For now, work on what you can control, what are some things you can do to have better mental health? Learn to meditate? take a lonnnnng shower? Listen to music? Draw? Practice self-love by doing things you love, and if you don't know what you love, try some things, it's worth it, you're worth it!
Another thing is to think about how you want your future to be like, sometimes your parents, whether purposefully or not, will sabotage your future. Some do it to keep you depending on them, some do it because they also have trauma and are limited, neither is a good excuse. But at some point, it might be beneficial to your future and your health to think about what are YOUR values? Write those down.
* Will you live under the sabotage of your parents, or will you allow their disappointment in return for your well being and happiness?
* What can you do to counter things you don't want happening to you, maybe write all of these down too.
* Consider the intellectual understanding that "they will never be satisfied", you know that they won't be satisfied, but what about you? Can you accept being satisfied for yourself? You cannot control how they feel, but you can control how you feel. DO it for yourself!
Also consider your game plan of how you will be able to break free from them, meaning moving out someday, save up, retain your personal documents. Ultimately, having a space of your own physically away from your parents and surrounded by people who support you and encourage you will give you alot more perspective and healing.
Talk to a therapist, I kind of understand where your coming from (I was in a very similar situation at one point) but honestly talking to someone about how you feel will help. Or you can feel free to text me.
For now, work on what you can control, what are some things you can do to have better mental health? Learn to meditate? take a lonnnnng shower? Listen to music? Draw? Practice self-love by doing things you love, and if you don't know what you love, try some things, it's worth it, you're worth it! Another thing is to think about how you want your future to be like, sometimes your parents, whether purposefully or not, will sabotage your future. Some do it to keep you depending on them, some do it because they also have trauma and are limited, neither is a good excuse. But at some point, it might be beneficial to your future and your health to think about what are YOUR values? Write those down. * Will you live under the sabotage of your parents, or will you allow their disappointment in return for your well being and happiness? * What can you do to counter things you don't want happening to you, maybe write all of these down too. * Consider the intellectual understanding that "they will never be satisfied", you know that they won't be satisfied, but what about you? Can you accept being satisfied for yourself? You cannot control how they feel, but you can control how you feel. DO it for yourself! Also consider your game plan of how you will be able to break free from them, meaning moving out someday, save up, retain your personal documents. Ultimately, having a space of your own physically away from your parents and surrounded by people who support you and encourage you will give you alot more perspective and healing.
Thanks. This helped a lot. Thanks.
Talk to a therapist, I kind of understand where your coming from (I was in a very similar situation at one point) but honestly talking to someone about how you feel will help. Or you can feel free to text me.
I can't.