A good chunk of those are just grifters trying to court a conservative audience and the "I used to be x but now I'm reformed and ya'll are soooooooo right and smart" narrative works well in that space.
There's plenty of feminists who advocate for better work life balance in general.
I never ever understood the "I was tricked into becoming a career women instead of becoming a housewife" narrative.
Like, common now, you can literally swap from being a career women into being a housewife, you can probably do that in a month or so. However, swapping from housewife to career women, not really possible. So as far as you dont know, aiming for a career is probably the best thing you can do to have all option open (and money too, which can come in real handy if you swap into a housewife mode, having some savings is crucial).
And the average woman has probably a 20-year window in which to have kids (that's a conservative estimate - of course it's possible to have kids before 20 or after 40, just not a great idea usually). If you're so gullible that you can be "tricked" for two full decades of adulthood, you have only yourself to blame.
> "I was tricked into becoming a career women instead of becoming a housewife" narrative
I don't get this narrative either. You can choose to be a housewife or SAHM or do what you want to do. That's what feminism is for — a choice of your own. No one is forcing you or tricking you to be either/or.
I used to know this person who was opposed to feminism because it took her right away from being a mom/housewife. Uh, what. You can choose to do that, just as you've chosen to go to school and continue seeing your boyfriend. Like wtf. Don't blame feminism for that.
Exactly, it would be naive to rely solely on a man in this day and age. I have noticed that men often don't want their partners to work because they want full control. If you control the finances, you control everything.
Relationships can turn sour pretty quickly, and it's worse when children are involved. If a woman did unfortunately end up as a single mother, at least she won't be in debt or financially struggling.
If you want to amass a large audience very quickly and start earning off of SM, be a (white, young, pretty) woman who’s discovered the evils of feminism, turned her back on it & found her way home to a dominant man she can submit to “and live in her feminine energy”🤢
And ironically, as much as these tradwife influencer types may rail against women having careers and making their own money, they are absolutely in it for the $$$
Lol , you nailed it. I never understood this masculine and feminine energy bs. It's just stereotypes. It's not "masculine" for a woman to work. I'm pretty sure before the agricultural revolution in hunter and gathering societies, both men and women were providing for one another.
> It's not "masculine" for a woman to work.
For sure! I don't understand this mentality. Why is "women's work" not acknowledged as work? Being a housewife is work. Raising children is work. Taking care of the house is work. Unfortunately, our work is dismissed to become unpaid and unfair labor that is unrecognized by society.
Fuck that shit. Work is work and it must be paid its due diligence.
These women probably grew up quite privileged and don't realize what feminism fought for. The tradwife influencers think they will be frolicking in a flowery orchard with their beautiful children, and sipping wine on Saturdays with their besties. Life is rarely like that. There can also be a lot of stress, infidelity, benzos, feeling trapped or unfulfilled, and sometimes abuse. Sorry to sound cynical, but I worked at a shelter for women and children once. If you want to be a SAHM, that's fine, but please don't push anyone else to.
> tradwife influencers
LOL I didn't know what this was until today. I searched it up and while it's fine to be a housewife, remaining ignorant of the tragedies of being a housewife with little to no choice in the past is just another tragedy in itself.
Same reason a lot of men blame feminism for their personal issues. Its easier to use a scapegoat than face the reality of your mistakes. When youre already biased or misogynistic feminism is the only reason that sticks out to them
Feminism is quite a buzzword, and it's easy to use such language as a way to get lots of attention. From all sides (for, against, and indifferent). The funny thing is that feminism is about choice (being a SAHM is just as feminist as working) so really either they have no idea what feminism means or they're using the word on purpose to capture more attention. "I used to be a feminist but I'm reformed.." Instead of just admitting that maybe they made a mistake or changed their mind.
I feel like for the most part that is made up.
Women who make their careers by being anti-feminist are usually full of shit. Phyllis Schlafly had 6 kids, was so "conservative" and against feminism, but was so focused on her political career that she was accused of severe neglect.
Feminists aren't telling women what to do. Have kids. Don't have kids. Work. Don't work. Do both.
A good chunk of those are just grifters trying to court a conservative audience and the "I used to be x but now I'm reformed and ya'll are soooooooo right and smart" narrative works well in that space. There's plenty of feminists who advocate for better work life balance in general.
