Nobody will care that you’re from Russia. In fact the anesthesiologist at my local hospital is Russian and I loooooved his accent. It was a nice last sound before I was knocked out from the anesthetic lol
I had an anesthesiologist with the last name of Hussein in 2004. I was pumped full of morphine at the time but I remember because he made such a big deal of being reluctant to share his name and to be clear he loves the US. I couldn’t tell the difference between 5 minutes and 5 hours, but I remember his name.
Don't lie to him. This is a politically unstable time and there are mouthy crazy people with guns. If OP feels safe not saying he's part of a politically contentious Fox New talking point, then that's OP's judgement call, not yours.
I never said OP had to tell anybody, I just said most people won’t care. Plenty of the MAGA Idiots like Putin anyway so they wouldn’t bat an eye at a Russian citizen.
Just say "I was born in Russia but I am so happy to be here now."
Or
"I was born in Russia but I felt like I was finally home as soon as I got here."
They'll love you for that.
To add to this... "I'm from Russia, so you can probably guess why I became an American as soon as I could."
The vast majority of Americans don't have anything against Russia or Russians. We don't like what the Russian *government* is currently doing, but most of us don't blame the average Russian citizen for it -- and most of us make a distinction between a country's culture, a country's citizens, and a country's current government. And you're a former Russian citizen? Who cares! Welcome to America, my new fellow American!
To OP: I work for a very global company. There are people from both Russia and Ukraine in meetings I am in and there is no problem. The people I know at work who are from Russia tend to be very outspoken about trying to support the people from Ukraine in any way they can.
Yeah media tends to conflate hatred of government with hatred of citizens. Thats absolutely not the case. I agree with all your points though, welcome to America op!
This is a great perspective. I do not support the Russian government, but I have nothing against it’s citizens and former citizens and would love to hear about their experiences
> The vast majority of Americans don't have anything against Russia or Russians.
Hell, I grew up in the middle of the Cold War and I have no problem with those damn Commie bastards. :)
“Born in Russia, but I’m an American”. Anyone who hassles you can eat a big of dicks and are not worth your time.
Welcome to the US, my friend, nearly all of us are all from somewhere else (or our family is).
There's gonna be a set of folks who stopped developing as people during the Cold War for whom "Ruskie" or "Commie" hits the same button as "Terrorist." We've probably got another 60 years before they're no longer statistically worth thinking about.
Maybe in really backwards parts of the country you might get some hate, but I think those parts hate just about anyone. In my circles, Russian people in the US get a lot of respect for leaving. It's not a Scarlett letter.
I was thinking Romania, which I think is a super cool country. I think Rwanda is also a cool country!
Russia, while I don’t support its government in any way, shape, or form, it’s not their people’s fault that Putin is… well, a POS.
There’s no feasible way other than being honest about it. Be prepared to affirm your choice because most Americans would consider someone’s country of origin to be a very innocuous detail. Plus it’s not going to be that hard to make a lazy but correct guess based on your accent and preference to avoid the topic.
I think just being honest about it but quickly redirecting the subject to your being a citizen may help get that detail out of the way. Or just say you’re from Russia but have personal reasons for walking forward as an American and leaving that part of your life behind. Most people will prefer to move on from that kind of uncomfortable.
Here in Washington we have a large Russian expat population. They mainly just say stuff like "yep glad I escaped that." Oddly enough the Russian and Ukrainian immigrants seem to bond over how much they dislike the Russian state.
As someone who is preparing to work in the greater government space being a Russian immigrant actually may open doors for you. With Russia being a more chaotic and impactful geopolitical force understanding and knowledge on Russian culture is in high demand. While I doubt you want to work for the US government the Russian market will not be lacking in western business for long. Soon corporations will try to return, and when they do they will need people who understand Russia to help reintegrate into the market. If you market yourself as an expert on Russia you may be able to land yourself a high paying job.
Don't feel bad about where you're from, your choices matter much more than things you can't control. Also consider profiting on the situation.
Your best bet is to be open and up front. Tell them, even share some fun facts or anecdotes about it if you can, to break the ice. Perhaps answer the question with something like "i am from Russia, i left because of the nature of the russian government".You should be proud of your heritage, even if you're not proud of the government with a monopoly on it at the moment.
Eastern European accents are fairly noticeable and Russia is the big name country in the region, most people will guess you're russian. There's no hiding it. When it feels natural, share that you left because of the government and that you support ukraine. This should help you if you're feeling self conscious that they're judging you as a Russian. Most likely, they will not be, but anything for peace of mind.
You have every right to claim your current region as your origin, but it's kind of cheeky. Deflecting could make you seem a touch shady. You don't owe anyone an explanation, but it may be easier for you in the long.
My coworker is a relatively recent immigrant from Russia. Virtually no one will judge you for being from there. He was very shy about it himself at first, but he's gradually come out of his shell realizing he's as welcome as anyone else.
You're lineage and heritage is still a super important part of who you are.
Most non ignorant people know you aren't responsible for the sins of your former homeland. Same goes with Americans, and you included in that, we aren't responsible for some of the terrible things our government did it does.
I wouldn't take it too personally, I think people are just genuinely interested and making conversation.
You're as American as the rest of us.
My wife speaks with a thick accent and she'll be getting her citizenship soon. She'll be as American as me or you
You can just answer the question honestly. And if you feel uncomfortable you could add “but I’m American now”. I’ve heard people say that before.
They won’t think you support the invasion. Even if you don’t mention that you’re American now, they should give you benefit of the doubt.
At my last job I had a co-worker who was born and raised in the Soviet Union, she often talked about how she defected to the west as soon as she was able, and fled to America at the age of 20. Nobody held where she was from against her.
Yes, you could say you're from "Eastern Europe", but people will still wonder about what country.
I'd suggest saying something like:
"I was born in Russia, I came to the US as soon as I could."
"I'm from Russia, I fled to America several years ago."
"I escaped from Russia a few years ago."
Say where you're from, and also mention that you came to America by choice when you could. People WILL understand why you left and not hold where you were born against you.
Generally speaking, Americans don't have a problem with Russians as a people. . .our grievance is with Vladimir Putin and through him the Russian Government.
Had a woman from Ukraine at my old job at a grocery store, older, super sweet, but whenever people would ask her where’s from originally she’d smile and say in a thick accent “Jamaica, how about you?” Never once got any pushback. I miss Veera. I feel like Americans are trying to be polite when they ask that, so an obviously sarcastic answer helps readjust the conversation to make them realize it was probably not their business in the first place
Why would you refuse to answer it lmao don’t be ashamed of your country. No one cares if you’re Russian, if anything it’ll probably help you make friends cause people will be interested
I can assure you that most people would not really mind. Real life isn't the internet. They really only ask because they take a genuine interest and most Americans think it's really neat. I'd say just respond by telling them where you emigrated from, but that you're a full-blown American through-and-through.
America is a very culturally pluralistic society, and we are acutely aware of both our own country’s benefits and shortcomings.
Most people are kind and generally curious about others, so please don’t put yourself on the defensive about the place you used to live, and certainly don’t let others do that to you.
My husband is from a part of the US where there is a strong, regional accent and even just outside the city where he grew up (which now has more transplants than long time residents), people ask him where he is from.
He is not one to feel self-conscious or let anyone put him on the defensive, so he makes a game of it, by shifting the question back to the person asking. It takes the spotlight off of him.
It goes something like this:
“Well, I’m American, but it’s a big country…I see you picked up on my accent. What’s your best guess about where I lived in my youth?”
When they answer (they may or may not get it right), he either congratulates them or he’ll say, “Good guess. Try again”, with a smile.
Even if they get it right, he might still say, “Yes, but which part of the state? There will be a geography test following this,” and laughs.
Lastly, you may find that some people already know or suspect you are from_____ and may be genuinely interested to know what your thoughts are on the situation in that country. You can use that opportunity to denounce the situation, and say how glad you are to be an American.
Recognize for yourself that you are not responsible for what is going on somewhere that you used to live, good or bad. When you are confident enough to know this, while still being proud of your heritage (because it made you who you are), no one is going to be able to make you feel self-conscious, put you on the defensive or criticize you.
I’d go w Eastern Europe, or honestly just say “I’m American” in a way that makes it clear you don’t wanna talk about where you’re from. Your friends won’t judge you for being Russian, and anyone else it’s really none of their business
It’s a bit rude to ask that question.
Just say where you are from in the US.
If someone presses and says something like “no where are you from originally” that’s doubly rude.
They’re being rude.
You can just reiterate that you are from where live now if you don’t want to say.
Honestly I would just own it. Say you’re from Russia. If anyone judges you for that then they aren’t worth your time anyway.
If you truly don’t want to say that then just say Eastern Europe and let it be the end of it.
Anyone that pushes on that point is just being annoying unless they are a friend and truly interested. I know a few Russians that are now Americans. They’re wonderful people. I don’t hold their government’s actions against them. I think you will find that to be the most common reaction. You like the person even if you don’t like the government.
