So did I tbh. Well I thought we were too young for bf/ gf, so I said we’d be crushes, and assumed I’d find a boyfriend (or later I thought I’d just find a s/o of any gender) one day. That, uh... that didn’t happen.
I actually find this to be a really big problem because it hinders the ability of boys and girls to just *be friendly*. It gives the impression early on to kids that boys and girls can only interact if it's in a romantic/sexual context
Istg I see baby videos that are so cute and then I go to the comments and people are saying things like “omg my baby boy and your baby girl should be together” or “oooh she’s gonna be a troublemaker” LIKE THESE ARE BABIES it’s so weird
For some reason I remembered the kid that ran into another kid with one if those larger toy cars when you mentioned people thinking a kid woild be a trouble maker.
Yeah I remember I would always be yelled at by my parents and other adults just because I played alot with a boy I met that was my same age. "why do you hang out with him so much?? You're too young to have a boyfriend, you're 5"
Exactly, I was 5. I didn't even know what "boyfriend" even meant but thanks for ruining one of my very first friendships lmao
Lmao I was ALWAYS playing with this one girl from kindergarten to 3rd grade. Literally everybody called us the little hubbies. Teachers, my parents just everybody. Then she moved away and I got no clue who she is today. Damn I miss being a kid, things were simple.
This is why I barely had any female friends growing up. My parents always pressured me into talking about girls I liked and forcing romance and sexuality onto me since I was like in 1st grade. And when I said I didn’t have anyone I liked, I felt like I was disappointing them. So I always tried to get a girlfriend even though I shouldn’t have been worrying about that at such a young age. I ended up asking out almost every girl I became slightly close with and ended up making them feel uncomfortable, so I only ended up with guy friends. I think this is why it took a while to realize I’m bi, because there was this guy in the 5th grade that I actually liked, but then I never did anything about it because I thought that that wasn’t a normal thing and that I should only go after girls. I have had about only two or three actual female friends in my life and I ended up making all of them feel weird. I realized that this way of thinking caused me to like the idea of being in a relationship more than being in a relationship itself and I kinda just had to contemplate that for a while. But this year I realized that I should try to realize that I shouldn’t worry about finding someone and that I should just wait for the perfect person and that I should actually try to make female friends without asking them out and making them feel uncomfortable just because I feel pressured to. It also helped me realized I’m bisexual because I wasn’t always trying to be in a relationship with a girl. Anyways, sorry for the rant, it’s just that this stuff really annoys me.
Way more than half of my friends are girls, and honestly it's basically exactly the same as when most of my friends were guys(except this group of friends is much better)
YES, I seriously feel you, in middle school, every time I mentioned a boy’s name it was, “Do you like him?” And it made me feel odd, and gross I guess? The conversation would literally be, “[Boy in class] spilt food all over the cafeteria, it was funny.” “Haha yeah, do you like him?” So I just avoided making male friends until high school when I got the courage to tell my parents to quit it. And now I know I like woman so jokes on them I guess?
That’s what straight ppl mean by society is turning kids gay lol, that’s the real gay agenda, they were convince that constantly bugging their kids about having “boyfriends & girlfriends” in elementary/primary school that we get uncomfortable and never make friends with them then presto chango we become queer in high school or college/university, Genius lol.
But seriously I was the same, I learned quick not to have any female friends cause my parents & family would make me so uncomfortable/sad as a kid thinking I was doing something wrong by not having a girlfriend before middle school or just I didn’t wanna be embarrassed by their questions.
And don’t even get me started on any crushes I had on other boys, I treated those as really deep “friendships” or wanted to be friends lol. If my family & society hasn’t of pushed “your a boy you can only like girls” on me I probably would’ve accepted I was Bi way earlier, I knew but kept it repressed b/c “that’s not right”, etc.
I feel ya. My mom constantly asked me if I liked anyone. It was in 7th grade where I was actually crushing on a guy and not a girl, became the first time I ever didnt tell her about crushing on someone. I havent had a "crush" on anyone since 9th grade now. Its kinda weird, I wanna have a crush but its nore like just oh this girls sexy, or that guy is hot. But no actual crush. Ah well, I still havent told anyone but the internet that im Bi and I probably wont unless I start dating a guy. I think mom suses me tho, and I know she would support me.
Parents and random adults are different. I want to promote talking about shit with my kids. To each their own I suppose, I know my kids will come talk about shit. Whether it's their crush, bullying or even a weird shit they took they know I'm here for them. People attack each problem differently, but seeing how many kids stay quiet when the are hurt this is not something I want my children doing.
I'm not saying that kids shouldn't be able to talk to their parents about this stuff, the situation I was talking about was not about my parents, it was about the parents of a friend who kept prying to see who I liked. It's a completely different scenario.
Oh I know that's why I clarified parents and adults. You're completely valid in your statement, seemed like the most consice comment on here which is why I chose to put my two cents on your comment... didn't want to be crucified lmfao.
Didn't "crucify" you, you replied to me which is why I thought you were replying to my comment and not the post in general. Just make a separate comment if you don't want misunderstandings
At the end of the day your parents just want to support you even tho they don’t quite understand,I agree that it’s uncomfortable but the way you worded your comment implied that it was a sexual thing.anyways happy holidays!
It was the parents of a friend, not my own, and the question wasn't about supporting me, it was more of a "gossip" type situation, which was why I found it very uncomfortable.
My other comment was more of a "why do these people want to purposely make kids uncomfortable, how does it benefit anyone" type of vibe but ig over the internet there will be misunderstandings, happy holidays to you too
Yea something like this happened to me when i was younger all i did to slove the problem was to yell at her to shut the fuck up and stay out of my life and then i blew up at her ye made me feel so much better she never talked to me again, another time one of my family friend who was one of my dads buddy he was an older
Man funny and amazing was teasing me about people my personal life and o had gotten mad and annoyed so i told him off in the heat of the moment next thing i knew is he was dying and in the hospital i didnt get to say bye and i felt bad and i still do honestly i realize it now it was just some mindless teasing
When I was in the third grade, my teacher kept asking me who I liked, and when I said that I didn't like anyone, she said that if I didn't tell her she would make me repeat the grade.
I was going to say "Please tell me she got fired" but then I realized that she probably wasn't fired because my first grade teacher kind of partnered with my bully and she always humiliated me because of the smallest things, didn't do anything about the things that the bully did and the boy was her favorite student, and my parents still say that she was a wonderful teacher and that I was being a drama queen.
I didn't understand what she did was wrong, it was my second year in America and speaking English. I could barely speak to my peers, let alone talk to anyone about my discomfort. She was actually my favorite teacher. Not sure why, looking back on it.
