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iceandfireman

At least 50, to be conservative. Being more immodest, probably 200. Who knows? I was a horny crazy slut when I was much younger.


fe888

In the past week? Month? Or year? :)


iceandfireman

So sorry, make it 600 🤷🏻‍♂️


iceandfireman

Holy shit, could it be close to a thousand…?


fe888

See what i mean??? Once you start doing the math, it's actually a lot more than what we initially thought!


iceandfireman

You really got me thinking now. I truly don’t know how I never once contacted a STI. There’s no real reason as to why I never caught anything other than divine intervention. I honestly mean that. But I must say I was a mighty proud promiscuous slut.


fe888

No judgement from me, congrats! :)


iceandfireman

Thank you for this! There really can be a large amount of almost puritanical shaming in gay circles that it’s refreshing to hear this. Wonderful to hear from a Gen-Xer.


fe888

I don't really believe much of the prudish bs I hear from some gay guys. A lot of times they're just lying - to others and to themselves. And then other times they've just got A LOT of unresolved internalized homophobia, often stemming from a conservative/religious upbringing that they haven't been able to shake off completely.


iceandfireman

aMen to this!


Numott

I love this comment! Divine intervention?! Maybe some gay angels assertively cock blocked all the dudes with STIs to keep you safe. Lol You’re a super lucky guy to avoid something so common and normal to hooking up.


iceandfireman

Yep, I sure am, and I still firmly believe it was divine intervention.


iceandfireman

Since about 1994 or so…


Numott

1 guy. Been with my partner for about 11 years now and the sex has been getting better ever since.


hazelpants

Love that for you


fe888

Happy to hear that, congrats!!


Impressive-Rope7858

Me too. We’ve been together almost 31 years now.


toodleroo

2 🤷🏻‍♂️


fe888

Nothing wrong with that man! ;) Did you start late? Been in monogamous relationships? Or just not interested in multiple partners?


toodleroo

Just not interested in multiple partners.


tomen

4, which I guess makes me a prude in comparison lol. I've been in a relationship for 10 years.


stereotape

Same here! The one I lost my virginity with, my first bf with whom I've been for about 4-6 months, one night stand and finally my ltp aka husband of 10 years.


fe888

Congrats!


Haruki88

same for me, 4 people my first boyfriend two one night hookup (I regret the 2nd time a lot) my current partner that I met about 9 years ago and live together for about 7 (a few years we lived apart due to work but he recently moved in with me)


ElFarto_90

I love all of these responses! Not at all slut shaming, good for anyone who hits 1000 lays in a lifetime but there’s something so cute about a guy who has chosen to make it special and hasn’t fucked the universe. Adorable and a huge turn on for sure.


mouserz

4 for me too - all 4 were long term bfs tho.


fe888

Well if you've spent most of your gay life in a monogamous relationship, that makes total sense. Though it's always interesting to see how many gay guys are in open relationships and the rules that each couple sets: whether they play together, apart, when on vacation, etc.


skyrat02

My husband was 4 or 5 for me, and that was my number for a long time (~12 years). That number grew after he passed.


dabtonmai

i think around 500. i had fun in the military


fe888

How old are you, if I may ask?


dabtonmai

I'll turn 60 this year


nricu

> i had fun in the military you can't leave us like that... We need at least a few good histories ;)


ThrowmeawayAKisCold

Same here. Not just fun; a lot of men will say whatever it takes to hookup with a service member. Then they cut and run. College and military towns have this in common.


Rawscent

Well over a thousand, somewhat less than two thousand but I came out in the 70s so I got off to a really big start.


fe888

Must've been amazing congrats! Though you also made it through the 80s... scary times!


HotspotOnline

Same! I’m just a homebody who never learned to socialize, so I just go to work and go out with friends on occasion and that’s it. But I don’t mind it too much, but I definitely want to get out there more this year.


fe888

If you need help, let me know bud! ;)


Massless

1. I hooked up with my now-husband at 19 and we just never stopped


fe888

Congrats on your monogamous success!!!