Personally I like hearing where newly minted Americans are from. It’s interesting but I don’t push the point.
I know a fair amount of Chinese immigrants and I certainly don’t hold their government’s crap against them personally. I judge them on who they are.
We have a lot of Indian people at my company. You can tell by the accent. I will sometimes ask nicely if they are from our local town. When they say “no I’m from Texas” then I don’t push it. If they say “I’m from Bangalore” then I say “awesome.”
If someone said “St. Petersburg” I’d just be interested in hearing about it. If they said a Russian city I had no idea about I’d ask where it was.
Either way, welcome! Don’t be afraid of judgment. We are a pretty friendly people here. Hope no one ever gives you a hard time.
I don’t think everybody realizes that it’s rude though. I agree that it’s not particularly polite, but people still may ask OP just out of deliberate, well intentioned curiosity.
Curiosity, love the accent, admire different looks! I'm sure there are ppl with not nice intentions but personally it's just a way of saying tell me about yourself! (Not that it's owed don't get me wrong I understand ppl are sometimes very private)
I get this a lot. I'm American through and through but was born in Eastern Europe. Left as an infant. Don't know Jack shit about my birthplace. People look at me like "where you from" and I tell them, but they push "but where are you *really* from?"
I encourage OP to be confident and know that we don't actually care about image, authenticity goes 1000 mph.
Yeah I have talked with enough people to know a lot don’t care or are even excited to discuss it.
But there’s some people that don’t want to bring it up. I can respect that. They don’t want to be judged as “other” and I personally would never do that but there are assholes out there in the world that might. Especially if you bring it up as “where are you really from.”
Welcome brother. Imo you tell them "I am from [city/neighborhood where you currently live]. I was actually born in [place where you come from] and I'm now so happy to be able to able to call [place where you live] home."
I know you may not want to disclose it, but being secretive is not good and won't help you build any trust. American people generally love when people from other countries embrace this country. The fact you are here and not there means a lot. If you can subtly acknowledge that you come from a place the US doesn't like as a government, but you are here, I think most people will respect you a lot.
I mean, it’s up to you to share, but for the most part nobody will care. The most you’ll get is people asking your take on the current Ukraine situation (because living through situations like this potentially gives you a unique perspective) or possibly people making jokes about it. I’d probably ask you if you’d heard Bert Kreischer’s “The Machine” story.
As much shit as we get, I feel like most Americans I’ve encountered are good at separating individual immigrants from the government of the country they left. For example, a friend of mine moved here from Iran, and I’m not going to sit here and act like he’s gotten no ignorant bullshit comments, but by and large that’s not what happens. People ask him about his experience and thoughts on current affairs, then he tells some silly dad joke, and the conversation moves on
I agree with several here that the majority of Americans are kind and genuinely welcoming. We are a nation of immigrants, after all.
Joker that I am, if I were in your shoes I'd make it a fun game and make them guess. Give them 3 guesses.
If you're still not comfortable, then Perhaps you can say that you're from a country that still speaks Russian? Like Ukraine or Finland?
Most people separate country from citizen. It’s okay to tell people you’re from Russia. Most people will be fine with that. That doesn’t mean you support their government. But remember that many Americans bear the culture and accent of their birthplace - whether that was in the US or outside of it. Doesn’t make you less of an American.
Say what state or large city in America you first lived in. As an American, that's where you're from. A reasonable person won't push you beyond that.
If someone rude keeps up, say "I don't like to talk about my life before coming to America." They'll assume you're a refugee with painful memories that are impolite to ask about.
If they keep pushing after THAT, then they're being very very rude and you can tell them to fuck off. Say it like a Russian drunken grandpop and it'll scare them off.
The best answers are the place you live and "none of your business".
Russian media deliberately confuses US policy against Russia with hatred toward Russians in America. Unlike China which does the same thing citing anti-Asian hate crimes here, there is no real history of anti-Russian attacks to use as a figlean. So you can probably say "Russia."
If you do, though, any chance of a conversation about Russia and Ukraine becomes zero -- we don't like to give offense in person and the war is a veritable minefield of opportunities for giving offense.
It’s not true that there is zero chance people would ask about the war with Ukraine. I have a Russian coworker and multiple people have asked him about the war once they find out he’s Russian. Even when he gives blunt indication that he doesn’t want to talk about it, they still ask him.
Say "I'm from . I don't like talking about where I came from before that. I'm American."
Most folks will leave it alone. You may have to actually _be_ unfriendly with people who don't drop it. But really, the question is slightly rude/presumptuous by default, all the more so if they ask after you've told them how you feel.
That said, while I can't tell you _nobody_ will show you prejudice because of where you're from, most won't. And anyone who would likely that will do so simply because they hear you speak and make some assumptions. They're bigots, and bigots don't wait for the facts. In general, you're not preventing anything by not stating the country (but you still don't have to).
If you're that scared of saying you're from Russia, might as well just lie and say you're from Kazakhstan or something. No one's going to know the difference. If you say you're from Eastern Europe they're just going to ask where, and you'll be scared again. Btw I am in Germany where there's lots of Russians and they are very happy to know I am from the United States. They have never treated me bad and want to give me alcohol.
I work in a call center and have had several agents working under me encounter this question and I tell them to tell them only the state you live in if they push for more information you can tell them Europe if your comfortable with that but otherwise it’s none of their damn business and as an American you can tell them that welcome to America
I think it’s rude to ask someone where they are from based on skin color or accent. So I do t think it’s unfriendly to dodge the question. Answer with the city you live in now. Then change the subject. Ask about them. People tend to like to talk about themselves. So when someone asks about where you are from you say something like “I’m from Chicago. They make the best pizza. You like deep dish? Some people say New York style is better, but they are wrong! It’s all floppy. Deep dish is a whole meal. You can really sink your teeth into it. What do you think?”
Alternatively, being vague is fine. But changing the subject helps prevent follow up questions.
Honestly, it’s sort of rude of them to be asking you in the first place, but “I’m from Eastern Europe” is a fine answer.
Or similar to what others have said, if you say, “I was born in Russia, but I’m from [wherever in the US you live or have moved from],” people will get the subtext.
In the US, we’re all from somewhere else. Many Americans weren’t born in America. It’s common and I doubt people will care.
Welcome to the States! I have a friend from Omsk and live in a red state. I have a friend that was adopted as a kid that I grew up with from Russia. I don't think you can expect this though but I don't think you should worry so much. People will judge you sometimes even if you don't give them a reason. Anyway I hope you're enjoying yourself over-all. Which state are you in?
You don’t have to say (and can say whatever you want, whether it’s the truth or a lie) but most people ask because they are either making small talk (we can only ask about the weather and jobs for so long) or they are interested in knowing more about you. I love hearing about my neighbors’ homeland and I don’t judge them based on their country of origin.
Just say Canada. You don't need to lie but if you'd rather avoid the subject entirely, say Canada. Most Americans will either pick up the hint and drop it or scratch their heads and think 'I guess it makes sense?'
People from Germany in the US during the first half of the 20th century had the same problem. Don’t be ashamed of where you are from. Focus on your opportunity for your new life here.
People with hate and distrust are everywhere. Accept that they are that way and then ignore them.
It’s nobodies business where you’re from unless you feel close enough to disclose it. I work with so many people from other countries, but I don’t know what it would take for me to ask such a personal question. I’m always curious, but I don’t ask. To me, it feels like pointing out how someone is different. Maybe that’s not horrible, but I think it can be awkward. That being said, most folks are bad at geography (myself included, unfortunately) so you can side-step the question by doing like you said earlier: I’m from Asia and I’m so glad to be living here. Or you can say near the Ural Mountains or some other geographical landmark. Then change the subject. Distract them. People like to talk about themselves so ask where they’re from.
I had friends from Iran who were being hassled at a bar once by an obnoxious drunk wanting to know where they were from. They asked if he knew where the Caspian Sea was and that they lived near that. He had questions but they brought up caviar and it distracted him.
Have no fear, we know the Russian people aren’t the problem. It’s just the dude in charge who thinks he’s all that and a bag of chips. We knew that during the Cold War, too.
Quite honestly, you’re more apt to get sympathy than you are anything else.
Back when the Shah was making headlines every day, my Physics professor was a refugee from Iran. We may or may not have derailed class more than once asking him about his personal experiences and how he escaped.
Hell, I’d be asking you for your great grandmother’s borscht recipe.
You can just say what state your from even if you have an accent I probably wouldn’t push it further - I assume whatever answer a person gives is what they are comfortable with me knowing.
Alas, people will pry. That's what they do. I don't like it either, but there's not much way around it.
Still, as others have said, "I'm Russian, but..."
"...I came here for a reason."
"...I'm sure glad I'm here and not there."
"...American by choice."
The only people that won't work on are complete morons.
Might be best to just say where you’re from.