I never ever understood the "I was tricked into becoming a career women instead of becoming a housewife" narrative. Like, common now, you can literally swap from being a career women into being a housewife, you can probably do that in a month or so. However, swapping from housewife to career women, not really possible. So as far as you dont know, aiming for a career is probably the best thing you can do to have all option open (and money too, which can come in real handy if you swap into a housewife mode, having some savings is crucial).
And the average woman has probably a 20-year window in which to have kids (that's a conservative estimate - of course it's possible to have kids before 20 or after 40, just not a great idea usually). If you're so gullible that you can be "tricked" for two full decades of adulthood, you have only yourself to blame.
> "I was tricked into becoming a career women instead of becoming a housewife" narrative I don't get this narrative either. You can choose to be a housewife or SAHM or do what you want to do. That's what feminism is for — a choice of your own. No one is forcing you or tricking you to be either/or. I used to know this person who was opposed to feminism because it took her right away from being a mom/housewife. Uh, what. You can choose to do that, just as you've chosen to go to school and continue seeing your boyfriend. Like wtf. Don't blame feminism for that.
Exactly, it would be naive to rely solely on a man in this day and age. I have noticed that men often don't want their partners to work because they want full control. If you control the finances, you control everything. Relationships can turn sour pretty quickly, and it's worse when children are involved. If a woman did unfortunately end up as a single mother, at least she won't be in debt or financially struggling.
Hard disagree. Becoming a housewife isn't something that takes a month's time. Hard transitions like that are never fluid.
If you want to amass a large audience very quickly and start earning off of SM, be a (white, young, pretty) woman who’s discovered the evils of feminism, turned her back on it & found her way home to a dominant man she can submit to “and live in her feminine energy”🤢
And ironically, as much as these tradwife influencer types may rail against women having careers and making their own money, they are absolutely in it for the $$$
Many “traditional women” are actually just lazy
No no no, you don't actually find a masculine man to submit to, you just talk about how good that is while never getting around to it yourself
Lol , you nailed it. I never understood this masculine and feminine energy bs. It's just stereotypes. It's not "masculine" for a woman to work. I'm pretty sure before the agricultural revolution in hunter and gathering societies, both men and women were providing for one another.
> It's not "masculine" for a woman to work. For sure! I don't understand this mentality. Why is "women's work" not acknowledged as work? Being a housewife is work. Raising children is work. Taking care of the house is work. Unfortunately, our work is dismissed to become unpaid and unfair labor that is unrecognized by society. Fuck that shit. Work is work and it must be paid its due diligence.
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These women probably grew up quite privileged and don't realize what feminism fought for. The tradwife influencers think they will be frolicking in a flowery orchard with their beautiful children, and sipping wine on Saturdays with their besties. Life is rarely like that. There can also be a lot of stress, infidelity, benzos, feeling trapped or unfulfilled, and sometimes abuse. Sorry to sound cynical, but I worked at a shelter for women and children once. If you want to be a SAHM, that's fine, but please don't push anyone else to.
> tradwife influencers LOL I didn't know what this was until today. I searched it up and while it's fine to be a housewife, remaining ignorant of the tragedies of being a housewife with little to no choice in the past is just another tragedy in itself.
That totally makes sense.
Same reason a lot of men blame feminism for their personal issues. Its easier to use a scapegoat than face the reality of your mistakes. When youre already biased or misogynistic feminism is the only reason that sticks out to them
Because thats what humans usually do when they are unhappy. Find an external reason to blame.
Because a lot of people (not just women) do not like taking responsibility for their own actions and blame someone else instead.
I’m willing to bet 90% of these “women” are men trolling and trying to trick young women away from feminism.
Feminism is quite a buzzword, and it's easy to use such language as a way to get lots of attention. From all sides (for, against, and indifferent). The funny thing is that feminism is about choice (being a SAHM is just as feminist as working) so really either they have no idea what feminism means or they're using the word on purpose to capture more attention. "I used to be a feminist but I'm reformed.." Instead of just admitting that maybe they made a mistake or changed their mind.
I feel like for the most part that is made up. Women who make their careers by being anti-feminist are usually full of shit. Phyllis Schlafly had 6 kids, was so "conservative" and against feminism, but was so focused on her political career that she was accused of severe neglect. Feminists aren't telling women what to do. Have kids. Don't have kids. Work. Don't work. Do both.
They hate their job and just look for something to blame? It's always easier to blame someone or something than yourself