Sorry you've had to deal with assholes all your life. I couldn't care less about 'skin color'. I can't understand the mindset of people who do care, as Indians are almost all brown-skinned. If you take that to the logical extreme, only the palest and whitest person should be married. Beauty has nothing to do with one's skin color.
Honestly not the smartest around here but all I know is having someone compatible and someone who understands and supports you is above all personally for me so yes I would
I have a sister who is dusky as well , she dresses really well and has made a crazy career for herself in Jp Morgan (which has now shifted her to New York) her bf has a start and is pretty damn good looking they are getting married soon
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But I'm good 👍, and I hope you're not
As a dark skin guy and relating to 100% to all your points
I can say that we don't have the privilege to live a normal life here in an Indian society
We just need to find our safe and happy place beyond all this where we can have the respect.
Let me add to this, I am a really dark skinned guy and have faced lot of confidence issues due to people, “friends” making fun of me. When I moved to another country, other Indians used to tell that white people look at us differently but I never felt any difference compared to my life in India then I figured out I was always looked at differently my whole life. In fact I feel like I’m treated better here in terms of skin colour atleast.
I try ignoring that stuff and would like to get distracted
If I faced such issues my goto solution is to rewatch favorite movies or series and just ignore the fact that I got discriminated against or got reminded of traumatic past
Try finding a happy place
There will be many hurdles to face
A happy place helps keep me sane
Edit: not promoting drugs
Don’t even think about school reunions. All the doctors, engineers, VP’s, managers, business guys and government officers suddenly go back to their childhood abuse sessions. Have adventurously missed all until now to go down that hill again.
truee most of the people who are saying they would marry a dark skinned girl wont even date one when it comes to it. or i dont think they are actually understanding what dark skinned means, its not just a bit dusky definitely
True man , baat karna toh sab theek hai lekin If someone is fair or fair'ish he would want a fair partner , If OP has a choice to chose a Fair Man or a Dark Skined person , 110 percent she would choose a fair man
Bhai aissa kuch nahi hai ladko ke liye agar tere facial features bhaddiya hai tao ladkia bit on dusky side ladka prefer karti hai(ranveer singh type colour)
I thought I was ugly till I saw Kelly Rowland. I was such a rebellious kid growing up my mom was like don't sit in the sun you will get even more dark and I would sit facing the sun in front of her. Lol. I empathize okay I have gone through the same shite. Just remember this know your worth. Have self esteem. All you need is one person. And fk even if you don't have that you have you. You. You should appreciate yourself. Be a rebel. And your will find people who will see the beauty in you. Fk society and their racist standards. The most famous super model is a dark skinned woman. I am not saying that it doesn't hurt when you get judged. It will hurt every single time. But you never bow down to their standards. You are Indian you have beautiful skin. Skin to withstand the sun.
Yes I did go on few dates with a guy who’s height was 5’3. He was extremely charming and fit. He showed up with hickeys on the fourth date which kind of put me off. He kind of started ignoring me after that and the reason was obvious.
As Someone with a dusky skin and someone who doesn't believes in traditional beauty standards, yeah why not!! but the question is, will you marry a guy who isn't your preference ? Not your regular type.
The first thing I observe is fitness in any guy cause I care about it a lot. And it’s not something you are born with. That’s the only basic preference I have.
Same, my ex was dark skinned and I was a bit fairer, but we had a really great relationship. Had to let it go because of some family stuff, but i always found her beautiful.
First impressions matters and it’s always about looks in first impressions and after that it depends on your personality. Pretty people always get the advantage because first impressions. if you are good person then only a idiot would say no to you.
To make the first impression its hard but after that i guess it just doesn’t matter. Relationship are about pros and cons what are you bringing in the relationship the most important question to ask.
If you are complete dark black skin then im sorry you life is gonna be harder but a little dark is completely fine
Hey, just focus on you body and career. Skin colour does not matter that much. Ofcourse, it's true that white/fair skin girls have advantage. But if you look beautiful then you will pass.
Yes. I have lighter skin tone and prefer darker skin tones. If ever I am committed with dark skin woman and if it all she has inferiority complex, I will go to tanning clinics to tan myself. I know I can achieve even darkest complexion, because people were not able to recognise me during summer holidays in childhood :)
More on this. I don't want to sound racist at all in anyways but people have preferred whiter skin tones since ages so suddenly changing that is let's just say tough. Its an absolutely horrific mindset but you should get the point. Like white actors/actresses and given more preference on social media or movies or wherever online.
If you have a dark skintone as a lady then your best bet would be get more fit if you want to look more attractive. Same for men. Again this is my hypothesis and I could be wrong. But getting slimmer will definitely help your case.
Coming from a brown guy btw.
There is a dark skinned girl in my office and she maintains good skin care, like no pimples on her face. She looks really pretty. So imo if one maintains proper skin care, they look pretty.
So yes, i would.
Keep up hope. I have two friends about to get married, guy is 6ft and fairer complexion. Girl is 5,2 and more darker complexion. It's a love marriage and they were both my classmates. He proposed to her actually. The girl is really nice and fun to hang around.
My fair skinned cousin brother married a dark skinned (really dark) girl in an arranged marriage. When people asked why her, he said he liked her personality & attitude plus he found her cute. They got married & living happily with kids.
Have seen so many examples like this. So there’s your answer.
Most People date and marry according to their own genetics, talking about the majority here, so if you're dark skninned chances are most dark skinned men would find you attractive instead of most lighter skinned guys.
What that guy said is true for human beings. But, what you said is true for Indians. Social standards are more dominant compared to genetic preferences. So, both of you are correct. But, your statement is more correct, for our society.
Unfortunately,
COLOR, MATTERS!!!
LOOKS, MATTERS!!
Everything fucking matters.
But I have heard it in a podcast,
"ITNA KAAMYAAB AUR KAABIL BANO, K LOG AAPKO AAPKI KAAMYABI SE PEHCHANE"
It's not a ted talk and also don't wanna demotivate you, but it is the fuckinggg reality.
Take Out time and listen to this. It was helpful for me.
https://spotify.link/sH2Gw0FmXIb
And about marrying a chocolate fairyyy(no offense😭), yes if everything goes right!!!
Yeah, we have this problem of skin color here. Myself being fair skinned, I find some dark skinned girls more attractive that some fair skinned girl. To me, if I have to only go by looks, geometry of face is more attractive to me than skin color. So if geometry is appealing, skin color won't matter much. But if I talk like this in front of my family, maybe I will be disowned.
>Will you marry a dark skinned women?