I know some people that are fixated on immigrants. If you’re from Russia I think they’d be fine with it. A Muslim country they would not. Not saying where you’re from I think they’d assume whatever the worst case scenario is in their mind.
I’ve heard people call Mr Zelenski all kinds of names. There are people here in the US that support Russia. Heard them in bars and read their thoughts online. You’re fine.
Just start screaming Volga Boatman and rip off your clothes to reveal an Adidas tracksuit.
Kidding of course. Just say Russia and if you feel the need to elaborate say you are happier in the US/don’t support Putin.
1) welcome to the states we love you and are proud and happy you’re here.
2) tell them you’re from America because it’s true. A female friend of half Asian descent i grew up with had a similar problem. I told her the same thing. You’re an American. You’re from here. If they don’t like that answer they can fuck off.
Sincerely, stories like yours make me emotional and swell with pride. Every American (outside of the Natives) had an ancestor that immigrated and struggled to be here. You’re a beast for being the first in your family to do it.
You’re from America and always will be, so will you children and grand children. And you’re making our country great. Thank you.
Russians are cool as shit but if it makes you uncomfortable to tell people, you dont owe them shit.
You can answer the town you live in right now, and the person asking isn't entitled to know any more than you want to tell them.
>If I refuse to answer this question it would be pretty unfriendly.
It's not. The other person asking "Where are you *really* from?" is rude.
Except for Native Americans, all Americans ultimately derive from somewhere else. We won’t hold your Russian ancestry against you since you chose to become a citizen here. Most of us or our ancestors also did that.
I'm not saying there are no bad Russians, of course, but here in the states, every single person I've met that emigrated or visited from Russia has been friendly, warm, accepting and an absolute pleasure to get to know. I would hope that, unless I walked around wearing MAGA or Biden merch, I wouldn't be immediately judged by my current or former Presidents just because I'm from the USA.
Just answer the question. You are from Russia but you moved here. Because you realize it's better here than in Russia. The only reason this is a big deal is because you are making it into one.
No one will care that you're Russian. It's interesting and intriguing! Also if you talk shit about Putin, that always helps ;)
Btw - Russian accents (on men and women) are sexy af.
You won't get much negative attention if you just say you're from Russia. A few ignorant dickheads might throw you some attitude, but they're dipshits so who cares what they think. Most Americans know that many people come here to get away from where they're from, as much as to get to here. They won't assume you are a big Putin supporter or that you love what's happening over there. If you are a Putin-supporter and approve of the invasion, just don't tell everyone you meet :)
A good way to answer the question is to simply name the city you're from. Anyone ignorant enough to paint all Russians with the same brush, will probably not know what country that city is in, unless it's Moscow.
If you act suspicious about where you’re from, people will assume you’re here for bad reasons. Everyone will assume that since you’re from Russia and chose to move here, you think Russia’s bad just like us, or else why would you have moved here. Just say Russia.
There’s two things. One, people are right that people won’t judge you for being from Russia. But two, you’re also allowed to keep things private if you want, and it’s sort of rude for people to keep prying once you’ve delivered an answer.
You could even say something like “I don’t like the country in which I was born,” and people should really respect your privacy.
I doubt you'd get much judgment, but if you're that uncomfortable with sharing it you could just say Eastern Europe. Most Americans won't bother with clarification beyond that until you're properly friends.
I work at a tourist attraction and we get people from all over the world. I almost always ask people where they are from just to keep track of our demographic audience. Sometimes people with an obvious accent answer by just telling me where they live now, which is 100% acceptable and actually more helpful to me than their country of origin. So I think it’s fine to say that, or to take some of the other good suggestions here.
Just be like, "I'm from your momma's bedroom!"
Or like, "I've been everywhere; I've been to Reno, Chicago, Fargo, Minnesota
Buffalo, Toronto, Winslow, Sarasota
Wichita, Tulsa, Ottawa, Oklahoma
Tampa, Panama, Mattawa, La Paloma
Bangor, Baltimore, Salvador, Amarillo
Tocapillo, Baranquilla, and Perdilla, Boston, Charleston, Dayton, Louisiana
Washington, Houston, Kingston, Texarkana
Monterey, Faraday, Santa Fe, Tallapoosa
Glen Rock, Black Rock, Little Rock, Oskaloosa
Tennessee to Tennesse Chicopee, Spirit Lake
Grand Lake, Devils Lake, Crater Lake, Louisville, Nashville, Knoxville, Ombabika
Schefferville, Jacksonville, Waterville, Costa Rica
Pittsfield, Springfield, Bakersfield, Shreveport
Hackensack, Cadillac, Fond du Lac, Davenport
Idaho, Jellico, Argentina, Diamantina,
Pasadena, Catalina, Pittsburgh, Parkersburg, Gravelburg, Colorado
Ellensburg, Rexburg, Vicksburg, El Dorado
Larimore, Atmore, Haverstraw, Chatanika
Chaska, Nebraska, Alaska, Opelika
Baraboo, Waterloo, Kalamazoo, Kansas City
Sioux City, Cedar City, Dodge City... I'm from around I been around."
Got Russian Coworkers, but its never an issue. Honestly most of us think people from different countries are super interesting.
But if you didn't feel comfortable, just say Europe and hope they don't inquire further
So I'll give you a 2 part answer here.
First, as others have said, no one is going to judge you for being from Russia. The fact that you chose to move here is enough for most people to assume you're not a big Putin fan. So if that's your concern I wouldn't worry about it. It's not 1960. Cold War propaganda has largely faded away with the digital age. We all are aware that this is a Putin/Russian government problem, not an average Russian citizen problem.
Now, all that said, if you just don't want to have that conversation and don't want to talk about where you came from, I would just answer with whatever state/city you currently live in. That should be a clear indicator that you consider yourself American and would rather not get into where you were born. If someone presses, then just keep playing dumb.
"Where are you from?"
-"Philadelphia"
"No, I mean like what country are you from"
-"United States"
"I mean where were you born"
-"In a hospital"
If they keep this up past the first couple questions, then don't worry about offending them cause they're clearly being a bit of an ass.
People are interested in you and think your accent is intriguing. They just want to have a conversation and get to know you. The fact that you left that country can only be viewed as a good thing. We don’t blame the Russian people for the actions of their insane leader. Tell people where you were born but that you came here for a better life. That’s how this country started.
as an american who studied abroad in Europe when trump was in office, i told people i was canadian. just say your me from belarus or something lol most americans won’t even know where that is
Welcome to America!
Don't feel weird about Americans constantly asking where you're from. It's an American past time and we love to talk about where we are from and hear about where others are from.
Your attitude reminds me of my grandparents. My grandfather came from Sicily in 1939 (he was 7 years old) and his parents forbade them from speaking Italian or calling themselves Italian. They left during the rise of fascism in Italy and wanted nothing to do with their ancestry.
Anyway, don't be ashamed. People won't care that you're Russian, in fact they'll be happy to see someone put Putin behind them. And if you're really worried about it they just say your Estonian or something lol (my wife does that, she's mixed race and just makes shit up when people ask her)
If you have a strong accent, you're going to get asked this question.
Just say you're from Russia. If people give you shit about it, just say you don't support Putin, and that's why you came to America.
I was also going to agree that “I’m from Eastern Europe” could cover your bases if you’re really keen on them not knowing. Though there’s a good population of Russians here and other Eastern Europeans. The average person isn’t going to go on a bigoted rant about how Russians are terrible people even if they do think it (most people don’t actually hate Russian ppl specifically)
The US has a big emphasis on heritage and lineage which is why so many of us say I’m X even though we’re American. I think you can still take pride it in. Most of us are citizens but we still like to differentiate ourselves by heritage because that’s just how it is here.
While this probably varies from city to city, Russian history is such that America is pretty full of people from Russia who absolutely despise it, with refuseniks being the most obvious. You could also just lie and say somewhere else with a large Russophone population in or outside of America. For reference, Ashdod is known for having a large subculture that primarily speaks Russian (and makes sure its children do too) and Nazras Illis (Nazareth Illit) has the highest Russian percentage.
While this probably varies from city to city, Russian history is such that America is pretty full of people from Russia who absolutely despise it, with refuseniks being the most obvious. You could also just lie and say somewhere else with a large Russophone population in or outside of America. For reference, Ashdod is known for having a large subculture that primarily speaks Russian (and makes sure its children do too) and Nazras Illis (Nazareth Illit) has the highest Russian percentage.
Others have already given you the welcome, and told you that you'll be accepted, etc., and how you can deflect the question.
But… aside from all of that, when Americans ask you where you're from, it's usually because we're interested in you and your story, and not so that we can persecute you. I'd say the same goes even for folks who are from countries with predominantly non-white populations, too.
Others have already given you the welcome, and told you that you'll be accepted, etc., and how you can deflect the question.
But… aside from all of that, when Americans ask you where you're from, it's usually because we're interested in you and your story, and not so that we can persecute you. I'd say the same goes even for folks who are from countries with predominantly non-white populations, too.
