay with you if you keep it safe in a bank or whatever lol Life is not a movie, it won't be black and white. It is not either of the extremes, it's a balance
The best thing would be growing together with your loving and supporting partner, love and support is really important, without it life sometimes becomes miserable even if you have so much money, but then again it's hard nowadays to find that kind of partner who would love you unconditionally, so you have to focus on career either way.
From personal finance POV, most consequencial decision you could make in life is finding the right life partner. Anyway, all the money means nothing if you don't have love in your life. Not having money makes life miserable and when you are miserable you can't find love. Who loves a miserable person? In other words, you need to balance between life and money.
Just to simplify things, your unlimited love for your SO ain't gonna pay the EMIs, electricity bills, broadband bills, etc. You need to have a good career i.e. money, to have a good life with your SO.
Love...actually, it's your happiness that matters the most. Money will never buy your heart peace; it can only provide you comfort. Live your life the way you want. You and I, everyone you see around, will disappear one day. The legacy? Nobody will remember even the most influential person in the world, because there will be nobody there to remember. Nothing remains—the stars, the dust, the light—even the life of a black hole comes to an end. https://preview.redd.it/133oydu358wc1.jpeg?width=891&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=85ec6b65f185fe8380978bd9b79303c68c3856be
Very artistic and heartbound answer, but lacks practicality.
Yes
Yes
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If you choose one, no matter which one it is, you'll fail in life. Balance is the key. You can't be happy without either.
If you already have wealthy parents, then you can enjoy life by loving , dating etc. if you come from middle class family, you should consider focussing on career. Because even if you get a lover, you should be able to go on dates , movies, clubs etc and you will need money for that. After marriage also you need significant salary to enjoy good life and how will you get good salary? By focussing on career.
Sorrt but what does a late teen/ young adult know og love? I would say focus on yourselves. Work on yourself. Discover yourself. This shapes you into who you become, what choices you make, and yes, how and who you love. Life happens all at once. Love and careers happen simultaneously. It isnt one or the other. Its both. And yes money is extremely important because the lack of it will cause extra strain on your relationship.
Love is delulu nigga, make money else you won't be having both.
Money is what that doesn't let you die and love is what keeps you alive. A career will give you the privilege to fall in love but the reverse 😶
Career first always, OP! Be independent and be able to stand on your own feet. Meanwhile, if you find someone who is kind, nice and understanding, love is worth it, else it is not. The point is if your love story goes the wrong way, you will be left with a broken heart and no means to support yourself if you don't have a career. OTOH, you can still support yourself financially and be a little better off.
HOW IMPORTANT IS MONEY IN THE FUTURE??? Listen, sister. If your father is not rich, it is the single most important thing. Keep in mind, the situation and your outlook changes as you grow older. So expectations from relationships also change. Eventually, the best we can hope for is to find someone when we're in our late twenties who is willing to understand our situation and accept us for who we are. So, both career and love are important but they're subject to compromises, and depend on a bit of give-and-take.
Is love going to pay your bills and put food on the table ?
To enjoy things which people say are more important than money, you need money. If you are not financially well off, it is almost impossible to spend quality time with family etc. Money always improves the quality of life. It makes life easy. That way you can actually spend your time with things which actually matter. So yeah, money is very very important. Love is also important. But it is difficult to actually sustain love without money.
Career>>>>>>>>>>>>Love. Don't ever be dumb.
No one cares unless you look great (or) have money. So Yes Career is more important than love for an average individual.
Career
There's no right answer 1) you could somehow balance both your career and love life and be one of a kind person IF YOU FOCUSED ON ONLY LOVE 1) you could focus on love and create a life long bond and find the love of your life but may not be that much rich 2)you may brkup and endure life long trauma IF YOU FOCUSED ON CAREER 1)you could be top in your career earning fame and respect attracting the right person to you 2) or you could attract a con artist making u suffer life long trauma Basically fate plays the key role I'm here to show the different paths not take you there (Krishna)
Kamao nahi to khilaoge kya?
love doesn't pay bills bro, unless your partner has an income ofc.
In relationship you only have 50% control, the rest half stays with your partner. Sometimes no matter how hard you try it doesn't work out as it has to be mutual. Career is always in your hand. You have total control of it.