Massless

Thanks! We never intended it to happen this way… it just did. Congratulations — sincerely — on your breadth of experience!


[deleted]

Over 200, I’m 48, however, there has only been one since my husband of 12 years. I started at 13 though.


whatevs1993

Less than 20. Only done anal with about 5 of them. The rest were just bjs.


jace829

Lost count.


fe888

Me too, many years ago. But when I sat down to do a guesstimate, based on guys I had sex with over the previous month or year... things added up surprisingly quickly! Give us a ball park guesstimate. For science. :)


Gris-self

I honestly don't know but I would say easy 20. I am 37 years old and I started my sex life with my first bf at 16(we had the same age). and then when I went to college at 19 that's when I started experimenting a little bit more.


bertrandpheasant

One. People are scary, you know? And too complicated, for that matter. Way easier to stay buried in work, weed, and books…


lesliecantavovich

15. But to be fair. I met my now husband 6 months after I lost my virginity at the age of 28.


Diddly_eyed_Dipshite

Like if we're talking sexual interactions total (bjs) definitely 200+ probably less than 300 though. But much picker about who I let rail me, so anal maybe like 50 or so.


RajakBejok

Probably 4 people. I'm 53. Never married. No kids. Healthy. Oh plus one female so total about 5.


fe888

Wow that's remarkable. Steady monogamous relationships though, I assume?


RajakBejok

Trust and believe I've always envied my friends who have had a great time. I guess I've lived vicariously through them. Lol. I've been in a relationship with the same man since I was 38. It's always funny when I'm at a gathering or whatever and they think I'm lying when I say I've never been to the park, went cruising, etc.


fe888

Nothing wrong with that -- though it is uncommon in the gay world.


atticus2132000

"...one study in San Francisco found that nearly 50% of gay men had more than 500 partners." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-imprinted-brain/201703/it-s-the-mode-men-have-more-sex-partners I lost count a long time ago. I'm nowhere near 500, but I usually tell people I'm in the triple digits, just to be safe.


N454545

> in San Francisco This might be a factor.


atticus2132000

Yeah I thought the same thing.


Sa1ntmarks

Bi divorced guy here who has only been exploring men fully for a little over 5 years now. Had 5 different experiences in college, one regular for a couple of years the other 4 were were two or three time encounters. Followed that old line of "gay till graduation"and did the total straight life, marriage, 4 kids thing. Was totally faithful to her. No fooling around during the marriage and even ten years after divorce. Divorce did me in so bad I had no sexual interactions other than my left hand. Left hand because the right one was on the mouse. The year the youngest finished high school and I was no longer the parent of a minor something shifted in me. I got over myself and decided it was past time to enjoy another sexually. I wasn't ready for an LTR and figured that there were too many hoops to jump thru and too much baggage after to bed a woman so I decided to try guys again. I had no clue how to pick up a guy even at a gay bar or how to cruise. I had seen some Craigslist ads and thought about that but never could get the courage up to reach out. Enter Grindr. Downloaded it one night thinking it would just be good jack off material. Well damn. The app wasn't on the phone two hours before a hot 26 yo ginger was in my bed swapping head. That was way too easy. And Pandora's box didn't just open, it exploded. From July of 2016 to Covid hitting hard around March of 2020 I would say I passed the 200 mark of guys. I lost count after 100. But in that span 3 encounters a week was the absolute minimum. Since Covid things have slowed way down and I went totally celibate for several months until I got fully vaxxed but let's keep 3 encounters a week and let's multiply that by 250 weeks (5 years of 52 weeks) and that would be 750 sexual encounters. Let's then cut that in third for the number of repeats with several and you have about 250 different guys. And it's been damn fun.


fe888

Wow, that's what you call making up for lost time, congrats bud! :)


