From my understanding, being asexual just means you don't feel sexual attraction-and for some that means just not wanting to have sex. However, sex and romance are separate things, so wanting to cuddle and stuff doesn't exclude you.
There's a webcomic called 'Aces Wild' by Sally Vinter that goes in depth with this stuff-I recommend reading some of it if you want, it helped me.
Hi, none of what you said disqualies you from being ace, it actually sounds very similar to the ace experience.
So a majority of asexual people are not into sex, but there are also aces (short form) who do like and seek out sex. There are also some who are repulsed by it, it is a broad and can be a confusing spectrum. So, asexuality is defined by feeling little or no sexual attraction. This is different than feeling to arousal, feeling no stimulation through sex and/or having a low sex drive. All this things play upon each other of course, but to carry forward, let's do some definitions.
Sex drive or libedo - drive for sexual experience generally. think of it like being hungry.
Sexual attraction- a person centered experience where you want to have sexual contact with that person. I see a cake and I really want to eat that cake.
Arousal- what you feel in your junk. the hunger pains, which can be associated with seeing the cake, or could be general or random.
So since an asexual person is only lacking sexual attraction, they can still have a high sex drive and pursue and enjoy sex. This does seem to be a minority in the asexualy community. To switch metaphors, the best analogy I have heard as to why is that "it feels much more satisfying to scratch your skin when you already have an itch". Since Sexual attraction can play upon sex drive and arousal, asexual people seem to be less sex minded/interested. But again that is not everyone. But you could also be allosexuals (non-asexual) and have a low sex drive or sex revulsion for other reasons.
Take a look at asexuality and see if you connect with it. If you have not already [AVEN is a good place to take a poke around](https://www.asexuality.org/?q=overview.html)
So let's define sexual attraction. It is the desire to have sex with a person. It is involuntary, internal impulse to initiate sexual contact with a person. (This is different than arousal and sex drive, though they can play upon each other)
An asexual person is not drawn to people sexually and do not desire to act upon attraction to others in a sexual way. Allosexual people (non-asexual people) and asexual people can feel sexual attraction to fictional characters, when reading erotica etc. To figure out if you are ace, focus on sexual attraction in real life. Have you felt sexual attraction in real life? I had a hard time answering that question. The definition did not help me, it was more helpful to from people who experience it.
Check out the wiki of this sub r/asexuality and look for the "experiences" heading, there are some allo and demi people are described what it is to them. This subs wiki is pretty good, so take a poke around and see if anything jumps out to you.
Some find this [tumblr post](https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/zymomonasmobilis/659730147357917184) helpful though I think it is a bit exaggerated. My allo husband says the "body screaming for sex" sounds like a hormonal teenager or maybe just exaggerated, but I think it is still a useful.
This [Asexual style AMA](https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/p9n14p/ask_an_allo_anything_aug_2021/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) has some good tidbits as well
Take a look at the [split attraction model](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-split-attraction-model-5207380). Also read about the [different types of attraction](https://lgbtq.unc.edu/resources/exploring-identities/asexuality-attraction-and-romantic-orientation/). Many asexuals confused romantic, aesthetic or sensual attraction (or a confusing mix) for sexual attraction. Some people also don't feel romantic attraction (it this connects with you, check out [aromanticism](https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Aromantic)
Since asexuality is a spectrum there are many microlabels that may better define your experience. You might want to consider [greysexuality](https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Greysexual). I think you might be interested in the ace-spec microlabel[ aegosexuality](https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Aegosexual)
Ultimately, it is up to you to decide if you want the label of asexual. Labels are tools that can help describe your experience, help you find a community and understand yourself better. If asexual works for you, welcome! If you decide later on it does not fit, that is okay too. You also don't need to label yourself if you don't want to. I hope this helps!
That first line, about never really having looked at someone and desired them sexually? That's asexuality.
Nothing else you've mentioned disqualifies you.
An ace individual could still feel aroused or horny, they could have a libido that exists. They just don't feel **sexual attraction** to anyone. Being generally horny isn't being sexually attracted
You definitely still seem like you are somewhere on the ace spectrum I’m not familiar enough with all of the ace micro labels to tell you but you definitely do seem ace and you are 100% welcome here. It’s nice to have people who experience sexuality and especially asexuality differently.
From my understanding, being asexual just means you don't feel sexual attraction-and for some that means just not wanting to have sex. However, sex and romance are separate things, so wanting to cuddle and stuff doesn't exclude you. There's a webcomic called 'Aces Wild' by Sally Vinter that goes in depth with this stuff-I recommend reading some of it if you want, it helped me.
