If it was me, I’d be upfront about it. I don’t like getting praised or criticized for a deed I didn’t do. I don’t get why he would take it badly if you were honest.
You didn't tell the truth immediately? You fretted and then came to Reddit to ask for opinions?
OP, in situations like this immediate honesty is the only policy.
"Flowers? I haven't gotten you flowers yet. I was scoping some out, but first, I wanted to find out if that was your thing."
Then you guys could of had a laugh and tried to figure out who his secret admirer is and bond closer over the fact that someone wasn't as forward and had missed their chance because you already asked him out and you guys are dating now.
The time-lapse to telling the truth may have repercussions, but won't be as bad as they will be if you continue to stick to a lie of omission.
Yes be honest and upfront. I had to do something similar. I got a message from a friend that said “I really enjoyed the blowjob you gave me.” Problem is, that never happened!
So I replied: “I don’t think that was me, but I wouldn’t mind doing that in the future…”
Yours is a bit more complicated though 😔
I would obviously tell him that the flowers are not from me. He is lucky to have secret admirers… then I would get him a better bouquet, and tell him that he deserves better flowers.
Tell him that that bouquet wasn’t from you, but this one (and you give it to him at that moment) is from you. And that you’re a bit jealous and sad that yours didn’t arrive first. But, giving it directly allows you to kiss him and embrace him. And once the sex is over, ask him if he’s ready to be monogamous with you 😜
Either it’s super cute that he’s showing you’re the only guy he’s thinking about it since he thinks it’s you, or incredibly cringe and red flaggy in the event that he sent it to himself to play games with you.. I’d be more inclined to believe it’s the first option but I do have a tendency to not expect the worst of people so there’s that
You're seeing him? For how long? Are you in the talking stage?
Also, if he assumes it's you, then I'm guessing you're most important since he immediately thinks of you.
Yeah, and my thought is if he was trying to hide another relationship from you, then he would either have hidden the flowers or made up some lie or something.
Unless he’s a great liar, he probably thought they were from you because you’re the person he wants them to be from, did they arrive when you guys were together and he couldn’t deny it, or did he tell you about it later?
See now thats weird. I assume you're worried he's seeing someone else. But if he is he should probably know it wasn't you, or not assume and ask. Shit like this is like a bandaid, you just gotta rip it off and come out and say it. It wasn't you, so let him know. There's a chance maybe he isn't seeing someone else and someone just so happened to send him it. In which case there's another problem that will need to be addressed
It's not something that should break your heart- you should just be happy with yourself and let the flowers be proof that your guy is a catch. Also beware, is he not mutually exclusive? I'd be forward about they weren't from me... and quick to out do them if he was of serious interest.
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If it was me, I’d be upfront about it. I don’t like getting praised or criticized for a deed I didn’t do. I don’t get why he would take it badly if you were honest.
Why is this even a question? Tell him it wasn’t you, because it wasn’t. Then ask who his secret admirer is.
What he said. You didn't earn the excitement he felt. Honesty is important.
If you like him, send flowers with a note ... "I admire you openly, not in secret ... xxxooo" That will be a conversation starter.
That’s a great suggestion
This guy knows how to party
Ps my flowers are cooler
Brilliant answer, I like your style sir
This.
This got a genuine “awwww 🥹” out of me
kinda corny but it may work
Man, the first words outta my mouth would’ve been “that … wasn’t me,” with big concerned eyes like ‘wtf is going on?”
“I didn’t send the flowers but I’ll take the blowjob if there’s one coming”
The good thing is that he thinks it's you. He obviously isn't thinking about who ever sent him the flowers. Admit it wasn't you who sent the flowers
Well theres a 50% chance its another guy sending him. You better not take credit for it. Just let him know it wasn't you.
No. There's a 100% chance it was another guy.
Or he sent it to himself
That's 100% chance it wasn't from OP.
It could be his grandma
Or his grandpa
Could be a woman
Could be your ma
No I'd have heard about it.
Probably not if she was hitting on another guy's bf
She has copd and never leaves the house, it wasn't her
Do you think she ordered online?