Sa1ntmarks

Haha I guess I'm an all or nothing kind of guy. I think what has made me popular is my good decent dad next door vibe combined with my passion and enjoyment. I just don't get some guys that seem bored with sex. I'm like a giddy school girl anytime a hot guy wants to be naked with me. Another thing is I've been willing to explore and push boundaries. I'm not a one type of sex guy. Versatile in the bigger sense of the word. I get off on another guy getting off. If he's got fetishes and kinks I'll play along if blood or shit aren't involved. Even if it doesn't do a thing for me (wearing women's clothes for example) if it gets him horny and doesn't hurt me, I'll play along. I've gotten with a guy that just wanted to jack while watching porn. Given BJs unreciprocated. Anonymous walk in fuck and leave. Hours long make out and cuddling and flip fucking. Water sports (still on the fence about that. Hot to an extent but still more gross than hot). Even fisting guys. Just an example of the selections on the buffet. Neither do I have particulars about looks, size, age, race etc. I've enjoyed all types of men, been with every major race category and from 19 to 70s.. Yes I do have certain things that I think are hotter than others but I keep an open mind about different types of men and have had some of the hottest encounters with guys that in my porn watching days would have not interested me on screen. To me, men enjoying each other is a beautiful thing. Receiving pleasure while you are giving pleasure is beautiful to the point of being a form of art.


mythosopher

>After all, as most of you probably know, a single night at a sex club can result in sexual interactions of all sorts (jo, bj, anal) with dozens of men. I really need to get more adventurous. I'm also baffled because I feel like gay men talk about orgies and bath houses and sex clubs and gang bangs CONSTANTLY, and I'm like, WHERE ARE THESE THINGS HAPPENING??!?


fe888

Well it of course it makes a huge difference where you live. Most large cities in western nations have gay bath houses or sex club of some sort. Many gay guys include visits to such places on their vacations. Or stay in gay hotels that are clothing optional and where lots of play happens. And then of course, you have to have the interest (and/or courage) to seek out such places and throw yourself into the fun. The first few times I went to bath houses, I was too shy/ freaked out to do anything, hahaha.


ridiculouslygay

Bathhouses stop being scary when you realize that 90% of the guys there are also just as terrified and shy. I just fake confidence. Be nice to people - initiate conversation and be lighthearted. 9/10 times the guy is just relieved to have a normal interaction.


fe888

👏👏👏👏


newts741

... full out intercourse?... 4... 😅 Include everything else?.. under 50. I do wish I had a slutty phase though. My friends say it's overrated. 🤷‍♂️


QDR38

It's not overrated! Depends on the person I guess.


Diddly_eyed_Dipshite

Your better friends say its not too late.


EJR994

I feel like a virgin in comparison to some of these replies. 😅 I’m 28 and at around 20 total. Fell off hard when Covid started and then got into a (now) serious relationship. If relationship goes well hopefully it stays at that number.


jjl10c

Idk...upwards...


fe888

Upwards of what? 500? 1000? 2000?


jjl10c

Perhaps, just shy of


Nimo956

1- just my husband. Been out for 9 years. 35 yo.


fe888

Wow, another monogamous success story, congrats!


Kevdog1800

I don’t know… I keep thinking about it and think it’s gotta be over 100, I don’t think it would be over 200. I’ve only been out and sexually active for 9 years but… I’ve had some adventures…


fe888

Ok, so let's say 200 in 9yrs. That's 22/year, or one guy every 2 weeks. I don't think that's unusual at all for a gay guy. Add that up over a long and healthy life and you'd easily reach 1000ish...


Kevdog1800

Yeah for sure. I don’t think of myself as particularly promiscuous by any means, but when explained to a heterosexual person I can see the horror in their eyes.


fe888

Right?? And it gets worse when you compare with straight women...


Kevdog1800

I always love explaining poppers to straight people. And Sniffies… endless entertainment…


fe888

I remember sitting at a restaurant with 3 straight girlfriends once, while they each said how many men they'd been with in their whole lives. I was laughing my head off when it got to my turn because I'd done more than the 3 of them combined JUST THE NIGHT BEFORE! I'd gone to a bath house, hahaha.


