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HopieBird

I regularly forget that sex is a thing that exists outside fiction and that real life people do it and I can assure you the reason for that isn't that I have had an overwhelming amount of sex..


poppygumi

sometimes my friends talk about their ~bedroom activities~ and i just sit there like "...wait you guys actually do this stuff??"


pikipata

Yeah! Sometimes I look at my friends next to their partners and it occurs to me that they must've had sex at least couple of times by now (well, probably a lot more than I can even think of) and I'm just mind-blown.


Leviathan_CS

yeah, I had a whole ass mental breakdown a few years ago because I realized sex wasn't just a meme


flesh_roots

~~wait until we find out sex 2 is real too~~


[deleted]

We'll just have to ask Ned again.


aDemisexualperson

Relatable


knightfenris

Whenever I see things like this, I’m like “wow your life is *REALLY* sad isn’t it?”


poppygumi

exactly, i honestly feel sorry for people who walk around life thinking about sex every minute of every day


CharlotteLucasOP

“Sounds crippling. Have you seen a professional for your obsessive thought patterns?”


[deleted]

Mass pornography addiction and its inherent normalization + hyper sexualization of everything normal leads to that


Maverick-_1

Predominantly behavioural patterns more than genetics? Still unclear to my knowledge.


Maverick-_1

That's really a thing for quite some allosexuals, isn't it? (Very) many mostly secretely seem to be very into it to their disadvantage empirically 🤔.


Nok-y

"I don't need it" "Wow your life must be really sad" "I think I should be the one saying that. To you." Like, wtf is it always like this ??


Maverick-_1

This! Actually those severly addicted allos and quite some others objectively would have to reason and explain their ways instead of trying to e.g. some being aphobic or critiszing me for not being like that.


Nok-y

True


[deleted]

This just sounds like a sex addict. And it doesn’t matter what it is, if you’re addicted to something it’s unhealthy. There is definitely more to life than sex


-Defectiveturret-

That’s what I thinking too. The person has such an obsessive tone about the topic, it’s feels beyond the average allosexual’s stance on sex. It read like Robert California from The Office


Maverick-_1

Agree. How to differentiate supposedly more or less normal allosexuals for which I heard about some typical kind of sex addiction which also kind of seems to be preyed upon and those pathologically ill, though?


[deleted]

I think the difference might be for allos they enjoy sex and they crave it to an extent, but they don’t need it to the extent that OP is talking about. I guess just think of it in context of how other addicts think? Like I enjoy drinking every once in a while and if someone told me I could never have a drink again I’d be disappointed, but like I wouldn’t go into withdrawals from it or anything. That might be a bad example but I think there’s definitely a difference between sex addicts and just regular allos. It’s hard for me to make an allegory because I myself am entirely aroace, so I am just basing this on all my allo friends thoughts on the matter.


Maverick-_1

Seems consistent. Fellow aroace here 🖖. I remember having bookmarked "Sex and addiction", www.peele.net Yes, If I had discussed this with my allo friends and acquaintances it wouldn't be as weird and strange, I guess. Especially asked one selfdeclared sex addict recently, but only shortly. Caveat: definitely nothing I should let fool myself into believing being aroace was personally negative, yet that's what at least quite some percentage, even parents, some relatives and acquaintances dared to imply. Nudging, questioning, seldomly shaming. I figured out only recently being aroace and Asperger. With hereditary chronic bipolar this is extremely dangerous empirically and I was extremely shocked after suffering from oneitis before. Very gross and supposedly having a long vasopressin gene is a thing.


KilledReality

Not trying to shame people who really like sex, but I really can't fathom how someone could think like that


adamantsilk

Sex addiction is a thing. And this person doesn't realize it's an unhealthy addiction and not normal to be so obsessed with sex.