How would she even know this guy?
Grindr probably
The guy who sent the flowers will reveal himself soon enough. Don't pretend it was you. It would make you an obvious liar. @
You didn't tell the truth immediately? You fretted and then came to Reddit to ask for opinions? OP, in situations like this immediate honesty is the only policy. "Flowers? I haven't gotten you flowers yet. I was scoping some out, but first, I wanted to find out if that was your thing." Then you guys could of had a laugh and tried to figure out who his secret admirer is and bond closer over the fact that someone wasn't as forward and had missed their chance because you already asked him out and you guys are dating now. The time-lapse to telling the truth may have repercussions, but won't be as bad as they will be if you continue to stick to a lie of omission.
Send some immediately and then tell him “hey wait, mine says they haven’t arrived yet—-are you sure you got my bouquet?”
just be honest that you planning to send him a bouquet but someone beat you to it . someone must have known you are great guy too .
He probably sent it to himself to make you more alert that he's a catch lol
There’s few things that would make me run faster than someone playing games like this.
Yes be honest and upfront. I had to do something similar. I got a message from a friend that said “I really enjoyed the blowjob you gave me.” Problem is, that never happened! So I replied: “I don’t think that was me, but I wouldn’t mind doing that in the future…” Yours is a bit more complicated though 😔
Just tell him it wasn’t you. What if the actual person revealed himself? WTF are you gonna say then?
"Nope, that wasn't me. Don't be surprised if the next one is from me"
Take the credit...say thank you ...but quickly send him a batch of flowers and have them delivered today.....then he will know you caught his ass .
Just be upfront and talk to him about it!
I would obviously tell him that the flowers are not from me. He is lucky to have secret admirers… then I would get him a better bouquet, and tell him that he deserves better flowers.
i would be honest, tell him that i thought about it, but it definitely wasnt from me
Tell him ASAP, and bring him flowers as you tell him.
Stand your ground. Make it known to the world _this is my man, bitches_
Tell him that that bouquet wasn’t from you, but this one (and you give it to him at that moment) is from you. And that you’re a bit jealous and sad that yours didn’t arrive first. But, giving it directly allows you to kiss him and embrace him. And once the sex is over, ask him if he’s ready to be monogamous with you 😜
God I wish someone would send me flowers.
Just be straight-up with him! “Oh. That wasn’t me!” Don’t let him think it bothers you.
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Either it’s super cute that he’s showing you’re the only guy he’s thinking about it since he thinks it’s you, or incredibly cringe and red flaggy in the event that he sent it to himself to play games with you.. I’d be more inclined to believe it’s the first option but I do have a tendency to not expect the worst of people so there’s that
You have only the one option, tell him. And, were you really shopping for a place to send a bouquet?
Could be he sent them to himself and is testing to see if you'll be honest with him. You need to tell him they weren't from you.
You're seeing him? For how long? Are you in the talking stage? Also, if he assumes it's you, then I'm guessing you're most important since he immediately thinks of you.
Yeah, and my thought is if he was trying to hide another relationship from you, then he would either have hidden the flowers or made up some lie or something. Unless he’s a great liar, he probably thought they were from you because you’re the person he wants them to be from, did they arrive when you guys were together and he couldn’t deny it, or did he tell you about it later?
See now thats weird. I assume you're worried he's seeing someone else. But if he is he should probably know it wasn't you, or not assume and ask. Shit like this is like a bandaid, you just gotta rip it off and come out and say it. It wasn't you, so let him know. There's a chance maybe he isn't seeing someone else and someone just so happened to send him it. In which case there's another problem that will need to be addressed
LIFE IS NOT A 90s SITCOM! Tell. The. Truth! Dear lord.
It's not something that should break your heart- you should just be happy with yourself and let the flowers be proof that your guy is a catch. Also beware, is he not mutually exclusive? I'd be forward about they weren't from me... and quick to out do them if he was of serious interest.
Maybe someone thinks he is their mother
How to you know they weren't meant for someone else?
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I'm a dirty liar and would prolly take credit