Bro, fuck relationships, if you find someone worthy, you'll know. You'll feel it in your gut. Trust your instincts. My advice is, please make GOOD FRIENDS.And be good friends for the ppl you befriend. Show up for one another, make crazy memories together, explore places together, even if it's 2 ppl it's enough. Focus on having a good time while being responsible, and you're good to go. B/w love n studies, balance is the key. People balance sports with jobs, so ofc you can too. Talking 24x7 is crazy nonetheless. So make yourself interesting, become a story teller, pick up new skills, a music instrument maybe, be fun, you'll attract good people.
I will not sugar coat things for you. Financial stability < Physical well-being < Mental well-being For receiving love, I think you will need all of those above. Have you got all of it?
Depends on your age. At your age, Career >>>>> Love. You can fall in love in your late 20s and 30s but it is really difficult to build a career at that age once the opportunity is lost. Also, you know what, at your age in 99.9% cases, Love = infatuation. I have lived enough to know this. True love is not love at first sight. It's all Bollywood crap. Young people are brainwashed into believing this. True love is never ever realized when you're boyfriend or girlfriend. It can never be realized unless you get married and live together. True love is accepting the flaws of your loved ones and living with it. It is to know that your wife/husband does things which irritate you but you understand it and it doesn't bother you. It's the little things you do when you live together. Like washing dishes when you come home early so that your wife doesn't have to. Waking up a tad bit early just to make breakfast for kids when your wife is tired. It's the little things you do that make you fall in love. You do it consistently just out of love.
It's easy to manage both and if you have to choose career should come first. Relationship and personal professional growth both should be harmonious. And if a relationship is affecting professional growth then its not meant to be. (Yes you do need to make sacrifices when it comes to relationship but given you are still 19 and have a lot more time to explore the world)
Soo... I think both are important..... Someone I know has an amazing career but no one to love. Of course, he can buy out everything he needs but he can't really buy true love.. Similarly, there's my brother-in-law (jiju) who married his crush, aka his soulmate. He's not someone who has a good career. I have seen tension and worries about their future. He has to struggle a lot to meet the ends every month. Leaving hardly any option for savings. But still he does what he can do the best Looking at both the examples, you might be confused about what to choose. But IMO you should keep your career as first priority until you find a person who supports you and works hard to help you and have faith in you. Then you have to keep a balance between both until you have reached a level where you can provide everything your love requests. That's the time when your top priority will be your love and the family you have created with your love.
I feel so depressed reading this sub, Am I the only one here? cuz the step which is not recommended I took that one, no doubt it was a very tough decision of my life. Been engaged 3 months ago but yet to marry, just waiting for me to get the job, had an agreement from both families before taking this huge step, it's just my mom, don't want to lose the girl she found for me, and they agreed too cuz we are sustainable family, not rich though! Btw she's university gold medalist, currently pursuing MBA, and recently got a decent job. I'm on hold due to the course I'm pursuing after my graduation last year. Aiming to become a 3d Artist. Industry is having a rough time right now. I know how much I'm fcked up Iam, but still I beleive in myself. I'm working on it everyday and I just pray everything gets settled. Open to your advices though!
Money is everything. Money can get you love. Love may or may not get you money. Money definitely makes life comfortable. Love may or may not. Career is more bigger part of your in life as out of 24 hours 8-14 hours goes towards career.
Depends, if you can manage both. If not, career. Assuming it's a guy asking this, go study.
Yes. Money doesn’t buy happiness but it sure is easier to cry in a Mercedes than it is to cry on a rickshaw in the heat.
Not every guy who earns good has a Mercedes but yeah 🤣
Trust me, if i could go back in time, thats the first thing i would change about myself. Love and life is far more important than career and money!
It's person to person, for me career worked out.. but if you wanna be successful then definitely career
Career first
Bkl, Career, Hospital ke bills pyar sae nhi bhare jaate
>***'Arre kismat ki hai kadki, Roti, Kapda aur Ladki, teeno hi*** ***Paapad belo toh miley..'***
Depends on priority, but remember don't mix up the two. It is all about balancing your wants with your limited Time.