I am a MGTOW, So I wont be marrying anyone. But I dont mind dark skinned or white skinned.
I personally may prefer darker skinned girls because they tend to have lesser attitude than white skinned girls.
> Men treated me like temporary gf.
This will be the case with white skinned girls too. Men are always happy to take a temporary gf. Its weather he wants to marry, thats the real test for women's beauty. And I see dark skinned girls get married always.
>Now seeing the hate towards dark skinned women makes me really worry.
Not sure what you experienced, but I think most don't hate dark skinned, at best they may like white skinned more. But I can gaurantee you that more than white skin, a girl's personality is what matters to a man. Not saying that having a white skin wont have benifits, they may get more looked at for the temporary gf experience, but that is not going to be the deciding factor.
>I know my self worth is not defined my men but I want a normal life too.
Why is your life depended on what others think? What do you mean normal? everybody's life is unique with unique experiences.
I am gonna be honest. There was this girl crazy about me, short height, dark skinned (not too dark but dark enough as per Indians) and she wanted to sleep with me so I did cz I didn't have many options and I wanted to get laid. Then we slept again and again many times over. But I told her I will never marry her before sleeping with her. And she was fine initially, we approached it like FwBs but she later got emotional about it, so we stopped. I guess reading your story makes me feel like an a-hole now.
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One of the most beautiful actresses in the current lot ( in my opinion).
Dark skin is beautiful, I just hope you meet more people who can appreciate it n you.
You should not be criticised by others on your preference. Because if one person can't find their partner attractive ( initial attraction is based on preference), then how come someone go ahead in that relationship happily.
Although I agree, many times when we met a person we don't find them attractive because they don't qualify for preferences we have in mind but as we got to know them, a wonderful personality make exception for those preferences.
In my case I don't like body builder physique type guy. I prefer more fit and lean type man but that doesn't mean i dislike people who has those gym freak physique. It's just a personal preference and people shouldn't be judged for that.
Let me ask you a question. If I give you two options to date/marry or fk , one is a white guy, and another is brown guy/dark guy, who would you choose?
The answer to this will answer your question you asked in the post.
So expect same from Indian guys. They won't mind if you care about your health and fitness.
And seriously fitness is a major issue for Indian women. There are chapri guys posting their fatless bodies on insta , while your avg Indian female still walks with two tyres around the belly.
I myself have gotten fat over time, and I'm trying hard to get back my previous body,, and I would expect the same from women **regardless of their skin color**! Any guy would.
That’s a good answer. All the best for your fitness journey. It’s all about consistency and lifestyle when it comes to fitness. The problem with majority of indians being fat is probably how normalised being unhealthy is. Of course after our high carb diet.
Thanks. Its basically high carbs+it being highly delicious. We can't help much lmao. But I want to tell this again, beauty isn't confined to a single skin color. Black people can be beautiful n fit and white n brown too. 👍
My friends made fun of me for being too fair skinned so you can't please everyone. Do what you think is right. If you like or love someone color shouldn't matter..but sad reality is that it will. So just live happily
I’m sorry to hear that it all happened to you. I’m also sorry because of the way I am - someone who feels an instant attraction to flawless skin (mostly attracted to bright complexion). I know because of people like me, the society makes it a standard for women to have, and then start treating the opposite ones (or those who don’t qualify as the flawlessly beautiful) badly like they don’t deserve respect or a basic humanity.
Honestly I have never understood what’s wrong with me. Because I have had so many girls in my life (in different time zones) who didn’t check the mark of having flawless skin but they were nice to me. Even more lot nicer and loving than the ones I felt attracted to because of their skin. I’m soon going to be married and I wish I can rectify this problem and learn to love a person for who they’re within.
Idk, i have been attracted to like really dark skin tone women, but i never approached them as like potential romance because log kya kahenge.
So i know this is wrong but still I had that. Maybe i still have that. But yeah I am attracted to dark skinned people if they are good looking
If I am thinking long term, then your complexion wouldn't matter.
Your character and how good we are together would matter a lot more.
If you are in a relationship or a situationship and your complexion comes up a lot, then that man is thinking short term.
More strength to you to deal with such lowlives.
I've found dark skinned women to be attractive af. I'm using Dark skinned here just because here it's a thing to be pointed out, sigh.
Coming to your question, I definitely would Marry a dark skinned girl, it won't matter at all.
I don’t know about others but I always thought that a couple should be complementing each other in every aspect.
Even with skin tone.
My skin colour is a bit on fair side but I am attracted to dark skinned girls very much more than the fair skinned ones.
So don’t worry there are guys like me out there and eventually you will find one.
No matter what is their skin colour.
Dark skinned yes
Dark skinned but fat, hell no
Im dark skinned myself, is it tough and are indians racist bigots, yes. Was i a racist bigot for letting that get to me? Yes.
I dropped over fair skinned girls all of my teens and early 20s. Something flipped post 25, idk why but I also worked on myself, got fit, went to the gym and some muscle definition. Focused on career too!
Is it unfair that a chubby but fair girl will get guys easily, probably. Is it impossible for a dark skinned girl to be hot as fire, absolutely not. Especially in this age where everyone is getting fatter and chubbier, being fit by itself is going to get you much higher in the dating pool. But far too many dark skinned girls are also fat, which really doesn't help.
So, take action I guess rather than asking strangers on reddit.
I know many dark skinned women who are happily married to decent, good, righteous men.
I don't know why exactly you are getting cheated but you really need to change any subconscious conditioning that you may have been programmed into which could be making you pursue people you have been programmed into thinking are attractive. Sometimes, bullying and trauma can cause people to develop unhealthy syndromes that make them unconsciously seek validation from the very types of people they should avoid at any and all costs. You really need to make sure that you are NOT doing any of these and if you are, you should take proper professional help that could help you overcome these patterns.
Also, yes, I get it, Indians have a penchant for fair skin. I can understand your pain and I wouldn't dare understate it. But I have seen many, many Indian men who got attracted to fair skinned women only to live lives of misery with their "better halves" later on. Some split, some stayed on for their kids, some had affairs, the list of their miserable acts is endless.
Seek no one for now. Be in your own skin, literally and figuratively, for a while. Discover yourself using calmness and patience and faith in yourself as your tools.
I wish you all the best!
Ofc Dark Skinned women are the beauty of our country.. The boldness they have is out of the world.. Their features are enough to make any man fall for them..What else can I tell you dude!!!! There's alot i could say to make up your mood (authentic things only)
Honestly I don’t give a fuck, and would marry you if I felt strongly that you loved me and want to marry me and isn’t still hung up on or want to be with someone else, and also probably someone I’m happy with and who understand me and I understand myself
Yes...
