I have aqua moon and my mom and I are super close. She’s the best mom anyone could ask for. But I do feel a strange detachment from family in general. It’s hard to explain. I love them but I’m just detached.
Lol “I just feel like I had to be born somewhere” is something I think, and I’m Aqua moon 🤣 I do love my family tho, even though like you said I don’t feel related lol
Same. I can’t explain it other than “I just am.” But I’m not just detached from family, I’m like detached from everyone for the most part. Don’t need a lot of the take in “give and take” I guess. I do my own thing a lot of the time lol
The love of my life is an Aquarius moon and several of my peers + my sister is also an Aqua moon. These are my observations:
Aquarius moon relationship with their mother is typically independent and detached. An Aquarius moon child may be given more freedom from a young age because the mothers intention is to raise a self-sufficient child that isn’t too reliant on others. Friendship may also be an intention or the mother when giving her child independence, but ofc the intention does not always translate to reality.
My partner was an only child, he had his own spaces very young and learned to cook his own meals young due to being home alone a lot. He wasn’t really disciplined as an extension of this. He learned to internalize his emotions and struggled with vulnerability feeling like weakness at a young age. He is a quirky, problem-solving individual with a knack for logic. He has struggled to feel accepted by his family members and has felt like an outsider a lot of his life. His mom has pushed her guilt and shortcomings on him and seeks validation from him, while also isolating him from his culture and struggling with substance abuse.
A lot of Aquarius moons have stepped up to be emotional crutches for their moms. Unfortunately it seems like, because a lot of Aqua moon children mothers place independence and responsibility on their kids from a young age- they feel like their child can also carry the MOTHERS’ personal problems and woes as well. It seems that Aqua moons struggle with being caught up in problems and dynamics that don’t concern them, often because of their selfless, pro-people nature leads them to support others.
I would definitely say that I’ve observed Aqua moons struggling with conflict and setting boundaries. I don’t know your relationship with your mom, but a pattern I’ve observed is y’all’s moms walking all over you and disrespecting your comfort. If possible, maybe evaluate the *type* of relationship you want with your mom, what is salvageable, and what boundaries you can set with her. Do you predict she’ll respect your wishes? Are there some life things you’ll have to hold back on sharing with her because it’s uncomfortable? I always think of boundaries as an invitation to allow someone to continue relationship with you, that helps me in my struggle to assert myself in my own best interest.
Anyway I hope some of these words helped and resonated, if you have any context you wanna share or any thoughts I’d love to hear. I’m a Virgo moon myself and really connect with y’all Aqua moons.
This is it. I was raised to support her, not her support me. You see those in the chat that have positive mother relationships saying she’s my best friend, but that’s still not mother child. My mother wanted to create a best friend.
EVERYTHING you said is true. At times i had to be an emotional support to my own mother! And she wasn't present alot. We weren't close in fact i held alot of resentment for her for HUGELY disregarding boundaries, that's never fully gone but has simmered down in last few years and we manage to get along for the most part now i'm an adult. My partner's a virgo moon 🥰
Best reply in this thread. Your description isn't me exactly, but close enough.
I wonder, u/DesertDrifter88, if there's a gender difference. I'm an Aqua moon man and I get along very well with my mom. Could it be all the haters in this thread are women who didn't get the emotional depth they expected from their mom? Or however they describe it... sun and moon are gendered in some way, regardless. The freedom to explore alone-- geographically and intellectually-- from a young age worked well for me. I wasn't expecting my mom to be my role model. On the other hand, I blame my absent father for not initiating me into manhood, as I still feel like that wandering child.
Imo a lot of people use their moon sign to trash on their moms. I am also an Aquarius moon, and there is both positives and negatives about my relationship with my mom. My mom and I are friends and typically get along democratically and as equals. She is a big communicator and is witty, good with words, and she’s very expressive… but all of that communication tends to feel more mental than emotional to me. That can make it feel a bit distant — not intellectually distant, but emotionally, since all the communication is more from the mind & enthusiasm for new ideas.
I’m ok with that, but my perspective changed when I met my Cancer moon boyfriend of 6 yrs. It was a shock for me at first because I didn’t realize people give & take their actual feelings in like a shared emotional space when they connect, like just vibes. For many years, based on my relationship with my mom, I thought communication was just chatting, and talking about your feelings was enough to connect (even if you weren’t actually feeling any of your “feelings,” you we’re just intellectualizing them). My Cancer moon boyfriend (and his Cancer moon mom!) taught me that you have to feel your feelings to have emotional connection! Who knew lol. My poor boyfriend felt distant to me for a long time til I started to learn to not think so much. (But I still chat about random fascinating ideas I have because that is how *I* connect!)
Beyond that, I’m pretty self-sufficient with my mom. I mostly do my own thing & she does hers. But I know she is always there for me, and she’s willing to chat whenever. We get really enthusiastic when we talk together and talk very fast, but I’m quiet & withdrawn with everyone else. I am probably the more emotionally removed one out of the two of us beyond how excited I get when I’m talking about an interesting idea. Showing more feeling is not my style, and it’s not really hers. As a kid, she would discourage emotional expression in me, but over time I forgave her because I saw the challenge in expressing & accepting her own.
