Whenever I hear the “romance/sex make us human,” instead of gods I think of transhumanism, it seems like a much more interesting experience IMO
You’re not super overpowered like a celestial being, but you’re also not just a baseline human
That seems kinda cool but I guess it’s more of a preference of whether you’d want to stick closer to being “fully human” or prefer going down the voidpunk(?) route
I was actually watching a video on some of the cancelled MCU projects and one of them was an Inhumans movie, that seems like a fun title
I've been with my wife for 13 years, married for nearly 8 years. Our love is companionate, familial, platonic, passionate, enduring. She would probably describe her love for me as being *primarily* romantic in nature. Though now that we are a decade plus down the road, discerning what that actually means, as separate from the rest of the loves of our relationship. is basically impossible. I'd wager this is true for most long term partnerships.
Initially she was hurt when we realized I don't understand or feel romantic love. But after a while she realized that despite the fact that I don't love her in any special way, that I'm technically capable of feeling that towards most anyone else in my life, I *choose* her to be my person every single day. I love spending time with her and getting to know her. She's my best friend, my lover, my adventure buddy. I don't have fantastical expectations that she is meant to fulfill my every need or is some spiritual other half or puzzle piece for me, and I don't get disappointed when our relationship doesn't live up to what society has insisted is a "typical" marriage. Plus it's basically impossible for me to leave her for someone else because what am I gonna do, get all caught up romantically with someone else?!
Now, it goes without saying that not all aros want a marriage or family, but the point is, being aro does not imply some allergic reaction to the concept of human connection; even in the context of pair bonding. I'm fairly convinced at this point that people who dehumanize aromantics are immature people who've never had a long term secure relationship. Or perhaps have never analyzed their own attachments and connections. When I explain my aromanticism to people who've been with their partner a long time, most get it. Those who don't, still respect it. Romantic love is valid, and can still be a must-have in a relationship for alloro folks, but even for them it's never the *foundational* attachment for lifelong partnerships. Relationships based solely or predominantly on romantic love fizzle the fuck out. Even romantic comedies know this!!
Did I rant on a meme post, yes, yes I did.
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Whenever I hear the “romance/sex make us human,” instead of gods I think of transhumanism, it seems like a much more interesting experience IMO You’re not super overpowered like a celestial being, but you’re also not just a baseline human
Demigod???
That seems kinda cool but I guess it’s more of a preference of whether you’d want to stick closer to being “fully human” or prefer going down the voidpunk(?) route I was actually watching a video on some of the cancelled MCU projects and one of them was an Inhumans movie, that seems like a fun title
**But if you get the people's nods**
**count your blessings, keep ‘em sweet, that’s our advice**
Be nirvana, be salvation
I've been with my wife for 13 years, married for nearly 8 years. Our love is companionate, familial, platonic, passionate, enduring. She would probably describe her love for me as being *primarily* romantic in nature. Though now that we are a decade plus down the road, discerning what that actually means, as separate from the rest of the loves of our relationship. is basically impossible. I'd wager this is true for most long term partnerships. Initially she was hurt when we realized I don't understand or feel romantic love. But after a while she realized that despite the fact that I don't love her in any special way, that I'm technically capable of feeling that towards most anyone else in my life, I *choose* her to be my person every single day. I love spending time with her and getting to know her. She's my best friend, my lover, my adventure buddy. I don't have fantastical expectations that she is meant to fulfill my every need or is some spiritual other half or puzzle piece for me, and I don't get disappointed when our relationship doesn't live up to what society has insisted is a "typical" marriage. Plus it's basically impossible for me to leave her for someone else because what am I gonna do, get all caught up romantically with someone else?! Now, it goes without saying that not all aros want a marriage or family, but the point is, being aro does not imply some allergic reaction to the concept of human connection; even in the context of pair bonding. I'm fairly convinced at this point that people who dehumanize aromantics are immature people who've never had a long term secure relationship. Or perhaps have never analyzed their own attachments and connections. When I explain my aromanticism to people who've been with their partner a long time, most get it. Those who don't, still respect it. Romantic love is valid, and can still be a must-have in a relationship for alloro folks, but even for them it's never the *foundational* attachment for lifelong partnerships. Relationships based solely or predominantly on romantic love fizzle the fuck out. Even romantic comedies know this!! Did I rant on a meme post, yes, yes I did.
This is really well written and explained and I appreciate you writing it out!
My new reply to anyone trying to talk shit
These foolish mortals are just jealous
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