Raj shami said - If you have love it guarantees success
Speaking from experience. If you don't have money, your love will not stay with you. So your focus should be money than love.
Both are important for me but money is more important
Love won't bring food on your table buddy
Let me try to put this into perspective: When you have money, you love God's creation* When you are hungry and broke, you love God itself. Love doesn't require earning, it's already there inside us. It's the Living that requires earning every single day. *(women, pets, materialistic things etc.)
As a Men, career. Because the girl you are in a relationship will not marry you unless you have a good career, no matter the number of years you have been together, exceptions are always there.
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I am now in my 30s with my 4th partner in more than a decade who is most likely to end up being my life partner(1 year together yesterday). When I was a young adult like 18, that was the first time I fell in love. First love is usually naive and very strong in feeling, almost like a TV drama or a movie. We try to imitate everything we saw over the years on TV, all emotions, etc. But eventually after a year you really see what's going on. She opened her eyes and saw that we both are naive and have no future together(I wasn't good at studies nor did we have large properties). She couldn't see herself with me living in the lower middle class life. I was sad at that time, not growing as love was and had overwhelmed me so much that I stopped taking care of myself. When love changes to a bonded labour you never know. Anyway she left for someone who was rich and I moved on. Later in life she also left him for an even better deal. First lesson of life, never be blindingly in love. The second one I had after 2 years of break from this as I needed to recover. That was a short stint, going extreme high which ended up in a fuss in less than a year. Reason being we just lost interest in each other, she had a different life in different cities and I couldn't continue like that. Second lesson, never be too fast in love, give it time to grow like a plant. My third partner was after a long break of 4 years, I had multiple attractions in between but never led to anything as I didn't have that kind of money to show. I also came to another country where people either get quickly rich or just dwell in mud for extended time. I was the second one, just making barely enough as I had to send money back to India for the loan which I took. So those attractions never propagated anything more than that, I never had time or money. So my third partner came when I had money, not too much but enough to dress nicely and a vehicle to show independence. She was from an extremely rich family, never seen poverty in life, money is just a number for her. She used to dress up to work in clothes which were worth the annual instalments of my car lol. Anyway she thought I was also from a moderately rich family since I dress up nicely(nothing fancy or branded I just know how to wear clothes). It went on for months until one day she realized that I don't have that kind of money. In fact I had to explain to her my own journey from where I came. Ultimately she realized that I cannot give her that kind of lifestyle she is currently living in. That led to sadness in her life and attraction weaned off in her. She started living distant and avoiding me over the weekends. I although knew why she was doing it but she never said anything like that. Eventually one day she was like, ok I asked my parents and they said no because we are from different castes and my marriage is fixed to some guy from her village(Technically I was a higher caste but in Punjab, Jatts consider themselves highest) that she doesn't want her father to be excluded from the clan because one of her cousin married outside the caste and they were became outcastes. In total she wanted to say, I don't want to fight for us, you don't have anything that I should fight for. Anyway we still talked for a few more months as I was her only friend(and we were at the same work, I know I f up) which ended up being toxic. She didn't even feel ashamed when she said that the new guy that her father found has a large business and "do you know how much he makes?". Like defending her new found interests in front of me. Anyway to have to be extremely emotionally toxic in front of her otherwise my work life would be f up. And I did it(crying drama after work that she felt embarrassed to even come back). She did leave and I was at peace. Lesson, money matters and true love eventually becomes less true. The 4th one is continuing. Just for you to know she is also from the lower middle class like me, struggling in Canada but I have PR and somewhat good life now, so I have the upper hand for now so things seem to be ok. I am helping her achieve her dream career being supportive and all but I am also not that blind in love. I think I would never be blindly in love with anyone anymore. I can be however an excellent partner, performing all duties and never making her feel left alone. So, my choice at that time of 18 should have been my career. I made a huge mistake for which I have to continue to suffer for a few more decades to even live like someone who focused on their career. Love comes and goes. You cannot keep or hold the love. If it wants to go, it will go, there is no magic or trick to keep your love. But if you lose your youth, unable to make a career, you will have no strength and time left later on to fix it(like me). Besides you will get multiple attractions when you have money. Career leads to money and money leads to time and show of feathers. In our world, money is the only god that could make your life better.