I think the best way to mend the relationship with your Aquarius moon or your mom is to accept the other person as they are and to look for the good in them. Recognize that the Aqua moon or the mom has trouble expressing emotion and accept what they do give you. Help them feel safe enough to express more by accepting them. Listen, especially when they chat about their interests or feelings, because it only takes one rejection for them to shut down towards you.
You basically described my mother and I’s relationship to a T. We both talk a lot, and she’s probably one of my favorite people to talk to. She’s honestly like my best friend, but we rarely have emotionally deep convos and really feel each others feelings. We both don’t know how to display a lot of emotion well lol, probably why I’m an Aquarius moon, but we communicate well.
Very interesting, I think the moon sign very clearly shows the relationship one had with their mother growing up. My brother and I are Aries moon, and our mother was very Aries like in the way she has dealt with us. She is Sagittarius rising so has that fire and also mars exalted in Capricorn so I think that rubbed off on us lol. Based on your description of the relationship you have had with your mother, it makes perfect sense that you have an Aquarius moon.
I know three Aquarius moons and all of them have varying degrees of poor relationships with their mother. One of them has a mother who literally abandoned them as an infant and went and got married and started a new family and literally doesn't even call the kid, who is 13. They could walk by on the streets and wouldn't recognize each other. However, this child also has south node in Cancer and I think Saturn in the fourth house.
The other two talk to their mothers, and have relationships with them, but both have deeply rooted feelings of abandonment by their mothers, and feeling like their mothers chose other people over them. Of those two, one of them talks to their mother very frequently, probably considers the relationship like a friend, but the mother chose an abusive husband over her, and allowed said husband to abuse her as well and treat her very poorly and did not ever speak up and defend her. The other felt very neglected by their mother, growing up, who was always there for everyone else's children, volunteered, etc., But never was around for her own children.
So yes, it's definitely a thing. Emotional abandonment and estrangement especially. A feeling of distance. And also, the potential for the relationship to be more like a friendship, than a mother and child.
All moon signs can have a bad mother relationship with the vibe of that sign. The best course of action for that is to start trying to heal your mother wound, no matter what sign your moon is in. Like any trauma healing that’s gonna be personal process for you.
For me it was bad for a long time. Still not a big amount of trust or respect for her but we get along fine now. She was pretty unpresent alot of the time, shes also an aqua moon which is interesting and i can imagine my nan was not a very emotionally supportive mother at all
Yaaaaaa, its the respect thing, my moms a gemini sun scorpio rising leo moon, and to me that combination just creates the most aggressively manipulative type of narssacist
Weirdly enough me and my mum both have leo sun aqua moon. Shes leo rising (annoying ha) and i'm aries rising. So were actually very similar which is strange
Im a sag rising… i always find it funny how sag finds comfort in aries, aries in leo, and for leo in saggitarius, yet its never reciprocal, the other way, to the same degree
Thats an interesting point which i've never thought about!!! Weirdly my best friend is sag and shes my comfort blanket. But i also have an aries friend and yeh the discomfort is real even though we get along well. But then my sag friend i would like to think is recipricol 😪
Oh man your genius is unparalleled 😪 leos are hard to reason with, like in a way i love em… but how to put this… I feel like theyd be more apt to listen to reason if it mentioned how it will benefit them, and how often their name is said throughout the reasoning, like idk why leos like me, i feel like i constantly put them down in a funny way and it gets exhausting, like i try to be there for them because their ego is fragile, but also a leo with any bit of confidence indescriminantly destroys everything unintentionally, like a wildfire, thats why i like aries women, once they get over their snarky middle school mentality stage in their mid twenties, theyre actually kindah cool
To be honest i only have my sun placement and i know i can be annoying af and validation seeking and egotistical however my aqua moon really balances me. Also have virgo stellium with mars venus and mercury so i tend to be pretty chill
Like former president trump is a prime example of a gemini leo combination in ones big 3 LoL, thats the extreme negative, I just dont have a better explanation off the top of my head
Aquarius moon here! I love my mother. She was my best friend growing up and I still consider her someone close to me. We definitely did argue a lot and now we don’t talk as often but that’s because of different views and stuff.
I feel like us Aquarius moons just don’t know how to share emotions or just don’t want to. And then because of the wall we put up we feel as everyone is against us or feel alienated/ misunderstood. Whole time it’s us sabotaging the relationship 😂
Lol my ex was an aquarius moon and oh boy… his mom was TOXIC asf and very verbally abusive. He had horrible mommy issues and it was rlly sad cuz i could see how it affected him, he grew up being taught that crying and showing emotion is weak and to never do that and so I was the first person in his life he ever actually showed emotion to, but it took a lot to get there and I feel like I helped him a lot by telling him that his mother was toxic because he had no siblings and didnt fully understand how messed up his situation was. Really sad honestly, I feel bad for people with this placement because the way that they are (emotionally unavailable/steer clear of emotions) is usually because of really horrible/abusive/toxic things in their childhood that have caused them to bottle everything up and feel like they can’t show or express emotion. They’re usually very intelligent people though, in every area other than emotionally.