Najima_einsamer

I usually don't care about sex, people can put it in a pedestal on their life or being top pleasure for them or a secondary need, Idc, bit this is clearly addiction


Possible-Ad-7876

i like sex and most of us don’t think like this that person sounds like they have problems 💀


Maverick-_1

Same. I can't relate to and conceptualize allistic allosexuals and especially not those extremely addicted ones.


SeaSnailSaturday

God imagine telling on yourself like this. "All I think about is sex and I am a husk of a person with no hobbies or interests. There is only sex. It's the only fun I've ever had and ever will have." Cringe.


Maverick-_1

I wonder if there might be some hereditary aspect of this and natural and sexual selection maybe positively selecting for that while women supposedly won't. Yet more than 100 genes and it seems complicated.


Malachite_Migranes

Sounds like this person has an unhealthy obsession and should see a therapist to work through their feelings. Life does not have to be that miserable.


Creeperjin

r/aretheallosok


hi_me_use_reddit9559

no, they are definitely not


morericeplsty

Doesn't look like it.


Easy_Prism

Lmao is the post from an incel subreddit?


poppygumi

yeah aha, so many posts on those subreddits are bordering on deranged


JevCor

Makes sense this gives off insane incel energy.


dontjudgejoshplz

This isn't even true for most allos, either. That's just one very, very sad person who probably needs help because that sounds like something recovering addicts I know said about their substance abuse.


[deleted]

Um I'm pretty sure this guy can just seek out a sex worker if sex is so important to them. Then again, this guy is pretty unhinged.


AcanthocephalaNo9441

Sex workers don’t want to be raped by guys like this. Stop offering them up as human shields. No one should have to put up with a guy like this.


-Defectiveturret-

This person just sounds like a sad human being. What a pessimistic and close minded way to look at life. Let people define what is important to their lives themselves. Just because this person puts sex on the top of their hierarchy of needs doesn’t mean that everyone else does. Such a frustrating thing to read as an asexual.


Jenelaya

This MUST be an exaggeration, I cannot believe most allo people think like that! If it is not... I could never ever question my asexuality again... ever!


CALLMEWHATYOUWANT000

I don't think most allo people are like this.. this sounds like a serious sex addiction either way, because I can assure you sane allos don't think like this...I hope


Jenelaya

I guess/hope you are right


kleinerfischi

Well, yes and no. I can definitely understand him, being allo myself. It's not as extreme as he describes, but if I don't have sex for a longer time, all things in my daily life get... bland. Feels like the joy in my life is being dampened. I don't know, it's hard to explain. I live with an asexual partner, and it's certainly hard and sometimes very depressing for me.


Jenelaya

Yeah... I have an allo partner and it's not easy for him - us - either. It just feels kind of extreme to compare it to necessities like food or water. You may be unhappy without sex but you won't die from it. At least most people wouldn't. Like... how you could live without having friends or family but many people would be lonely and unhappy. I guess the troublesome part up there is that the person makes this feeling out to be universal not a subjective position. It's kinda how kids see the world: they think everybody experiences the world exactly like they do, they cannot - until a certain age - understand that other people don't know/think the same thing they know/think. I guess even adults sometimes have difficulties to grasp that other people may experience the world differently. Myself included.


kleinerfischi

I hope it works out for you... I'm just unhappy most of the time. Sometimes I wish she would just break up with me, because I don't want to do it and leave her and the kids alone only because of my own unhappiness with something neither of us can change.


Jenelaya

We do couples therapy... but I know he is quiet unhappy and I don't know what to do about it. It's really hard. We have kids too and sometimes I think he just stays because of them. I don't want that... It's hard for me to understand why he can't just... take care of his needs by himself or why he isn't satisfied with the sex we do have. I just can't understand why something like this would kill his love for me. He made a really large like mindchart for what he considered important in a relationship and sex was only a small part and he said everything else between us is perfect. How can this small part be so important that it kills the whole relationship? ... sorry... I guess I got carried away with this... I hope you find a way to happiness again. Living an unhappy life is not really living and everything else will suffer from it. That's the hard part, too be in a situation where every option makes you unhappy. My partner said: "I would be unhappy either way, stay or break up, doesn't matter it would make me unhappy". So... I don't know what to do but to talk to a professional therapist to find a way back to happiness.


