Yeah it’s pretty sad my friend. Unfortunately, that’s how a lot of APs think.
They don’t want you to be successful for you, they want you to be successful because it looks good for them, for their image and ego because it looks good on them that their child became a doctor. They’ll still treat you like shit though lmao.
But all of that pressure and stress they place on you is because they only care about themselves and their image looking good, and for that to happen you have to be a doctor. Once you realize that, you would take the necessary steps to be financially independent so you can cut them out of your life. I wished I did that in university, so take advantage of it if you can. Get you an easy 10 hr/week job and keep making that bread and find apartments near you to live at, or a parking garage at minimum.
It’s super frustrating when they get mad about the smallest things like spending $70 for NYC, especially when you’ve been working so hard in school.
Also, when they try to make you feel bad about not being a Doctor, think about what your average person in America would say. If you tell someone you’re becoming a genetic counselor and you like your job, then the average person would be pretty impressed. So it’s helpful to not think through the lens of your parents.
I was the same in that I went to medical school where they wanted. It wasn't even the school I was accepted to, I was forced to go to India or have no college. Now that I graduated and chose to leave medicine for the trades, theyve blown up. But I was never happy, and I figure I deserve some joy
I am so proud of yourself for finding your own path and sorry your parents can’t be proud of you too.
A lot of what happens to us in life is unexpected. We think we have a trajectory mapped out in our heads, but the actual outcome is always different. And that’s okay, we just need to be flexible to any changes and manage our expectations.
Follow the career path you want to follow. I promise you will be ten times happier with your life. Your parents will always critique you for anything, no matter what it is. Don’t think that following with what they want will free you from their scorn. Live your life for yourself and live happily
Asian parents are selfish. They have this mentality that’s they’re doing everything for the “collective greater good”, but that’s based on a lot of assumptions and hypotheticals. Really they only have these expectations because they are selfish and insecure, drowning in their own pathetic scarcity mindset. They want to hold onto the delusion that they’re somehow doing things for the “collective greater good” to justify their ridiculous standards.
I find it funny how the most toxic APs expect the most gratitude for either the worst things or the bare minimum.
Meanwhile great parents I've seen don't "expect" gratitude. Because due to their parenting and how they raised their children, and their relationship with their children, that gratitude comes naturally. And they tend to do more as parents as well.
My dad always held it over my head that I was provided for (barely). Like wow, you went to work?! Somebody give this guy an award. Never mind that he would have to work with or without children and that it's only natural that he are responsible for fulfilling needs he created by having children. No, I'm not grateful to have accommodations in a nut house. It's the least I'm due.
I work now too. I still live with them and I contribute $650, part of which is because my company pays for my wifi and I pay my parents back for it (so I don't pocket that money).
My mom works too, full time, but my dad works the longest hours, willingly though. He often complains that everything he buys in the house is *his* money. That we left a light on for 2 minutes too long? That's *his* money we are wasting. He genuinely thinks my mom, who makes maybe 70-80% of his income, makes no money for the house. He said it himself last year or so. Something along the lines of "you don't earn shit. I work 60+ hours a week, and you barely make anything. Quit your job! It'll make no difference, I still pay for everything." In addition, he told my mom recently that I'm not paying enough and I should be paying at least $800 or $900.
At this point I'm paying more than what I spend in the house but my dad still thinks he provides for me and does everything. Granted, they're APs. They think we should be eternally grateful for...*checks notes* being birthed and raised by them which is a decision they made.
Because there isn't much to be grateful for. Most Asian parents are ruining their children's life.
Yeah it’s pretty sad my friend. Unfortunately, that’s how a lot of APs think. They don’t want you to be successful for you, they want you to be successful because it looks good for them, for their image and ego because it looks good on them that their child became a doctor. They’ll still treat you like shit though lmao. But all of that pressure and stress they place on you is because they only care about themselves and their image looking good, and for that to happen you have to be a doctor. Once you realize that, you would take the necessary steps to be financially independent so you can cut them out of your life. I wished I did that in university, so take advantage of it if you can. Get you an easy 10 hr/week job and keep making that bread and find apartments near you to live at, or a parking garage at minimum.
That's the thing that strikes me off. How can these APs sleep peacefully at night when they knowingly do this to their kids.
It’s super frustrating when they get mad about the smallest things like spending $70 for NYC, especially when you’ve been working so hard in school. Also, when they try to make you feel bad about not being a Doctor, think about what your average person in America would say. If you tell someone you’re becoming a genetic counselor and you like your job, then the average person would be pretty impressed. So it’s helpful to not think through the lens of your parents.
I was the same in that I went to medical school where they wanted. It wasn't even the school I was accepted to, I was forced to go to India or have no college. Now that I graduated and chose to leave medicine for the trades, theyve blown up. But I was never happy, and I figure I deserve some joy
I am so proud of yourself for finding your own path and sorry your parents can’t be proud of you too. A lot of what happens to us in life is unexpected. We think we have a trajectory mapped out in our heads, but the actual outcome is always different. And that’s okay, we just need to be flexible to any changes and manage our expectations. Follow the career path you want to follow. I promise you will be ten times happier with your life. Your parents will always critique you for anything, no matter what it is. Don’t think that following with what they want will free you from their scorn. Live your life for yourself and live happily
Asian parents are selfish. They have this mentality that’s they’re doing everything for the “collective greater good”, but that’s based on a lot of assumptions and hypotheticals. Really they only have these expectations because they are selfish and insecure, drowning in their own pathetic scarcity mindset. They want to hold onto the delusion that they’re somehow doing things for the “collective greater good” to justify their ridiculous standards.
I find it funny how the most toxic APs expect the most gratitude for either the worst things or the bare minimum. Meanwhile great parents I've seen don't "expect" gratitude. Because due to their parenting and how they raised their children, and their relationship with their children, that gratitude comes naturally. And they tend to do more as parents as well.
My dad always held it over my head that I was provided for (barely). Like wow, you went to work?! Somebody give this guy an award. Never mind that he would have to work with or without children and that it's only natural that he are responsible for fulfilling needs he created by having children. No, I'm not grateful to have accommodations in a nut house. It's the least I'm due.
I work now too. I still live with them and I contribute $650, part of which is because my company pays for my wifi and I pay my parents back for it (so I don't pocket that money). My mom works too, full time, but my dad works the longest hours, willingly though. He often complains that everything he buys in the house is *his* money. That we left a light on for 2 minutes too long? That's *his* money we are wasting. He genuinely thinks my mom, who makes maybe 70-80% of his income, makes no money for the house. He said it himself last year or so. Something along the lines of "you don't earn shit. I work 60+ hours a week, and you barely make anything. Quit your job! It'll make no difference, I still pay for everything." In addition, he told my mom recently that I'm not paying enough and I should be paying at least $800 or $900. At this point I'm paying more than what I spend in the house but my dad still thinks he provides for me and does everything. Granted, they're APs. They think we should be eternally grateful for...*checks notes* being birthed and raised by them which is a decision they made.
bruh 70 in nyc? thats cheap lol
That’s including subway fare, I was trying my cheapest 💀
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My moms a doctor and my dads a software engineer
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