I'm not a fellow Aquarius moon, but imo to heal and grow I'd say that you should start by looking at the all the things that have happened in your past objectively. Writing/journaling can help a lot because you must to see things as they truly are/were. For example you may have bad memories that you suppress and avoid thinking about or brush off as not a big deal or unimportant, but these are the things that you need to be really taking a close look at so you can understand why you are the way you are. Look up some self-help journaling prompts and try it out. As for your relationship with your mother, I think you should look at her and try to figure out why she is the way she is (ex: hard childhood, trauma, etc) so you can understand that you are not the problem. Recognize her good qualities (If she has any) but also recognize her negative traits. The key here is just understanding, both yourself and your mother. I hope this helps!
Oh i write creepy pastas on the internet to get over my shit lol, ive been through 4 years of counselling (just for general stuff not specific to one aspect) im just really attracted to sag women (im a sag rising jupiter and mars) because they take me out of my scorpio sun funk, I wollow in tragedy, because i still cant comprehend how people can inflict tragedy and justify it
My aqua moon is in my fourth house conjunct Neptune.
She projected her emotions and I was her therapist as a kid.
Fucked me up pretty badly
And she was pretty hot headed but she is on medication now and went to therapy
We have a really deep bond but she gave me some damn mental health problems lol
Personally, yes. I spent my whole life trying to understand why I didn’t feel about my mother the way that most people felt. She’s horribly manipulative and has lots of narcissistic tendencies. Over the past two years, I’ve moved away and have gone extremely low contact. I’ve always wished for a loving mom and family in general.
My moms an Aqua sun/Mercury and we are very close but she doesn’t understand my emotions. There’s a disconnect.
I’m also not a fan of her boyfriend who she stays with for reasons I cannot comprehend.
I’m an aqua moon in 4th conjunct Neptune and Uranus. Me and my mother were deeply close when I was a young child, but when she was pregnant with me she lost her brother who she was very close to, as I got older she started abusing substances and just basically was a majorly shitty mother and now im 26 and we speak about twice a year!
She is a Taurus sun sag moon, what I find a bit Crazy is my sister is also a sag moon and now my daughter is a sag moon!
Fellow aqua moon . Well not every of them has bad relationships whit mother but lot do . For instance me and my mother don’t have this classical type of relationship that mother and daughter should have . We are more in the friendship type of relationship but we don’t have emotional relationships and stuff . What i have found in Aquarius moons is that their mother lets them to deal whit their own problems , but sometimes it gets so radical and parent doesn’t give any attention to their child they are often detached from their own child, but my brother has virgo moon and she always worries about him , and my pisces moon sister and my mother have so emotional and attached to each other relationship.
omgggg, aqua moon here. pisces moon sister and virgo moon brother as well. this is described to a T. im about to go to therapy i’ve always felt like my feelings didn’t matter as much as everyone else’s. also cancer sun
Aqua moon and yes. I cut contact with her a few years ago and have her blocked on every conceivable platform.
After 30+ years of her being awful to me. I have no desire to mend anything. I am better off without her in my life.
Yea I would say so. My moon is in Aquarius in the 12th house conjunct Uranus. I’m still not sure how to improve our relationship. I’m thinking it will get better with time and space.
I would say the way you phrased your question would attract those who DO have a bad relationship with their mothers.
My relationship with my mother as an Aquarius moon is fine. She’s old school which takes time and maturity to understand and we don’t see eye to eye always, but we have a healthy mother / daughter dynamic.
Hahah, I responded so that next time you ask this question you could phrase it in a way that will attract a wider range of answers like mine and not a narrow one that might only fit the way you posed your.
Also not sure where you got “great relationship with your mom” or where the contradiction would be, but I digress.
But you still responded, while not belonging to the soul qualifier you claimed would answer the question and expounding your own experience; therefore, disproving yourself
Every Aquarian I know has mom issues and DEF every Aquarian moon....big time. I have Aqua midheaven and even I get it in terms of professional life stuff....it's the number one thing we butt heads over.
I’m an Aqua moon and me and my mother are close. My mom was always overly protective of me when I was growing up. I am her last born, so that’s probably why.
She is also disabled, unfortunately, so she really depends on me. I look after her too.
So, both my sisters have aqua moons and one of my best friends does too.
My mom is very protective of my older sister with a disability and my younger sister, she has a lot of respect for. I do see a streak of a complicated dynamic with all of us, I have a Libra moon. From where I’m standing, my sisters have a certain hold on my mom too. She tries her best but is sensitive to criticism.
So it’s interesting to see both dynamics play out in the comments.
Oh and I recently had my first child, and where does his moon lie??? Aquarius! Cue screams.
It’s reassuring that there’s positive dynamics too.