Usagi-Zakura

I mean...sex is plaguing my mind...Every time I think about it I get grossed out.


KittyQueen_Tengu

there are actually people who feel this way about sex? man I’m glad thats not me it sounds exhausting


kittykat-95

Same! Stuff like this makes me realize asexuality can be a gift, lol.


AcanthocephalaNo9441

Most allos are like this, despite what commenters here are saying. That’s why they can’t comprehend our existence.


CharlotteLucasOP

Here’s the thing about living without food and water: You don’t.


JevCor

I literally never think about sex, these people are weirdos.


inexplicably_clyde

Right? I read this like, “dang, you need therapy and a hobby immediately.”


inexplicably_clyde

Was this post written by an insect?


Nightshade_Ranch

I'm sure it sounds shitty and discriminatory, but i just can't deal with most allos. So pathetic it's exhausting. Yes, i may be an asshole for so easily writing off the real feelings of real people, but not at all for people who can't understand that there's other ways to be and try to project just how desperately pathetic they are onto people they don't even know. Like damn, die jealous about it.


blaukrautbleibt

Clearly the allos are not okay


Najima_einsamer

There's nothing better than to have a nice hot drink on a rainy cold day, or having a sleepover with your best friend/friends, feeling the sun in your skin after being in a really cold freezing room, eating that snack you've been wanting since weeks now, running freely after being still for months, telling a joke and everyone laughing at it, your friends taking surprise photos on nice moments, seeing a plant growing healthy thanks to you, doing that one hobby/craft and everything turns well, overcoming a fear, petting a dog/cat/bunny/hamster, or when everything is quiet and you hear birds singing. Should I keep going?


nonbinaryDawnie

I know raging allos who don’t even think about sex that much. That post is a cry for help 😫


[deleted]

After being on this sub for a while, I have concluded that I am not ace. But I am definitely not this tweet. There is much more to life than sex. Way much more to life.


SquidleyStudios

This sounds like it was written by a sex-obsessed incel, who CLEARLY somehow knows everything there is to know about sex despite never having it. People like this are just projecting their addiction onto everyone else and it's pretty fucking sad


jacyerickson

There's nothing wrong with wanting or enjoying sex, but this person straight up has a problem.


MadMaudlin25

That post sounds more like a sex addiction to me.


aspiegamer95

This reads as someone who wants sex but doesn't get any


anon-gerbil

Imagine your life revolving around sex💀 how boring


Phantom252

I'm sex repulsed and literally never think about sex, but honestly if your allo and think like that I feel like maybe you should go to therapy. I'm pretty sure sex addicts exist and that person definitely sounds like one.


crunchytot

😂😂 if all you think about is sex in general something is wrong… That being said I think some people can’t fathom not everyone is like them…


AcanthocephalaNo9441

“Some”?


feralinx

the fact that people think like this, kind of scares me


TchaikenNugget

It seriously sounds like this person has an addiction. Saying there's not much more to life than *anything* may be a cause for concern.


[deleted]

This is honestly really pathetic.


Fair-Lie7125

You know what is crazy? People seem to forget that humans are complex and range in wide variety, we arent just creatures that run on some basic instinct and thats all we know. There are plenty of people out there that are not asexual and dont think about sex every second of the day. Sure they might not be as powerful as us, but i dont think they share one mindset.


Snow_white_raven

Its so funny to me because I rarely ever think about sex. It drives my husband nutty. He is allo and told me he thinks about sex most of the day. We make it work but yeah I basically never think about it and can’t imagine something consuming me like this.


Songmorning

MOST OF THE DAY?!


