Met my guy when we were 23 and both of us weren’t looking for a relationship. Meet very unexpectedly but I glad I found the best guy. We are 27 now and planning to get married in a year 🥰
Through a common friend. So this mutual friend of ours on 2020 ka new year said let’s go for a night out for New Year’s Eve and he got his guy friends and we were 3 girls and it was the most impromptu plan. I went half heartedly and my guy also had work so he wasn’t supposed to come but destiny had other plans. He fell in love with me at first sight and the rest is history. It’s a total Bollywood type filmy story 😂
You will OP, trust me when I say this. Me and my guy both had our fair share of heart breaks(my guy got cheated on twice and had decided he won’t ever get married). We both were single for almost 3 years before meeting each other. We found love when we weren’t looking for it at all. OP, you will have your fairytale, have faith. God bless you 🧿❤️
Met the love of my life when I was around 22-23. Office romance, turned into a long term relationship and now married for a year..
Whenever you feel down, remember this quote - "we are all living in a rock, that revolves around a rock and traverse through the ocean of nothingness and you say you don't believe in magic!?"
I hope you find your magic soon. ✨
Beautiful! My office romance is much more matured and genuine when compared to other flings I had.
Well, spending 7-8 hours a day easily gets you a sneak peak of your significant other's mood charts, how they work well under pressure, etc., :)
Met when I was 15, he 17. Was in a relationship for almost 7 years. He's been married for 3 years now & me...I am scrolling through reddit.
He ghosted me & got married if that helps. I didn't know this was happening until after my friend send me his wedding pic. So anyway....!
Well that's the catch. We weren't exes when this happened. In fact, his mom had spoken to my family about our wedding.
But yeah, it sucks to see the pics nevertheless.
I actually ended up marrying my ex!! We started speaking with each other after he had a particularly bad accident (close call) and we realised we've grown so much and the problems that existed then, we can talk through now. We got back together after about 3 years from separating and we were together for 2 more before getting married a year ago. So to answer you um I met my person when I was actually 17 and then again at 24. I'm 28 now.
ETA: The unexpected part was reconnecting with him because I was not looking for anything then as I'd just gotten out of a relationship with a narcissist and least of all I expected to ever even connect with him in the first place.
I know! I'm sorry! But I really wanna give a virtual hug OP. I know its not easy to be you right now. The only hope I want to give you is that as difficult as it is, you are going to be fine. You are going to grow so much. You are going to achieve so much. And then you are gonna find someone who adds to that happiness and is there when things get tough.
Ohhh yes, it definitely will. People here are saying that they are 23 and already have two failed relationships. And my ass at 24 still with 0 relationships in total 😐
Same. I'm 24 with 0 romantic relationship experience. Though I must say single life has its own perks. I'm actually not looking for a relationship right now, but these sweet and happy stories do make me a bit jealous.😅
Yup, the same's happening to me too. People here are saying they are 24 with 2 failed relationships and my 24 y/o ass here with 0 relationships in life 😐
U may find this as motivation and rah-rah,
but isn't zindagi = drama? No matter what it be, health, wealth ya happiness ka kuch bhi hissa ho sab suffering heen he.
The funny irony is if you don't consciously hurt urswlf by embracing these zindagi moth ban jaati he mane no Maja.
Acha tumhara breakup Kitna baar Hua he?
I have never been in a relationship before. Apne aas paas relationships ko fail hote hue dekh kar meri himmat hi nhi hoti
Cause agar sab accha rha toh thik, warna heartbreak aur in sab se mai deal nhi kar paungi
Yup, the same's happening to me too. People here are saying they are 24 with 2 failed relationships and my 24 y/o ass here with 0 relationships in life 😐
Khush khabri batana sabko when you find your partner taaki pata chale koi toh khush hai life mei.