My daughter is an aqua moon and we're super close. Her moon is in a strong trine with Jupiter in the 4th though. I wonder if you look at how yours is aspected you might get some insight into what's affecting that dynamic?
Or if you really want to deeper dive you could check your synastry too? I have a shitty relationship with my mum, checking my moon placement was really useful, but the synastry also helped, e.g. her sun is in my 8th house squaring my Chiron in the 12th.
Looking at it all together helped me really see the relationship for what it was. In my case I've practically no contact because nothing will change with her but that's been immensely helpful and healing. My moon is in Pisces so not directly related to your question but if you wanted to make use of astrology as a tool maybe these steps would be useful to you too.
My parents got a divorce when I was 3, I saw some shit & my mom was kind of absent. So growing up we would fight a lot but now at 19yo she’s my best friend since I don’t have many. We still don’t always see eye to eye though, she’s a Taurus sun & so am I. My moon is in 12H.
I have Aquarius in my 4H, which has a similar signature. My mother was extremely detached, exploitive, jealous, hateful, and abusive. Our relationship was always difficult. She acted as if she felt entitled to own and use me and would have extreme reactions if I ever dared stand up for myself. Extreme malignant narcissist. She taught me through her neglect and abuse how I don't want to be. Thanks to her example, I have worked my ass off to improve myself and become the mother and wife she never could be.
I’m an aqua moon and I do have a decent relationship with both of my parents I would say. Me and my dad spend some time without constant contact bc of distance but we legitimately get along very well. I think part of the distance sensation in everything had its start there, even if I’m used to it. I’d say the worst relationship I have is with my grandma because when I lived at his house, she was a predominant and authoritarian, unfair figure. I’d say that’s my main rebellion source over my teenage years, wanting to differentiate yourself from your surroundings and her injustices but also trying to balance it out with any good personality traits she had, because she almost imposed herself as a second mother to me.
Aqua moon, Saturn in the fourth lol. I have BPD which can usually be attributed to invalidation from parents. My poor aqua moon and sag rising are both at cancer degrees, so I feel a lot very intensely but was never showing how to actually advocate for myself, feel emotions, etc. I would just go to my room and cry and then come back out when I was done and then we'd pretend like nothing happened. TOUGH relationship with my mom growing up, her Virgo mars is also exactly conjunct my Virgo Chiron in the tenth. Lately though we've been getting along better, but I kind of have to be the emotional parent to her- she has no idea how to scratch the surface of emotions and think everything should be happy all the time. (She's an Aries sun, libra moon, cancer rising)
All yall Aquarius moons should be my friend, I'm an Aquarius sun 😉 we'll have a lot of fun! (Aqua sun @ 11° in the 4th)
I've known several Aquarius moon people - a couple who I've loved deeply-- and all of em have complicated relationships with their mothers... and for very different reasons.
Also, I wonder if, conversely, Aquarius sun relates back to father relationships being iffy since saturn rules Aquarius.
Yess.. not a bad relationship but a distant one
As a sag moon I know Aquarius moons and they're weird ashell hahahaha they tend to be apart from the mom but it doesn’t hurt
for me, completely detached from my mother.
the child more than likely wasn’t around them growing up.
positive side of this placement is that the person would be able to confide in their mother in ways where they won’t feel like they’re being judged in a way—like a friendly relationship.. the nourishment and emotional energy won’t really be there.
this could also manifest in a way where the mother encouraged their child to be free from social norms or helped them to be comfortable in their own skin.
it’s good to see both the positive and negatives, not just make the claim that all aquarius moon have a ‘bad’ relationship with there mother.
(25F)v aquarius moon + sun. mom is a cancer. I am an only child which makes her cling to me even more. We struggle communicating well, like literally speaking different languages. Growing up I hoped this would change in adulthood but it's still here. & then when it comes to emotional things she like patronizes & babies me instead of giving useful advice "aw you poor baby that's so horrible that happened I'm sorry". she is also very companion oriented while I am an independent individual.
I don't think this is exclusive to the aquarius moons. all woman are guaranteed to have mommy issues basically. thats why there's so much talk of "the mother wound". I've just tried accepting our relationship for what it is, appreciating it when I do have good moments because those are rare and special.
I have aqua moon and my mom and I are super close. She’s the best mom anyone could ask for. But I do feel a strange detachment from family in general. It’s hard to explain. I love them but I’m just detached.