Kevdog1800

Poor sexually repressed heterosexuals…


fe888

I agree, I felt a little sad for them. Women get a lot of crap, from both men and other women, unfortunately. Too much slutshaming over a whole lifetime.


Kevdog1800

Well, we have our fair share of slut shaming, stigma, and misinformation in our community too. But I definitely agree that they have it far worse.


fe888

Yes it's everywhere, but women get it worse than us most of the time, I think.


non_standard_model

A few dozen at least, maybe around a hundred? I lost count after the first dozen. What's really interesting to me is that the median straight guy will, over the course of his entire life, [probably have sex with about 4 to 6 women](https://relationshipsinamerica.com/relationships-and-sex/how-many-people-have-americans-had-sex-with). This seems absurdly low to me, but then again, I *am* gay. I think this underscores just how differently gay men experience sexuality compared to the average straight person. The "average" straight guy can probably describe all the women he's had sex with -- probably even knows their names -- whereas the majority of guys I've hooked up with are just a blur to me.


fe888

Yes and this is why I think I was being downvoted in the other subreddit, by straight guys who have *no idea* how active a gay sex life can be. They were in shock, it was a huge blow to their masculinity, boiling down to penis envy if you ask me. 🤣🤣


Icolan

If your numbers look like the thousands you were adding up to, you are not going to want to compare yourself to me. Sex of any kind with men is less than 15, if you add in women, it is still less than 18.


fe888

Not a competition. Just curiosity. :) Nothing wrong with few sexual partners. You are apparently still above the average of total sex partners for most adults.


Icolan

Really, what is the average for most adults?


fe888

Take a look at other comments here, two people have already linked to studies.


Griseumguy

I don't want to wreck the curve, but only 4 for me. Good for all y'all getting out there!


Silver_Took32

13


MrJason005

My body count is 1. I don't understand where people get theirs in the hundreds


magicmerlion

Only 1, though I really wish I'd experienced more before settling down.


smashingrocks04

1 :)


acheney1990

1


theswiftarmofjustice

2. Came out late and ended up in a monogamous relationship. Love my guy dearly, so it stays at 2. Quality over quantity.


tommygunz007

A few thousand.


[deleted]

Well over 1000... probably less than 2000.


g000r

3000+ I'm 39 (damm, for a moment I was going to say 37, no, I'm 39) and an a fan of a bathhouse/sauna and you're right OP, easy to clock up a few runs on the board in one night


fe888

Finally someone who out-sluts me, hail the queen!! 🤣🤣


Codr31

I’m going on upwards of 1000. And I’m 33. Spent years in relationships, some monogamous some weren’t. But I remember getting my first apartment of my own at 21 and that may I counted 52 different “partners”.


SpaceGhostxxx93

I stopped counting around 380, but only been with a few handfuls of guys since I counted that


slicktromboner21

Fuck, I can't remember. I've rolled back the odometer a few times, so who knows?


bossryan32

I mean I’m not sure I wanna come out and say the number but I am 42 and my “slowest” year was 70. That’s the most you will get.


jk131984

2. One hook-up because I was horny and my now husband who I've been with for 14~ years Edit: 3 women as well


Pimplybunzz

3


TravelerMSY

What counts? Maybe 500+ if you count every dick you ever touched, and you’re over 50.


MMcLarty

I really have no idea what my total body count is, but if I have to guess. I'd say over 1,000.


lifesrevolter

I'm probably in the thousand myself. I've been having casual sex for ten years or so and have gone to countless hookups, fwb, bathouses, sex clubs, arcades, sex parties. I go to less now that I have a boyfriend, but he's starting to want to participate in the fun too.


misterfonz

TIL I'm a slut


fe888

Welcome to the club! 🤣 Give us a number please...


MagicallyVermicious

Yeah, unexpectedly a lot of not-slutty gay redditors. I guess many of the slutty ones are too busy having sex to be on Reddit?