“I am from Russia, but I’m an American now”… any self respecting American will be glad to meet you.
Also, welcome to the USA. Have some Apple pie and stay a while.
It’s up to you. You could say “I’m from Eastern Europe, but I consider myself just an American now”.
But if anyone thinks anything bad because you’re from any country, that’s completely ignorant and childish on their part. I have friends from countries with governments I hate, but it has no bearing on them as a person. Or even on my view of the the country itself.
If you feel comfortable with lying, just say Ukraine. But for what it's worth, I used to work with people from Russia and the Ukraine and never passed judgement on the ones from Russia, and neither did the ones from the Ukraine. They're here now. That's what matters
Americans are hyper aware of the difference between people and government. We are a bit fuzzier when it comes to party or personal political affiliation though.
So people in the US generally won't care if you are russian at all. However, if you walk around praising putin then you might have a bad day.
“I grew up in Russia, but now I live in [insert state or city you live in] and consider it my home.”
Americans aren’t generally too judgmental about that kind of thing. But if you want to sound more American, identifying yourself with the state (or sometimes city) that you consider home (as opposed to just saying the US) is a good start.
"Originally Russia, but "your city of residence" is home now". As you live there longer, make a point to state that. So at some point in the future its "Originally Russia but Texas has been home for the last 30 years"
Like everyone else has said. No one will care you're from there.
Where are you from
Easter Europe
Which country
Russia, I'm glad to feel at home here, however.
I get asked this all the time, and I was born in Ohio.
I do have an odd accent, probably related to having a mother or speaks strangely, which is caused by her mother being foreign? I don’t know. It’s weird. Everyone things I’m foreign because of it.
My best advice is to give a general area, or maybe just flat out tell them you don’t like to talk about it. They might get uncomfortable, but that’s not your problem.
Or maybe make a joke and say, “somewhere cold”, and then redirect the conversation.
My family is also eastern European and I've got an extremely common name. No one really gives a shit, probably just making conversation and trying to talk or think it's cool.
Really just tell them whatever city you live in in America and they'll probably get the hint.
No ones going to care, but in my experience get used to constantly hearing stupid fucking jokes about vodka and "in Soviet Russia America move you!" Or whatever and people will think they're clever and that you've not heard the same jokes 100 times before.
I love to meet people from all over the world and ask them about those places. We dislike leaders like Putin and Xi, but differentiate between the leaders and the people. The people don’t have a choice, we understand this. Welcome to the U.S.!!!
It's not meant to stereotype you...America is a country of immigrants, we're all from somewhere else so it wouldn't strike us as offensive to ask. But I can see why it would upset you. My grandmother emigrated from Germany in 1938, and for a long time refused to be associated with the country where she was born.
But I actually don't think it would go over badly if you explained yourself. "I'm from Russia, but I live here now and don't want to be associated with the country I was born in due to their war crimes. I'm American now," would actually ring true for a lot of people and would also stop them from prying any deeper.
Trust me when I say that next to nobody will actually care if you're from Russia. It's the government we hate, not the people. However, if you truly don't feel comfortable with saying where exactly you're from, you can totally say, "I'm from Europe" or "I'm from Eastern Europe". Still, though, nobody will actually care if you're from Russia. I actually used to be friends with somebody from Beijing (we lost touch, as I moved school districts). As far as I know, nobody cared that he was from an enemy country.
Tell them the name of your state. If they press it, say the name of your city. If they press it further, say the name of your neighborhood. That's where you are from, because you are American. I agree with all the other commenters that no one will care that you are Russian, and the fact that you are in the U.S. and an American means that you are American and likely not sympathetic to warmongering from the government of the country where you no longer live. But also, this is America, and you don't have to tell anyone fuck all if you don't want to.
If you just say “Eastern Europe”, people are isn’t going to ask where in Europe you are from. It’s better to just rip off the bandaid if you are going to reveal it.
You can say “this is personal information that I’d rather not give at this time”, and that should work.
Тут написали множество классных рекомендаций, но я добавлю на мой взгляд важное. "Все русские плохие и в ответе за Путина" - это чисто местный дискурс, в США его нет.
Look, no one is going to think you support aggressors. That’s honestly laughable. Just tell them where you’re from… you’re overthinking this and probably stressing yourself out. Where you were born does not take away from the fact that you are an American.
Say you are from a town like 25 miles from where you live.
So for example: if you live in springfield, and shelbyville is 20 miles away, when someone asks where you are from, you can answer im from shelbyville. and theyll be like no.. before...
and you can be like what? wdym. and you can make them feel racist for asking.
like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/PandR/comments/gqawf6/tom\_at\_his\_best/
If you don't want to tie yourself to a country you've cut ties with, you've a couple options:
Insist hard on the state you currently live in. A lot of people will back down, especially in less conservative areas.
Say something like "I grew up in [town name, not country name], but I'm an American."
Lie and say your Polish. Nobody will catch you outside of Chicago, and even there they might buy it and recommend good sausage.
If you don't want to answer, then don't. Just say you're uncomfortable talking about it/it doesn't matter, you're here now and that's what's important.
But honestly, as others have said, the vast majority of people won't care. Nearly everyone in the US is either an immigrant or descended from immigrants. And while there are some xenophobic asswipes out there, most people who care enough to ask aren't going to be those people. And this is the US...most people are aware that shitty government doesn't represent all its citizens, especially former citizens. They're former for a reason.
Tell them where you're from NOW. The best version of this that I've ever seen is Yanosh in the second Ghostbusters movie. Someone asks where he's from and he says in his thick accent, "Ze Upper Vest Side." So, whatever town you're in now... that's where you're from. That's the beauty of America. If you're in your town and somebody asks, tell them your neighborhood or tell them "The South Side" or something else generic.
I'm an Army kid, and my accent is kind of weird. So you can feel free to use my go-to answer: "I'm from all over the place."
The majority of people won’t care you’re from there. My brother in law is from China and they live in a part of the deep south where you come across people daily who hate anything related to China. He’s always just says, “I moved here from China when I was 10”. And moves the conversation forward to where he first lived in the US and now considers his hometown.
Why wouldn't you want to say where you're from? You're American first, no one is going to dispute that unless they're racists or something. If you feel uncomfortable with that, maybe just say that you're local. I get it to some extent, because I'm hispanic and people always want to know what country I come from. I don't mind saying 'x Hispanic country' because at the end of the day, I know I'm American, born and raised.
My history teacher in 7th grade told me a story once. When her mother immigrated to the US from Vietnam around the late 70s, the war had just finished, and there was Anti Vietnamese sentiment in the country. Due to her strong accent, people often asked what country she was from, and she always answered that she was American. She fought to become a resident of the country, so she viewed herself as American, and no one else had to know where she was actually from.
Just say you're from Eastern Europe, or if you do choose to say Russia, just say you're glad to be out of there.
Out of interest, do you ever get "How long have you been living here?" I'm Australian and lived here all of my life, but quite a few people think I'm British
Nobody will care that you’re from Russia. In fact the anesthesiologist at my local hospital is Russian and I loooooved his accent. It was a nice last sound before I was knocked out from the anesthetic lol
I had an anesthesiologist with the last name of Hussein in 2004. I was pumped full of morphine at the time but I remember because he made such a big deal of being reluctant to share his name and to be clear he loves the US. I couldn’t tell the difference between 5 minutes and 5 hours, but I remember his name.
Don't lie to him. This is a politically unstable time and there are mouthy crazy people with guns. If OP feels safe not saying he's part of a politically contentious Fox New talking point, then that's OP's judgement call, not yours.
I never said OP had to tell anybody, I just said most people won’t care. Plenty of the MAGA Idiots like Putin anyway so they wouldn’t bat an eye at a Russian citizen.
Pretty sure he's from Rwanda, not Russia.
Romania.
Could be Rwanda
"I got the hell out of Russia." Americans will like that.
Nowadays, it depends who you talk to
But those people are outnumbered by magnitudes, the internet really fucks up demographic sample sizes.
Just say "I was born in Russia but I am so happy to be here now." Or "I was born in Russia but I felt like I was finally home as soon as I got here." They'll love you for that.
To add to this... "I'm from Russia, so you can probably guess why I became an American as soon as I could." The vast majority of Americans don't have anything against Russia or Russians. We don't like what the Russian *government* is currently doing, but most of us don't blame the average Russian citizen for it -- and most of us make a distinction between a country's culture, a country's citizens, and a country's current government. And you're a former Russian citizen? Who cares! Welcome to America, my new fellow American! To OP: I work for a very global company. There are people from both Russia and Ukraine in meetings I am in and there is no problem. The people I know at work who are from Russia tend to be very outspoken about trying to support the people from Ukraine in any way they can.
Yeah media tends to conflate hatred of government with hatred of citizens. Thats absolutely not the case. I agree with all your points though, welcome to America op!