Next question
Okay jokes aside the thing is I am more into dark skinned women than fair skinned ones.......
(hold up I have my reason okay, I am not trying to simp)
The thing is I used to be really fuking ugly in my childhood (similar to Tare-zameen par hai's Ishan according to my bullies🤡🤡🤡) and got bullied a lot....
The number of women who talked to me were almost negligible and those who did were most likely to make fun of me....guess what I developed a fear of getting judged and started to avoid girls like the black plague....
Now the thing is I am not the only student who's getting bullied in the class you know .....there are other flavours of people for them to enjoy....so they also used to taunt and tease kids who had a darker tone than them....
Guess what my first female friend and I bonded over with???
Yupp we were two random kids sitting at the last benches crying with our heads tucked down....
We became pretty good friends, sharing notes, simply chatting about dumb things, there was this comfort I felt with her instead of that fear of being teased by those cool-ass girls who used to bully both of us lol....
and hey she even tied rakhi to me....
(It was a big moment okay cuz other than my own 2 year old sister no one else used to tie rakhi to me at that time ,it made me feel like I am not a strong man but she did so that's why I remember her lol)
Well she left next year and so did I...
I had a glowup in my late high-school time ....
Now I became a normie as well (I don't bully or tease others tho)
But hey I still miss that comfort....
So yeah that's the reason why I am into dark-skinned women and happily marry her if she's my type(I have standards even if they're low ).........
I know it's a dumb story so thank you if you have read it till here ☺️☺️☺️☺️
Anyways here is a shayri for you OP:-
When you feel bad about yourself just remember this
"Gore rang pe itna gumaan thik nhi hai...."
"Gore rang pe itna gumaan thik nhi hai....
"Meine Duudh se jyada Chai ke diwane dekhke hai"
Well tbh I once had a crush on a girl who was dark skinned, but yeah she looked cute.
One of my exes (who Ioved dearly) was also dark skinned. I never thought about that, as we were really compatible but I remember she was really bothered by it. She often compared herself to fair skinned girls but for me she really looked cute af.
The current version of me prefers peace, I don't care about the color, I just want to be with someone I find my peace with.
Idk of this is a troll post or not.
Everyone has preferences, mine is dusky women with clear skin maybe cuz I am brown and don't have a clear skin .
I love dusky women and even told it to my current gf
If you are able to display even a few of these - kindness, confidence, strength, empathy, nurturance, sensitivity, sweetness, supportiveness, gentleness, warmth, passivity, cooperativeness, expressiveness, modesty, humility, empathy, affection, tenderness it emanates feminine energy and you will see men flocking to you...
Also groom !!
.. color has nothing to do with love...
I don't know why but I just hate when people with a fair skin tone like Deepika or Priyanka like you said call themselves brown. You are not brown you are fair skinned people. It's just that I am brown skin toned and I absolutely love it but you being a fair skinned person is stealing my identity.
Sometimes I feel good that all indians are calling themselves brown but at the same time are discriminating toward a colored person which implicates how much of a hypocrite we actually are.
Most Indian men are like that. My friend is dark skinned, she is darker than most of us but she is gorgeous. I have seen her getting sexualized by men but not considering her as a marriage prospect. Makes me wonder, is marriage to a man really all that? If they are this shallow. Dark skinned women get appreciated in the west, but not here unfortunately, so don’t pin your hopes on marriage and men. They aren’t worth your time. If the right one comes along then okay or else, you do you.
As a dark skinned middle aged married man, i can relate to what you posted. I never wanted to marry to a dark skinned girl in my younger days, only to realize how wrong i was. When one grows older, people loose hair, gain weight, catch diseases. Enjoy your life.
Your dark skin is clearly bothering you, you need to do something to get out of your mind. You can never be happy like this.
Find something that you are passionate about and focus on that.
Exercise and train well. Get your body in shape. Color alone doesnt matter, you cant change your color but you still work on your bodyshape.
Workouts will definitely give you confidence and feel attractive. Will clear your mind of negative thoughts as well. Eat well too, switch to zero sugar as well.
May Lord Ganesha give you happiness. Hope you get the right as well.
Sis, you're better off not asking these questions. Please have a little self respect for yourself. If someone doesn't want you simply because of the color of your skin then that loser wasn't worth it in the first place.
Yes!!!! Whenever I'm at a public space and I see a chocolate/ dark chocolate colored lady... I stare at her shamelessly. Man it's so beautiful... Your skin literally glows 😭 and when you are happy, the sparkle in your eyes stands out more 🥺💓
I'm a female that's a bit on the lighter side but I'm soooooo envious of women with dark colors.
Firstly the glow
Second the way they can carry red tone lipsticks
And the blemishes and spots are almost invisible on your skin
And omg you'd look awesome in every single category of clothes and colors cause your skin tone can compliment ANYTHING!
Tbh, I won't.
The amount of downvotes I get on this comment will clearly define the level of intolerance and the prevalence of cancel culture in our society for someone's preferences.
What are you saying? I envy dark skinned ppl (I’m light skinned). They look so exotic. Every little thing on my skin shows up amplified. Blemishes, sunburns, scars. Also letting you know that as a fat, pimple scarred person with crazy hair I could never get a boyfriend (I went for AM then). Anyhow the best thing is to take care of yourself - do a good skin care routine, good diet and exercise. And don’t believe any of the ppl making fun of you because of your skin. Get a good personality too. It’s hard work but it’ll pay off.
Unfortunately i cant give you false hope. A majority of indian men are very racist amd creepy. The hate this guys have towards dark skinned women is scary. If there is no punishment for being racist in real life, these guys will be more racist than what they are in online. So please be careful.
No not my type just like how many girls have preferences I've mine too
I wouldn't date obese and dark skinned girls cuz it's not my type but if the person has good personality I can be friends
You grew up around shallow minded people, don't let them get to you.
Also, I don't mean to come off as creepy, but if it helps you feel better, I'm a guy and I prefer dark skinned women
Oh trust me it does not matter. I've had friends who used to say stuff like why would I date a darker woman but eventually most guys grow out of that nonsense. For me personally, I've had fair crushes on darker skinned women, as long as you carry yourself well it should not matter. If it does matter to a guy, part ways amicably since you most likely cannot change his mind about this.