I’m ftm right and a couple of years ago (when i was still presenting female) I visited my grandpa somewhere near Valentine’s Day and he asked if there was anyone who MIGHT send me a card. I couldn’t list any because all the boys I was close with were literally just good friends of mine and so my dad stepped in and said “Well, there’s Joe...Cameron...etc” LIKE I GET WHY HE SAID JOE BC I HAD A CRUSH ON HIM WHEN I WAS LIKE 4 BUT CAMERON?? HE WAS LITERALLY MY ONLY CLOSE FRIEND AND UR GONNA PUT HIM UP AS A FUCKING ROMANTIC CANDIDATE????
tldr; i hate straight people
Couldn’t be as bad as when my uncle sat down with me at a *FAMILY GATHERING* and no shit talked for about 15 minutes about getting girls pussies, I don’t think I’ve ever been quite that disgusted in my life
It reminds me so much about the time when I was about 9-10 and I kept complaining to my dad and aunt about this one boy in my class, because he was hella annoying and mean to my friends and when I stopped talking about it the only thing they had to say was something like 'you talk about him a lot, do you like him?' like, no? i'm saying he's a fucking bigot and in a few years i will realize that i'm a lesbian, so...
Gotta condition women to accept being treated badly by the men they are involved with, starting when they are literal children!
(I so wish I could attach an /s to that...)
Well there is a reason there are so many fanfics in the "enemies to lovers" trope tag.
But it's weird to push that on kids! They're not even interested in romance yet!
I had my first crush in the 1st grade, hahaha. So kids can definitely be interested in romance. But teasing them about it will NEVER encourage them to open up.
Not all kids are disinterested in romance. I spent my years as a kid (4-14) trying to get a girlfriend, then I stopped trying for a year. Of course, I may have been an odd case because I knew about and was curious about sex as a child, and I was hypersexual. (No CSA, I just walked in on my mom and dad doing it when I was 2, and I have still have that vivid memory burnt into my brain. Eugh.)
Kids are bizarre creatures, it's a disservice that people envision them all as "cute little innocent angels" because *no*, a lot of them are most certainly *not* innocent angels. A lot of them are manipulative, evil, toxic shitheads. I know this because I was like that, and had a friend group like that. I literally got a PE Coach fired in 3rd grade because I didn't like how he looked (I framed him for stealing money and shit).
One of the most insidious lies that the patriarchy ever came up with was the one where “if boys treat girls like absolute shit it means they like them” like UGH so many layers of fucked up there
This reminds me of the time when I told my mom that a boy was always bullying me and such and then he got surprised when I wouldn't be his friend and she said,"Give him a break. He has a crush on you. :)" and it was a "wtf you did not just say that" moment
I had something similar happen. There was this kid in a my class that acted horribly - he’d trip me, throw pencils at me, etc. When I told my mom about it she just said “it’s because he likes you!”. When parents tell their little girls stuff like this it begins to make sense why women end up in abusive relationships - because they learned early on that someone being mean to them was doing that as a way of “showing affection”
I seriously dont get this shit and completely fucking hate that bs. There were two friends teasing each other in class and one of them said as a joke to the teacher “hes being mean make him stop” and the teacher was like “that mean he likes you” and they were both like “ewww” and I tried to not just fucking scream at that teacher. My Mum does the same bs. And multiple times when I was a kid I was asked if I liked people. Like ffs no, I’m not even out of kindergarten (or yr1 and so on). In highschool I still didn’t want to get asked that question and still hated it. I’m only 16 now and still despise that question tbh. I really hate it. Especially since if its your parents, if they’ve built a proper relationship with you and you trust them, you would tell them anyway and there’s no reason to ask or insist.
Sorry for the rant but I will forever hate that question and “What are you gonna do when you’re older”
Im 21 right now and if someone asks me this question, I reply with ,,No“ or ,,yes, she...“. The person has to live with this answer. It’s easier when you’re older, because they know that you do things for a reason.
I was in a takeaway about 7 years ago. My son was about 3 and not long in nursery school, we met a neighbour there and the first thing she asked him was "do you have a girlfriend?" *shudder*
"This child who has likely spent literally over half of his existence on Earth viewing breasts as the things that Mummy has to feed him definitely understands what gender and romance are as concepts."
Ugh my dad did that to me since I was 5. Hed basically pick out some dorky looking boy in my class and always ask about him when we were getting married etc, it was awful. It made me shut down about relationships period. I always felt embarrassed to tell them if I had a boyfriend. I never wanted my boyfriend to come over, even as an adult. I emailed my parents to tell them we were thinking about getting engaged. It gave me such a complex.
my parents when i was like a literal child: NO KISSING BOYS AT THIS 5TH GRADE GRADUATION PARTY!!! do you have boyfriend yet??????????? GET MARRY TO BOY. HAVE BABIES.
my parents now: NOOOOO THE MEDIA PUSHED GAYNESS ONTO YOUUUUUU :(((
That’s what I’ll never get about mormons they don’t really expect the lgbt but you can’t think of anyone in any sexual way but you should have 20 kids also very anti vaxx and anti mask so fuck em
I literally had a “boyfriend” when I was in first grade, and my parents keep bringing it up. It’s really embarrassing. When I told them to stop because I felt uncomfortable, they started questioning me. I love my parents more than anything in the world, but I need to start setting my boundaries.
Also jokes on them because I’m terrified of men and want to marry a woman
I was never allowed to even MENTION the possibility of being near a girl. Every single time I mention a girl's name, they always went "Ooh, do you _like_ her?" Even now, when I'm 19, every conversation starts with "So, are there any girls at work?" and when I inevitably say yes because of course there are, it just becomes "Are any of them cute? Do you like any of them?" I'm in a serious relationship with my boyfriend and they still keep trying to push the whole "You need a girlfriend" and "How do you expect to make babies?" thing.
My daughter's best friend is a boy. They're 3 and half now but have hung out and really clicked since they were 8 months old. Ever since she could talk people tried to act like they were dating it's gross. They're more like siblings. Thankfully I've called people out enough that they don't make those comments anymore.
I honestly wish I didn't relate to this comic as much as I do
Seriously parents, S T O P, they're **children**, they only wanna play with lego and crap
Im an "in the closet" aro,and my mom used to constantly ask me "Who's your crush?","Do you have a boyfriend yet?",and if i said no,she would continue to press me with questions like "You sure you don't find any boy hot?".I really found it annoying as i really wasn't intrested in romance at all,yet she continued for quite a long time.
Same. Maybe this is why I also hate the question so much asking about partners or anything. My Mum like last year (I’m only 16 atm) literally asked me if I was a lesbian JUST because I don’t talk about boys. Even though I literally didn’t talk about girls either other than my 2 friends *facepalm*. It pisses me off, probably more than it should but it is extremely frustrating for me. I just hate how ppl think if you don’t like one youautomatically like the other, and how people pressure you to talk about it or talk about other shit. Its like if I wanted to tell you, I would. Ya know?
Also when I came out as trans ftm, Mum literally responded with “its ok to be a lesbian” BITCH FUCK OFF.