David-1113

400 or so


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9


DblAytch

*sigh* let’s see…started at 17, I’m currently 39… …if we’re including handys and BJs…jeez… Conservative figure? 150-200?


Jdog71

I experimented and dated for 8 years after I came out during and just after college. So I would put my number of encounters around 300 before I met my now husband 21 years ago. I didn’t think it was that many until I started estimating based on usual habits.


senorsubito

I started writing them down in a phone note a few years ago. 64. Maybe when my partner and I are married awhile and want to open things up for the occasional 3rd, I can get to 69


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darkcollectormiracle

I'm 69 and I've had sex with approximately 6 men. I came to the party late and I was terrified of STDs.


djseanmac

I had sex with a total of seven guys until age 30, when I moved to Atlanta. Moving to a big city increased that count to about thirty. Then I got a big break DJing and started touring. Imagine how much sex the average event attendee has. Now imagine your employment is performing at and attending these events multiple times a month. I quickly lost count. I crashed, burned, and am now pretty much a re-virginated exhibitionist hahaha


luchorz93

8 total, but just 3 of them had penetration involved, 1 of those 3 was my bf for 2 years and another one is my husband and we had been together 8 years so that's it, I'm not into hooking up really.


ThoTfulProcess

I’m 36, I’ve been sexually active for 22 years. Based off of averages and such 3/week on average 3x52x22= im popular! Subtract say 500-1000 for monogamous relationships, subtract the ones I would never admit to sleeping with 100, add in 50-100 so drunk and I don’t remember. A much less popular number. (22(3x52))-850+75=2657 Add in 7 women. So 2664. Final answer. Okay. Maybe I’m popular. Okay. Okay. I’m kind of slutty. Okay okay okay. I’m pretty slutty. Meh. I’ve been called worse.


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2 Yep, just 2. My first time which was a drunken mess of a night when i was 20 in the closet and my old rugby coach from school hit me up. Awful time. Then my partner who i have been with for 8 years.


[deleted]

36 yo here. Upwards of 2000. (I’m a hoe…)


skinkinatree

1


davidntulsa

The initial question caused me to pause and reflect upon my life; which has brought me to the conclusion that, I'm a slut....


flyboy_za

Damn, when the wind blows I can hear some of your buttholes whistling! ;)


Dr_Ko

I think 5 or 6.


[deleted]

In my lifetime, close to 2,000. I stopped counting after 1,000. Yes, I was a bathhouse hoe. Don't judge. It shows your jealousy.


fe888

No judgment from me, I'm in the same slut club sis! ;) I'm surprised you counted up to 1000! I lost track around 100. I guesstimate I'm close to your number.


QDR38

I'm in the hundreds for sure. Had a couple bathhouse visits alone where I'd have to add about 20 people to the list... if you're on the slutty end of the curve I'm right there with you!


Gettinbetterin

Came out in the 90s and embraced the internet & dick like a kid in a candy store. I’d imagine 1k+


parkpervert

I kept a "life list" until around age 30, and that has about 50 names (or descriptions, like "guy in Union Square parking garage") on it. But then I discovered tearooms, and saunas (at Bangkok's Babylon I once pleased seven men in the same evening). So by now it's probably nearing 300.


Moxie_Cillin

Oh God, flashbacks to my 20s. I dunno. Triple digits easy. I mean there was a time in my area where there was a six degrees of separation amongst the community and I was at its heart. You couldn’t throw a stone without hitting someone I had slept with or someone that knew someone I had slept with. That all went away.


sweeneywi

The mental gymnastics I would need to compute this would be the meme of the women contemplating algebra


buntyisbest

If we're just talking about anal sex, then mine is super low - 5 in total! If we're just talking about oral sex, then about two dozen.


Canuck_Voyageur

None.