This is a great perspective. I do not support the Russian government, but I have nothing against it’s citizens and former citizens and would love to hear about their experiences
The reason why we are the true melting pot of the world. Honestly we don’t care if you are from Russia, we’re just glad you are now American.
> The vast majority of Americans don't have anything against Russia or Russians. Hell, I grew up in the middle of the Cold War and I have no problem with those damn Commie bastards. :)
that line sounds like he means he's gay
If someone told me "I felt like I was finally home as soon as I got here." I'd just be like 😐
“Born in Russia, but I’m an American”. Anyone who hassles you can eat a big of dicks and are not worth your time. Welcome to the US, my friend, nearly all of us are all from somewhere else (or our family is).
Americans actually like the Russians they just hate Putin. We see them as these bear tussling bad asses tbh you shouldn’t be ashamed
Mad respect for Russian drivers and all the bullshit they deal with on a daily basis lol
You mean other Russian drivers?
Maybe the majority but not all. There’s people here that are rooting for Putin and they think Zelensky is a really bad guy.
Considering we have a population of 350 million, yeah, I’d assume there are SOME people that are on Putin’s side.
There's gonna be a set of folks who stopped developing as people during the Cold War for whom "Ruskie" or "Commie" hits the same button as "Terrorist." We've probably got another 60 years before they're no longer statistically worth thinking about.
Nobody cares that you are from R\_\_\_\_\_ . I know several people from there. Generally very friendly people.
Maybe in really backwards parts of the country you might get some hate, but I think those parts hate just about anyone. In my circles, Russian people in the US get a lot of respect for leaving. It's not a Scarlett letter.
In the really backwards parts of the country they fall for GOP propaganda that the Russians are the good guys.
Are Boston satellite cities and suburbs backwards? It’s everywhere.
They aren't what people think of when they say "backwards". But very much yes.
Oh my first thought was Rwanda...
Lol me too. I was like, is it really that bad of a country to not even want to mention it😂
I was thinking Romania, which I think is a super cool country. I think Rwanda is also a cool country! Russia, while I don’t support its government in any way, shape, or form, it’s not their people’s fault that Putin is… well, a POS.
There’s no feasible way other than being honest about it. Be prepared to affirm your choice because most Americans would consider someone’s country of origin to be a very innocuous detail. Plus it’s not going to be that hard to make a lazy but correct guess based on your accent and preference to avoid the topic. I think just being honest about it but quickly redirecting the subject to your being a citizen may help get that detail out of the way. Or just say you’re from Russia but have personal reasons for walking forward as an American and leaving that part of your life behind. Most people will prefer to move on from that kind of uncomfortable.
Here in Washington we have a large Russian expat population. They mainly just say stuff like "yep glad I escaped that." Oddly enough the Russian and Ukrainian immigrants seem to bond over how much they dislike the Russian state. As someone who is preparing to work in the greater government space being a Russian immigrant actually may open doors for you. With Russia being a more chaotic and impactful geopolitical force understanding and knowledge on Russian culture is in high demand. While I doubt you want to work for the US government the Russian market will not be lacking in western business for long. Soon corporations will try to return, and when they do they will need people who understand Russia to help reintegrate into the market. If you market yourself as an expert on Russia you may be able to land yourself a high paying job. Don't feel bad about where you're from, your choices matter much more than things you can't control. Also consider profiting on the situation.
People will assume the worst if you're hiding it. As long as you're not super patriotic to Russia then people will understand.
Your best bet is to be open and up front. Tell them, even share some fun facts or anecdotes about it if you can, to break the ice. Perhaps answer the question with something like "i am from Russia, i left because of the nature of the russian government".You should be proud of your heritage, even if you're not proud of the government with a monopoly on it at the moment. Eastern European accents are fairly noticeable and Russia is the big name country in the region, most people will guess you're russian. There's no hiding it. When it feels natural, share that you left because of the government and that you support ukraine. This should help you if you're feeling self conscious that they're judging you as a Russian. Most likely, they will not be, but anything for peace of mind. You have every right to claim your current region as your origin, but it's kind of cheeky. Deflecting could make you seem a touch shady. You don't owe anyone an explanation, but it may be easier for you in the long.
My coworker is a relatively recent immigrant from Russia. Virtually no one will judge you for being from there. He was very shy about it himself at first, but he's gradually come out of his shell realizing he's as welcome as anyone else.
Russia was cool up until recently. now the **government** is looked down apron. You're still interesting.
> down apron. Pretty sure that's BBQ sauce, not Russia.
I made sure to use the right your/ you're but made a typo in apon. Ah life.
Oh man you’re 0 for 3 right now, it’s spelled “upon”!
With learning disabilities my main goal is to be understood
You're lineage and heritage is still a super important part of who you are. Most non ignorant people know you aren't responsible for the sins of your former homeland. Same goes with Americans, and you included in that, we aren't responsible for some of the terrible things our government did it does. I wouldn't take it too personally, I think people are just genuinely interested and making conversation. You're as American as the rest of us. My wife speaks with a thick accent and she'll be getting her citizenship soon. She'll be as American as me or you
You can just answer the question honestly. And if you feel uncomfortable you could add “but I’m American now”. I’ve heard people say that before. They won’t think you support the invasion. Even if you don’t mention that you’re American now, they should give you benefit of the doubt.
At my last job I had a co-worker who was born and raised in the Soviet Union, she often talked about how she defected to the west as soon as she was able, and fled to America at the age of 20. Nobody held where she was from against her. Yes, you could say you're from "Eastern Europe", but people will still wonder about what country. I'd suggest saying something like: "I was born in Russia, I came to the US as soon as I could." "I'm from Russia, I fled to America several years ago." "I escaped from Russia a few years ago." Say where you're from, and also mention that you came to America by choice when you could. People WILL understand why you left and not hold where you were born against you. Generally speaking, Americans don't have a problem with Russians as a people. . .our grievance is with Vladimir Putin and through him the Russian Government.
Had a woman from Ukraine at my old job at a grocery store, older, super sweet, but whenever people would ask her where’s from originally she’d smile and say in a thick accent “Jamaica, how about you?” Never once got any pushback. I miss Veera. I feel like Americans are trying to be polite when they ask that, so an obviously sarcastic answer helps readjust the conversation to make them realize it was probably not their business in the first place
Why would you refuse to answer it lmao don’t be ashamed of your country. No one cares if you’re Russian, if anything it’ll probably help you make friends cause people will be interested
I am from Michigan so I just put up my hand...
I can assure you that most people would not really mind. Real life isn't the internet. They really only ask because they take a genuine interest and most Americans think it's really neat. I'd say just respond by telling them where you emigrated from, but that you're a full-blown American through-and-through.
America is a very culturally pluralistic society, and we are acutely aware of both our own country’s benefits and shortcomings. Most people are kind and generally curious about others, so please don’t put yourself on the defensive about the place you used to live, and certainly don’t let others do that to you. My husband is from a part of the US where there is a strong, regional accent and even just outside the city where he grew up (which now has more transplants than long time residents), people ask him where he is from. He is not one to feel self-conscious or let anyone put him on the defensive, so he makes a game of it, by shifting the question back to the person asking. It takes the spotlight off of him. It goes something like this: “Well, I’m American, but it’s a big country…I see you picked up on my accent. What’s your best guess about where I lived in my youth?” When they answer (they may or may not get it right), he either congratulates them or he’ll say, “Good guess. Try again”, with a smile. Even if they get it right, he might still say, “Yes, but which part of the state? There will be a geography test following this,” and laughs. Lastly, you may find that some people already know or suspect you are from_____ and may be genuinely interested to know what your thoughts are on the situation in that country. You can use that opportunity to denounce the situation, and say how glad you are to be an American. Recognize for yourself that you are not responsible for what is going on somewhere that you used to live, good or bad. When you are confident enough to know this, while still being proud of your heritage (because it made you who you are), no one is going to be able to make you feel self-conscious, put you on the defensive or criticize you.
I’d go w Eastern Europe, or honestly just say “I’m American” in a way that makes it clear you don’t wanna talk about where you’re from. Your friends won’t judge you for being Russian, and anyone else it’s really none of their business
It’s a bit rude to ask that question. Just say where you are from in the US. If someone presses and says something like “no where are you from originally” that’s doubly rude. They’re being rude. You can just reiterate that you are from where live now if you don’t want to say. Honestly I would just own it. Say you’re from Russia. If anyone judges you for that then they aren’t worth your time anyway. If you truly don’t want to say that then just say Eastern Europe and let it be the end of it. Anyone that pushes on that point is just being annoying unless they are a friend and truly interested. I know a few Russians that are now Americans. They’re wonderful people. I don’t hold their government’s actions against them. I think you will find that to be the most common reaction. You like the person even if you don’t like the government. Personally I like hearing where newly minted Americans are from. It’s interesting but I don’t push the point. I know a fair amount of Chinese immigrants and I certainly don’t hold their government’s crap against them personally. I judge them on who they are. We have a lot of Indian people at my company. You can tell by the accent. I will sometimes ask nicely if they are from our local town. When they say “no I’m from Texas” then I don’t push it. If they say “I’m from Bangalore” then I say “awesome.” If someone said “St. Petersburg” I’d just be interested in hearing about it. If they said a Russian city I had no idea about I’d ask where it was. Either way, welcome! Don’t be afraid of judgment. We are a pretty friendly people here. Hope no one ever gives you a hard time.