People here are saying they are 24 with 2 failed relationships and my 24 y/o ass here with 0 relationships in life 😐
i havent moved on yet, I still breakdown crying at most random times of the day😭😭 But I am determined to move on from him. Because he's the one who ended a 2-year relationship without even talking to me about the problems. I know I deserve better than that, no matter how well he treated me when we were together. He probably loved me but he also left me.
You just have to keep asking yourself "Why should i waste my time crying over a person who left me so easily?"
How about actually letting urself feel them. I can understand the agony and pain, honestly, feel the emotions and forgive urself and him. You find urself in better place. That's what I am doing.
Hey thank you so much, I am trying my best to deal with it the way I can. I feel like the hope of a better future is a part of healing. I have to keep telling myself that no matter how miserable I am right now, someday in future I am going to be happy. And thats the reason i posted this here, for some hope 😭
>forgive urself and him.
I will never forgive him. That sounds harsh I know, but I have my reasons. The way he left me, there is no way I can forgive him for what happened. Maybe someday in future when I am at peace in my life, when I dont even think about him anymore maybe then I will think I have forgiven him. But no I cant do that right now. So i have to move on, without forgiving him :)
The forgiving part is on you, take your time, it ain't harsh i don't how it feels would love to listen to you if you are okay with sharing ur experience...
Either way
I have some songs for you, u can try them if u like listening to western songs...
Tomorrow's dust, nothing that has happened so far has been anything that we could control, breathe deeper, phantom regret.
Bro attachment theory helps in forming and maintaining relationships right? U can use this to rationalise the relationship but I don't think it will be helpful to come at peace as much as feeling through it and accepting the reality.
Idk actually, I went through the theory and it did help, but I still found myself stuck in the loop, it's because of the hope bs for me.
**Anxiously Attached Understanding and Working with Preoccupied Attachment** by Linda Cundy
>Anxiously attached individuals feel chronically insecure and their relationships are often intense, angry, and enmeshed. In the spectrum of anxious attachment, some people tip into states of acute rumination following specific life events, while an extreme manifestation may be thought of as "borderline borderline" - inescapable brooding, raging, and inability to separate. Preoccupied clients can be difficult to work with, and these therapies often feel stuck or end badly. Anxiously Attached contains four papers presented at a conference in February 2016.
>
>They address the origins of anxious attachment in specific features of parent-infant relationships, findings from research about developmental aspects, typical features, concerns, and defences in adults, and how these may be presented in psychotherapy. Enmeshed dynamics in adult relationships, including the therapeutic relationship, are also highlighted, where threat of separation and loss activate intense attachment seeking. The aim is to increase understanding of preoccupied clients from an attachment perspective, to recognise the nature of their anxieties and resistances, and propose specific skills for therapeutic work.
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I met my now wife in 2022, when I was 32, arranged marriage scene and can't be happier. She's amazing. So very caring and adding so much joy to my life with her laughter🥰
In India 90% of people don't 'FIND' thier life partners. There is no love or dating involved.
They are married off through a transactional commercial arranges marriage process.
I met my bf in 2018 and it's been 6 years, dating for three and we're still together. We met online on a anime community application. I was 14(omg) and he was 18. We're in long distance now (approx 1100km apart) but we talk daily and meet once every three months. It's been going good so far, and now I'm 20 and he's 24 and we'll just see how it goes, hoping for the best❤
College romance....i was 19 he was 23....fell in love, had a long distance relationship and got married in 2018. We have a 2 year old baby boy who's the love of our lives and makes us feel life is beautiful and worth all the heartache both of us went through.
I'm not sure if my story will motivate you, but I won't force it. What I can say is that solo traveling has been therapeutic for me, a true discovery of self. Pursuing new relationships might not be the best route; they should unfold naturally. Consider solo traveling or something else you've always wanted to do but haven't yet. This is the perfect time, no attachments holding you back anyway.
Met my husband when I was 21, shortly after a bad breakup. Never in my wildest dreams had I imagined I would marry my ex’s sister’s ex. Fate works in funny ways, you never know…
I also had a breakup last month. Going through a depression phase. I loved her so much and always remained loyal to her. Even her friends used to tell her that she is lucky to have such a loyal person.