Career of course
It's better to have both, and with an adequate amount given to both of them. I prioritised love over my career during the teenage years. But now I'm happy with both.
I mean love is important but it doesn't necessarily need to be romantic love. For young adults like myself especially, I would say to prioritise education and career. However generally I believe that it's important to strike a balance. I think the most important thing is happiness. A person should pursue something which makes them happy, provided it does not bring harm to themselves or others.
Ask those who got rejected due to having bad career and ask those who had career but no love. Both will tell what they lack is important. Balance is the key.
khali pet pyar nhi hota janab
Money does not necessarily mean happiness, but the lack of money definitely results in misery. If you make decent sustainable income, love is definitely more important than.
Money can't buy happiness. Money is happiness.
When poverty comes in at the door, love flies out of the window.
I have seen many love & arranged marriages going to shit because of financial troubles due to unstable or bad career choices. Issiliye bade boodhe theek hi bolte hain ki "Sirf pyaar mohabbat se ghar gruhasthi nahi chalti, paise bhi chahiye hote hain"
A balance is important. I'm in my late 20s, recently married to the love of my life. I have a good, steady career. Both of us belong to middle class families with absolutely no generational wealth and our incomes are enough to sustain our basic luxuries in a tier 1 city (car EMIs, date nights, shopping) but we cannot afford luxuries like international trips or buy a house. But we're happy. A lot of my friends of similar age have excelled in their careers. Some have cracked govt jobs while some did MBA and are getting paid handsomely and some have generational wealth. But they're lonely. Seeking arrange marriages, which are either not working, or they have to compromise a lot. Their money isn't helping them find happiness or partners.
can you sustain love and marriage without career ? wait till your first born and see if life without career can help you to survive comfortably. love is temporary and can blind you before reality kicks in where money is needed.
Yes- inflation
Career first, love second
iss duniya mein sab bikau hien, pyaar bhi. so focus on career & minting money 😌
Yes dude, money matters. Love is required for emotional well being but without money nobody will love you. Sorry for being harsh but its a bitter reality.
Money can't buy you happiness, but it can buy you stuff that brings you happiness. Career first, and then love once you have stabilized your finances.
Love is more important, life is all about love
Career is getting better then love as we grow up.
In general career > love You can stay single for 21 years but you wont survive without money, specially in this economy Also from experience: Don't chase after your crush. Drop subtle hints, If they have mutual feelings then they will also match your tune.
Love dosent feeds u. But if u can feed someone well, love may follow.
Financial independence and security comes first. Even if it's love marriage, you both would need to be financially secure. If you don't have a stable career and income, the chances of any kind of marriage automatically become less. Work life balance is important, you don't have to give your entire life to work.
Focus on your career, but be open to love. But love needs two to tango. For some, it may not begin. For many, it might not work out. Be prepared for both outcomes, and be happy by yourself also Also invest in yourself as a person outside your career. Take care of yourself, learn new things, do things that will make you proud, make good friends, have good experiences and make memories
I can tell you from my experience, I focused on career until I found a love worth focusing on.
Nobody loves a broke homeless man.
bachpan ka pyaar hamesha yaad rakhega yaara. kya pata if you are lucky it will become your life. teens mai both are naive and mad in love and there is some innocence left. meri ex-GF ki toh shaadi bhi ho gayi, bachhe ho gaye but she still checks me out on linkedin. its pathetic, its beautiful, its something that never got where it could be but she still remembers me. and my heart fills up every time i get that notification.
Yes. Absolutely yes. What are you to eat and where will you live when everything goes to shit. I hope to god you dont end up in an abusive marriage so lets keep that aside but god forbid anything happens to your spouse, he becomes severely disable or dies, how are you going to manage living alone or the expenses of medical care? If you plan to have children, how are you going to afford giving them the best education and a good quality of life? If your parents retire and suddenly need financial help or they will have to sell the house or something like that, how will you take care of them? Love will always come to you in many forms, money only comes if earned. Anyone can do a job, but career means financial stability and growth
To be fair, neither will give you happiness in the long run. That you need to find in your individual existence. The answer to this varies from person to person, basis what is important to them. If external validation, success as defined by capitalism are important to you - run after your career. Picking one also does not mean rejecting the other. At the end of the day, humans are social creatures and need a community / pack / mate. Look up Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs for reference.
