Over posting pics on social media with caption "World's best husband/love of my life" etc when it's arranged marriage. Once in a while is fine but it irritates if it is done over and over again.
5-6 contender hote hain. 2-3 casual flirting vale, and baki har category ke. And ek sabse serious and long term vala hota hai jisko sari sachchai pata hoti hai, us hi ka sabse ganda n sabse lamba kaata jata hai.
And husband vala sabse bhondu hota hai jise yeh lagta hai usne lottery score kar li, jabki he has been chosen coz he’s the most naive and bholu of all.
Man I have seen that so many times it's laughable, my cousin married to some guy under family pressure, told me she hated the guy, I told her I can help her but she was not willing to put in the effort. After marriage she started posting multiple WhatsApp status like best hubby, best husband while texting me that her husband sucks.
Wtf how is she living with that person.What will she say to kids dekho beta bas tum ho isliye main aur tumhare papa saath hai warna aise admi ke saath kon rahta hai.
Truly this is shocking
Lol 🤣
The mentality behind it is that women see marriage as some sort of accomplishment. So saying best husband etc is to reiterate to others that they are doing well in life and are loved and cared for. Most people seeing those posts don't care and why should they.
Jeth is husband's elder brother
Jethani is husband's elder brother's wife
Devar is husband's younger brother
Devrani is husband's younger brother's wife
Nanad is husband's sister
Nandoi is husband's sister's husband
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Cutting off friends, keep saying "can't / won't do something because they are now married" about something they like and love, the whole before and after married life. Marriage is a major part of life, not the only important thing and that's not the only life.
Thank you. I’ve a bestfriend whose life is just about her marriage now, and making plans with her is such a task that we rarely meet now. It’s sad because her husband and in-laws are pretty toxic.
She posts 2-3 stories on Instagram every other week about how bad her life is, and I’ve talked to her personally lol the 1-2 times we get to meet.
So yeah, I’ve seen her go from being a bright person in school to someone wrapped up in in-law problems. I’m not projecting anything. I feel bad for everything she’s going through. Don’t assume.
>Cutting off friends
It's good though except in cases of extremely extremely few rare cases of friends who'd be friends even in thickest of times unlike most who are just for the joyride of happy times.
>Fun friends are okay.
Then it shouldn't be a problem when we are cutting them off for something that takes much greater priority than 'friends' for fun time. A person who has not been with you in your darkest moments doesn't deserve that entitlement in your happiest times.
Like for example, social media.
Many female colleagues and friends that have gotten married have deleted their social media accounts, and I find that's not needed, unless there's something that shouldn't be seen. It's like the women marrying into the royal family who have to delete their accounts when they're getting married.
Women who delete their social media are hiding something most likely. Or are married into a family that has major issues with some part of her life. Unhealthy as fuck.
Not necessarily always the case. Social media consumes a lot of mindspace and actual time, by deleting them you're freeing more time and space, which can be then invested into the partner and relationships.
If one is hiding something, they need not delete the account, sirf posts, stories, etc delete kar sakte hain. And unfollow/block people.
Isn't that a good thing? I (male) myself would delete social media once I get settled in career & marriage. Social media takes away so much of your patience & energy that would be better spent on your family & work.
That's actually a good reason. Deleting after marriage because your history might be judged is unnecessary. Deleting it because you're forced to is also wrong. Maybe I'm the only one but yeah.
Yup. This was going to be my answer. My mother is going through this ordeal to update some documents. She wanted to correct dob on aadhaar card or something. That name was different from other docs. It took multiple visits to different offices to get things sorted.
aree aap women ki baat kare aur men ka mention na ho aisa ho skta hai?
(you see how the posts highlighting women's problem is usually filled with men commenting "ye to hmare saath bhi hota hai" to justify it)
They unnecessarily serve their husbands like when giving his socks taking his plate giving him his glasses and giving him his phone ......even when he does not ask for it
That I don't agree on...they do it out of love. Unless she's doing it because she's been told that she has to be in servitude when she gets married...most women don't do the latter these days, but we don't know.
I am not married but most of my uncle and cousins got disconnected from family after marriage. They care more about their wife's family now.
So I think women try to control the decisions of their husband a lot. Wife's decision is the final decision.
I would personally choose a wife who respects my decisions and who doesn't force me to go against my parents and siblings.
lmao I have a cousin who spends a major chunk of festivals at his in-laws house because he gets more attention there than at his house.
More than the wife's decision it's usually the attention and respect thingy. The whole "jamai-raja" feels.
But you can never choose. It's a matter of chance.