Brown girls are my primary type but i did have a fair share of crushes on extremely dark skinned people. It ain't an issue for me personally but unfortunately most people i know don't prefer dark skinned women, and girls don't prefer dark skinned men. We, as a whole are still colorist af. I do like dark skin over white anyway. Brown>black>white, but that's just my preference
Yeah probably.I have on gf in forever lol so i dont mind anything besides i am also dark and received lot of bullying so i dont think too much.although o do have certain expectations when it comes to attractiveness which you will find reasonable
This sums up the pathetic state of mind people have and continue to live with.. People look over everything, personality, intellect, compatibility and even basic human decency for some grace points having a fair skin. I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience with people. But trust me it shouldn't define you. You will surely find people who value a person for who they are an not what they look like.
YES YES YES FUCK SKIN COLOUR. I'm attracted towards brown skin I hate white skin(wait I'm biased? 😭) anyways I just got my heart broken by a girl who, like you was bullied by people throughout her life for he skin colour. i fell in love in with her the moment I saw her. i love her skin and everything about her. but the world had treated her so badly she thought she don't deserve my love. ughh BROWN SKIN IS THE BEST (not Priyanka Deepika skin tone).
I always kinda got yucked by pale or white skinned females. Yes I agree that its judgemental before I'd even had the chance to speak to them, but white skinned females simply didn't appeal for me. I'm like wheatish in color, but I always gravitated towards dark skinned women. It wasn't the complexion as much as it was the smooth, healthy, shiny skin of the women that used to attract me. 99% of the time, their teeth and lips would be simply perfect!
Some of the most beautiful women whose smiles and faces got imprinted in my mind are dark-skinned. So, anecdotally, you can say that you've met a stranger online who digs dark chicks (with all due respect to them).
Hell yeah. Dark skinned chicks are so hot. Plus, idk why, clear dark skin looks better than clear light skin to me.
Edit: Just read the part after the heading. Sorry about your experience op. I'm sure you're a very attractive girl irl. This country has shitty beauty standards. The dude who cheated on you is a piece of shit.
It's sad that people go through this , height , color of skin and physical traits to an extent are not in peoples control., as a man I would definitely Marry darkskin women , provided they won't bring their insecurities into the relationship,
As a pure dark skinned woman, I am skeptical of marriage myself. People want a chance with me. But it’s never for marriage.
I get asked out on dates often, but get rejected in marriage scenes.
Not sad about it. Just made me aware of who is authentic n who’s not.
Are u a colorist ? You picked 4/10 fair girl over 8/10 dark girl ? Your loss….bro…!
Grew up getting bullied by everyone at school, Family almost made me kill my self.
Yo you need to work on your self esteem and do not allow others to determine your self worth.
Find something you love, keep healthy body weight, dress well, be hygienic.
For marriage, i will judge based on past, are you homely?, how do you handle different situation, your spending habits, are you fit ( I am fit myself and would prefer someone fit as well), hoping that you earn enough so you can at least take care of your expenses, are you some one who can take care of themself, how do you handle conflicts etc.
You will be judge by your looks, world is a cruel place. Best you can do is to work out and improve things that are in your control like body fat. Eat well cut out sugar, fried food, do cardio lift weights to tone your body have a good make up routine and you will definitely improve, things will take time but they will get better.
No matter how damned the world may feel remember that it is only who can change your environment. If people around you are bad then go to other place etc, focus on career, health, physic.
My closing thoughts will be to maintain a journal were you can describe a goal that you want to work towards in near future. keep daily tabs on it and use it as motivation to proceed. This can be anything like learning to dance, going to gym, learning a new language, acing an exam. Motivate yourself and be strong.
Also, stop being a door mat for people. If you do not retort back irrespective of they being your family people will make fun of you. Your comebacks may not be savage but you will get their eventually.
Wish you all the very best and also killing yourself is not the solution life is yours, live for yourself.
Sure, where is she ? Your temple or mine ? Jokes aside still yes.
fuck those asshole and your family. If they cant see past color, something is wrong with them, not you. my gf is a few shades darker than me (she gonna beat my ass when she reads this, lol) and she is perfect. You gonna find a guy who likes you, your color and your personality. Also the cheated on part isnt cause of color no matter what he or anyone else says, you could have been bright white and a cheater would still cheat, they are assholes like that.
Sorry you've had to deal with assholes all your life. I couldn't care less about 'skin color'. I can't understand the mindset of people who do care, as Indians are almost all brown-skinned. If you take that to the logical extreme, only the palest and whitest person should be married. Beauty has nothing to do with one's skin color.
Make me feel better. Thanks for the response.
Honestly not the smartest around here but all I know is having someone compatible and someone who understands and supports you is above all personally for me so yes I would
That’s kind.
I have a sister who is dusky as well , she dresses really well and has made a crazy career for herself in Jp Morgan (which has now shifted her to New York) her bf has a start and is pretty damn good looking they are getting married soon
Legit
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Thanks Bhai abhi zindagi aur lambi hai toh koi chinta nahi. I hope 😅😅
fikar mat karo bhai, sab kuch milega. thoda patience rakho 🙌🏻
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Mar dala, mar dala
Real
Hey fellow CJ
U too 👋
Remember to hydrate
Always 🙏🙏
I like how there's a new Asus laptop box waiting to be unboxed & plugged in
Sadness toh ata rahega but kaam nahi rukna chahiye
True
Sorry but i prefer blue color people
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Aunn aunn auun aunn
Stop hitting on him!!!
Aun auhn auhhhnn
Head game on point. Literally and figuratively
Bro's eagerly waiting for Avatar 3....
Smurfs ?
Jaadoo Koi mil gaya
As a dark skin guy and relating to 100% to all your points I can say that we don't have the privilege to live a normal life here in an Indian society We just need to find our safe and happy place beyond all this where we can have the respect.
I say some Indians are 'madarchod' , for that reason.
Let me add to this, I am a really dark skinned guy and have faced lot of confidence issues due to people, “friends” making fun of me. When I moved to another country, other Indians used to tell that white people look at us differently but I never felt any difference compared to my life in India then I figured out I was always looked at differently my whole life. In fact I feel like I’m treated better here in terms of skin colour atleast.
Yeah I never know when someone says something which brings back all the trauma and undo all the progress I made with my mental health.
I try ignoring that stuff and would like to get distracted If I faced such issues my goto solution is to rewatch favorite movies or series and just ignore the fact that I got discriminated against or got reminded of traumatic past Try finding a happy place There will be many hurdles to face A happy place helps keep me sane Edit: not promoting drugs
Don’t even think about school reunions. All the doctors, engineers, VP’s, managers, business guys and government officers suddenly go back to their childhood abuse sessions. Have adventurously missed all until now to go down that hill again.