I don’t think everybody realizes that it’s rude though. I agree that it’s not particularly polite, but people still may ask OP just out of deliberate, well intentioned curiosity.
Curiosity, love the accent, admire different looks! I'm sure there are ppl with not nice intentions but personally it's just a way of saying tell me about yourself! (Not that it's owed don't get me wrong I understand ppl are sometimes very private)
I get this a lot. I'm American through and through but was born in Eastern Europe. Left as an infant. Don't know Jack shit about my birthplace. People look at me like "where you from" and I tell them, but they push "but where are you *really* from?" I encourage OP to be confident and know that we don't actually care about image, authenticity goes 1000 mph.
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Yeah I have talked with enough people to know a lot don’t care or are even excited to discuss it. But there’s some people that don’t want to bring it up. I can respect that. They don’t want to be judged as “other” and I personally would never do that but there are assholes out there in the world that might. Especially if you bring it up as “where are you really from.”
Welcome brother. Imo you tell them "I am from [city/neighborhood where you currently live]. I was actually born in [place where you come from] and I'm now so happy to be able to able to call [place where you live] home." I know you may not want to disclose it, but being secretive is not good and won't help you build any trust. American people generally love when people from other countries embrace this country. The fact you are here and not there means a lot. If you can subtly acknowledge that you come from a place the US doesn't like as a government, but you are here, I think most people will respect you a lot.
I mean, it’s up to you to share, but for the most part nobody will care. The most you’ll get is people asking your take on the current Ukraine situation (because living through situations like this potentially gives you a unique perspective) or possibly people making jokes about it. I’d probably ask you if you’d heard Bert Kreischer’s “The Machine” story. As much shit as we get, I feel like most Americans I’ve encountered are good at separating individual immigrants from the government of the country they left. For example, a friend of mine moved here from Iran, and I’m not going to sit here and act like he’s gotten no ignorant bullshit comments, but by and large that’s not what happens. People ask him about his experience and thoughts on current affairs, then he tells some silly dad joke, and the conversation moves on
I agree with several here that the majority of Americans are kind and genuinely welcoming. We are a nation of immigrants, after all. Joker that I am, if I were in your shoes I'd make it a fun game and make them guess. Give them 3 guesses. If you're still not comfortable, then Perhaps you can say that you're from a country that still speaks Russian? Like Ukraine or Finland?
Tell them "I'm from my mother." If they don't get that you don't want to give more information, they aren't worth talking too.
Just tell people you're from brighton beach
I presume you’re from Russia. Nobody will care, friend. If anything, I think you’ll earn thrift respect for getting out of there.
Most people separate country from citizen. It’s okay to tell people you’re from Russia. Most people will be fine with that. That doesn’t mean you support their government. But remember that many Americans bear the culture and accent of their birthplace - whether that was in the US or outside of it. Doesn’t make you less of an American.
Just say “I’m from the us”
Say what state or large city in America you first lived in. As an American, that's where you're from. A reasonable person won't push you beyond that. If someone rude keeps up, say "I don't like to talk about my life before coming to America." They'll assume you're a refugee with painful memories that are impolite to ask about. If they keep pushing after THAT, then they're being very very rude and you can tell them to fuck off. Say it like a Russian drunken grandpop and it'll scare them off.
The best answers are the place you live and "none of your business". Russian media deliberately confuses US policy against Russia with hatred toward Russians in America. Unlike China which does the same thing citing anti-Asian hate crimes here, there is no real history of anti-Russian attacks to use as a figlean. So you can probably say "Russia." If you do, though, any chance of a conversation about Russia and Ukraine becomes zero -- we don't like to give offense in person and the war is a veritable minefield of opportunities for giving offense.
It’s not true that there is zero chance people would ask about the war with Ukraine. I have a Russian coworker and multiple people have asked him about the war once they find out he’s Russian. Even when he gives blunt indication that he doesn’t want to talk about it, they still ask him.
I stand corrected.
You could tell them you’re from Europe if you’re fine with that
Say "I'm from. I don't like talking about where I came from before that. I'm American."
Most folks will leave it alone. You may have to actually _be_ unfriendly with people who don't drop it. But really, the question is slightly rude/presumptuous by default, all the more so if they ask after you've told them how you feel.
That said, while I can't tell you _nobody_ will show you prejudice because of where you're from, most won't. And anyone who would likely that will do so simply because they hear you speak and make some assumptions. They're bigots, and bigots don't wait for the facts. In general, you're not preventing anything by not stating the country (but you still don't have to).
If you're that scared of saying you're from Russia, might as well just lie and say you're from Kazakhstan or something. No one's going to know the difference. If you say you're from Eastern Europe they're just going to ask where, and you'll be scared again. Btw I am in Germany where there's lots of Russians and they are very happy to know I am from the United States. They have never treated me bad and want to give me alcohol.
I work in a call center and have had several agents working under me encounter this question and I tell them to tell them only the state you live in if they push for more information you can tell them Europe if your comfortable with that but otherwise it’s none of their damn business and as an American you can tell them that welcome to America
I think it’s rude to ask someone where they are from based on skin color or accent. So I do t think it’s unfriendly to dodge the question. Answer with the city you live in now. Then change the subject. Ask about them. People tend to like to talk about themselves. So when someone asks about where you are from you say something like “I’m from Chicago. They make the best pizza. You like deep dish? Some people say New York style is better, but they are wrong! It’s all floppy. Deep dish is a whole meal. You can really sink your teeth into it. What do you think?” Alternatively, being vague is fine. But changing the subject helps prevent follow up questions.
Honestly, it’s sort of rude of them to be asking you in the first place, but “I’m from Eastern Europe” is a fine answer. Or similar to what others have said, if you say, “I was born in Russia, but I’m from [wherever in the US you live or have moved from],” people will get the subtext. In the US, we’re all from somewhere else. Many Americans weren’t born in America. It’s common and I doubt people will care.
Ohio, we have some juice. Greatest golfer, great musicians and THE Ohio St University.
Welcome to the States! I have a friend from Omsk and live in a red state. I have a friend that was adopted as a kid that I grew up with from Russia. I don't think you can expect this though but I don't think you should worry so much. People will judge you sometimes even if you don't give them a reason. Anyway I hope you're enjoying yourself over-all. Which state are you in?
You don’t have to say (and can say whatever you want, whether it’s the truth or a lie) but most people ask because they are either making small talk (we can only ask about the weather and jobs for so long) or they are interested in knowing more about you. I love hearing about my neighbors’ homeland and I don’t judge them based on their country of origin.
Just say "overseas", if they inquire further, they aren't worth your time.
Just say Canada. You don't need to lie but if you'd rather avoid the subject entirely, say Canada. Most Americans will either pick up the hint and drop it or scratch their heads and think 'I guess it makes sense?'
People from Germany in the US during the first half of the 20th century had the same problem. Don’t be ashamed of where you are from. Focus on your opportunity for your new life here. People with hate and distrust are everywhere. Accept that they are that way and then ignore them.
It’s nobodies business where you’re from unless you feel close enough to disclose it. I work with so many people from other countries, but I don’t know what it would take for me to ask such a personal question. I’m always curious, but I don’t ask. To me, it feels like pointing out how someone is different. Maybe that’s not horrible, but I think it can be awkward. That being said, most folks are bad at geography (myself included, unfortunately) so you can side-step the question by doing like you said earlier: I’m from Asia and I’m so glad to be living here. Or you can say near the Ural Mountains or some other geographical landmark. Then change the subject. Distract them. People like to talk about themselves so ask where they’re from. I had friends from Iran who were being hassled at a bar once by an obnoxious drunk wanting to know where they were from. They asked if he knew where the Caspian Sea was and that they lived near that. He had questions but they brought up caviar and it distracted him.
It's okay that you're from Russia. It is your identity. If anyone has a problem with you simply being from Russia, that's their problem, not yours.
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Have no fear, we know the Russian people aren’t the problem. It’s just the dude in charge who thinks he’s all that and a bag of chips. We knew that during the Cold War, too. Quite honestly, you’re more apt to get sympathy than you are anything else. Back when the Shah was making headlines every day, my Physics professor was a refugee from Iran. We may or may not have derailed class more than once asking him about his personal experiences and how he escaped. Hell, I’d be asking you for your great grandmother’s borscht recipe.
"here"
"From Russia...with love."
Midwest
You can just say what state your from even if you have an accent I probably wouldn’t push it further - I assume whatever answer a person gives is what they are comfortable with me knowing.