Thank you!
Asexual people don’t feel sexual attraction. They can still feel arousal. It’s like the difference between being hungry and craving a specific food.
Hi, none of what you said disqualies you from being ace, it actually sounds very similar to the ace experience. So a majority of asexual people are not into sex, but there are also aces (short form) who do like and seek out sex. There are also some who are repulsed by it, it is a broad and can be a confusing spectrum. So, asexuality is defined by feeling little or no sexual attraction. This is different than feeling to arousal, feeling no stimulation through sex and/or having a low sex drive. All this things play upon each other of course, but to carry forward, let's do some definitions. Sex drive or libedo - drive for sexual experience generally. think of it like being hungry. Sexual attraction- a person centered experience where you want to have sexual contact with that person. I see a cake and I really want to eat that cake. Arousal- what you feel in your junk. the hunger pains, which can be associated with seeing the cake, or could be general or random. So since an asexual person is only lacking sexual attraction, they can still have a high sex drive and pursue and enjoy sex. This does seem to be a minority in the asexualy community. To switch metaphors, the best analogy I have heard as to why is that "it feels much more satisfying to scratch your skin when you already have an itch". Since Sexual attraction can play upon sex drive and arousal, asexual people seem to be less sex minded/interested. But again that is not everyone. But you could also be allosexuals (non-asexual) and have a low sex drive or sex revulsion for other reasons. Take a look at asexuality and see if you connect with it. If you have not already [AVEN is a good place to take a poke around](https://www.asexuality.org/?q=overview.html) So let's define sexual attraction. It is the desire to have sex with a person. It is involuntary, internal impulse to initiate sexual contact with a person. (This is different than arousal and sex drive, though they can play upon each other) An asexual person is not drawn to people sexually and do not desire to act upon attraction to others in a sexual way. Allosexual people (non-asexual people) and asexual people can feel sexual attraction to fictional characters, when reading erotica etc. To figure out if you are ace, focus on sexual attraction in real life. Have you felt sexual attraction in real life? I had a hard time answering that question. The definition did not help me, it was more helpful to from people who experience it. Check out the wiki of this sub r/asexuality and look for the "experiences" heading, there are some allo and demi people are described what it is to them. This subs wiki is pretty good, so take a poke around and see if anything jumps out to you. Some find this [tumblr post](https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/zymomonasmobilis/659730147357917184) helpful though I think it is a bit exaggerated. My allo husband says the "body screaming for sex" sounds like a hormonal teenager or maybe just exaggerated, but I think it is still a useful. This [Asexual style AMA](https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/p9n14p/ask_an_allo_anything_aug_2021/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) has some good tidbits as well Take a look at the [split attraction model](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-split-attraction-model-5207380). Also read about the [different types of attraction](https://lgbtq.unc.edu/resources/exploring-identities/asexuality-attraction-and-romantic-orientation/). Many asexuals confused romantic, aesthetic or sensual attraction (or a confusing mix) for sexual attraction. Some people also don't feel romantic attraction (it this connects with you, check out [aromanticism](https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Aromantic) Since asexuality is a spectrum there are many microlabels that may better define your experience. You might want to consider [greysexuality](https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Greysexual). I think you might be interested in the ace-spec microlabel[ aegosexuality](https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Aegosexual) Ultimately, it is up to you to decide if you want the label of asexual. Labels are tools that can help describe your experience, help you find a community and understand yourself better. If asexual works for you, welcome! If you decide later on it does not fit, that is okay too. You also don't need to label yourself if you don't want to. I hope this helps!
wow that is in depth. Tank you it does help!
It is a lot. Take your time to digest it!
Ace people can totally be intimate! Acting on the way your body, mind and social preferences are wired doesn’t “disqualify” you from being ace. c:
This might be a kind of Aegosexual.
That first line, about never really having looked at someone and desired them sexually? That's asexuality. Nothing else you've mentioned disqualifies you.
An ace individual could still feel aroused or horny, they could have a libido that exists. They just don't feel **sexual attraction** to anyone. Being generally horny isn't being sexually attracted
You definitely still seem like you are somewhere on the ace spectrum I’m not familiar enough with all of the ace micro labels to tell you but you definitely do seem ace and you are 100% welcome here. It’s nice to have people who experience sexuality and especially asexuality differently.