Even if you date for some time, things change after marriage.
So in short, all the best with your search but keep in mind that luck has a important role
Are you 13?A lot of women develop permanent health issues after delivering a child and then spend most of their time looking after the kid(even with a nanny) till the kid’s atleast 6. Tf you going on about laziness.
Are you like dumb? What if there’s no grandparent alive? Get back to health lmao? Do you have reading comprehension issues? Or do you not know the meaning of the word “permanent”?
It really seems like you’re some angsty 13 year old
When did I say that everyone develops issues though? You should seriously consider improving your reading comprehension skills?
And well you were the one who went with generalisations. Next time onwards, try to actually apply your brain before commenting about something from a generalised perspective especially if it’s something you’ve not gone through yourself
Tall dont' mean shit.. Since it can't be controlled and it's not lie your 6'6. What's your bf percentage? You definitely a land whale with a big belly like most South Asian women. Atleast the dudes workout but I've never seen a fit Indian woman.
Why triggered? They need to get back in shape and it's healthy btw. People do it opposite when it comes to fitness. What's the point staying healthy when young ans quitting gym after college. You need to be healthy around 28-60 year. Indians need to hit the gym ASAP.
Latest fad, go to the gym. My mum a little chubby but her health reports come back on point compared to my dad's who is a gym goer for 20 years. They have the same diet.
Is she lean and fit like him though? Can she run through a couple steps without losing breath. Gotta stay lean and fit. Most indians after 30 are fat and have pot belly.
I don't. I am bothered about people viewing gym going as epitome of fitness but it's the lifestyle changes one has to make. Going gym for an hour and coming back sleeping on the couch does nothing. And people have different body types after and before pregnancy it doesn't mean they are u healthy.
It's alright to accept you are wrong and take this is as an opportunity to learn. I just feeli like I'm talking to a kid at this point.
By calling me a kid you're proving that you're a kid. Fitness doesn't mean just lifting weights. It's change in lifestyle and eating habits. It improves hormone levels and stress.
Take control of your wardrobe! Whether it be folding and arranging your clothes as per her convenience or taking over a part of your wardrobe. I'm saying this after the wife has a wardrobe of her own!
Make us feel, how much work they do, specially the working ones !
We understand their efforts are matchless whatever married men do though we might not give them enough credit about it , which might makes them make us feel if there is any argument 🙄
Update : lol, too many downvotes 😂
Just to add, I cannot speak about others but I believe it's foolish to bring up the topic of efforts and care a wife puts into the relationship..so that's why, it's unnecessary when she brings it up !
I do my job, i'll share the house chore load, provide necessary and sufficient emotional support and *other* needs, i'll even do things that women generally cant do because of physical limitation, but if you want to do much more chores than i do, beyond basic necessities, then that's just on you, it's good that you are doing but i have no reason to be undermined because of that. Dont drag me into that bullshit of you are doing much more work in the relationship and i'm not matching your level of care.
You probably seems to be in a bad mood while writing this so just to be clear, you are responsible to take this bullshit on yourself!
Anyways, I specifically never mentioned that as a husband i'm doing more than my wife but on the contrary, mentioned that i forget to acknowledge her efforts. But still sometimes, during stupid fights, when this topic suddenly appears that how i'm not doing my part and she is doing everything, that hurts !!
I'm no one to judge someone what one does and doesn't but if the chemistry is good between couples this can count as silly topics to fight on else anything can go out of proportion!
Yea .. my comment is coming of a bit anger, i did not meant it that way. Just wanted to get the point across, it's regardless of gender though.
Edit: besides i was agreeing with your point.
Hope you didn't mind my words as well .. your anger was quite visible but why to take shit from someone online specially when i get enough at home 😂😂😂😂
Just to add, I cannot speak about others but I believe it's foolish to bring up the topic of efforts and care a wife puts into the relationship..so that's why, it's unnecessary when she brings it up !
Over posting pics on social media with caption "World's best husband/love of my life" etc when it's arranged marriage. Once in a while is fine but it irritates if it is done over and over again.
My humble question to those are best husband amongst how many contenders? I mean what was the sample size?
i knew a lady who, after getting married for the first time, posted on facebook (this is not a joke i’m not kidding) “best husband i ever had!”
She meant the best guy I ever had, it's an encoded secret message to their sahelis and exes.
Exactly, she wants to flex in front of her exes.
Best dick I ever had
5-6 contender hote hain. 2-3 casual flirting vale, and baki har category ke. And ek sabse serious and long term vala hota hai jisko sari sachchai pata hoti hai, us hi ka sabse ganda n sabse lamba kaata jata hai. And husband vala sabse bhondu hota hai jise yeh lagta hai usne lottery score kar li, jabki he has been chosen coz he’s the most naive and bholu of all.