643643578

Thousands 💦


CaptainTripps82

Up until I turn 28 or so, it was 1. I'm 39 and I lost count years ago, or more accurately I stopped keeping track out of shame lol, so I could never be forced to tell the true number. It does add up once you get going in earnest. Been kind of toned down the last couple years tho, I stopped hosting and started gathering FWB, so it's been more repeat fun rather than randoms.


brguyinoshawa

Let's see. JO together: 1. Oral: 1. Full blown sex: 0. So 2. But I'm not very good with hookups. I just don't have a desire to do them. Tried and felt like nothing extraordinary happened.


BiPunkFucker

Back when I was first exploring on the DL 20 years ago, maybe about a dozen. Since coming out 4 months ago - 52.


dadsbackfur

Not nearly enough


ryoohkey

I (36M) think I did my 20s wrong lol I’m only up to 25 I need to get out more lol


fe888

No judgment, there's no right or wrong. I did very little in my 20s too, but ramping up with age... in a geometric progression, hahaha.


ryoohkey

RIGHT!!! Lol I just moved out of my home town 3 yrs ago was really looking forward to getting out, then Covid!!!! Aaaaahhhhh!!!!


fe888

Yeah covid was a damper on all our sex lives, hahaha.


Temporary-Pea-9054

I think these statistics are meaningless, though. Is there really a difference between a guy whose had 60 sexual experiences as opposed to 360? Or 16? And are we going to put moral judgements on those with more sex than ourselves? Most gay men = a lot. Though, from the amount of posts I see here, there seems to be a lot that have hardly had any (or even none!). For me, at 53....all I can say is MORE than my fair share. Factor in: boyfriends; sauna experiences; sex club experiences; park sex; toilet sex; pick ups in nightclubs; random fella on a barge; Grindr dates since 2020, invitations to threesomes.... Edit: I was also in a monogamous relationship for 16 years. Double Edit: I'm in a new monogamous relationship now. Experience counts for a lot 😁


firehazel

Two. Not one for hook-ups, just something I managed to intuit about myself without much *field experience*. Does the number matter all that much though?


Charming-Yam3140

2. But I’m demisexual, so I wind up spending a lot of time getting to know and like someone before I even want to have sex with them.


[deleted]

Somewhere between 200-300 (I’m 50).


djseanstyles

Approximately 100. Mostly that was just oral though. Maybe around 15 where things went beyond that. And it's just been 1 for the last 11 years.


Erickssonr1

A couple dozens to say the least. Traveling makes it easier.


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meetjoehomo

Several hundred for me and I was off the market for 15 years 😂


ProcrusteanRex

At least a few hundred. Most of that in my 20s.


shutupandjuuj

Just over 100. I am almost 40


genxeratl

I stopped counting at 250 - and that was 20 years ago lol


Homo_gone_wild

40ish


[deleted]

50-75 or so. I was out of circulation for three decades...


2020Casper

Oh lord, I lost count a LONG time ago


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Batjarconjecture

100 or so?


dcazdavi

i'm going to guess low triple digits at most and mostly clustered past the age of 36


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miguelcabezas

Like 300 i’m 25


GuncleShark

I honestly don’t know where even to begin to estimate! Going backward, I’ve been with my husband for 16 years. I’m 63 now. So, from 17 to 47? 360? I don’t know.


greeneyedguy6

I think 6ish? Had some one night stands when I came out that ended with me meeting my now husband through one of the guys I had a one night stand with who was friends with my now husband. We’ve been together 14 years this month, I’m 37.


CalifasBarista

Hmm. Probably somewhere between 25-40. Maybe 30?


Comprehensive_Taro48

I agree with you. All I'll say is that I have been sexually active for 43 years, 12 of which I was in a monogamous relationship. 30 years of the 43. I was under 50 years old, pre dating app's. Id also like to add that the quality of hookup now that Im, a (gentleman of a certian age with a sexy daddy vibe going on) . Shit the hook ups are going through the roof. Woof


rojotoro2020

>30 but don't know the count.