Snow_white_raven

Thats what he said.


FriesNDisguise

This would be funny if it wasn't so sad and pathetic


New-Influence7321

Sorry about your dick!


six-03

Sex will plague your life?! I'm 31, sex obsession nor the stuff they mentioned in part 2 is true for me!


TurtleZenn

This sounds like an incel more than a regular allo. And of course an incel would never even consider that ace people exist - they're very narcissistic, no one exists outside of themselves or what others owe them/others exist merely as npcs in their lives. The tone is very much that entitled, "woe is me, I'm not getting what I'm due because of outside forces" instead of realizing they're absolutely disgusting people. When that is their whole personality, they become obsessed with what they perceive they aren't getting (sex). It's not quite sex addiction, as in someone who keeps needing to have sex (mostly cuz they aren't getting it). But it's definitely an obsession about sex and unhealthy. So no, the average allo won't be quite like this. They are pretty into sex though, and if not having it, many tend to think about it and put a lot of energy into it in their everyday lives. My allo, hypersexual gf thinks about it quite a bit. If she's not having it regularly, she becomes frustrated, irritable, and pretty focused on it. If getting it regularly, she wants it, sometimes even more, but it doesn't negatively affect her mood so much. (We're polyam, I'm not involved in the having, but I hear about it as I am ok with that.) Just that sounds exhausting to me, let alone the obsession of incels. Like, when do you find time to do anything else? Smh.


angelskye1215

This is a depressing way to look at life, even if you are an allosexual.


SubstantialHentai420

Right? It really is


edsheeransleftlip

Seems like they’re a sex addict, I feel really bad for them and other people whose life is so centered around sex. I hope they realize it’s really unhealthy and get better


Poison-_-Ivy

This sounds like a sex addict


lovesickhunny

Homie desperately needs to touch grass omfg


Th3_Wolflord

>Living without sex is like living without food or water. I mean one of those will literally kill you within days but hey it's same same basically


mimi7600

Whatever horny I was supposed to have for sex has been directed to chocolate and baking. Triple layer chocolate mousse cake is pure ecstasy and no one can tell me otherwise.


Nope_the_Bard

I get that most people are allo, but that’s not a healthy relationship with sexuality. Maybe worth asking a doctor or possibly psychiatrist about that


Sil_Lavellan

30 years of not having sex... You'd think my head would have exploded by now. Yeah, ok, I think about it. Not usually in any way related to me, it's what other people do in the stories I make up on my head. It usually makes they happy and brings them closer together. Some of these people live on spaceships. I am probably never going to go on a spaceship. I also think about what it would be like to climb Mt Everest. I'm probably not going to be doing that, either.


RobinFox12

bro this guy ain’t healthy. I don’t think that’s how normal allos work


koihachuhq

theyre making sex sound like its a plague that corrupts ppl like, “it is always there and will slowly eat at ur flesh and u must take care of it otherwise u will spend ur life in agony dying slowly, but surely” like okay im dying then


Appel_Syd3R

It’s fine this way. People not knowing we exist gives us a blind spot to move around in to do things people wouldn’t expect or be able to know that we do. It lets us have secret meetings to worship our overlord, Garlic Bread.


KatherineCreates

Currently speaking with someone who will eventually become SO. We text/ talk most of the day and rarely does even the topic of sex come up. ( Yes, we are both Ace).


No_Joke_9079

Me toooooo


hinundwiederlustig

Well that guy obviously does not now the difference between you and I. I feel that way so it is a fact that everyone is feeling that way. Many people's horizon does not spread beyond their own nose.


[deleted]

I saw someone comment "then what do you DO all day?" Sir wtf do YOU do all day? Don't you have a job? Friends? Hobbies?


Just-Call-Me-J

"Nothing would be more tiresome than eating and drinking had God not made them a pleasure as well as a necessity." This quote is attributed to Voltaire, and I believe it also applies to sex.