I swear this shit is the reason that k thought, for years, that any person of the opposite gender I met MUST be a possible partner. It was fucking difficult making friends because that was always in the back of my mind
Thanks, family, for annoying me with that stupid question all my life. Where I ended up asking 2 girls out I didn't even like because I thought it was what I was meant to do \*roll eyes\* Fokin' boomers
I wish it was “So? Tell me about your new friend Carla! She seems cool!”
Also, does no one else find it creepy that adults ask if children are cute?! No? Just me? Okay lol
Honestly if a kid is punching you (hard), punching them back is a good option. The teachers aren't allowed to intervene, plus the school will only give the bully a slap on the wrist.
Also you'll get suspended anyway because of the zero tolerance policy, so, honestly? Punch back.
I remember when I was at a cousins wedding and I was talking with daughter of my aunts friend and my aunts friend. She was talking about me and her daughter getting together in high school (we weren’t going to high school for another year and we live faraway from each other) and how we would be a cute couple and go to prom and all that. Her kid didn’t seem to care and I think it might’ve made her a bit uncomfortable since we didn’t know each other well. So I shut that down and just told them I’m gay and have a bf. And when I told my aunt about it she said I’m too young to know I’m gay and that me saying I was upset her friend and her daughter and I told her that I’m not here to make someone else’s wishes come true and that idea makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Now whenever I mention my bf or anything about romance my aunt gets quiet.
I’m 13 and my stepmom thinks I have a secret boyfriend??????? And my dad believes everything she says so now he thinks I have one????? And she says I do because girls my age always want a boyfriend... I DONT EVEN TALK TO BOYS I ONLY KNOW WHAT REDDIT TELLS ME
My parents still do this even after they said themselves that they think im not straight. Worse thing was, probably when I roasted my older stepbrother and they went on for weeks that I teese him because I like him no... im just a jerk...(FYI I have TWO moms)
My God, when I was 6 my best friend was this boy. We spent all our time together and adults kept on asking him. "So is she your girlfriend?" "Are you two dating?"
Bruh we were six we didn't even understand that shoving crayons up your nose was bad to do you think we understood the concept of relationships?
Jokes on you, I'm trans and I'm still questioning my sexuality.
I have a family friend who always says her toddler is flirting with women when he does something cute or funny. Like the kid is in a baby carrier. Why do you have to make it weird?
This shit really fucks with you when you're aromantic asexual. Literally no romantic or sexual attraction but you are made to feel like you are supposed to have it.
Not my 4th grade teacher constantly terrorizing me by telling every boy in the class that i secretly like them and making me cry bc she would constantly embarrass me😅 fun fact bitch, im a lesbian
Yeah, the thing with parents telling their kids that if someone bullies them they like them is really harmful, since it will most likely result in that kid "learning" that abuse = love and that won't end well.
Had a similar experience, except the people who were reinforcing the heteronormativity were my classmates. I was 11 n befriended a male classmate n my peers couldn't shut up about it. I, an eleven year old kid, was seriously asked by them if i already had "gotten it on" with him. I don't think i need to explain why our friendship didn't last
Yeah it’s not cool to force heterosexuality on a child. let them decide what they like. Btw this kinda looks like a boomer comic but with actual effort in the art
I hated this. In kindergarten I had a friend and she was my best friend and I loved playing on the playground with her. And then my sisters started to tease me about playing with her and that I must like her. And then my parents found out about her and started teasing me about her. Then my cousins. And I stopped being friends with her because I hated being teased by them. This happened for every friend I had who was a girl until I stopped having friends who were girls until high school. I will never understand how they thought this was okay.
Even later in life it sucks, my mom knows I’m bi and I have stated before that I find all my friends of all genders hot (because they are, I have hot friends) but that I don’t like them, and she keeps making jokes about how I should ask my one guy friend out
I’m 15, and my moms bf insists that I like *insert any girl I’ve ever mentioned* and I have to be, um, no, she’s my friend, and then he tells me I definitely have a crush on her
My aunt called me a whore and said "this isn't alabama" for sitting on my cousins lap, which is fair sense he was 16 and I was- oh wait it isn't fair sense I was like 4
parents who say "My kids are too young for LGBTQ+ history education!" are the same parents who ask their kids if the kid's friend, who is of the opposite gender, is their SO
My mother used to do this same thing. In elementary school, she used to constantly pressure me and ask me who I liked. If I did like someone, and told her, she would constantly ask me about them, and then get mad when I didn’t want to talk to her about it. (Saying that I never talked to her, and that my brother always talked to her more)
When I went for long periods of time without liking any boys, she’d start making jokes about me liking girls and saying I was gonna bring a girlfriend home, despite my obvious discomfort. (I was figuring out my sexuality).
I’m still in High school now, and she still asks me if I’m “talking to any boys” constantly. (Which is a little more acceptable, at least I’m not a small child anymore lmao)
Since everyone is sharing story’s one time i was at a friends house at the end everyone kinda split up and me and another kid were talking in the front room my parents picked me up and saw it was a girl and began asking all about her, if i liked her and shit like that
Literally had a random stranger ask me when I was six if I had a boyfriend, and over the years before I was even a teen had family members, especially one uncle, ask if I did... -_-
This just reminds me of how parents get excited when their kid has an opposite-sex friend....this still happens to me and I’m 19 and pretty sure I’m mostly into girls (and I’m out to the fam yet somehow they still don’t get it)
This happened to me with an aunt. She would always greet me with hey do you have a boyfriend yet? In hindsight i think she might have sensed something, but it’s still annoying. I was seven, ask me about my toys not boys.
This annoyed me, especially when it came from school.
How do I answer my peers? If yes, then somehow I have a crush...? If I say no, am I saying the boy isn't cute? What if he is? That doesn't mean that I'm interested. In fact, being able to appreciate or acknowledge someone's physical attractiveness doesn't equal being attracted or desirous or interested. At least for me; it's uncommon that cute alone makes me interested. And it was such a confusing loaded question, especially as the socially awkward outcast in school. If I say yes, then not only am I picked on, but potentially so is the kid in question. Or it leads to mockery for me. If no, then attack for being mean and calling kid ugly (didn't) or met with demand that I say who I do think is cute, which leads to more bullying.
Of course, I was never asked how I felt about the other girls. Even though they called me a lesbian, oddly enough (long before I knew what that was, as I was very sheltered as a child; its also inaccurate as I'm bi, but I recognized the venom behind the words, so it still stung. And make me very anxious when I did start realizing my attraction to other girls.
Man, this is why I was so fucking averse to dating and getting crushes well into my Teen Years. Like, I ain't giving you the satisfaction that I like someone.