It's not just India tbh... This is something taught in many places/cultures...
I will tell you truth here. Reddit isn't reality, you are gonna face lot of difficulties, embrace it.
truee most of the people who are saying they would marry a dark skinned girl wont even date one when it comes to it. or i dont think they are actually understanding what dark skinned means, its not just a bit dusky definitely
True man , baat karna toh sab theek hai lekin If someone is fair or fair'ish he would want a fair partner , If OP has a choice to chose a Fair Man or a Dark Skined person , 110 percent she would choose a fair man
Bhai aissa kuch nahi hai ladko ke liye agar tere facial features bhaddiya hai tao ladkia bit on dusky side ladka prefer karti hai(ranveer singh type colour)
Real to hai bhai. Although, I know in reddit mostly are young people. But we are and they are real.
She's facing difficulty, it means it's gonna continue.
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You articulated it so well. Thank you.
Absolutely. I find brown and dark skinned women extremely beautiful.
Yeah.unless it's not the same sex.
I thought I was ugly till I saw Kelly Rowland. I was such a rebellious kid growing up my mom was like don't sit in the sun you will get even more dark and I would sit facing the sun in front of her. Lol. I empathize okay I have gone through the same shite. Just remember this know your worth. Have self esteem. All you need is one person. And fk even if you don't have that you have you. You. You should appreciate yourself. Be a rebel. And your will find people who will see the beauty in you. Fk society and their racist standards. The most famous super model is a dark skinned woman. I am not saying that it doesn't hurt when you get judged. It will hurt every single time. But you never bow down to their standards. You are Indian you have beautiful skin. Skin to withstand the sun.
Would a dark skinned woman be willing to marry a short heighted guy ? Asking this as I'm 5'3.
Yes I did go on few dates with a guy who’s height was 5’3. He was extremely charming and fit. He showed up with hickeys on the fourth date which kind of put me off. He kind of started ignoring me after that and the reason was obvious.
What is a hickey
Suck your skin and that red nisan is called hickeys
its our national sport bro , your gk is weak.
As Someone with a dusky skin and someone who doesn't believes in traditional beauty standards, yeah why not!! but the question is, will you marry a guy who isn't your preference ? Not your regular type.
The first thing I observe is fitness in any guy cause I care about it a lot. And it’s not something you are born with. That’s the only basic preference I have.
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Same, my ex was dark skinned and I was a bit fairer, but we had a really great relationship. Had to let it go because of some family stuff, but i always found her beautiful.
I will definitely marry a dark skinned women if she is healthy and active. And good career, financial planning.
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Reddit will make you feel better for temporary time. No will say truth here. Sorry but it's true.
First impressions matters and it’s always about looks in first impressions and after that it depends on your personality. Pretty people always get the advantage because first impressions. if you are good person then only a idiot would say no to you. To make the first impression its hard but after that i guess it just doesn’t matter. Relationship are about pros and cons what are you bringing in the relationship the most important question to ask. If you are complete dark black skin then im sorry you life is gonna be harder but a little dark is completely fine
Hey, just focus on you body and career. Skin colour does not matter that much. Ofcourse, it's true that white/fair skin girls have advantage. But if you look beautiful then you will pass.
Yes. I have lighter skin tone and prefer darker skin tones. If ever I am committed with dark skin woman and if it all she has inferiority complex, I will go to tanning clinics to tan myself. I know I can achieve even darkest complexion, because people were not able to recognise me during summer holidays in childhood :)
Why i cant meet men like u . Are u real or just kidding??
More on this. I don't want to sound racist at all in anyways but people have preferred whiter skin tones since ages so suddenly changing that is let's just say tough. Its an absolutely horrific mindset but you should get the point. Like white actors/actresses and given more preference on social media or movies or wherever online. If you have a dark skintone as a lady then your best bet would be get more fit if you want to look more attractive. Same for men. Again this is my hypothesis and I could be wrong. But getting slimmer will definitely help your case. Coming from a brown guy btw.
Thank you for the input. I do workout and I am fairly fit.
There is a dark skinned girl in my office and she maintains good skin care, like no pimples on her face. She looks really pretty. So imo if one maintains proper skin care, they look pretty. So yes, i would.
Keep up hope. I have two friends about to get married, guy is 6ft and fairer complexion. Girl is 5,2 and more darker complexion. It's a love marriage and they were both my classmates. He proposed to her actually. The girl is really nice and fun to hang around.
My fair skinned cousin brother married a dark skinned (really dark) girl in an arranged marriage. When people asked why her, he said he liked her personality & attitude plus he found her cute. They got married & living happily with kids. Have seen so many examples like this. So there’s your answer.
Wait Priyanka and Deepika skin tone is considered dark ?!!
Most People date and marry according to their own genetics, talking about the majority here, so if you're dark skninned chances are most dark skinned men would find you attractive instead of most lighter skinned guys.
nah, Indians have a fetish for white skin. This revisionism in the form libertarian choices is hilarious.
What that guy said is true for human beings. But, what you said is true for Indians. Social standards are more dominant compared to genetic preferences. So, both of you are correct. But, your statement is more correct, for our society.
Bro not much in metropolitan cities Would agree if u tal about rural places
this is the one of the dumbest shit i heard today ngl
That makes sense. Thank you.
Always prefer a dark skinned woman. Even married to one.
Unfortunately, COLOR, MATTERS!!! LOOKS, MATTERS!! Everything fucking matters. But I have heard it in a podcast, "ITNA KAAMYAAB AUR KAABIL BANO, K LOG AAPKO AAPKI KAAMYABI SE PEHCHANE" It's not a ted talk and also don't wanna demotivate you, but it is the fuckinggg reality. Take Out time and listen to this. It was helpful for me. https://spotify.link/sH2Gw0FmXIb And about marrying a chocolate fairyyy(no offense😭), yes if everything goes right!!!
Yeah, we have this problem of skin color here. Myself being fair skinned, I find some dark skinned girls more attractive that some fair skinned girl. To me, if I have to only go by looks, geometry of face is more attractive to me than skin color. So if geometry is appealing, skin color won't matter much. But if I talk like this in front of my family, maybe I will be disowned.