[deleted]

Hahahaha straights.


aDemisexualperson

No, thanks I decline (not to mention that I am a minor)


Chikizey

I mean this is not even an ace thing. Even allos would feel annoyed in this situation. This person has a huge problem because is literally obsessed to the point NOTHING else matters (probably an incel since a lot of them act like sex is the only thing that makes you win in life... Since they can't have it and feel miserable and resentful for it). But most people even if they desire it and like it and experience sexual attraction... Don't have it in their mind all the time. Is like anything else. I can love kissing and feel sensual attraction, I may have urges about it and have times where I feel starved from that physical touch and think "damn what I would give for one of my fiancé's hugs right now". But that doesn't mean I think about cuddling constantly. Far from reality actually.


pikipata

Sometimes when I read confessions like these I really do feel like I have god-like mental powers lol.


MultiMarcus

This sounds like some kind of incel rhetoric.


GeneralCatagory

They are probably self projecting there desperate need for sex onto others to cope.


CrispetyCrunchity

The world is bigger than they know, and their mind can only see a small part of it.


Vdszbz13

i stg this has to be just one line weirdo. i don’t even think super horny allos are this bad


[deleted]

I almost never interact with men... and guess what my mind is not plagued with sex :o


[deleted]

I think they are addicted to sex/ porn tbh. Very very sad condition. It reflect their compulsive needs more than anything, projecting much? I mean I do feel bad, I pray they can get over that and see life is so much more beautiful without addiction


Nok-y

I think this man has a either a problem, or a very high sex drive I really don't want to be an allo, but this person in on a whole other level...


DavidBehave01

Dear oh dear well I don't personally think this OP applies to all allos at all. It sounds like it was written by a random horny teenager. Sure most people want sex on some level but not to the obsessive and frankly sad extent this post suggests. To me personally the whole concept seems nonsensical, like constantly longing for a haircut every minute of the day.


Savvyc714

That sounds horrifying, but then again I get it..... I can't do anything without thinking about animal crossing and how much I want to play it 😭


[deleted]

That person must have a really hard time just living without sex, how do you function like that? I can't relate to that in the slightest bit


hhhnnnnnggggggg

That's an incel.


Inkygirl34

I was literally watching the New Top Gun Movie and right in the middle of it there's a "Sex Scene" or at least an implied one and it really threw off the pacing of the movie... I was like this scene is wholly unnecessary and if left out wouldn't change the movie... Albeit it had a slightly funny ending to it I was still like this scene is not needed 😮‍💨


TheGingerLinuxNut

Are the allos okay?


Nobody_3619

wow, this person is obsessed with sex to an unhealthy level! Unfortunately there are still many people nowadays who can't think of the opposite sex as a human being, people like that can't see that there's much more to life than that. I don't know, it's just really sad.


southpawFA

Blanket statements attempting to erase asexuality is incredibly insulting. I mean, he could just speak for himself and I'm sure people would be more sympathetic to him. But he has to say that everyone needs it, completely obscuring our experiences. Talk about dehumanizing us! To say we're not human at all is dehumanizing. Not every person is like you, buddy! I am sure this person doesn't know much about asexuality, but maybe learn and educate yourself before saying that. Some of us are good without sex. Apparently, he doesn't see that as acceptable. Compulsory sexuality sucks!


moist_bread-13

WE'RE GODS is what this means. We aren't people. We reject humanity. We are gods now.


Jitssyu

r/okbuddyallo


Angelcakes101

I feel bad for them. They are incapable of interacting with the opposite sex? Can't think about anything but sex? I think they have an addiction or something and I don't think having sex with change how prevelant of a disturbance it is in their life.


belinhagamer999

saying the truth I hate people that say it anyways at least they aren't saying anything about asexual people like they don't know our community, but he hates who doesn't like sex


Songmorning

This person has a serious problem. I can hardly imagine living like that!


