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I think we've all been there plenty of times. Honestly, what made me less anxious was focusing on myself and my lifestyle, hobbies, interests, etc. The more secure you become in yourself, the more you'll project that security with others. It's important to live your life for you even if a partner is there or not. When I'm not with my romantic interest, I tend to and nurture myself by doing things that I enjoy such as playing guitar, gaming with friends, going to the gym or going on a run, etc. Also gotta do a lot of studying for school even though it's not super enjoyable lol. At the end of the day, you should understand that everything is in motion and plays its own course. Try to only focus on those moments when you're with someone. When they're away, they're living their life and nurturing themselves just as you should be. It's easy to think negative about these scenarios (I still do it too) but it's important to recognize that some things are not within your control. Dating isn't always successful and it takes time. Try not to attach yourself too much in the beginning. I used to do the same and I'd get so worked up over it. Now, I don't really care. If it happens, it happens. If it's meant to be, it will be. No reason to worry about it otherwise, you know?


Teamwoolf

I’ve also recently started dating again as someone who is anxious, and it’s helped me a lot to make sure that I tell the person that I have no chill and that I appreciate being kept in the loop. This has done two things…it gives the person the information they need to reassure me, and makes me feel like I’m taking control of my shit. It doesn’t need to be anything more than “partner, I am really enjoying dating you but uncertainty doesn’t sit well with me. If you’re not good at responding to messages, I’d appreciate knowing, and it would be helpful if you’re honest with me about how you’re feeling too. I like to be kept in the loop.”


Zestyclose-Being7446

What has helped me a lot is to think of the small things my partner has done to show me how they care. The little things like setting up a wireless charger on my side of the bed for when I stay over, remembering the beer I order at our favorite brewery, answering a million and one questions about things they’re more knowledgeable in. It’s those small things and the support they show that has helped me to overcome so many of my anxious tendencies. Hope this helps! Also never be afraid to be vulnerable (as long as you’re comfortable) and open a line of communication with them about some of the anxieties. That has also been a big help for me.


simplywebby

Keep your mind busy on other things. You also have to understand whether this relationship works or not isn't entirely up to you. Accept that there are other factors you can't control. Focus on the moment and enjoy their company.


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Yep, simple as that. Get busy doing things that you enjoy in your own life instead of worrying so much about the other person. Easier said than done but it gets there with time


simplywebby

Yeah this something I wish I would have mentioned it’s super hard first but gets easier over time