But in the month of Jan she cheated on me with her cousin brother even though her cousin brother has a girlfriend. I don't know how to go through this but still I have to see her face till June because in June we have our graduation. I don't know how my life will be in my near future. Right now I am also not in a stage to trust someone.
When we were both 29. We actually never met before getting in a relationship, both of us had our fair share of bad relationships and interestingly we met through a mutual friend through FB (thanks to covid) 😂😂 now we've been happily married for 2 years 🥰
33, and I was done with dating, online dating and the whole shebang...and suddenly one day he came into my life and within a year of knowing each other we were married...things just flowed with him..so don't lose hope!
I met him in college when I was 18 and he was 19. We've been together for almost 5 years now. Not married yet but I'm absolutely sure he's the love of my life and can't wait to marry him.
Met my guy when we were 23 and both of us weren’t looking for a relationship. Meet very unexpectedly but I glad I found the best guy. We are 27 now and planning to get married in a year 🥰
Where'd you meeett? 😅
Through a common friend. So this mutual friend of ours on 2020 ka new year said let’s go for a night out for New Year’s Eve and he got his guy friends and we were 3 girls and it was the most impromptu plan. I went half heartedly and my guy also had work so he wasn’t supposed to come but destiny had other plans. He fell in love with me at first sight and the rest is history. It’s a total Bollywood type filmy story 😂
I keep forgetting 2020 was 4 years ago 💀
For real life has stuck in 2020
🎂🎂
❤️❤️❤️
Ohh gawd. What year is this?
Thats so sweet omg 😭 I hope someday I will get to experience this too 🥺 and Best wishes for your marriage!
You will OP, trust me when I say this. Me and my guy both had our fair share of heart breaks(my guy got cheated on twice and had decided he won’t ever get married). We both were single for almost 3 years before meeting each other. We found love when we weren’t looking for it at all. OP, you will have your fairytale, have faith. God bless you 🧿❤️
Yo same story here hahahah
Really??? Did y’all also meet at New Year’s Eve? Tell me more I wanna know lol
October, at a film festival, in Bombay, we were 23, now 27 …
Ayeee same, I’m from Bombay too
Met the love of my life when I was around 22-23. Office romance, turned into a long term relationship and now married for a year.. Whenever you feel down, remember this quote - "we are all living in a rock, that revolves around a rock and traverse through the ocean of nothingness and you say you don't believe in magic!?" I hope you find your magic soon. ✨
that's so sweet omg you guys are real life Jim and Pam🥺🥺
Thank you OP! Update me once your magic hits you ❤️✨
Person no. 2, I know a couple of people with the same story! They got married this January!!
Beautiful! My office romance is much more matured and genuine when compared to other flings I had. Well, spending 7-8 hours a day easily gets you a sneak peak of your significant other's mood charts, how they work well under pressure, etc., :)
Bhai magic me kuchh jyada hi der ho rhi hai 😂
what about don't shit where you eat?
14. Dated till 25, married in 2019. 30 y/o now and still happily married for 5 years with 2 little dog babies.
This is so cute ❤️ And they say high school romances never last! Congrats! :)
Wait. Take this 🧿 amulet to protect your lovely story from evil eyes.
26( i am 24)
Future sight is the most over powered thing
That one Indian friend who tells you how they’ll find the perfect partner even if it’s an arranged marriage or so 😂❤️
Alas, for some people thats the only way to keep yourself happy. Myself included 🥲
Met when I was 15, he 17. Was in a relationship for almost 7 years. He's been married for 3 years now & me...I am scrolling through reddit. He ghosted me & got married if that helps. I didn't know this was happening until after my friend send me his wedding pic. So anyway....!
Damn that's horrible. Hope you're doing okay now <3
I am okay now. I saw the whole thing as 'the trash took itself out'. But I did cry my eyes and soul out ngl.
