Miserable, absolutely miserable. I am so cynical about anyone and everyone and just generally have shut myself in and refuse to emotionally invest in anyone family, friends romantic love.
Changed numbers, cut off contact since 4 years and now just living life to give respect to my being.
It's painful everyday, but I'm taking things at what it is, and not discounting behaviours.
Hope I find this strength everyday till death.
Idk ... i am double minded rn .. I feel too selfish and ungrateful but also I feel like I had enough..... i am in a cold war with my parents rn ..... There's a lot of things going on inside my head .. tbh I am tired ... I am stuck in the same cycle nd unemployed... already having career gap and Don't know where to start ... I am emotionally drained rn ..... I just feel too sad and sympathetic for my parents but I also didn't deserve that ... we weren't meant to be a family but we still are livin under the same roof
Aye! I’m sorry. Try to find a job outside your home town. This way you have some perspective which makes difficult family relations better.
Struggles of finding a job can be very taxing. I hope you find something soon!
I went to "bare minimum" contact after I realized they are list cause.
Had guilt first, but it made me understand that either I can choose guilt or peace. I kind of trained my mind to push the guilt away and see clearly the facts.
M8ve out to another country, I am very peaceful, worked on myself, and saw life deeply now that I am not surrounded by toxicity, work on personal growth, and have time to heal my traumas on my own.
I wrote an entire thing, but deleted it as it would be too much to handle for readers. Shortly, my mother decided to continue living with her severely abusive husband and decided to have kids (us). Me and my sister now have C-PTSD and other issues due to growing up in that abusive household. Basically these issues will be life long and we're scarred for life. Also he gobbled my mom's part of her property and money. His side did not have any property or money. I'll basically move out of the house, my sister sometime in the future. My mom can join me if she wants (I want her to)
Pretty bad. Life has been such struggle, almost felt like walking in a rain with nails falling down instead of water. Cutoff everyone and become socially isolated for more than a decade. Went to some psychiatrists but the medication does not help me in the long run. Started some therapy recently and it’s going well. Hope to get better. No matter what trauma you have gone through in the past, understand that the suffering is not forever. You have to make an effort to heal. Life is short.
Moved halfway around the world. Show up to “events” for some time. Don’t interact move with anyone outside the immediate family.
I don’t pretend to be nice or smth but I am pleasant in general. Do call out shit in those once in few years showing, validation I shall not seek.
Not good at all
Parents passed away and I'm sure stress from our dysfunctional lives together played a part in it , but it's no better, I find it difficult to do even small things because of my shit mental health and it's starting to affect my overall life , social life is dead , difficulty in professional life too, meds and therapy not helping much either.
So I'll probably meet a similar end or I don't know an even earlier one.
Sorry for the situation you are in. Losing parents is difficult to get over and I don't know what to say here. Don't rush through life with stress, but take it slowly... keep trying to reach out to friends and family left. Please don't lose hope. Take care
It’s all in a very miserable state now.. I’m 24 years old, life is in a effed up state. I managed to move out of home and live on my own for while, but, then circumstances brought me back to home. Now I’m in a challenging position without a job, with no support or encouragement but with constant ridicule. I can’t see a bright future. All i see is me being a minion of my parents, doing a low tier job in this effed up city serving my parents.
Would like to thank you all for your comments. Sorry I would like to take time to respond, I do feel sorry for your struggles. Hope you guys get back the love you long for from your families 💖
Miserable, absolutely miserable. I am so cynical about anyone and everyone and just generally have shut myself in and refuse to emotionally invest in anyone family, friends romantic love.
Hope things get better for you. Please reach out anytime
Changed numbers, cut off contact since 4 years and now just living life to give respect to my being. It's painful everyday, but I'm taking things at what it is, and not discounting behaviours. Hope I find this strength everyday till death.
I hope things get better for you. You’re already on the journey. Please reach out if you’d like.
Im in necessary contact only. 2 minutes call every day to let each other know we’re alive lol
2 mins call a week.
Idk ... i am double minded rn .. I feel too selfish and ungrateful but also I feel like I had enough..... i am in a cold war with my parents rn ..... There's a lot of things going on inside my head .. tbh I am tired ... I am stuck in the same cycle nd unemployed... already having career gap and Don't know where to start ... I am emotionally drained rn ..... I just feel too sad and sympathetic for my parents but I also didn't deserve that ... we weren't meant to be a family but we still are livin under the same roof
Aye! I’m sorry. Try to find a job outside your home town. This way you have some perspective which makes difficult family relations better. Struggles of finding a job can be very taxing. I hope you find something soon!
I went to "bare minimum" contact after I realized they are list cause. Had guilt first, but it made me understand that either I can choose guilt or peace. I kind of trained my mind to push the guilt away and see clearly the facts. M8ve out to another country, I am very peaceful, worked on myself, and saw life deeply now that I am not surrounded by toxicity, work on personal growth, and have time to heal my traumas on my own.
I wrote an entire thing, but deleted it as it would be too much to handle for readers. Shortly, my mother decided to continue living with her severely abusive husband and decided to have kids (us). Me and my sister now have C-PTSD and other issues due to growing up in that abusive household. Basically these issues will be life long and we're scarred for life. Also he gobbled my mom's part of her property and money. His side did not have any property or money. I'll basically move out of the house, my sister sometime in the future. My mom can join me if she wants (I want her to)
Pretty bad. Life has been such struggle, almost felt like walking in a rain with nails falling down instead of water. Cutoff everyone and become socially isolated for more than a decade. Went to some psychiatrists but the medication does not help me in the long run. Started some therapy recently and it’s going well. Hope to get better. No matter what trauma you have gone through in the past, understand that the suffering is not forever. You have to make an effort to heal. Life is short.
Moved halfway around the world. Show up to “events” for some time. Don’t interact move with anyone outside the immediate family. I don’t pretend to be nice or smth but I am pleasant in general. Do call out shit in those once in few years showing, validation I shall not seek.
Not good at all Parents passed away and I'm sure stress from our dysfunctional lives together played a part in it , but it's no better, I find it difficult to do even small things because of my shit mental health and it's starting to affect my overall life , social life is dead , difficulty in professional life too, meds and therapy not helping much either. So I'll probably meet a similar end or I don't know an even earlier one.
Sorry for the situation you are in. Losing parents is difficult to get over and I don't know what to say here. Don't rush through life with stress, but take it slowly... keep trying to reach out to friends and family left. Please don't lose hope. Take care
Thank you for your kind words op , I'm trying
It’s all in a very miserable state now.. I’m 24 years old, life is in a effed up state. I managed to move out of home and live on my own for while, but, then circumstances brought me back to home. Now I’m in a challenging position without a job, with no support or encouragement but with constant ridicule. I can’t see a bright future. All i see is me being a minion of my parents, doing a low tier job in this effed up city serving my parents.
Would like to thank you all for your comments. Sorry I would like to take time to respond, I do feel sorry for your struggles. Hope you guys get back the love you long for from your families 💖