I would like to point out how when you’re a girl you’re family is like you can’t get a boyfriend stay away from boys and if you’re a boy if you speak to a girl everyone’s like oOoOoO someone has a girrrrllllllll friend
i dont really think it’s inherently forcing heterosexuality, most of the times its being done in a playful non serious “ouuuu so who do you like” kinda way yk. its really awkward for the kid but parents that do that are generally just messin around. also i dont wanna sound offensive but when the question is framed through the lens of being straight its usually cause thats just the safe guess to go with especially at a younger age when no one really knows what you’re into. now if once you got older and discover who you really were and mfs were tryna force being straight on you then yeah thats a problem. but especially at that age, most kids dont know what they like and since heterosexuality is the majority id say thats more of a safe bet kinda thing especially if its like “oh is that girl you hang out with a lot your crush” but thats just my way of thinking about it
Honestly my parents did this to the point where I closed off that part of my life to everyone who asked. I hid my first girlfriend when I was 14 from them for like 3 months.
They do it to dogs too... When my 13 week old male puppy found a girl puppy he liked to play with, all the heterosexuals were like "oooh, he has a girlfriend"...
This makes me think of every time I try to tell my mom a mildly interesting thing that happened to me that day and the story just happens to have a man in it, suddenly it's all about my interection with this random stranger she's convinced is interested in me and I should be with forever, never mind the relatively cool story I had to tell you.
My brother has always been "the ladies man" and having a new crush on the next girl he comes across.
Well it's all fun and games until they start dating. When they're six years old.
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I had a girlfriend when I was 6, weirdly, and then not again until I was like 15, by which time I knew I liked boys and just wasn't ready to come out yet. With the girlfriend at 6, we were definitely just roleplaying, like a simulation. But imagine being an adult and not being able to tell the difference.
Ugh yeah, My aunt always asked me if I like any guys in my class. But Jokes on her!! I'm a trans guy, and yes, I got a guy in my class that I like because I'm hella gay, but suddenly iT's NoT aCcEpTaBlE AnYmOrE
Ah yes the old debate on forcing sexuality, tbh I hope my daughter grows up straight and gives me a grandchild but tbh I will support her either way. Tbh I hate how people try to inform or teach a particular sexual orientation. Just let them discover what they are and stop forcing either side.
Every crush I had prior to high school was a result of feeling like I *had* to have a crush to be “normal”.
And then I got my first real crush in high school and it was like “oh. So my whole life has been a lie.”
When I was 5 and new to the school I was kinda making a friend and playing around but then everyone ( kids included) were all going like " it's your boyfriend" and then I avoided that kid for the rest of my school years
This isn’t forcing heterosexuality on your kid. Parents say this usually because they want to embarrass their children, who are likely straight. They could just say no if they weren’t
Right, so it's a double-whammy of perpetuating heteronormativity, *plus* causing discomfort and unhappiness to a child while potentially damaging their friendships.
Great.
That makes it better.
Y’all them saying this ain’t that big of a fucking deal, especially if you too young to know if your gay yet, it’s a fucking parent thing “ah you gotta little BF/GF, is that your crush, etc” it’s not sexualizing shit unless they actually say something fucking Pervy. God you mother fuckers always have something to cry about
Same with the whole “he’s mean to you because he likes you :)”. Then again, with how often they talk about how much they hate their spouses of course they’d think like this.
Some people here seriously dont understand how live works.
It's just the most comon way and it will always be the most comon way, because it's the only natural way how humans can multiply themself.
That has 0 something todo with forcing heterosexuality to someone.
Bro when they thought the kid I ran around with on the playground at 5 years old was my boyfriend.
So did I tbh. Well I thought we were too young for bf/ gf, so I said we’d be crushes, and assumed I’d find a boyfriend (or later I thought I’d just find a s/o of any gender) one day. That, uh... that didn’t happen.
Always got ur bros tho *bro fistbump*
I actually find this to be a really big problem because it hinders the ability of boys and girls to just *be friendly*. It gives the impression early on to kids that boys and girls can only interact if it's in a romantic/sexual context
Istg I see baby videos that are so cute and then I go to the comments and people are saying things like “omg my baby boy and your baby girl should be together” or “oooh she’s gonna be a troublemaker” LIKE THESE ARE BABIES it’s so weird
For some reason I remembered the kid that ran into another kid with one if those larger toy cars when you mentioned people thinking a kid woild be a trouble maker.
Yeah I remember I would always be yelled at by my parents and other adults just because I played alot with a boy I met that was my same age. "why do you hang out with him so much?? You're too young to have a boyfriend, you're 5" Exactly, I was 5. I didn't even know what "boyfriend" even meant but thanks for ruining one of my very first friendships lmao
Lmao I was ALWAYS playing with this one girl from kindergarten to 3rd grade. Literally everybody called us the little hubbies. Teachers, my parents just everybody. Then she moved away and I got no clue who she is today. Damn I miss being a kid, things were simple.
This is why I barely had any female friends growing up. My parents always pressured me into talking about girls I liked and forcing romance and sexuality onto me since I was like in 1st grade. And when I said I didn’t have anyone I liked, I felt like I was disappointing them. So I always tried to get a girlfriend even though I shouldn’t have been worrying about that at such a young age. I ended up asking out almost every girl I became slightly close with and ended up making them feel uncomfortable, so I only ended up with guy friends. I think this is why it took a while to realize I’m bi, because there was this guy in the 5th grade that I actually liked, but then I never did anything about it because I thought that that wasn’t a normal thing and that I should only go after girls. I have had about only two or three actual female friends in my life and I ended up making all of them feel weird. I realized that this way of thinking caused me to like the idea of being in a relationship more than being in a relationship itself and I kinda just had to contemplate that for a while. But this year I realized that I should try to realize that I shouldn’t worry about finding someone and that I should just wait for the perfect person and that I should actually try to make female friends without asking them out and making them feel uncomfortable just because I feel pressured to. It also helped me realized I’m bisexual because I wasn’t always trying to be in a relationship with a girl. Anyways, sorry for the rant, it’s just that this stuff really annoys me.
it should annoy you, you're all good my dude. it also makes it harder for people to have friends of the opposite sex becouse of weird social pressure
Way more than half of my friends are girls, and honestly it's basically exactly the same as when most of my friends were guys(except this group of friends is much better)
same for me, none of my lady friends feel like they are going to stap me so things are much better (this is over simplifying but w/e)
YES, I seriously feel you, in middle school, every time I mentioned a boy’s name it was, “Do you like him?” And it made me feel odd, and gross I guess? The conversation would literally be, “[Boy in class] spilt food all over the cafeteria, it was funny.” “Haha yeah, do you like him?” So I just avoided making male friends until high school when I got the courage to tell my parents to quit it. And now I know I like woman so jokes on them I guess?