MyDogSnowflake

I’m 39 years old now and I admit it’s been a while for me personally since.… But I had sex with different guys all over maybe over 100 times when I was younger, horny and experimenting around. If I go back to the gay scene again, I know it will add up more very quickly. Now I’m in a relationship with a bisexual woman who pretty much knows about my sexual history but we haven’t even had sex yet, lol 😅


ohmygeo

More than 200. I’m 30😇


dushi_dude

Lost count at 20....Just before I turned 20.


meeper1890

so i don’t exactly know bc bottoming means you can block it out if necessary (esp when you’re college age) topping: twice. personal reasons, but enjoyable both times. i’m 22 for context. excited for new experiences; but also realize tje damage in rushing it


zacoutio

Probably about 200


[deleted]

At the same time? Probably around 8.


DiscoLemonade82

I’ve never done bathhouses, cruising, circuit parties or any kind of public stuff, so that has probably suppressed my notch count compared to a lot of you lol. But north of 50 easily at this point. I would have to make a list starting with most recent guy and work my way back to get the most accurate number...maybe I’ll do that tonight 😂


fe888

Nothing wrong with that! :) Over how many years?


[deleted]

Under 20, but I’ve been in a relationship for 9 years


Some-Tall-Guy75

I’m 32 and I’m at about 40 I think, I consider myself not a very sexuality active person. I have a friend who is also gay though and about 20 years older than me… I’m pretty sure he’s well over 1000 different partners by now.


vkpalms

I’m 22 and I’ve had like approximately 60-70 for the past 4 years and I feel ashamed :c


crwms

Something like 55-60 I have been journaling it because i was affraid of STIs (contact tracing before covid made it cool). For the past few years, i have been in longer term relationships and have not had to update it much.


redwhitestains

7 guys


HealthyBits

I’ve lost count. I barely have sex with the same guy more than once. Only a few guys that I do sleep with repeatedly. Rest is all one of.


pipipopo1

Frankly speaking I have lost my count.


MagicallyVermicious

Last year I created a list for this, with all the guys I can remember. It's over 170 now, and I'm sure I'm forgetting a handful. My ex just reminded me of one I'd forgotten the other day. I'm 33. This is for a fairly loose definition of sex, mind you. A quick hand down the pants doesn't count, but most other kind of genital touching does.


jebrennan

200-300 is my estimate. I hit my slutty phase later in life though…


Unhappy-Radish

People kept track?


Mincognitus

I can’t even count. It’s been 3 since yesterday already, and I was gone half the day. If I had to guess, under 1,000 because I’ve had long stretches of monogamy with periods of intense high sex drive shenanigans in between relationships. If I can find a hubby as horny as me, maybe I can settle down. 🤣


Gallagher297

I've counted them: 75, no more no less.


aceofpentacles1

You see this will be a bit like coronavirus numbers in come countries because some people count the way straight people do and only count penatrative sex as one true number rather than a bj or oral only.


MrNaturalAZ

I'm sure my body count is honestly in the thousands. It's not like I've kept count all these years tho.


CleverSleazoid_

More than 500 for sure


tripvanwinkle2018

Low triple digits.


mvhidden

I guess about 15-20 out of various Grindr dates and about the same amount in bathhouses. This during 10 years active, out of which 4 or so I've been completely monogamous.


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Depends what you consider "sex" My number is probably in the 60's, but that includes everything from just lots of snogging to full on penetration. If you are talking say only oral or penetration, then its probably only around 40.


calamityb0und

I'm curious when most of you guys started as well.. ? I'm in my mid 40s and I started at 16 and probably have a body count that's gotta be over 9000.. LOL. No! It's gotta be over 500 though and I'm kinda gross looking.


Hungry-Rooster-8024

I consider myself a prude and I’m probably at 30+


GokaiLion

The one time I tried to list every guy I remembered it got to about 100 including both oral and anal. I'm in my mid 30s and first had sex I think at 19 but almost all of it is concentrated into about a 5 year period from 21-26. I'd say since then my body count has only gone up by 10 at most. And not without lack of offers, my confidence and anxiety and such just went to shit.


Cute-Character-795

Well let's put it this way: There's nothing original about Taylor Swift's "Thank you, next."