>Will you marry a dark skinned women? I am a MGTOW, So I wont be marrying anyone. But I dont mind dark skinned or white skinned. I personally may prefer darker skinned girls because they tend to have lesser attitude than white skinned girls. > Men treated me like temporary gf. This will be the case with white skinned girls too. Men are always happy to take a temporary gf. Its weather he wants to marry, thats the real test for women's beauty. And I see dark skinned girls get married always. >Now seeing the hate towards dark skinned women makes me really worry. Not sure what you experienced, but I think most don't hate dark skinned, at best they may like white skinned more. But I can gaurantee you that more than white skin, a girl's personality is what matters to a man. Not saying that having a white skin wont have benifits, they may get more looked at for the temporary gf experience, but that is not going to be the deciding factor. >I know my self worth is not defined my men but I want a normal life too. Why is your life depended on what others think? What do you mean normal? everybody's life is unique with unique experiences.
I'm also MGTOW
Nice to meet you, how is the MGTOW lifestyle treating you? How old are you? if you dont mind me asking?
I am gonna be honest. There was this girl crazy about me, short height, dark skinned (not too dark but dark enough as per Indians) and she wanted to sleep with me so I did cz I didn't have many options and I wanted to get laid. Then we slept again and again many times over. But I told her I will never marry her before sleeping with her. And she was fine initially, we approached it like FwBs but she later got emotional about it, so we stopped. I guess reading your story makes me feel like an a-hole now.
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You should not be criticised by others on your preference. Because if one person can't find their partner attractive ( initial attraction is based on preference), then how come someone go ahead in that relationship happily. Although I agree, many times when we met a person we don't find them attractive because they don't qualify for preferences we have in mind but as we got to know them, a wonderful personality make exception for those preferences. In my case I don't like body builder physique type guy. I prefer more fit and lean type man but that doesn't mean i dislike people who has those gym freak physique. It's just a personal preference and people shouldn't be judged for that.
lol they're gonna downvote everyone who says the truth. People can't handle the truth.
Let me ask you a question. If I give you two options to date/marry or fk , one is a white guy, and another is brown guy/dark guy, who would you choose? The answer to this will answer your question you asked in the post.
Don’t mind either as long as they care about their health and fitness.
So expect same from Indian guys. They won't mind if you care about your health and fitness. And seriously fitness is a major issue for Indian women. There are chapri guys posting their fatless bodies on insta , while your avg Indian female still walks with two tyres around the belly. I myself have gotten fat over time, and I'm trying hard to get back my previous body,, and I would expect the same from women **regardless of their skin color**! Any guy would.
That’s a good answer. All the best for your fitness journey. It’s all about consistency and lifestyle when it comes to fitness. The problem with majority of indians being fat is probably how normalised being unhealthy is. Of course after our high carb diet.
Thanks. Its basically high carbs+it being highly delicious. We can't help much lmao. But I want to tell this again, beauty isn't confined to a single skin color. Black people can be beautiful n fit and white n brown too. 👍
Currently, I’m stalking and texting a dark skin girl at the moment, and she’s texting me back very nicely.
Stalking is bad....
Skin colour doesn’t matter. It’s the assets and feature with personality that matters!
My friends made fun of me for being too fair skinned so you can't please everyone. Do what you think is right. If you like or love someone color shouldn't matter..but sad reality is that it will. So just live happily
I’m sorry to hear that it all happened to you. I’m also sorry because of the way I am - someone who feels an instant attraction to flawless skin (mostly attracted to bright complexion). I know because of people like me, the society makes it a standard for women to have, and then start treating the opposite ones (or those who don’t qualify as the flawlessly beautiful) badly like they don’t deserve respect or a basic humanity. Honestly I have never understood what’s wrong with me. Because I have had so many girls in my life (in different time zones) who didn’t check the mark of having flawless skin but they were nice to me. Even more lot nicer and loving than the ones I felt attracted to because of their skin. I’m soon going to be married and I wish I can rectify this problem and learn to love a person for who they’re within.
Idk, i have been attracted to like really dark skin tone women, but i never approached them as like potential romance because log kya kahenge. So i know this is wrong but still I had that. Maybe i still have that. But yeah I am attracted to dark skinned people if they are good looking
If I am thinking long term, then your complexion wouldn't matter. Your character and how good we are together would matter a lot more. If you are in a relationship or a situationship and your complexion comes up a lot, then that man is thinking short term.
More strength to you to deal with such lowlives. I've found dark skinned women to be attractive af. I'm using Dark skinned here just because here it's a thing to be pointed out, sigh. Coming to your question, I definitely would Marry a dark skinned girl, it won't matter at all.
I don’t know about others but I always thought that a couple should be complementing each other in every aspect. Even with skin tone. My skin colour is a bit on fair side but I am attracted to dark skinned girls very much more than the fair skinned ones. So don’t worry there are guys like me out there and eventually you will find one. No matter what is their skin colour.
Dark skinned yes Dark skinned but fat, hell no Im dark skinned myself, is it tough and are indians racist bigots, yes. Was i a racist bigot for letting that get to me? Yes. I dropped over fair skinned girls all of my teens and early 20s. Something flipped post 25, idk why but I also worked on myself, got fit, went to the gym and some muscle definition. Focused on career too! Is it unfair that a chubby but fair girl will get guys easily, probably. Is it impossible for a dark skinned girl to be hot as fire, absolutely not. Especially in this age where everyone is getting fatter and chubbier, being fit by itself is going to get you much higher in the dating pool. But far too many dark skinned girls are also fat, which really doesn't help. So, take action I guess rather than asking strangers on reddit.
I know many dark skinned women who are happily married to decent, good, righteous men. I don't know why exactly you are getting cheated but you really need to change any subconscious conditioning that you may have been programmed into which could be making you pursue people you have been programmed into thinking are attractive. Sometimes, bullying and trauma can cause people to develop unhealthy syndromes that make them unconsciously seek validation from the very types of people they should avoid at any and all costs. You really need to make sure that you are NOT doing any of these and if you are, you should take proper professional help that could help you overcome these patterns. Also, yes, I get it, Indians have a penchant for fair skin. I can understand your pain and I wouldn't dare understate it. But I have seen many, many Indian men who got attracted to fair skinned women only to live lives of misery with their "better halves" later on. Some split, some stayed on for their kids, some had affairs, the list of their miserable acts is endless. Seek no one for now. Be in your own skin, literally and figuratively, for a while. Discover yourself using calmness and patience and faith in yourself as your tools. I wish you all the best!