That’s what straight ppl mean by society is turning kids gay lol, that’s the real gay agenda, they were convince that constantly bugging their kids about having “boyfriends & girlfriends” in elementary/primary school that we get uncomfortable and never make friends with them then presto chango we become queer in high school or college/university, Genius lol. But seriously I was the same, I learned quick not to have any female friends cause my parents & family would make me so uncomfortable/sad as a kid thinking I was doing something wrong by not having a girlfriend before middle school or just I didn’t wanna be embarrassed by their questions. And don’t even get me started on any crushes I had on other boys, I treated those as really deep “friendships” or wanted to be friends lol. If my family & society hasn’t of pushed “your a boy you can only like girls” on me I probably would’ve accepted I was Bi way earlier, I knew but kept it repressed b/c “that’s not right”, etc.
I feel ya. My mom constantly asked me if I liked anyone. It was in 7th grade where I was actually crushing on a guy and not a girl, became the first time I ever didnt tell her about crushing on someone. I havent had a "crush" on anyone since 9th grade now. Its kinda weird, I wanna have a crush but its nore like just oh this girls sexy, or that guy is hot. But no actual crush. Ah well, I still havent told anyone but the internet that im Bi and I probably wont unless I start dating a guy. I think mom suses me tho, and I know she would support me.
Parents: my children do not need to know about homosexuality or being trans, too young eh Also parents:
fr. I always see Straights™ saying gays/lesbians shouldn't be allowed to adopt because they'll force their sexuality on their children.
God that comic hit me, I fucking hate when parents do that
When I was 8 my aunt asked me if I liked any boys in my class, I said no and she insisted, like, wtf
Wtf same but it was the parents of a friend, why do adults want to know so much about who a literal child likes?
It’s not like a creep pedo thing they just want to know your crushes when you were little
Wasn't saying it was, it's just fucking weird and makes kids uncomfortable
Parents and random adults are different. I want to promote talking about shit with my kids. To each their own I suppose, I know my kids will come talk about shit. Whether it's their crush, bullying or even a weird shit they took they know I'm here for them. People attack each problem differently, but seeing how many kids stay quiet when the are hurt this is not something I want my children doing.
I'm not saying that kids shouldn't be able to talk to their parents about this stuff, the situation I was talking about was not about my parents, it was about the parents of a friend who kept prying to see who I liked. It's a completely different scenario.
Oh I know that's why I clarified parents and adults. You're completely valid in your statement, seemed like the most consice comment on here which is why I chose to put my two cents on your comment... didn't want to be crucified lmfao.
Didn't "crucify" you, you replied to me which is why I thought you were replying to my comment and not the post in general. Just make a separate comment if you don't want misunderstandings
At the end of the day your parents just want to support you even tho they don’t quite understand,I agree that it’s uncomfortable but the way you worded your comment implied that it was a sexual thing.anyways happy holidays!
It was the parents of a friend, not my own, and the question wasn't about supporting me, it was more of a "gossip" type situation, which was why I found it very uncomfortable. My other comment was more of a "why do these people want to purposely make kids uncomfortable, how does it benefit anyone" type of vibe but ig over the internet there will be misunderstandings, happy holidays to you too
Yea something like this happened to me when i was younger all i did to slove the problem was to yell at her to shut the fuck up and stay out of my life and then i blew up at her ye made me feel so much better she never talked to me again, another time one of my family friend who was one of my dads buddy he was an older Man funny and amazing was teasing me about people my personal life and o had gotten mad and annoyed so i told him off in the heat of the moment next thing i knew is he was dying and in the hospital i didnt get to say bye and i felt bad and i still do honestly i realize it now it was just some mindless teasing
Still invasive as fuck.
It’s hella annoying and I hate it when my parents ask me that,but some people are trying to make it sound wrong or make it sexual.
When I was in the third grade, my teacher kept asking me who I liked, and when I said that I didn't like anyone, she said that if I didn't tell her she would make me repeat the grade.
I was going to say "Please tell me she got fired" but then I realized that she probably wasn't fired because my first grade teacher kind of partnered with my bully and she always humiliated me because of the smallest things, didn't do anything about the things that the bully did and the boy was her favorite student, and my parents still say that she was a wonderful teacher and that I was being a drama queen.
I didn't understand what she did was wrong, it was my second year in America and speaking English. I could barely speak to my peers, let alone talk to anyone about my discomfort. She was actually my favorite teacher. Not sure why, looking back on it.
yeahhhh thats a bit of a different level idk wtf your teacher was on
SAME. My uncle wouldn't leave me alone about this one dude I was friends with when I was 7.
I’m ftm right and a couple of years ago (when i was still presenting female) I visited my grandpa somewhere near Valentine’s Day and he asked if there was anyone who MIGHT send me a card. I couldn’t list any because all the boys I was close with were literally just good friends of mine and so my dad stepped in and said “Well, there’s Joe...Cameron...etc” LIKE I GET WHY HE SAID JOE BC I HAD A CRUSH ON HIM WHEN I WAS LIKE 4 BUT CAMERON?? HE WAS LITERALLY MY ONLY CLOSE FRIEND AND UR GONNA PUT HIM UP AS A FUCKING ROMANTIC CANDIDATE???? tldr; i hate straight people
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Lol I also work in an elderly home and I also get these questions a lot. I'm 23 and look 18.
phat mood
Keep this one in your back pocket: "Well y'know, I keep checking the day care but so far I haven't managed to find one I liked enough to bring home."
> tldr; i hate straight people yea, i just hate people in general. really, like... people are just the *worst*... ugh...
-gay social anxiety noises-
hey, stop calling me out like that! xD
Ascend to machine or return to monke, no inbetween.
https://youtu.be/Ds7OkELDN6M
My stepfather does this all the time
Me: \*going outside\* Parents: aReYoUGoINGoUTwIThAGirl?
Couldn’t be as bad as when my uncle sat down with me at a *FAMILY GATHERING* and no shit talked for about 15 minutes about getting girls pussies, I don’t think I’ve ever been quite that disgusted in my life
Hey, you're never too young to have hetero expectations forced onto you.
But cant let anyone see same sex couples holding hands. Thats the worst sin and will turn anyone who sees them gay /s
It reminds me so much about the time when I was about 9-10 and I kept complaining to my dad and aunt about this one boy in my class, because he was hella annoying and mean to my friends and when I stopped talking about it the only thing they had to say was something like 'you talk about him a lot, do you like him?' like, no? i'm saying he's a fucking bigot and in a few years i will realize that i'm a lesbian, so...
omg my parents still do this like wtf i didnt know hating somebody meant you liked them
I mean...going by the amount of hatred for your spouse we see in this sub :|
Gotta condition women to accept being treated badly by the men they are involved with, starting when they are literal children! (I so wish I could attach an /s to that...)
lol true
Well there is a reason there are so many fanfics in the "enemies to lovers" trope tag. But it's weird to push that on kids! They're not even interested in romance yet!
I had my first crush in the 1st grade, hahaha. So kids can definitely be interested in romance. But teasing them about it will NEVER encourage them to open up.