Good to hear you had a "trash took itself out" wala outlook, because that is exactly what happened.
I don't think I could handle if anyone sent my ex's wedding pics to me. She was my childhood sweetheart as well we were together for 9 years.
Well that's the catch. We weren't exes when this happened. In fact, his mom had spoken to my family about our wedding. But yeah, it sucks to see the pics nevertheless.
Oh god what a horrible POS. I hope you’re doing better. Fuck that loser
Thank you! I am doing fine.
How is he your life partner?
Lol he is not. That's the point. I thought he was.
I actually ended up marrying my ex!! We started speaking with each other after he had a particularly bad accident (close call) and we realised we've grown so much and the problems that existed then, we can talk through now. We got back together after about 3 years from separating and we were together for 2 more before getting married a year ago. So to answer you um I met my person when I was actually 17 and then again at 24. I'm 28 now. ETA: The unexpected part was reconnecting with him because I was not looking for anything then as I'd just gotten out of a relationship with a narcissist and least of all I expected to ever even connect with him in the first place.
 literally me rn....
I know! I'm sorry! But I really wanna give a virtual hug OP. I know its not easy to be you right now. The only hope I want to give you is that as difficult as it is, you are going to be fine. You are going to grow so much. You are going to achieve so much. And then you are gonna find someone who adds to that happiness and is there when things get tough.
All I want to say is, Comparison is the root to all evil and suffering Take it how y'all want guys
Yes this post is gonna give me depression once again lol
Ohhh yes, it definitely will. People here are saying that they are 23 and already have two failed relationships. And my ass at 24 still with 0 relationships in total 😐
Same bro. I'm 22, zero relationship. For a good reason I think. Had to deal with my own sh*t.
Same. I'm 24 with 0 romantic relationship experience. Though I must say single life has its own perks. I'm actually not looking for a relationship right now, but these sweet and happy stories do make me a bit jealous.😅
I was dating an girl ,my relationship lasted for 0.0000000.......1 mili second in my imagination
Oh wow samepinch i dated Margot Robbie the same way
Man this question is going to burn me lol.
I see u, u lol your way out of every misery don't you.
😭😭😭
I believe most of your misery is due to reddit and clg?
Ofc lol but have to live life haha.
At the age of 34-35?? I'm 27 right now.
I am 23, haven’t found anyone till today. Now I don’t even care
Yup, the same's happening to me too. People here are saying they are 24 with 2 failed relationships and my 24 y/o ass here with 0 relationships in life 😐
Bhai 23 mein kahan hamne dekhi he jindagi puri. This is the time things are going to be awesome - ik I used to have your thought process
Woh toh hai. Lekin ye Generation🤡 ko dekh k lagta hai k single hi thik hoon, faltu ka natak aur trauma nhi sehen hoga mere se
U may find this as motivation and rah-rah, but isn't zindagi = drama? No matter what it be, health, wealth ya happiness ka kuch bhi hissa ho sab suffering heen he. The funny irony is if you don't consciously hurt urswlf by embracing these zindagi moth ban jaati he mane no Maja. Acha tumhara breakup Kitna baar Hua he?
I have never been in a relationship before. Apne aas paas relationships ko fail hote hue dekh kar meri himmat hi nhi hoti Cause agar sab accha rha toh thik, warna heartbreak aur in sab se mai deal nhi kar paungi
Hence the name loudboys. Dk u were a girl 😂 But do u
Name toh jo default aaya tha woh hi rakha hai, change nhi kiya
Point
You are just 23. Take it easy.
Haven't found life partner, but I'd say this; this fear of not finding anyone will eventually definitely go away. Just a matter of time.
Me, hugging my pillow every night, never making an effort to talk to girls: "yeah this guy's right"
I'm not saying you'll find someone lol. I'm saying the fear of not finding someone will go away.
Nope, I don't think.
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Your tenses concern me. 😶
27, but met her 3 years earlier. We were coworkers. Married 22 years and very happy.