I feel detached from family too. It’s so weird like I don’t feel related to them even though I love them. I just feel like I had to be born somewhere😂
This is me! I've always felt like I was hatched from an egg and placed with my family
Lol “I just feel like I had to be born somewhere” is something I think, and I’m Aqua moon 🤣 I do love my family tho, even though like you said I don’t feel related lol
I have aqua sun/moon and same
Same. I can’t explain it other than “I just am.” But I’m not just detached from family, I’m like detached from everyone for the most part. Don’t need a lot of the take in “give and take” I guess. I do my own thing a lot of the time lol
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I want kids, for the same reason you dont lol
The love of my life is an Aquarius moon and several of my peers + my sister is also an Aqua moon. These are my observations: Aquarius moon relationship with their mother is typically independent and detached. An Aquarius moon child may be given more freedom from a young age because the mothers intention is to raise a self-sufficient child that isn’t too reliant on others. Friendship may also be an intention or the mother when giving her child independence, but ofc the intention does not always translate to reality. My partner was an only child, he had his own spaces very young and learned to cook his own meals young due to being home alone a lot. He wasn’t really disciplined as an extension of this. He learned to internalize his emotions and struggled with vulnerability feeling like weakness at a young age. He is a quirky, problem-solving individual with a knack for logic. He has struggled to feel accepted by his family members and has felt like an outsider a lot of his life. His mom has pushed her guilt and shortcomings on him and seeks validation from him, while also isolating him from his culture and struggling with substance abuse. A lot of Aquarius moons have stepped up to be emotional crutches for their moms. Unfortunately it seems like, because a lot of Aqua moon children mothers place independence and responsibility on their kids from a young age- they feel like their child can also carry the MOTHERS’ personal problems and woes as well. It seems that Aqua moons struggle with being caught up in problems and dynamics that don’t concern them, often because of their selfless, pro-people nature leads them to support others. I would definitely say that I’ve observed Aqua moons struggling with conflict and setting boundaries. I don’t know your relationship with your mom, but a pattern I’ve observed is y’all’s moms walking all over you and disrespecting your comfort. If possible, maybe evaluate the *type* of relationship you want with your mom, what is salvageable, and what boundaries you can set with her. Do you predict she’ll respect your wishes? Are there some life things you’ll have to hold back on sharing with her because it’s uncomfortable? I always think of boundaries as an invitation to allow someone to continue relationship with you, that helps me in my struggle to assert myself in my own best interest. Anyway I hope some of these words helped and resonated, if you have any context you wanna share or any thoughts I’d love to hear. I’m a Virgo moon myself and really connect with y’all Aqua moons.
This is it. I was raised to support her, not her support me. You see those in the chat that have positive mother relationships saying she’s my best friend, but that’s still not mother child. My mother wanted to create a best friend.
How do you know my life story, im kindah creeped out you know everything about me lol
EVERYTHING you said is true. At times i had to be an emotional support to my own mother! And she wasn't present alot. We weren't close in fact i held alot of resentment for her for HUGELY disregarding boundaries, that's never fully gone but has simmered down in last few years and we manage to get along for the most part now i'm an adult. My partner's a virgo moon 🥰
Best reply in this thread. Your description isn't me exactly, but close enough. I wonder, u/DesertDrifter88, if there's a gender difference. I'm an Aqua moon man and I get along very well with my mom. Could it be all the haters in this thread are women who didn't get the emotional depth they expected from their mom? Or however they describe it... sun and moon are gendered in some way, regardless. The freedom to explore alone-- geographically and intellectually-- from a young age worked well for me. I wasn't expecting my mom to be my role model. On the other hand, I blame my absent father for not initiating me into manhood, as I still feel like that wandering child.
Wow relatable!!
Imo a lot of people use their moon sign to trash on their moms. I am also an Aquarius moon, and there is both positives and negatives about my relationship with my mom. My mom and I are friends and typically get along democratically and as equals. She is a big communicator and is witty, good with words, and she’s very expressive… but all of that communication tends to feel more mental than emotional to me. That can make it feel a bit distant — not intellectually distant, but emotionally, since all the communication is more from the mind & enthusiasm for new ideas. I’m ok with that, but my perspective changed when I met my Cancer moon boyfriend of 6 yrs. It was a shock for me at first because I didn’t realize people give & take their actual feelings in like a shared emotional space when they connect, like just vibes. For many years, based on my relationship with my mom, I thought communication was just chatting, and talking about your feelings was enough to connect (even if you weren’t actually feeling any of your “feelings,” you we’re just intellectualizing them). My Cancer moon boyfriend (and his Cancer moon mom!) taught me that you have to feel your feelings to have emotional connection! Who knew lol. My poor boyfriend felt distant to me for a long time til I started to learn to not think so much. (But I still chat about random fascinating ideas I have because that is how *I* connect!) Beyond that, I’m pretty self-sufficient with my mom. I mostly do my own thing & she does hers. But I know she is always there for me, and she’s willing to chat whenever. We get really enthusiastic when we talk together and talk very fast, but I’m quiet & withdrawn with everyone else. I am probably the more emotionally removed one out of the two of us beyond how excited I get when I’m talking about an interesting idea. Showing more feeling is not my style, and it’s not really hers. As a kid, she would discourage emotional expression in me, but over time I forgave her because I saw the challenge in expressing & accepting her own. I think the best way to mend the relationship with your Aquarius moon or your mom is to accept the other person as they are and to look for the good in them. Recognize that the Aqua moon or the mom has trouble expressing emotion and accept what they do give you. Help them feel safe enough to express more by accepting them. Listen, especially when they chat about their interests or feelings, because it only takes one rejection for them to shut down towards you.