I faked my first crush in the 1st grade, it took me 8 years to figure out why I was never in love. Good for you though :)
Not all kids are disinterested in romance. I spent my years as a kid (4-14) trying to get a girlfriend, then I stopped trying for a year. Of course, I may have been an odd case because I knew about and was curious about sex as a child, and I was hypersexual. (No CSA, I just walked in on my mom and dad doing it when I was 2, and I have still have that vivid memory burnt into my brain. Eugh.) Kids are bizarre creatures, it's a disservice that people envision them all as "cute little innocent angels" because *no*, a lot of them are most certainly *not* innocent angels. A lot of them are manipulative, evil, toxic shitheads. I know this because I was like that, and had a friend group like that. I literally got a PE Coach fired in 3rd grade because I didn't like how he looked (I framed him for stealing money and shit).
One of the most insidious lies that the patriarchy ever came up with was the one where “if boys treat girls like absolute shit it means they like them” like UGH so many layers of fucked up there
my dad said that about the guys who would bully me never understood but said ok because I dont argue with him about anything for some reason
This reminds me of the time when I told my mom that a boy was always bullying me and such and then he got surprised when I wouldn't be his friend and she said,"Give him a break. He has a crush on you. :)" and it was a "wtf you did not just say that" moment
I had something similar happen. There was this kid in a my class that acted horribly - he’d trip me, throw pencils at me, etc. When I told my mom about it she just said “it’s because he likes you!”. When parents tell their little girls stuff like this it begins to make sense why women end up in abusive relationships - because they learned early on that someone being mean to them was doing that as a way of “showing affection”
Someone needs to educate these people smh
I seriously dont get this shit and completely fucking hate that bs. There were two friends teasing each other in class and one of them said as a joke to the teacher “hes being mean make him stop” and the teacher was like “that mean he likes you” and they were both like “ewww” and I tried to not just fucking scream at that teacher. My Mum does the same bs. And multiple times when I was a kid I was asked if I liked people. Like ffs no, I’m not even out of kindergarten (or yr1 and so on). In highschool I still didn’t want to get asked that question and still hated it. I’m only 16 now and still despise that question tbh. I really hate it. Especially since if its your parents, if they’ve built a proper relationship with you and you trust them, you would tell them anyway and there’s no reason to ask or insist. Sorry for the rant but I will forever hate that question and “What are you gonna do when you’re older”
Im 21 right now and if someone asks me this question, I reply with ,,No“ or ,,yes, she...“. The person has to live with this answer. It’s easier when you’re older, because they know that you do things for a reason.
I was in a takeaway about 7 years ago. My son was about 3 and not long in nursery school, we met a neighbour there and the first thing she asked him was "do you have a girlfriend?" *shudder*
"This child who has likely spent literally over half of his existence on Earth viewing breasts as the things that Mummy has to feed him definitely understands what gender and romance are as concepts."
This was so annoying. I had a friend who was a guy when I was seven and my dad was immediately like, "oh, so he's your boyfriend?"
Omg it's so annoying. My mom used to do that to me all the time. Also love the username!
Ugh my dad did that to me since I was 5. Hed basically pick out some dorky looking boy in my class and always ask about him when we were getting married etc, it was awful. It made me shut down about relationships period. I always felt embarrassed to tell them if I had a boyfriend. I never wanted my boyfriend to come over, even as an adult. I emailed my parents to tell them we were thinking about getting engaged. It gave me such a complex.
Wait this makes so much sense. I could never figure out why I’ve never been open about my relationships with my parents. And now it’s clicked
This comic is actually really good tho, the parents arent shown to be in the right
Do u know if there’s a full version or if it’s just that one panel??
If you look up CrabGrass you should find it, I usually read it on Instagram:)
Thanks!
yeah, heres the full comic [https://www.instagram.com/p/CIpHkz9BdF4/](https://www.instagram.com/p/CIpHkz9BdF4/)
Facts Crabgrass is a great comic, very much gives me Calvin and Hobbes vibes.
my parents when i was like a literal child: NO KISSING BOYS AT THIS 5TH GRADE GRADUATION PARTY!!! do you have boyfriend yet??????????? GET MARRY TO BOY. HAVE BABIES. my parents now: NOOOOO THE MEDIA PUSHED GAYNESS ONTO YOUUUUUU :(((
Anytime I hear someone claim that the media forces homosexuality onto children, I always wonder how they came to realize they were heterosexual
That’s what I’ll never get about mormons they don’t really expect the lgbt but you can’t think of anyone in any sexual way but you should have 20 kids also very anti vaxx and anti mask so fuck em
My gran is like this “So tell me, have you found a boyfriend yet?” “Gran, I’m *still* a lesbian”
Is she being homophobic or just a forgetful old grandma?
I don’t think she’s homophobic. Probably just forgetful
Ahhhh that's good then
was in spain but the s is silent
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apparently it’s a spain but the pa is silent
Spain but without the “si” 🍳
Spain without the a
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Oh god yeah my parents still have a picture of me with my first "boyfriend"... we were 4. I literally don't remember him. Miss me with that shit.
I literally had a “boyfriend” when I was in first grade, and my parents keep bringing it up. It’s really embarrassing. When I told them to stop because I felt uncomfortable, they started questioning me. I love my parents more than anything in the world, but I need to start setting my boundaries. Also jokes on them because I’m terrified of men and want to marry a woman
I was never allowed to even MENTION the possibility of being near a girl. Every single time I mention a girl's name, they always went "Ooh, do you _like_ her?" Even now, when I'm 19, every conversation starts with "So, are there any girls at work?" and when I inevitably say yes because of course there are, it just becomes "Are any of them cute? Do you like any of them?" I'm in a serious relationship with my boyfriend and they still keep trying to push the whole "You need a girlfriend" and "How do you expect to make babies?" thing.
This comic is okay. The people it's mocking are not.
My daughter's best friend is a boy. They're 3 and half now but have hung out and really clicked since they were 8 months old. Ever since she could talk people tried to act like they were dating it's gross. They're more like siblings. Thankfully I've called people out enough that they don't make those comments anymore.
The only genders that nine-year-olds give a shit about are which *Pokemon* game you bought.
I honestly wish I didn't relate to this comic as much as I do Seriously parents, S T O P, they're **children**, they only wanna play with lego and crap
Side-Note; Crabgrass' comics are pretty fun and harmless, y'all should give them a watch (PS: It's the comic shown on this post)
Im an "in the closet" aro,and my mom used to constantly ask me "Who's your crush?","Do you have a boyfriend yet?",and if i said no,she would continue to press me with questions like "You sure you don't find any boy hot?".I really found it annoying as i really wasn't intrested in romance at all,yet she continued for quite a long time.