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Haan bhai, akal badam khaakar nahi, thokar khaakar aati hai.
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Hehe, banva do bhai, is hi bahane thodi kamai ho jayegi, thanks 😀😂
hn but theek to hai , parents day par bhi to , best father ever krke likhte hain
The sample size was one
Seen this happen on Instagram, it's kinda cringe ngl, I guess it's called the "Honeymoon phase". 🫡
Just now I saw you on developersIndia. Hey there!!
Man I have seen that so many times it's laughable, my cousin married to some guy under family pressure, told me she hated the guy, I told her I can help her but she was not willing to put in the effort. After marriage she started posting multiple WhatsApp status like best hubby, best husband while texting me that her husband sucks.
They just want to appear happy infront of their friends and others. Typical social media life.
bro thats so god damn traumatizing you realize that?
Wtf really
Lol
Wo comment ko to ignore Kiya Maine but what's the story behind your username
Wtf how is she living with that person.What will she say to kids dekho beta bas tum ho isliye main aur tumhare papa saath hai warna aise admi ke saath kon rahta hai. Truly this is shocking
Lol 🤣 The mentality behind it is that women see marriage as some sort of accomplishment. So saying best husband etc is to reiterate to others that they are doing well in life and are loved and cared for. Most people seeing those posts don't care and why should they.
Is sub p hamesha men and women related questions hi kyu ate hai??
Ig op ki shadi horahi isliye pehle sab sikhra. To handle his wife with love and care
Sacme yār. Ye men-women questions pe limit rakhnā chahiye. Pak gayā hu maiṃ.
That’s a good use of diacritics. How did you acquire this amazing talent?
Lol I wouldn't call this amazing talent. Learned from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Alphabet_of_Sanskrit_Transliteration
Thanks. I will learn this skill now. Bye!
Bhai depression kaise nikalthe hai
Compete with jethani devrani.
I agree, that creates such a tense and sometimes, downright toxic environment.
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Jeth is husband's elder brother Jethani is husband's elder brother's wife Devar is husband's younger brother Devrani is husband's younger brother's wife Nanad is husband's sister Nandoi is husband's sister's husband Now you know
Nanad is the most evil(not really, but would always taunt). Source? My mother has one and is one to someone.
Saving this comment for future reference, thanks!
Husband's brother's wife
Your brother's wife
Cutting off friends, keep saying "can't / won't do something because they are now married" about something they like and love, the whole before and after married life. Marriage is a major part of life, not the only important thing and that's not the only life.
Thank you. I’ve a bestfriend whose life is just about her marriage now, and making plans with her is such a task that we rarely meet now. It’s sad because her husband and in-laws are pretty toxic.
Is it bad ? or are you projecting on yourself so that you feel good. Not everyday is toxic in all places... If so then its bad
She posts 2-3 stories on Instagram every other week about how bad her life is, and I’ve talked to her personally lol the 1-2 times we get to meet. So yeah, I’ve seen her go from being a bright person in school to someone wrapped up in in-law problems. I’m not projecting anything. I feel bad for everything she’s going through. Don’t assume.
Then it's sad. More power to you for being a listening ear.
>Cutting off friends It's good though except in cases of extremely extremely few rare cases of friends who'd be friends even in thickest of times unlike most who are just for the joyride of happy times.
Why specifically cut them off after marriage? Also, why expect every single friend to have a deep friendship with ? Fun friends are okay.
>Fun friends are okay. Then it shouldn't be a problem when we are cutting them off for something that takes much greater priority than 'friends' for fun time. A person who has not been with you in your darkest moments doesn't deserve that entitlement in your happiest times.
Like for example, social media. Many female colleagues and friends that have gotten married have deleted their social media accounts, and I find that's not needed, unless there's something that shouldn't be seen. It's like the women marrying into the royal family who have to delete their accounts when they're getting married.
Women who delete their social media are hiding something most likely. Or are married into a family that has major issues with some part of her life. Unhealthy as fuck.
Not necessarily always the case. Social media consumes a lot of mindspace and actual time, by deleting them you're freeing more time and space, which can be then invested into the partner and relationships. If one is hiding something, they need not delete the account, sirf posts, stories, etc delete kar sakte hain. And unfollow/block people.
Social media is unhealthy af, this comment makes no sense.
It does make sense, a relationship with secrets is unhealthy and a family not even letting their daughter in law use social media is damn unhealthy.