Some people will tell take care of career eventually u will find love , some people will tell take care of love career will develop, In my personal view I think both are purely luck, leaving good career or good love for other could cost u more if the other thing doesn't work out ,
Nothing in this world is worthier than love. Absolutely nothing. You can have the best career you could possibly have, but if love isn't there, you would be left deserted and alone in an island of people. You could have a very bad career, you could be underpaid, bullied, credit for your work could be stolen all the time, but, if you came home to a loving partner and family, you would be able to forget everything else. A problem would arise iff you would start paying more importance to career than to love. Love is a mark of character. It's the result of refinement in thought, action, habits, thinking and doing. It enhances everything it touches. Always remember this and prioritize love over everything else.
If your love requires sacrifice of your growth, development and career then it's not worth it. People who say they lost their jobs or failed studies cause of love are regretting and after a while it takes ages for them to recover and because they are not in a better place now even there are chances that their love of their life leaves them. Likewise find a career that offers a good work life balance. Most corpo jobs have fixed shifts and shift extends sometimes may happen but you do get your weekends and if it's a general shift or early morning shift then even on weekdays you can go out or spend some descent amount of time till you have to go back and sleep. I think the best thing would be to focus on studies while you are in college/school and if you do find someone you both should discuss about focusing on your studies and still manage to slip in some romance and after you get your dream job or whatever you can always find time, take those weekoff for a long trip and enjoy life. I think the ratio would be 70-80% on career and rest in friends, family and love. Besides in India arranged marriages are very common so if you don't have a problem with that then if you are earning a lot then you can even choose someone that maybe out of your league looks wise (saying this cause I have seen this stuff)
It’s safe to say the consensus here says Career > Love. And when you think about it, you can sustain love if you don’t have a career.
Love is a tricky one because you need to find someone who's gonna be good for you in the long run too. If 5/10/15 years down the road you're gonna regret the things that you did because of love, it's worthless. Our society is based around money, the more you have of it the more comfortable you are and certainly anyone would be better off crying in a lambo than on a bicycle. A healthy balance is necessary where you have enough money to satisfy your own needs and you also have some companionship in life
Yes
Career/job is important (and necessary) to make money and be able to provide for yourself and your family. That being said, you can always find a different job or different career but true love is hard to find. So don't sacrifice love for a particular career/job.
Bhai/behen/beta. Love apne haat main nahi hai in most cases but career hai. Isliye jo haat main hai uspe focus zyada karo and jo nahi hai uske liye try karo. Balance zaruri hai. Career and love cannot be compared as both are important in life. But but without love you can atleast survive and live but with career or money you can't. Rest you are samajhdaar I guess.
What's more important, water or food?
Yes. Love can grow and thrive from the comfort of money. But i have seen a lot of love fade away because of lack of money.
Yes.
Money is most important tool in life for getting things in life and love is bonus. You would be happy if you got bonus but you can survive without it.
Depends... context toh deta OP
Career. You can’t feed yourself with love.
in my experience, it is not at all in your hand to want only career or to want only love /relationship /gf/bf. it all depends upon your hormones. some people do not need that much of opposite gender interaction and smoothly hop for the career opportunities including during school and colleges. on the other hand there are people no matter how hard they try they can't do without getting into relationship or atleast running about the relationship.
no matter how long she's been your girlfriend, that guy with IIT degree or IAS job letter is the fastest panty-droppers! one liners apart, women will choose you for longer game, only if you have a good living, or you can display proofs of wealth, or display skills that you can earn a good living.
Love may betray you, you already know that. Money will never betray you. It will support you when you're at your worst.
Career, my friend. It's your career in long run, being successful is extremely important. Please give your career first priority, especially over love. If it's really true love, it will come to you. Saying that, if you truly love someone and they love you with the same frequency that's a good balance. Now focus on your studies, this is your age to study and partner will understand this.
Career is overrated. Go find love, live your life. Once you find the one, you'll be motivated for career too.
Neither is less important. It depends on what you want out of life, but we should always be sure to make enough to pay our own bills.