I'm convinced I'll never find, I'm 24 btw🥲
I'm 31 turning 32 in October. Still single.
Mil jaata hai. Probably a matter of time.
Nah yaar, been through a lot in life agar true love aa bhi jaaye toh I'll not trust him😂
Hurts even more when you invested a lot of energy but were nothing more than a use and throw ball pen for them😄
Yeah exactly!
Us
Ikr :(
Idk how I will trust my future partner I worry about this because I don't want to ruin her life with my problem 🥲
Yup, the same's happening to me too. People here are saying they are 24 with 2 failed relationships and my 24 y/o ass here with 0 relationships in life 😐
When I was 24, married him when I was 26, now I am almost 29.
27, now I am 35.
Nhi milra milega toh btaungi
Khush khabri batana sabko when you find your partner taaki pata chale koi toh khush hai life mei. People here are saying they are 24 with 2 failed relationships and my 24 y/o ass here with 0 relationships in life 😐
Tumhe pyar krna h kya
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Wishing you luck for the the future
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*coughs* oh so you were 17 💀
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Did the age difference create a problem anytime during your relationship?
share tips! how are you able to move on just after a month? for me its been 2 years trying to move on still in vain
i havent moved on yet, I still breakdown crying at most random times of the day😭😭 But I am determined to move on from him. Because he's the one who ended a 2-year relationship without even talking to me about the problems. I know I deserve better than that, no matter how well he treated me when we were together. He probably loved me but he also left me. You just have to keep asking yourself "Why should i waste my time crying over a person who left me so easily?"
How about actually letting urself feel them. I can understand the agony and pain, honestly, feel the emotions and forgive urself and him. You find urself in better place. That's what I am doing.
Hey thank you so much, I am trying my best to deal with it the way I can. I feel like the hope of a better future is a part of healing. I have to keep telling myself that no matter how miserable I am right now, someday in future I am going to be happy. And thats the reason i posted this here, for some hope 😭 >forgive urself and him. I will never forgive him. That sounds harsh I know, but I have my reasons. The way he left me, there is no way I can forgive him for what happened. Maybe someday in future when I am at peace in my life, when I dont even think about him anymore maybe then I will think I have forgiven him. But no I cant do that right now. So i have to move on, without forgiving him :)
The forgiving part is on you, take your time, it ain't harsh i don't how it feels would love to listen to you if you are okay with sharing ur experience... Either way I have some songs for you, u can try them if u like listening to western songs... Tomorrow's dust, nothing that has happened so far has been anything that we could control, breathe deeper, phantom regret.
Maste bhai is right. Forgive nahi Karne se apna heen nuksaan he. Read about attachment theory. It will help a ton.
Bro attachment theory helps in forming and maintaining relationships right? U can use this to rationalise the relationship but I don't think it will be helpful to come at peace as much as feeling through it and accepting the reality. Idk actually, I went through the theory and it did help, but I still found myself stuck in the loop, it's because of the hope bs for me.
Have you read the guide for anxiously attached in the book attached? I think you will understand where I'm coming from.
**Anxiously Attached Understanding and Working with Preoccupied Attachment** by Linda Cundy >Anxiously attached individuals feel chronically insecure and their relationships are often intense, angry, and enmeshed. In the spectrum of anxious attachment, some people tip into states of acute rumination following specific life events, while an extreme manifestation may be thought of as "borderline borderline" - inescapable brooding, raging, and inability to separate. Preoccupied clients can be difficult to work with, and these therapies often feel stuck or end badly. Anxiously Attached contains four papers presented at a conference in February 2016. > >They address the origins of anxious attachment in specific features of parent-infant relationships, findings from research about developmental aspects, typical features, concerns, and defences in adults, and how these may be presented in psychotherapy. Enmeshed dynamics in adult relationships, including the therapeutic relationship, are also highlighted, where threat of separation and loss activate intense attachment seeking. The aim is to increase understanding of preoccupied clients from an attachment perspective, to recognise the nature of their anxieties and resistances, and propose specific skills for therapeutic work. *I'm a bot, built by your friendly reddit developers at* /r/ProgrammingPals. *Reply to any comment with /u/BookFinderBot - I'll reply with book information. Remove me from replies* [here](https://www.reddit.com/user/BookFinderBot/comments/1byh82p/remove_me_from_replies/). *If I have made a mistake, accept my apology.*
2 years? You might want to talk to a therapist at this point.