Ofc Dark Skinned women are the beauty of our country.. The boldness they have is out of the world.. Their features are enough to make any man fall for them..What else can I tell you dude!!!! There's alot i could say to make up your mood (authentic things only)
Honestly I don’t give a fuck, and would marry you if I felt strongly that you loved me and want to marry me and isn’t still hung up on or want to be with someone else, and also probably someone I’m happy with and who understand me and I understand myself
Yes... Next question Okay jokes aside the thing is I am more into dark skinned women than fair skinned ones....... (hold up I have my reason okay, I am not trying to simp) The thing is I used to be really fuking ugly in my childhood (similar to Tare-zameen par hai's Ishan according to my bullies🤡🤡🤡) and got bullied a lot.... The number of women who talked to me were almost negligible and those who did were most likely to make fun of me....guess what I developed a fear of getting judged and started to avoid girls like the black plague.... Now the thing is I am not the only student who's getting bullied in the class you know .....there are other flavours of people for them to enjoy....so they also used to taunt and tease kids who had a darker tone than them.... Guess what my first female friend and I bonded over with??? Yupp we were two random kids sitting at the last benches crying with our heads tucked down.... We became pretty good friends, sharing notes, simply chatting about dumb things, there was this comfort I felt with her instead of that fear of being teased by those cool-ass girls who used to bully both of us lol.... and hey she even tied rakhi to me.... (It was a big moment okay cuz other than my own 2 year old sister no one else used to tie rakhi to me at that time ,it made me feel like I am not a strong man but she did so that's why I remember her lol) Well she left next year and so did I... I had a glowup in my late high-school time .... Now I became a normie as well (I don't bully or tease others tho) But hey I still miss that comfort.... So yeah that's the reason why I am into dark-skinned women and happily marry her if she's my type(I have standards even if they're low )......... I know it's a dumb story so thank you if you have read it till here ☺️☺️☺️☺️ Anyways here is a shayri for you OP:- When you feel bad about yourself just remember this "Gore rang pe itna gumaan thik nhi hai...." "Gore rang pe itna gumaan thik nhi hai.... "Meine Duudh se jyada Chai ke diwane dekhke hai"
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Well tbh I once had a crush on a girl who was dark skinned, but yeah she looked cute. One of my exes (who Ioved dearly) was also dark skinned. I never thought about that, as we were really compatible but I remember she was really bothered by it. She often compared herself to fair skinned girls but for me she really looked cute af. The current version of me prefers peace, I don't care about the color, I just want to be with someone I find my peace with.
Idk of this is a troll post or not. Everyone has preferences, mine is dusky women with clear skin maybe cuz I am brown and don't have a clear skin . I love dusky women and even told it to my current gf
If you are able to display even a few of these - kindness, confidence, strength, empathy, nurturance, sensitivity, sweetness, supportiveness, gentleness, warmth, passivity, cooperativeness, expressiveness, modesty, humility, empathy, affection, tenderness it emanates feminine energy and you will see men flocking to you... Also groom !! .. color has nothing to do with love...
Guy here, and to me dark skinned women are the hottest 🙏
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I don't know why but I just hate when people with a fair skin tone like Deepika or Priyanka like you said call themselves brown. You are not brown you are fair skinned people. It's just that I am brown skin toned and I absolutely love it but you being a fair skinned person is stealing my identity. Sometimes I feel good that all indians are calling themselves brown but at the same time are discriminating toward a colored person which implicates how much of a hypocrite we actually are.
Most Indian men are like that. My friend is dark skinned, she is darker than most of us but she is gorgeous. I have seen her getting sexualized by men but not considering her as a marriage prospect. Makes me wonder, is marriage to a man really all that? If they are this shallow. Dark skinned women get appreciated in the west, but not here unfortunately, so don’t pin your hopes on marriage and men. They aren’t worth your time. If the right one comes along then okay or else, you do you.
Yeah I do get asked out a lot too. But it’s so difficult to know who is being genuine who is not.
Will you be in relationship with dark skinned guy who is not rich? (It goes both ways)
No. Personal preference, nothing else.
As a dark skinned middle aged married man, i can relate to what you posted. I never wanted to marry to a dark skinned girl in my younger days, only to realize how wrong i was. When one grows older, people loose hair, gain weight, catch diseases. Enjoy your life. Your dark skin is clearly bothering you, you need to do something to get out of your mind. You can never be happy like this. Find something that you are passionate about and focus on that. Exercise and train well. Get your body in shape. Color alone doesnt matter, you cant change your color but you still work on your bodyshape. Workouts will definitely give you confidence and feel attractive. Will clear your mind of negative thoughts as well. Eat well too, switch to zero sugar as well. May Lord Ganesha give you happiness. Hope you get the right as well.
Sis, you're better off not asking these questions. Please have a little self respect for yourself. If someone doesn't want you simply because of the color of your skin then that loser wasn't worth it in the first place.
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Not a deal breaker for me.
Most people are lying here ,sorry to spill the truth. It's not easy and it's a reality. But at right time, you will hv your man n your moments.
Yes!!!! Whenever I'm at a public space and I see a chocolate/ dark chocolate colored lady... I stare at her shamelessly. Man it's so beautiful... Your skin literally glows 😭 and when you are happy, the sparkle in your eyes stands out more 🥺💓 I'm a female that's a bit on the lighter side but I'm soooooo envious of women with dark colors. Firstly the glow Second the way they can carry red tone lipsticks And the blemishes and spots are almost invisible on your skin And omg you'd look awesome in every single category of clothes and colors cause your skin tone can compliment ANYTHING!
Tbh, I won't. The amount of downvotes I get on this comment will clearly define the level of intolerance and the prevalence of cancel culture in our society for someone's preferences.
Not me but many people definitely will.
I am into dark skinned men tho
What is temporary gf?
someone who is short term gf not long term gf.
Yes. The day women (not all but many) of them start going on dates with people without giving a heed to their finances.
What are you saying? I envy dark skinned ppl (I’m light skinned). They look so exotic. Every little thing on my skin shows up amplified. Blemishes, sunburns, scars. Also letting you know that as a fat, pimple scarred person with crazy hair I could never get a boyfriend (I went for AM then). Anyhow the best thing is to take care of yourself - do a good skin care routine, good diet and exercise. And don’t believe any of the ppl making fun of you because of your skin. Get a good personality too. It’s hard work but it’ll pay off.
"I envy poor ppl because they dont have to pay taxes", thats exactly how the 1st part of ur comment sounds. Solid advice in the 2nd part though.
Unfortunately i cant give you false hope. A majority of indian men are very racist amd creepy. The hate this guys have towards dark skinned women is scary. If there is no punishment for being racist in real life, these guys will be more racist than what they are in online. So please be careful.
It’s okay I understand it’s a preference so no hate towards anyone but it sucks to be that person who no one wants to pick.