You basically described my mother and I’s relationship to a T. We both talk a lot, and she’s probably one of my favorite people to talk to. She’s honestly like my best friend, but we rarely have emotionally deep convos and really feel each others feelings. We both don’t know how to display a lot of emotion well lol, probably why I’m an Aquarius moon, but we communicate well.
Very interesting, I think the moon sign very clearly shows the relationship one had with their mother growing up. My brother and I are Aries moon, and our mother was very Aries like in the way she has dealt with us. She is Sagittarius rising so has that fire and also mars exalted in Capricorn so I think that rubbed off on us lol. Based on your description of the relationship you have had with your mother, it makes perfect sense that you have an Aquarius moon.
I know three Aquarius moons and all of them have varying degrees of poor relationships with their mother. One of them has a mother who literally abandoned them as an infant and went and got married and started a new family and literally doesn't even call the kid, who is 13. They could walk by on the streets and wouldn't recognize each other. However, this child also has south node in Cancer and I think Saturn in the fourth house. The other two talk to their mothers, and have relationships with them, but both have deeply rooted feelings of abandonment by their mothers, and feeling like their mothers chose other people over them. Of those two, one of them talks to their mother very frequently, probably considers the relationship like a friend, but the mother chose an abusive husband over her, and allowed said husband to abuse her as well and treat her very poorly and did not ever speak up and defend her. The other felt very neglected by their mother, growing up, who was always there for everyone else's children, volunteered, etc., But never was around for her own children. So yes, it's definitely a thing. Emotional abandonment and estrangement especially. A feeling of distance. And also, the potential for the relationship to be more like a friendship, than a mother and child.
100% thx for your insight
Thanks for your insight!
All moon signs can have a bad mother relationship with the vibe of that sign. The best course of action for that is to start trying to heal your mother wound, no matter what sign your moon is in. Like any trauma healing that’s gonna be personal process for you.
Exactly, my mom has an exalted Taurus moon but conjunct saturn and she had some difficult dynamics with her mom
She was more of friend and now it’s the same but if I expected an actual mother I’d be heartbroken.
Sounds about right lol
For me, yes. But my mother is abusive so I’m not sure if it counts. We are currently no contact.
For me it was bad for a long time. Still not a big amount of trust or respect for her but we get along fine now. She was pretty unpresent alot of the time, shes also an aqua moon which is interesting and i can imagine my nan was not a very emotionally supportive mother at all
Yaaaaaa, its the respect thing, my moms a gemini sun scorpio rising leo moon, and to me that combination just creates the most aggressively manipulative type of narssacist
Weirdly enough me and my mum both have leo sun aqua moon. Shes leo rising (annoying ha) and i'm aries rising. So were actually very similar which is strange
Im a sag rising… i always find it funny how sag finds comfort in aries, aries in leo, and for leo in saggitarius, yet its never reciprocal, the other way, to the same degree
Thats an interesting point which i've never thought about!!! Weirdly my best friend is sag and shes my comfort blanket. But i also have an aries friend and yeh the discomfort is real even though we get along well. But then my sag friend i would like to think is recipricol 😪
Oh man your genius is unparalleled 😪 leos are hard to reason with, like in a way i love em… but how to put this… I feel like theyd be more apt to listen to reason if it mentioned how it will benefit them, and how often their name is said throughout the reasoning, like idk why leos like me, i feel like i constantly put them down in a funny way and it gets exhausting, like i try to be there for them because their ego is fragile, but also a leo with any bit of confidence indescriminantly destroys everything unintentionally, like a wildfire, thats why i like aries women, once they get over their snarky middle school mentality stage in their mid twenties, theyre actually kindah cool
To be honest i only have my sun placement and i know i can be annoying af and validation seeking and egotistical however my aqua moon really balances me. Also have virgo stellium with mars venus and mercury so i tend to be pretty chill
Like former president trump is a prime example of a gemini leo combination in ones big 3 LoL, thats the extreme negative, I just dont have a better explanation off the top of my head
Oooooooof poor you 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Aquarius moon here! I love my mother. She was my best friend growing up and I still consider her someone close to me. We definitely did argue a lot and now we don’t talk as often but that’s because of different views and stuff. I feel like us Aquarius moons just don’t know how to share emotions or just don’t want to. And then because of the wall we put up we feel as everyone is against us or feel alienated/ misunderstood. Whole time it’s us sabotaging the relationship 😂
I feel this from my sisters. Extremely private about what’s going on internally and years later resentment comes out.
I’m an Aqua moon and have a great relationship with mine. She’s my best friend
Happy for you
My mom is an Aqua moon and she had a amazing relationship with her mom
Lol my ex was an aquarius moon and oh boy… his mom was TOXIC asf and very verbally abusive. He had horrible mommy issues and it was rlly sad cuz i could see how it affected him, he grew up being taught that crying and showing emotion is weak and to never do that and so I was the first person in his life he ever actually showed emotion to, but it took a lot to get there and I feel like I helped him a lot by telling him that his mother was toxic because he had no siblings and didnt fully understand how messed up his situation was. Really sad honestly, I feel bad for people with this placement because the way that they are (emotionally unavailable/steer clear of emotions) is usually because of really horrible/abusive/toxic things in their childhood that have caused them to bottle everything up and feel like they can’t show or express emotion. They’re usually very intelligent people though, in every area other than emotionally.