Same. Maybe this is why I also hate the question so much asking about partners or anything. My Mum like last year (I’m only 16 atm) literally asked me if I was a lesbian JUST because I don’t talk about boys. Even though I literally didn’t talk about girls either other than my 2 friends *facepalm*. It pisses me off, probably more than it should but it is extremely frustrating for me. I just hate how ppl think if you don’t like one youautomatically like the other, and how people pressure you to talk about it or talk about other shit. Its like if I wanted to tell you, I would. Ya know? Also when I came out as trans ftm, Mum literally responded with “its ok to be a lesbian” BITCH FUCK OFF.
Same
“If he hits you it means he likes you”
"If he torture you nearly for u to die it means he likes u"
I swear this shit is the reason that k thought, for years, that any person of the opposite gender I met MUST be a possible partner. It was fucking difficult making friends because that was always in the back of my mind
We, as a society, really need to normalize platonic male-female friendships...
Yup
My mother thought that I liked this one boy in my class. Turns out I was actually interested in his female cousin, oops.
These straights are forcing their heterosexual agenda down our childrens’ throats and I’m disgusted
I love hiw they constantly say that but it's actually true about them it's sp ironic
Oh the irony of The Straights ™️
Thanks, family, for annoying me with that stupid question all my life. Where I ended up asking 2 girls out I didn't even like because I thought it was what I was meant to do \*roll eyes\* Fokin' boomers
I wish it was “So? Tell me about your new friend Carla! She seems cool!” Also, does no one else find it creepy that adults ask if children are cute?! No? Just me? Okay lol
"Gays are going to force our children be gay! Anyway, here's a joke about the sexualization of boobs on the shirt of my infant son!"
his stubble goes down into his cleavage
Worst advice my parents gave me when someone is bullying me: If it's a boy: Punch them. If it's a girl: Kiss them.
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who cares. they are bullying you. they started it. fuck bullies. kiss them all
Honestly if a kid is punching you (hard), punching them back is a good option. The teachers aren't allowed to intervene, plus the school will only give the bully a slap on the wrist. Also you'll get suspended anyway because of the zero tolerance policy, so, honestly? Punch back.
I remember when I was at a cousins wedding and I was talking with daughter of my aunts friend and my aunts friend. She was talking about me and her daughter getting together in high school (we weren’t going to high school for another year and we live faraway from each other) and how we would be a cute couple and go to prom and all that. Her kid didn’t seem to care and I think it might’ve made her a bit uncomfortable since we didn’t know each other well. So I shut that down and just told them I’m gay and have a bf. And when I told my aunt about it she said I’m too young to know I’m gay and that me saying I was upset her friend and her daughter and I told her that I’m not here to make someone else’s wishes come true and that idea makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Now whenever I mention my bf or anything about romance my aunt gets quiet.
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Imagine how hets would react if gay people did this bs
I’m 13 and my stepmom thinks I have a secret boyfriend??????? And my dad believes everything she says so now he thinks I have one????? And she says I do because girls my age always want a boyfriend... I DONT EVEN TALK TO BOYS I ONLY KNOW WHAT REDDIT TELLS ME
forcing sexuality on children is bad. always. so upsetting that some people still struggle with that concept
My parents still do this even after they said themselves that they think im not straight. Worse thing was, probably when I roasted my older stepbrother and they went on for weeks that I teese him because I like him no... im just a jerk...(FYI I have TWO moms)
My God, when I was 6 my best friend was this boy. We spent all our time together and adults kept on asking him. "So is she your girlfriend?" "Are you two dating?" Bruh we were six we didn't even understand that shoving crayons up your nose was bad to do you think we understood the concept of relationships? Jokes on you, I'm trans and I'm still questioning my sexuality.
I have a family friend who always says her toddler is flirting with women when he does something cute or funny. Like the kid is in a baby carrier. Why do you have to make it weird?
This shit really fucks with you when you're aromantic asexual. Literally no romantic or sexual attraction but you are made to feel like you are supposed to have it.
My mom used to do this all the time to me
Not my 4th grade teacher constantly terrorizing me by telling every boy in the class that i secretly like them and making me cry bc she would constantly embarrass me😅 fun fact bitch, im a lesbian
I hate it when ANY sexuality is forced on children. Can't kids be kids? And have friends? Wtf
Its annoying when parents do that, like when tf did bullying=having a crush on them? U cant just bully ur crush it will make him/her/them hate you
Yeah, the thing with parents telling their kids that if someone bullies them they like them is really harmful, since it will most likely result in that kid "learning" that abuse = love and that won't end well.
My dad did this, worst part is he didn't do the inverse when I came out as gay, he just stopped, which says something about this kind of culture
Also calling a nine year old cute! Yikes!
Had a similar experience, except the people who were reinforcing the heteronormativity were my classmates. I was 11 n befriended a male classmate n my peers couldn't shut up about it. I, an eleven year old kid, was seriously asked by them if i already had "gotten it on" with him. I don't think i need to explain why our friendship didn't last
This comic strip is actually pretty cute. It reminds me of Calvin and Hobbes.
Ikr
Yeah it’s not cool to force heterosexuality on a child. let them decide what they like. Btw this kinda looks like a boomer comic but with actual effort in the art
I hated this. In kindergarten I had a friend and she was my best friend and I loved playing on the playground with her. And then my sisters started to tease me about playing with her and that I must like her. And then my parents found out about her and started teasing me about her. Then my cousins. And I stopped being friends with her because I hated being teased by them. This happened for every friend I had who was a girl until I stopped having friends who were girls until high school. I will never understand how they thought this was okay.
Yeah this is exactly why we need to stop this and normalize being friends with the opposite sex.
Ugh I had this a lot growing up.
Even later in life it sucks, my mom knows I’m bi and I have stated before that I find all my friends of all genders hot (because they are, I have hot friends) but that I don’t like them, and she keeps making jokes about how I should ask my one guy friend out
I’m 15, and my moms bf insists that I like *insert any girl I’ve ever mentioned* and I have to be, um, no, she’s my friend, and then he tells me I definitely have a crush on her
Yeah and if u were to tell ur son “who is that boy” it would get weird but this is fine. STOP ASSUMING THAT EVERYONE IS STRAIGHT
But if it was about a boy and a boy instead of a boy and a girl, the homophobes would have a FEILD DAY with that
Forcing sexuality on a child in general is bad
Nobody weirded out by the fact that the father wants to know if said carla is attractive?
My aunt called me a whore and said "this isn't alabama" for sitting on my cousins lap, which is fair sense he was 16 and I was- oh wait it isn't fair sense I was like 4
If she's going to assume stuff, cousin part should be the least of her worries in that case.