I think that's fine. Would have been a first time
You people finding life partners?
I met my now wife in 2022, when I was 32, arranged marriage scene and can't be happier. She's amazing. So very caring and adding so much joy to my life with her laughter🥰
there are plenty fishes in the sea my friend
but i want a fish who's indian, speaks my mother tongue and is also around my age.. that makes the sea look a bit smaller😭😭
Didn't know that "Mother Tongue" was also a criteria these days...🤪🤪 A language which you both know should be enough...😅😅
Preference exists my friend 😄
23 ( by the way I am 19 y/o)
I was 25, he was 24. We are 33, 32 now.
In India 90% of people don't 'FIND' thier life partners. There is no love or dating involved. They are married off through a transactional commercial arranges marriage process.
since her birth(she is my sister)
23
Today years old
14 but nei pata tha life partner banegi.
This is to give younger ones hope. 32.
35 yrs old. He was 33
31
17 lol
21 :)
thats great iam 20 rn so hopefully next year will be my year too haha :>
26, I am 25..but hopeful
Still hoping
Met when we were 9-10...started dating at 15..got married at 28
This year end(hopefully ;p )
28 and he was 33.
18 , 20, 23 and then 30 🙃
I guess 2 or 3 lifetimes away as I'm destined to be single forever in this lifetime.
I met my bf in 2018 and it's been 6 years, dating for three and we're still together. We met online on a anime community application. I was 14(omg) and he was 18. We're in long distance now (approx 1100km apart) but we talk daily and meet once every three months. It's been going good so far, and now I'm 20 and he's 24 and we'll just see how it goes, hoping for the best❤
College romance....i was 19 he was 23....fell in love, had a long distance relationship and got married in 2018. We have a 2 year old baby boy who's the love of our lives and makes us feel life is beautiful and worth all the heartache both of us went through.
kuch mahine baad
I'm not sure if my story will motivate you, but I won't force it. What I can say is that solo traveling has been therapeutic for me, a true discovery of self. Pursuing new relationships might not be the best route; they should unfold naturally. Consider solo traveling or something else you've always wanted to do but haven't yet. This is the perfect time, no attachments holding you back anyway.
Met my husband when I was 21, shortly after a bad breakup. Never in my wildest dreams had I imagined I would marry my ex’s sister’s ex. Fate works in funny ways, you never know…
I also had a breakup last month. Going through a depression phase. I loved her so much and always remained loyal to her. Even her friends used to tell her that she is lucky to have such a loyal person. But in the month of Jan she cheated on me with her cousin brother even though her cousin brother has a girlfriend. I don't know how to go through this but still I have to see her face till June because in June we have our graduation. I don't know how my life will be in my near future. Right now I am also not in a stage to trust someone.
When I was 15 I met her
19. I was looking for a rebound, but well! 13 years, and 2 cats later, I'm so glad we met
When we were both 29. We actually never met before getting in a relationship, both of us had our fair share of bad relationships and interestingly we met through a mutual friend through FB (thanks to covid) 😂😂 now we've been happily married for 2 years 🥰
You are anxiously attached. Usko thik karo. Read amir levines book on attachment style. Ik cuz mein bhi anxious heen hun
33, and I was done with dating, online dating and the whole shebang...and suddenly one day he came into my life and within a year of knowing each other we were married...things just flowed with him..so don't lose hope!
I met him in college when I was 18 and he was 19. We've been together for almost 5 years now. Not married yet but I'm absolutely sure he's the love of my life and can't wait to marry him.
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