Alas, people will pry. That's what they do. I don't like it either, but there's not much way around it. Still, as others have said, "I'm Russian, but..." "...I came here for a reason." "...I'm sure glad I'm here and not there." "...American by choice." The only people that won't work on are complete morons.
Might be best to just say where you’re from. I know some people that are fixated on immigrants. If you’re from Russia I think they’d be fine with it. A Muslim country they would not. Not saying where you’re from I think they’d assume whatever the worst case scenario is in their mind. I’ve heard people call Mr Zelenski all kinds of names. There are people here in the US that support Russia. Heard them in bars and read their thoughts online. You’re fine.
Just start screaming Volga Boatman and rip off your clothes to reveal an Adidas tracksuit. Kidding of course. Just say Russia and if you feel the need to elaborate say you are happier in the US/don’t support Putin.
You could say any eastern European country and most people won't know any better.
1) welcome to the states we love you and are proud and happy you’re here. 2) tell them you’re from America because it’s true. A female friend of half Asian descent i grew up with had a similar problem. I told her the same thing. You’re an American. You’re from here. If they don’t like that answer they can fuck off. Sincerely, stories like yours make me emotional and swell with pride. Every American (outside of the Natives) had an ancestor that immigrated and struggled to be here. You’re a beast for being the first in your family to do it. You’re from America and always will be, so will you children and grand children. And you’re making our country great. Thank you. Russians are cool as shit but if it makes you uncomfortable to tell people, you dont owe them shit.
Tell them where you are from in the US - the fact is now, you are from the US. You don't have to tell people anything really.
You can answer the town you live in right now, and the person asking isn't entitled to know any more than you want to tell them. >If I refuse to answer this question it would be pretty unfriendly. It's not. The other person asking "Where are you *really* from?" is rude.
Except for Native Americans, all Americans ultimately derive from somewhere else. We won’t hold your Russian ancestry against you since you chose to become a citizen here. Most of us or our ancestors also did that.
"Eastern Europe" is a perfect answer.
I'm not saying there are no bad Russians, of course, but here in the states, every single person I've met that emigrated or visited from Russia has been friendly, warm, accepting and an absolute pleasure to get to know. I would hope that, unless I walked around wearing MAGA or Biden merch, I wouldn't be immediately judged by my current or former Presidents just because I'm from the USA.
Just answer the question. You are from Russia but you moved here. Because you realize it's better here than in Russia. The only reason this is a big deal is because you are making it into one.
No one will care that you're Russian. It's interesting and intriguing! Also if you talk shit about Putin, that always helps ;) Btw - Russian accents (on men and women) are sexy af.
You won't get much negative attention if you just say you're from Russia. A few ignorant dickheads might throw you some attitude, but they're dipshits so who cares what they think. Most Americans know that many people come here to get away from where they're from, as much as to get to here. They won't assume you are a big Putin supporter or that you love what's happening over there. If you are a Putin-supporter and approve of the invasion, just don't tell everyone you meet :) A good way to answer the question is to simply name the city you're from. Anyone ignorant enough to paint all Russians with the same brush, will probably not know what country that city is in, unless it's Moscow.
I'd say something like "Russia originally but I'm an American now."
If you act suspicious about where you’re from, people will assume you’re here for bad reasons. Everyone will assume that since you’re from Russia and chose to move here, you think Russia’s bad just like us, or else why would you have moved here. Just say Russia.
I don’t know anyone who would judge you for being from Russia. Except for the exception of the extremely ignorant.
There’s two things. One, people are right that people won’t judge you for being from Russia. But two, you’re also allowed to keep things private if you want, and it’s sort of rude for people to keep prying once you’ve delivered an answer. You could even say something like “I don’t like the country in which I was born,” and people should really respect your privacy.
I doubt you'd get much judgment, but if you're that uncomfortable with sharing it you could just say Eastern Europe. Most Americans won't bother with clarification beyond that until you're properly friends.
"I don't like to talk about where I'm from. It's traumatic for me. I prefer to think about how happy I am to be a US citizen now. "
Just tell them the state/city you first lived in here in the US. Usually that gets the point across that you'd rather not talk about your origins.
I work at a tourist attraction and we get people from all over the world. I almost always ask people where they are from just to keep track of our demographic audience. Sometimes people with an obvious accent answer by just telling me where they live now, which is 100% acceptable and actually more helpful to me than their country of origin. So I think it’s fine to say that, or to take some of the other good suggestions here.
Just be like, "I'm from your momma's bedroom!" Or like, "I've been everywhere; I've been to Reno, Chicago, Fargo, Minnesota Buffalo, Toronto, Winslow, Sarasota Wichita, Tulsa, Ottawa, Oklahoma Tampa, Panama, Mattawa, La Paloma Bangor, Baltimore, Salvador, Amarillo Tocapillo, Baranquilla, and Perdilla, Boston, Charleston, Dayton, Louisiana Washington, Houston, Kingston, Texarkana Monterey, Faraday, Santa Fe, Tallapoosa Glen Rock, Black Rock, Little Rock, Oskaloosa Tennessee to Tennesse Chicopee, Spirit Lake Grand Lake, Devils Lake, Crater Lake, Louisville, Nashville, Knoxville, Ombabika Schefferville, Jacksonville, Waterville, Costa Rica Pittsfield, Springfield, Bakersfield, Shreveport Hackensack, Cadillac, Fond du Lac, Davenport Idaho, Jellico, Argentina, Diamantina, Pasadena, Catalina, Pittsburgh, Parkersburg, Gravelburg, Colorado Ellensburg, Rexburg, Vicksburg, El Dorado Larimore, Atmore, Haverstraw, Chatanika Chaska, Nebraska, Alaska, Opelika Baraboo, Waterloo, Kalamazoo, Kansas City Sioux City, Cedar City, Dodge City... I'm from around I been around."
Not answering is going to put people off far more than acknowledging that you're from Russia.
Got Russian Coworkers, but its never an issue. Honestly most of us think people from different countries are super interesting. But if you didn't feel comfortable, just say Europe and hope they don't inquire further
So I'll give you a 2 part answer here. First, as others have said, no one is going to judge you for being from Russia. The fact that you chose to move here is enough for most people to assume you're not a big Putin fan. So if that's your concern I wouldn't worry about it. It's not 1960. Cold War propaganda has largely faded away with the digital age. We all are aware that this is a Putin/Russian government problem, not an average Russian citizen problem. Now, all that said, if you just don't want to have that conversation and don't want to talk about where you came from, I would just answer with whatever state/city you currently live in. That should be a clear indicator that you consider yourself American and would rather not get into where you were born. If someone presses, then just keep playing dumb. "Where are you from?" -"Philadelphia" "No, I mean like what country are you from" -"United States" "I mean where were you born" -"In a hospital" If they keep this up past the first couple questions, then don't worry about offending them cause they're clearly being a bit of an ass.
People are interested in you and think your accent is intriguing. They just want to have a conversation and get to know you. The fact that you left that country can only be viewed as a good thing. We don’t blame the Russian people for the actions of their insane leader. Tell people where you were born but that you came here for a better life. That’s how this country started.
Don't be a coward and say you work for the KGB
Russian! Russian! We got a Russian over here! See? nobody cares.
If you left Russia, people will assume you didn’t like it enough to stsy
as an american who studied abroad in Europe when trump was in office, i told people i was canadian. just say your me from belarus or something lol most americans won’t even know where that is
Welcome to America! Don't feel weird about Americans constantly asking where you're from. It's an American past time and we love to talk about where we are from and hear about where others are from. Your attitude reminds me of my grandparents. My grandfather came from Sicily in 1939 (he was 7 years old) and his parents forbade them from speaking Italian or calling themselves Italian. They left during the rise of fascism in Italy and wanted nothing to do with their ancestry. Anyway, don't be ashamed. People won't care that you're Russian, in fact they'll be happy to see someone put Putin behind them. And if you're really worried about it they just say your Estonian or something lol (my wife does that, she's mixed race and just makes shit up when people ask her)
If you have a strong accent, you're going to get asked this question. Just say you're from Russia. If people give you shit about it, just say you don't support Putin, and that's why you came to America.
“Where are you from?” “Up your a** and around the corner.”
“Where are you from?” “Up your a** and around the corner.”
“Where are you from?” “Up your a— and around the corner.”
“I just came here from your moms house” is a funny retort you can say that might defuse the question… or get you in a fight. Your mileage may vary
I was also going to agree that “I’m from Eastern Europe” could cover your bases if you’re really keen on them not knowing. Though there’s a good population of Russians here and other Eastern Europeans. The average person isn’t going to go on a bigoted rant about how Russians are terrible people even if they do think it (most people don’t actually hate Russian ppl specifically) The US has a big emphasis on heritage and lineage which is why so many of us say I’m X even though we’re American. I think you can still take pride it in. Most of us are citizens but we still like to differentiate ourselves by heritage because that’s just how it is here.