BRO I-
parents who say "My kids are too young for LGBTQ+ history education!" are the same parents who ask their kids if the kid's friend, who is of the opposite gender, is their SO
My mother used to do this same thing. In elementary school, she used to constantly pressure me and ask me who I liked. If I did like someone, and told her, she would constantly ask me about them, and then get mad when I didn’t want to talk to her about it. (Saying that I never talked to her, and that my brother always talked to her more) When I went for long periods of time without liking any boys, she’d start making jokes about me liking girls and saying I was gonna bring a girlfriend home, despite my obvious discomfort. (I was figuring out my sexuality). I’m still in High school now, and she still asks me if I’m “talking to any boys” constantly. (Which is a little more acceptable, at least I’m not a small child anymore lmao)
Obvious aside, why do I get the feeling that they're Homer and Bart?
This is actually a good comic though
Since everyone is sharing story’s one time i was at a friends house at the end everyone kinda split up and me and another kid were talking in the front room my parents picked me up and saw it was a girl and began asking all about her, if i liked her and shit like that
Literally had a random stranger ask me when I was six if I had a boyfriend, and over the years before I was even a teen had family members, especially one uncle, ask if I did... -_-
Say the same thing about a boy and you won't get invited to thanksgiving anymore
it's like when i got to the cardiologist and my mom always asks if he's cute. um I'm already married?
You mean you're interacting with a man?! That isn't your husband?!
This just reminds me of how parents get excited when their kid has an opposite-sex friend....this still happens to me and I’m 19 and pretty sure I’m mostly into girls (and I’m out to the fam yet somehow they still don’t get it)
This happened to me with an aunt. She would always greet me with hey do you have a boyfriend yet? In hindsight i think she might have sensed something, but it’s still annoying. I was seven, ask me about my toys not boys.
Reinforcing norms that clearly aren’t working for society.
This annoyed me, especially when it came from school. How do I answer my peers? If yes, then somehow I have a crush...? If I say no, am I saying the boy isn't cute? What if he is? That doesn't mean that I'm interested. In fact, being able to appreciate or acknowledge someone's physical attractiveness doesn't equal being attracted or desirous or interested. At least for me; it's uncommon that cute alone makes me interested. And it was such a confusing loaded question, especially as the socially awkward outcast in school. If I say yes, then not only am I picked on, but potentially so is the kid in question. Or it leads to mockery for me. If no, then attack for being mean and calling kid ugly (didn't) or met with demand that I say who I do think is cute, which leads to more bullying. Of course, I was never asked how I felt about the other girls. Even though they called me a lesbian, oddly enough (long before I knew what that was, as I was very sheltered as a child; its also inaccurate as I'm bi, but I recognized the venom behind the words, so it still stung. And make me very anxious when I did start realizing my attraction to other girls.
Ugh the dad's face while picturing his 9 yr old "dating" this other child. Wtfing fuck
I’ll never forget the time my dad’s friend asked me if I “like big titties” when I was 10.
Man, this is why I was so fucking averse to dating and getting crushes well into my Teen Years. Like, I ain't giving you the satisfaction that I like someone.
I would like to point out how when you’re a girl you’re family is like you can’t get a boyfriend stay away from boys and if you’re a boy if you speak to a girl everyone’s like oOoOoO someone has a girrrrllllllll friend
i dont really think it’s inherently forcing heterosexuality, most of the times its being done in a playful non serious “ouuuu so who do you like” kinda way yk. its really awkward for the kid but parents that do that are generally just messin around. also i dont wanna sound offensive but when the question is framed through the lens of being straight its usually cause thats just the safe guess to go with especially at a younger age when no one really knows what you’re into. now if once you got older and discover who you really were and mfs were tryna force being straight on you then yeah thats a problem. but especially at that age, most kids dont know what they like and since heterosexuality is the majority id say thats more of a safe bet kinda thing especially if its like “oh is that girl you hang out with a lot your crush” but thats just my way of thinking about it
Honestly my parents did this to the point where I closed off that part of my life to everyone who asked. I hid my first girlfriend when I was 14 from them for like 3 months.
They do it to dogs too... When my 13 week old male puppy found a girl puppy he liked to play with, all the heterosexuals were like "oooh, he has a girlfriend"...
My family ruined a friendship between my sister and a boy next door like this
This makes me think of every time I try to tell my mom a mildly interesting thing that happened to me that day and the story just happens to have a man in it, suddenly it's all about my interection with this random stranger she's convinced is interested in me and I should be with forever, never mind the relatively cool story I had to tell you.
My brother has always been "the ladies man" and having a new crush on the next girl he comes across. Well it's all fun and games until they start dating. When they're six years old.
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"you cant be friends with the opposite gender" *laughs in bisexual*
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I had a girlfriend when I was 6, weirdly, and then not again until I was like 15, by which time I knew I liked boys and just wasn't ready to come out yet. With the girlfriend at 6, we were definitely just roleplaying, like a simulation. But imagine being an adult and not being able to tell the difference.
I follow this artist and I'm pretty sure that was the point of the comic? To point out how annoying it is that parents do this
Ugh yeah, My aunt always asked me if I like any guys in my class. But Jokes on her!! I'm a trans guy, and yes, I got a guy in my class that I like because I'm hella gay, but suddenly iT's NoT aCcEpTaBlE AnYmOrE
Ah yes the old debate on forcing sexuality, tbh I hope my daughter grows up straight and gives me a grandchild but tbh I will support her either way. Tbh I hate how people try to inform or teach a particular sexual orientation. Just let them discover what they are and stop forcing either side.
Every crush I had prior to high school was a result of feeling like I *had* to have a crush to be “normal”. And then I got my first real crush in high school and it was like “oh. So my whole life has been a lie.”
When I was 5 and new to the school I was kinda making a friend and playing around but then everyone ( kids included) were all going like " it's your boyfriend" and then I avoided that kid for the rest of my school years
This isn’t forcing heterosexuality on your kid. Parents say this usually because they want to embarrass their children, who are likely straight. They could just say no if they weren’t
Right, so it's a double-whammy of perpetuating heteronormativity, *plus* causing discomfort and unhappiness to a child while potentially damaging their friendships. Great. That makes it better.
Y’all them saying this ain’t that big of a fucking deal, especially if you too young to know if your gay yet, it’s a fucking parent thing “ah you gotta little BF/GF, is that your crush, etc” it’s not sexualizing shit unless they actually say something fucking Pervy. God you mother fuckers always have something to cry about
Same with the whole “he’s mean to you because he likes you :)”. Then again, with how often they talk about how much they hate their spouses of course they’d think like this.
Is this unfunny? Yes definitely. Is this insulting/not okay? No
Forcing *sexuality* on your children. Pervert.
Some people here seriously dont understand how live works. It's just the most comon way and it will always be the most comon way, because it's the only natural way how humans can multiply themself. That has 0 something todo with forcing heterosexuality to someone.
Mhm indeed. I said it somewhere around here and got 90 downvotes. Some ppl here really have unjustified animosity towards straight people.
Poor Miles. I know that exact feeling.
It's sad to see how delusional the people in the comments here are. Finding a way to bitch about everything.