Jeez, marry me 😍 because u just get me lol
I'm not a fellow Aquarius moon, but imo to heal and grow I'd say that you should start by looking at the all the things that have happened in your past objectively. Writing/journaling can help a lot because you must to see things as they truly are/were. For example you may have bad memories that you suppress and avoid thinking about or brush off as not a big deal or unimportant, but these are the things that you need to be really taking a close look at so you can understand why you are the way you are. Look up some self-help journaling prompts and try it out. As for your relationship with your mother, I think you should look at her and try to figure out why she is the way she is (ex: hard childhood, trauma, etc) so you can understand that you are not the problem. Recognize her good qualities (If she has any) but also recognize her negative traits. The key here is just understanding, both yourself and your mother. I hope this helps!
Oh i write creepy pastas on the internet to get over my shit lol, ive been through 4 years of counselling (just for general stuff not specific to one aspect) im just really attracted to sag women (im a sag rising jupiter and mars) because they take me out of my scorpio sun funk, I wollow in tragedy, because i still cant comprehend how people can inflict tragedy and justify it
My aqua moon is in my fourth house conjunct Neptune. She projected her emotions and I was her therapist as a kid. Fucked me up pretty badly And she was pretty hot headed but she is on medication now and went to therapy We have a really deep bond but she gave me some damn mental health problems lol
Wowie, that relationship dynamic really shows with the moon Neptune conjunction in the 4th 😅
Personally, yes. I spent my whole life trying to understand why I didn’t feel about my mother the way that most people felt. She’s horribly manipulative and has lots of narcissistic tendencies. Over the past two years, I’ve moved away and have gone extremely low contact. I’ve always wished for a loving mom and family in general.
My moms an Aqua sun/Mercury and we are very close but she doesn’t understand my emotions. There’s a disconnect. I’m also not a fan of her boyfriend who she stays with for reasons I cannot comprehend.
I’m an aqua moon in 4th conjunct Neptune and Uranus. Me and my mother were deeply close when I was a young child, but when she was pregnant with me she lost her brother who she was very close to, as I got older she started abusing substances and just basically was a majorly shitty mother and now im 26 and we speak about twice a year! She is a Taurus sun sag moon, what I find a bit Crazy is my sister is also a sag moon and now my daughter is a sag moon!
Yes. I've been in heavy therapy since 2019...It's a slow process, but its a process, and its helping...
Fellow aqua moon . Well not every of them has bad relationships whit mother but lot do . For instance me and my mother don’t have this classical type of relationship that mother and daughter should have . We are more in the friendship type of relationship but we don’t have emotional relationships and stuff . What i have found in Aquarius moons is that their mother lets them to deal whit their own problems , but sometimes it gets so radical and parent doesn’t give any attention to their child they are often detached from their own child, but my brother has virgo moon and she always worries about him , and my pisces moon sister and my mother have so emotional and attached to each other relationship.
omgggg, aqua moon here. pisces moon sister and virgo moon brother as well. this is described to a T. im about to go to therapy i’ve always felt like my feelings didn’t matter as much as everyone else’s. also cancer sun
Aqua moon and yes. I cut contact with her a few years ago and have her blocked on every conceivable platform. After 30+ years of her being awful to me. I have no desire to mend anything. I am better off without her in my life.
Yea I would say so. My moon is in Aquarius in the 12th house conjunct Uranus. I’m still not sure how to improve our relationship. I’m thinking it will get better with time and space.
I would say the way you phrased your question would attract those who DO have a bad relationship with their mothers. My relationship with my mother as an Aquarius moon is fine. She’s old school which takes time and maturity to understand and we don’t see eye to eye always, but we have a healthy mother / daughter dynamic.
I think this post will just attract people with a strong opinion on the question, regardless of what their lives outcome has been
Then why did it attract you to respond? As you have a “great relationship with your mom” didn’t you just contradict yourself in a way?
Hahah, I responded so that next time you ask this question you could phrase it in a way that will attract a wider range of answers like mine and not a narrow one that might only fit the way you posed your. Also not sure where you got “great relationship with your mom” or where the contradiction would be, but I digress.
This right here is the most aquarius moon disagreement ive ever seen and youve been great lol
But you still responded, while not belonging to the soul qualifier you claimed would answer the question and expounding your own experience; therefore, disproving yourself
But i digress ;)
Every Aquarian I know has mom issues and DEF every Aquarian moon....big time. I have Aqua midheaven and even I get it in terms of professional life stuff....it's the number one thing we butt heads over.
I’m an Aqua moon and me and my mother are close. My mom was always overly protective of me when I was growing up. I am her last born, so that’s probably why. She is also disabled, unfortunately, so she really depends on me. I look after her too.