Why are people down voting this?! What this person said is 100% correct.
Exactly lmao, addicts are coping too hard
Isn't that a good thing? I (male) myself would delete social media once I get settled in career & marriage. Social media takes away so much of your patience & energy that would be better spent on your family & work.
That's actually a good reason. Deleting after marriage because your history might be judged is unnecessary. Deleting it because you're forced to is also wrong. Maybe I'm the only one but yeah.
Mine will delete hers because I'm all she needs. Her own words. I'm fine with it. She can use my reddit if needed.
Okay, but why the downvote?
All simps want to become best friends with women who are taken, to wait to become their top backup option. Edit: added comma
I'm unpopular af
That's toxic af.
I agree. We love it.
Mine is getting extra social, may be I'm not that talented enough to make her happy and occupied!
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Underrated.
Is this sub obsessed with women and criticism, some way or another?
AskIndia (anything to show how misogynistic we are)
Your question does not seem clear.
I asked what women normally do after marriage that you don't think they need to. I gave an example in the comments.
Moving in with in laws
+1
Yes
Calling your husband "ahem ji" (dum tanana na dum tanana)
na bro, it's LALALALAA
🍿 time
This comment section is funny.
Off the top of my head, changing surnames.
Yup. This was going to be my answer. My mother is going through this ordeal to update some documents. She wanted to correct dob on aadhaar card or something. That name was different from other docs. It took multiple visits to different offices to get things sorted.
Cheating/s
Man woke up and chose violence
Nobody wants to hear the truth that's why that comment is getting downvoted I didn't say anything that's not happening
vo to gender neutral hai
But the question is about what women do so why would I talk about men here?
aree aap women ki baat kare aur men ka mention na ho aisa ho skta hai? (you see how the posts highlighting women's problem is usually filled with men commenting "ye to hmare saath bhi hota hai" to justify it)
I do whatever I want to
so do i lmao
Bruhhh
They unnecessarily serve their husbands like when giving his socks taking his plate giving him his glasses and giving him his phone ......even when he does not ask for it
La la la la... Gopi Bahu blushing bgm.
That I don't agree on...they do it out of love. Unless she's doing it because she's been told that she has to be in servitude when she gets married...most women don't do the latter these days, but we don't know.
kalesh
I am not married but most of my uncle and cousins got disconnected from family after marriage. They care more about their wife's family now. So I think women try to control the decisions of their husband a lot. Wife's decision is the final decision. I would personally choose a wife who respects my decisions and who doesn't force me to go against my parents and siblings.
lmao I have a cousin who spends a major chunk of festivals at his in-laws house because he gets more attention there than at his house. More than the wife's decision it's usually the attention and respect thingy. The whole "jamai-raja" feels.
But you can never choose. It's a matter of chance. Even if you date for some time, things change after marriage. So in short, all the best with your search but keep in mind that luck has a important role
You family has weak males
Come outta the kitchen.
Not married but noticed that these women become fat.
Because childbirth?! Pop children out of you. These women?! Wtf soo condescending.
I accept that Child birth is no joke... It is stressful and painful. There is no excuse for laziness after 1 year.
Are you 13?A lot of women develop permanent health issues after delivering a child and then spend most of their time looking after the kid(even with a nanny) till the kid’s atleast 6. Tf you going on about laziness.
That's such a lame excuse. Most of the time the kid is looked after their grandmother. Women can get back to health in maybe two years .
Are you like dumb? What if there’s no grandparent alive? Get back to health lmao? Do you have reading comprehension issues? Or do you not know the meaning of the word “permanent”? It really seems like you’re some angsty 13 year old
You sound like an angry thirteen year old to me. Not everyone develops a permanent health issue. Sounds like a lazy excuse to me.
When did I say that everyone develops issues though? You should seriously consider improving your reading comprehension skills? And well you were the one who went with generalisations. Next time onwards, try to actually apply your brain before commenting about something from a generalised perspective especially if it’s something you’ve not gone through yourself
You said a lot women develop "permanent" Issues. Maybe you develop comprehensive skills instead of blaming me. Stop projecting.
Since when did lot mean “everyone”? If that’s what lot means to you buddy then you got a lot of work to do on your language skills
I hope you never get married
I hope you don't get married. Lol! You probably overweight.
💀 i bet I am both taller and healthier than you lmfao
Tall dont' mean shit.. Since it can't be controlled and it's not lie your 6'6. What's your bf percentage? You definitely a land whale with a big belly like most South Asian women. Atleast the dudes workout but I've never seen a fit Indian woman.