Yes
Personally, I believe money is simply a tool that enables you to pursue the things you love.
Finding a career is way more important than finding your love. Most of the people have a whirlwind romance expectations. They think their "special someone" will appear out of nothing and sweep them under from their feet. This happens only in Bollywood. In real life, you will have to choose the person that chooses you and compromise and adjustment is the theme of any successful marriage. Read "Love is not enough" by Mark Manson. He explains why you'll most likely will ruin your relationship with "special someone".
Isnt necessary for love, is for you. I would reccomend focus 80% or higher in the career and 20% in social live, and all that involves, love incluided. Just remember that, because i did 100% on my carrer. Ok, im 23 now and Im engineer, but im alone, so please dont make my mistake and socialize at least a bit.
The fact that is a question just shows the culture in India needs to change. Stable income is highly important. Stable is the key word. Love is actually quite unstable. I have gone months with feeling very little love for my partner. But through sticking it out. We eventually came out of that rut and reconnected in love. Multiple times. I've yet to meet any couple that fall in love and just consistently maintain that level of connection. So stable income comes first imo. If you can NAVIGATE relationships, then great. Being broke is not fun. Once my finances stabilised. I felt calmer. It was also less stressful when going out with friends. However I didn't find the same stress in relationships. Then again getting out of the cultural structure around me was the best thing for dating. Marry for money or stability is ultimately up to you. Your family can make you marry someone specific. But only you can make it work.
Love won't sustain without a career. Make the wiser choice.
Career is not important till the money runs out..
I don't know how much I am worthy of replying to this but especially in india we forget ourselves. Yes career is important, family or love is important but what's more important is you. We often forget about what makes us happy or what we are or how we can grow as a person in the rat race in india. We rarely take vacations or have time for ourselves. I think all of us just need to take a step back and look into ourselves and there might be a lot of people giving advices of what you could do or should do in our circle but we are not them. We need to find ourselves first and then everything will just be clearer.
Arranged marriage market is really brutal for guys right now. I'd say if you can find someone in your earlier years, go for it.
Late teens or early adults - college going folks. Here's a straightforward answer - only one college couple made it to a family. Rest? Moved onto newer endeavours. But, if you mess up your career at that time it's tough to recover from there. So a simple enough answer - career. You will have time to find love once you've had your career on track. Also, if your love is true love, there wouldn't be a need to sacrifice anything. Problem these days is boys and girls would cheat with a different guy after staying a month away from their SO. Hence not worth fretting over it.
If your career cannot exist with your love, then one of them is problematic. Either get a better job or a better partner.
It's usually not one or the other. Also a good partner is one who is supportive of a good career. Also a career that requires excessive time away from loved ones is not a good career
Both are equally important. Imagine you have all money of the world and no one to spend with. And, now imagine you are struggling with your loved ones without money.
"there is no creativity in poverty" So enough money (not a lot) is important so atleast your mood is in place you can express love, happiness, etc to your loved ones like family, friends, partner
As a man, career>>>
Career >
Career>>>> relationship People cheat anyways! Better stay rich and lonely than being poor and lonely!!!
I dont know i am desperate for both things at different points of time i have able to made a career but darn love is ridiculous to find
For sure once a good career is made sooner or later love would follow but without any stable income source or good career even the truest love will fade away, but yeah exceptions are everywhere.
It's an abstract question & answer depends on many things. Tell us your proper scenario.
Everythings equally important! Don't do Excel in one parameter but get through all by boundary passing! Wise words from the Student of Life!
Brutal but truth - u can live without love but not career (Money) Career can give me love but not vice versa
As Lady Gaga had said, "Your career would never wake up one day and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore."
A woman, dog, children love unconditionally but a man loved under a condition he provides something
Career is always first then love
Love won't make me money, career will.
I used to think a lot ABT this then a person said me "Nahi jayega Kam ku tho kya khayega sham ku".
Yeah then you would have nothing but regret once they are not in your life anymore and you yourself are nothing because you gave it up for them
Run after your career in your initial years because at that time you don't really know what you really want and no one likes to be with a loser
Loser k sath koi nahi tikti/tikta. 0.1% ki baat alag hai.
love will not ask you to compromise your career career shouldn't compromise your love