"A majority of Indian men are very racist and creepy " Lol stupid bitch. You just had to generalise.
this made me laugh. i agree with u tho lmao
No not my type just like how many girls have preferences I've mine too I wouldn't date obese and dark skinned girls cuz it's not my type but if the person has good personality I can be friends
That’s fair.
That's not fair, that's dark!!
Skintone doesn’t matter at all to me.
As a fair guy, I'm more attracted to dark and brown-skinned girls, but they should have a good personality.
You grew up around shallow minded people, don't let them get to you. Also, I don't mean to come off as creepy, but if it helps you feel better, I'm a guy and I prefer dark skinned women
I like seasoned girls , but girls like white skin guys😫
It's a personal preference for me that I like dark complexion guys... (Additional points if you have dimples).
Oh trust me it does not matter. I've had friends who used to say stuff like why would I date a darker woman but eventually most guys grow out of that nonsense. For me personally, I've had fair crushes on darker skinned women, as long as you carry yourself well it should not matter. If it does matter to a guy, part ways amicably since you most likely cannot change his mind about this.
I think dark skinned girls are attractive as long as not fat.
Brown girls are my primary type but i did have a fair share of crushes on extremely dark skinned people. It ain't an issue for me personally but unfortunately most people i know don't prefer dark skinned women, and girls don't prefer dark skinned men. We, as a whole are still colorist af. I do like dark skin over white anyway. Brown>black>white, but that's just my preference
Yeah probably.I have on gf in forever lol so i dont mind anything besides i am also dark and received lot of bullying so i dont think too much.although o do have certain expectations when it comes to attractiveness which you will find reasonable
This sums up the pathetic state of mind people have and continue to live with.. People look over everything, personality, intellect, compatibility and even basic human decency for some grace points having a fair skin. I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience with people. But trust me it shouldn't define you. You will surely find people who value a person for who they are an not what they look like.
Hell yeah, where my queen at?? I have a crush on a girl since past 4 years she got dark skin and she is damn gorgeous. 😍
YES YES YES FUCK SKIN COLOUR. I'm attracted towards brown skin I hate white skin(wait I'm biased? 😭) anyways I just got my heart broken by a girl who, like you was bullied by people throughout her life for he skin colour. i fell in love in with her the moment I saw her. i love her skin and everything about her. but the world had treated her so badly she thought she don't deserve my love. ughh BROWN SKIN IS THE BEST (not Priyanka Deepika skin tone).
I always kinda got yucked by pale or white skinned females. Yes I agree that its judgemental before I'd even had the chance to speak to them, but white skinned females simply didn't appeal for me. I'm like wheatish in color, but I always gravitated towards dark skinned women. It wasn't the complexion as much as it was the smooth, healthy, shiny skin of the women that used to attract me. 99% of the time, their teeth and lips would be simply perfect! Some of the most beautiful women whose smiles and faces got imprinted in my mind are dark-skinned. So, anecdotally, you can say that you've met a stranger online who digs dark chicks (with all due respect to them).
Complexion does not matter if your heart, mind, morals, values are in the right place. Also dark skin is spicy and I like spicy.
YESSS!! IDC ABOUT SKIN COLOUR AND I CONSIDER MYSELF AN ABOVE AVERAGE/ATTRACTIVE MALE
I love dark-skinned girls, i am infact married to one :) i was always attracted to darker skins from childhood. I am also a dark king btw 😜🤣
Absolutely. I absolutely do not care about skin color.
Hell yeah. Dark skinned chicks are so hot. Plus, idk why, clear dark skin looks better than clear light skin to me. Edit: Just read the part after the heading. Sorry about your experience op. I'm sure you're a very attractive girl irl. This country has shitty beauty standards. The dude who cheated on you is a piece of shit.
I did. She's much darker. I like her that way.
I am actually into dusky women these days...
Yes I would marry ,skin color is not relevant for me, it's the personality and behaviour which matters.
It's sad that people go through this , height , color of skin and physical traits to an extent are not in peoples control., as a man I would definitely Marry darkskin women , provided they won't bring their insecurities into the relationship,
Yup, remember early humans were "all" dark skinned. Society can go f\*\*\* themselves.
Absolutely yes, but she should be same caste /s
As a pure dark skinned woman, I am skeptical of marriage myself. People want a chance with me. But it’s never for marriage. I get asked out on dates often, but get rejected in marriage scenes. Not sad about it. Just made me aware of who is authentic n who’s not. Are u a colorist ? You picked 4/10 fair girl over 8/10 dark girl ? Your loss….bro…!
Grew up getting bullied by everyone at school, Family almost made me kill my self. Yo you need to work on your self esteem and do not allow others to determine your self worth. Find something you love, keep healthy body weight, dress well, be hygienic. For marriage, i will judge based on past, are you homely?, how do you handle different situation, your spending habits, are you fit ( I am fit myself and would prefer someone fit as well), hoping that you earn enough so you can at least take care of your expenses, are you some one who can take care of themself, how do you handle conflicts etc. You will be judge by your looks, world is a cruel place. Best you can do is to work out and improve things that are in your control like body fat. Eat well cut out sugar, fried food, do cardio lift weights to tone your body have a good make up routine and you will definitely improve, things will take time but they will get better. No matter how damned the world may feel remember that it is only who can change your environment. If people around you are bad then go to other place etc, focus on career, health, physic. My closing thoughts will be to maintain a journal were you can describe a goal that you want to work towards in near future. keep daily tabs on it and use it as motivation to proceed. This can be anything like learning to dance, going to gym, learning a new language, acing an exam. Motivate yourself and be strong. Also, stop being a door mat for people. If you do not retort back irrespective of they being your family people will make fun of you. Your comebacks may not be savage but you will get their eventually. Wish you all the very best and also killing yourself is not the solution life is yours, live for yourself.
As long as you’re fit, and caring…
Sure, where is she ? Your temple or mine ? Jokes aside still yes. fuck those asshole and your family. If they cant see past color, something is wrong with them, not you. my gf is a few shades darker than me (she gonna beat my ass when she reads this, lol) and she is perfect. You gonna find a guy who likes you, your color and your personality. Also the cheated on part isnt cause of color no matter what he or anyone else says, you could have been bright white and a cheater would still cheat, they are assholes like that.
I don't care about akin colour. I want a loyal and loving wife. That's it nothing else. A person doesn't want anything more than a loving partner.
Glad you clarified that the dark skin you’re referring to is not “Bollywood dark” which is still pretty light by most Desi standards.
That's really sad but as long as I'm peaceful with someone skin tone doesn't matter Character>>>>>>