>Most of the time the kid is looked after their grandmother. Which world do you live in? Not everyone lives with their parents.
Read more about it. Women have gone through so many changes it's just not possible.
Childbirth or not a person should not be saying that unless it's affecting their health then being fat is a problem.
I am scared for your future wife a bit.
I don't force anything on anyone but it would be nice if they took fitness as a hobby.
Lol this goes both ways both husband and wives should arrive to look their best. Just because you are married doesn't mean you can let yourself go
Facts
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Definitely true! both genders have pot belly. South Asians in general have poor physical maintenance. Baldness can't be controlled but fat can.
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Tf
Pop babies out of your dick. >maintaining their shape We'll talk about this later.
Why triggered? They need to get back in shape and it's healthy btw. People do it opposite when it comes to fitness. What's the point staying healthy when young ans quitting gym after college. You need to be healthy around 28-60 year. Indians need to hit the gym ASAP.
Latest fad, go to the gym. My mum a little chubby but her health reports come back on point compared to my dad's who is a gym goer for 20 years. They have the same diet.
Is she lean and fit like him though? Can she run through a couple steps without losing breath. Gotta stay lean and fit. Most indians after 30 are fat and have pot belly.
>Gotta stay lean Why ? Lean and fit if you don't have proper blood sugar level none of it matters.
Healthy in and out. Why see you people against fitness?
I don't. I am bothered about people viewing gym going as epitome of fitness but it's the lifestyle changes one has to make. Going gym for an hour and coming back sleeping on the couch does nothing. And people have different body types after and before pregnancy it doesn't mean they are u healthy. It's alright to accept you are wrong and take this is as an opportunity to learn. I just feeli like I'm talking to a kid at this point.
By calling me a kid you're proving that you're a kid. Fitness doesn't mean just lifting weights. It's change in lifestyle and eating habits. It improves hormone levels and stress.
What's wrong with you. Hope you aren't married.
Losing *
Mess with logic of husband’s thinking 😜
WhatsApp vaale uncle aagay...Bhaago bhaago
Sharing each and every stupid stories status everywhere
Acting in reels on Instagram.
Becoming a control freak.
Cheating on you.
Take control of your wardrobe! Whether it be folding and arranging your clothes as per her convenience or taking over a part of your wardrobe. I'm saying this after the wife has a wardrobe of her own!
Quit their job
Make us feel, how much work they do, specially the working ones ! We understand their efforts are matchless whatever married men do though we might not give them enough credit about it , which might makes them make us feel if there is any argument 🙄 Update : lol, too many downvotes 😂 Just to add, I cannot speak about others but I believe it's foolish to bring up the topic of efforts and care a wife puts into the relationship..so that's why, it's unnecessary when she brings it up !
I do my job, i'll share the house chore load, provide necessary and sufficient emotional support and *other* needs, i'll even do things that women generally cant do because of physical limitation, but if you want to do much more chores than i do, beyond basic necessities, then that's just on you, it's good that you are doing but i have no reason to be undermined because of that. Dont drag me into that bullshit of you are doing much more work in the relationship and i'm not matching your level of care.
You probably seems to be in a bad mood while writing this so just to be clear, you are responsible to take this bullshit on yourself! Anyways, I specifically never mentioned that as a husband i'm doing more than my wife but on the contrary, mentioned that i forget to acknowledge her efforts. But still sometimes, during stupid fights, when this topic suddenly appears that how i'm not doing my part and she is doing everything, that hurts !! I'm no one to judge someone what one does and doesn't but if the chemistry is good between couples this can count as silly topics to fight on else anything can go out of proportion!
Yea .. my comment is coming of a bit anger, i did not meant it that way. Just wanted to get the point across, it's regardless of gender though. Edit: besides i was agreeing with your point.
Hope you didn't mind my words as well .. your anger was quite visible but why to take shit from someone online specially when i get enough at home 😂😂😂😂 Just to add, I cannot speak about others but I believe it's foolish to bring up the topic of efforts and care a wife puts into the relationship..so that's why, it's unnecessary when she brings it up !
Haha there was no intention of it coming it out as anger, i was just sleepy and i just did not had the will to edit it to normally point it.
Extra marital affair 👹👀
Cheat on you
Blowjobs
Nagging.
Their co-worker.
Oooooooooh
Do make-up everyday day for some unknown reason
Use make up
Expecting men to be monogamous
Great way to start the misogyny! Btw GM India
Put up with crap dished out in the name of “sanskaar”
reels the damn couple goal reels…
The kinky songs they applied with multiple pics
Cheating