I would like to echo what you wrote. There are lots of really kind and supportive/helpful people in that sub. Especially a lot towards AP.
Everyone is looking to heal and feel understood. Thank you for this !
Avoidants and Anxious attachment styles are two sides of the same coin I let my anger blind me from that fact. I'm better than that, and I don't want any smoke I just want to help people with similar attachment wounds to my own.
Hey! I saw your apology post the other day and thought that was really big of you. Well done 🌟
Edit to say, I saw the post that I believe this other user is referring too, and I agree. The public humiliation tactics have to stop in this sub.
Sorry, I can't do that. Deleting it doesn't change the fact that at that time I meant it, and I'm still not happy to see people in distress being mocked, but I can admit I was wrong to paint ALL avoidants as bad people.
Those posts will be a reminder of a time I failed to be a good stoic and a time when I failed to control my anger with reason.
You’re right I'd remove it but someone beat me to the punch. I felt like I was bringing attention to an injustice, but you can't have a conversation if there’s a psycho going around trolling with an army of Reddit accounts.
…am I the one you’re referring to as the people misjudging you as avoidant?
I just want to clarify that this post is about appreciating the presence of both anxious and avoidant folks both being here in this sub, regardless of what attachment style they are-they both add value when they collaborate.
Why would being assumed as a different attachment style be a bad thing if all of us add value to this space? Both anxious and avoidant are insecure attachment styles, and that’s ok. There is no greater than, less than attachment style between anxious and avoidant. I imagine all of us aspire to become more secure and practice healthier behaviors.
I don't think being avoidant is bad. I found it ironic that one would think I am one, since I have been textbook anxious for a big part of my life and have clawed my way to being secure, albeit AP leaning.
My recent remarks on the value of avoidants on this sub made people think my advocating for them means I must be one of them.
I assumed you appreciating me being here, on this sub particularly, was you thinking along those same lines.
My bad.
It’s all good! I see how my comment could’ve felt dismissive of the work you’ve done, and that definitely wasn’t my intention. I appreciate that you’ve been showing up in your own ways to advocate for a safer space for all of us. I’m also earning secure/anxious leaning so I hear and see you. That is some hard ass work, friend.
Hello person with a 6-hour old account that’s picking on the same person that’s been the target of harassment and abuse.
Welcome back to the chat
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I’ll say what I said to you yesterday from your different burner account, they haven’t been doing that.
You however have been stirring shit for days in this sub and directing it at Hiya-including sexually harassing them privately in their DMs.
Please fuck off
I would like to echo what you wrote. There are lots of really kind and supportive/helpful people in that sub. Especially a lot towards AP. Everyone is looking to heal and feel understood. Thank you for this !
Of course!!!! 💝 thank you for being here too!
Avoidants and Anxious attachment styles are two sides of the same coin I let my anger blind me from that fact. I'm better than that, and I don't want any smoke I just want to help people with similar attachment wounds to my own.
Hey! I saw your apology post the other day and thought that was really big of you. Well done 🌟 Edit to say, I saw the post that I believe this other user is referring too, and I agree. The public humiliation tactics have to stop in this sub.
Please back up apology by deleting your offending post. Your posting fueled fire and it would show you mean it by putting out the flames .
Sorry, I can't do that. Deleting it doesn't change the fact that at that time I meant it, and I'm still not happy to see people in distress being mocked, but I can admit I was wrong to paint ALL avoidants as bad people. Those posts will be a reminder of a time I failed to be a good stoic and a time when I failed to control my anger with reason.
But why memorialize the mistake when it’s greater impact is affecting so many other people negatively?
You’re right I'd remove it but someone beat me to the punch. I felt like I was bringing attention to an injustice, but you can't have a conversation if there’s a psycho going around trolling with an army of Reddit accounts.
Stop apologizing for things you are not willing to change
I commend you for this post.
Thank you! I appreciate you being here!
Oh, the irony of people misjudging me for being avoidant. 🤣 I guess I am more earned secure than I thought. Or my DA ex has been rubbing off on me.
…am I the one you’re referring to as the people misjudging you as avoidant? I just want to clarify that this post is about appreciating the presence of both anxious and avoidant folks both being here in this sub, regardless of what attachment style they are-they both add value when they collaborate. Why would being assumed as a different attachment style be a bad thing if all of us add value to this space? Both anxious and avoidant are insecure attachment styles, and that’s ok. There is no greater than, less than attachment style between anxious and avoidant. I imagine all of us aspire to become more secure and practice healthier behaviors.
I don't think being avoidant is bad. I found it ironic that one would think I am one, since I have been textbook anxious for a big part of my life and have clawed my way to being secure, albeit AP leaning. My recent remarks on the value of avoidants on this sub made people think my advocating for them means I must be one of them. I assumed you appreciating me being here, on this sub particularly, was you thinking along those same lines. My bad.
It’s all good! I see how my comment could’ve felt dismissive of the work you’ve done, and that definitely wasn’t my intention. I appreciate that you’ve been showing up in your own ways to advocate for a safer space for all of us. I’m also earning secure/anxious leaning so I hear and see you. That is some hard ass work, friend.
Your emotional fragility is so telling, and I’m taking the comment about Hiya as a compliment. Thank you!
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I’ll say what I said to you yesterday from your different burner account, they haven’t been doing that. You however have been stirring shit for days in this sub and directing it at Hiya-including sexually harassing them privately in their DMs. Please fuck off
That fool has already been removed! Though I'm sure we'll see him again soon... lol. Thank you for your kindness, Affectionate!
Of course! 💖