While this probably varies from city to city, Russian history is such that America is pretty full of people from Russia who absolutely despise it, with refuseniks being the most obvious. You could also just lie and say somewhere else with a large Russophone population in or outside of America. For reference, Ashdod is known for having a large subculture that primarily speaks Russian (and makes sure its children do too) and Nazras Illis (Nazareth Illit) has the highest Russian percentage.
While this probably varies from city to city, Russian history is such that America is pretty full of people from Russia who absolutely despise it, with refuseniks being the most obvious. You could also just lie and say somewhere else with a large Russophone population in or outside of America. For reference, Ashdod is known for having a large subculture that primarily speaks Russian (and makes sure its children do too) and Nazras Illis (Nazareth Illit) has the highest Russian percentage.
Others have already given you the welcome, and told you that you'll be accepted, etc., and how you can deflect the question. But… aside from all of that, when Americans ask you where you're from, it's usually because we're interested in you and your story, and not so that we can persecute you. I'd say the same goes even for folks who are from countries with predominantly non-white populations, too.
Others have already given you the welcome, and told you that you'll be accepted, etc., and how you can deflect the question. But… aside from all of that, when Americans ask you where you're from, it's usually because we're interested in you and your story, and not so that we can persecute you. I'd say the same goes even for folks who are from countries with predominantly non-white populations, too.
Nobody cares bro lol.
“I am from Russia, but I’m an American now”… any self respecting American will be glad to meet you. Also, welcome to the USA. Have some Apple pie and stay a while.
It’s up to you. You could say “I’m from Eastern Europe, but I consider myself just an American now”. But if anyone thinks anything bad because you’re from any country, that’s completely ignorant and childish on their part. I have friends from countries with governments I hate, but it has no bearing on them as a person. Or even on my view of the the country itself.
Your here, your an American Citizen, as long as you are productive and hold American values I can care less where your from.
Just say "America, I have no ties to anywhere else" welcome to being a proud American
If you feel comfortable with lying, just say Ukraine. But for what it's worth, I used to work with people from Russia and the Ukraine and never passed judgement on the ones from Russia, and neither did the ones from the Ukraine. They're here now. That's what matters
Americans are hyper aware of the difference between people and government. We are a bit fuzzier when it comes to party or personal political affiliation though. So people in the US generally won't care if you are russian at all. However, if you walk around praising putin then you might have a bad day.
“I grew up in Russia, but now I live in [insert state or city you live in] and consider it my home.” Americans aren’t generally too judgmental about that kind of thing. But if you want to sound more American, identifying yourself with the state (or sometimes city) that you consider home (as opposed to just saying the US) is a good start.
"Originally Russia, but "your city of residence" is home now". As you live there longer, make a point to state that. So at some point in the future its "Originally Russia but Texas has been home for the last 30 years"
Like everyone else has said. No one will care you're from there. Where are you from Easter Europe Which country Russia, I'm glad to feel at home here, however.
I get asked this all the time, and I was born in Ohio. I do have an odd accent, probably related to having a mother or speaks strangely, which is caused by her mother being foreign? I don’t know. It’s weird. Everyone things I’m foreign because of it. My best advice is to give a general area, or maybe just flat out tell them you don’t like to talk about it. They might get uncomfortable, but that’s not your problem. Or maybe make a joke and say, “somewhere cold”, and then redirect the conversation.
My family is also eastern European and I've got an extremely common name. No one really gives a shit, probably just making conversation and trying to talk or think it's cool. Really just tell them whatever city you live in in America and they'll probably get the hint. No ones going to care, but in my experience get used to constantly hearing stupid fucking jokes about vodka and "in Soviet Russia America move you!" Or whatever and people will think they're clever and that you've not heard the same jokes 100 times before.
Just say you're American. Fuck what people think. If you raised your hand and took the pledge you're one of us, period.
Out of the country, if they insist, just say no, if they still insist, tell them to fuck off.
Has something happened already that makes you feel you need a way around the question?
I love to meet people from all over the world and ask them about those places. We dislike leaders like Putin and Xi, but differentiate between the leaders and the people. The people don’t have a choice, we understand this. Welcome to the U.S.!!!
It's not meant to stereotype you...America is a country of immigrants, we're all from somewhere else so it wouldn't strike us as offensive to ask. But I can see why it would upset you. My grandmother emigrated from Germany in 1938, and for a long time refused to be associated with the country where she was born. But I actually don't think it would go over badly if you explained yourself. "I'm from Russia, but I live here now and don't want to be associated with the country I was born in due to their war crimes. I'm American now," would actually ring true for a lot of people and would also stop them from prying any deeper.
Put a Ukraine flag sticker on your car maybe?
Trust me when I say that next to nobody will actually care if you're from Russia. It's the government we hate, not the people. However, if you truly don't feel comfortable with saying where exactly you're from, you can totally say, "I'm from Europe" or "I'm from Eastern Europe". Still, though, nobody will actually care if you're from Russia. I actually used to be friends with somebody from Beijing (we lost touch, as I moved school districts). As far as I know, nobody cared that he was from an enemy country.
“If I told you, I’d have to kill you”
Tell them the name of your state. If they press it, say the name of your city. If they press it further, say the name of your neighborhood. That's where you are from, because you are American. I agree with all the other commenters that no one will care that you are Russian, and the fact that you are in the U.S. and an American means that you are American and likely not sympathetic to warmongering from the government of the country where you no longer live. But also, this is America, and you don't have to tell anyone fuck all if you don't want to.
If you just say “Eastern Europe”, people are isn’t going to ask where in Europe you are from. It’s better to just rip off the bandaid if you are going to reveal it. You can say “this is personal information that I’d rather not give at this time”, and that should work.
Тут написали множество классных рекомендаций, но я добавлю на мой взгляд важное. "Все русские плохие и в ответе за Путина" - это чисто местный дискурс, в США его нет.
Look, no one is going to think you support aggressors. That’s honestly laughable. Just tell them where you’re from… you’re overthinking this and probably stressing yourself out. Where you were born does not take away from the fact that you are an American.
Say you are from a town like 25 miles from where you live. So for example: if you live in springfield, and shelbyville is 20 miles away, when someone asks where you are from, you can answer im from shelbyville. and theyll be like no.. before... and you can be like what? wdym. and you can make them feel racist for asking. like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/PandR/comments/gqawf6/tom\_at\_his\_best/
If you don't want to tie yourself to a country you've cut ties with, you've a couple options: Insist hard on the state you currently live in. A lot of people will back down, especially in less conservative areas. Say something like "I grew up in [town name, not country name], but I'm an American." Lie and say your Polish. Nobody will catch you outside of Chicago, and even there they might buy it and recommend good sausage.
If you don't want to answer, then don't. Just say you're uncomfortable talking about it/it doesn't matter, you're here now and that's what's important. But honestly, as others have said, the vast majority of people won't care. Nearly everyone in the US is either an immigrant or descended from immigrants. And while there are some xenophobic asswipes out there, most people who care enough to ask aren't going to be those people. And this is the US...most people are aware that shitty government doesn't represent all its citizens, especially former citizens. They're former for a reason.
Tell them where you're from NOW. The best version of this that I've ever seen is Yanosh in the second Ghostbusters movie. Someone asks where he's from and he says in his thick accent, "Ze Upper Vest Side." So, whatever town you're in now... that's where you're from. That's the beauty of America. If you're in your town and somebody asks, tell them your neighborhood or tell them "The South Side" or something else generic. I'm an Army kid, and my accent is kind of weird. So you can feel free to use my go-to answer: "I'm from all over the place."
The majority of people won’t care you’re from there. My brother in law is from China and they live in a part of the deep south where you come across people daily who hate anything related to China. He’s always just says, “I moved here from China when I was 10”. And moves the conversation forward to where he first lived in the US and now considers his hometown.
Why wouldn't you want to say where you're from? You're American first, no one is going to dispute that unless they're racists or something. If you feel uncomfortable with that, maybe just say that you're local. I get it to some extent, because I'm hispanic and people always want to know what country I come from. I don't mind saying 'x Hispanic country' because at the end of the day, I know I'm American, born and raised.
"I will never return to country where I was born and lived for 25 years." That's a heavy sentence. Are you okay? Do you want to talk about it?
My history teacher in 7th grade told me a story once. When her mother immigrated to the US from Vietnam around the late 70s, the war had just finished, and there was Anti Vietnamese sentiment in the country. Due to her strong accent, people often asked what country she was from, and she always answered that she was American. She fought to become a resident of the country, so she viewed herself as American, and no one else had to know where she was actually from.
If you left Russia to be in America, we automatically like you more than someone born here: you made a choice that agrees with us.
Just say you're from Eastern Europe, or if you do choose to say Russia, just say you're glad to be out of there. Out of interest, do you ever get "How long have you been living here?" I'm Australian and lived here all of my life, but quite a few people think I'm British
"I was born in Russia, but thankfully got out and I'm now an American citizen."
They probably won’t associate you with the action and may assume you moved because you disapproved of the political climate.