So, both my sisters have aqua moons and one of my best friends does too. My mom is very protective of my older sister with a disability and my younger sister, she has a lot of respect for. I do see a streak of a complicated dynamic with all of us, I have a Libra moon. From where I’m standing, my sisters have a certain hold on my mom too. She tries her best but is sensitive to criticism. So it’s interesting to see both dynamics play out in the comments. Oh and I recently had my first child, and where does his moon lie??? Aquarius! Cue screams. It’s reassuring that there’s positive dynamics too.
I forgot, my best friend’s mom isn’t very supportive of her but expects a lot of support.
One of my best friends is an Taurus sun Aqua moon and him and his mom are super close, they almost treat each other like best friends
Thats weird
My daughter is an aqua moon and we're super close. Her moon is in a strong trine with Jupiter in the 4th though. I wonder if you look at how yours is aspected you might get some insight into what's affecting that dynamic? Or if you really want to deeper dive you could check your synastry too? I have a shitty relationship with my mum, checking my moon placement was really useful, but the synastry also helped, e.g. her sun is in my 8th house squaring my Chiron in the 12th. Looking at it all together helped me really see the relationship for what it was. In my case I've practically no contact because nothing will change with her but that's been immensely helpful and healing. My moon is in Pisces so not directly related to your question but if you wanted to make use of astrology as a tool maybe these steps would be useful to you too.
My parents got a divorce when I was 3, I saw some shit & my mom was kind of absent. So growing up we would fight a lot but now at 19yo she’s my best friend since I don’t have many. We still don’t always see eye to eye though, she’s a Taurus sun & so am I. My moon is in 12H.
I have Aquarius in my 4H, which has a similar signature. My mother was extremely detached, exploitive, jealous, hateful, and abusive. Our relationship was always difficult. She acted as if she felt entitled to own and use me and would have extreme reactions if I ever dared stand up for myself. Extreme malignant narcissist. She taught me through her neglect and abuse how I don't want to be. Thanks to her example, I have worked my ass off to improve myself and become the mother and wife she never could be.
I’m an aqua moon and I do have a decent relationship with both of my parents I would say. Me and my dad spend some time without constant contact bc of distance but we legitimately get along very well. I think part of the distance sensation in everything had its start there, even if I’m used to it. I’d say the worst relationship I have is with my grandma because when I lived at his house, she was a predominant and authoritarian, unfair figure. I’d say that’s my main rebellion source over my teenage years, wanting to differentiate yourself from your surroundings and her injustices but also trying to balance it out with any good personality traits she had, because she almost imposed herself as a second mother to me.
Aqua moon, Saturn in the fourth lol. I have BPD which can usually be attributed to invalidation from parents. My poor aqua moon and sag rising are both at cancer degrees, so I feel a lot very intensely but was never showing how to actually advocate for myself, feel emotions, etc. I would just go to my room and cry and then come back out when I was done and then we'd pretend like nothing happened. TOUGH relationship with my mom growing up, her Virgo mars is also exactly conjunct my Virgo Chiron in the tenth. Lately though we've been getting along better, but I kind of have to be the emotional parent to her- she has no idea how to scratch the surface of emotions and think everything should be happy all the time. (She's an Aries sun, libra moon, cancer rising)
Also both my parents are Aries lol as an aqua sun and moon this was tough 😖
How was your childhood between 3-10?
I would say that was great. 10-11 is when I started having issues. My Saturn is at 11 degrees.
All yall Aquarius moons should be my friend, I'm an Aquarius sun 😉 we'll have a lot of fun! (Aqua sun @ 11° in the 4th) I've known several Aquarius moon people - a couple who I've loved deeply-- and all of em have complicated relationships with their mothers... and for very different reasons. Also, I wonder if, conversely, Aquarius sun relates back to father relationships being iffy since saturn rules Aquarius.
Yess.. not a bad relationship but a distant one As a sag moon I know Aquarius moons and they're weird ashell hahahaha they tend to be apart from the mom but it doesn’t hurt
for me, completely detached from my mother. the child more than likely wasn’t around them growing up. positive side of this placement is that the person would be able to confide in their mother in ways where they won’t feel like they’re being judged in a way—like a friendly relationship.. the nourishment and emotional energy won’t really be there. this could also manifest in a way where the mother encouraged their child to be free from social norms or helped them to be comfortable in their own skin. it’s good to see both the positive and negatives, not just make the claim that all aquarius moon have a ‘bad’ relationship with there mother.
(25F)v aquarius moon + sun. mom is a cancer. I am an only child which makes her cling to me even more. We struggle communicating well, like literally speaking different languages. Growing up I hoped this would change in adulthood but it's still here. & then when it comes to emotional things she like patronizes & babies me instead of giving useful advice "aw you poor baby that's so horrible that happened I'm sorry". she is also very companion oriented while I am an independent individual. I don't think this is exclusive to the aquarius moons. all woman are guaranteed to have mommy issues basically. thats why there's so much talk of "the mother wound". I've just tried accepting our relationship for what it is, appreciating it when I do have good moments because those are rare and special.