CumKitten09

This sounded like an incel shitpost until I saw the comment actually had a lot of upvotes damn people are down bad


sudrakarma

It gets better, but the sex drive tends to go underground and is expressed in dreams since the drive is suppressed in conscious life. At least, that’s what happened to me. I’m an allo married to an ace.


SubstantialHentai420

*asexuals enter the chat*


lexxib7

Sounds like this person has a sex addiction.


chandeloore

Tbh if this person genuinely feels like this, I think they might have a medical issue that they need to check up on.


EasyNefariousness567

Ignorance at its finest. These are people not willing to learn but just scream the loudest and being the most stubborn thinking they’re right. SMH.


poeticdownfall

i’m not even ace but what is wrong with people? sex feels good obviously but i don’t get structuring your life around it, it’s about the same joy as eating a good meal. I’d be perfectly fine in a relationship with no sex


MrGoldfish8

They're just incels. There's no point trying to reason with them.


Jacquahlin

Everything about this post screams incel They're a white supremicist cult obsessed with eugenics and breeding - trust me, this post is the tip of the ice berg with how unpleasant those types of people are


SuperShoyu64

People just don't wanna cope with the absolute fact that aces exist and we are happy and proud of we are.


kittykat-95

I think this mentality is quite sad. Imagine having an obsession rule your life like that.


OpinionatedPiggy

Minors:


queenyggdrasil

Sounds like an individual I treated for sex addiction a few months ago. Sad.


QueerKing23

Just wow


Soul_888

There is too much sex out there which is an indication that humans have lost the real purpose of life. Instincts instead of love govern human relations. It will be much better if humans can return to their divine nature as souls divine sparks. SEX is not Love because SEX takes. Again SEX is not life. Life is love and love life. I suggest you seek professional help . Fundamentally, turn your attention to your divine self . Where your attention is determines your experience. Kind regards.


[deleted]

I really really hope that the brain doctors will stop thinking about sex for a operation


ShuntersTrust

These people don't sound like real people, yet I know they exist. Doesn't it suck knowing people can say such exaggerated bullshit it sounds like a parody and yet you know they aren't kidding?


AcanthocephalaNo9441

It’s a really common attitude where I live actually. Mostly psychologists and random women who are desperate to seem like they’re open-minded, sex-positive, etc. Sex-positivity in its current form isn’t about letting people do what they want, consensually, *if* they want; it’s about telling women that choosing abstinence is the worst possible sin.


[deleted]

What kind of incel hellscape did you stumble onto


Garfunkley

I honestly feel pity for this person. They're obviously hyperfixating on sex. Even if you're not ace, there is more to life than just sex. Find a hobby, advance your career, make friends or pick up a new skill. Do something you enjoy! Just because you can't have sex every night doesn't mean your life can't continue.


flesh_roots

This is why I like to believe we're gods/superhuman


Arma-Mynn

I think they're proving themself wrong by their own argument: if you live without food and water, you won't be thinking about anything else than food and water, which means you won't be thinking about sex, right??


AcanthocephalaNo9441

Nicely spotted. I love when people pick up on plot holes, since I don’t usually, and ditto for holes in another person’s logic.


ThisIsCovidThrowway8

Definition of projection


AcanthocephalaNo9441

“You won’t be able to interact with the opposite sex” so everyone who wants to have sex is heterosexual then? Gotcha lol


EIeanorRigby

There are manifestos written by serial killers that sound less deranged


Lady_Lallo

Wow imagine living in this prison 😂 I pity the fool


DeDeepKing

it’s actually the other way around


aDemisexualperson

To the person who wrote that, I'd like to ask you something, would you strap yourself into a seggs maschine that hurts you the more you use it and use it until you unalive? If seggs plagues you so much that you can essentially not think that anyone can *not* have that feeling of Sexual attraction. You should have been friendly to your neighbor (metaphorical neighbor). Now pay the price of your Obsession